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What Is A Good Dominant

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You know while it is not written anywhere Dominants do have what is called a code of Honor.

At one time what set us apart were the strict protocols that were put in place, and there was a time not only did those who were slaves and submissive followed them, but Dominants did as well.

In the lifestyle we were held to higher standards , because well not only was it expected, but we were leaders. Sometime ago it took a very long time for a Dominant to become recognized within the community, it was not a title that was just giving out or a title someone could claim. As a Matter of fact many were not accepted in the local community just because of who they were and what they stood for.
So yes there was a time when protocol’s were indeed protocol’s and they were followed.

Then the internet boom, all of this information was online and available , and just as with anything you read you can take parts of this and parts of that, and come up with your own ideas.

Then somewhere along the line what we believed in and what we stood for began to fade away. Protocols were being lost in the pile of confusion.

While at a local MAsT several months ago this topic came up and as I was speaking about how things use to be another Dominant stepped in.

He stated you had to let others in who did not believe in the same protocols, rules. His thoughts were you had to let everyone in because if you did not you would have no one to lead.
So then we have to bend our rules, we have to set our protocols aside, we have to let others criticize the way we live and what we stand for.
While I do agree to a point everyone should be allowed to come to MAsT meetings, I also believe they should have to adhere to our rules and protocols, if they cannot do that, show them the door.
I would rather lead a 100 strong into battle than a 1000 blind.

Okay where am I going with this you might be asking ?

What I can say is today there are those who are fake who would never think of going to a MAsT or a munch because they know they would be called out. There would be people who are able to see through the fake wall you have built, and for the most you would be ignored.

There are things that do not mix in the lifestyle , whether you are a Dominant or you just gave yourself the title.

There is no place for anger, if you have anger issues you are not a real Dominant.
There is no place for Alcohol during play, if you drink you can hurt someone, and hurt someone bad. I have met very few Dominants over the years who have had a drinking problem. So if you have a drinking problem and you cannot control your alcohol you have no place within the lifestyle.

Last year we were at a party and another Dominant asked me if he could session with Arianna. It took me a minute to digest what he had to said, but what really got me is he had been drinking.
I explained that I did not share my property and if I did I would not because he had been drinking.

Married Dominants or single Dominants who have this idea about going after married women.

If you re married and you have to cheat on your wife because your needs are not being met, then do what a real Dominant would do, Leave. Pack your things up file for divorce and leave. Why wreck someone’s life because your little kinks are not being met.
You knew before you got married, she did not take it up the ass, you knew she did not swallow, you knew she was not submissive. You knew all of this ahead of time. To bring someone into your mess is not fair. To lie or mislead someone is dead wrong. What you have done is wasted that much time of their life.

Find you own woman, your own submissive, there is no shortage, and if you find a married woman who will fuck around on her husband, guess what? She will fuck around on you as well.
Just like the Dominant who fucks around on his wife, he will fuck around on you in time. Please do not think you suck cock that good, or your pussy is any different because it is not.

I do not like women who are weak, I am not a rescuer , I do not roll like that. I like the challenge , I love the hunt, then you move in for the kill.
I wanted the best, I wanted the woman who would not normally give me the time of day.
One thing that is for sure I never wanted another mans problems.
If you have the need to wreck someone’s home no matter how bad it is, and believe me if it was that bad they would already be gone.
You my friend are no Dominant, you are not now and you never will be.

A Dominant is a leader, a Dominant is someone who is in full control of their life. This is just no my opinion either. A Dominant accepts responsibility but more important admits when he is wrong. A real Dominant would never step between someone and their family.

I don’t want your wife, who is already fucked up in the head with her own problems. I don’t want your girlfriend, if the pussy is that easy to get, why would I want it?

I got game, I do for those of you who have been lucky enough to see Arianna, I got game.
I had to be able to back up my words, if I was going to play the game, I had to know the rules. I had to walk the walk and talk the talk. I got game
I would never stoop so low as to try and take another mans wife, more so if children are involved. They did not ask to be brought into your fucked up world, how fucking pathetic is that.

I can talk shit because I am living the dream. I have what you fake Dominant only dream about.
Yes I have what you never will.

While this blog or post is not about anyone in particular, I am sure many can relate to my words.

If your a Dominant then be one.

master

As Always

Vile

Introducing BDSM To The Home

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Collar, Collars, commitment, communication, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, Fantasy, Humiliation, Introducing BDSM To The Home, Loyal, Lube, Married submissive, Master, Master And Slave, masturbation, oral sex, Owned Slave, predators, Punishment, Rules, Security, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on March 30, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This can be very difficult but if the communication is right and both parties are open minded enough it could work. There are more than a few ways the idea could come into play, some are good while some are not so good.

The male will take one of three stances, yes , no , or maybe. This is it being brought up to him. Much of the time a male needs time to roll ideas through his mind. The main thought is what do I get out of this if I have to put any effort into it. I have to get something or its just not worth my time.

The female however will take two stances on the subject it will either be yes or no, there is no maybe. Just as I brought up the idea and the need I had to my ex-wife, but I got the your fucking perverted . It took you seven years to come to that conclusion congratulations you stupid bitch. So yes it does pay to be honest at all times even if you do not get the out come you had hoped for..

Most men who say NO or let me think about it truly have this guilty feeling, because no matter how you explain it, it is still drilled in their mind that it is abuse. Somehow being tied up , spanked, told what to do, or face fucking is abuse.

How ever those who stray have no problem bending some bitch over and dry fucking her ass until she passes out. Why ? I suppose there is no real connection between the two, there is no love between the two. The male does not feel ashamed doing what he is doing because it is now expected. With his wife he was exploring uncharted territory or he knows she is against any type of kink

If your a woman who is married and you have been asked to suck cock, or do anal and you refuse he will find someone who will do those things for him. He may not leave you and the chances of him leaving is very slim. The main reason is he has already built his kingdom, he feels secure, he feels safe, and he knows you are not going anyplace. He will how ever step out on you, and find someone who will fulfill his needs.

While you can get pissed off, while you can scream and yell because how dare he let some other women suck his cock.  Think about how you refused to. The worst thing you can tell a male is NO, because when say say that one word it now becomes a need, and vengeance will be his.

I believe sex falls under wifely duties, short of being abuse you are meant to please, now that does not mean you do not get anything in return because any relationship was meant to be a two way street. You as the wife are suppose to lay on your back, get on your knees, or on your hands and knees bent over spreading your ass. Everyone is not going to think the way I do and that is fine, I am expressing my own opinion. The husband has duties as well, and I have covered much of that in my 800 and something post. I have covered the abusive male, so do not think for one minute I am about abuse because I am not.

The key to a successful relationship is finding someone you are compatible with, you like the same music, food, going out, walking the beach at night, and then yes this also includes sex.

While I was searching for a partner I dated probably a 100 who thought they were slaves, and I refused to settle for less, if you told me you did not suck cock, the conversation was over, if you told me you did not do anal the conversation was over, which means I just blew 30 bucks for dinner, and I was going to go home and jack off. If you settle for less you will never be happy, you are only happy for that moment and time.

The man brings up BDSM to the wife and she may go along with it just to please, but most of the time the male gets a little rough because why? We are visual he has googled BDSM clicked on images and what do you see? Some bitch getting her ass beat. So he truly has no clue, or he has read some stories on erotica.com. The woman if she is in love enough or she thinks it will improve their already soggy relationship she will go along with it for a while, only to find out things are still soggy.

Now the female brings it up, now we are in a whole different ball game, the rules have changed, because what she is thinking is nothing the way the male see’s how things might turn out.

The woman has thought things out for the most. The woman can see herself living as a slave 24/7. She can see in her mind how it would be her living as a slave. The truth is she thinks about it for a long time before bringing the subject up, for a couple of reasons. One she is ashamed of her now kinky thoughts, second she is afraid of rejection, or third she is afraid you the husband will leave because she is not the woman you married..

Now while you the husband knows nothing of this, while your at work and she is at home having full blown fantasies, your working and she is at home pounding her pussy with something , and she is probably masturbating 3 or 4 times a day. Even while your fucking her she is thinking about kinky things and you do not have a clue.

To the male most of the time it is about kink, giving out orders, bondage, subjecting your wife to pain she does not want.

To the female it is much different, the submission is a need, to be a total slave is a need, because she has already thought it out. The fact is once she has already put all of her thoughts into motion you the male only has a small role to play in your new relationship, and it really takes very little of your time. She the slave is going to do most of the work all you have to do is keep things consistent.

Really the only thing you the husband has to do is except her for who and what she is. Let her ask for permission, write down a few chores. Come up with a few realistic rules, rules that you know will not be broken. The last thing a slave wants to do is break any rules, if they do it is truly a mistake.

She the wife is looking to be excepted, she wants to be able to be who is is and needs to be. When it comes to women this is not something that just happened on the contrary this has been brewing for a very long time. There was something at a young age that had a mental impact on her, something happened that more than likely she has not even shared with you. She could of been raped, maybe molested by a family member, or even abused at home, but something happened when she was younger to trigger her thoughts. I am not saying that is accurate 100% of the time but I will say 95% maybe a little higher. Most suffer from some type of depression, some are bi-polar, some suffer from anxiety , and most are on some type of medication.

That is what these men who prey on women do not realize or if they do they do not care. These women are looking for help, they are looking for someone to except them, they are looking for security. They expect the kink, why ? Because we are visual animals and nothing more, now some do enjoy the kink, some need the kink. These men prey on those who are submissive because they see it as a weakness, they see an easy fuck, or when they are talking to you the only thing on their mind is you sucking their cock.

I preach over and over when your first meeting a new Dom keep your legs close and your mouth shut, find out if he is really interested in you, or if he just wants the pussy.

Let your wife be who she needs to be, the only thing that will happen for you the male is your life will get a whole lot better. You as the husband will want for nothing, your every need will be answered without question. There will be total submission, and this submission will only benefit you, and remember your role is very small, it is not going to add to your day.

Think about it, you have what most men only ready about, you have what most men talk about when out with the boys.

You have someone you can dress how you want, eat what you tell them to eat, they feel good because you have giving them task. You get your cock sucked when and how you want, she will lay on her back at the snap of a finger, and will proudly lube your cock for her ass. She will be loyal to you and only you, you are not replaceable the main reason is she has gone through to much to get your relationship where it is at today. If she strayed she would have to start all over.

The collar this is a biggie. The collar is a sign of ownership. She now has a purpose, she now belongs, she is now who she truly needs to be not wants to be who she needs to be.

That is what we do as husbands we meet ours needs. Your wife, your slave we still need to provide their needs, we have an obligation to meet their needs, we have an obligation to make them feel wanted, and we have an obligation to reward when the time is right.

The wife or slave has done everything to insure the home is ran smoothly, she takes care of you without question. To make her feel complete is something we should have a need to do. The collar will bring out someone very special, and your relationship will blossom it grow 100 times over and end the end it will only benefit you.

Long ago I only use to see married slaves or more so those who were submissive. These were women who were not able to express their needs to their husbands, or their husbands thought they were sick.

I had hours and hours of sessions, which mainly included bondage some lite spanking never any bruises, and a lot of humiliation. I how ever never fucked anyone of them, there was never any penetration vaginal or anal. I did leave cock sucking out. I did get my cock sucked. If I was going to spend a couple of hours of my time pleasing you because hubby would not, you were going to suck my cock. I did that for a year or so, because I was not looking for any type of commitment. She got a motel most of the time, she paid for it, took us out to dinner, and I got to play with her, and I got to watch my cock slide down her throat.

I suppose it goes the same way, if the submissive or slave is not getting what they need they will seek out those who will give. This is not every case though. Many just sit at home and suffer with their thoughts to afraid to bring the topic up.

Let your wife be who she needs to be, it will cost you very little time. Let her be the slave she needs to be, let her be humble and thankful laying at your feet. While she reaches up and touches her collar, knowing that she is loved, cared for and owned.

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Vile

My Blog Is About Kink, Safety and the Love Of My Life Arianna.

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It is hard to believe I have reached over 800 post. I truly enjoy blogging it is my own little world. A place I can come to and be myself, be who and what I am. Not that I hide anything out in the vanilla world because I do not, but here I am truly me.

My 800 or so post are mainly about the BDSM lifestyle, safety, what slaves and submissive’s need and should look out for when looking for a new Dominant, Master or Daddy.  The do’s and the Dont’s what to look out for and the questions you need to ask.

To live in a Broken home is not the life you want, to be abused is not the life you want, to be lied to is not the life you want.

You have to remember everything I tell you is from a mans point of view, many of you may not agree with me, I would not expect everyone to agree with me. I can say this I speak the truth. I have been the user, I have been the abuser. I have used just for my pleasure, and tossed to the side. In the past I have fucked women and could not even tell you their name the next morning. I have fucked and when finished they were told to get the fuck out. I have giving out collars on the first meet. What you have to remember the collar is a powerful tool, it can be a tool of deception. It can be used to just to use you, and this has happened to many of you.

800 post almost 200.000 visitors, and over 4000 comments, and a few friends so things are not to bad. People who read my blog are from all over the world. The middle East, the US, Asia , Africa, the UK , I will post the different countries tomorrow the numbers are astonishing

There are many who visit and do not comment, I am assuming that since most who follow me are women, it is the same with the readers. Most wish to remain anonymous and just read my thoughts, and my opinions, and that is fine.

There are those I am sure who read who only wish of such a life, or maybe there are those who cannot believe that there is even such a life. There are those who want to fully submit, but cannot communicate with their partner.

There are things from my early years I do not wish to share. There are things I am not proud of, and as I look back there are things I would not of done.

I can say this and I say this with great truth, I have never hurt anyone physically , I have always honored a safe word and I have never done anything that was not asked for, or that was not communicated

So in my kinky world I come down hard on married men, these are men who cannot run their house. Their wife will not take it up the ass so they find someone who will. They find someone they can use.

I point out the fake Doms, Masters and Daddy’s who want to be a leader so bad but they do not have a clue because again they do not know how to run their home, or they see submission as a weakness.

I have talked about Domestic Discipline and how I believe there is abuse within the home, not all but for the most. I say this because I have talked and chatted with women who live in a DD home, this is not just something I pulled out of my ass.

I have talked about the dangers of impact play, and how you can get hurt. I have blogged about where it is okay to hit and where not to. You can get hurt.

I have blogged about bondage, and yes you can get hurt if not properly tied. You can damage muscles and tendons if you do not know what your doing.

I have blogged about how communication is a must during play, and the need to know what is going through their minds.

I have blogged about the power of mind fucks, and how it can benefit the relationship, or even carry you to the point of sub-space. A good mind fuck can be very erotic.

I have blogged about a topic I truly enjoy, Sexually Broken. Being tied up to the point you cannot move, and being used in every hole. Moving from the mouth to the pussy, then to the ass. I call it three hole golf.

I have talked about how I run my house, my rules, my protocols. My love for total control, and having the ability to control my property, my own. Living with and being married to my wife, my slave and my property.

I have blogged a great deal about hypnosis and the benefits it could have in a relationship, and this is a subject I am still pursuing. We have invited someone over to teach, only to find out he thought he was going to get some pussy. No one fucks my slave but me.

I have blogged about my love for Anal sex, and how I believe it is the most submissive act a woman can take part in. You are invading the most private part of a female body.

I have blogged about my love for face fucking, this falls under the control factor. Most of the time when I am getting head I don’t even want to cum , it just feels so fucking good, I want it to last for ever. When I do want to cum. I grab a hand full of hair and I control the rhythm.

I have blogged about the love of my life, Arianna, my first breath when I wake and my last thought before I fall a sleep. My universe, my world. She is truly my drive in life.

Our relationship is micromanaged, I invest a great deal of time making sure our relationship runs smoothly. Being a Dominant is not a 9 to 5 job it is 24/7 365. Although I do put a great deal of time and effort into our relationship, the rewards I receive come back 100 times over.

I have blogged about our new journey into the world of poly. How I believe it would benefit Arianna. As many of you have noticed, I have not said anything about how such a relationship would benefit me. That is because I am not thinking about me.

Then after a great deal of thought I moved to the idea of a Triad, moving away from the poly idea, because most who are poly are not loyal to just a home, or two.

If you have noticed the subject of sex within a triad has not come up, mainly because that is not my train of thought. Because my main focus is on Arianna, but here is my thoughts. In time with in a Triad sex would come up. My way of thinking would be to find someone who was not open to things that Arianna is. Such as Anal sex, or rimming, or a foot fetish like Arianna has.  These would be things exclusive to Arianna. She would be the only one who could offer these things.

I am not looking for another Slave, we are looking for a submissive, someone to be Arianna’s best friend, to do things with. She wants to take art classes, while I have no interest I would go and take part in. Events they have downtown on the weekends, to help out around the home. While I do help when I am off, it would be nice to have someone around to help.

So my train of thought has nothing to do with the sexual aspect of how we would live with a third. If you are wanting to bring someone into your home with the thought of your getting more pussy, it will never work.

I believe if you do bring a third in , there are things that should be kept exclusive to Arianna. This is what separates the two relationships, it separates the Slave and Submissive.

My standards are very high, if you have seen Arianna or read her blog you would know this, and I refuse to lower them.

We are still in the talking stages trying to piece things together.  I can say this in the end Arianna has the final say, and I will go with what ever she says.

A D’s home an M’s home if ran correctly and the Dom or Master follows through with his word, can be a very loving home, a well structured home.

The Dominant or Master not only have to implement but he has to follow through. He must remain consistent and remain consistent on a hourly basis, a daily and weekly basis. Then and only then will the home grow.

It has been almost two years since the Kinky World Of Vile was born, and I shall continue for sometime. I will continue to give advice, talk about abuse, and most of all My life with the love of my life Arianna.

If you invade my home I will shoot you, and in the end I would take a bullet for Arianna, I am her sole protector. If she needed a heart to survive she has one right here, because I would give without question

This is the kind of home and love I want everybody to experience. I can tell you when I hold Arianna I can feel our souls embracing , I can feel the warmth, most of all I can feel the love.

Submission is the greatest gift of all do not abuse what is giving.

Much Love to all and those around the world.

Image Submission is the gift that will keep on giving.

Vile

Change Never Works

Posted in 24/7, A Second Chance, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, bdsm, Change, change never works, Cheat, Cheaters, cheating, Dominants, Honesty, infidelity, Kink, kinky, Lie, Marriage, married, Married Dominant, Married submissive, Master, Open Minded, oral, oral sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick on November 20, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

That statement is so true , I am speaking of trying to change lifestyle’s. Some change is good and can be beneficial under the right conditions.

I know some 16 years ago I felt like I needed a change. I was at Bush Gardens in Tampa Florida one day sitting down just chilling , watching all these family’s walk by, and I started thinking man I am missing out on some shit here. The wife, kid, white picket fence, a little ankle biter roaming the yard, cooking out with the smith’s.

I did just that it was not three months and I was married, it took me about a month to come to my senses , VILE my man you have truly fucked up, you acted without thinking, and now you must pay dearly because you got the bitch knocked up. You did it so make it work.

I never should of went to Bush Gardens, should of went to a Titty Bar instead, not sure why I went, I prefer Universal anyway. My ex was not bad looking small petite frame, yea that is about it. So I started to make my exit and she informed me she was pregnant. Fuck me man how much worse could things get ?

Well I stuck it out for nine years, and during that nine years I remained loyal to a T. So after eight years or so I had to come clean I could not take the Smith’s next door any longer, and I was asked to leave. Since then I have paid child support every week and have never missed a payment. I do see my son, not as often as I would like, but we have a good relationship going. There is no drama between my Ex and I or my current wife and Slave.

What I am getting at you can go from Vanilla to a D’s relationship and then back , but I do not think you can go from a D’s relationship to a Vanilla, talk about fucking culture shock.

If you are not happy with your current relationship get the fuck out, even more so if your fucking around. Okay when it comes to women I can somewhat understand the fucking around part. Women tend to be more sensitive than men, women need more attention than men, women are abused more than men, still if your not happy kids or no kids just make an exit.

Men in general are DOGS most will fuck your sister if giving the chance and hope you invite her over for dinner. Men are sexual predators. I remember being over at my ex mother inlaw’s and when she was talking to me, all I was thinking man those Tits have got to be fake, and sure enough they were store bought Tittys.

Finding the right partner from the start, finding someone your compatible with, someone who is open to new things. If you know head and ass is off limits it may not bother you at that moment and time, but six months or a year down the road you will have to have one of them, the answer will still be no, then guess what. Your doing your wife’s sister.

Change never works, not when it comes to a relationship.

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Vile

Sex When I want It, And On My Terms

Posted in 24/7, abuse, anal sex, Arianna, Ass, ass fucking, ass play, bdsm, blow job, Collarme.com, communication, control, controlling, cum, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Deception, Divorce, Dominants, dress, Eating Pussy, emotional, Emotions, ethics, fetlife, foreplay, fucking, Giving Head, Honesty, infidelity, Law, Lies, life, Married Dominant, Married submissive, Master, Masters, men begging, morals, needy, No Rights, non caring, oral, oral sex, owning a slave, Patience, pleasure, positive reinforcement, Private Protocol, Protocol, Protocol public, pussy, Respect, Rough Sex, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, serve, sex, sex slaves, slave, submissive, sucking dick, The word NO, TPE, Trust, Viles House on February 26, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am not sure if sex is one of the advantages of being a Dominant has anything to do with this topic, but I hear a lot of vanilla guys talking about how their women cut them off, or they wont suck dick, and how their girlfriends refuse to have anal sex.

The truth be known many vanilla men are pussy’s. In many cases the female holds sex hostage, to use at their advantage, usually to get what they want. I remember hearing my aunt talking yo my uncle when I was very young, how he had better watch his mouth because it was not Thursday yet, which was payday for him. She may of been playing but now that I look back on it maybe she was serious. My uncle was an average looking guy nothing special. My aunt had always dated rich men she was catered to. My uncle was a union carpenter at that time he made like 14 an hr, back in the early 70’s I guess that was considered good money. I remember hearing my aunt saying how my uncle was not much to look at, but he treated her like a princess, but still she held sex hostage.

I got a lot of flake off of a post I wrote several months ago about how women were put here to serve.Well in most cases I still stand firm on my beliefs. There are those exceptions where the woman runs the house. There are those exceptions where the woman controls the man, and the man just bows down. I would imagine some are happy, but then again there are those men who lost their control early on, and had no idea how to regain it, or maybe just to afraid to grab their balls and step up to the plate, in fear of what? Yup not getting pussy, their weekly reward, get on and get off and leave me alone until next Thursday.

Some men just cower down like a beat puppy. This really in many ways makes me sick to my stomach , I cringe when I hear those almighty words YES DEAR. Wow really are you serious? Your really going to take that. Your going to put your head down turn around and run off to the little man cave she allows you to have so you are out of her hair. All because you are pussy whipped.

Those were the choices you made before getting married, or moving in with your girlfriend. I have a friend named matt, who lives with a girl, and he can only get on collarme or fetlife when she is not home. Now at one time he was a Daddy Dom or I thought he was, but like many people who are willing to settle for less until the next best thing comes along. So yea he is pussy whipped to the max, his penis runs his life. Matt is not allowed to come over to my house because his girlfriend thinks I am a bad influence on him. Me a bad influence on someone well it is possible I suppose.

Another friend Fred, I am not allowed over at his place anymore because of the same thing yea a bad influence. Fred pays a hooker 10.00 dollars twice a week to give him a blow job, I have never seen her but 10.00 bucks really, I can just imagine what she looks like. This has been going on for about five years same girl. Why? because his wife refuses to give head, or do anal, but he knew this before getting married.

So him and I are standing in the kitchen, I really hated going over to his place, they have 7 cats, and as many birds but the litter boxes are over running, the bird cages are dirty, and the smell is just well, like a land field. His wife stays home all day playing games on the computer. She does not cook very often, most of the time he picks up a pizza before coming home. So we are talking about this bitch he pays to suck his dick. He is paying roughly a thousand dollars a yr for head, plus keeping his wife up. That is just crazy, more so it is uncalled for. So I told him go in the living room drop your pants and tell her to give you head. Well her being the nosy bitch she is over heard me, here she comes running in the kitchen. Excuse me what did you say? I told fred to go in the living room drop his pants and tell you to give him head, if you did that he would not be paying a bitch to suck his dick. Okay she did not know about the hooker, my bad. He knew before he married the cow she did not suck dick or take it up the ass. He should man up and except his own stupidity. He made the choice he dug his own grave so suck it up.

We all know how I feel about infidelity ,I feel once in a relationship the two should remain monogamous, unless, and I do mean unless, the couple has made arrangements. The problem with cheating, you really do not know someone you just met, and the odds of taking something home are really great. How much guilt would that carry? Would your marriage be reparable ? Is it worth putting your family through such an ordeal when you get caught, because you will get caught, it is not how, it is when.. I have absolutely no respect for a dominant who steps out of his marriage because his wife wont take it up the ass. So he finds a bitch who will, knowing he will never leave his wife, kids and lose his home, on top of all the money he will end up paying out. Now the submissive is thinking different, and it will take about a year of ass fucking for her to figure that out.

A Dominant who is married, and steps out of his marriage is a punk ass pussy. Your a fake hiding behind a title you do not deserve. While you have some bitch tied to a bed, your loving wife is home cooking dinner and helping the kids with their home work. Fuck I get worked up over this bullshit. Your a pussy and I will tell you to your face.

Here is the thing, I have a friend who is a Dominant, he is seeing a married woman, he is married as well but separated. The married submissive can only have sex with her husband when she is given permission. Are you kidding me? Her husband puts food on the table, pays her bills, a roof over her head, and a car to drive, but she is not allowed to have sex with him. Get the fuck out. The same goes for a female if your not happy, cut the rope and get the fuck out, be who you need to be, you do not have to drag your whole family down with you.

Maybe being a Dominant and owner does have its advantages, but I have met other Dom’s who have the same problem, they are pussy whipped, the first time a submissive says no , the dominant blows up then he wants to exert his authority. I am your Master Bitch you will do as I say. Come on now you have heard it as well, or the Dom will start pouting, or even worse he will pull the guilt trip out of his box of tricks.

The word NO is not in Arianna’s vocabulary, the word NO never comes out of her mouth. I will admit she still does hesitate at somethings, but she is slowly learning , I have her best interest in mind.

Sex I love sex, I love to fuck, I love getting my dick sucked, I love eating pussy, and if I am really into you I will even rim. Last night I rubbed lotion on Arianna, maybe not a full massage but close. Then I just got the urge to go down on her, so down south I went, for a good ten minutes or so, just loving life. I did not want anything in return, I just love eating pussy. So without saying a word I pulled the covers down I opened her thighs and went to town, I did not ask or say a word. The same with getting head, if I am in the mood laying in bed, I will just grab her by her hair and pull her down to my cock.

Yesterday I got the urge to fuck, I told Arianna to strip and get on her back, she did as instructed, I crawled on top busted a nut, and got off of her, I was done. Now most of the time I spend a lot of time when it comes to sex, I love hearing and seeing a woman get off, so I try to make sure I take care of her, but at times it is just about me.

I run my house, I control my house, it is my way and only my way, no questions asked. This was the agreement we had before entering a relationship. Sex when I want, how I want, where I want, be it oral, pussy or anal, it is about me. If you settle for less, you will never be happy, and I refuse to end up being the cheating Dom having to rent a motel room. I refuse to pay for pussy.

Being a Dominant, a Master and owner means a great deal of responsibility, A Dominant should be able to give 100% and no less to his property. We must be available 24/7. Because if you are not, she will find someone who will be, it make take a little time but she will dump your sorry ass.

Sex is on my terms. Now if Arianna is not feeling well. I am considerate enough to wait. Again on my terms.

When out I do not dress Arianna like a slut, although she would wear what she was told to wear. When going out I instruct her on what she will be wearing. In the afternoon, I have clothes laid out, she knows to come in, pull her shoes off at the door, pick up her clothes and shower, no questions asked.

Arianna does not have options the only options are those I allow her. I do not talk much about our business, I generally just handle things, Arianna has enough on her plate now, so I do not bother her with the little stuff. The other day she asked about something, then she made the comment, well I guess it is on a need to know basis. My reply was your correct. If I feel I need to asked her for advice I will, but until then it is on a need to know.

Arianna comes first, no matter what. She knows she can wake me at 2am if she needs to, if she feels she needs to talk. She does however wake me to request to go to the bathroom, then permission to re-enter the bed. I am good with that. She was told early on about getting up or entering the bed.

Most would think our relationship is one way, but that is far from the course, most think my way of running a house is somewhat unorthodox , some think I am to strict. Well they do not pay my bills, nor does anyone put food on my table. How I run my house is my business. As long as Arianna is happy that is all that matters to me.

Arianna is by far the most compliant slave I have ever met. She enjoys task, she loves structure. She loves being limited to where she is allowed to sit. I do not believe Arianna could ever be replaced.

Sex on my terms, and only my terms. You guys need to think about those words instead of paying for a motel room, so you can have it on your terms. Go home to your wife.

 

Vile

If You Are Seeing A Married Dominant.

Posted in bdsm, Cheat, cheating, Cheating Dominant, Dumped, married, Married Dominant, Married submissive, On your knees on your back, problems on November 30, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Some except the fact they will never be number one, some are happy in that role.  I suppose it is the thrill, of sneaking around, booking the hotel room. Always in hiding

If you are happy being number two, then be happy. There will be no birthdays, thanksgiving, christmas, fourth of july’s you get the idea.

I am speaking from a males prospective, I am giving you the low down, on how we think. Why we step out when we are married. Last why you are going to get dumped. Because he will dump you when you are all used up, or he finds someone closer.

A married man steps out because, and I have said this three million times, but no one wants to listen. You are there because there are things his wife will not do. Nothing more nothing less.

Maybe she wont dress like a whore, suck cock, anal sex. Or just maybe it is a communication thing, which I doubt. Your relationship is based on sex nothing more, that is all you are being used for.

The first three months, six months maybe a year go well, your happy seeing your dominant every month or so for a couple of hours. Then the emails become less frequent, the text slow, hardly any calls.

So you the submissive, you make sure your phone is charged at all times, your phone is sitting within reach at all times. You receive a text, you look and it is a friend.

Really is this the way you want to spend your life? Your job is to sit and wait, until he is ready to use you. That is it, nothing more nothing less.

Most subs and slaves are needy, slaves more so. This is really normal, if you say your not what a line of shit. Once you become needy with your married Dominant, you now become a liability, you are now causing drama that is not welcomed.  You have to go.

What are you learning in a relationship like this? What is he teaching you? He sends an email with a few rules. Maybe tells you what to wear on a certain day, what to eat.

You will get dumped or in time grow tired of broken promises. Now when you do get dumped, it is not your fault. It was not because you were not good enough, or you did not listen. It was because you became a liability, nothing more.

He the married Dominant is not going to let you come between him and his family. Remember you are number two. You are not at the cook outs. the movies, the vacations. You are sitting on the couch waiting, and hoping he can take five minutes out of his time to call, text, or email you a few lines.

Your married Dominant is not going to love you, care maybe, but your best work will be on your knees or on your back. That is what you are for.

What you are experiencing is not BDSM , it is not the D’s lifestyle. He tells you that you cannot speak with other Dominants. Why is this? He may be exposed for who and what he is.

When you get dumped, I said it again. It is not your fault in anyway. This happens to a lot of new subs to the lifestyle, not so much a slave. Slaves tend to be somewhat more reserved than a submissive. New to the lifestyle, chances are you will get burned the first go around.

I am not sure what the fixation is with married men, I truly do not get it. Maybe it is because you do not want a commitment , and you feel safe. Maybe you think he will leave his wife and kids, give up his home, pay child support, maybe alimony. Maybe he will quit his job he has had for fifteen years, and move to you.

Sure he will you just sit there like a good little girl and wait.

Vile

You The Submissive Or Slave Has Rights

Posted in bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, communication, control, Conversation, Dating, Lies, married, Married Dominant, Married submissive, munchs, needy, submissive or slave has rights on November 29, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Many do not think or believe they as the sub or slave has no rights. This is far from the truth. I know your thinking WOW this is coming from Vile, the total ass of wordpress. As I was called sometime back the Howard Stern of wordpress, which I did not get. Okay if you had of said Tom Leykis an awesome radio host then I would of said yes that is me….

http://www.blowmeuptom.com/

One of my mentors yes indeed, I have been following him for years.

You as the submissive has rights. You as the submissive has the right to express yourself, your feelings as well as your concerns. The foundation of the D’s relationship or any relationship for that matter is communication.

We have the responsibility as dominants to make sure ours is receiving the proper care and attention. This is what we have promised. If we are not fulfilling our agreement then the submissive has the right to step up and say Hey what is going on here.?

You as a submissive has the right to question, any concerns you have. You are the one submitting , your the one laying on your back, or on your knees. You cannot be used then put in a closet and wait to be used again.

Okay there may be times when One cannot stay in contact, well I cannot say that either, we are talking five minutes out of a 24 hr period.

I do have a friend on wordpress here, he is an awesome young dominant, and at this time he is just over whelmed with family issues, then work. His submissive who is awesome as well were trying to put a new relationship together. She was confused, he had not been in contact with her like he was.

So I contacted him to find out how he was doing, we are meeting up sometime mid December for a drink and cigar. After my email it was some fifteen minutes when I received a reply. His problems run deep and he is handling things the best he can.

I told him, look you have to talk to your submissive, you cannot just leave her hanging. This is not fair to either. She needs to know what is on your mind. He did just that, I am sure at some point they will pick back up, and continue.

One of my saying is, if the dominant cannot control his own life how can he control someone else. Lion is very much in control, he is handling one thing at a time, but as humans we can only have so much on out plate. I do wish him well, and I look forward to us sitting down and talking.

Abuse comes in many forms, and neglect is one of them, just as verbal, or even physical.Neglect is one of the worst forms, because it leaves one hanging. One has no idea what to do, how to act, or who to turn to.

If you as a submissive or slave feels like you cannot express your needs to your dominant, you have the wrong man. You should never be punished for wanting or needing to share your needs.

As far as feeling needy, all subs of slaves are needy this is nothing new. We as Dominants know this. This is why communication needs to be open. At all times.

I receive a lot of hate mail. You guessed it all from men and Doms. I will post one here soon I received the other day, telling me how worthless I am and I should shut my trap. He is married and I hit a nerve with him.

So let me get this straight, you hate me, you find me to be disgusting an idiot , but you read my whole blog. Wow. Who is the Idiot?

Do not think you as the submissive does not have rights, you even have the right to say NO. You have the right to make demands. I did not say slave.

A man or Dominant cannot say he cannot take five minutes out of his day to make a call or text, or email. Fuck the president even fucking tweets. How much busier can one be than the president.

Why do Doms hate me? Maybe I speak the truth. Maybe I make some ask questions. I totally disagree when a dom tries to keep his from communicating with others. A submissive needs interaction with others, subs and doms. As long as the dom is respectful, which at times can be hard to find. Munchs and different functions are important for a young submissive, new to the lifestyle, it is needed. The submissive needs to know how others in the lifestyle, live and interact.

With a new slave that is one of my first dates if not the first. I want her to meet my other friends in the life style. I can provide references, as other Dominants should as well if asked. Every Dom who has been in the lifestyle should be able to provide information to back up who he is. You as a sub or slave should not just take ones word. I can ever provide, references from other submissive’s if needed.

These are questions that should be asked and answered. Come on now, really?  Even if a relationship turned sour and the break up is a bad one. The dominant should still give access , so the submissive can contact. There are two sides to every story.

I do not have all the answers I wish I did. As much as I would like to say I am perfect, I am not. That is why I encourage interaction with others in the lifestyle.

One last thing, never let a dominant tell you he does not have to explain his self or his actions, because he does. You are the one submitting , are you a submissive or a doormat ?

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