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New Toys For Arianna

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Anal Plug, anticipation, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Rules, blindfold, blow job, Bondage, butt plug, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, endorphin's, FaceBook Vile Woods, Flogger, Floggers, Fox Tail Butt Plug, fuck hole, Gagged, Manipulation, Master And Slave, Mind Fuck, music, punish, Punishment, Rules, Safe and Sane, session, slave, Sub Drop, sub-space, Submission, submissive, submit, sucking cock on August 31, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I love Sensory Depravation it can make the mind think of some crazy things. Under the right conditions you can also reach sub-space.

When people talk about sub-space many think there has to be pain involved , and that is so far from the truth it is not funny..

I was talking to someone the other day about planting a seed. Your planting a thought, the thought then becomes a need. This is a way to get something across without really having to say anything, and yes it works.

If that seed is planted you need pain to reach sub-space, guess what ? Then that will be the only way to achieve reaching that point.

In reality reaching sub-space is about getting into ones mind , once your able to do so, the fun is unlimited.

Many also confuse reaching an orgasm during play is part of sub-space, and that is far from the truth as well..

The pain side of things, the body knows when it is being hurt, and there are steps the body takes to protect itself. Once you start feeling pain, your body sends most of your blood to your abdominal area, causing you to get cold, and confusion sets in, and you believe your reaching sub-space. Even during impact play, blood is rushed to your stomach area… Impact play that includes breast, pussy, or ass, all the body knows its being hurt and it is trying to protect itself..

Sub-space is an art, sub-space is the ability to get into someone’s mind, be it erotic or causing confusion. It is how intense the play session is, and this can be done without pain.. The key is to get those endorphin’s flowing, once you have hit that process the sky is the limit.

You start by taking senses away, sight, hearing, are the two most valuable, then of course touch and smell, but you take sight away, and you bring in a little fear, the mind begins to wonder. Music is always good even being played a little loud, losing sight and not being able to comprehend what is going on around you, causes confusion.

I myself do not enjoy marking up my property, I do not enjoy leaving bruises, this is mainly because if something went wrong, and for some reason I had to explain what happened, yea just not good, because even when consensual, sometimes the law does not see it as being consensual.

A good thing to do is to get familiar with BDSM and the Law, I have blogged about this before. This is why I have mentioned it is very important to get active in the local community. You meet people Doctors, Lawyers, you meet people from every walk of life. It is good to know the right people just in case..

Okay I am sorta of bouncing around here today, so back to the toys. Here lately, Arianna’s needs have began to grow even more.

When I first met her I explained BDSM was like a drug, the more you experience the more you need. The more control you give, the more you want to continue giving..

It is a drug and it is a very powerful drug. The one thing you need to be sure of is your dealer is in full control.. Because if he is not you can get hurt and you can get hurt bad.

BDSM is a mind thing, getting in your head, not only getting in your head but having the ability to stay there, get inside move around, look around see what’s going on. Being able to figure you out, know what makes you think, and then being able to toy around a little.

This is achieved through trust, real trust, I mean trusting someone with your life, because if you are not there, sub-space will not be there.
Trust, would your Dominant take a bullet for you? Would you take a bullet for your Dominant? that is trust.

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The seed was planted, a couple of days ago Arianna brought up the subject about wanting a hood, but now it has become a need. You plant the seed and you leave it alone.

Arianna loves Butt Plugs but she wanted one with a tail, so I placed an order.
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This will surely bring out the submission on a higher level, being home, nude and being instructed to insert and wear.

The new Vibrator I picked out along with the hood and the fox tail, her old one is almost ready to retire. No woman should be without a Vibrator.

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I am also looking for a new flogger, but yea I am not paying 90 bucks for one so I will just keep shopping…

Okay I know I jumped around a lot I hope everyone is having an awesome weekend..

One more thing I am preparing more interviews. I have a Dominant who is married with children and he will explain how D’s works in his home.
Also the famous Cinnimon will be dropping in and helping me out with the Baby Girl thing, and helping us understand more. I wish more Baby girls would step forward but she is going to be awesome…

Much Love
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Kiss The Slave

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, Bondage, clit, communication, control, cum, Cumming, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, Gagged, Master And Slave, owning a slave, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , on August 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Giving him the power to Destroy , but trusting him not to. Those are powerful words. Total unquestioned submission.

Have you as a Dominant ever sat back and just looked at your property, and thinking to yourself she is mine? I have created exactly what I needed and wanted. See in the Masters eyes it is about the slaves needs. The wants have nothing to do with anything. If the needs are met, the wants just fall into place.

Submission your partner kneels in front of you waiting and hoping you will use her. This is when your slave gets the most pleasure. Being used and knowing she had made her Master happy.

Did you enjoy yourself Master? Yes Arianna I did thank you. Yesterday the aftercare was lacking, that was my fault. We had played for well over an hour, and I could tell Arianna was exhausted.

Now a little Mind fuck

Hands behind your back, cuffs on, ankle cuffs on, blindfold on. I love using plastic moving wrap, it not only cuts out all light, but it keeps the blindfold from coming off.
Rope green in color, I have several different colors, purple being my favorite. So I grab the green rope, it was within reach. I tied around Arianna’s waist, under her arms, over her shoulders, through the chain on the cuffs, I made a couple of loops, then down to the ankle cuffs, a couple of loops, then back up to the shoulders and down, finishing off at the waist. There we go nice and tight.
Then I pick up the ball gag. Open your cock sucker, mouth opens then ball gag goes in mouth and strapped tight.

Then complete silence, I just stand back and admire Arianna. I am thinking to myself I really own her, mind and body, her thoughts, her cares, her needs, I own everything. Those thoughts are very powerful, I got chills going up my arms and down my back, it was a very intense feeling.

I slam the bedroom door shut it was very loud, and Arianna jumped. I did not say a word, I could see Arianna’s nipples get hard.

I leave the room slamming the door again, I walk into the kitchen grabbing a candle and the grill lighter. Once back in the bedroom I ran the lighter across her pussy parting her lips, then she hears a click, and another click, and she knows what it is. She jumps back, but trusting me enough not to lite it.
Then a click and I lite the candle, holding it above her shoulders and she feels the first drops of wax hitting her shoulders, then her back then around to her breast. This play goes on for about an hour. Once I stopped I whisper in her ear. I could do anything to you I wanted to.

Standing and spreading as far as the chain would allow her to, I picked up the vibrator, turned it on and I asked is that the spot? Arianna mumbled and I moved it down a little and I hit the spot.
I pressed it against her clit, and held it there for a minute, then I began to count down 10,9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1 and I pulled it away.
Again, and again counting down each time, and she was almost on the brink of cuming and each time I would pull away..

I un cuffed Arianna and handed her the vibrator, still blindfolded and I told her to cum. Once she came I told her to keep holding the vibrator on her clit, do not move it. She held it there for another 10 minutes or so.

Complete trust, tied, cuffed and chained, with a ball gag, and I was causing her to feel fear. Even for the most when she thought I had left the room I did not. I just stood there in complete silence, admiring my slave and my work…

Kiss The Slave.

If you as the Dominant remains in control you can have the same thing as well. All you have to do is be completely honest and truthful, nothing more..

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She Gets So Wet

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, blow job, Face Fucking, fucking, Fucking Missionary, Gagged, gagging, I own you bitch, oral sex, slave, sucking cock on April 29, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I love getting my cock sucked. I love wet blow jobs the wetter the better. Arianna has this way of applying pressure with her tongue when coming up and sucking at the same time. I just lay back and relax for the most, but every now and then, well okay a lot I will push her head all the way down so I can feel the gagging and I hold it until I can feel she is getting ready to cough, as she comes up and she releases I can feel the warmth coming from her mouth.

If I am just into getting my cock sucked at that time, I will go 10 minutes or so just letting her stay in control, many times I do not want to cum, I just want to lay back and enjoy, but when I do. I will put one hand one her forehead, and one one her chin, and as i am moving her head up and down I will pump her mouth, until I explode in her mouth.

The when I want to fuck and I tell her to get on her back, she knows to spread and to wrap her arms around her thighs spreading them, as I crawl on top and I am just dieing to get my cock inside her, sometimes it just slips up and down and I have to reach and put it at the entrance or her pussy and I push in. If I tell her to just lay there so I can cum that is just what she does. If I say come on, she knows she can let go of her thighs, she wraps her arms around me and I stay still while she grinds her pussy against my pelvic bone until she cums.

After she has came, I wrap my arms around her thighs pushing her knees close to her head, and I pound her like there is no tomorrow, sometimes I will leave it in, but most of the time I love pulling out and have her jack me off. Feeling her hand tighten around my cock and jacking me WOW there is no other feeling.

At times I will slap my hand on the bed and tell her to get on her hands and knees. I love fucking doggy style, but looking down at her ass, much of the time, I slide my cock out real slow, and I move it up to hole number two. I put the head right at the entrance and I tell her come on back up on it. Once I am in her ass all the way, I just hold it for a minute feeling the warmth of her ass gripping my cock, then I grab her hips and I just pound her. Wow fucking incredible.

She does have some good pussy. As I am fucking her I look in her eyes and I tell her I own you bitch

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Vile

Bondage And Ball Gags

Posted in abuse, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, Ball Gag, bdsm, blow job, Bondage, breast, Consistency, consistent, Discipline, Dominant, Dominants, Face Fucking, fucking, Gagged, Humiliation, Master & Slave, Rules, slave, submissive, sucking cock on February 15, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Work has been somewhat hectic but good, I have gone in balls to the wall. My last job was very stressful now I am in a total different world. Yes Dominants do get stressed out. While at my last job there were a few times I lost my temper and told everyone to go get fucked. It did not make me feel any better, maybe if I had been watching them get fucked it may have been more entertaining.

I relate to bondage as a form of humiliation. I do admit at times I do get off on some humiliation. I also believe at times some form of humiliation is needed if nothing else just as a reminder. Kinda like reminding the sub or slave of their place within the home.

I am not as extreme as I use to be, when I first met cherrie she was really into humiliation, she thrived on it, but it got to where it was more of a task than pleasure. Each time I had to out do the last, way to much trouble. I did it though because it was a need. I would not want another relationship like that, I would have to pass.

Some Dominants or subs will say they are not into humiliation but to a degree you are. Being punished is a form of humiliation, or getting your ass chewed out is a form of humiliation. Being told to stand in a corner is a form of humiliation.

I have punished Arianna one time, and that was enough. I am not one to set around and just watch and hope she makes a mistake, many do though and many are punished on a regular basis. I think if the Dominant remains consistent in the relationship , there would really be no need to punish. On the other hand if the submissive or slave is not getting the attention they need they will act out, break rules just to get your attention.

I do not believe missing sending an anal training video is grounds for punishment, or not being able to send pics is grounds for any type of punishment. I am hands on I like to see and be able to feel what is mine.

Bondage I love bondage. I find Bondage to be a form of humiliation. Being tied up blindfolded, being fully exposed. We have a queen size bed, and not long ago I had Arianna in the middle. Rope on each wrist tied to the headboard , her arms were spread wide. Rope around each ankle, first the right, rope pulled tight leg up in the air, then the left. Blindfolded I just stood back and looked, and thought to myself, I own this bitch, she is my property, but something was not right about what I was looking at, ahhhh her ass, her ass was not up high enough. I untied her right leg and pulled tighter, then her right. There now both holes were showing.

I left the room I guess for 15 maybe 20 minutes, came back and I just admired her. She was not able to move, I could tell she was very uncomfortable , but she just laid there in silence.

So I crawled on top, slid my cock right in her tight pussy, and started fucking her. I love those little suction noises , and the sound of the wetness, but I almost forgot why I had tied her in that position. Her ass was fully exposed, so I stopped then pulled out rubbing my cock up and down and I went down a little bit and slowly pushed my cock into her ass. I pushed all the way in and just held it for a minute. I could feel her ass tighten around my cock, then I pushed deeper, and started rocking back and forth. I could feel her ass starting to get wet. Then I just went to town, I was fucking her ass as fast and hard as I could until I dumped my load. I just held it as I was running my finger over her tits I whispered I own you bitch. Pulled my cock out, went and showered then I came back and untied her

My favorite thing is the sexual broken thing, I am not as extreme as some of the videos you can watch, but I can relate to them. Being tied up in a little ball. I position Arianna so her ass is just hanging over the bed so I have access to both holes. I do love finishing in her ass.

All of the above is a form of humiliation, it is a good reminder, and many times it will put the submissive or slave in a very peaceful state of mind.

To me face fucking is a form of humiliation. Having your submissive on the floor on their knees, hands cuffed behind their back, slide your cock in their mouth and just start pumping, while your holding their head.

Just like the other night. I rolled over and told Arianna to spread, I crawled on top and just started fucking her. I then told her she was not allowed to cum, this was about me and nothing more. I told her I was just using her, it was all about me. I told her I owned her as I was pumping her. I told her she was my bitch, my whore. Then I pulled out and she jacked me off as I came. I got up rolled over and went to sleep.  It is times like that she feels good, she enjoys being used.

The one thing you have to remember though is how far you can push ones limits, how far you can go before you cause any harm. We as Dominants should always respect ones limits. It is our duty to protect and take care of, but it is our right to use. After all that was part of the agreement. The Submissive or Slave is for our pleasure.

You can use, but use wisely.

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Sexually Broken II

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Safety, BDSM Session, bleeding, blindfold, blow job, Bondage, Collar, communication, control, controlling, Dominance, Dominants, extreme, Face Fucking, Fear, fucking, Gagged, Humiliation, masochist, Master, oral sex, Rape, Respect, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, Safe Word, session, sexual assault, Sexually Broken, skull fucking, slave, submissive, sucking cock on December 18, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I learned about the term Sexually Broken on Sirius 102 about a month ago.Sexually Broken is an adult video series, but I did find the topic very interesting.

There is a huge warehouse full of Bondage Equipment and women are tied up, strapped to different equipment and just used. The sex gets so rough the actresses are giving safe words to use in case things get out of hand. they are tied in every position you could possibly think of and fucked in every hole.

Now I suppose you could use the term in a BDSM or S&M setting. Where the submissive or Slave is just used hard, used in every hole..Sometime ago I had Arianna tied almost into a little ball. I pulled her ass to the edge of the bed, she was cuffed tied, blindfolded, and gagged, ahhh ear plugs as well. While sliding in and out of her pussy, I could not help but to just stare at her ass. She has an ass to die for. So I pulled out of her pussy and right into her tight ass I went, and pumped until I came. So in a sense you could use the term sexually broken.

Now on the other side if what your having done to you is not consensual and it is forced, you could use the term sexually broken., or maybe even rape.

This is what can happen if you meet someone for the first time and you decide you have to prove your submissive and you agree to go to a motel, only having spoken to this Dom a hand full of times. Because once you are tied down, on the bed spread eagle, guess what ? It is to late to change your mind. Hence the word sexually broken, used, raped, abused.

In a consensual setting I do not think the word applies because both are willing to take part. The fact is most slaves love to be used. The more their owner uses them the more they feel they have pleased.

phoenixasubbie used the word skull fucking, that is a word I really do not care for, although I guess there is no difference in the term face fucking. I am going to guess she is somewhat new to the lifestyle as she stated she is still trying to figure a lot of things out.

Many find the lifestyle intriguing , many fantasize about BDSM, being a submissive, or deeper an owned Slave. Until you can experience it and I am not talking seeing someone a couple of times a month, I mean until you have lived it you will never know.

The idea is to be able to give up most of your control, or as a slave all of your control. So being in a 24/7 setting would give you the idea of what it is really like.

Safe words are put into place to keep you safe, to let your partner know when a line has been crossed or you are unsure about what is going on. At that point you stop and you should talk about what just happened. What was it you did not like, what happened to confuse you, or why it hurt. Maybe there is another avenue that can be taking. If your safe word is not respected then it is time for you to leave, thank you but no thank you. No questions asked just I am outta here.

One of Arianna’s friends met a Dom on line, they talked for a couple of weeks, they text each other and she finely agreed to meet him. They had dinner, went to a motel to start her training. Tied her up legs spread and he fucked her with this huge dildo, when he was done the bed was covered in blood. He told her to wash, get out he would call her when he wanted to use her again.

The same thing could happen to you or worse, you might not wake up the next morning, because you really did not know anything abut this dude. You took his word he was an experienced Dom.

I myself do not use safe words , and I told Arianna this up front and I will explain. During a session, communication is very important, vocal and visual. You can see when your almost at their breaking point. You can tell by their body movements, their eyes if not blindfolded. To this day I have never hurt Arianna, the truth is I have never hurt anyone. I have left bruises, marks and sometimes small cuts, but everything I did was wanted and consensual.

If a Dom tells you he can train you to take pain, he is fucking nuts. Either you enjoy pain like a Masochist, or you do not. No one can train you to enjoy pain. If your in a long term relationship you will find the more you trust, the more you bond grows there are some lines you will be willing to cross just to please, but again you cannot be trained to take pain. As a matter of fact I would be willing to debate the issue with another Dominant.

The Dom will say we take our time, we move slowly, and each session we increase the pain until you grow accustomed to pain. I do not buy that one bit, and I would hope you would not.

Sex between two people is what you have agreed on, the do’s and the dont’s , what is off limits and what is fair game. Your off limits should be respected, if not and you allow it, it will only continue.

When I began my search and I have said this before I had a list , it was a list I thought about several days. Once it was completed , this is what I needed and I would not bend. If someone did not like it then move on, because if you settle for less and I am not speaking just sexually, you will never be happy.

I myself I get what I want , when I want as far as sex we really have no limits, with the exception of the normal stuff, no blood, no scat, nothing broken, no perm marks.

If you truly care about someone why would you want to harm them? Why would you want to cause a breakdown or stress? Many do not take the time out to think about safety, they are thinking of the now, they are thinking how bad they want to be in a relationship, to wear a collar, to be owned.

So how long do you go before you let your new Dom fuck you, that is up to you. Thinking with a clear head may make you wait just a little instead of having something to prove. You the submissive has nothing to prove. The Dominant has everything to prove. Him fucking your mouth or ass is not proving anything, and fucking your mouth is not part of training.

Just Think

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Vile

Be Who You Are Not Who Your Expected To Be

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, anger, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, bleeding, blindfold, blow job, Bondage, chat room, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Dating, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fake Dominants, Fetish, Fitting in, Gagged, Kink, kinky, Local events, married, Master, Pain, Protocol, Protocol public, Respect, Rules, sadist, Safe, Scared, slave, Spanking, Structure, submissive, sucking cock on November 27, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

You do not have to change the way you are , or be someone else your not when entering a relationship. You have to be honest with yourself, then you have to be honest with others.

This is more for the new submissives and slaves who are entering the lifestyle. You truly have to be careful and you have to be thinking with a level head. Once your mind starts to go off in a hundred different directions you need to sit down and catch your breath and gather your thoughts, because you are thinking of shit that has never crossed your mind before.

First off Chat rooms pollute your mind, I am not saying all of them are bad but for the most this is where your wannabe Dominants lay in prey. Like a rattle snake just waiting to strike. Once you are bitten you have very little time to get to a doctor. If you do frequent chat rooms pick and choose wisely.

Second what I blog on here is just my opinion, I share who I am and what I am about. You either love me or you hate me. I do not want you to agree with everything I say, and I want to hear your objections, I want to hear the other side of the story. The same goes for other information you gather around the net, staying up late at night reading and taking in information. Nothing you read is written in stone.

What part of the lifestyle are you interested in? How far do you want your submission to go ? How much freedom are you willing to give up ? What do you want out of the relationship ? What type of Dominant are you looking for ? Are you really into the kink of everything ?

When meeting a Dominant you are just doing that, it is like your first date, as a matter of fact it is your first date. As Sir Marcus pointed out you do not have anything to prove. The only thing that both of you has to prove is that you are both compatible nothing more.

Your submission is not proved by sucking cock, or spreading your legs. Your submission is proved by being the person you are. Again as Sir Marcus pointed out proving your submission is not just following rules. You being a submissive you already have a good idea in your head how you want a relationship to work.

To give yourself as a whole, the want to kneel before your Dominant the peaceful feeling you get while at his feet, then you feel your submission.

That is the frame of mind you strive for, the rest of your submission just falls into place. Yes it is really that easy.

Okay even if you just moved in with a Dominant within the first 90 days the relationship you are looking for will just fall into place again it is that easy. There may be a few modifications your Dominant wants to add,  house rules a few protocols, but you already know your submission. you know your limits, you know your needs.

That is where your training comes in, the modifications your Dominant imposes on you. You do so willingly though because it is a need, you have a growing desire to submit.

Okay we are going to begin your training right now I want to see how you suck cock, I need to see if there is any room for improvement , that is not proving anything.

If you change the person you are to make someone else happy. Then where does your happiness come into play ?  What satisfaction are you going to get out of the relationship ?

If you meet a Dominant and the two of you get along okay and you feel you have something, but he is into pain and your not. You do not have to except what he is giving just to please that just simply means you are not compilable . Why put yourself through something you do not enjoy , it is not worth it.

Being a Dominant is not about barking orders, or making demands. A Dominant is meant to make you feel safe, wanted , cared for, he provides structure within the home. He is calm ,  and remains in control at all times. It does not mean there will not be disagreements but the two will talk things out. A Dominant provides an open line of communication, meaning you are able to share what ever your thinking, your feelings your emotions, your needs. More so he will listen to what you have to say. He will take an interest in things you want to do, places you want to go. You should be the center of your Dominants world you should always come first and want to come first.

Being tied to a bed getting your ass whipped does not prove your submission, being shared does not prove your submission. The Dominant has much more to prove than you do, he has to prove he is who he says he is. Your just going to take his word after a few chats and a couple of phone calls ? I would hope not.

Arianna has a friend who met a Dominant who she had been talking to for a while and agreed to meet him. Yes on the first meet a motel room.  She was tied down spread eagle on the bed, blindfolded and gagged. He began to fuck her with a huge Dildo, very hard once he was finished, he took the gag out the blindfold off untied her , and when she looked down the bed was full of blood, he told her to get cleaned up and get the fuck out he would call her later.  Yes the first meeting, but she proved her submission Right ?

Over Ninety five percent of my followers are women, I truly wonder why ? I will share my thoughts, While I am a Dominant, married to my Slave who happens to call me Master by her choice I never directed her to call me anything. She asked me what I would like to be called. My reply was what ever makes you feel comfortable. I made no demands.

I am very strict I run a strict home, I have rules and my rules are followed, I have protocols public and private that are followed. Yes I get my cock sucked when ever I want, I get pussy anytime I want I get anal anytime I want, fuck I cannot think of anything I do not get. I can tell you this. I have never raised my voice to my wife and slave, I have never left a bruise on her anyplace . Her needs are met, she knows she can come to me and talk about anything knowing I will not get upset.  She knows that if something comes up I will handle it, she has no stress no drama, and most of all no regrets.

Yes I got it like that, but it was no easy task I had much to prove, before she gave her full submission. and I had to stay consistent I had to be who and what I am. I did not put up a false wall.

I am against abuse of any kind be it emotional , physical or mental. I am against someone being used and just tossed aside. That is why ninety five percent of my followers are women. Because I tell the truth.

I use to get a lot of hate mail I have not received any in some time. Men telling me how I fucked their relationship up. Really I did that ? Um no you did.

Last year I blogged and a Slave made a comment and her question was , What is a Munch? She had been with this Dominant for over a year and did not have a clue to what a Much was. Some of you being new may not know what a Munch is but you will now. A munch is a gathering of like minded people who have dinner together once a month and sometimes they have discussions after eating. There is no sex, sometimes they have demonstrations maybe rope or spanking.

If you are with a Dominant and he is keeping you cut off from the outside world, you need to pack your shit because things will go wrong. Keeping you from friends and even family. The abuse is about to begin, and it can turn ugly.

I made it a point when I first met Arianna to introduce her to people I knew and was friends with in the lifestyle. I never said much about me, but it was not long until she made the comment, you are very respected in the community . That is only because I am who I am and I did not change for anyone.

I live by the Truth.

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Just be who you are.

Vile

Let Me Tell You Ladies Something

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anger, Annoyed, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, betrayed, blow job, Collar, Collars, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, Dating, Deception, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, fucking, Gagged, Giving Head, Humiliation, inhibitions, Lie, Master, Meeting, Mini Skirts, No Inhibitions, No Panties, non-consensual, pussy, Respect, Safe, Safe and Sane, slave, Submission, submissive, submissive or slave has rights, sucking cock, sucking dick on November 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Warning Signs Of A Fake Dominant.

I am not or was not just speaking out of my ass, I have been there. I am not saying I was a fake, but I learned at a very young age how to manipulate the system, meaning how to get into a submissive’s head. That is what it is all about to begin with the Dominant being able to get into ones head. If he cannot do that he cannot control. It is you the submissive who allows this.

Yes I am guilty of a lot of messed up things. The hunt was exciting, the kill was a total rush. I was not looking for love I had one thing on my mind and that was getting my cock sucked and pussy nothing more. As I grew older it was not until my early 30’s I realized I wanted more. I had to find the one. It was then I found out the hunt was not as easy because this time I had a goal. I needed more so I had to be more selective in my search. I had three long term relationships all three were slaves. One after almost seven years her mother grew ill and she moved back to Korea. the second was my fault because I lost control, because I let my feelings get in the way. Now the love of my life Arianna

Everything I am going to tell you is the truth I have nothing to gain from misleading you

I am speaking as a man from past experience’s . So now what I am trying to do is make things right, give good valuable advice, if you listen you listen if you don’t well I tried.

Beware of the closet Dom, he is ego driven, nothing more. He will lead you down a path of total destruction and never look back, and when he is done he will wash his hands and move on.

BDSM is not about SEX. BDSM is not about SUCKING COCK or Laying on your back. BDSM is a relationship where the two form a bond that cannot be broken, BDSM is about communication and open communication. You as a submissive should be able to express your feelings with out being judged or talked down to.

So when first meeting you only give out information you think you need to, nothing to private, no problems, if you suffer from depression or anything else that should not be brought up, for sometime. This is ammunition that can and will be used against you. This is how a closet Dom gets in your head he preys on your problems. He will tell you trust me I will make everything alright. I can and want to help you. I am here for you.  Listen because if you think this has happened to you before.

What makes one a Dominant ? What makes one a Master ? these are questions you should ask. If you think of a question then ask, do not be afraid to ask in fear of ruining a date, because if you do not ask he will not volunteer any information.

You need to have a plan put in place a list of questions, and make sure all questions are answered. If he seems like he is getting a little agitated then something is wrong. You the submissive is conducting the interview.

If you did not fuck on your first date, why would you think you would on the first meeting with a potential Dom. To prove your submissive ? Fucking or sucking cock on the first date does not prove anything . At this point he is already halfway through the hunt.

A huge red flag if the Dominant talks about a collar on the first meeting. In my eyes it really takes about six to eight months before someone should ever consider offering a collar. A collar is earned , a collar is just not giving out. Would you marry a man on your first date? I would not think so. If not why would you just be willing to hand over complete control of your life ?

Passwords is another huge flag. Although I do have access to Arianna’s phone I to this day have none of her passwords. Why is this, for one I am not ego driven, and two I trust her. It is not to say that one day I may have her log into her email , because I have that right and she knows it. Your passwords are just that yours. Even in a D’s or M’s relationship we still need some privacy. If he gets angry because you do not wish to share, then just walk away.

You have to be best friends, you have to enjoy being around each other. Going out and doing things together, laughing and joking. You cannot be Master and Slave 24/7 it just does not happen that way, although you are always in that frame of mind.

If you find out your spending more time on your knees and in the sitting position then guess what ? You have been had, you are just another victim another notch in his belt.

We all want the same thing out of life. A partner we can depend on, someone we can let all of out inhibitions flow away. We want to be able to share everything,but more so we want to know we are loved.

You do not have to spread your legs to prove your submission, you do not have to suck cock to prove your submission. You do not have to clean his house to prove your submission. You prove your submission by being who you are.

To allow someone to take you to a motel on the first meeting, that is just insane. We are human not cats we only have one life and to give that life up to try and prove your submissive is just plain crazy.

If you get with a Dom who is not experienced and he is into impact play you can really get fucked up. Even rope bondage you can get hurt if your not tied correctly. You can hurt muscles and damage tendons that is a fact. Impact play if you can lose a kidney if you are hit to high. Your tail bone can be broken. You can get hurt, and your not going to tell anyone how it happen due to the humiliation.

I said this yesterday once you are tied down spread eagle, blindfolded and gagged you are fair game. He can do anything to you he wants, and you will get hurt, or worse. Do not play with your life, you have nothing to prove.

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You as a submissive or slave has rights, you not only have to agree to a Doms terms but he has to agree to yours as well. You do not have to submit until the Dom has agreed to your terms and your rules.

Number one, you should know where he works. You should have his phone number and have the abilty to call when ever you have the need . You should have the ability to text when you have the need and expect a reply in a timely manner. A timely manner is not the next day. You should have his address to where he lives and the ability to see him when you have the need. He should be willing to introduce you to his friends and co-workers. That is just the tip of the iceberg.

Do not ever let a Dom tell you what you are going to wear on the first meeting. Most women would not feel comfortable wearing a short skirt with no panties meeting a total stranger