I received a text last night around 11.30 pm, I was just about to doze off. WWE went off at 10pm, then I sat outside had a drink of Jack and Coke, and smoked an awesome Don Tuto cigar. Friday was a good day I accomplished everything I had planned.
So I get this text, and I know something is up,because no one has the balls to call or text that late, well unless it is steph, which does happen, but that is neither here or there. I am there when ever she needs to talk.
So jess text me, what ya doing? Wow are you fucking serious what am I doing. So I reply are you okay? I am alright, which means no she is not okay. I have been mentoring her for about 3 yrs or so, maybe a little longer. She was married to a friend of mine, who got into the crack thing, and was never able to recover, not sure what happened to him.
So Jess has been seeing this Dom, now for about 6 months, and for what ever reason he is highly jealous of me, as a matter of fact he down right hates me. The thing is I have never fucked jess, it never ever crossed my mind, but I could not ask for a better friend.
After the hello’s are said and done, I ask what is wrong, she knows to get to the point, if not I would just turn my phone off. I do not have time for well nothing is really wrong, or I am okay just bummed, spit it out, why did you text me at 11.30pm.
Women can fucking text like no other like 3 pages in 30 seconds. Well now I am up I go to the kitchen pour a cup of coffee, heat it up in the microwave. We text for about an hour and a half.
When I first met Jess she was a store clerk with two kids going no place. So I spent a great deal of time with her, now next year she will graduate from school as a surgical RN. Has her own place now and a nice car..
Jess is like your typical submissive who was single. Trying to meet someone, anyone to fill that void. The need to please, and be accepted. To find the one who will take control. Sometimes she listens and sometimes she does not. I knew nothing of this guy until she had already basically, moved in with her. She knew I would not approve
When I first learned about him, she explained that she was a little girl who was able to get away with most anything, really no rules or structure, and no responsibility.
So the relationship is really based on sex, and sex only. She has two kids, and he does not spend time with either, and they are not allowed over at his house.
So Jess is really stressed out, falling behind in her bills, and barely keeping up with her homework.Due to this Dom. I have said before you will never hear me speak badly of another Dom. Every Dominant has their own style, every Dominant is different, and trains different.
Once a Dominant gets to know you as a friend and submissive, he then can impalement rules, guidelines, and some who use protocol.
Everything a Dominant shows and teaches you, at some point in your daily activity , you will use what has been taught. It is very important that you the submissive or slave, either takes notes, written or mental. It is important that you get to really know your dominant, inside and out. You watch and listen. I have had a submissive tell me before that she had trouble trying to figure me out.The truth is you will never figure me out. If you think you can, your really just wasting your time.
I do not like just handing a piece of paper with a bunch of rules written down. Instead I will give a few verbal rules, then then rest are more like suggestions, during normal conversation, this is why it is very important to pay attention, not only listen, but take in what you are hearing. This is how one cn tell if someone is truly interested or not, or just along for the kink of things.
It may sound complicated to some, but it is better I think, than trying to overload one with a 100 rules. The idea is to help, not to over whelm. To make one feel at ease, and not like the submissive has to walk on egg shells.
We as Dominants are here to take care of ours. To lead, and guide. To make one feel safe, and needed.
When I begin a new relationship I take note, on how interested one really is, how well they listen. I may at some point just ask a question on something that I have covered, or making a pot of coffee.Cutting my cigar for me, or mixing a drink.
You as the submissive, you have the right to question, if you feel something is not right, or your not sure what is expected of you. You are suppose to have that open line of communication. If you have concerns ask. If you do not, then that falls under choices and consequences. Suck it up and deal with it.