Okay maybe just maybe I am one sided when it comes to Arianna, I myself believe she is the perfect slave. Very polite, well mannered, public or private, and most of all acts and speaks like a woman, but there are other things that stand out.
I am not just speaking of the oral skills or when she is on top, throwing sex aside, although I love to fuck, sex does not make the relationship go around.
You can truly tell when someone really cares about you. Like listening when your talking, really paying attention, just doing little things without being told to. Taking an interest in the things you like, and having the need to please.
Everyday the question comes up, is there anything I can do for you master. The need to please. A couple of months ago I made a comment about how I loved cigars and Jack Daniels. Arriving home after a very hot day at work I sit down, and to my amazement there was a small bottle of jack and a very dark Arturo Fuente cigar and a small bottle of Jack, pure heaven.
A very dear friend of Arianna’s went to Louisiana a while back, do not quote me but there is a Tabasco sauce plant there I believe that is where her friend went, anyway she gave up a bottle of raspberry Chipotle sauce. Out of this fucking world, I put it on everything, eggs , burgers, hot dogs, everything. I suppose I will have to take a trip to Louisiana so I can pick up a case, I cannot find it here in Florida.
So this am Arianna is at work I have to be at work at noon, so I decided to make a couple of sandwiches, I open the fridge, and the chicken is sliced chicken with Chipotle flavor, I grab the cheese and the cheese is Chipotle as well.
I did not even have to ask, this is what I mean about caring, you can tell, again setting sex aside, it is the small things that add up to large things.
Every morning I wake, the coffee pot is ready, my cup sitting next to the pot with a spoon, and sugar, everything is prepared.
Now it works both ways, we as Dominants have to take care of ours, we take the extra mile if you will. There are some vanilla relationship with the same quality’s not many but there are some.
We are there when they need us, to talk, listen, through good times and bad times. We are there when times are hard, when they are emotional. The Slave or Submissive knows they have someone to turn to.
Arianna does not do well with praise, but I do on a daily basis, I make sure I mention the small things that are done. Everyday a list is made out that she has to complete, I do check by the way. I praise her positive reinforcement You cannot just take and take and make it one sided at times it has to go both ways.
We all seek perfection, in a D’s relationship a Slave will strive for perfection, and the worse punishment there is, is when the slave has done something wrong. I cannot imagine the feeling. I know if I make a mistake, or do something wrong I just shrug it off, and keep on walking. I am not an emotional man.
Even when stressed I do not show it. We have had a lot going on this past month, and I had a feeling things were not going to work out with somethings that had popped up, so I arrived home getting ready to take a shower, and I was broke out in hives, very bad, and I stayed broke out for almost two weeks. I did not even realize how stressed I was. I just stayed on what I thought was the correct path, and everything just fell into place.
That is what I try to tell people, if your doing something, do it by the book, if you try to take shortcuts it will fuck you up every time, then you blame someone else for your own blunder.
Arianna is the perfect partner, best friend, soon to be wife, and last but not least the perfect Slave. She gives 100% without question. She gives without being asked or told, she does truly listen, and most of all she cares.
I will be posting wedding pictures on my Face Book sometime next week, so those who are members of the BDSM Corner will be able to see.
Much Love To All