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My Short Story Is Out. The Breaking Of Sabrina

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, Breaking a Slave, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, control, controlling, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire., Humiliation, Humiliation Training, masochist, Master And Slave, non-consensual, Owned Slave, owning a slave, Pain Slut, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, Stockholm syndrome, Submission, submissive with tags , , on July 14, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

One Complaint, to short.

I have been in three TPE relationships over the past twenty something years TPE.
My first Slave Sherri , was a total masochist, and was into deep humiliation, and a total pain slut. The only time I ever seen her cry was the day I told her it was over.

In the beginning the relationship was a lot of fun, but as time went on it grew old, because it became more of a job.

I guess one reason was I never developed any real feelings for Sherri, and I cannot explain why, unless it was her three kids.

My second was Bea who I truly thought I was in love, but I now realize I was not. I cared for Bea but I now know it was not Love..

I know this now because my now wife and Slave, I am deeply in love and I truly cherish her. I hate being away from from her on a daily basis but I know it is only a short time.

The thing I want to point out is each Slave was different, each had a different personality, but most important each had different needs.
So the way each was handled was different, the same rules, or protocols would not of worked for either.

You have to be able to open ones mind so to speak and take a walk around in their brain.

Sherri was not hard because I was told what and how to do something . I understand more today than I did then.

Bea was a little more of a struggle. Once I knew her, then I had to figure out how she thought, what made her tick, what made her want to cut herself, once I was able to communicate with her on her level and the more I understood her, the less of cutting there was until it stopped all together.

Arianna was a task in the beginning , it was not until I had access to her journals did I grow to have a clear understanding of what made her tick..

So each and everyone of us is different, every Dominant, and Master, every Submissive and Slave. It is finding the one who fits your needs.
If you rush without really looking at the whole picture you could fall prey.

Which now brings me to my short story, being a sadist at one time, I was able to clear my mind and take a walk. I actually viewed myself in the book, the only difference is I would of never trained Sabrina for someone else she would of been for my own use.

Which Brings us to The Subject of Stockholm Syndrome. A human can be broke in as little as 48 hours under the right conditions.
Now everyone who is taken captive does not suffer from Stockholm. Some are stronger than others.
In the case one does, it is because they develop feelings for their capture, they develop feelings for the one who is abusing them, I know its weird. No one really knows what sets that timer off.

I saw myself, how would I break someone if I was going to take that type of path. Starting out with pure fear, and humiliation, then moving to a more caring individual. Those steps I believe may have to be repeated it would depend on who you were trying to break….

So here is the link it is a very short story, but at the end you should see the purpose of the book..

There is one more coming out sometime in November I do believe, it will be much longer, and it will be Non-Fiction. It will be about the life of a master and slave, and the safety steps you should take when looking for a relationship.

Much love to everyone who has stopped by over the last two years.
As always feel free to drop me an email
viledesires62@aol.com

Smashwords (for all but Kindle users): https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/457549

Amazon/Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LRZLRUO

Coming soon to B&N, iBooks, KOBO and other retailersbreak

I want to thank Arianna for giving us such a great cover. Lea Barrymire did finish it up for us…

If you do make a purchase please leave a review, good or bad, but keep an open mind when reading it.

Vile

You Do Not Have To Agree With Me Or My Reasoning

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, anger, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire., https://www.facebook.com/vile62, Master, Master And Slave, poly, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, slave, Submission, submissive, Triad on July 3, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I do appreciate everyone’s comments, and I still appreciate them even if you do not agree with me.

What I write here is my opinion and nothing more, while Arianna and I along with Lea Berrymire who is an awesome writer, once finished it will be just my opinion…
I have had writers tell me you do not need help, do it yourself, keep what you make to yourself.
Yea well Okay although I do have a diploma I never did that well in English as my grammar here shows, I am not a professional writer nor have I ever claimed to be I am me , I am no one else, what you read here is the real me.

You Don’t need anyone to help you write just be you, or else you will have to split the money.
I do not care about the money, while I do believe a book would support my radio show , that will start out one day a week, I would like to increase to three or four days week.

I enjoy helping others.That is why I do this blog. I am able to be me, this is my world, my life, this is my vent.
While out in public , for the most I am or have to be someone I am not . I live my daily life a lie.

You may not understand my way of thinking or my train of thought. One thing I can assure you is before I act I think everything through. Remember Choices and Consequences ? I never act on an impulse I am not wired that way.

While
http://dievca.wordpress.com/
and
http://foxglove38.wordpress.com/

Did not agree with me and they both expressed their feelings,and that is perfectly okay. I welcome all comments and thoughts. You cannot agree with me on everything, if you did we would live in a perfect world.

http://foxglove38.wordpress.com/
Did however come back and say she did now understand..

So I suppose what we have to offer is really no different, than those who are living in a poly with a married man is really no different, I can see that….
Or I suppose those seeking a poly or Triad home that is very stable, and well structured, would not be a benefit.
I can see where a poly or Triad where everyone works as a team would not be beneficial.
So all in all maybe I just worded things wrong, that is very possible.

The Triad was not even my idea, I did not even bring it up, the truth is I never even thought about it, because that was something that Arianna and I discussed prior to entering a relationship. She made it clear she wanted to be the only one.
So we change, she brought up the subject, and gave me her views on it. My answer was, I have to think about it.

So the comment that offended me was. The reason I wanted this Triad was because of Lust.
The truth is although bringing someone in would be a good idea with everything I have going on, it would be nice to have an extra pair of hands , and thoughts and ideas.

I do not think with my cock, my life does not revolve around my cock. As far as sex goes I get anything I want , when I want and how I want.

As I stated maybe I just worded everything wrong.

There is no particular type of female, it all has to do with personality, that is really all, short, tall, skinny, chunky, there is no real preference. So if it was Lust my train of thought would be much different.

Arianna is very possessive , the key word VERY, but she knows having sex would have to be part of the relationship. We would just have ground rules for the house when it came to sex.

One last thing I would like to mention, this would only be long term and nothing more. So we are looking ahead into the future..

Now to the awesome Lady who has been working with us on my book. I would like to thank her, and you should check out her pages.

http://www.leabarrymire.com/

https://twitter.com/LeaBarrymire

http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/5819512

https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire

leabarrymire.blogspot.com/

Much Love to all
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Vile

The House Of Vile

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, Adapt, Alpha Slave, Arianna, bdsm, Beta Slave, Bondage, Camel Toe, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominant, http://housemakai.wordpress.com/, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Living Poly, Living Triad, Master & Slave, owning a slave, poly, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, Protocol, Protocol public, Punishment, Rules, sex, slave, submissive on April 28, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

The title does have a nice ring to it , Arianna and I had a very deep conversation this am while she was driving to work. We do talk every morning , at times it is more general, then at times the conversation turns very deep.

I am for the most a jokester , hmm is that a word ? I am a prankster , now that is a word. For the most people do not know if they should take me serious or not, or I will say something make a comment and the room gets quite, and someone will say I am waiting on the punch line.

It is no secret or at least I don’t think it is I sell cars for a living , it is okay it was a huge career change for me , and Saturday I was selling a prius V to a lady and when I took her credit application in the general Manager looked at me and said what do you know about this woman ? My reply was man she has a huge camel toe, and I just got this blank stare and everyone is looking at me, and I am like what it is huge. People laugh when my phone rings and my ring tone is Tone Loc, Funky Cold Medina. It was Stranglehold By Ted Nugent for the longest. I am not very good with my Samsung Galaxy S4 so every now and then Arianna will showing me something new, like the Mp3 down loader then this bad ass ringtone maker. So I am not all serious 24/7, Ariannas Mother still has not figured me out, and I have made some comments that has just blown her mind.

Ariannas Mother does know about our lifestyle, and although she may not agree with everything, she has seen a vast improvement in the way she acts and her health, Her mother also knows she is loved and cared for. Just like last Sunday I was off and Arianna had to work. I love cooking and I like to cook when I am off I guess I am helping out in a way. So I went to the store and I bought dinner. When Arianna arrived home dinner was prepared.  I served her Lobster tail, Baked Salmon, and shrimp and Lobster meat, and pasta. My way of saying thank you.

Twenty plus years I have had three long term relationships., I have talked about the last two in depth, in my past blogs. The in between was some pretty rough road, not for me but those who were submissive, because in my eyes they were just objects, something for that time. Okay so I used and I was wrong because many times you can give false promises without even saying a word. At times I was very cold because when I was done, I was done it was time for you to get the fuck out. The ones that I just used I had never brought up the topic about a collar, because that was not my intention.

The last before Arianna was Lynn. Lynn was the perfect situation for the time. She would come over on Friday and stay til Sunday then go home. We would text through out the week , then when she was over it was just bondage and sex. I knew it would never turn into anything, so it was fun for about a year. I never took her to any local events because I was not into her like that. There was only one Dom I introduced her to, again because I was not into her that way.  When it was over it was over, no contact at all between us so the parting was mutual. That was the slave whos husband came over crying because I was banging his wife. That is what I keep saying you will get caught, it is not a matter of how, but when. No matter how sneaky you are or how good you think you are you will get caught, and in today’s times you get get hurt or even killed.

So the House Of Vile. I run a very strict well structured home. We are problem free and drama free. I have rules and protocols that are followed daily. If they are not, then the choices and consequences come into play. In almost two years Arianna has been punished one time, and it is something she will not forget, since then it has been smooth sailing.

There is no arguing, there is no yelling, I rum my house. I have a place within the home and Arianna has a place. I am Dominant she is Slave, and yes she does call me Master but that was never anything I brought up or told her she had to do. As a matter of fact when she first met me she asked, what do I call you? I told her for now just call me Vile, then what will be will be. I think it was a couple of weeks and she started calling me Sir, again that was not something I told her she had to do. I had to earn her respect, and being called Sir is something that has to be earned.  Although we have never argued , nor has Arianna ever spoken out of place, I do get the eye roll every now and then, sometimes I say something then at times I just let it go.

So we are now talking about adding a 3rd, bringing someone into our home. I blogged about this the other day, our little bubble. To bring another into your home is a huge decision, and it is something that needs to be discussed in great depth. Both parties have to come to an agreement. We are speaking to a slave now, who will soon come out to visit. The first time we spoke on the phone I made it very clear. It is not me nor is it about me. You will have to win Arianna over, you will have to become her friend, you will have to become best friends. I am the easy one I am the one who can adapt. Although having another Slave would be nice, and I am not speaking about sex, because that is something we have not really talked about. It would be nice to bring another in to help run the house. To insure things run smoothly. To help Arianna , help with task, shopping and so on. Go out together have fun, Art classes and art shows. So bringing a 3rd into our home is not just about pussy or getting my cock sucked by two women at the same time.

There has to be an Alpha Slave, there has to be, although both are treated equal there is a chain of command. The Alpha is just as respected as the Dominant, although the Alpha does not run the home , she is in charge while the dominant is not home. The Beta is giving task and will follow through with them without question.

I believe you have to have an open forum once a week. This is the time that the three sit down and speak freely about anything and everything. How things are going. Did any problems arise that needs to be addressed? Are things running smoothly ? Did the two have any differences that needs to be addressed. This is not and will not turn into a bitch session.

The Alpha is an Alpha for a reason, number one she was present first. The Alpha was the Dominants choice , The two has been in a growing relationship for sometime. So when you start to talk about bringing a 3rd in, the Alpha has to know things will not change, no matter what happens, because if she feels threatened in any way, then the possibility of a 3rd will never work. So the weekly talk should be very open so both can speak their feelings. Maybe something could be done a different way, maybe the two do not agree with something.

The first rule of the house is the Alpha is always right, if your confused about anything then you ask. The Dominant and Alpha sit down and work on the daily task. I then pass down what the Beta needs to do, and the Alpha insures everything is done.

If you have experience and you have been in the lifestyle for a while, maybe a long time. You can take everything you have learned and throw it out the window , because you will have to adapt to my way, and I can assure you my way is much different.

The way you will act, the rules, the protocols, even the way you dress. When you are out in public you are a direct reflection of me. Just like the bracelet Arianna wears WWVD . So while being a 3rd will not be an easy task in the beginning, the payoff would be great because Arianna and I have a lot to offer the right one.

One thing Arianna brought up was sex , and she made the statement , that no sex would take place without the three being present. I said done. That is the way it will be, it is not because I gave in to her want or need, I did it out of respect. On the other hand, Arianna and I will have sex while alone, but I would never have sex with the 3rd without Arianna being present. Arianna is no Bi but should would play.

The reason is I have deep respect for Arianna, although Arianna is my Slave, although is she owned, she is first and for most my wife. Nothing will ever change that.

Protocols are something that has been long forgotten , but with out protocols you cannot have any type of structure, you can not function as a D’s ran home or for that matter an M’s run home, without structure you have nothing. Without house rules you have nothing.

It is clear it is the 3rd who will have to adapt to our way of living, she will have to adapt to our protocols, our rules, and be willing to take direction from Arianna.

You have to show an interest, you have to ask questions, surely you want to know what your about to get yourself into.  The idea is the three take care of each other, and with everything stated above, you can have a nice peaceful, home, you have have the security you need, you can have the structure you need, and most of all you will be cared for.

WELCOME TO THE HOUSE OF VILE , Sit down and fasten your seat belt your in for one hell of a ride.

I had the privilege of speaking with a Dominant last week, who also happens to be an Author and I will pick up the book he recommended to me , but he also has his own radio show, it is a weekly broadcast and that is the main reason I contacted him, I was seeking advice, because I am still thinking about doing the same thing as well as a book. The awesome Lea Berrymire is assisting me with the book. We spoke for about 10 maybe 15 minutes, and what an awesome conversation we had, well I think so anyway, but I want everyone to check out his blog. I just found out he is poly but the way he runs his home is much how I see things.

I do prefer the word Triad over poly just my preference and there is a huge difference, in my eyes anyway. Here is his link.

http://housemakai.wordpress.com/

Vile

The BDSM Tree Of Life

Posted in 24/7, Adult Baby, Adult Kitten, Ass, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Be who you are, communication, Consensual, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Dominants, Fetish, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Kink, kinky, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, poly, Polyamory, Pony Girl, pony play, Rough Sex, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Slave no rights, Submissive kitten on January 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

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We as a community have branched off in so many directions. We have the only lifestyle where we can be who, and what we need to be.

We have been able to Branch off in every direction to fill our needs and kinks. No matter what your into you can always find a partner, or maybe more than one.

Our lifestyle allows us to be free. We have what many only dream about. We live what others only see in a fantasy. We wake in the am proud of who and what we are.

You can be a Submissive , a Slave, A baby Girl, and Adult Baby if that gets you off. You can be a pony, a puppy, a little kitty and lets not forget the little bratty sub, who is always stirring something up.

You can be a Sadist who has the need and love to inflict pain. The Masochist who crave the feeling of a single tail whip strike your back. You can live your life as a slave, and hand full control over to someone.

You can be as open as you need, you can share your deepest and darkest secrets, with that one special one or like many share on their blogs. You have that second life no one knows about.

No matter what your kink is there is a branch for everyone. Every idea, every thought , need or want, you can find it in our small little world.

The Baby girl who needs a Daddy in their life, to love and guide. The bedroom submissive who only wants to submit when the lights are out. The submissive who is learning a new path of freedom, with her Dominant, or the Slave who wants to surrender all.

The pony who want to pull the buggy, or the puppy who wants to be in a cage, the kitty playing on the furniture. The tree is always growing and new branches are born everyday.

You can find the sensual Daddy Dom who will always be easy, or a Dom you likes it rough, there is someone for everyone, no matter what your flavor is.

In the world of BDSM a Dominant or Master can have multiple subs or slaves and at times all living under one roof. Some work out while some do not, to some it was just an experiment . If we do not experiment then how do we learn.

The bad news your going to make mistakes, some mistakes will have a plan and just goes wrong, while some mistakes are due to being careless.

One thing we all look over is we all need to get along. We are small in numbers. We should not judge anyone for their kinks, their needs. We are who we are and nothing is going to change it. We should support each other, give friendly advice, and if your told something keep it to yourself. There is a very heavy trust factor.

Just be who you are, and be free.

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No matter what your flavor is there is someone for you.

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Hey please check out my friend she was just a few hundred of hitting 50.000 visitors she is awesome. and she tells me she writes good books.

http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com

Vile

Hey Check out my Dear Friends Blog She is an awesome Writer and author

Posted in bdsm, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Love and Romance on November 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Love and wild romance.

There is a small group of us guys who host her weekly blog as well. It is called

Demystifying the Male: #piercings, marking their territory and more

This is where some crazy questions women want to know, and we answer with all honesty.

Check it out.

http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/11/demystifying-male-piercings-marking.html

Vile

Check out this blog

Posted in anomalously, bdsm, blog, FaceBook, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire. on September 4, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile
Lea Barrymire
Who is an awesome writer has a blog called http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/08/demystifying-male-29.html.
This is a part where women can ask men questions about anything. Four Men from all different walks of life, thus you get four different answers, you pick the one you like. We are a no holds barred group and we tell it like it is.
Lea has taking a couple of weeks off, due to work and life, so I did what any good friend would do, I offered to step in and do the blogging for a short time, or until she gets enough complaints about me, and I get fired.
I do enjoy the interaction with people with them asking questions, but shall see how it turns out. Oh you can also post questions Via my email and leave your name out, or I believe she has set up a way to ask questions anomalously. Either way  it will be fun.
Also check out her Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire.
I’m editing Mr. Vile’s latest ‘Dear Vile’ and it’s spank-tastic. 😛 If you missed his debut blog about dealing with a non-dominant spouse when you’ve figured out you’ve got a submissive streak come on over and check it out.http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/08/your-husband-is-not-dominant.html

Feel free to post and ask questions, lets get the ball rolling…
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Vile

I have Been Asked To Host Another Blog

Posted in bdsm, blog, Dominants, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, slave, submissive on August 16, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Wait though I am not leaving my little world here, oh no your stuck with me for a very long time. 540 post and Ive just hit the tip. I have so much I want to share, and just maybe I can help someone.

Back in the day I took advantage of a lot of women, and I guess I am just trying to make a right. I do know not everyone is going to listen, I also know not everyone is going to agree with me, and that is perfectly fine. I also like it when people comment and voice their own opinion.

I think instead of a Dear Abby Column it will be a Dear Vile, yea that does sound pretty cool.

Check out Lea Barrymire’s blog I have blown hers up before, she is an awesome writer, and has many followers on her blog.

Lea Barrymire
Erotic Romance Author

www.leabarrymire.com
@leabarrymire on Twitter
http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com

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Vile