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Sitting here listening to Bret Michael’s jamming with friends , and it fucking rocks. Music is a passion of mine , it is my release , it is my time to chill , gather my thoughts , enjoy my own little world.  Ted Nugent , KISS , Aerosmith , and some country at the top of my list Kid Rock. I love the cheesy kung fu movies that comes on Thursday nights. I am a huge news fanatic so if there is something you want to know just ask.

I am very laid back for the most , I have never raised my voice or lost my temper towards my property. This is not to say I am a push over because I am not , I speak my mind no matter where I am or who I am with.

I am a Buddhist , I have learned to channel my anger but as with any man or human there is a limit. At one time I had a very bad temper , I drank a lot , you could hand me a bunch of pills  and I would not even ask what they were I would just take them. I tried to smoke all the pot in the world but I failed. I would smoke and someone would just grow more. I was on a down hill spiral with not a care about tomorrow or the future.

A Dom who has a temper is not a Dom he is a abuser and nothing more. A man who hits a woman out of anger is a pussy because he will not hit anyone who will not fight back. A Dom who will not allow you to ask questions and want answers is not a Dom. A Dom who does not allow open communication is not a Dom…

However that road of destruction ended around November 1986. October and November I lost my first two jobs after my exit from the US Army. I went cold turkey I stopped everything at one time not looking back… I thought for sure I would of had some type of withdraws but that was not the case, however I did lose most of my friends or I assumed they were friends…

At this time I was living in a small town called canton Ga. It had changed a lot being gone for ten years. Most of the people I knew had moved or changed so much we no longer had anything in common…

My Dominance is a gift and I mean that. A gift means I am taking time out of my life and offering a gift. My gift I am setting my time and life to the side and offering you security , I am offering a sanctuary of peace no drama , no arguing . I am offering you respect , I am offering you me. I am offering you a open door 24/7 , I am offering you communication 24/7. I am offering you stability , I am offering you protection. I will allow you to grow and I will conform to your needs. I will take the time out of my life to train you to fit my needs. I will not take advantage of you , I will not mislead you , I will admit my mistakes. I will offer more than I take but most of all I will always put you first.

Wow! looking over the list and it could of continued I am sure with enough thought. I just wanted to crack the door open and let people take a peak inside.

Both dominance and submission is a gift both have much to offer and prove. I am of course speaking of the beginning steps in a new relationship.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Master/slave_(BDSM)

In BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual serves another in an authority-exchange structured relationship. Unlike Dominant/submissive structures found in BDSM in which love is often the core value, service and obedience are often the core values in Master/slave structures.

I am at a later date going to speak about our triad , we now live as three and while there could be some improvement things are really going well. My time training is limited due to my work but Arianna has stepped up to the plate and is offering guidance .

The Slave has a different mindset than a submissive. A submissive can and has the right to say NO. The submissive can impose limits on the relationship. The submissive can have the choice of when and when not to submit.

The word Slave , the word ownership , the word property. We all know owning a slave is not in any way legal but it is a mindset. The slave kneels holds her hands out and says I am yours to take and use.

You have to want it , you have to need and crave, it has to be in your blood. You have to live, dream and walk with this deep need and desire.

Arianna is a very unique Slave , during her training there was no rejection , there was no resistance, I could see in her eyes she had a hunger. To this day she continues to seek ways to submit more to give more. Everyday I grow with her everyday my respect grows. As my needs change Arianna conforms , but as she changes I conform to meet her needs.

Giving yourself without a thought having that feeling of being completely owned. Willing to be trained to fit someones needs and wants. Being used as a sexual object at the drop of a hat. You can be loved but in the end you are owned property.

Now I sit looking back over the years and thinking about the transformation , thinking about the growth. Watching someones habits change, watching needs change. More than willing to follow rules , protocols and understand there are consequences for her actions. To this day Arianna continues to search and find ways to submit more , she has that need, it is something she craves.

You the Slave must be in the right frame of mind and have a understanding what is about to take place. You must be willing to have over your mind and body and be willing to hand over complete control without question.

Are you Domestic more service orientated ? Are you just going to be used sexually ? Are you a Masochist used for pain? Or are you a mixture of all rolled into one?

You also must be giving a clear understanding what is expected of you , what your training will consist of , how long your training will be. You will want to know what the final goal is.

Trust is the main factor in building a Master / Slave relationship. The slave knowing once she or he agrees to the terms negotiated during the process.

You have to know most of your rights will be stripped away from you. You must know you and your body will be used , without warning. You will be taken when and how your Master chooses.

However and there is a however , you should still be allowed to see friends and family , a slave needs what I call down time. A time to relax and breath , to be able to clear the mind. A time to reflect on past and future.

We as Masters and Dominants take and we must give back more than we take. Probably two or three times a week I tell both Arianna and L that I really appreciate everything they both do. At time I do help out as well. On my days off I cook and at times I even jump in and do a few dishes.

A Slave is not your maid although the slave will be giving chores to do , A slave is not your mom. I pickup behind myself. If I use something I put it back. I do not demand dinner be done at a certain time, both know when I take lunch , If I am going to be late they eat before me.

Many just sit back and look for reasons to punish and my question is why? We can just sit back and find something wrong and the first thing that most grab is a belt or paddle.

Although I run a strict house punishing is something I do not look forward to, just as a parent feels bad for punishing a child.

We as humans , Masters and Dominants make mistakes maybe not on a daily basis but we do. Slaves and submissive’s make mistakes as well but nothing more could be more devastating known they have failed.

As with the 7 types of Submissives there are just as many slaves , but also there are just as many Dominants or Masters..

The service slave is more geared towards service , cleaning , cooking , and keeping things in order. Although sex does play a part service is their main goal. Just knowing their Master is pleased gives them pleasure.

The sex slave can be a little service orientated but is geared more at being used as a sex object , at times no holes barred. The sex slave gets off more knowing they have pleased than them getting off. Most sex slaves will conform to what pleases the Master and urge those actions more.

The Masochist in most cases is neither just as a full blown sadist. Very little structure , very few rules, it is all about the pain and the pleasure the sadist gets out of inflicting pain.

The all around slave a mixture of all of the above , a slave that needs a little of all , being used , in service and at times stepping up to take what pain is giving..

We as Master need to step up to the plate , owning one of the above takes a great deal of time and responsibility. We must make ourselves available 24/7. Arianna knows she can wake me at any time to talk.. We must give more than we take.

Being codependent does not make you broken , being needy does not make you broken , having a low self esteem does not make you broken in fact many times it makes you special.

I have heard many times I am broken or I am not worthy of having a Dominant or Master.

I myself prefer the needy part even the codependent , it is just knowing how to handle and being able to offer the care. Short term neither play out good if both sides are not ready to commit.

I have found very few Dominants or those who call themselves Masters who are truly willing to take any type of relationship serious or willing to take the responsibility needed.  These are the guys who hide behind the computer , the trolls who really have no clue. Once they find someone who is gullible enough it is short lived . The crazy rules the unrealistic demands , the confusion of changing rules just so they can punish.

Training is very time consuming just the initial training I am going to say 90 days with hands on contact on a daily basis. In order to be in control you have to be able to reach out and touch. Online training does not work , it works as long as the computer is on and you have 24/7 contact then it is still iffy.

You have to have need , the craving to be owned , the craving to be used , the craving to be called property. The craving to be able to hand yourself over completely.

The hardest part is the first 90 days it will tell you number one if you are just going through a frenzy or the life of a slave is not you….. It is easy to throw in the towel and give up , it takes a lot to stick it out , but if things are not what they seem , the raise the white flag and say I am done… No shame your just being true. I can assure you the Dominant you leave is not the last in the world.

I believe at times humiliation is needed , it is needed to bring someone back down to reality. It is meant to give a shock , kinda like sticker shock when looking at a new car. It brings someone ego back down to earth. Even during my relationship there are times I will use some form of humiliation to keep things in check , it puts them or reminds the slave of their place..

The word USE I use my property , I use my property for my pleasure , even during fucking I use the word USE , I love using you , I love fucking my property , I love fucking your ass. I like the little reminders..

We live a micromanaged relationship as most of you know. I control everything. I control hair color , I control the length , the nail polish , her clothes . I control the way she walks , talks. I control how she acts in public. I control bathroom , food , bedtime , shower , shaving. I receive a hourly check in 90% of the time with pictures. Both girls have a mileage book although I do not check it on a regular basis it is there if I have the urge to look. I have no passwords , I see no need mainly because I am secure enough in my relationship. However I will at times pick up the phones and strum through them.  If you as a Dominant has the need to demand passwords you do not trust and you have a very low self esteem.

If you the Dominant are insecure how can you control someone and your ego not be behind the force of your relationship? A relationship based on insecurities and ego will be short lived and you brought it on yourself, but you will sit in a corner and cry like a little bitch. Even in a relationship when things don’t go your way you still act like a little bitch.

You cannot be a part time Master , you have to be a Master 24/7 365

If you noticed I did not speak to much about Kink , or Bondage. My relationship runs much deeper. While at times I enjoy getting rough , at times I enjoy bondage , at times I get off on sexual abuse , face fucking being my favorite, then anal. I am more about the control , I love being in the mind. I love the structure . I have a life with zero problems and zero drama.. I love my life

New Dominants your best source for information http://bestslavetraining.com/

Oh My Ride

 

Grow up and be a man…

 

 

The Online Thing….. BDSM

Posted in Alt.com, bdsm, Bond, Bondage, Collarme.com, Collars, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, cum, Dating, Dominants, Email, Fantasy, Fear, Fetish, fetlife, Online Dominants on November 26, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

So your in your nighty leg hoked up in your chair , your favorite drink in hand, you boot up your computer, up comes yahoo messenger. Your thinking should I send the first , you do, your heart pounds as you sit there waiting on a reply. Then How are you? You exhale relief he did show up like he said.

You have never experienced BDSM  first hand. You belong to collarme.com, Alt.com, Fetlife.com, but you have never felt the flesh against your body, the breathing in your ear. The words you have been waiting for. I own you Bitch.

Your conversation starts off mild, likes dislikes, work. The different foods you like, music, Flea markets, you cannot believe how much you have in common, you feel like you were made for each other, it is fate, it has to be.

Then the text start, the text get more intense, sexual, spanking you, flogging, you on your knees sucking his cock. The way he is going to rape your body when you meet.

Then the phone calls start, you have been dieing to hear his voice, his commanding voice. The first time you hear him speak, chill bumps run down your spin, your pussy is soaked, you cannot even touch yourself without jumping.

You feel the connection, it feels so right. He is the one. I want him to take me, I want him to own my mind body and soul. I have waited on this all my life.

Now Ladies Slap your face one time and come down to reality. Pretty fucking intense there yes?

Online BDSM the fantasy you have always wanted to live out. After all, you can be who you want to be, you can let go, you feel free, rejuvenated , your alive for one time.

Then you decide to meet, but the mystery is already out of the bag. Chances are he has already seen you nude, or almost. He knows what you like sexually. He knows you just want to be fucked not made love to. Where is the excitement?

This is for you newbi’s out there BDSM is real, online is one thing , but in person is another. You are going to give up total control of your life as you know it. You are giving rules and task to follow and complete. At times while playing you are going to experience pain you have never felt. At some point he will put the fear of god in you.

If he is a Dominant chances are he has been with a submissive or two. I am not talking some old fat man who sells insurance and carry’s a wooden spoon in his back pocket.

So now you want a relationship, you have to be with him. Why ? Because he is the one you were meant to be with.

Bullshit.

Dominants are human as well, ladies, we harbor feelings inside, we hurt, we feel, and yes at times we can love.

The move is something to think about, not a day, a week, long enough to get your head clear, and fully understand what you are getting yourself into.

Okay lets say you have met a couple of times, you both met halfway , he got the room, you played a little, he fucked your brains out. called you his Bitch, his whore, slapped your face while fucking. Wow you loved it.

The you move in. Here comes the almighty blow. Now before you say anything you were warned. You were told how things would be. You cannot change your mind midstream. This is not the time to come clean,and say hey this is not me.

Remember you have someone else to worry about now, who lives, breaths, has a heart beat, and yes again feelings.

I have seen this happen, it has happened to me, even after everything was laid out on the table, no lies, no bullshit.

You excepted everything he had to say, you agreed , you promised.

The first 90 days are the hardest, maybe a little less, but generally 90 days for you to be able to adjust.

There is one exception, you are and were born a true submissive, does not happen to often but it can happen.If you have never lived a D’s lifestyle, you need to sit back and think long and hard.

Men and women have this switch, it is called fuck the feeling switch, can be turned on and off at anytime. Is it a fair switch to have, nah. It sucks you know it sucks. You have done it and you have had it done to you.

Let me tell you a little about Vile. The relationship although there are two. It is about me. Yea that sounds cold. It is not as bad as it sounds. Although the relationship is not a democracy, and I have the final say. We go out when I say, you eat what I say, dress, speak, walk, and fuck when I want. I may or may not let you cum,depends on how I feel. I use a few slave positions daily which will be enforced . It is about me.

Now you are thinking what the fuck do I get out of this selfish mother fucker. Vile is a fucking pig, he is ego driven, and abusive. Nah

What you get is someone who is loyal, caring. Someone who will communicate, take care of you. Spoil you at time, bath, cook. Laugh with you, and yes feel your pain.

I brought the subject of me up because. This is what you as a new sub or slave will experience with 98% of the Dominants out there. Okay some think Vile is to extreme. Well no I am not because everything is out of the table. I have shown you my hand of cards, nothing is hidden.

If you are sick, I will nurse you back to health. I am not going to play with you, if your running a fever of 103, although I do love to fuck when a sub has a temp. The pussy is smoking Hot.

You subs and slaves need to think do I really want a relationship like this or a FWB type thing.

BDSM is real. Think.

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Wow Should I feel Guilty

Posted in anal sex, Asian, Hong Kong, Japaenese Bondage, Online Dominants, Virgin on August 30, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

So last night out of the blue I get a text, my little girl Tiff. To clear things up here, her family is from Hong Kong. Tiff is not her full name but I will leave it at that..

Last night we text back and forth for a couple of hours, and she sent some very nice pics of herself , WOW. Tiff is just 21 now, very well put together. from head to toe.

Then this am I get a few text and some new pics which I am always happy to receive, but I am not going to share any of them out of respect. I am going to see her again on the 12th of September, I will pick her up from school, and bring her back to my place. She wanted me to come to her house, but I do not want Bruce Lee walking in the door.

Anyway here comes the should I be guilty part. Tiff is a Virgin, no that is not a typo a real honest to god Virgin. So she has made it clear the pussy is off limits. further more she has never tried anal, but that is the first thing she wants me to do. Wow , so here is the deal, things have been running through my head, I did not sleep at all last night. Should I or should I not is the question.

She has had a couple of online Dominants, which I never fucking understood in the first place, but to each their own, if it works do it. I am more hands on, I cannot see sitting behind a key board and jacking off. More so a grown man, who claims to be a Dominant.

Anyway so this am after a few text and some really nice pics, my phone rings and low and behold, Tiff is on the phone. The conversation went well, we were both very at ease, and comfortable, she was on her way to school, and we spoke for about 10 minutes.

So here is the thing. I have done sessions before where there was no sex involved, and I was good with that because that was the understanding we had, sometimes I get just as much enjoyment out of playing anyway.

Here is a 21 yr old Asian American which I am nuts over anyway, Asian women in general. Here is a submissive who wants me to be her first anal experience, the only thing off limits is her pussy, although I can play with,but no penetration , until if and when she maybe ready.

I will ask about posting some pics of our session, as long as there are not facial pics showing, I am sure it will be okay..

I want to try some new Japanese Bondage.

So let me get some comments and thoughts, on the topic….

 

Vile