Your the new Submissive or maybe your a slave or think your one. You are in for a huge shock, kinda like culture shock. I remember the first time I went out into a small town while I was stationed in Korea. I was shocked at the way people lived. The one thing I did notice though is how happy people were, how family orientated people were, how family’s and friends helped each other. The culture shock took sometime for me to get use to, but only when I realized I was really no different than they were. Okay except for my kink. Even at the age of 17 I was kinky and going back I was at even a younger age.
Your a Submissive , maybe your a Slave or you think you are one of the other. Depending on the Dom you end up with could make a world of difference.
The first real thing that will hit you right in the face is your freedom. Your freedom to move about, go as you please. The freedom to make decisions. In some cases you may even lose some of your vanilla friends.
Again depending on your Dom you will now have rules to follow, and there will be consequences for not following your new rules. As an adult you will now be punished, and you will except willingly with no questions. You will have certain protocols to follow even if your Dominant does not call them protocols. Being told how to act in public, dress, speak these are all protocols.
Your whole life is going to be turned inside out. You have read information on the net, you have been in chat rooms, you have joined groups, talked to others who appear to be like you. Deep inside we may have some of the same ideas but in the end we are all different. What we expect out of our new found lifestyle.
Maybe you grew up in a nice vanilla home, a nice easy going christian home, with strong family values. The only sex you ever knew was missionary. You had family get together’s, maybe you were popular in school, the good girl next door.
So maybe you always felt a little different inside, you could not pin point it, but you had this weird feeling inside, feelings you could not figure out or how to put them into place.
Maybe you had thoughts deep sexual thoughts of just being taken and used for someone’s pleasure, maybe being kidnapped , tied down, being spanked, but in no way could you ever share these feelings. At this point in your life these were just fantasies.
Now your a grown woman as young as 18 as old as 50 or 60, we can never control our feelings, we can never really control who we fall in love with it just happens. Now your at the age where you can begin to try and figure things out. Because if you can figure it out you will have this sense of pure freedom. Your own little secret. Your dirty thoughts can now come to life.
Depending on the Dom you meet things can go well or things can be a total disaster. A total Disaster if you meet someone who just wants a piece of ass and tosses you to the side. Maybe he beat you black and blue, but you cannot tell anyone. You should shrug it off and keep on going until you find the one.
You are the one who has to adapt to the way your owner wants you, you have to adapt to his needs his wants. He does not adapt to your ways.
So you found him, the one who you are going to give yourself completely. You both just clock, you both have the deep feeling of truly needing each other. This also happens to those who are married younger or older something just clicks inside, now instead of husband and wife they are now Master and Slave.It does happen to new couples as well as older.
Now the vanilla girl has found her new Dominant, her new Master, her new Owner, this is where you life will change and change really big.
You were use to guys begging you for a little pussy, most of the guys you dated really got off if you just gave them a hand job in the front seat of his dads car, maybe some head, but you were use to the begging, men kissed your ass to get between your legs. You had all the control, either you would spread or he would end up going home and jacking off that night, but you girl were in full control.
Now the coin is flipped, you are no longer in control, you now have rules to follow, told what to wear, and when. In most cases your panties are now a thing of the past. You are told to be fresh at all times , freshly shaved, your hair, what makeup to wear if any.
You are now for someones pleasure, your body and mind, and in most cases unless your a bedroom submissive only, your body is not for just pure pleasure.
Now when you are told to get on your knees and suck cock you will do so willingly, no questions asked. when you are told to spread and you get your brains fucked out you will do with out question and many times it is all about your Master, your Owner. Your time to cum will come when he feels like letting you.
Those nice little summer dresses you once wore out that went to the knees are now all but gone. Now your told how to dress. Now your dressing more like a little whore, yea it takes sometime to get use to, but I know in my eyes I enjoy showing my slave off. I love it when guys look and I know they are thinking about fucking her. You can look but you cannot touch.
Your skirts are going to get shorter, your shorts, the way you dress will now change for ever. In some cases the way you walk, the way you talk, act while out with your new owner. You will speak when spoken to when out, or like me most of the time I allow Arianna to speak openly, but I have the control to make her speechless if I so choose.
Culture shock will hit you hard, now you have to think real deep. Is this the life I truly want. Do I want to give up this much control. Do I just want to be used,
What do you get in return. You get the life you have always dreamed of. Someone being in full control, someone who truly cares about you, someone who will communicate with you, allows you to share your thoughts and feelings. Someone who takes an interest in you, someone who will be there when no one else would. Someone who will spend hours holding you, and you knowing everything will be alright. The best thing is you do not have to worry about anything because everything is in your owners hands
So the next time your on your knees or on your back, you think about everything you get in return, you will see a very different prospective, more so your feeling will change. You will grow to have the need to be used, in anyway your owner sees fit.
The main thing is your owner keeping his word, walking the walk and talking the talk.
It can be a very rewarding life, long lasting. A life many only dream of having but can never take that to their spouse in fear of being rejected.
Now we as Dominants, Master and Owners we are looking for someone we can train, someone we can mold to fit our needs and wants. We are looking for the perfect one, who will make us complete.
Your probably asking where does the training myself come into play? How can I possibly train myself when my Owner is suppose to be the one who trains me.
Training yourself is a mindset , instead of blurting out comments about how you feel, you now have to think before speaking. You can speak your mind but now you have to say things in a very polite way. You have to learn to control any anger issues you may have. If you have any anger issues and the Dominant cannot work through them, he will walk away, and walk away with out any hesitation. If you had or have any Drama you have to train yourself to control it, again if the Dominant cannot work his way though something he will walk away.
You will have to train your mind when it comes to being used be it sucking cock, or just spreading you will have to change your feelings your thoughts, most of all you have to come to realize you are for someones pleasure. This is you training your mind, training the way you think , the way you act.
Your Dominant cannot do it all you are going to have to step in and be willing to let him take full control over you, and be happy doing so. You will have to crave his touch, and be willing to please at the snap of a finger. Your Dominant now comes first without question, no questions asked.
You are there for him and only him.