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My Slaves Life

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While at the MasT Meeting Last Friday night we had an awesome conversation, and we got off topic several times, but the leader of MasT Slave S Looked at Arianna and I and said we have a very unique relationship, and wanted me to go into detail about how I maintain control,and it was and is still one word Consistency nothing more.

This is more about us and how we live our lives. Just to give you a more in depth look at a Master and Slave. We want to share this side of us.

Either you are or you are not. I will be the first to admit I could not be a submissive nor a Slave, but let me make one thing clear, being either does not make one weak, nor are they a doormat. Most who are submissive or Slaves have a great deal of responsibility. Most take care and run the Home, that is Arianna’s job. She insures things within the home run smoothly. Most of the time we make the food list together we talk about what we are going to have during the week. A lot of times we shop together, and when I can I cook. That is to help take some of the load off of Arianna

Arianna has full control over all money every week she gets my pay check, and my monthly bonus. She insures all bills are paid, and balances the checkbook. If I should want something I ask if we can afford it. I never question her ability when it comes to running the home.

On top of running the home Arianna has a very good career, a lot of responsibility. Her commute one way is 51 miles. To make such a long drive I had to insure she had good transportation, so in May of Last year we bought her a new car .

Our job as a Slave owner comes down to only a couple of things, all of which are great importance. We make things run as smoothly as we can with in the home and outside. We take care of any problems that may come up. We insure our property has a stress and drama free environment. The drama and stress free are probably the most important, but the most important is staying in control. Slaves are going to make mistakes, that is a giving. A mistake does not mean she broke a rule.

One thing we found out when we first met is we have more in common than just M’s that is also very important, it would be pretty boring if all we had in common was BDSM. The only things we really do not have in common is music and some of the old cars I like, other than that we are on the same playing field.

I do give Arianna free time to visit friends although she really only has one she visits but this time is important to her, and I respect that. Everyone needs a break from time to time.

If Arianna wants to buy something for her be it clothes, makeup, what ever I hardly ever say no. This is a type of reward. It is very hard to deny one who gives so much. Her favorite place to shop is Amazon.com if it comes with free shipping, she also loves thrift stores, she is like a little kid in one, really fun to watch. I do go shopping with her, I take an interest in her needs.

Just sit back and try to imagine giving up full control. Giving up full control to the point the word No is not allowed to come out of your mouth. Trusting someone that they will not cause harm or hurt, physically or mentally. Allowing your body to be used for someones pleasure.

The more control we show, the more we show we care, the more communication we keep, the more the slave will give. The slave will give without thought. The slave will have the need and want to give.

If you have rules or protocols , they should each be explained in great detail, so when the Dominant if finished the slave has a full and clear understanding of what is expected. If I implement a new rule I explain why I think it is needed. I explain it so there are no questions.

Although your always in that frame of mind Master and Slave you have to be best friends, you have to be able to talk, laugh and joke. I act nutty at times, I like to joke, I enjoy making others laugh. That is a very important part of ones life.

The key to training a Slave is first and for most the Slave must be willing, the slave must have the need. The last the slave has to find the right match.

I have stated before training is a type of behavior modification this is not done over night, in my experience 6 months to as long as a year, and it is something that is continuous it never ends. Again the key word and I cannot express it enough is Consistency.

Seeking a long term M’s relationship is something you need to give a lot of thought, for one the responsibility, and what the long term effects are going to be.

I know a slave now who lived in total servitude, on one hand she was lucky because she had sister slaves, but she rarely saw the out doors. Her owner has since past and she is lost, and will continue to be lost until she is able to find a new owner that will allow her to live the same way..

In my opinion if you have been in a long term relationship speaking of an M’s it would be most difficult for a slave to just pack up and leave, unless they are experiencing abuse, and then still after living in such a structured environment even with abuse it would seem hard to be able to function.

People today relate BDSM to a sex game, I have said this many times before, it is because we as humans are visual, None of the BDSM videos show what it is like to live a normal life. It is all about bondage and sex. The same if you google images, Bondage and sex comes up along with someone being beaten. Most of what you read are women being abused, whipped , gang banged, it just goes on and on. It is wise to read about real life experiences between a Dominant and Submissive, a Daddy and his Baby girl, or a Master and Slave. This way you get the real life of people and not just fiction.

If you are considering the lifestyle to any degree you need to do a lot of research, on all levels. Before taking your first step try and figure out where you may fall in the realm of submission. Maybe a pet , a baby girl, a submissive , or maybe just a bedroom submissive wanting to get your kink on from time to time.

Once you have somewhat narrowed it down, now is the time to find the right partner. I have always said the easiest way is to get active in the community. Hitch on to other who are submissive, more than likely they will be able to point you in the right direction. They will also tell you who to stay away from.

Meeting someone on line can turn into a good thing at times, but you really have no idea who you are meeting. Remember on line we can be who and what we want. We can pose as anyone, and your going to believe them. Most new submissive’s are really naive and are easily persuaded  with very little effort. I am not saying your stupid but it is the not knowing, the not knowing a lot. You not knowing can get you hurt.

If you ask people for advice and you get the same answer from two or three, then you should listen, in the end it may pay off.

So your ready to be a slave, being a slave is usually 24/7 TPE a Total Power Exchange. The relationship between two is consensual as it should be. Being a Master and Slave living apart seldom works, even more so if your long distance.

Second you both have to enter the relationship with a full understanding of what is going to happen, and what is expected from both. Remember there has to be a Bitch in the house.

This takes much thought on the slaves side, the slave has to help things move along as well. Think before speaking, or acting. Learn to control your anger , this takes practice just as it does with a Master. Voices should never have to be raised at each other, there is not need after all we are adults. If the Master loses his temper and starts yelling who is really in charge. Why would a Slave respect someone who cannot stay in control.

You the Slave, will lose all rights , you will have no say , unless and there is an unless, you are going to be harmed, or your Master is going to do something that could be departmental to the home, other than those two factors you have no say.

A slave if no children in home should be nude at all times, and available for use. Being nude gives the salve a more slavish feeling, being full exposed. The knowing they can be used at a moments notice. Being nude also gives a feeling of being vulnerable. These are little mindsets to keep your slave in that mode.

You are told what to wear, how to walk, talk, sleep and what to eat and how much. You will be instructed on how to act in front of others, you will follow protocols when out in public with your Master or alone.

You the Slave you are a direct reflection of your Master when out. You are expected to carry yourself accordingly. Now there are choices and consequences.

An M’s relationship can be a beautiful thing, it can be a very loving well structured home. As with anything you need to make the right choices, after all this is your life.

Be safe.

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Vile

Slaves Then And Now

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, Consensual, Depressed, DNA, Dominants, forced sex slaves, Genetics, human trafficking, In Service Slave, Local events, MAST, Master, Roman Slaves, serve, sex, sex slaves, sex trade, slave, submissive, Total Slavery on October 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Friday night Arianna and I attended the local monthly Mast. MASTERS AND SLAVES TOGETHER. Mast is nation wide with about twenty five thousand members.

The topic was how we differ from Roman times and now, which I found very interesting. The Slaves in Roman times really had no say. Very few were ever released. If released the age was around thirty, back then that was the average life span.

Slavery had began way before the Roman era , we today are really not sure when slavery started, but at times while in Slavery, it was common for the females slaves to have children, even start family’s while husband and wife were slaves. Some slaves lived from generation to generation.

Okay I am sure you know where I am going with this. Some slaves lived in slavery from generation to generation. Some slaves were highly educated, not all were used just for manual labor. Some were teachers, some were book keepers, and some even ran the house. Some had children to carry on a family name.

Then we got off on the subject of DNA and genetics , how certain traits are passed from generation to generation. So why could not someone be born a submissive or a Slave. After all People are born Gay. So why would this be impossible.

Some know they are different at a very young age, while others are in their late 20’s , 30’s even 40’s and sometimes older. There is something that sets off an event. There is something that clicks in their mind. Then the research starts and they dig and dig for information until the answer is found.

Maybe my thoughts are getting pretty wild here, but it is a fact many who are submissives and slaves have a lot in common, not all mind you I said most. I have blogged about the most common things, number one being depression.

Slaves in the Roman times after sometime adjusted to their lifestyle, many were happy in their roles, Not so sure about the manual labor slaves. I am talking mostly the in house service slaves.

There were those used for sexual pleasure as well, nothing more and nothing less. The slaves for the most were well cared for, some when it came time to be released did not want to leave. Why leave if that is the only life you have known.

Today a small percentage of Master and Slave is what you would call consensual. A large percentage are those sold into the slave trade unwillingly , and are most likely doomed and will never see freedom again, from children to adults.

Those who serve willingly could it be genetics ? Could it be hidden away in ones DNA ?

I think of some pretty wild stuff.

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Vile

To Add Another Slave

Posted in Arianna, Ass, bdsm, blow job, communication, control, Dominants, In Service Slave, Master, Open Minded, oral sex, owning a slave, Polyamory, pussy, sex, sex slaves, slave, submissive, Triad on July 25, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have posted about this before but I think I will word it different, maybe I can make some sense of it when one needs more than one slave.

Only in the BDSM lifestyle could a Dominant sit his slave down and say hey I would like to add another girl, okay well maybe in a vanilla if the female is that open minded but I think more so in a D’s relationship more so in an M’s relationship.

While it is true in a Gorean house most Master do have multiple slaves, but the difference being Gorean slaves are more service orientated and less sexual. Every Slave has task to complete through out the day. Even cooking each Slave has their own duty so everyone does their part , each is responsible for a dish, even after dinner each has their own clean up.

A D’s or M’s relationship is much different for what ever reason, maybe because most connect BDSM with sex, which it is not suppose to be based on sex, but everyone has their own idea on how a relationship should be ran.

Adding another to a D’s or M’s relationship should be something that both agree on, it should be something that both want. . If your a Dominant and your relationship is running smoothly but then you get this idea hey I want another Slave, you could very well fuck up a good thing, your Slave may speak like she is receptive to your brain storm, and the idea that your excited over, deep inside your Slave is fuming.

If you sit back and look and you think you have the perfect Slave but then you want to add another, even though your Slave agrees deep inside the Slave will feel inadequate , the Slave will feel like they are not good enough, like they can no longer please.

The other thing is your Slave could say sure you can have another but I am out of here do want you want. You cannot stop them from leaving. They could agree and still want want a third but will stick around because they need the structure and guidance, and at that point and time a secure home.

To me a reason to add another Slave would be to take some of the load off of your Slave, you can overload someone with to much responsibility causing a crash. Most think of a Slave as a house keeper, cook, and then sex.

Under the right circumstances I may at some point consider another Slave, I just cannot think of a valid reason. I get anything I want and then some. I take up some of the slack at times, I cook sometimes, I try to pickup behind myself. It is not Arianna place to pick up my socks. I am not even sure if Arianna brought up the idea I would be open to the subject.

So the Dom wants to add another, you know a M’s relationship is much different than a vanilla. A Dom get a M’s relationship gets anything they want without question. Pussy is Pussy, Ass is Ass.

If one Slave was going to be used for more service taking a load off of your Slave that may be somewhat different, in that sense that just might be a relief to your Slave, but to bring one in just because you need more flavor, you could really fuck up a good thing. You can yell and scream all you want as they are walking out the door, then your back to square one. You still only have one slave.

I am not even sure if I would want the responsibility of two, one is really a handful then to add another I just don’t know like I said the circumstances would have to be right, and I do not know what would change my mind.

You like watching girl on girl, yea nothing hotter than watching a chick go down on another, while my slave is really not into women if it was something I wanted she would, but why would I want to force something that is not really wanted.

If you do want to add another, it is up to the Dom to find another Slave not your Slave. The Dom should take on this task. In personal adds you see Doms looking for another but in his post he has pics of his Slave. Very very tacky.

Meeting the second should not be about sex. You should allow the two to get to know each other, become friends, hangouts , shop together. It is very important the two get along.

If all three agree to such a relationship you sit down and talk about how things are going to be. This sounds harsh but needs to be said. You are number two, you will always be number two nothing will change that, if you try to come between you are on the outside looking in. Then and only then if the third agrees you can step forward.

If your current Slave works full time and your wanting to take some weight off of their shoulders that could be a valid reason, or you as the Dom could step up and give a helping hand.

On the other side what if your Slave who is female wanted another male to become the third, the Dom would go nuts. There is noway he would allow such a thing, but we tend to look at things one sided.

Think very hard before adding a third, you could fuck up a good thing or it could be awesome. Do you want to take that chance.

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Vile

In Service Slave

Posted in 24/7, bdsm, Beatings, Dominants, In Service Slave, oral, oral sex, relationships, session, sex, sex slaves, slave, Spanking, submissive on July 17, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

BDSM has so many levels and kinks I seriously doubt I could explain everyone of them. If you were to look at it like a family tree you could not count the branches.  Although BDSM has been around for Hundred’s of years maybe longer dating back to the Romans, the Viking era, there has always been service slaves.

A Slave who is truly willing gives up all rights, makes no decisions, and is loyal to one, the Slaves Owner. That is really heavy if you think about it.

Now before you go judging I stated above that there are many different levels of BDSM, many different kinks, and fetishes. I may not understand the dynamics of someones relationship but I respect what they have.

Some have little to no rules, some have no protocol at all. To some it is just about sex and nothing more. To some it is about sneaking out while the spouse is at home and hooking up with another to get your kinks on.

Then there is the other side. The strict, the rules, the protocols. to some these are needs not wants. I run my life off of a need system, once my needs are met then I look into my wants. I want a 1978 Camaro Z28 with a 4 speed, but it is not a need. We did need new transportation so we bought Arianna a new car, that was a need. She drives it daily I do not, but when I drive it I do have fun the Fiat 500 is an awesome car. That was a need, I was looking out for Arianna.

We have rules that are followed, we have times certain things are done, bath time, bedtime , getting up and so on. Everything I have put into place has a purpose, nothing is meaningless.

I handle everything without question, that is what I agreed to do, Somethings are on a need to know basis. Our house runs smoothly, no arguing , no drama, no stress. It is my job as a Husband and Master to insure all of the above goes as planned. On my days off I take Arianna out, maybe to eat, a local munch, we went to a few night clubs a couple of weeks ago, but when I am off I take care of her needs. Now this is on top of my work, I work at 50+ hour week, so I do get tired.

An In Service Slave in my house is mainly sexual, some bondage, light play spanking, cage time which Arianna loves, so using the cage for punishment is out of the question.

Before Arianna met me she had been with a few other Dominants, all were based on not only stress, but consisted of some kind of pain, be it punishment or just play. One time Arianna was bruised so bad it was about two weeks before everything cleared up.

So we take out the pain aspect of the D’s and M’s part of the relationship. I have spanked Arianna once. Spanking is not something I normally do as a form of punishment, but I wanted her to know it is there for my use. I can tell you she did not enjoy at all.

I call it in service, I do help out around the house, I do a lot of the cooking, I am not much on laundry but if I see Arianna is getting over loaded, I will step in. My coffee is ready in the am with my cup in place I hit the button. Once done I prepare two cups one for me one for Arianna. my Dinner is placed before me. She does not start to eat until I have taking the first bite.

Sex when and how I want it, although I love head I seldom have to ask, because she is the first to ask. Arianna sleeps nude just for that purpose. If I wake and want to hit it, to just get off that is what I do.

When it comes to sex the word no never comes out of her mouth, it is for my taking when and where I desire. After I shower I am dried off. I like that, that was not something I requested she just did it. While I am in the shower Arianna kneels by the tube, again this was something she felt she had to do.

If you are true the slave just comes out, without thinking. You as a slave or submissive , you already know what to do it is just being allowed to be yourself.

This type of relationship works for some, while some it does not

If those of you who are submissive could truly learn to release everything and give yourself fully. Your relationship would be so much different. I am not saying this is for everyone because it is not. To experience total bliss and not having a worry in the world all things would be good.

To be able to release to give yourself 100% knowing the one your with is going to take care of you and only you. What more could one ask for?

Vile