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When I Was A Daddy Dom

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I actually met Bea online about 6 months before my life pretty much fell apart, we did not meet in person until about a month before I moved out.

I had already confessed to my then wife who I was and what my needs were. I also knew there was no turning back I had already reveled way to much information.
Then came the divorce, I had stayed at the house because of guilt, but the day the divorce was final, out the door I walked.
I let behind my 1976 Fiat Spider,my 1955 chevy that I had before we married, but the judge felt she needed it, and the 160.000 dollars we had in the bank account.
I left with a duffel bag and my Yamaha 750 Seca. It had about 77.000 miles on it, and I had about 1600 dollars on me.
Bea and I had met at an apartment I was going to rent. It was beach side in Daytona Beach. A nice 4 unit building, 2 upstairs and 2 down stairs. I opted for the top floor.
Two weeks later bea moved in as my submissive. It was some 6 months later I collared her. We had drove up to St Augustine for sunrise and I collared her by the old Spanish fort.

At that time I was going through some serious changes in life, I still had a huge guilty feeling concerning the Divorce. I had a young son as well, but instead of the 85.00 a week I was suppose to pay in child support, I paid 600 a month sometimes up to a 1000.00 dollars.

During this time I decided to drive a cab locally, who would of thought you could make a 1000.00 dollars a week driving a cab. I also drove a limo as well kinda like an on call thing.
Bea was working part time at a day care but wanted to be a teacher. So I set that as a goal. During our relationship I set many goals for her, because I wanted her to succeed in life, I also knew being her first daddy it would not last.
It is not to often the Baby Girl stays with their first Daddy and I knew that. I was 37 and Bea Had not been 18 very long, yea I was robbing the cradle. Her mom and dad came unglued. It was not very pretty at all, but they more less wanted her out of their hair anyway.

Bea was a cutter, she was a bad cutter, she could no longer wear short sleeves or shorts that were very short. There were times she would just cry for no reason.

I walked in the bedroom to let Bea know dinner was ready and when I walked in she was cutting herself. I just looked and said when your done , dinner is ready. That is all I said and nothing more.

Our relationship continued to grow, now Bea was about 5’2 a little chunky, she had the palest skin I had ever seen, Dark black eyes, and black hair that went to her ass, she was really beautiful.

As we continued to grow our communication also grew, and the more we communicated, the more she was able to release.

Now I was going through a lot of changes, prior to getting Married I was a full blow sadist, Sherri was my first slave. I had grown cold, no feelings and I cared about no one even Sherri. Cherri was just a target, nothing more. The whole time we were together for what ever reason I never fucked her, not one time. There was either something about her, or I did not want to become that emotionally close.
She loved being fisted, once my hand was in I would just pound that bitch, fucking her with my arm as hard as I could. I would have her tied down spread eagle on the bed, spanking her pussy with my hand, I would use a belt, and just spank and spank until it was so swollen, it almost looked deformed.

At first I got off on the humiliation, I got off on inflicting pain, I got off on seeing the pain in her eyes, but it soon became a burden, because each session I had to out do the last.

Before getting married I was jumping from one slut to another, but now I was fucking.
Yahoo profiles that was the shit. I could log on and have a date in an hour. I was upfront as well, you are just fuck meat and nothing more. Today or the next couple of days you are my whore.

So I was going through an adjustment, I met an older Dominant his name was Animel, yup that is his real name. He looked like a pissed off Santa Clause, I stayed by his side day in and day out. My mind could not take in enough information. To this day I consider him a mentor, we are not as close as we once were, but he is still here..

Six months into our relationship Bea has just gotten out of the bath, and walked into the living room , and kneel and said Master I want you to have this I do not need it any longer, and she handed me her razor. I took it from her and I said good girl, and I held her for what seemed like hours.

I had to teach her how to cook, she could not boil water, but that was really no task because I love to cook.
At night most of the time I would bath her, and wash her hair, once out we went to the bedroom and I would put lotion on her.

She followed rules and protocols without question. I do believe I was somewhat stricter then than I am now. Once she was home she had a collar and leash she would put on, the chain ran through the whole apartment.

This was about the time I was starting up my internet cigar Business, which was really doing very well. It was almost to the point I was not going to have to work any longer.

I remember one day we walked into a golf store I was seeing about putting cigars in his store, and Bea had stopped at the door and just stood there with her hands in front of her. The clerk asked me what she was doing and I said just what she is suppose to, we are talking, she has nothing to do with this. When I walked out, Bea was two steps behind me.

Bea wanted to lose weight, not that she really needed to, so everyday we would walk 3 miles, down A1A and back, in the evening just as the sun was setting.
It was almost our 5th year together and Bea enrolled in UCF She wanted to become a teacher, she had really come a long way, and I supported her in everything she wanted to do.
After all that is what Daddy’s do, we want our girls to grow, we encourage growth.

It was really amazon because going on 5.5 years and we had not yet had an argument.This was due to us being so open, and the communication we had, but I also had a tight leash on her as well.
I allowed her to have friends in and out of the lifestyle, and once a month she was allowed to have a girls night out..

I came home one evening and Her demeanor was different she was more girly , although she was wearing her collar and chain.
As I started dinner because I did 90% of the cooking she started talking about how her feelings had changed, how she had been talking to other girls about their daddy’s.
I was not sure where all of this was going, but after dinner I helped her with her homework, and once we were ready for bed. She went to the bathroom and came back in and she kneeled and ask for permission to enter the bed, she handed me a bottle , a baby bottle, and she asked me if I would feed her, I was stumped at first but I said sure.
This was the transition from Dominant and submissive to Daddy and baby girl.
If it had been anyone else I do not believe I would of went through such a transition.

To date she had only been punished twice, she walked a straight line, and was very proper inside and out. Friends who would come over always made a comment about how good of a host she was.

Something happened though, and I started to let my feelings get in the way. I no longer wanted to tell her what to do, or what to wear, or what to take out for dinner. I stopped enforcing rules, I let protocols slide.

Once I realized what had happened , I tried to regain control but it was way to late, we even had long conversations about what was going on, because we could feel both of us falling apart.
Once you lose control, there is no way to get it back. Because a different side of you has been seen, that is something a submissive or slave, and baby girl will not forget.

Then I got sick , I got bad sick , one morning I got up and I was in the bathroom choking and I coughed uo this black stuff which was dead blood. so I grabbed my blackberry and I dialed 911. That was the last thing I remember. Seven days later I woke and I was in ICU I had 6 bleeding ulcers, and by this time 3 blood transfusions.

Bea would come and visit me everyday , except for the last week I was in. I spent 31 days in the hospital. On the day I was released I called and all I got was voice mail.
I actually called an escort service because I had to have someone sign me out. I did not have my cell phone so I had no one to call. This hooker looking bitch came up and asked for me, and off I went.
A cab waiting down stairs, I paid the girl a 100 bucks and I fell in the front seat.
Once home the cab driver whom I knew had to help me up the stairs, because I was to weak to walk.
He unlocked the door and when it opened everything was gone. no couch, no TV, no dishes, no bed nothing.

I was not mad or upset, because I knew why she left the way she did, but she took the fucking bed.

It was some 6 months before I was back to normal. My landlord and his wife would bring food over daily.
They furnished the apartment for me. It was some three weeks before I was able to go back to work, and then I was only able to work 4 or 5 hrs a day.

My website had been shut down, well my merchant shut it down , during the month of December I had over 10.000 dollars in charge backs. Shrugs

Today life is good I am in a good place. We all learn from our mistakes. The only bad mistake is the mistake you repeat.

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Vile

Training Your Slave And Having The Proper Keys

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Argue, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, cheating, Cheating Dominant, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Daddy Dom, Dominant, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, fetlife, hoe, Lie, Lies, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Patience, rimming, Rules, Self-Discipline, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on March 16, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have talked about Training your Slave in the past, not so much a submissive because a Submissive still has some control about what goes on. A Submissive has the RIGHT to say NO, and that word has to be honored.

Many of you have seen me, I am an average looking guy, nothing special, I don’t have that Tom Cruise thing going on, but I am me. I am me inside out. I am not someone from 8 to 5 then someone different when the clock hits 5.05pm I am me 24/7. I do not care what others think of me, I do not care if others talk about me, I do not mind being the gossip of the day or the week. Why ? Because I am me and no one can change that,

Many of you have seen Arianna she is without a doubt a Total Fucking Knock out. She was built for fucking, she is perhaps the best cock sucker I have ever cum across. She is truly a perfect sign of beauty.  Last she is a True Slave at heart, she has giving me not 25% not 50% or 75% not even 100% but 150%.

To put us side by side you would look and go what the fuck? How did Vile pull that off, I know other Dominants and Masters ask me the same thing. My answer is always the same, I pulled it off because I am just me I am Vile, I have never put up any fronts, I have never pretended to be anyone else.

My Training also includes being Vile being me and no one else. I can tell you if you can pull that off just being yourself and staying yourself you can go places.

I have fucked some of the most beautiful women in the world. I have fucked models, Doctors, Lawyers, women who were married, Ive fucked their sisters and at times I lowered my standards some not much but some. I have fucked some I knew I would never be in a relationship with. I have fucked those and threw them taxi money while pushing them out the door, and they still call me the next day.

Okay Ive made some mistakes, Ive used some, Ive hurt some, but then you grow the fuck up. I can tell you and maybe some of you men can relate it does not matter how many women you fuck, it still gets lonely waking up alone in the am.

Then you have to stop and ask yourself what am I doing wrong ? Pussy is not in shortage. You can go out to a nigh club pick someone up within an hour bring them home bust a nut and send them on their way, you feel good, but we never stop to think about their feelings. We never stop and think what we are doing to them mentally and emotionally. Okay on the other side some women are Hoes as well, some women use men.

I am not off track I am getting to the training part. I am just sharing a little about my past, while I had fun, I had fun being alone. That was one thing I was not able to see until my late 20’s early 30’s.

When someone ask me hey how are ya doing? My answer is always the same. I am Living The Dream, my dream, viles dream. I am living in the present, I am living in the today, not yesterday or tomorrow, but the present. The past is just that it is the past. Nothing I do is going to change that. The future I do not have a clue, all I know is for right now I am living the dream.

I recently took part in a training seminar in sales, and the Motivational speaker is just fucking unreal and it works, it works to a T. The thing is you can do what he says and speaks about, but you have to throw in your own personality, you have to be you, and no one else.

The way I trained Arianna worked for me, the way I trained my last long term was far different, and chong the training was way out the door. I was more cold, more self centered , I was more stand offish , but that is the type of master she needed, but at the same time I was me. The only thing I changed was my training process.

Rules every submissive, Baby Girl or Slave needs rules, they all need to know there are consequences as well. Rules with no consequences are no more than words. You know what words get old, promises get old, lying gets old, cheating gets old, losing your temper gets old, being abusive gets old. Then when it does not work out you can blame it on the Bitch, she was the one who was fucked up, she was a total fake. The fact is that is a lie, because if you had been yourself, chances are it would of worked out.

Now the almighty question. How long does it take to train a slave ? Well how long does it take to make something a habit. Note you are not just making one thing a habit, you are changing someones life around to fit your needs and wants.

The key is but there are a couple of keys to many locks. The main key is being yourself, another key is have self control, another key is not having any anger issues. If you have anger issues you have no business being in the lifestyle , and you should be ashamed demanding someone call you Master or Daddy or even Sir. Those terms are earned. If you have anger issues, and I have met several who could not control their temper, and wondered why their relationships failed, yes that was plural.  Another Key is having no Drama, drama kills you. Your Submissive , baby girl, or slave does not want to be part of a mess you created, and to get them in your fucked up shit is not fair. Another Key being truthful , just tell the truth, even if its going to piss someone off. . Another key is being in control, and not controlling, this falls under anger issues again. The thing is to properly train someone you have to have every key I just mentioned, and there are a few more. The key to respect, the key to understand the word no.  These keys get Heavy but in your relationship you have to use each key and use on a daily basis, if you start leaving keys out, you will slowly start to lose control. Once you have lost control you can rarely regain. Ive been there done that, once its over its over.

When I met Arianna her life was in a total mess, and even after she explained to me what kind of Dominant she needed I still had some hesitation. So I had to spend sometime thinking, was this something I wanted to take on. Did I want to micromanage someone, did I want that much responsibility , did I want that much control over someone’s life. Well I am happy to say going on almost two years well six months short of two years my math is probably different than yours but that’s OK. It is working and working well. Arianna can tell you I use all of the keys on a daily basis. When she gets upset I am there for her, when she gets emotional I am there for her. The key is I am there no matter what, see we just found another key.

My way of training may not fit your way, it may not fit your baby girls way, submissive or slaves way, but if you take bits and pieces and use some of what I am saying and be yourself it can work.

My thought of a Triad was not for me it was for Arianna, fuck I get anything and everything I want, when I want and how I want it, without any resistance. I get waited on hand and foot, sex is when ever I want, I get my cock sucked more than Bill Clinton, I get my ass licked when I want, my feet. I want for nothing. Another key is, I have to give back and more. I give back more than I take. I am there 24/7 no questions asked. If Arianna needs me I drop what ever I am doing. She knows this as well.

Now to you married dudes who have the need to fuck around because your wife wont lick your ass, or the dudes who prey on those who are submissive just so you can use. You do not have any KEYS. All you have is the gift of Gab, and that only last so long, she will leave you and yes you will blame her. Or if you do have any keys it will not unlock any doors, they are useless, until you decide to man up. When you go in the bathroom turn on the water look in the mirror and wash all of the pussy off of your face, your keys will never work.

I read a Doms profile on Fetlife not long ago, he stated he could train any Slave in less than 30 days. That is a complete joke and he is truly living in a fantasy world, or maybe he can make someone think he can, but again he does not have all the keys.

The fact is the training never stops, the training is never complete, training is something that has to be done daily, and that falls under consistency daily consistency, and being who you are.

You are changing someones whole thought process, you are changing their way of thinking, and I will give you a good example.

While meeting with another Dominant he was quizzing me on how I trained and was able to maintain such a relationship. With Arianna sitting right there and as I was explaining she really heard nothing, even when I mentioned the part about mind modification, and I have mentioned it before in front of her, and she hears nothing. That is how I can tell Ive done well, that is how I know my training was and is successful. I can speak of training her in front of someone and she hears nothing, even if she does it goes in one ear and out the other. She cannot see it because she lives it everyday and I continue the training daily.

If your training starts out with learning to suck cock, then your fucked up. Why don’t you suck someones cock and see what you get out of it. See what benefits you get from sucking cock. Then you can explain to the submissive what the benefits are to learning to suck cock.

If you use all of your keys and you are truthful during the process you to can have anything and everything you want. I want for nothing, I ask for nothing, and I truly mean that because everything I need is anticipated . When we are going out all I have to do is tell Arianna to get in the car, if I tell her where we are going fine if I do not that is fine.

Train your own way just make sure you have the proper Keys.

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Vile

Where Do We Fit In ?

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Arianna, bdsm, Bondage, control, controlling, Conversation, Dominants, Employer, Face Fucking, Fear, Fitting in, Friends, Friendship, hoe, Kink, kinky, Love, married, masochist, Master, oral, oral sex, pussy, Respect, Rough Sex, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, sex, slave, Spanking, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, Trust, Vanilla, Vanilla Friends on July 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We were texting today Arianna and I , and the subject came up of how stupid some people are. I made the comment about how at work all anyone talked about was how much beer they drank the night before and how much they plan on drinking once they get off. These are men who make six figures not your every day McDonalds worker not that there is anything wrong with working at McDonalds. It does not matter what you do as long as it is an honest days work.

Here is the thing, besides Arianna I really do not have anyone I would call a real friend, I mean someone I would hang out with on a daily basis. There are people I like, and I even invited a co-worker over for dinner sometime, but to call someone a friend to me that is deep and it calls for a lot of trust. Trust is a huge issue with me.

At work I try to fit in, I laugh and joke but for the most it is a big front, not that most of the guys are not likeable because most are. When I first started there I was giving the cold shoulder because they felt like I was cutting into their pay, which is not really the truth, we each make out own pay. So everyday it is talking about beer and hoes, hoes and beer. Pretty boring.

In the lifestyle I know a lot of people , there are those I would like to call friends, but then the trust thing comes into play. for the most I am a very private man. Although at work I have shared some of my kink but no one really understands and I do not want to spend a day trying to explain. People hear what they want to hear, people see what they want to see, and people believe what they want to believe.

So in my world where does Vile fit in? It is as if I do not belong anyplace. Sure I have my own space, my own freedom, but at some point you have to share your space, if that makes any sense.

At a young age I knew I was different. Even in my teens I was into spanking, tying girls up, I really got off on face fucking, humiliation, and yes even control. Even then I did not fit in, it was like I was a guest in someones world, I was just there, people all around me but I just could not find that spot, that spot where I belonged.

So is it so bad to be different? Should we be someone else we are not just to please others so that we do fit in? I do know living a life that your not can be a total disaster , and the consequences are not good. On the other hand if we are to be who we are where do we fit in?

You go to the wing house or hooters with the guys, well it is not my thing, because I have no desire to sit around a table telling old war stories drinking beer, and listening to men talk about hoes

Lets face it if you went to work and announced who and what you were you would not be accepted, you would be the black sheep of the office. People would think your weird or think your some sicko. So really we spend our life hiding in the closet. I have shared some but I have not gone into great detail. Do I care if I am accepted? Nah I am who I am and I am very happy. Do I care if Joe likes me? I could really care less.

We, us , them, submissive, slaves, sadist, masochist , kinky we do not fit in we are just here, or there for a short period of time. Most are ashamed of who and what they are, because of being afraid of being an out cast, we need acceptance, we need people to like and approve of use. Why ? Because we do not fit in the world the way people think we should.

Those who do want to fit in want everything handed to them without having to put forth any effort, for example. A co-worker who is single, I invited him to go to a place in Orlando called the wood shed. His remark was fuck that I am not driving sixty miles to meet a woman, I would rather go home and watch porn and jack off. I am glad that is working out for him.  Now if I just showed up at his place with a woman and said here she is yours to fuck for the night, he would gladly take her, unless he found out he had to feed her or something.

I can say without a doubt I am happy. I have a good life. I have an awesome wife and slave, and as of right now I would not change anything. If I need a fishing buddy I have Arianna, if I have the need to have a drinking buddy again I have Arianna. If I have the need to play rough, fuck or just get my cock sucked yup I have Arianna.

So the question is do I really need to fit in? I think being happy and content means much more than trying to fit in with the Jones, or the Smiths.

So I know every morning when I leave for work, I know just where I fit in. That is my main and only focus.

Much Fucking Love to Everyone

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Vile

Are Sadist Cruel And Un-Caring

Posted in abuse, Aftercare, bdsm, Bond, clit, control, controlling, Dominants, events, Fake Dominants, Friendship, hoe, Home made toys, Humiliation, Make your own Flogger, masochist, Master, Masters, Meeting, Mentor, Mind Fuck, munchs, nipple pump, Pain, references, SADOMASOCHISM, Safe Call, slave, submissive on September 24, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

I re-Blogged this from http://daddysnaughtylittlegirl.wordpress.com/2012/09/23/in-search-for-a-dominant-fake-fraud/

The Sadist

These guys are really scary.  They genuinely want to hurt you.  There is nothing romantic or loving about them.  They enjoy watching others suffer, both physically and emotionally, and have contempt for those around them.  They relish the humiliation of their victims and are naturally duplicitous.  Because most find sexual satisfaction in their sadism, they can disguise themselves as Dominants.

I see this as putting all Sadist in the same category, even profiling if you will. I disagree with this statement 100%.

We are all different when it comes to the lifestyle, that is why it is very important for us to find someone we are compatible with .

First of all, You can be a sadist and not be a Dominant, you can be a Dominant and not be a sadist, or you can be both. To say all Sadist are ruthless, uncaring, and they just want to hurt and humiliate you, is really a false statement.

While I do know some Sadist who are very extreme, the play is done with a masochist. It is not to say that a sadist would not meet a submissive and could cause harm, but for the most this is very untrue.

With me if you are a submissive, and not a masochist we can still play, sex probably not, I have to have a connection. If I am just in a session, I like to please. I enjoy seeing one get that high, slowly slip into sub-space. More so I enjoy the after care. After care is very important, this prevents sub-drop. After care should not just be a tool used after playing, it should be part of the everyday relationship.

If you are my slave, you are the center of my world I have stated this before. The slave always comes first, no matter what. The slave has an open line of communication.

A Masochist has needs just as a Sadist has needs. I believe in this type of relationship the Bond is so much greater, because both give so much, both can feel what the other is feeling. The trust is so much greater.

This is not to say that a bad sadist is not lurking, but the same is with a fake dominant.

I agree with TheDomNextDoor On the first meeting a slave should have a safe call, a friend she can trust. When she leaves her place and when she arrives at the dominants house, and should be allowed to make a call during the visit. He should also not mind if she takes a pic of his tag, and send it to her safe call.

You never I mean never let a dominant book a room for the first meeting. Yea Ive heard it before, we have chatted, we talked on the phone, we have so much in common, he is what Ive been looking for.

Let me tell you something, if you allow a man to book a room, more so who you have never met. Take you inside tie you down, you know what, you are fair game at this point, bound, gagged, and blindfolded. You have no idea what is going to happen. A safe call may not make a difference. If you allow this to have you are just fucking stupid.

A Dominant should be able to provide references on the spot as a matter of fact I am going to add a couple one from a dominant and one from a slave. He should not have to stop and think about this question.

I like to take a new slave to a munch, and introduce her to friends of mine. While letting her get to know others who are submissive.

Some say well I don’t like to go, I do not like the interaction , or I cannot go because of my work. These are like minded people, Blue Collar workers, white Collar workers, Doctors, Lawyers, shrinks, we come from all forms of life.

The toy thing that was brought up. I make a lot of my toys, from floggers to spreader bars. I am not going to pay 100 dollars for a pair of spreader bars when I can make the same thing for 20 dollars, ball gags, Nipple pumps, clit pumps 5.99 at wal mart. While I do have some toys I have purchased such as The Violet wand in the sum of 1200 dollars and a couple of tens units.

Sometime ago I blogged about a slave named Kim who just basically showed up at my door at 3am. I am flattered by the way that she felt the way she did. After a couple of sessions, she approached my friends wanting to know how to make me change, they just looked at her dumb founded.

Okay so I do have a heart well kinda sorta, I just did not want to say hey you got to go. We had nothing really, more so no sex, I just did not have that connection.

So here came the mind fuck I blogged about, it really dome more damage than I thought it would, that I feel kinda bad about, but in the process she tried to ruin my name. Telling others I had no control, I lost it with her I abused her. Fucking what ever..

So here we go…

Hey Man

list of conversations

Leland
Leland 49M
New Smyrna Beach, Florida
written 14 days ago:

Hey first thing, I just wanted to bring something up, it caught my attention the other day while we were talking. It was about the pain thing.
Looking through your pics, I have to say while I admire, I am not really into leaving marks, I have in the past, my first was a Masochist some 20 yrs ago, she taught me much of what I know today, a real pain slut I suppose, more into humiliation. We saw each other for about 6 or 7 yrs.
Although everything was new to me, in the beginning the humiliation was fun, but it got to be more of a job, because each time we saw each other, I had to out do the last.
Kim gave me a pretty bad rep Craig, although I do enjoy some impact play at times, I never left a bruise on her. Breast play was out because , she said they hurt to bad to even tie up.
Although I do enjoy rough sex and bondage, along with a little humiliation, I have never hurt anyone, nor would I even think of hurting another.

I have a blog it has been up for about 4 months now, with 16K in visitors and about 70 people following. Most of my blog is about safety and Submissive’s ,it does get out there sometimes but safety is first.

I was seeing a submissive for a 9 months she was married a Jehovah Witness yup thats correct.
There is a Dom who lives in Edgewater SirXcalbar on my friends list. Lyn and I went to his house one night and I allowed him to use an evil stick on her, I used it a couple of times, but it really marked up her breast. I like Calbar much respect for him,
I guess what I am trying to say man is I am not the cruel sadist that some have portrayed me to be.
Am I strict ? yes. High Protocol ? yes. Am I abusive? No.

I have met this Chinese American she goes to UCF 21, well the guilt has set in, we have dated a couple of times, she has wanted to play, but I cannot bring myself to it.
Any thoughts?

Craigash
Craigash 52M
Orlando, Florida

Leland, I think the Kim thing fucked you over. I never thought you were dangerous and I know you get off on the mind fuck. Anybody that has a question about you, I would be happy to vouch for you and never hesitate. As for this new girl, I think if you are interested then go for it and don’t hesitate because of an untrue past. You are a man in control of yourself so just follow your own rules. If she says stop then you stop but I don’t have to tell you, you know more than I do. Be yourself and go for it…you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

From a submissive really read this one..

Leland

Check this out

by Leland

A submissive called me who lives on the west coast, we have known each other for more than 5 years.. She was contacted by a dom named thebull2k2.

He wanted to meet her, told her that if he likes her she would take his seed right there she had no say in what he wanted to do.. He wanted to make her pregnant a breeder.

Really has the lifestyle come to this..

This is the submissive I have spoken about who I mentor.

First, I want to thank you Leland, for having my best interest at heart. I respect you, and your opinions a great deal. I have wrestled with posting, as this is similar to public speaking for me, but I want to clarify.
First, I did not meet this person.
Second, this Dom may be perfectly respectable, as I thought so through many of our conversations, and this could very well be a misunderstanding. The breeding part is clearly stated on his profile, and was discussed through conversation at length, where it was also made clear that I would not bring a child into this world outside of a committed, loving relationship. That was not, and still is not, what the issue was that I wanted to bounce off Leland.
Third, I believe this post was intended as a reminder for everyone to pay attention. The original meeting that was agreed to was just a ‘get to know you’ meeting. The other terms were not mentioned until a point in the conversation where I really shouldn’t have been paying much mind to what was being said. After it cooled off a bit, I then attempted to question the part that was tossed in about being taken with no time being spent building trust. It was at that point I was told it is the Dom’s choice of when and where he took a sub, that they had no choice in the matter. THIS is what my issue was, and the reason for mentioning the whole thing to Leland, for his words of wisdom. Obviously, there are as many opinions on this as there are people in the lifestyle, however, mine were made perfectly clear in this, as well as previous conversations.
I believe the point of this post was intended to remind us we do have choices. I speak to Leland about many things, including many of the absurdities, I, as a single woman here, receive on a daily basis. Most of them are laughable. Many so called “Doms” tend to use the lifestyle and the title as their right to a bootie call, and nothing more. If that is what you are here for, to each their own. However, many subs who have not yet learned to weed through these and spot the red flags get taken advantage of. Sometimes, even those of us who do know become lax, and let our guard down. I understand his frustration with this. I do think this thread could have been done a bit differently, however, I understand the point was also to remind and protect myself, and others like me, against some of the dangers of not paying attention and rushing into meetings too quickly.
A GREAT follow up would be the nearly day long lecture I had the privilege of receiving from you (Leland) on safety measures! (Typed.. here… I think I am good for a while on hearing it!)
Again, I am honored to be able to call you friend, and to have you as a sounding board, regardless of the lectures it brings me!

SirXcalbar is a very dear and close friend of mine.

Well, there are those who are fakers and use the lifestyle to attract those innocents. However, if she agreed, then that is her fetish and is probably what she seeks. However, I wold not want such an individual as she puts everyone at risk and all safety goes out the door. She does have choices and she does not appear to be very responsible and mature. She needs guidance from those who care and are true practioners and not just bootie calls. @just_jess appears to have received your message and guidance and she will continue to need it to grow safely.

I agree with the guidance SirXcalbar, as with many submissives and slaves. Many are to eager to meet, many to eager to please, just hoping someone will except them if that makes since..

So yes every Dominant should be able to prove who he is, without hesitation.

ImageA slave is very special, very strong, and should be cared for.

Vile

Why are some women Hoe’s

Posted in abuse, control, dress, fetlife, hoe on July 11, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

When flipping through profiles on fetlife I just look and shake my head, now I wonder how the world even turns.From a naked 400 pound man with a star wars light saber, to a slave spread eagle with a picture of her cunt with cum all over it, really would I even want to talk to her now. Could I respect her, my answer is no, I would not fuck her with george bush’s dick with dick chenny pushing.

I am talking to a slave now her name is Miya I changed her name by the way. She had posted two photos of her kneeling, very beautiful and nothing showing, you could tell she was nude, but it showed nothing.

Why would you want to advertise yourself as a whore, a piece of meat on the market, and easy target. If you meet a dominant for the first time, do not be offended when he wants to fuck on the first meeting, after all he has seen everything, You spread eagle, or sucking some dudes cock. What else is he suppose to expect. Then you get upset when he makes a move, get the fuck out.

On the other side men are just as guilty, I click on a profile and his picture is of his dick, that is it. Without his dick he is nothing, that is his sampson, his dick runs his life. Cut his dick off and he cannot function. What kills me more some subs or slaves are impressed with this type of so called dominant. Then when it turns out he is really fucked up, he is abusive or wants to pass you around like a piece of meat, you get mad and hurt, all of a sudden he is a pig. Well you got what you asked for.

You meet for dinner, he takes you to a motel, or if he is cheap he fucks you in his car, and the next day your phone does not ring, and your surprised.

I would rather click on a profile of a slave and see her full covered, after all it is the sub or slave you want to fall in love with yes. It is what is on the inside that matters, If the inside is beautiful then the outside is as well. Anyone can find faults in someone, but to be attracted to a female because of the way she exposed herself. Then that is all your interested in. Now once together a total different story, then she is yours, you tell her how to dress, what to wear, when you are going out…

The idea is if you find a sub or slave your interested in, you mold her to fit your need. and wants. She will allow you to do this, you can do pretty much anything you want, you can reprogram her to fit your needs. If she is a little over weight fix her, she will do what ever you want. You don’t like the way she sucks your cock teach her the way you like. It is endless.

Why would you want to base everything on a nude pic of some slut spread. , or some so called Dom who only has pics of his cock.

I have met people on wordpress who has shared some awesome pics, Missy. Nice ass by the way. That is totally different, wordpress is not a meat market…

Image I would much rather click on a profile and see her.

Vile