Here is a question that was asked and I will answer it to the best of my knowledge.
I am going to play Dr. Vile this am, a nastier version of Dr. Phil. Hmm I like that Dr.Vile, I just may have something there.
Most women do not develop these feeling of being submissive until they hit there late 30’s early 40’s , I guess like me at 49 and wanting a 1978 Camero Z28, white with blue trim, hmm a 4 speed.
Anyway you begin to have these kinky feelings and thoughts, so you start dropping little hints to your hubby, then you become bolder and fully explain what you need , or at least want to try.
Here is the bad news ladies, if you have been married any length of time your husband does not view you in this manner. He does not want to fuck you, he wants to make love. He does not want to spank you because he does not want to humiliate you in this fashion. Your husband loves you. He loves what he has built, in his life time.
Many married men have affairs just for this reason, they can see someone else, who they can fuck, and do all the nasty thing they want, and go home to there loving wife.
Yea it sounds wrong and it is, but the fact of the matter is many men have trouble communicating on this level. So ladies it is not you.
The truth is a lot of men want kink, again the love thing gets in the way, they do not see you as there bedroom whore, they see you as their wife and the mother of your children.
I am not going to say it cannot change, but your at less than 50% of a chance of getting him to open up the way you want or need, he is already in the swing of things.
A touchy subject if he is in his late 30’s early 40’s there could be a low T thing going on, yea bring that up to your hubby and see what happens. Most men do not even realize what is going on, or even notice.
Now here is what you can do to make him take notice, start dressing a little more provocative, make him take notice to you, sit him down and talk to him about your newly found needs. You have to be forward and open about the subject. Bring it up as a friend told you about her feelings and what they did to spice things up. Tell your husband I am here this is yours do what you want. I do mean anything.
Set up a movie night, with your hubby, some drinks. Rent a movie called The Secretary, a very good BDSM movie, somewhat low budget but very good.
Second there is a book I recommend every woman to read, No not the Fifty Shades Of Grey, a good fantasy book, it could happen, but I truly doubt it, no not the story of O. A book called the Surrendered Wife. This is a true story of how a woman turned her marriage around and was able to turn total control over to her husband without him even knowing it. Yes to all the women you can train your husband.
Finely if the above does not work, order a vibrator, wait for your husband to go to work, and spend an hour with George Clooney. Not much more you can do at this point, unless you want to stray. I do not condone this , but who am I to judge.
3rd do not listen or watch Dr. Phil I am serious, can you picture him tying his wife up and spanking her, I didn’t think so.
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Much Love ladies.