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My Story The Breaking Of Sabrina. Breaking A Slave

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Adapt, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Breaking a Slave, commitment, communication, control, controlling, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, emotional, Emotions, FaceBook Vile Woods, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, Master, Master And Slave, owning a slave, Pain, relationships, sex slaves, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, submissive blank canvas, Young Dominant with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on September 29, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

In the past just in general conversation, I have had Dominants who were friends of mine who had spoken of wanting to break a slave.
Why do you want to break a slave? Because I want to, I want that control.

The truth is you can have that control, and probably more control without Breaking a Slave.

Although The Breaking Of Sabrina had some fiction in it, some of it was real, and things like I spoke about do happen on a daily basis.

There was a Dominant who came to a munch a couple of years ago, who said he ran a Slave camp in Ocala Florida, after talking for a while I was invited, but I declined.

That is not the way I roll, and if I see nothing I know nothing.

Even today I would not want to take on such a task, nor would I want that kind of responsibility

The Breaking Of Sabrina is about a man who wanted something he knew nothing about. He thought he wanted what Vile had, but once he had it he did not know what to do with her, and in the end she left her husband, and Sabrina and Vile are still together, in the book anyway.

There are two ways to Break a Slave, consensual , and non-consensual.
I have seen the consensual side of Breaking, by a Dominant I know who lives local here, and through the weeks I clearly saw the transformation the slave went through. I suppose being willing to be broken play a Hugh part in the process, but I also suppose being with a Dominant you care about and want to stay but putting up a resistance would make things more difficult. It would depend on how far you want to go, and how much your willing to give up.

Breaking a slave does not have to be physical, although I am sure that is what some of the steps that are taking during the process.

Breaking one would be more of a mental thing, and the unknowing. Getting inside your head and playing with your brain like putty.

I had mentioned before about a Slave camp here where I live, does it really exist ? I am not really sure, it may because I would not of been invited to something that was not real.

One does not have to be extreme in order to be abusive, even minor abuse to me is extreme.

To Break a slave means you have to bring them back up. More importantly you must have the ability to bring the slave back up, and the want as well as the dedication.

Although I could, that is not again a responsibility or task I would even think of taking on.

If you are thinking about taking on such a task, you the Dominant needs to insure you are in the relationship for the long haul. Anything short lived could have bad effects on the slave, and may have trouble even functioning , or you could even cause a severe breakdown.

You have to think, why would you need to try and break someone’s will? What are you going to get out of it ? What do you plan on accomplishing ? What is the slave going to get out of this type of training ?

Before you begin your training, you should already know what steps you are going to take.

The one advantage you have over your slave or submissive, while your training, they will be spending much of their time trying to figure you out. Trying to figure out the Dominant is not a shirt term task either, so it is very important the Dominant keeps changing things up.

Breaking someone’s will can take less than 48 hours, up to about 6 weeks. Do you really want to spend that much time? If you do not live together it will be impossible to reach that point. Breaking someone is not something you can do on the weekends.

Also there should be no physical abuse, that will just blow up in your face. There should be no abuse at all.
Breaking a slave is Mental, it is getting deep in their mind.

Humiliation will play a huge part in this type of training. Everyone’s definition of humiliation is different, so the Dominant will have to explore, and see which avenue he will want to take..

The Training of a Slave is a form of breaking. It is actually a form of mind modification, you are reprogrammed. You are now told how to do task you did on a daily basis, but now you are being shown a different way. You must adapt to your surroundings.
What most do not understand is the training really never ends, because the Master is making sure everything stays in check.
I myself may add something or take away something, the last thing I want to do is cause an overload.

The breaking of a slave can be said the Master is causing a complete breakdown, and starting with a blank canvas. It can also get to a point where they slave cannot even think for their selves any longer.

The story The Breaking of Sabrina was about a greedy man who wanted something someone else had, but once he got it, he did not know what to do or how to handle. Yea not having instructions can be bad.

You cannot beat someone into submission, you can however beat someone into fear, and fear is all you have, with fear there is no relationship you have a puppet who is scared of you.

This is where the trust factor comes into play. It has to be a Dominant that you know and you are willing to just turn your life over to.
If you think about it that is a huge decision and one that should be giving a lot of thought.

As I stated it would have to be something the Dominant would be able to devote a lot of time.

Everyone’s definition of Breaking a slave will be different, but I am a firm believer it can be done and should be done without pain.

Humiliation will play a huge roll in the breaking as well as sex, and just being used. Maybe not being allowed to go to the bathroom, not being able to eat, and being talked to in a very humiliating way.
If you are willing with no resistance the time frame would be much shorter than if you did put up any resistance.

Arianna went through a Breaking in process, I would of never taking her down as I have stated above.

The other thing that should be considered is their mental well being, and the medications they are on. You could really hurt someone, if you are not experienced.

I have seen the process, I have seen it in person and I have seen the outcome as well, and in that case it turned out okay.
She did however become fully dependent upon the master.
He then was in his mid 60’s and she had not turned 30, so you have to look at the whole picture. What if something happens to him?

Something I have tried to explain not only to the younger Doms who are in the learning process, but older Doms who are new as well.
While the learning process is not easy, it can be very rewarding.
Then about two weeks into the lifestyle they know everything, and any advice is shunned. When their relationships are not working they want to put all the blame on the slave or submissive.

I find it very funny because even after 20 years or so I am still learning everyday. Everyday is a new day, and we should continue to grow.
Many times however some will let their egos get in the way.
I am in the Dominant in the relationship and I know what I am doing.
I am the Dominant you have no right to question me. I am in charge and you will listen. If you would do what you were told we would not be having these problems.
It just goes on and on.

These are the same Dominants who are not welcome with in the community. These are the same Dominants , that meet those slaves and subs who have been in the lifestyle for sometime, and they will have nothing to do with them….

While they will say it is not their fault, it is indeed they are just to blind to see, what they are doing wrong.

I learned sometime ago there comes a time you have to be humble, you also have to be willing you made a mistake. You have to have a level of respect.
Today there are older Dominants I will address as Sir out of respect.

You have to ask the Dominant what his goals are, what are his intentions, what does he plan to get out of the relationship?
There are so many things we tend to look over because you are in the excitement mode and your mind is going a 100 miles an hour.

Just like my story The Breaking Of Sabrina , he did not know what to do with her once he had her.

I have a much longer version coming out soon, and Sabrina will be helping with the training..

If your going to Break a slave or Submissive, make sure you have the time to dedicate, your willing to be in for the long haul, and you have the right tools and resources available to you..

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Vile

Breaking In A Slave Or Breaking A Slave

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There is clearly two different meanings but both can have the same outcome.

Just did a short story, The Breaking Of Sabrina. A woman who was broken at her husbands request. He lost and the Master won. That is something else we need to look at as well, choices and consequences, after all that is what life is about right ?

Breaking in a Slave is a term that is used once you start the training process, and as with breaking some humiliation is used during this process. The humiliation depends on how stable the Slave is mentally, and that is just one factor that comes into play.

Once you begin your search for a Slave not a Submissive, but a Slave you should have a clear picture of how you see your everyday life. You should already know what your intentions are, and what you expect the outcome to be.

To a novice Master who really has no experience, will really have a difficult time, mainly because he does not have a clue. Although there is a ton of Material out here , what works for one will not work for someone else. If the Master has a lot of drama or problems, the training will not be effective. Most associate a slave as just being sexual but that is so far from the truth, although there are just sex slaves who are just used for pleasure and nothing more.

Humiliation puts the slave in that mindset, you also have to point out you are not equal to them. It sounds worse than it really is, this is a mindset you are trying to achieve. To be a slave you have to feel like a slave.

First however the Slave must be willing , second and the most important factor the Master must be real and serious.

I actually sat down and thought about how my daily life would be if I had a slave living with me 24/7. Everything on my terms including sex. Sex is about me. Sex is about my needs being met, my wants.

I have changed Arianna life she has made a 360 degree turn. Today she does not see how she has changed, she does not see her submission, mainly because she lives it everyday.

She does not hear the words Master flowing from her mouth, or asking permission to use the bathroom, or to enter the bed. She does not see any of this, because not it comes natural.

That is when you know you as a Master Has reached your goal. You have created you own masterpiece. You have created something very special.

The bond is like no other, somehow it is stronger than love although your in love , it is a much different feeling, really hard to explain.

So from time to time you have to make slight changes, mainly because of the way Arianna feels about her submission.

Even the slightest change can make a huge difference, maybe in just a word someone uses, or the way they sit, the slightest change makes a huge, huge difference.

Breaking A Slave

This can be done willingly or not. I see it as a total breakdown of someones will, you change their whole thought process, and it could get to the point to where they cannot even think for their selves.

When someone ask you to break them, you need to find out what their reasons are, what do they hope to gain out of being broken?
In a short term relationship being broken could have severe effects, and the outcome could be harmful, or being incomplete in the process, meaning the Master is not their to bring back up.

So you take a Blank canvas , you strip the slave of everything, clothes, makeup, the ability to shave, they eat what you put in front of them.

You control their speech, their posture, how they dress, where they can sit, what if anything they wear.
This needs to be done on a daily basis, house rules are put in place. You limit where they can be in the house, when they can use the bathroom, shower, TV.
What you do, is allow family time, to speak on the phone, for 10 to 15 minutes, in front of you, checking emails in front of you. Not being allowed to close the bathroom door, you take away any privacy they want or need.

You use on a regular basis, showing no compassion or love. Be it just sucking your dick or crawling on top dumping your load and getting off walking out of the room leaving her there. That in its self is a form of humiliation, You have to use on a daily basis, without asking or explaining what your going to do. You want to keep their mind wondering. Trust me it works.

More sever would be extreme humiliation, physical beatings, calling names, such as whore, and slut, your worthless, who in the fuck would want you, you get the idea..

So I suppose in a way Arianna was broken, and here we are today, her feelings grow everyday, her submission continues to grow. She has a need to please.
I did just what I explained above leaving out the extreme. I keep a very tight leash on Arianna, I know where she is 24/7. She even had me install a tracker on her phone. I can pick up my phone and locate her within 50 feet.

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Vile

My Short Story Is Out. The Breaking Of Sabrina

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, Breaking a Slave, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, control, controlling, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire., Humiliation, Humiliation Training, masochist, Master And Slave, non-consensual, Owned Slave, owning a slave, Pain Slut, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, Stockholm syndrome, Submission, submissive with tags , , on July 14, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

One Complaint, to short.

I have been in three TPE relationships over the past twenty something years TPE.
My first Slave Sherri , was a total masochist, and was into deep humiliation, and a total pain slut. The only time I ever seen her cry was the day I told her it was over.

In the beginning the relationship was a lot of fun, but as time went on it grew old, because it became more of a job.

I guess one reason was I never developed any real feelings for Sherri, and I cannot explain why, unless it was her three kids.

My second was Bea who I truly thought I was in love, but I now realize I was not. I cared for Bea but I now know it was not Love..

I know this now because my now wife and Slave, I am deeply in love and I truly cherish her. I hate being away from from her on a daily basis but I know it is only a short time.

The thing I want to point out is each Slave was different, each had a different personality, but most important each had different needs.
So the way each was handled was different, the same rules, or protocols would not of worked for either.

You have to be able to open ones mind so to speak and take a walk around in their brain.

Sherri was not hard because I was told what and how to do something . I understand more today than I did then.

Bea was a little more of a struggle. Once I knew her, then I had to figure out how she thought, what made her tick, what made her want to cut herself, once I was able to communicate with her on her level and the more I understood her, the less of cutting there was until it stopped all together.

Arianna was a task in the beginning , it was not until I had access to her journals did I grow to have a clear understanding of what made her tick..

So each and everyone of us is different, every Dominant, and Master, every Submissive and Slave. It is finding the one who fits your needs.
If you rush without really looking at the whole picture you could fall prey.

Which now brings me to my short story, being a sadist at one time, I was able to clear my mind and take a walk. I actually viewed myself in the book, the only difference is I would of never trained Sabrina for someone else she would of been for my own use.

Which Brings us to The Subject of Stockholm Syndrome. A human can be broke in as little as 48 hours under the right conditions.
Now everyone who is taken captive does not suffer from Stockholm. Some are stronger than others.
In the case one does, it is because they develop feelings for their capture, they develop feelings for the one who is abusing them, I know its weird. No one really knows what sets that timer off.

I saw myself, how would I break someone if I was going to take that type of path. Starting out with pure fear, and humiliation, then moving to a more caring individual. Those steps I believe may have to be repeated it would depend on who you were trying to break….

So here is the link it is a very short story, but at the end you should see the purpose of the book..

There is one more coming out sometime in November I do believe, it will be much longer, and it will be Non-Fiction. It will be about the life of a master and slave, and the safety steps you should take when looking for a relationship.

Much love to everyone who has stopped by over the last two years.
As always feel free to drop me an email
viledesires62@aol.com

Smashwords (for all but Kindle users): https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/457549

Amazon/Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LRZLRUO

Coming soon to B&N, iBooks, KOBO and other retailersbreak

I want to thank Arianna for giving us such a great cover. Lea Barrymire did finish it up for us…

If you do make a purchase please leave a review, good or bad, but keep an open mind when reading it.

Vile

When I Was A Daddy Dom

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Collar, Change, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Divorce, Dominant, fuck hole, fuck meat, fucking, hoe, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, kinkster, kinky, Loyal, Manipulation, masochist, Master And Slave, Mentor, mistakes, Pain Slut, punish, Punishment, pussy, Rough Sex, Rules, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, session, slave, slut, Structure, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , on July 13, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I actually met Bea online about 6 months before my life pretty much fell apart, we did not meet in person until about a month before I moved out.

I had already confessed to my then wife who I was and what my needs were. I also knew there was no turning back I had already reveled way to much information.
Then came the divorce, I had stayed at the house because of guilt, but the day the divorce was final, out the door I walked.
I let behind my 1976 Fiat Spider,my 1955 chevy that I had before we married, but the judge felt she needed it, and the 160.000 dollars we had in the bank account.
I left with a duffel bag and my Yamaha 750 Seca. It had about 77.000 miles on it, and I had about 1600 dollars on me.
Bea and I had met at an apartment I was going to rent. It was beach side in Daytona Beach. A nice 4 unit building, 2 upstairs and 2 down stairs. I opted for the top floor.
Two weeks later bea moved in as my submissive. It was some 6 months later I collared her. We had drove up to St Augustine for sunrise and I collared her by the old Spanish fort.

At that time I was going through some serious changes in life, I still had a huge guilty feeling concerning the Divorce. I had a young son as well, but instead of the 85.00 a week I was suppose to pay in child support, I paid 600 a month sometimes up to a 1000.00 dollars.

During this time I decided to drive a cab locally, who would of thought you could make a 1000.00 dollars a week driving a cab. I also drove a limo as well kinda like an on call thing.
Bea was working part time at a day care but wanted to be a teacher. So I set that as a goal. During our relationship I set many goals for her, because I wanted her to succeed in life, I also knew being her first daddy it would not last.
It is not to often the Baby Girl stays with their first Daddy and I knew that. I was 37 and Bea Had not been 18 very long, yea I was robbing the cradle. Her mom and dad came unglued. It was not very pretty at all, but they more less wanted her out of their hair anyway.

Bea was a cutter, she was a bad cutter, she could no longer wear short sleeves or shorts that were very short. There were times she would just cry for no reason.

I walked in the bedroom to let Bea know dinner was ready and when I walked in she was cutting herself. I just looked and said when your done , dinner is ready. That is all I said and nothing more.

Our relationship continued to grow, now Bea was about 5’2 a little chunky, she had the palest skin I had ever seen, Dark black eyes, and black hair that went to her ass, she was really beautiful.

As we continued to grow our communication also grew, and the more we communicated, the more she was able to release.

Now I was going through a lot of changes, prior to getting Married I was a full blow sadist, Sherri was my first slave. I had grown cold, no feelings and I cared about no one even Sherri. Cherri was just a target, nothing more. The whole time we were together for what ever reason I never fucked her, not one time. There was either something about her, or I did not want to become that emotionally close.
She loved being fisted, once my hand was in I would just pound that bitch, fucking her with my arm as hard as I could. I would have her tied down spread eagle on the bed, spanking her pussy with my hand, I would use a belt, and just spank and spank until it was so swollen, it almost looked deformed.

At first I got off on the humiliation, I got off on inflicting pain, I got off on seeing the pain in her eyes, but it soon became a burden, because each session I had to out do the last.

Before getting married I was jumping from one slut to another, but now I was fucking.
Yahoo profiles that was the shit. I could log on and have a date in an hour. I was upfront as well, you are just fuck meat and nothing more. Today or the next couple of days you are my whore.

So I was going through an adjustment, I met an older Dominant his name was Animel, yup that is his real name. He looked like a pissed off Santa Clause, I stayed by his side day in and day out. My mind could not take in enough information. To this day I consider him a mentor, we are not as close as we once were, but he is still here..

Six months into our relationship Bea has just gotten out of the bath, and walked into the living room , and kneel and said Master I want you to have this I do not need it any longer, and she handed me her razor. I took it from her and I said good girl, and I held her for what seemed like hours.

I had to teach her how to cook, she could not boil water, but that was really no task because I love to cook.
At night most of the time I would bath her, and wash her hair, once out we went to the bedroom and I would put lotion on her.

She followed rules and protocols without question. I do believe I was somewhat stricter then than I am now. Once she was home she had a collar and leash she would put on, the chain ran through the whole apartment.

This was about the time I was starting up my internet cigar Business, which was really doing very well. It was almost to the point I was not going to have to work any longer.

I remember one day we walked into a golf store I was seeing about putting cigars in his store, and Bea had stopped at the door and just stood there with her hands in front of her. The clerk asked me what she was doing and I said just what she is suppose to, we are talking, she has nothing to do with this. When I walked out, Bea was two steps behind me.

Bea wanted to lose weight, not that she really needed to, so everyday we would walk 3 miles, down A1A and back, in the evening just as the sun was setting.
It was almost our 5th year together and Bea enrolled in UCF She wanted to become a teacher, she had really come a long way, and I supported her in everything she wanted to do.
After all that is what Daddy’s do, we want our girls to grow, we encourage growth.

It was really amazon because going on 5.5 years and we had not yet had an argument.This was due to us being so open, and the communication we had, but I also had a tight leash on her as well.
I allowed her to have friends in and out of the lifestyle, and once a month she was allowed to have a girls night out..

I came home one evening and Her demeanor was different she was more girly , although she was wearing her collar and chain.
As I started dinner because I did 90% of the cooking she started talking about how her feelings had changed, how she had been talking to other girls about their daddy’s.
I was not sure where all of this was going, but after dinner I helped her with her homework, and once we were ready for bed. She went to the bathroom and came back in and she kneeled and ask for permission to enter the bed, she handed me a bottle , a baby bottle, and she asked me if I would feed her, I was stumped at first but I said sure.
This was the transition from Dominant and submissive to Daddy and baby girl.
If it had been anyone else I do not believe I would of went through such a transition.

To date she had only been punished twice, she walked a straight line, and was very proper inside and out. Friends who would come over always made a comment about how good of a host she was.

Something happened though, and I started to let my feelings get in the way. I no longer wanted to tell her what to do, or what to wear, or what to take out for dinner. I stopped enforcing rules, I let protocols slide.

Once I realized what had happened , I tried to regain control but it was way to late, we even had long conversations about what was going on, because we could feel both of us falling apart.
Once you lose control, there is no way to get it back. Because a different side of you has been seen, that is something a submissive or slave, and baby girl will not forget.

Then I got sick , I got bad sick , one morning I got up and I was in the bathroom choking and I coughed uo this black stuff which was dead blood. so I grabbed my blackberry and I dialed 911. That was the last thing I remember. Seven days later I woke and I was in ICU I had 6 bleeding ulcers, and by this time 3 blood transfusions.

Bea would come and visit me everyday , except for the last week I was in. I spent 31 days in the hospital. On the day I was released I called and all I got was voice mail.
I actually called an escort service because I had to have someone sign me out. I did not have my cell phone so I had no one to call. This hooker looking bitch came up and asked for me, and off I went.
A cab waiting down stairs, I paid the girl a 100 bucks and I fell in the front seat.
Once home the cab driver whom I knew had to help me up the stairs, because I was to weak to walk.
He unlocked the door and when it opened everything was gone. no couch, no TV, no dishes, no bed nothing.

I was not mad or upset, because I knew why she left the way she did, but she took the fucking bed.

It was some 6 months before I was back to normal. My landlord and his wife would bring food over daily.
They furnished the apartment for me. It was some three weeks before I was able to go back to work, and then I was only able to work 4 or 5 hrs a day.

My website had been shut down, well my merchant shut it down , during the month of December I had over 10.000 dollars in charge backs. Shrugs

Today life is good I am in a good place. We all learn from our mistakes. The only bad mistake is the mistake you repeat.

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Vile

Training Your Slave Humiliation is needed

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Adapt, Aftercare, anal sex, anticipation, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominant, Dominants, Dress Protocol, emotional, Emotions, Face Fucking, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, Local events, MAST, Master, Master And Slave, Protocol, Protocol public, Punishment, Rules, serve, sex, slave, slut, Structure, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, Train your slave, training your slave, Verbal abuse, whore on February 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

You meet and you get to know each other, and you are both ready. You have already talked about your likes as well as your dislikes. Being in a Master and Slave relationship there is really no negotiation, so it is much different than living in a D’s or Domestic Discipline relationship.

The Master explains what he needs and wants the Slave either agrees or she does not. In most cases the Master will not bend so it is very important that the Slave has a clear understanding of what their relationship will be like.

The training I have never been one to explain what will take place or when. Most of the time once the training begins and the Slave really has no idea she has already started her new life.

As your training progresses the Slave will begin to adapt. Your looking at maybe two weeks before you see any real progress.

You the Master must remain calm and cool throughout the entire process. You must be able to maintain complete control of your anger and emotions, anger has no place within the lifestyle.

While getting to know each other you both share what is expected, although there is no negotiation to Master must be clear and upfront., and everything must be explained in great detail, even when it comes to rules and protocols. The Master needs to go into such detail so when finished there are no questions, and there is a clear understanding what is expected from the Slave.

In my world the training process is like a long road of mind fuck. Never knowing what to expect, when or where. Most of the time you can train your Slave and she has no clue.

At the start of training the Slave may notice somethings , she may see how she is adjusting, and soon her train of thought will begin to change.

If the Master begins with positive reinforcement then in most cases the resistance factor will be very low, but if your only pointing out the bad then it may rise to a higher level.

The idea is not to want to punish, the idea is to keep from any type of punishment. This is done with clear communication, and being able to understand your Slave. You have to know how far you can push and when to back off. Although you may go into the relationship with very few limits, those limits in place must be respected. If you surpass those limits you have allowed you will lose all trust, and the training is now at a total stand still.

The Mind Fuck Training, everyday should be something new, even if you just change things up a little. . The idea behind not explaining what is going to happen during the Training process is to keep the Slave thinking. If you keep that frame of mind they will follow, they will observe, and they will take in.

One of the first things I do is limit the Slaves space within the home. I walk the Slave through the house and tell her where she is allowed to sit or stand. In the beginning furniture is never allowed. You are taking something away that the slave is use to. Even dining at times I had Arianna sit next to me on the floor and I would feed her myself. I controlled what she ate and how much, I controlled what she drank and how much. The entire training process is about control.

About a week into the process I start adding times, adding time I mean what time to go to bed, what time to take a shower, what time to eat, everything has a time, and everything must be on time. This is a control thing. Being in control is remaining consistent , on a daily basis, an hourly bases, and by the minute.

Humiliation plays a huge part in the training of your Slave, although I do not condone any type of abuse, and some forms of humiliation is abuse in my eyes. I believe some humiliation is needed in the training process. Most females are not use to being exposed. This is why I limit the time clothes can be worn, again it is a time thing, everything has a time. Slave positions I do not use often but during training I feel they are very important, this brings the humiliation factor in, again most are not use to being fully exposed.

The inspection position I call is on knees head down the slave reaches around and spreads her ass open. Fully exposed. This is the time you become vocal. Speak about how much you enjoy seeing her in this position. Speak about how hard it would be for you to be a slave you could never see yourself in such a position. That is position number two. One is on back legs spread the slave pulling her pussy open. You the Master sitting on the couch or a chair, again being vocal.

The use of slave positions and being vocal puts the slave in a very humble state of mind, I did the positions almost daily, and at the same time, again everything has a time. This is not something you are sharing with the slave but time means everything.

Use your Slave and use on a regular basis. Now is the time you do not care about aftercare, the word aftercare should not even come up. If the Slave should bring it up, the question should be ignored. You the Master you do not have to explain yourself, the Slave has to do the explaining. Remember we are speaking of a Master Slave relationship not a D’s. The D’s relationship everything is planned out before hand.

Use your Slave and use regularly without question or telling the Slave what is going to happen. On your knees open mouth. I truly enjoy face fucking, I think with me it is a control thing. On your knees hands behind back NOW as I push my cock in I instruct her to stay still and just hold it. Once I am hard I start to pump her mouth, just like I am fucking her pussy. Don’t swallow let it just flow from your mouth just drool. five maybe ten minutes just stop and walk away instructing the slave to get up . Say nothing about cleaning up, just carry on as if nothing happened. Go to the bedroom, position number one. Pull to the edge of the bed, again becoming vocal. Tell the Slave how much you admire her, slide your cock in and just fuck like there is no tomorrow, dump your load, pull her by the hair on the floor instruct to suck you clean, once done just walk away leaving the Slave there to gather her thoughts on just what happened. Anal sex do not ask you take, of course you may choose to use lube or use their mouth for lube, do not ask take what is yours.

Do not allow your Slave to cum without your permission. Remember you now own. The Slave is for your pleasure. You control everything. The Slave should only be allowed when permission is asked and granted.

Having the Slave in a very humble state of mind along with humiliation, allows you to continue, and continue with the least resistance. Again you never explain yourself.

Names the calling of names in my training process is very important. Just as never being exposed or humiliated, the same would go with the calling of names, again this is a Master Slave relationship.

If the Slave is sitting on the floor simply walk by snap your fingers. Follow me whore, follow me slut. Once she begins to follow and she will. Stop wait, snap fingers follow me whore. On your knees hands behind back. Yes my favorite. Face fuck finish and walk away.

As your progress in the first week you want to start implementing rules. Remember every rule must have a meaning, every rule is meant to improve the Slave on a daily basis, and every rule has a time, again time means everything. Protocols are also part of the training process. How to stand, walk, talk, with whom you may talk to, when and where. Service position standing legs shoulder width apart hands behind back.

Again being consistent is the key and it is the only key that will allow you to open each door. You being consistent will make your slave consistent, you being consistent will allow your slave to retain what you are teaching.

At night once the Slave ask you permission to enter the bed. You talk about what has happened that day. This should be the slaves time. The slave should be able to express their feeling about what has happened. How they feel about what happened.

If you the Master during any part of the training you let your emotions get in the way you will fail. The Slave will spot this and see this as a weakness. Weak is not what we want to be seen as.

You are changing their entire thought process, as I have posted before a type of mind modification. You are training someone to fit your needs and wants

Time is the biggest factor everything has a time. if bedtime is 9.30 then bedtime is 9.30 every night. If shower time is 5.30 then shower time is 5.30 everyday. Time is the most important factor. The thing is in most cases the slave will never catch on, or even think about it, but everything will fall into place, and things will be done without a thought.

The ninety day factor, ninety days tells everything. This is the I want this or fuck you I am leaving. If they choose to leave chances are they will return in a short time. Why is this? You have changed their entire thought process, this falls back to the mind modification. Things on the outside are not as simple as they once were, their world now looks different, they no longer have that structure.

I know some of you women are thinking what the fuck? Does this really happen? Indeed it does. Remember every Master has a different process, some training is not as extensive, some training does not go as deep, some training has no humiliation.

I can tell you this when we are out this is more so at a local function, a Munch or A MasT meeting people are amazed at how Arianna carry’s herself, how she acts, how she speaks, how she dresses. How she follows my protocols. If asked a question she looks at me waiting for approval before speaking

The same training would not go for a submissive or a Baby Girl. There is a different mindset. I have been with a submissive, I was a Daddy for seven years. The training and care is much different. We are talking about a Slave and only a Slave.

Once you are past that ninety day number you can let up some, you can now let aftercare in the picture some, but you have to remain consistent I cannot stress that enough. You must stick to your word, you must be truthful at all times. If you say your going to do something then do it. If your going to punish you must explain why, and you must have a VALID reason.

Your Slave must be allowed to have contact with family at all times. The Slave should be allowed free time after the first week. I can assure you they will need a breather.

Remind on a regular bases you own them, be it just in general conversation or while using sexually. You own them they are owned property. After each rule have the words You Are Owned. Those words will have a great effect. Remember we are visual.

If your in a LDR relationship you must still have a VALID reason when you punish, not being able to send a video with your submissive masturbating is not a VALID reason.

Everything you do has to have a VALID reason.

A submissive or Baby girl has rights. They have the right to what was promised, they have the right to be treated the way they were promised, and they have the right to walk away.

A man, a Dom, A Master Or A Daddy if you cannot keep your word that is abuse. If you lie that is abuse, if you punish without a Valid reason that is abuse. If you cannot control your temper that is abuse, screaming and yelling that is abuse. If you give nothing in return that is abuse. If you are like any of the above you have no place within the lifestyle and you are a piece of shit.

Just wanted to add that has nothing to do with training, but in a way it could I suppose

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The Slave

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Sitting on the couch watching TV relaxing and your Slave is at your feet. The Slaves only concern is you their Master. Their mind is constantly churning on how or what they can do to please you.  Your life is drama free, no arguing, no fighting, no yelling at each other. You the Master are in your own little world.

The Slave is content when being used, the Slave feels needed when they are being used, and not just in a sexual manner , maybe being used is the wrong word ? I can say their main goal is to please. You have a partner for life as long as we stand and walk the path we promised.

We took a trip up to St Augustine yesterday to meet with another Dominant. Him and I seem to be on somewhat the same page as I am when it comes to an M’s relationship. He has wanted to pick out minds for sometime but with my work, I rarely have time to really get out anyplace.

We parked by the old fort and walked across the street to an Irish pub the setting was okay a little loud for my taste, the food was nothing to brag about but the company was good.

The Dominant we met who happens to be single as well I am guessing maybe mid 30’s is single for the same reason I was for so long. Neither of us would or will settle for less. When you settle for less it never works, it works for that moment and time.

Arianna had made the comment the other day , she said she wanted to feel more submissive. I said you are already there. She said why don’t I see it. Well you live it everyday, every hour, every minute. You have grown accustomed to my ways, you have adapted to my ways, you have adapted to my rules and protocols.

If the relationship is not kept in check the slave can get a vanilla feeling, this is something we all want to avoid. It could be a sign of losing control as well. As Dominants we tend to get to comfortable in a relationship, so it is very important to keep a close eye one what is going on.

You may love and care for but there has to be a fine line. I am speaking from experience from a past relationship. While in a relationship with a slave, I let my feelings get in the way, because I no longer punished her, nor did I enforce rules. In the end I was no longer the Dominant she had known, and I was no longer who she needed. Love or no love, when it comes to an M’s relationship we are talking a whole different ballgame.

The Dominant we met yesterday had brought up one word I had used at the MasT meeting and that was consistency , being consistent on a hourly basis, a daily basis, weekly,and monthly, meaning 24/7 . Once you put something in place you have to maintain what ever was put into place, rules , protocols, dress code, eating habits what ever it is, you have to remain consistent.

If you the Dominant or Master are in full control this is really no task, you are not adding anything extra to what you are trying to accomplish . All you have to do is keep an eye on your surroundings.

If a rules is broken or maybe a slip up on a certain protocol, it does not constitute punishment, we are human we do forget, shit happens, but then again we are visual. A rule is broken and the first thing we want to do is beat our property. Why ? Because we can, and I suppose you could get a high off of hit, or maybe it will make your chest look bigger. Why was the rule broken? Was it on purpose ? Did the slave really forget ? These are things you have to sit down and talk about before handing out any type of punishment.  Beating your slave is not always the answer, pain is not always the answer. Most of the time scolding like their a child is just as effective , or taking something away.

In the beginning of the M’s relationship you put rules in place. You limit the space where the slave can stand or sit. Up until recently Arianna had not been able to sit on the furniture. You take away everything that was available to them when they wanted it before the relationship. The only thing you cannot take away is family and friends. The slave must be able to have outside contact, but on a limited bases, until you have reached what I call a safe point within your M’s relationship 90 to 120 days.

Before either agree to such a relationship you both need to have a plan and questions. The Master or Owner. How far do you want to take your submission? How much control do you want to give up? How do you see yourself as a slave?

The Slave to Master or Owner. How are you going to take care of me ? Are you going to treat me fair ? Are you going to change your rules to fit your needs ? Are you going to be faithful ? Am I going to be the only one or will there be others ? If there are others how am I going to be number one? How will I get the attention I need ?

There are truly a thousand questions to be asked from both parties. These are questions that should be thought out before even meeting someone, and you should not be afraid to ask anything. After all you are about to put your life and body to someone.

If you do not get the answers your looking for simply get up and leave you owe no one anything. Do not agree to anything unless you feel 100% things can go your way, and your needs can be fulfilled , not your wants I could careless , your wants come later.

As Arianna was explaining her submission to the other Dominant he just looked at her, when she finished he looked at me and said you have hit the lottery , I said you think ? I know I hit the power ball.

You as the slave you have to hash out your limits, your hard limits, soft and maybe’s although being a slave I could not see why limits would even come up, with the exception of the norm. No broken bones , no cutting unless that is your thing, no blood, no kids, no scat again unless that is your thing.

Limits with me are nonnegotiable with the exception of the norm, other than that nothing is negotiable the key word NOTHING. It is and will be my way.

An object this may be hard for some, or some may not be able to grasp the idea. At times your slave my slave is an object, an object for my pleasure. At times when I lay Arianna down and she is spread I see a hole. I see a hole I am going to pump until I blow my load. When she is on her knees I see a cock sucker. I love telling her how good my cock looks in her mouth, more so when I am holding her head and I am pumping away and I feel her gagging. Or when I am on top, and my hand is around her throat and I am telling her how good her pussy is, and that I own her. The feeling of being completely owned is the key and that is by the daily reinforcement of the Dominants consistency.

The collaring of a Slave is very serious, and something that should be giving much thought. You would not expect a Dominant to collar you on the first meeting even within the first month or two. It takes longer than that to truly get to know someone. Remember the first 60 to 90 days people are on their best behavior , then the true colors tend to come out. After you agree to enter such a relationship usually it takes about 90 days for a fantasy to wear off on either side. The 90 day mark will tell if the potential owner is serious about the lifestyle or not. So beware if the Dom wants to offer a collar to soon. Some will use the collar as leverage to gain what they really want and that is in your pants.

If you should have to punish, the Dominant should explain what rule was broken, and why you are going to be punished. After the punishment is complete positive reinforcement is needed just like after care, and explain the consequences once again. That is something that should be pointed out in the beginning of a relationship some of the rules you expect to be followed, the choices and consequences. There is no way you give fully give all your rules when you first meet, you as the Dominant have no way of knowing what areas need improvement. Rules are meant for self improvement and nothing more. Taking away bad habits and implementing good habits.

Yes at times you need to treat your slave as an object as cruel as it may sound. The rewards the slave reaps from such treatment is truly a story in its self. I am sure the feeling of being owned is a feeling unlike any other just as the feeling of owning a slave. It is a rush a good rush.

I have gone over in the past about my training process, some or most may not be as extreme as I am. Some may not want the type of control I have. Some may not want the responsibility I have.

My training process is how I do things and I can tell you from my own experience my way does work. It may not fit every Slave but I stood my ground and firm about who and what I wanted, and like most of the time I got my way. I am not being cocky I am being truthful.

You may see my way of training as unconventional and what works for me may not work for others, but I have laid the ground work. In the end you have to have your own plan. Also my way or Viles way is just my opinion and nothing more.

But if you want a slave, the key is just to stick to your word, be honest and truthful and everything will fall into the right place.

Arianna knows her place with in the home and out of the home. She is a best friend, a wife a Domestic slave and a sex slave all rolled up into one. You can have the same thing if you are true to the lifestyle.

If you implement rules , make sure the rules can be followed without stress, make sure your rules are realistic. A rule is not sending  you a video of the slave anal training, that is not a rule, that is a rule so you can jack off while watching. Rules are meant to help. The worshiping your cock will follow without a rule.

What we have is what most men can only dream of. We have what so many other do not understand but in many ways they envy us. Deep down they want what we have but they do not want the responsibility.

The word OWN is really very deep. To say you OWN someone, and to have someone give you 100%. To be able to fully control someone’s life, and knowing that one wrong decision could effect both of you , that is heavy, but the relationship is like no other.

The slave will give without question, the slave will give without thought. The slave has the need to please and get pleasure from pleasing. The slave is not selfish, and when giving something they will take proudly even if you only spent a dollar on it.  When asked if you say the word NO that is what it means. There will be no arguing, the slave knows there is a good reason. The Slave knows you as the owner has their best interest in mind, and that their needs will be met

The Slave will strive for perfection in anything they do, be it cleaning, cooking or dressing up when you go out. The Slave wants to look their best. The Slave needs to feel beautiful for their owner. The Slave wants their owner to be proud.

We as Dominants see each Slave in a different prospective, we are all different and we all have different needs. To find someone who shares the same quality’s, and wants is very important. The Master really has to do very little because the Slave will adapt to their surroundings if they are taking care of.

I am a proud Owner.

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Behavior Modification Is Alive And Real

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First things first today is the 12th of January and I am cigarette free. Well not totally I have this little friend called an ecig, which has really helped. There are some pretty bad withdraws though, this is after smoking for 38 years.

Now The Story.

Behavior Modification is real and alive. Along with such modification comes choices and consequences. Remember as a Dominant or Master we are taking full control over someones life. I am not so sure if this really is geared towards Dominants although there may be more than I really know about.

Most slaves when you start speaking about Behavior Modification, kinda look mat you like their skeptical , or like your nuts, but it is alive and well.

The choice however should be that of the slaves. How far do you want to take your submission? How do you see yourself living as a slave on a daily basis? How do you see yourself serving? Is it Domestic? Sex Slave ? or both?

Arianna wanted to relinquish full control. She wanted zero responsibility. Again that was something I did not just jump into, because now you have a huge ass fire you have to be able to control. You the master has to keep this fire contained, you have to learn how to control it.

I have talked about this before but maybe not in as great detail. How deep you want to go now depends on the master.

I thought for sure there would be some type of resistance but that was not the case, as a matter of fact there was none, which really shocked me

So to start out with all the things in life she liked or wanted, she now had to ask for. Instead of just sitting she had to ask for permission. She had to ask for permission to go to the bathroom, to eat, to drink, to get dressed. She was no longer able to make the simplest decisions, with the exception of work.

She was now told how to dress, how to do her hair, what color. She had to ask for permission to do her nails and I picked the color and she wore the color whether she liked or not. I picked out a hair style, this was the deal breaker here or so I thought. We went to a beauty shop and I showed the woman the style and she just looked at me. She shaved one side of Arianna’s head, leaving the other somewhat long. This all falls under Behavior Modification.

Once you begin I will say it again you have to be consistent in your training. You can not give in or give your slave a day of rest for the first 90 days. You must be diligent in your training. No matter how bad you feel , you have to stay on track.

You take things away from the slave, such as free time, Tv, music, limit their phone use. Everything they had available on a daily basis now becomes a need.

Humiliation should also play a factor in your training. Slave positions is a good way to start. Making the Slave expose themselves to you. Chances are they have been seen nude, but never fully exposed. On their back legs spread with them pulling their lips open just for your viewing pleasure, or position number two I like on hands and knees head down ass up both hands spreading ass wide open, again just for your viewing pleasure.

I do not think anyone really uses the words Behavior Modification during training. Most of the time it is I am going to train you, but what you are doing is teaching someone your way of life and what is expected. You either conform to the new way of life or you don’t, you either stay or you don’t. If you choose to stay then let the process begin, how the process goes all depends on the Slave, it can be an easy transition or you can fight it.

I have blogged about  Behavior Modification before but I wanted to cover a lot more, I felt like I left somethings out, and I will probably think of more down the road.

Maybe some Dominants do not take things to the extreme,maybe some do not want to dedicate so much time, but if your like me, I want the whole pie.

Wanting the whole pie to me is a need not really a want, that is why I have been so against poly. If you find a Slave who completes everything, I see no need for another. Other Slaves are brought in because one cannot fill certain needs the Master has. I have asked other Master what the need is and the answer is always because I want different flavors. So you take one Slave and you mold all the flavors into one. Kinda like going to Baskin Robins Ice cream, and getting a little of each in one container.

That is the same with Behavior Modification you are taking a Slave and molding her to fit your needs. How many Slaves can one Master really take care of. The fact is most who are a Salve or Submissive are very needy, I did not say all but for the most that is true. Most are very emotional. To add another would be taking needed time away from the first Slave, which you always say they are number one.

Some Slaves prefer the poly lifestyle , if the Master is a Sadist and you are not a Masochist, you would gladly open the door for another to come in and take your place, better the other slave than you, I guess.

The one thing a Submissive or Slave needs to understand, your Dominant or Master is not going to change, that will never happen. What will happen is you will change, and most likely you will change your whole life to fit ones needs.

BDSM is not about sex although today most think so BDSM equals fucking or sucking cock, or beating you until you cannot walk. That is a type of Behavior Modification, because that is how you the sub or slave understands how things are and you just go along with the flow of things.

I am more about control. I put rules in place, I put protocols in place, and it is very simple you follow or you don’t. When I was in my teens , 20’s and early 30’s I was all about sex , but there comes a time when you have to grow up, or want more things out of life, or like some you never grow up, things never go your way and it is always someones fault and never yours.

I love sex, I really do it is almost like a fetish to me, but I do not let my cock run my life. If I want my cock sucked I will tell Arianna, if I want to fuck the same. I would think a grown man would want more out of life than just a piece of ass.

A couple of Months ago at a MasT meeting in Orlando the topic came up about what if a Slave decides to move on. As I stated If it has been long term I would think it would be difficult just because of all of the above and that is based on the Behavior Modification process both the Master and Slave has gone through.

If you jump from Master to Master even just while searching for the right one, you as a Slave never get to experience the whole process, the true feeling of TPE Total Power Exchange.

I believe with a Dominant and Submissive it does not go as deep as an M’s relationship, because the training process is totally different. I do not think the Dominant invest as much time as  master Does in an M’s relationship. I could be wrong but this is my train of thought.

When Arianna states she is a no rights Slave that is what she is. I will admit the training was much easier than I had anticipated, and everything just fell into place. She made the needed adjustments and was able to make a somewhat smooth transition.

I may at times act up and get a little goofy, but I can say there is no one who could fill her shoes. There is no one like Arianna who could stand toe to toe with her, and be the Slave I need, and more so be the Slave she needs to be.

 

Behavior Modification Good Or Bad ?

The above is just my opinion, it is the way I see things. You may think different as a Dominant or Master but in the end we want the same for ours.

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