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Pussy Rules The World

Posted in Arianna, Bad Dominant, BDSM 101, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationship Negotiations, commitment, communication, Consensual, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , , , on June 27, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

Recently trying to mentor someone and yes I stated I never would mentor again but I really thought the guy was serious. As it turned out he was not and only interested in how many times he could make a woman cum. Shaking my head thinking this is coming from a 59 year old man.

Pussy is easy to get , keeping it is where the work comes in, and while you guys think you are rocking the boat, chances are she cannot wait for you to bust your load so she can move on to more productive work.

Do not get me wrong I love pussy, the way it looks, smells and taste but most of all the way it feels sliding in but let me make one thing clear. Sex is on my terms and my terms only. I actually prefer head and on a average week , I am being serviced about eh maybe 8 hours or a little more. Lets face it there is nothing like a warm mouth sliding down a dick. Just as with men and all men claim they are the king of eating pussy but that is really another myth. Just like women sucking cock if they do not love it then eh we really get nothing out of it.  I can say though the worst blow job Ive ever had still felt pretty good.

Arianna bless her heart she tries so hard to make me cum but that has only happened with her twice I believe and when all said and done she looked like she just ran a marathon. It is nothing she is doing wrong because if you ever got your dick sucked by her you would beg for more. She has this way of rolling her tongue while going up and down each time is a new experience. She is a fucking machine and can squeeze your dick so hard its like a vice grip but and but again sex is on my terms. I fuck when and how I want just like playing. I tell her the equipment to get out but share nothing else about what I am going to do.

Arianna sleeps naked well because she is not allowed to wear clothes while home unless I approve and late at night the covers come off and there she is spread eagle, and my dick says hey lets hit it.

We agreed when we first negotiated our relationship that there would be no sharing, she made it clear she did not want to be shared with anyone and I agree and why? Remember the oral skills I talked about and the vice grip?

Well that seemed to change for just a short minuet and I will explain. I bought a used car and it needed some work done on it and I had a very good friend who spent hours working on the car and once finished I offered to pay him and he refused the money.

So talking with Arianna one night I brought up sharing again and explained why I was thinking about it and she agreed, she even stated he would really appreciate you giving as a gift. Well he fucked that up, we went away for a weekend the 4 of us him , his wife and the two of us. A real nice hotel on the beach near Tampa and all hell broke lose with the other two. They fought all night long and I was thinking well his loss.

I get asked all the time from those who are novice , do you share? About a week ago a dom I did not even know wanted to take her out to dinner, I was like really are you serious? What was he thinking you ask? Pussy his mind was focused on one thing pussy.

A submissive or slave watches every move, listens to every word and how you act in public and they take in all of this information? Why do you ask? I am glad you did because they are looking for a weakness and why do they look for a weakness?  There will come a time when you can be manipulated with the all mighty pussy and you will cave like a kid at a willy wonka chocolate factory. You would crawl naked through a mile of broken glass just to taste her.

When a Novice dominant or maybe even experienced what comes up first in conversation? What are your limits, do you wear skirts with no panties? The deal Breaker is are you Bi ? Is you are a submissive somehow this dude who just met you , he says you know what? I believe you are a slave I really do and you just listen with confusion.  The list goes on and on and if you are new to the lifestyle you are clueless.

I need all of your information, all of your passwords and banking information so I can take care of you, and you give it , you give everything. Some have commented here before when they woke up their bank accounts were empty.

When you first meet you the submissive , slave you are in control and why are you in control? One your mouth and two look between your legs, yes the pussy. Your pussy controls the outcome of the relationship, your mouth controls the outcome of the relationship.

So the guy I was going to share Arianna with asked me before what it would take to let me let him fuck her. I was joking but I said a 2018 Dodge Challenger RT with a real shaker hood. We were going to the dealership the next morning but his wife blew the fuck up. Would I have done that? I cannot say for sure but probably not..

The power of pussy.

 

 

It has been 10 years On WordPress

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Dominant, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Slave, Submissive with tags , , , on May 28, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

Eight years here on wordpress sharing my thoughts, my ideas, my life but the majority of my blog is about abuse. I am huge on consent , consent means everything. I ama huge advocate when it comes to abuse and it can go either way but mainly towards females. Abuse come in many forms, from mental to verbal abuse but the kicker is physical. No man or Dominant should lay a hand on a female out of anger.

So you get angry and slap you slave around a little , black a eye, bust a lip and then a hour later you expect her to lay on her back and pretend to enjoy. Then comes the promise comes I will never hit you again and he starts to cry maybe shedding a tear and you break down out of guilt and forgive.  Once a man lays a hand on you no matter how many times he states he will never do it again he will and each time it will get worse.

While the emails have slowed, I still get from time to time where a slave has giving all of her passwords to her master she just met a few weeks back, to only wake up one morning to find her bank account empty. The bad thing is you don’t even know who this man is or where he lives because he would never share any information with you.

Domination through fear is a manipulative way to get a novice slave to submit. The isolation not letting you go anywhere, or see family and friends because he tells you he is the only friend you need.

I talked about my growing up, my family grew up poor and for most of my life we lived in government housing. Both of my parents spent more time in rehab than at home or working. I learned at a very young age I was going to be better that both parents and at the age of 13 my first job was washing dishes at a place called Rosies diner.  I made 2.05 an hour but at the end of the week it was my money and I spent it on me. At 14 just turning 15 I went to work at a cotton mill in Canton Ga working 3rd shift where I made 2.75 an hour. After work I went to school during the day and slept after. At the age of 16 a Army Recruiter came to our high school and I talked to him and he explained when I turned 17 with my parents consent I could join the Army. October 14th I brought paper work home and explained I wanted to go to baseball camp but I would need their approval. They both happily signed. October 19th I was on a train going to Ft Dix New Jersey.

Arriving in Korea and 18 year olds paradise , there was pussy everywhere , all shapes, sizes , kinks , and fetishes, and for around 20.00 you could eat, get drunk and fuck . Although I learned about kink early on from paper back books I had read, Korea was my first real experience into the world of BDSM. This was mid 1980 and I met a Korean Soldier named Kim, come to thank of it most Koreans were named Kim. In 1980 a Roc Soldier made 5.00 dollars a month. Kim and I became close and when I got paid I would by a carton of Kents. Most Koreans for what ever reason Liked Kents and I could never figure it out but a carton would set me back 7.00 dollars.

Kim invited me to a live show one night and I sat there amazed and I could feel the click. I thought to myself this is my way of life. My first mentor at the age of 18, this is where I learned the importance of listening and communication but I also learned the art of manipulation not by teaching but turning things around in my mind.

I then moved on to Germany which at first I did not really like, but the people for the most were really nice and the beer kicked ass. This is also where I was introduced to Hash. I was still taking pills just about anything I could get my hands on looking for that next high.

I met Gretchen in a small pub downtown Wiesbaden right on the Rhine river and if you ever get the opportunity to take a tour it will blow your mind.  Although in my early teens I kinda of knew what kink was by the books I read, Gretchen took it to the next level. Waiting for a bus sitting she would just start giving head and while people were walking by or in the back of a taxi. Gretchen is also responsible for my name Vile and I have blogged about that but it stuck with me after I left Germany.

My exit from the military forced me to make changes , the first change was the drugs. Having lost my first two jobs due to drugs and drinking , I stopped cold Turkey and never looked back. I knew I wanted to be better than my parents and by this time we had fallen out and there was no communication at all. You learn in order to move forward in life you have to rid yourself of toxins and at times this can or will have to include family.

Moving on from 1986 my exit from the military, I could not tell you or give you a number when it comes to the women I had dated and used. Remember the manipulation I spoke about above, well I put it to work to only benefit me. I did not understand the hurt or trouble or the effect it had on others , the only thing that mattered to me was getting off. Pussy and more pussy, it was like a gunslinger putting notches in his gun belt. However later down the road I realized something and that was most mornings I woke up alone and very seldom did the girl from the night before want to see me again. Without the internet it made my hunt very hard but again this is where the manipulation came in at. One thing I was good at and I played to my advantage was reading people and if I could get 15 minutes conversation in she was mine.

 

Moving ahead a couple of years, I took a job driving a taxi and Limo part time. I was liked and the owner of yellow cab gave me dedicated runs that averaged 150.00 a day plus my regular pickups. Sitting on a stand on day this old man in another cab pulled up, he looked like a pissed off santa clause. I said hey whats up ? He came back with fuck you and I thought wow. He said his bitch was at home chained up and was deciding if he should go and unlock her after all it had been 3 days. His real name was Animel and after a month or so I kinda latched on. I had never asked him to mentor me but he would share information with me, some I agreed with and some I discarded as it did not fit my way of life.

The life between him and his slave was consensual but the two did not look like a couple, he was some 30 years her senior.

A few years down the road Animel had a triple by pass , then another by pass allwith in a month of each other. His slave had moved back home due to a family illness so I decided to move in and take care of him. I lived with him for a couple of years until I took a job some 30 miles away, so I moved out but stayed in contact with him. I am not sure what happened but we kinda drifted apart until one night I received a call telling me he had passed away and people had stolen everything he had.

Moving on to about 2009 and I had truly found myself , taking some time just for me and figuring out who I was and what I needed to complete my life.

I had a complete list and this list included not only my needs but wants, the slave would have needs. As long as needs are met there really are not any wants, but now you are thinking hey you have wants? Yes I do but the difference is , it is my house and the rules are mine.

I dated probably 30 to 40 slaves not submissive’s but slaves and the deal breaker was with most was not wanting to wear a collar in public around friends, family and work. What I was looking for was a more service orientated slave, someone who was dedicated in taking care of their owner. While I do enjoy kink and bondage I truly thrive off of a well structured home.

The collar to me is very sacred and a sign of ownership and devotion. It really surprised me at the amount of no’s I received and when asked if that was a deal breaker I replied yes.

After almost two years I had made arrangements to move to the Philippines and live out the rest of my life, I had a job lined up and a place to live. The truth is I had giving up on my search and just said fuck it im gone.

Watching Law and Order I received a call from another dom and stated he wanted to introduce me to a slave, he said he thought we would hit it off. I explained my situation but agreed to email her. We emailed back and forth , then we began to text and then the meeting.

When Arianna exited her SUV and I had a full body view, my thoughts were, fuck me with a chain saw.

This June will be our 6th Anniversary and life continues to get better and better..

Vile

 

 

 

 

Mentoring

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Slave, sucking cock with tags , , , , , on May 18, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

Times have changed , people have changed and those who take this way of life has changed.

It took me some 25 years to get where I am at today and in this time those who want or claim to be a dominant want it now. While I have had successful relationships, I had many more that failed and the failure was on my part and my part only. I made mistakes and I only blamed myself.

Being inexperienced has its ups and downs, meaning if you speak with someone who has been a slave most of their life they will smell you from a mile away and as a new dominant you have nothing to offer. If you are lucky and hook up with someone new and they know no better you may get away with it for a short time but you will crash and burn.

I did not stay with my mentor for a month , six months , stayed years and when he became ill I moved in and took care of him because I cared and he had dedicated so much time to me.

You have to start out with compatibility , you have to become friends first. Then trust, trust is earned and to this day many do not understand that. A slave in time will turn over body and mind to you and enable to do this there has to be a lot of trust.  How long does it take to build trust ? That really depends on the Dominant and how true you are to your word.

When mentoring the first question that is asked is what about punishment ? How do you punish your slave Sir Vile ? Well my response is I do not , short answer I do not have to. There are times we may have a discussion but there is never a need for any type of physical punishment.

Before entering or thinking about entering a relationship the two have to come to an agreement on how the relationship will work. You will both give your expectations on what is expected from each other. The dominant will lay the ground work on what he will accept and not accept.  I am speaking of behavior , attitude, mouthing off and so on. I myself will not put up with such. Mouthing off or being a brat, and my thoughts are the definition of a brat is a bitch.

If you are a Master and looking for a slave, you cannot look at baby girls, brats or those who are submissive, you look for a slave.

Here is where the problem is, you have a whole pie and you cut the pie into slices. You cut the submissive’s out, then the brats, baby girls and now you are left with not even a quarter slice. This is another problem those dominants who are middle aged are looking for little 18 years olds who are 5.0 ft and under a 100 pounds. Guess what ? Your fucking pie is gone.

Mentoring should be a easy task, we talk and I bombard with information. A couple of weeks later I will bring a question up that was on a site I sent only to be told they had not had a chance to look at it. A month goes by, two months and still no time. This makes me ask myself are they serious about learning or just overwhelmed with the responsibility ?

 

Another first question that comes out of  novice dominant is what are your limits? To this day I do not understand why such a question would be asked because you do not even know the slave well enough . Do you wear mini skirts in public without panties ? The loaded question and many times a deal breaker is are you Bi?

If you cannot take care of yourself, how do you plan on taking care of a slave? One thing that stood out when Arianna first came to my house was how clean it was. I was not looking for a mother to take care of and I was able to pay all my bills including child support.

I read people very well and I can perv Fetlife and find those who I think may be compatible with the one I am mentoring. The killer is once I introduce it is out of my hands. The way things move forward depends on the Novice dominants interaction and it seldom goes well. Recently a nice looking Asian going to school to be a RN and down the road a doctor.  As I was chatting with the dom his words were I got this, well it turned out he did not and even after I tried to intervene it was to late. He had freaked her out asking for her number and texting then making her agree to be his slave before the two had even met.  I was in total disbelief as he was texting me what he was telling her. Now all the blame was thrown on her , it was her fault, shes not a real slave and she will not talk when I ask a question.

So you are stepping out of the vanilla world into a whole new dimension and there will be a lot of struggles, there will be a lot of failures and mistakes but you have to learn from the mistakes in order to move forward.

In most cases the slave will not open up until there is some trust that has been established and your conversations are not about sex or their limits. It takes time to get to truly know someone.

When you first meet you have no rights to impose demands or to instruct the slave to call you sir. The two of you have not come to any type of agreement, the slave has no one to answer to not even you.

Just because she is a slave does not mean the slave is for you. You or both may have different ideas about how a house will be ran, or different goals and yes limits when it comes to playing and sex.

The problem with mentoring someone is once things are explained , once the conversation begins everything they were told goes out the door because the novice dominant knows everything.

The females have changed over the past 20 years and while a little may be true a submissive is a submissive and a slave is a slave.

The novice dominant those who listen turn out great but the majority do not listen and place blame on someone else.

The dominant could have the world at his feet and never want for anything, it is just the being real part.

Ask yourself something, why do you want to be a master?

Vile

 

 

2020

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Dominant, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, pandemic, Slave with tags , , , , on May 17, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

What a fucking year so far, who would of ever thought entire economy’s would be shut down? The whole world has come to basically a stand still with record numbers out of work and while we are being told there is a light at the end of the tunnel, it seems like the tunnel is just getting longer.

Who do I blame ? This is just me but I cannot pin point any one or any country, shit happens. There is really not one country in the world who was truly prepared , looking at Italy , Germany, the UK and so many more.

I am not going to go on a political rant here because my blog is not the place and over the last 8 years or longer I have never brought politics up.

My slave and I are just fine, when the shit hit the fan I took the steps to protect my home. I started making the necessary calls to shore things up and put things on hold until this crap blew over. So while the economy stopped so did 3/4’s of our bills, again this is what the head of our house does, we keep our family safe.

My slave Arianna was furloughed from her job of 20 years and it has really hit her, but my thoughts were the down time is really good for her. She has good days and bad days, she has days when she is stressed and her mind is traveling at mach speed then she has days when she is mellow and all is good.

The one thing that has not changed is her service to me, the service never stopped and I want for nothing. The only thing that has really changed is her oral service, she is not use to twice a day but she continues to go with the flow.

I do appreciate her service in all areas and when she is having a bad day I leave her be and just let her chill. We have a Lani and I gave that area to Arianna so she would have a private place to go. She can clear her thoughts, she can write , or her and Lynn play games and read fairy cards.

I work from home and this what ever it is has only made my job much harder and complicated and by the end of the week my brain is fried. My  normal days off are Thursday and Friday but recently I was giving Saturday and Sunday off because of my stats. I felt pretty guilty when that was announced in our team meeting and the scores were brought up. Just so everyone knows Vile has kicked everyone’s butts for the past 90 days and a forth month coming and I am still kicking ass. Out of 25.000 employees I am at 78 and would of been higher but I have missed a lot of work due to being sick and my computer getting locked up and had to wait on a replacement. 98% of the time I am in the top 20 of 25.000. Every month I send a private message to the supervisor and ask , hey who is leading the team this month? The only answer is you. This month I asked again and the reply I got was really? Once a month our company publishes stats and breaks down by teams, then supervisors which each supervisor has 6 teams and the the line of business. There had been several months the stats had not been published and I complained and complained until they were but all names were blocked out except mine. It seems most did not want their stats published because of the low numbers. My thoughts are if your numbers are that bad then fix them.

Arianna and I have been watching A Handmade’s Tale and while Arianna likes it I love it. I love the concept of most of it but as in all things there are good and bad.

 

Much Love to everyone, and stay safe..

Vile

Training A Slave To Fit Your Needs

Posted in Anger Issues, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationship Negotiations, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Slave training, Collars, communication, Consistency, Dominant and Submissive, eternity collar, fetlife, http://bestslavetraining.com/, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, owning a slave, Slave, Submission, Submissive, training your slave, viledesires62@aol.com with tags , , , , , on February 4, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

You have to have great appreciation for your slave ,in a way you have to love and cherish probably more than your slave will love you. The slave in today’s world probably works a full time job , then comes home and another job begins. However the work at home is more than likely more intense once home than at work.

Depending on the master there is a breaking process, some are extreme while some not so much but you have to be able to bring out the humble that is within the slave. My philosophy is if you break it you gotta fix it.

I have mentioned in other post the importance of getting to know the slave, the importance of knowing the slave better than family and friends and better than the slave knows themselves.

Knowing who you are , how much control you want, how much responsibility  you want, and how much care. Are you strict ? Are you easy going? Are you looking to take full control of someones life? Are you more service orientated, into humiliation, pain?

While sex is not my main driver in a M’s relationship  it does play a part and sex has to be compatible. Both have to be on the same page and both have to talk about sexual needs before entering a relationship.

If you are going to put rules and protocols in place you need to follow through on a daily basis. If you are going to take full ownership there is no what I call downtime , while I do allow my slave to have days just so she can unwind , relax and clear her head, my days are much different. I have no what I call true friends , I do have friends but no one I can really confide in , maybe sit down for a couple of beers or have a in dept  conversation about training. One of the subjects I have been studying for sometime is hypnosis but this is only a me thing. I have practiced on my slave and have been successful there is really no one to talk to. In the community I know a great deal many people but talking to someone and having to worry about something getting out is not something I want to deal with. I actually spend more time speaking with what I do call friends who live overseas , yea I know weird but it works.

I was really young when my kink first came to light , maybe 13 or 14 with a girl my same age. I spoke about her probably seven years ago and I am going to correct what I called her. I called her the school whore but the word whore was really pretty bad so I am going to replace it with the word slut. Just because someone is a slut is not a bad thing , it just means they have a huge sex drive, maybe slut is a word that does not fit but anyway.

Beverley was the first girl I tied up , spanked fucked and face fucked, yea she talked so I did not date very much while in school but she was a regular hookup for several years. The more we saw each other the more extreme we were even to the point of fisting, and wow the first time my hand vanished deep inside her pussy wow! I remember once my hand was fully inside and opening it and feeling all around inside her pussy , it was just amazing.

So while I was kinky and I wanted to be in control , I had no idea what I was doing. At that time is was hunt , fuck and move on.

To the slave, why do you want to be a slave ? What was it that drew you to this lifestyle? Something you read , maybe talking to someone, a movie? What type a slave are you ? Are you more about service? Are you a slave but a masochist ? This is something you have to figure out to insure you find the right match because not one master is the same.

Questions that are seldom asked of the slave is about health , be it physical or the most important mental. Medications the slave is on and why they are on them and what they are for. You as a master are responsible for doing research and it should give you a greater understanding on just how far you can go when it comes to play and that being physical and mental to include pain. If you break it you may not be ale to fix it and you could find yourself answering questions to law enforcement.

As a slave you have to have a need not a want because if it is just a want then while you are training there will be some internal fighting and will case you to resist to a point or you may find you are objecting to most.

Being mentally prepared having your mind right knowing you are about to step off a cliff and expect someone you trust to catch you.

The master must know the slave , the master must know the slave better than the slave knows themselves. You have to know the slaves limitations and something many look over are medications. What type of medications is the slave taking? Does the slave suffer from any type of depression? If so then this may alter your training program some. Remember if you break it you have to fix it and depression may not be something you can fix. I have found over the years those who do suffer from some type of depression are much better suited to be a service slave. Working with a masochist is this a area you have experience in?  The truth not many who are masochist are slaves just as not many who are sadist are actual master. Their pleasure comes from inflicting pain and humiliation.

Training a slave is really not as difficult as many think but it does take a lot of work and going into a relationship you really have to have a game plan. Some ask me about rules when they first meet a slave and my answer is you cannot give out rules until you know the slave. Rules are for the betterment of the slave and this does not include not being allowed to wear panties. I have found over the years that protocols can actually take the place of many rules although some see both as the same.

The one thing many look over is negotiating the relationship and if you do not it can cause a lot of confusion and trouble because you just cannot make shit up as you go.

I have standards when it comes to upkeep. I dress nice when out but I expect my slave to look 100 times better at all times. It is the masters responsibility on how the slave presents their selves when out. A slave is a direct reflection of the master and the masters training.

I had a list, a list of my needs when it comes to ownership and if the answer was no to anything on my list the conversation was over. The slaves needs are different, you have clothing, food, and a place to sleep anything else is a privilege and privileges can be earned or taken away.

Negotiations should include how much control the master wants to take, how much freedom to take and give. Sex is on your terms and your terms only after all it is about you the master. The slave must agree to your terms and speak the word I agree out loud not just by nodding. If you like anal sex and the slave does not and is not willing to compromise then the slave is not for you. If the slave does not swallow and it is a requirement for you , then the slave is not the right one for you. Do not give in to any of your needs.

The slave will come back with a list of needs besides the three basic. You the master must agree, if you say no and the slave does not agree then the slave is not the right one for you.

The slave has rights , the slave has the right to be able to communicate openly 24/7 to include waking you at night. The slave has the right to communicate freely without being judged and you the master must listen. This includes during your busy day, if the slaves sends a text you are to respond it only takes a few seconds.

A part time master cannot expect full time submission.

Ok you are taking a human and you are changing their train of thought, you are changing their habits, you are changing their needs. Needs in my eyes are four simple things. Food, water , clothing and a place to live. These are absolute needs

Training is about being consistent hourly, daily, weekly and monthly and so on. Once you begin the training there must be no interruptions. My thoughts on LDR these are extremely  hard because if you cannot reach out and touching someone you really do not have any control over someone, you have the control you are being told you have and nothing more..

You have a vision on how you see your daily life , you envision your home, you are the master , living with your slave. One thing, if you are looking for a slave then look for a slave. Your search should not include a submissive or a baby girl, a brat nor a switch. You are looking for a slave and nothing less.

One of the first words out of your mouth should be privilege. Everything you allow the slave to do or have is a privilege and privileges can be taken away at anytime. This is one area of the relationship the slave has control, privileges are in the slaves court and the slave controls the outcome.

You as the master having a clear game plan and knowing what your expectations are is a must. You can not just go in winging it or playing by ear. Once you start training it is really hard to make changes and this is mainly because you have already set the pace.

Strip, standing right there and strip as she walked through the door. Hand me you cell , your purse. In today’s the cell has become a part of life so allowing the slave to check a couple of times a day is important , maybe family friends, emails and so on but limited time.

You may sit here and here but not here or here. You are not allowed at anytime to sit on my furniture , you do not have that right. See what I did there? I have taking what once was normal freedoms and taken them away. Everything in a slaves life is a privilege and privileges  can be taken away at anytime.

Dinner time you may sit on the floor next to me , you do not have the right to sit on a chair, you are the slave remember? You will not begin to eat before I take my first bite,then and only then may you begin to eat and after the first bite you will thank me.

When you sit you will sit with both legs closed and hands placed on your lap, you will never cross your legs , you are not permitted to do so. When you stand and you are speaking or not your hands will be clasped in the front hanging in front of you.

You will ask permission to sit on my floor , you will ask permission to stand , to go to the bathroom , to get a drink or water , to shower and to enter the bed.

Here is the key as masters we can only make a informed decision based on the information given to us, if you do not communicate your feelings I cannot read your mind. If you ask a slave a direct question you expect a direct answer, if something goes wrong and the slave did not communicate the problem is clearly the slaves fault.

I have three main protocols in place while out. Protocol one, the slave may speak freely, two the slave may speak when spoken to and three speaking is not permitted.

My slave does not wear clothes while at home, she is not permitted  and does not have that right. If requested such as cooking or taking the dogs out I allow.

In the beginning of your relationship after you have agreed to enter one,  Use your slave this is your right. Guide the slave to the bedroom place them on the edge of the bed and tell them to spread. You fuck , bust a nut and walk away after you have finished. You and use often many times without saying a word. I have my slave trained I just tap on the back of the head and she knows it is time to suck dick, if I tap twice she knows to go all the way down and hold it until I grab a hand full of hair and pull her up.  If I want pussy I take pussy if I want the ass I take the ass but I do without giving any indication until I start.

All of the above is done in repetition , hourly, daily , weekly and so on.  You must remain consistent and what you have done over the past 90 days or so is changing the slaves mindset and taking old habits and replacing with habits you want in place. Just because a slave makes a mistake but not mean the slave should be punished after all the slave is human and even masters makes mistakes.  Punishments do not always include physical punishment. There is a mindset that if a slave breaks a rule which seldom happens then we must beat them.

The Collar is very sacred to me and I hold it above a wedding ring. The collar shows ownership , you own your slave , you own property. While negotiating find out what kind of collar would be suitable for everyday wear.

Myself I use a Turian collar  which for the most is Gorean and it locks with a allen screw. I am the only one with the wrench to remove it. Arianna has worn it for almost 7 years and it has never been off her neck. She wears to work and is out in public and in 7 years has been asked about it 3 or 4 times. She simply replies it is like a wedding ring and nothing else is said.

A collar is earned not giving , if it is just giving there is no appreciation

I do not believe in under consideration collars or training collars. I did make a leather one I put on Arianna when we went to events so others would know she was taking. Many today run down to the local pet store and purchase a dog collar and give it with no meaning. Most wear the collar as a trophy or to be able to stand out , maybe play.

Leave sex off the table until you get to know the slave, as a matter of fact let the slave bring the topic up when it comes to sex, kink and bondage as well as fetishes.

Shut up and listen

Start with a blank canvas and build what you need.

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Men’s Number One Weakness

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Men’s number one weakness , would that be stupidity ? We are men we do stupid stuff , we cannot help it because it is in our DNA , but there has to be a stopping point. I know some men who would crawl naked through a mile of crushed glass to hear Brittany   Spears fart through a walkie talkie.  This is the truth, it is not about the relationship , building a relationship , or looking for something long term. It is about the Pussy and nothing more.

Lets take BDSM , this relationship is one of the fastest relationships you can enter and why is that? One of the first questions a Dominant will ask a slave is are you Bi and for many if not Bi that is a deal breaker or if not then the subject is brought up at a later date and often forced. What is the shortest skirt you own ? I am not sure why but this seems to matter. Do you go out in public with no bra or panties ? Again I am not sure what this has to do with building a relationship.  Do you enjoy anal sex oh and there is do you swallow ? Do not get me wrong compatibility is what helps make a relationship go round and round but this is within the first 30 minutes of just meeting and most of the time it is on line.

Now from my prospective , how I did and do things , please do not get me wrong because at one time I was like the ass above but in my defense I was in my late 20’s. Once I hit my 30’s those questions became obsolete and really did not seem to matter.

Anyone who ask me for advice on meeting a new slave my advice is sit down shut the fuck up and listen. Let the slave talk about anything and everything, just let them ramble and while their mouth is moving you are listening to every word and processing the information you are being giving.  What you are doing or what you want to do is get in their head and in order to do this you have to know, what their habits are, how they think and why they think the way they do. You want to know about their favorite music, food, movies , games , vacations and family and friends. If you know none of the above you cannot begin training or effective training and you just bullshit your way through it.

Leave sex off the table because if you just start out fucking that will be what consumes your whole relationship and it will end as fast as it started. Look those who are subs and slaves are use to being used , many believe sex is what is expected. Ok now don’t get me wrong because I love sex , I love getting head, head is my favorite pass time and although I average about 2 hours a week of just getting blown I would like to increase that by another hour or so. So I love to fuck but sex is on my terms when and how I want it, I do not ask and I am not much into foreplay ehh maybe sometimes but for the most I crawl on top bust a nut and get the fuck off. My foreplay is when Arianna is sleeping and she uncovers and I am looking at her , this is also when I take my best pictures but anyway I start with her tits and spend a hour or so just fingering before I need to sleep then I am on top, I do not say a word she just spreads.

I hear guys talking oh man when I am with a sub I love to make her cum as much as I can , I was with a sub sometime ago and I made her cum 30 times in 15 minutes .  Image result for stare emoji

Yea man I am sure you did and most if any was to support your inflated ego. See the problem is you still have pussy on your mind. Pussy has control over your what litte brain you do have and the bitch will use sex against you. Then sex is on their terms and not yours because you are a begging little bitch.

To train someone you have to know someone , if you do not know you cannot train. The submission is earned through trust and the willingness to protect and guide. The slave should look at you as their best friend , the one they can confide in without judgement. The slave should have 24 hour access to you and nothing less.

A part time Dominant cannot expect full time submission, but those who are not true the front only last a month or two before it becomes to much work and it falls into a mostly vanilla relationship except for the barking orders when the dom feels like they want something.

You just cannot sit around barking orders and expect the slave to feel appreciated , or even the feeling of being wanted.

Training a slave , and think about this, you are changing someone way of thinking and changing habits to fit your needs. This can only be done if you truly know they slave , this can only be done with effort on your part.

I explain to up and coming masters you have to be able to get inside ones head, you have to truly understand them. You have to know how they think and why they think the way they do. The truth is not one has ever asked me how to do just that, I always get the answer yes.

Men do not understand just how weak they look when most would crawl through a mile of broken glass just to get some pussy, but and there is a but. Men talk and men brag about how they nailed a bitch , how they treated her like a whore, yea this is true just like women talk, eh probably not as out spoken as men are.

I really think this shit started with Adam and Eve.

 

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She is your Bitch why not man up ?

Posted in 50 Shades Of Grey, anal sex, Arianna, bdsm, cheating husbands, commitment, communication, compatibility, Consensual, Dominants, fetlife, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Safe and Sane, Same sex marriage, Slave, Submission, Submissive on November 13, 2019 by thekinkyworldofvile

I had a friend who recently passed a very young age 49 years old. I had known him for several years and he had a habit of picking up a 20.00 hooker every week to suck his dick.  Now he did this because his wife refused to go down south and take care of business. She never knew what was going on until one day while over at his place him and I were talking in the kitchen and she had come home and decided to listen in on our conversation.  So I asked why do you pick up a 20.00 dollar crack whore to suck your dick when you have someone here to blow you. I mean really how fucking nasty is that a bitch who has not showered in day?

Oh then here she comes screaming at the top of her cock sucker yelling at me , yea me. Why are you yelling at me ? Your husband is the one picking up hookers because you wont blow him.

Most men are afraid to bring up any type of sexual needs when they first meet a female. This is the beginning of the end of the relationship and often the female will not bring up her sexual needs as well. These actions spell disaster and neither know it.

Back in the 90’s for a short time I went through a phase and I started dating older married women but there was a catch. There was no intercourse , while there was no fucking I did get my dick sucked a lot . The reason these women were reaching out is because they had approached their husbands about their kinky needs and many thought their wife was sick and even brought up counseling.

Now this is something I have never understood , you have a woman who is willing to do anything sexually with no questions and the husbands call them sick.

One woman I was seeing was the CEO of a large telecommunications company and her husband would only fuck her doggy style because he could not stand the look on her face while having sex. To make things worse sex was planned and put on his calendar and it was subject to change.

If you are dating someone and you are afraid to bring up your sexual needs in fear of losing a partner then they are not your match. Many men will cave in the hopes of just getting pussy. and many women cave for the security , yea a big difference there.

So women for the most are just looking for a few things , companionship , communication , which most men fail at and security. Women tend to blindly trust while the man who is cheating becomes possessive and often starts accusing the female of cheating when in fact it is the male who is cheating.

At one time I thought I could be poly and my slave and I had even tried a triad. The triad was successful for 3 years , everyone got along and I can point out one thing ,there was never any arguing. The problem was and still today my slave is very possessive but I knew that from the start. My reason for the triad was not sexual but more so for my slave and again nothing to do with sex but to be with someone who understood her. Today the three of us are still very good friends and will always be.

Okay so where am I going with this ? You find someone who meets your needs , friendship wise , communication  , having fun hanging together and then comes sex. While sex should never be at the top of the list it is still there. So I searched and found someone who could meet all of my needs. I was upfront from the start , I wanted sex on demand. I love having my dick sucked , many times at night while she is sleeping I will crawl on top bust a nut and get off and go back to sleep. I love anal sex to me it is the most private part and total submission again this is just how I feel.

My slave agreed to my terms , one thing I would like to point out is we entered our relationship as master and slave and we both negotiated our needs , well her needs but my needs and wants and in the end we both agreed.

In past relationships while I remained loyal I always looked and just had thoughts of what if. Today that is different because I have the full package and I know I have the best.

Today men cave like Christian Grey did in 50 shades when the two were negotiating their contract , he caved into almost every need and this is why most men cheat.

You can love someone and still think of her as your bitch , your slut , whore what ever you can think of but if you are not compatible you are a loser and you cant blame your partner because you were weak and remained silent. You might as well tattoo the word PUSSY on your forehead so everyone can see the real you. Then your work days become longer and you disappear on your days off because you are now cheating. Your cheating because you found someone who will take it up the ass because your wife will not but you knew this from the start. This makes you pathetic ,  this makes you a loser and you will get caught. If you have children what type of example are you setting for your children but many could careless and I have seen this happen.

When you meet not on the first date maybe not the second but sit down and have a heart to heart talk.

My ex wife told me onetime she was to tired to have sex. What the fuck are you talking about ? All you have to do is fucking lay there , I bust a nut and it is done.

Anyway peace out..

Vile

Total Slavery

Posted in abuse, adapting, Anger Issues, bdsm, Behaviior Modification, Behavior Modification, Building a BDSM Relationshp, commitment, communication, Consensual, Consistency, Dominant, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, owning a slave, Safe and Sane, sex slave, Slave, Submission, Submissive, sucking dick, Total Slavery, Total Submission, Uncategorized on November 12, 2019 by thekinkyworldofvile

As a young Dominant we dreamed of owning a slave , keeping them in a cage , feeding and using when ever we wanted. Although most never reached that dream for those who did I am sure reality kicked in finding it was not possible after all. Most young slaves just entering the lifestyle had this fantasy but once reality hit it turned into a nightmare .

Being able to maintain the strictness of what you dreamed at one time would be extremely difficult , this is due to time , life and working. Today it is almost impossible to have a one income home unless you are a billionaire but if you lived in a trailer you would be a creep. Then you have medical you have to worry about after all you agreed to take care of your slave right?

Love is a motherfucker and if not careful it can cause misjudgement and gilt will hit you. Once this happens you start to lose control. Once you have lost control there is no turning back. It is almost like a car out of control during a heavy rain.

The general public for the most looks down on our way of life , many see it as abuse and again  if you google BDSM you see porn , you see men and women being what it looks like abused.

How ever there are those who have the need to be under someones wing , someone who can guide them. Many professionals still today see being submissive a sickness. but if they would actually listen and not judge their thoughts might be different. Many say they understand but how can that be if they have never lived that role?

What type of master are you ? How much responsibility do you want to take on ? How much control do you want ?

Looking over some post on Fetlife got me to thinking , those who are having trouble finding a partner , but the real story is those who are seeking a lifestyle relationship are looking in the wrong places.

Times have changed and so have people some for the better but then you have those who feel entitled. Everything should be giving and nothing earned. If you are giving a car as a child you do not appreciate it as you would if you worked and paid for it out of your own pocket.

The one who will not go out with you is the one you are afraid to ask out. Most men stay clear in fear of rejection but rejection means nothing , their loss your gain. If you are going to Wally’s Bar and Grill on Friday night looking for the one then you need a different plan.

To be a slave , to be property has to be a need and not a want , if it is just a need then training will never be effective.

A friend of mine Malkinius wrote a book called ” I Can Do This ” and it is available on Amazon.

The book starts out with a slave wanting to be trained and the first thing that is done the slave is stripped of everything. Clothes , watch , purse and yes cell phone , everything is taking and the slave enters the house naked.

Putting the slave in their place is the first step and although you will take the phone you should allow time during the day to check email , text and so on but very limited time. You direct the slave around the house and point where they may and may not sit. It was over a year before my slave was allowed to sit on any of my furniture. At the dinner table she sat at my feet to eat dinner. This will include bath time , bed time, preparing your meals and coffee in the am if you drink coffee.

Your main objective as a master is to make your life as easy as possible but there is a catch and the catch is if you expect 100% from your slave you have to give back 150% at all times. The training must remain consistent , hourly and daily. You set rules and protocols but with the rules they have to be obtainable.

 

Behavior Modification

https://www.kinkly.com/definition/6612/behavior-modification

Behavior modification is a type of consensual domination practice that involves changing undesired behaviors into more desirable ones by using reinforcement or punishment. For example, a Dominant would use behavior modification techniques to encourage a submissive to use proper titles (like Sir or Madam) at all times.

Behavior Modification is something I have been very successful with using. While the slave goes through a transformation in many cases the changes are so small the slaves does not even know.

If you enter the relationship as a dominant or submissive , master and slave the transition is more obtainable and in most cases the transition is very smooth. If you are moving from lets say a daddy and baby girl to a D’s or M’s relationship I do not believe it is possible. I also want to add using this technique must be a need and not a want. The submissive has to want to be a submissive and the same with the slave.

Behavior Modification must also be consensual while the slave must have a idea of what it going to take place the slave must also consent to such changes. Such training if not meant to be long term can be damaging to the slave , I am speaking about the mental aspect of the modification.

While you explain what you are going to do you never give a reason , you the master does not have to explain yourself. While explaining something when finished ask if there are any questions , this is the time to make things clear but again you never have to explain yourself and do not allow such behavior.

Use and use often and the most effective way is to use without notice. If you want to fuck put the slave on their back , get it done and walk away. If you want your dick suck just walk up and put your dick in the slaves mouth. Again all of this is made clear before you enter the relationship , again the word consensual.

If you have anger problems you need to rethink your lifestyle , as a master you need to remain calm , cool and collective at all times. You are the master , the owner , why would you raise your voice or argue with your slave , think about that word , Slave.

It is funny you can ask someone for a good reason why two people would argue and no one can answer that question. Arguments stem from a lack of communication. You also need to let it be known you the master can only make a informed decision based on the information giving to you.  Many slaves come from broken relationships and they can even be making that transition from a vanilla relationship. The last thing the slave needs is to be yelled at or put down.

Egos if you have a ego problem you need to open the trash can and get rid of it. A ego has not place in a M’s relationship and will set you up to fail. You are no different from the guy next door , the only difference is your lifestyle. You are no better than the person who only makes 20K a year compared to your 100K a year.

The final word

Sit your potential slave down , explain what you need and want out of a slave and listen to the slaves needs. Make your expectations clear , make your goals clear for the short term and long term..

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Training Your Slave

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Consensual, http://bestslavetraining.com/, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, owned property, Safe and Sane, sane and consensual, Slave, Submission, Submissive, TPE, you cannot change a submissive on September 28, 2019 by thekinkyworldofvile

A slave (sometimes called property or servant) is a term used to describe an s-type and much like a Master, is often used a variety of ways. Most often this term is used to refer to the submissive person in a consenting Master/slave relationship, usually defined as a 24/7 TPE relationship that is greatly respected within the local BDSM community.

The word “slave” is gender-independent: slaves can be of any gender and sexual orientation. If gender is to be indicated, use a phrase such as “female slave” or “male slave”, or the common compound terms slave-girl or slave-boy. Some male slaves are sissified – i.e., they prefer to be treated and referred to in a traditionally feminine manner, and some regardless of gender, prefer to use alternate pronoun conventions, ask someone if you’re not sure what personal pronouns they prefer.

http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Slave

 

I have touched on this in the past but really not into much real depth. While some think having their cock sucked is a form of training it really runs much deeper.

Although I love sex , I have this thought of been there done that. Growing older and wiser my relationship runs much deeper. You want control but you also want control without any resistance. If a slave is pushing back or having trouble following directions then you need to sit down and find out what is going on in the slaves head. Your plan as a Master should of been discussed prior to any type of agreement.

What kind of slave are you looking for ? What kind of slave do you want representing you ? Do you want a slave with children or would you consider ?

Recently I was helping a submissive look for a dominant , I contacted probably 75 Dominants around the same age as the submissive and almost all said they were not interested because they were looking for a submissive around the age of 18 to 21. Now these were 50 and 60 year old men who had not been active on fetlife in months and even years and had giving up on any type of relationship. My emails were only answered I am guessing because they received a email and nothing more.

Obedience implies compliance with the direction or command given to the slave by her Master. For a slave to be considered obedient rather than simply trained in obedience, she must respond reliably each time the command is given, by her Master. A slave can go through Obedience training and not be totally obedient requiring additional drastic training technics. If a slave is referred to as being Obedience Trained she should comply immediately with every command her Master gives her. In the strictest sense an Obedience trained slave is an obedient slave.

Training a slave in obedience can be an ongoing and lengthy process depending on the slave and her Master, the methods used, and the skill and understanding of both the Master and the slave. The level of obedience the Master wishes to achieve with the slave is also a major factor in the time involved, as is the commitment to training by the Master.

So with me service tops everything and this includes sex, then another must is total obedience. Both of these go hand in hand but then I am going to add loyalty , loyalty is a must. Before I entered my now relationship I made it clear I was a service orientated dominant and I explained everything in such detail there were no questions, then obedience, I explained I would not tolerate any games or push back once the training had begun.

While a owner stresses respect respect is something that is earned but I made it clear that when out she would show total respect to not only me but others as well.

How long is the training process ? Well that would depend on the two of you. How consistent are you ? Patience plays a huge role in training just because a rule is broken or a mistake is made , it does not mean it is time to punish. You as a owner have to realize mistakes are going to be made. I had a master tell me one time he could train a slave in 30 days or less and I was like really?

I find it hard to believe you can train a slave in 30 days or less because it takes you longer to get to know the slave than just 30 days. Training is mental , being able to understand how the slave thinks and why they think the way they do. changing habits. The idea is to get in the slaves mind so you can fully understand.

While training you the master are touching on several different areas at the same time. How to walk , speak , sit and where allowed to sit , how to cook and prepare your food , how to dress, when and where to sleep and how to interact with others while out.

One thing that has to be made clear , then relationship you enter must be consensual and nothing less. When you are negotiating your relationship you have to make everything clear. What the slave can expect during training , the service that is expected , the obedience that is expected and the loyalty. Then the sex comes up , you the owner needs to explain your needs and wants when it comes to sex , and this would include anal and oral and anything else you feel may be a need. If the slave says no to any of your needs then you do not have the right slave , cut your losses and move on. Do not , and I mean do not give in to any of your needs. Once you both have agreed then you can proceed. Often training begins without the slaves knowledge and once it begins you need to stay firm. You must answer any questions that is asked , but you never give a reason as to why you are doing something.

Sex , you have negotiated you have both come to a consensual agreement and one thing you have to remember sex is about you and only you the owner. You take without asking or you can direct without asking. You never ask to fuck or to give head you direct. You use and use often , the slave is your property.

I myself incorporated some humiliation during and after training , even today at times I use humiliation if I think it may be needed to make a small attitude adjustment. Humiliation can be effective when it comes to a little bit of a attitude.

Many people associate BDSM with just sex and kink but to a few and I mean very few it runs much deeper.

Another problem people in some cases settle for less than what they are looking for. When you enter such a relationship you know in your mind that the relationship is not going to work or you will not be happy. We do this because as humans we have the need for companionship , but when it comes to the lifestyle it is important to find the right click.

You Dominants and Masters out there could be living the dream and with a little work and dedication then end result is unlike anything you have seen.

Things have changed since the birth of the TNG the younger generation. Most of the lifestyle is about sex and do not get me wrong sex is awesome I fuck every chance I get and they the younger generation has the right to believe and follow their own way.  Several years ago I tried to attend a munch and a 18 year old told me my kind of people were not welcome and dont let the door hit me on the ass on my way out.  So it is my understanding the younger generation has no respect for the older generation and I am good with that. This is the reason I no longer mentor any longer you can figure things out on your own.

The training of your slave will vary from slave to slave , each slave thinks different , acts different and behaves different , has different needs and habits. These reasons is why it is important to get to know the slave before you start any training..

 

The photo is of our room for our 6th anniversary

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I Have Morals

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, Dominant and Submissive, http://bestslavetraining.com/, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Slave, Submission, Submissive on May 15, 2019 by thekinkyworldofvile

As much as I would like to think I am perfect I am not , but I strive to be , I am by the book and I learned at a young age if you try to take short cuts you will get fucked in the end. These are the people you hear complain about life , how things never go right , the world is against them.

I have very few friends , however my closest friends who are the ones who live afar. Those who live in different countries , those who live in different states . One being a Gorean Master whom I have the greatest respect for. All of these friends are people I can confide in , those who will give advice but more important those who will listen.

In my area I have just a few I can talk to but even then at times they do not feel as close as those who live away from me. Master Malkinius a man with a wealth of knowledge , straight to the point and more out spoken than I am.

These are people I have grown to respect , and just because you are a Dom or a Master does not mean I respect you.  As with a submissive or a slave the Master has to earn the respect. If I do not respect someone there is no changing my outlook , there is no way of changing the way I think. My way of thinking is a one way street and it is my way. As long as it is my way I am the only one responsible if something goes wrong.

Just as Mentoring , over the past 6 months or so I have taking on several who wanted to be mentored and one by one each dropped out of sight. Either in a couple of weeks they knew everything or they would not listen , and all but one are gone and forgotten , there is one who continues to ask questions and responds to my answers like clock work.

If I am mentoring you and I give advice and you do not follow it and then I get another email that says what is next ,  I just sit and shake my head. Just recent I was on the phone talking to a new Dom and when I said you need to be able to get into her head , he was the first in years to ask me how do I do that? Wow! I would say you have to be able to get into her head and all I would hear is Okay .

 

My mentor Animel looked like a pissed of santa and he acted like he was mad at the world. I remember him saying if you dont know the bitch you cannot control anything. If you are not the slaves best friend you cannot control anything. If you do not keep your word you cannot control anything. If you do not meet the needs of the slave you cannot control anything. Animel was a Sadist , I mean the most sadistic person I had ever met but his slave respected him. There were no arguments , no screaming at each other and for one she knew better but two she respected him.

While out at a munch he was talking to a sub and she was explaining how she identified as a brat a mouthy brat and his really was what you mean is you are a cunt.  I tend to agree to a point because there are Doms who enjoy the Brat but there are those who do not and are afraid to say anything in fear of the pussy being cut off.

Most men think with their dicks , back in the 90’s I drove a cab part time during events. In a weeks time I could make 3 or 4 thousand dollars. Anyway sitting at the Hilton one day a real nice Cadillac pulled in and a guy with a wife and 3 kids pulled up and this bitch was fine. As soon as they walked in the guy came out and walked up to me and asked me where all the whores hung out? I just stared at him in disbelief thinking he has this fine piece of ass and hes looking for a crack whore. Thinking with his dick , Vacationing in Daytona Beach and hoping he can give his wife aids , nah the fact is he just did not care if he caught anything or not. So if you are that unhappy just fucking leave..

As far as BDSM goes I am really not a what you would call a BDSM Master and I shall explain.

It took me years for me to get where I am at today. My life is perfect. The perfect slave who only wishes to serve me and only me. We purchased a home back in November of last year in a 55 plus community. I work from home and my slave has a thriving career.When it comes to sex I get anything I want when and how I want it. At times when I am feeling the kink thing I bust out the bondage gear.

Just as Master Malkinius who has spent years researching how to enslave a consensual slave. This would be on a mental level , being able to read someone and understand why the slave thinks the way they do , their habits and needs. The kink and the sex comes later. I am not into marking up my slave , leaving bruises because I like to show her off to much. I do not want to hurt my property.

Mentoring at first I did not get it but while not taking the time to listen I failed and the failure was on my part. Then one day it was like Moses walking down the mountain with the 10 commandments it hit my like a bolt of lighting. Mother fucker I got it and all of a sudden 20 years of shit was just running through my head and I was dissecting everything.. I then realized at that moment and time how wrong I had been and just how many submissives’s I had hurt along the way.  People who know me would not think I would be one to have any feelings of guilt . I am not one to have much empathy for anything or anyone but this was a different feeling.

Just because you are a submissive and you meet a Dom that does not mean he is the DOM for you , or just because you meet a submissive it does not mean that is the right submissive for you.

This is not a vanilla relationship , our needs are different , the kink is different. So the relationship has to be negotiated. How much control does the Dom want , how much control does the submissive want to give up. The kink side of things and then yes sex.

You know my ex wife told me one time she was to tired to have sex. I was like what the fuck is that all you have to do is lay there. She replied well I dont get anything out of it. I was thinking like I really care.

The one thing I cannot look over and I can like you and respect you but it is the Married Dom who cheats on his wife. There is another side , if the wife knows and is okay with the arrangement all is good but if it is behind her back there is zero respect and if I had any before it pulls a casper and goes poof. If you have kids that deepens my thoughts. I have blogged about this before. I was married for almost 10 years and it was the worse 10 years of my life. I had to come clean , I had to share my feelings about who and what I was and I left. The time we were married I remained loyal , I never stepped out. If shit is as bad as you think it is then you would leave. When I first started blogging this was a topic I was stuck on. I left and I left a house , 3 cars and 150K in the bank. When I moved out I had a Duffel bag and around 1800 dollars. I paid child support for 12 years , and those 12 years seemed like they would never end. Most of the time I paid 2 or 3 times more than what we had agreed on. We came to an agreement of 85.00 a week but most of the time I paid 250 and 300 a week. Even I know raising a kid is not cheap , there was day care , school clothes , school supplies and then the knowing I left and she had nothing to do with it , it was all on me. My last payment was a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders because for years I went without.

Ive  been in the lifestyle a very long time and let me tell you about the Married Doms who sneak around. They are repeat offenders meaning they will find a submissive and promise to leave their wife who is such a cunt and maybe she is a cunt but hey you knew that way before or there was something you did to make her change. Repeat offenders because they are not going to leave their wife and this is mainly due to not being able to leave the birds nest , the security. It is the wife who builds the home , it is the slave who builds the home , the slave wants the perfect home for her owner just as the wife.

He finds a submissive and makes the world of promises and it may take some time but the sub will catch on and end the relationship. The Dom will then take a break and try to patch things up at home until he gets board again , and the hunt begins. This is something that is repetitive and either the wife gives up or simply ends the relationship.

When I first started blogging this was a topic that I just hammered on because I am so passionate about it. Some women are Okay seeing a married man , as a matter of fact some prefer the man to be married because there is no fear of a commitment. In a way I can understand that and if it works and she does not care about disrupting the family and the children go for it..

A part time Dom or Master cannot demand full time submission , a part time Dom cannot even effectively train.  The submissive will spend holidays alone unless with family, the submissive will spend vacations alone , will travel alone while the married Dom will be off with his unhappy family faking it.

Today BDSM has changed and not many really take the lifestyle very serious. Lets run down to petco and get you a collar, or order one from Amazon for 10.00 bucks. Really is that all you are worth ?

Everything in the community is Labeled Kink , kinky Munch , or Kinky coffee , even at Munchs it is seldom when there is serious conversations about a power exchange relationship.

BDSM is more than just sex it runs much deeper on a mental path. You can actually change someones behavior but and there is a but the Dom has to be willing to devote a lot of time building a true power exchange relationship.

Dominants are looking for a few things in a relationship , someone who is loyal unless you are poly , security , communication , then comes the kink and sex.

It is not a easy road but it can be very rewarding..

 

 

 

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