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Who Is Vile

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Discipline, Dominant, emotional, Korea, Korean, owning a slave, slave, Slave Onwer, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , on June 12, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

First let me say I am against abuse in any form when it comes to a woman. Many of you are being abused and you do not even have a clue. If you are being abuse be it physical or mental, even verbally then get out and seek help.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm

My relationship with my wife and slave is purely consensual , it is a lifestyle Arianna longs and lives for.  As each day passes our love continues to grow stronger . Arianna has a craving for submission, she would be the happiest living in total solitude.

I live a strictly M’s lifestyle , there is no negotiations, none. I run a very strict home. I have rules and protocols that are followed.  The rules that are in place are not sexual, and I highly disagree with those Dominants who use rules in a sexual manner. Rules are meant to help, rules are meant to provide structure, security, and help with everyday living. I have tried to lives a D’s lifestyle more than once and neither worked out. A submissive submits on their terms, in my house it is on my terms. Above, I spoke about anger issues when I was younger. Anger issues or a temper has no place in the lifestyle. I have never raised my voice towards Arianna nor have I ever left a mark. As Far as the M’s part goes, I am more into the Discipline part . In my life I need structure. I need to have a plan, a daily plan. We, Arianna and I, live a drama free life. We have no problems. I take care of things before they become problems.

I was in Germany when I met Gretchen she was 19 long blonde hair, one night after fucking, she said I was gemein and when translated you get the word Vile. Gretchen had this goth look about her, corsets, micro mini skirts and boots that kiss would wear. I just wanted to share where I got the name Vile. I will probably ramble on a bit before I get into anything.

In the past I have posted a little about who I am but I never have gotten into any great detail. I have been into the lifestyle for longer than I can remember, dating back into my teens, before I even knew what BDSM was all about. Even in my teens, I had the need to be in control.

I grew up in a very small town in Northern Georgia. My 8th grade class had 23 people in our graduation. Going into high school it was somewhat bigger with only about a thousand kids in the but 9th, 10th, 11th, and 12th grade combined. So, compared to today’s school it was small. I played baseball in elementary and high school. I was a relief pitcher. I was only good for 2 or 3 innings due to my side arm throw.  At the age of 16, I was throwing 86 MPH so after a few innings my elbow would swell.

I was popular with most of the guys, but I cannot say the same about the girls , due to my sexual behavior. At that age I enjoyed bondage, face fucking, and anal. I was game for pretty much anything. It was a control thing. This was about the time I was fucking Beverly, our school whore. I cannot really say she was a whore. She just liked to fuck, and she would let you fuck any hole.

I caught onto life pretty fast as I grew up in an abusive home. Both parents were addicted to pain medications and, of course, alcohol. The one thing I learned on a daily basis is that I was not going to be like them. To this day I could never figure out why they argued. My real mother has since past but my father is still living and we have somewhat of a good relationship. I have one brother who just turned 46, and by the way, I am 51. Him and I talk often but have only seen each other maybe 3 or 4 times in the past 15 years.

I have never really been into drugs although as a teen I tried to smoke all the pot in the world but they just grew more, so I lost that battle. I have never done any hard drugs such as cocaine.  I am not big on pills but I do have a drink from time to time. Every now and then I will get sideways but that is far and few.

I learned about the lifestyle shortly after I joined the Army and was stationed in Korea, and even then I just happened to stumble into it. I was introduced to an old man named Kim who lived with 5 slaves. I met Kim through a korean solider whose name was Kim as well. In Korea they are called Katusas. There they were paid what was then about six dollars a month and they sent half of that home. So I would help Kim out with smokes and take him out for beers. In time, we grew really close. One night he invited me out and we went to a small theater. There were about 100 seats, maybe less. It was an actual BDSM show live on stage.  I was then hooked, something just clicked.

There is a huge difference in the lifestyle in Korea than in the US. In Korea, a Slave would have nothing to do with a Dominant or a Master unless she knew who trained you. Since the lifestyle in Asia is so underground, it is probably still the same. There are no submissives or baby girls. There were Slaves. The older Kim taught me a lot, how to communicate, how to control my temper through meditation, how to listen, but more so, how to read people. Reading people is truly an art. That short time I spent in Korea I learned more than I truly knew, and it would take only a short time to put the things I learned to good use.

Once back in the states, I was still young and dumb, but I had a couple of things on my side. I no longer had a temper. I was very calm and I knew how to get into someones head. All of the sex, face fucking, and ass fucking meant nothing but now I had a weapon that was very effective.

So for many years I spent most of my time just using people. I would get what I wanted and just toss to the side and look for the next. This went on for a number of years. To me a long term relationship was a three day weekend, much more past that and I became bored.

One thing I did learn from an early age, and it can be good and bad,  was learning to speak my mind. If I thought it, I said it. Another thing I learned was to observe people. I am a people watcher. What I learned from watching people is how I did not want to live.

So I have had several long term relationships but have only been in what I would call love, maybe 3 times in my 51 years. That is not a very good track record. In between, up until a couple of years ago, there were a couple of times I settled for less than what I needed and wanted, knowing it was not going to work but I am human. All I cared about was having a steady piece of ass when I wanted it.

How you see me here, is me. I do not change. I am the same at home, in public, at work or at a local munch. I am me and I never try to be someone I am not. I live by the truth and the truth only.

I remember several years ago, and this is what hit me, I was at a Chinese buffet with a friend, Animel, and another friend showed up with a date.  When he said, “Hey Vile, whats up?, I asked them to sit down and join us. His date was just staring at me. When she finally asked if I use to live in such and such apartments,  I said yes. She actually started trembling and told her date she wanted to leave. She was truly scared of me. On my way home Animel and I were laughing at her, but once home I mixed a jack and coke and I stood outside on the river bank, where I started thinking. Wow, if she was scared of me, just how many more feel the same way. Then it hit me, being feared is nothing to be proud of. That was not what I wanted to be known as. So, I put a plan together and I was going on a Vile clean up campaign. I was going to be my own public relations manger. I was going to clean the story of Vile up.

I became more active in the community. I started doing a lot of speaking, dating more, changing up my way of playing, putting my sadistic nature to the side, and before I knew it I was back in the game. I was back in the hunt. I was no longer feared, I was very respected in the community, and today even more so.  So a year later, standing outside looking over the river, drinking a jack and coke, I thought to myself, well done Vile you did the impossible.

I was still missing something though, and I could not put my finger on it. Then one day, I was at Bush Gardens and I saw all of these families walking by with kids and I said, that is it man, you need a wife and a kid. So off I went, 3 months later I was married and a short time after she was pregnant. We lost our first son to a heart transplant at the young age of 18 days. By this time, I had enough of the vanilla life and I had to get back to being me, and then, wow she was pregnant again. So I stuck it out for another 5.5 years then I finally had to come clean about who and what I was.

Now I was married for nine years to the most vanilla woman in the world, the sex was horrible, she could not suck a dick to save her life, and no ass fucking. I said, you are killing me here. So after I came clean, she agreed to let me move a Slave in, yea baby , but she was only an in service slave, NO SEX. My ex-wife was a horrible house keeper, she could not cook and clutter was everywhere. So, I moved this bitch in and immediately she went to work. A week later and there was a spotless house, meals cooked every night, my lunch packed and kids off to school.  This was the life. So my ex gets jealous and says you both have to go. Let me think, okay I am out of here. I told the slave, hey its been nice, love ya now go back home.

I have a very good relationship with my Ex wife, there is no drama, Arianna and her get along good, my son also likes Arianna. So now, life is good.

So here i am, I am me, this is who I am. If I were to try and be something different, what would people who read this think of me. I tell the truth , I live by the truth.

Many have asked for advice and when I tell them what they do not want to hear, most get mad. If I told everyone what they wanted to hear where would that get you ? I do not want you to agree with everything I write, or the way I believe, or the way I think. My writing is subjective and I want to make you think.

Much of my writing is about safety, okay so Ive had a change of heart over the past several years. I speak on safety because you, as a submissive or slave, can get fucked up. You can get hurt and hurt bad. Most do not think before entering a relationship, more so the new who are entering the lifestyle. You do not listen until it is to late. You want what you want and you want it now. It does not work that way.

So the next morning when you wake up and your bruised from head to toe, or something is broken, you can think back, yea Vile told me, and I did not listen. Bondage is no game and if you get some dude that does not have a clue to what he is doing, you just may not wake up the next morning.

Most new Doms are into hard impact play. Again, if he does not know what he is doing he could break something, or even worse while spanking, he hits to high and to hard, you could lose a kidney. BDSM is not a game, you can get fucked up. In Bondage there are many no’s. You can damage tendons if tied to tight. Remember that when you meet a Dom for the first time and he brings his little travel bag and he is totally clueless about what he is going to do. Yea take his word when he says, “oh, I have been in the lifestyle for 20 years”. Are you really going to take his word ?

The first thing I did when Arianna and I agreed to enter a relationship, was to introduce her to people I knew in the lifestyle. People I had known for years. There is nothing like the feeling of being safe. Keeping your girls safe is what the majority of my writing is about, it is up to you if you listen or not. Again, why do you think that over 95% of the 440+ followers of my blog are women and there are so few men? I am not here to put other Doms or Masters down. I am not here to say I am better than your Master, because I am not. We all have our own way of living.

Being a Submissive or Slave is not about being on your hands and knees scrubbing the floor, doing laundry , cooking or cleaning house. Being a Slave is not about being passed around like a dog, unless that is your kink, if so, then go with the flow. Being a Slave does not mean your stupid or you cannot think on your own. You are human, but a Human with different needs. Slaves are needy for the most as with those who are submissive. You should not have to change who you are. I like needy myself, I like my Bitch to hang all over me. If your Master excepted you the way you were then he should not try and change you.

I share things because I want you to see what kind of relationship you can have, a relationship filled with love and respect. A relationship where you are cared for. A relationship filled with communication, then you add all of the kink. You do not have to put up with drama, you do not have to put up with lies , you do not have to put up with abuse or arguing. The list goes on and on. Before a Slave or Submissive, you are a human. You have feelings. You have needs and they should be met. If they are no,t speak your mind and if things do not change, fucking leave.

Why would a Master argue with his Slave? Who is in charge at this point? Why would you allow a Master to Slap you around, degrade you, humiliate you in anger, call you names out of anger. Why would you allow such things? You as a slave or submissive have the right to be happy and treated with respect. You do not need someones drama brought into your life nor should you bring your drama with you.

I put a lot of work into my relationship, 25 hours a day, 8 days a week, 366 days a year. I take care of mine and only mine. I am there through good and bad. I am there when Arianna gets emotional . My time is dedicated to her and only her. I am not looking to add to my house. Because I get anything I want when I want.  She would never think of saying NO. Be it sucking my cock, fucking , anal anything. Why ? Because I go above and beyond to insure she is taking care of. She knows that not matter what she comes first. That is the way it should be.

Be who and what you are, and make sure your Master does the same.

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Giving Up Total Control

Posted in 24/7, Adapt, Arianna, bdsm, Being fucked, being used, blow job, Chained to the floor, Change, communication, Conform, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Daddy Dom, Dress Protocol, fucking, Korea, Lie, MAST, Master, Molding, pleasure, Private Protocol, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, slave, Slave no rights, Structure, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, surrender, Thailand, The Master should adapt, The slave must adapt, Total Slavery, TPE, Train your slave, training your slave on December 29, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am not sure if a Submissive is capable of giving up full control, I know a Bottom would not think about doing so. I do think under the right circumstances a Submissive could cross that line into the Slave hood.

I have lived with a few Submissive’s the relationships I knew were not going to work. It was mainly to fill a void at that moment and time. We all need someone, and at times we make mistakes by settling for less.

Maybe if I wanted to really invest time while I was with a submissive things may have turned out different, but I was not feeling that interject. Although you can train someone to fit your needs, if the other is willing.

Once I put my foot down and finely came to realize that I needed more. I stopped fucking around. I cannot tell you how many Slaves or who thought they were Slaves I met. You can tell after the first ten minutes or so if your going to click. Okay we are not clicking so what do I take her home, fuck her and send her on her way, nah we will finish dinner then say hey it was great but lets just stay friends. This is how I programmed my mind. I refused to settle for less . I was going to find the one.

A Submissive or Bottom has the right to say no, and the Dominant has to respect that word. After all his partner is just a submissive and not a Slave. The word NO is not in Arianna’s vocabulary , although she does have the right to speak up when she has a concern and I do value her opinion.

A couple of months ago I was talking to this Daddy Dom at a local Mast group, this is when he told me he was not the type of Dom she needed. He said she was way to needy. I said welcome to the world of BDSM buddy.

Most who are Submissive or Slaves are needy, very needy. This is something you have to except if you wish to be in a relationship. Being needy is not a bad thing nor does it make you any less of a woman. Finding the right one who is able to be there and fill that gap is important.

Just as I told this Daddy Dom, if you really care about your submissive, then you should be able to Adapt. If you really care then you should be able to fill that void. Well she is into pain and I am not. Again if you really care you as a Dominant should want and be able to adapt. You must be willing to put as much into the relationship as your submissive is, if not you will fail.

Think about being a Slave, A Slave who has been looking for sometime, and just running into road blocks, making the wrong connections. I know myself even as a Dominant I would of felt pretty lost, I did while living with those who I was not really into, a very lost feeling.

So a Slave enters her new Masters Home, sits her bad by the door, her life is about to change and change forever. As soon as she closed that door behind her she left all rights on the other side. The slave no longer has any say so. The slave can no longer watch TV when she wants to, cannot shower until told. Told what to wear, Told where she is allowed to sit or where to stand. What time to go to bed. Your sitting at the table working out the final details of what it is going to be like and what is expected. Either you agree or you pick your bag up and walk back out

Most of the time I let Arianna prepare dinner, she will tell me what she wants to cook, although I do not complain about food, because while in Korea and Thailand I ate some pretty fucked up shit, so nothing really taste bad. I may change mine up from time to time. The other night Arianna wanted chicken breast, fine you bake yours I want mine fried. No questions, no buts that is how it was prepared.

I cannot even imagine how a Slave feels once she walks through that door and closes it. The Slave now has to adapt to her new Masters ways. The Slave has to Adapt to rules, Protocols. The slave has to adapt to a brand new environment.

She asked me how will I know what to do. My answer was just watch, listen and observe, and do exactly what your told. I also told her I want you to be able to anticipate my needs, that was a statement she did not understand. She worried about it for months, but everything just fell into place. Today I seldom have to ask for anything because it is already done for me. Watching and Observing.

One of the first things I did was introduce her to people I knew in the lifestyle, as a reference, as I told her from the beginning I would. After that I cut off all the outside world except for her work and family. The trained had begun. Eight months Arianna was not even allowed on the furniture, eight months. Something I need to more often that I did before was feed her. have her set on the floor at the table and feed her as I eat. She loves that feeling, or more so being chained to the table while eating.

Anticipating my needs. I ask Arianna what are you thinking about I do several times a day. I want to know where her thoughts are. A lot of the time she will reply sucking your cock.

Anticipating my needs, my night clothes are out when I get home, water by my bed. drying me off when I step out of the shower. Filling my glass without having to ask. Spreading when told to, it is about my needs.

I was drinking coffee the other day at the kitchen table and I got to thinking I have this fine ass bitch sleeping naked in my bed, I need to hit that. I walked in undressed, crawled on top spread her legs fucked her dumped my load and got off, and she loved it, she loved the fact that I just came in and used her for my pleasure.

Arianna is needy probably the neediest slave I have ever met, but I get so much in return The word needy never really crosses my mind. I knew she was needy when I first met her, I knew she needed to be micromanaged when I first met her. I knew everything upfront, I excepted her and I knew I had to follow through.

I cannot imagine what a Slave would feel like once that door closed. It has to be pretty scary. A very lost feeling, very unsure. I am not sure at what point the reality kicks in, I have never asked arianna that question.

Us as the Dominant there are only a few things we need to do, to make sure the relationship grows. We must stay honest, we must live by the truth, but most of all stay consistent , and we must follow through with what we say. If we do those few things and we stay in line. The Slave will follow, the Slave will drop to their knees without question, the slave will spread without question.

It took sometime for Arianna to stop second guessing me, to stop worrying about things. Today things have change for the most, at times she still wants to second guess, she still worries, I cannot change that so its on her, but I have seen a vast improvement.

Trust does not happen over night, it takes time to build. I am not talking a week a month maybe not even six months. I would imagine it would depend on how many times the slave has been burnt. Trust is everything.

Last but not least. The slave has to know there are consequences to their actions. The slave also has to know you will follow through with any punishment. If you do not follow through as you stated, you the Dominant will begin to lose control, once you lose that control. Kick the dirt and move on because you will not be able to regain.

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Country’s who have Visited Today. I broke the 25K Mark

Posted in Australia, bdsm, Countries that viewed my blog today, Korea, Norway, Poland, Russia, Russian Federation, Spain, Switzerland, Turkey, United Kingdom, United States on November 5, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile
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United States FlagUnited States 80 I just love women, although it would be nice to find the one.
Poland FlagPoland 10 Polish chicks are hot as well
United Kingdom FlagUnited Kingdom 8 Love the accents as well
Russian Federation FlagRussian Federation 5 I really dig russian chicks.
Australia FlagAustralia 5 Aussi women are hot.
Spain FlagSpain 4 I love Spanish women.
Korea, Republic of FlagRepublic of Korea 1 My daily visitor from Korea, Hmm
Turkey FlagTurkey 1. I wonder what BDSM is like in such a conservative country.
Norway FlagNorway 1 i love their accents
Switzerland FlagSwitzerland 1. Use to produce some of the best porn.

I still may plan a Trip to the Philippines

Posted in bdsm, Filipino, kinky, Korea, Philippines, slave, submissive, Thailand on September 16, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

While I am seeing someone right now, we both know it will not be a long term relationship. We also have an understanding, that we can see each other until I find a permanent long term relationship. While at this point and time I am not looking, one never knows.

I have been to the Philippines twice, my first time was in the early 80’s when the Navy base was still open in Subic Bay. I flew out of Korea to the Philippines, and stayed on base for next to nothing. At that age is was nothing but sex, nothing more. I was just getting into the lifestyle, but had not yet learned the proper name for it.

The biggest problem was the language Barrier. While english is more so the second language , our english is much different, so if you ask a girl is she is submissive chances are she will just look at you or say yes she is not knowing really what you are talking about.

I love Cebu, the beaches are incredible, the fishing is awesome. The people are extremely nice, and caring, and willing to bend over backwards to help.

Manila is a mess way crowded very busy, and to ride in a jeepney is a scary fucking experience , much better if you have been drinking, but the cheapest transportation for the money.

I have been to Angeles this is the RIO DE JANEIRO of Asia. Santos st is the red light district of Angeles. You cannot visit every club in one day, and no matter your fetish, you will find without a problem. Although Now I am not really into the bar scene , I do enjoy going and having a drink and just watching the show.

One thing I cannot stress enough, is that if you are a submissive’s or slaves first Dominant, chances are the sub or slave will move on in a year or so, simply because you were just a stepping stone. The sub or slave will have the need to grow inside and out. I have seen relationships last in the lifestyle but those are far and few.

Over the years I have learned it is good to be cautious about sharing feelings or getting to close. The last slave I was seeing Lyn. when I told her we were done, she came back with, is it really that easy for you. The answer yup, that simple, while I enjoyed her company in and out of the bedroom, I did not allow myself to develop any real feelings. One I knew it would not last, and two I have a real trust issue, no I am not insecure, but in today’s fast pace life finding that loyal one is a real challenge. So yes I can drop you in a heart beat and not give it a second thought.

While I do prefer Asian women I have dated and been in relationships with others Bea and I were together for seven yrs, the same with Chong about 5 years, while I was not in love with chong I had very deep feelings, and she was loyal to a T even being a dancer, and you had better not have anything bad to say about me. While I was not in love, I feel I could have been, at some point and time. We lived in a poly relationship for a couple of years, but beth got stupid, and when it come down to making a choice it was clear. Chong was number one, there always has to be a number one, and you cannot take sides, unless one really gets out of hand. Many time the Number two will try and play the dominant against number one, some fall for it, while other catch on pretty fast.

I have been to Thailand, and there are BDSM clubs more so in Pattaya,The  Keep Clubis very nice. and Bangkok. The difference being it is not about feelings, no connection, no emotions. Which is what I need .now.

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While in the Philippines there are fetish clubs mostly escort services, which is not my thing at all.

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It has been my goal to meet someone prior to my trip, but I have again found the language barrier to be a bit of a task.

While I had been speaking with a girl who lives in Angeles, once we got into our likes and I tried translating from english to Tagalog , it did not turn out to well. We are still friends , but could never be more.

So I am just thinking at this point, reason being you have to meet someone, or it is a good idea, if you decide you may want to bring someone back to the states, you have to be able to show proof you know each other, through emails and phone conversations.

So if you are a single male and you have never been to the Philippines, it is a destination you should plan to make, you can stay in a very nice hotel for around 19.00 a night.

My last trip I think I had a thousand dollars me on, I stayed 14 days and came home with one fifty, not to shabby. That was transportation, lodging, eating, drinking and titty bars…

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As you can see in the photos unlike here in the US You can see the girls have to have their health cards on them at all times. They all get weekly health checks. So if your really into the bar scene, this is what to look for.

Myself I prefer the malls, and movie theaters, both very good places to score. at the food court in a mall, just order some food sit down, and in just a few minutes you will have company. This does not mean your going to get laid, but you can certainly be on your way.

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A lot of men who travel to the Philippines see the women as easy targets, and that is not the case..If your just looking for sex, hit the bars up, you will not be sorry.

So I am still thinking, I do receive emails from women in the Philippines but it is mainly for advice, they already have a partner, but just wanting to spice things up.

It is my full intention to find a partner a slave and a wife.

Vile