We all have a friend, we all have a friend we can call or text. We all have a friend who is close to us, some may even know about your lifestyle even if they are not into it. Somethings you share, and some you do not.
When meeting a New Dominant for the first time. The first thing you need to make clear is that once you have met face to face, you are going to make a call to a friend. You are going to give his name first and last, the address you are at, and if you want take a picture of his tag and send all this information to a friend.
Your thinking is he really serious, this has to be a fucking joke. I would never do such a thing. Well why wouldn’t you ? We are talking about your safety. We are talking about meeting a complete stranger. Okay I suppose in a vanilla setting you could want to do the same thing if you met someone on line, but chances are a dinner and a movie will not get you hurt. Going to a motel and allowing someone to tie you up and do what ever they want is a bit different..
Some of you think I am over reacting, maybe you think I am crazy, but I am going to guess you would be to embarrassed to aks such a thing. You may not have the nerve to ask such a thing, if that is the case have your friend make the call, and let the Dom know your checking on you.
So if the Dominant has nothing to hide and he has serious intentions he will not care, as a matter of fact he will encourage you to do so. He will not get upset nor will he get angry.
He could say well don’t you trust me ? Do you think I would hurt you ? Okay so how do you know? At this point your really not even sure what to expect.
A safe call should be standard practice, your safety is what is important. If no one knows where you are at, then no one will know where to look for you.
Have fun, fulfill your needs, get your kink on, but just be safe. That is not asking much.