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Slave Contracts When They Can Be Broken

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Slave Contracts are used by two types of Dominants or Masters.
Those with no experience and they are trying to show their authority, and by those who are into extreme ownership.

Contract are used at times to intimidate someone , this happens when you have someone new who knows nothing about the lifestyle. After the signing they do get a different feeling, but it depends on how the slave is being treated. If abused then the slave will feel trapped.
Please refer to the Red Flag post.
If they are being treated as promised, then a great feeling of security. The feeling of being wanted and needed, everything is provided.

The novice Master quickly loses control of reality , now he is in charge, he now owns someone, he now has property. He can now do what ever he sees fit, without caring about someones feelings or emotions, or what the toll is doing to someone.
There is a huge difference between someone who is in control and someone who is controlling, we all know that but when your playing with someones life, it can get pretty bad, on a emotional level.

So as a Slave you do have certain rights , if you singed a contract, in the contract the Master said he would take care of you, Physically and Emotionally . If all of your needs are not being met you have the right to void the contract.
I found this below and I wanted to share

Bea Amor, Yahoo Contributor Network
Sep 18, 2008

You have the right to feel safe.

You have this right irrespective or whether you are submissive or slave. You have the choice as a slave to choose someone who will make you feel safe as this is your sole choice and you need never be in a position where fear is all you know. If you are, this means you have no one to blame but yourself for not choosing the right dominant and for not leaving when you find that this is his or her style of dominance. If you are in a position where you are being held against your will, you need to find a way of escape or indicating distress at the first available opportunity.

You have the right to your emotions and feelings.

As a Slave you have a right to your own feelings and to express them. It does not matter whether they are positive or negative, they need to be discussed whenever they happen for you. Submission does not work in the absence of communication. As a slave you have no right to withhold this from your master or mistress. That person cannot control your life and make good decisions that will not harm you if you do not share the feelings you are feeling.

You have the right to expect happiness in life.

Remember that you chose this lifestyle because you weren’t happy with people who did not know how to handle your submission? Remember that you discovered great joy when you found out that you are not just needy or codependent? You have the right to enjoy this lifestyle and feel all the joy you are getting. It took guts to admit your submission and you are allowed to pick the fruits of honesty.

You have the right to have input in a relationship.

You have the right to communicate openly and honestly and to have say in any relationship – a relationship by definition is a two way street and should never be one sided. You need to make sure that you make your needs known and that you make sure that you are always present in the relationship. Slaves also have this right but they exercise the right when they choose a dominant or master or mistress. Your needs, desires and wants should be discussed in detail before any collar is placed around your neck.

You have the right to belong.

As a Slave you finally can exercise this right. You are now in a family of people who feel the same way you do and who understand who and what you are. You will belong to that special dominant soon or may already belong to someone. Slaves and Slave alike both have that right.

You have the right to be loved and to love.

You have the right to be loved for your submission and to love the person who will control your life and use you to serve them. Love is something that happens in most D/s relationships contrary to what you might have heard. Love also makes you submission bloom. Remember that slaves sometimes have different ideas of what love looks like. They might want someone who humiliates and hurts them and does objectify them. To them that might show love. Never look down on what others perceive as love and celebrate the differences.

You have the right to be healthy.

I would love to change this to you have a duty to be healthy. Health is a requirement for slaves and this is not negotiable. You have to make sure that you are in a healthy relationship and that you do not get abused. If you are, the entire community will rally to your aid should you request it.public

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The Baby Girl Syndrome

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Rules, cheating, Cheating Dominant, commitment, communication, controlling, Depressed, Discipline, Dominance Through Intimidation, FaceBook, fetlife, https://www.facebook.com/vile62, Keeping submissive Isolated, Submission, submissive with tags on July 12, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I know everyone believes I have it out for baby girls , the truth is I feel for many of you, and this is just by reading different blogs and those I have met in real life.

I myself was a Daddy Dom for seven years, but I was not married and I lived with my Baby Girl. She did not even put gas in her own car, that was my job.

I know of One Daddy Dom and Baby Girl who are in a true committed relationship, and that would be SouthernSir and Kayla Lords. They found each other and made that move. They both made a commitment.. I do believe I left out the Powerful Batman and Bat woman who is in the process of having triplets I think it is.

If you think about it , when most of you met your Daddy, he told you that you were a baby girl, he told you that you were a little, and he gave you reasons why. This is not the case with all, but for the most it is true.

Now why would one want to label you as a baby Girl, or a little ? Why would a Daddy Dom want to use those terms, and go into explaining why you are?

There is less responsibility , you have very few rules if any, you have no protocols, and your giving no structure. Many men would fine this to be the perfect way to go, because he has no responsibility.

So one the upside for him, he gets to see you once or twice a month, most of the time in a Motel room if your lucky you will spend the night with your Daddy, or you may just get a couple of hours, of just fucking, then he is on his way again.

You do get a few text a day, very seldom an email. You are not on any of his social sites, like FaceBook, Fetlife, Twitter, so no one knows about you except him, and your other Baby Girls you bitch to.

Here we go again , most Daddy Doms are married. He is seeing you because there is something you will do his wife will not. Maybe they have lost that communication, it can be a number of things, going through his Mid-Life Crisis..

Maybe the midlife crisis has drawn the new Daddy into kink , maybe he has a few buddies who told him about the lifestyle.

The truth is many men do not know how to communicate with their wife, or they feel ashamed to put their wife through such kink, or they may not even know how to approach the subject.

If your Daddy is Married , you are being used. He is not going to leave his wife and kids, he is not going to lose his home being middle aged. If you think he is going to start his life over, you have a lot of thinking to do.
If your friends are telling you the same thing your reading then you are not in the right place.

The Fake Daddy Dom will play on your feelings, he will tell you he understands, he will tall you he will make everything better, but in fact he does not. He will drag you along as long as you are willing, until you have figured out you have been had.

You are just for use nothing more, your a piece of ass, if he is even fucking you. More than likely you spend more time on your knees sucking cock.

Then he starts to Isolate you, making you drop your friends, your family,
He wants access to all of your accounts, your email, facebook, twitter, everything. Once your are completely Isolated he then can tell you anything and you only have his words to go by.

If you are not getting the full experience of what a Daddy, Baby Girl relationship is suppose to be about, you are missing out on so much.
You are young you have your whole life in front of you, why waste it?

Do you not think it is funny not one has stepped up to the plate to defend himself, not one. I find that odd.

The outcome just depends on how much of your life do you want to waste.

daddy girl

Vile

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life

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I use the word Submissive because I think Slaves are becoming harder and harder to find, maybe we should get congress to put Slaves on the endangered list.

What is it you want out of life ? Where do you see yourself a month from now ? Where do you see yourself 6months from now? Where do you see yourself 5 years from now ?

Many who are submissive spend more time jumping from Dom to Dom, and if you continue you will never build anything. You spend 5 % of your time struggling trying to hold the relationship together hoping things will get better, then you spend the other 95% sucking cock or on your back. Still hoping things will get better.

I cannot even begin to imagine what goes through your minds when your in a bad relationship and your being used. Being used is just not about sex, but when it comes to sex I still cannot imagine what goes through your mind while your being fucked.

The problem you are having is you have no plan in place. You really do not have a clue what to expect once you open the door to BDSM. Then you instantly believe what your told. You are kelp isolated from the world. You hear the words of one person. Again I cannot imagine how you would feel being so alone and isolated from the world, even more while being in an abusive relationship.

You have no plan at all , you have no questions, even if you do your to scared to ask. Your to scared to question a Dom when you have not even agreed to submit. Your to afraid to question him in fear he will reject you, and I know rejection is a mother fucker. Being rejected makes you feel like you have walked off the edge of the world and your just falling. The truth is sometimes falling is much better than going through a bunch of bullshit you have no control over. Then you spend days, weeks and months crying over some dickhead who abused you for 6 months to a year.

What kind of life do you want to live as a submissive? I am sure you all have some sort of idea , I am sure you all have a clear picture in your head. I am sure you have thoughts about how you want to be treated. If you have this idea or this picture, or you have needs, why would you let someone destroy your dream, because you believe he is the only one?

Those who are real will encourage you to make friends in the community. Those who are real will take you to local functions. Those who are real and have been in the lifestyle for a reasonable amount of time will introduce you to other Dominants. Introducing you to other Dominants is a need. Every Dominant wants to show off his property. Other Dominants are proud of their property.

From the time you agree to be someones submissive, your training will start. The Dominant may tell you it has started but you will never heard the words training is complete because it really is never over. We learn and grow daily.

The Dominant already has a plan he already knows what he is going to do , he already knows what he is going to implement and what he is not. Training does take a little time, because what worked with the last submissive may not work with you. This is the getting to know each other time.

You cannot enter a D’s or M’s relationship without some type of plan. Before you agree to enter such a relationship, you need to share your plan, you need to make sure both of you are on the same page.  If the Dominant cannot agree to your terms when it comes to submission just simply say thank you, and you move on.

You never want to be a Dominants first, your just an experiment and you will be in a short lived relationship, not to mention he really has no clue as far as knowing what he is doing…. In my opinion it takes three to five years to have a good understanding when it comes to being in a D;s or M’s relationship , but many of the Fifty Shades guys have it pinned down when they set the book down.

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life ?

It is unfortunate if your new because your going to believe everything your told. Being new makes you very gullible , being new makes you an easy target. Even when there are warning signs you ignore them because you think your in a perfect world. Your blind, you do not see anything, nor do you want to. Your so infatuated your blind to warning signs.

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life ?

 

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