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Introducing BDSM To The Home

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Collar, Collars, commitment, communication, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, Fantasy, Humiliation, Introducing BDSM To The Home, Loyal, Lube, Married submissive, Master, Master And Slave, masturbation, oral sex, Owned Slave, predators, Punishment, Rules, Security, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on March 30, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This can be very difficult but if the communication is right and both parties are open minded enough it could work. There are more than a few ways the idea could come into play, some are good while some are not so good.

The male will take one of three stances, yes , no , or maybe. This is it being brought up to him. Much of the time a male needs time to roll ideas through his mind. The main thought is what do I get out of this if I have to put any effort into it. I have to get something or its just not worth my time.

The female however will take two stances on the subject it will either be yes or no, there is no maybe. Just as I brought up the idea and the need I had to my ex-wife, but I got the your fucking perverted . It took you seven years to come to that conclusion congratulations you stupid bitch. So yes it does pay to be honest at all times even if you do not get the out come you had hoped for..

Most men who say NO or let me think about it truly have this guilty feeling, because no matter how you explain it, it is still drilled in their mind that it is abuse. Somehow being tied up , spanked, told what to do, or face fucking is abuse.

How ever those who stray have no problem bending some bitch over and dry fucking her ass until she passes out. Why ? I suppose there is no real connection between the two, there is no love between the two. The male does not feel ashamed doing what he is doing because it is now expected. With his wife he was exploring uncharted territory or he knows she is against any type of kink

If your a woman who is married and you have been asked to suck cock, or do anal and you refuse he will find someone who will do those things for him. He may not leave you and the chances of him leaving is very slim. The main reason is he has already built his kingdom, he feels secure, he feels safe, and he knows you are not going anyplace. He will how ever step out on you, and find someone who will fulfill his needs.

While you can get pissed off, while you can scream and yell because how dare he let some other women suck his cock.  Think about how you refused to. The worst thing you can tell a male is NO, because when say say that one word it now becomes a need, and vengeance will be his.

I believe sex falls under wifely duties, short of being abuse you are meant to please, now that does not mean you do not get anything in return because any relationship was meant to be a two way street. You as the wife are suppose to lay on your back, get on your knees, or on your hands and knees bent over spreading your ass. Everyone is not going to think the way I do and that is fine, I am expressing my own opinion. The husband has duties as well, and I have covered much of that in my 800 and something post. I have covered the abusive male, so do not think for one minute I am about abuse because I am not.

The key to a successful relationship is finding someone you are compatible with, you like the same music, food, going out, walking the beach at night, and then yes this also includes sex.

While I was searching for a partner I dated probably a 100 who thought they were slaves, and I refused to settle for less, if you told me you did not suck cock, the conversation was over, if you told me you did not do anal the conversation was over, which means I just blew 30 bucks for dinner, and I was going to go home and jack off. If you settle for less you will never be happy, you are only happy for that moment and time.

The man brings up BDSM to the wife and she may go along with it just to please, but most of the time the male gets a little rough because why? We are visual he has googled BDSM clicked on images and what do you see? Some bitch getting her ass beat. So he truly has no clue, or he has read some stories on erotica.com. The woman if she is in love enough or she thinks it will improve their already soggy relationship she will go along with it for a while, only to find out things are still soggy.

Now the female brings it up, now we are in a whole different ball game, the rules have changed, because what she is thinking is nothing the way the male see’s how things might turn out.

The woman has thought things out for the most. The woman can see herself living as a slave 24/7. She can see in her mind how it would be her living as a slave. The truth is she thinks about it for a long time before bringing the subject up, for a couple of reasons. One she is ashamed of her now kinky thoughts, second she is afraid of rejection, or third she is afraid you the husband will leave because she is not the woman you married..

Now while you the husband knows nothing of this, while your at work and she is at home having full blown fantasies, your working and she is at home pounding her pussy with something , and she is probably masturbating 3 or 4 times a day. Even while your fucking her she is thinking about kinky things and you do not have a clue.

To the male most of the time it is about kink, giving out orders, bondage, subjecting your wife to pain she does not want.

To the female it is much different, the submission is a need, to be a total slave is a need, because she has already thought it out. The fact is once she has already put all of her thoughts into motion you the male only has a small role to play in your new relationship, and it really takes very little of your time. She the slave is going to do most of the work all you have to do is keep things consistent.

Really the only thing you the husband has to do is except her for who and what she is. Let her ask for permission, write down a few chores. Come up with a few realistic rules, rules that you know will not be broken. The last thing a slave wants to do is break any rules, if they do it is truly a mistake.

She the wife is looking to be excepted, she wants to be able to be who is is and needs to be. When it comes to women this is not something that just happened on the contrary this has been brewing for a very long time. There was something at a young age that had a mental impact on her, something happened that more than likely she has not even shared with you. She could of been raped, maybe molested by a family member, or even abused at home, but something happened when she was younger to trigger her thoughts. I am not saying that is accurate 100% of the time but I will say 95% maybe a little higher. Most suffer from some type of depression, some are bi-polar, some suffer from anxiety , and most are on some type of medication.

That is what these men who prey on women do not realize or if they do they do not care. These women are looking for help, they are looking for someone to except them, they are looking for security. They expect the kink, why ? Because we are visual animals and nothing more, now some do enjoy the kink, some need the kink. These men prey on those who are submissive because they see it as a weakness, they see an easy fuck, or when they are talking to you the only thing on their mind is you sucking their cock.

I preach over and over when your first meeting a new Dom keep your legs close and your mouth shut, find out if he is really interested in you, or if he just wants the pussy.

Let your wife be who she needs to be, the only thing that will happen for you the male is your life will get a whole lot better. You as the husband will want for nothing, your every need will be answered without question. There will be total submission, and this submission will only benefit you, and remember your role is very small, it is not going to add to your day.

Think about it, you have what most men only ready about, you have what most men talk about when out with the boys.

You have someone you can dress how you want, eat what you tell them to eat, they feel good because you have giving them task. You get your cock sucked when and how you want, she will lay on her back at the snap of a finger, and will proudly lube your cock for her ass. She will be loyal to you and only you, you are not replaceable the main reason is she has gone through to much to get your relationship where it is at today. If she strayed she would have to start all over.

The collar this is a biggie. The collar is a sign of ownership. She now has a purpose, she now belongs, she is now who she truly needs to be not wants to be who she needs to be.

That is what we do as husbands we meet ours needs. Your wife, your slave we still need to provide their needs, we have an obligation to meet their needs, we have an obligation to make them feel wanted, and we have an obligation to reward when the time is right.

The wife or slave has done everything to insure the home is ran smoothly, she takes care of you without question. To make her feel complete is something we should have a need to do. The collar will bring out someone very special, and your relationship will blossom it grow 100 times over and end the end it will only benefit you.

Long ago I only use to see married slaves or more so those who were submissive. These were women who were not able to express their needs to their husbands, or their husbands thought they were sick.

I had hours and hours of sessions, which mainly included bondage some lite spanking never any bruises, and a lot of humiliation. I how ever never fucked anyone of them, there was never any penetration vaginal or anal. I did leave cock sucking out. I did get my cock sucked. If I was going to spend a couple of hours of my time pleasing you because hubby would not, you were going to suck my cock. I did that for a year or so, because I was not looking for any type of commitment. She got a motel most of the time, she paid for it, took us out to dinner, and I got to play with her, and I got to watch my cock slide down her throat.

I suppose it goes the same way, if the submissive or slave is not getting what they need they will seek out those who will give. This is not every case though. Many just sit at home and suffer with their thoughts to afraid to bring the topic up.

Let your wife be who she needs to be, it will cost you very little time. Let her be the slave she needs to be, let her be humble and thankful laying at your feet. While she reaches up and touches her collar, knowing that she is loved, cared for and owned.

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Vile

I Could Of Fucked Her

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Arianna, bdsm, Be who you are, being used, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dating, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, extreme, Face Fucking, Finger Fucking, Finger fucking pussy, fingering, fisting, fucking, Humiliation, kinky, masochist, Master, micromanage, Micromanagement, oral sex, Philippines, punish, Rules, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, submissive, sucking cock, Total Slavery, Trust, Vile on January 6, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

BDSM has changed as well, the people, the respect everything. More so the younger generation. I just googled BDSM clicked on images and nothing but pain and torture. People are visual,it does not matter what you read , who you talk to, its all about being visual.

I remember the first time I left Sherri’s house I was scared to death, she was black and blue from the neck down from and back. She got off while I was just terrified. After that day though something clicked, the more control I had, the more pain I could inflict the harder I got. During sessions I am talking sessions that lasted hours, there had been times I had actually came, and came hard, just off of impact play.Seven years and she did not cry one time, until the day came and I said goodbye.In that relationship Humiliation was a huge part of her kicks, at first mine but as time went by it was more like a job, I had to out do each session.That is the past, maybe at times we reflect on the past to much and it does not allow us to move forward.

We all have thoughts, and it is good to have memories , but that is what they are just memories, some were good some were bad.Over the years the Sadist part of me seemed to slip away, or maybe I just truly wanted more out of a relationship. I can tell you the vanilla mistake I made, was just that a mistake. What was the hardest was having to live two different lives. Although I remained loyal during that ever so shocking adventure, and it was so not me. Because there were times I just wanted to let loose, but I would of never disrespected her in that manner.

Going from using a Masochist to a vanilla marriage puts one in shock. What the fuck did I just do, and I knew it was a mistake. I knew from the first time I went to her house and it was trashed. I refused to live in a dirty home, it was not like filthy it was just cluttered papers piled everywhere just fucking cluttered.What else is odd is to be in a relationship for seven years and never fucking, that was while with sherri. Unless face fucking counts, that was almost daily. I think if we would of had sex that would of put me on a much different emotional playing field and I did not want to be that close. While she did have rules I seldom enforced them . I did not care because I was getting off. The Fisting part is what was incredible, she was my first.I remember the first time I laid her on the coffee table and told her to spread and my hand just slipped in, I closed my fist and I just started pounding her. I could open my hand and feel all around and I could make her stomach move.Today I enjoy fisting but it is not a need like it was then. Then it was a new experience , it was taboo to me, everything with her was taboo.

As I grew older the more control I needed, as I grew older the more in control I was. As I grew older I became aware of my surroundings. I started observing people more, and trying to figure them out. Wondering what their home life was about. Wondering if they harbored a deep secret like I did.When out I felt kinda like a freak show, because of being so different. While at the mall in the food court eating I would look at different women, and imagine different ways of tying them up, and using every hole. Or what it would be like to face fuck them, to humiliate them, to take them down as low as I could, get my nut and just walk away as if nothing had happened.

I was the guy who would walk up to the women other men were afraid to, being afraid I mean being rejected. I have always had standards , and I always set them high, because I refused to fuck someone I did not want to wake up next to. So I suppose when it came to fucking someone I never settled for less.

I remember one time I was at a convenience store visiting a friend, and this woman walked in, I was like fuck me , she was fucking hot, maybe 5.0ft even ,long dark brown hair, fakes tits. She was wanting to know if we knew anyone who sold pot, she said her husband was in their truck past out. As we were talking I told her I might know someone but I had to call in private so I walked in the stock room and she followed. I made a call , I hung up and I put my flip phone back in my pocket and I just looked at her. I walked closer to her  and she was backing up I did not say a word I just looked into her eyes. Once she was against the wall, I wrapped my hand around her throat and kissed her for what seemed like for ever. While kissing my other hand was down her shorts banging her pussy with my hand three fingers deep. After I finished kissing her , I pushed her down to her knees and I took my cock out and it slipped into her mouth and I just started fucking, it took all of a minute for me to blow my load. Once finished she got up and said in this little country accent, No man has ever treated my that way. I gave her the number to my friend and told her when her husband woke up show him what you like.To stop everything all she would of had to say is no or stop, and I would of apologized, but I could read her from the second she walked in. I didn’t want to fuck her I just wanted or needed that control.

Then the stuck up bitches , until 5 or 6 years ago I would work at a shell station during events to help out and make some extra cash Arianna has met the owner of the store before. Anyway This girl Sarah would come in every night and buy one beer Coors. Then a week went by and she did not come in. The following week Sarah came back in and I greeted her, then I said there is something different about you. I said ahhh you got a boob job, she made the comment I was not to worry I would never get the chance to touch them. So I closed my eyes and I started moaning, then I stopped. She said what the fuck are you doing. Well Sarah I have a very vivid imagination and I just fucked you and you were by far the worst piece of ass I had ever had, so I do not want to touch them. I never saw her again.That was how open I was, and yes those are true story’s.

Being a Dominant for any period of time it is so easy to spot the submissive women. I have point out a few to Arianna but she just laughs, little does she know.As I grew older I needed more. I needed more control but there were very few who could give up the control I needed. BDSM is much like a drug, the more you learn about it, the more you take part, the more you converse about it the more you need.There was never a shortage of pussy, it was finding women who did not use it as a tool , so they could get their way.

I wanted to have it my way.A year and a half before I met Arianna, I got up at 3.30 am, turned on the coffee pot waited, poured a cup went back to the bedroom, I was watching the morning news and I started thinking, Vile what the fuck are you doing. You are 48 years old and your waking up alone, that is fucked up. You come home to two dingy roommates . What kind of life is that?So while at work I began to put a list together, A list of what I wanted out of a relationship. The type of slave I wanted to have a life with. A slave who would want to follow. A slave who had no rights. A slave who would want to drop to their knees because it was a need, or spread because it was a need to please. A slave who wanted to communicate,

A slave who was smart, beautiful and intelligent. A list I was not going to give in, just so I could get some pussy.So I met Arianna, we talked for hours, even after I told her what I needed she did not flinch. I had pretty much figured out what she needed, but I was thinking what the fuck she has needs to, do I really want to do this. Just by talking to her and with out her giving out to much information. I had figured out she was being used, your whole life was out of control, she needed micromanagement, she needed someone to take her by the neck and say stop. Did I really want to invest that much time? I had to think about it for a day or so.Okay she is beautiful, her smile is one to kill for, she has a body built for sin, an ass to die for, each cheek just fits in the palm of my hand, small but firm breast, just fucking wow. The first time she got out of her car, blood rushed down to my cock so fast I got dizzy.There had to be more to the relationship than just sex, I needed so much more. I was in the process of moving to the Philippines , I had already made up my mind. I had a job lined up. I was going to start over.
I was going to start fresh, but something inside me clicked, just like the first click in my life. I was thinking maybe just maybe this will work, but I will have to put a long term plan together, a plan that I had to stick to, and I knew I had to remain consistent or I would loose.The first time she wrapped her lips around my cock I knew I had her, more so the first time I crawled between her legs, and I wrapped my hand around her throat, and I started to fuck her, I looked in her eyes and said I am going to own you. That statement proved to be correct, because I did everything in my power, my years of knowledge, and experience I had gained within the lifestyle, everything that I had learned, and for once I was putting it towards good use. I was finely using what I had learned over the years. I can tell you this believe it or not. If I want something bad enough, Vile always wins. If your just a passing thought that is what you are or were a passing thought. I never lose.

Image The key is to give back as much as you take, sometimes you as the Dominant has to give back much more. In the end though you can have anything you want, without question.

Vile

Your Life Is Going To Change , You Also Have To Train Yourself

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Adapt, anal sex, anger, Argue, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Being fucked, being used, Change, chat room, communication, fucking, kinky, No Panties, oral, oral sex, Patience, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, Safe and Sane, Security, Self-Discipline, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, TPE, you have to train yourself on December 20, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Your the new Submissive or maybe your a slave or think your one. You are in for a huge shock, kinda like culture shock. I remember the first time I went out into a small town while I was stationed in Korea. I was shocked at the way people lived.  The one thing I did notice though is how happy people were, how family orientated people were, how family’s and friends helped each other. The culture shock took sometime for me to get use to, but only when I realized I was really no different than they were. Okay except for my kink. Even at the age of 17 I was kinky and going back I was at even a younger age.

Your a Submissive , maybe your a Slave or you think you are one of the other. Depending on the Dom you end up with could make a world of difference.

The first real thing that will hit you right in the face is your freedom. Your freedom to move about, go as you please. The freedom to make decisions. In some cases you may even lose some of your vanilla friends.

Again depending on your Dom you will now have rules to follow, and there will be consequences for not following your new rules. As an adult you will now be punished, and you will except willingly with no questions. You will have certain protocols to follow even if your Dominant does not call them protocols. Being told how to act in public, dress, speak these are all protocols.

Your whole life is going to be turned inside out. You have read information on the net, you have been in chat rooms, you have joined groups, talked to others who appear to be like you. Deep inside we may have some of the same ideas but in the end we are all different. What we expect out of our new found lifestyle.

Maybe you grew up in a nice vanilla home, a nice easy going christian home, with strong family values. The only sex you ever knew was missionary. You had family get together’s, maybe you were popular in school, the good girl next door.

So maybe you always felt a little different inside, you could not pin point it, but you had this weird feeling inside, feelings you could not figure out or how to put them into place.

Maybe you had thoughts deep sexual thoughts of just being taken and used for someone’s pleasure, maybe being kidnapped , tied down, being spanked, but in no way could you ever share these feelings. At this point in your life these were just fantasies.

Now your a grown woman as young as 18 as old as 50 or 60, we can never control our feelings, we can never really control who we fall in love with it just happens. Now your at the age where you can begin to try and figure things out. Because if you can figure it out you will have this sense of pure freedom. Your own little secret. Your dirty thoughts can now come to life.

Depending on the Dom you meet things can go well or things can be a total disaster. A total Disaster if you meet someone who just wants a piece of ass and tosses you to the side. Maybe he beat you black and blue, but you cannot tell anyone. You should shrug it off and keep on going until you find the one.

You are the one who has to adapt to the way your owner wants you, you have to adapt to his needs his wants. He does not adapt to your ways.

So you found him, the one who you are going to give yourself completely. You both just clock, you both have the deep feeling of truly needing each other. This also happens to those who are married younger or older something just clicks inside, now instead of husband and wife they are now Master and Slave.It does happen to new couples as well as older.

Now the vanilla girl has found her new Dominant, her new Master, her new Owner, this is where you life will change and change really big.

You were use to guys begging you for a little pussy, most of the guys you dated really got off if you just gave them a hand job in the front seat of his dads car, maybe some head, but you were use to the begging, men kissed your ass to get between your legs. You had all the control, either you would spread or he would end up going home and jacking off that night, but you girl were in full control.

Now the coin is flipped, you are no longer in control, you now have rules to follow, told what to wear, and when. In most cases your panties are now a thing of the past. You are told to be fresh at all times , freshly shaved, your hair, what makeup to wear if any.

You are now for someones pleasure, your body and mind, and in most cases unless your a bedroom submissive only, your body is not for just pure pleasure.

Now when you are told to get on your knees and suck cock you will do so willingly, no questions asked. when you are told to spread and you get your brains fucked out you will do with out question and many times it is all about your Master, your Owner. Your time to cum will come when he feels like letting you.

Those nice little summer dresses you once wore out that went to the knees are now all but gone. Now your told how to dress. Now your dressing more like a little whore, yea it takes sometime to get use to, but I know in my eyes I enjoy showing my slave off. I love it when guys look and I know they are thinking about fucking her. You can look but you cannot touch.

Your skirts are going to get shorter, your shorts, the way you dress will now change for ever. In some cases the way you walk, the way you talk, act while out with your new owner. You will speak when spoken to when out, or like me most of the time I allow Arianna to speak openly, but I have the control to make her speechless if I so choose.

Culture shock will hit you hard, now you have to think real deep. Is this the life I truly want. Do I want to give up this much control. Do I just want to be used,

What do you get in return. You get the life you have always dreamed of. Someone being in full control, someone who truly cares about you, someone who will communicate with you, allows you to share your thoughts and feelings. Someone who takes an interest in you, someone who will be there when no one else would. Someone who will spend hours holding you, and you knowing everything will be alright. The best thing is you do not have to worry about anything because everything is in your owners hands

So the next time your on your knees or on your back, you think about everything you get in return, you will see a very different prospective, more so your feeling will change. You will grow to have the need to be used, in anyway your owner sees fit.

The main thing is your owner keeping his word, walking the walk and talking the talk.

It can be a very rewarding life, long lasting. A life many only dream of having but can never take that to their spouse in fear of being rejected.

Now we as Dominants, Master and Owners we are looking for someone we can train, someone we can mold to fit our needs and wants. We are looking for the perfect one, who will make us complete.

Your probably asking where does the training myself come into play? How can I possibly train myself when my Owner is suppose to be the one who trains me.

Training yourself is a mindset , instead of blurting out comments about how you feel, you now have to think before speaking. You can speak your mind but now you have to say things in a very polite way. You have to learn to control any anger issues you may have. If you have any anger issues and the Dominant cannot work through them, he will walk away, and walk away with out any hesitation. If you had or have any Drama you have to train yourself to control it, again if the Dominant cannot work his way though something he will walk away.

You will have to train your mind when it comes to being used be it sucking cock, or just spreading you will have to change your feelings your thoughts, most of all you have to come to realize you are for someones pleasure. This is you training your mind, training the way you think , the way you act.

Your Dominant cannot do it all you are going to have to step in and be willing to let him take full control over you, and be happy doing so. You will have to crave his touch, and be willing to please at the snap of a finger. Your Dominant now comes first without question, no questions asked.

You are there for him and only him.

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Vile

Sexually Broken II

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Safety, BDSM Session, bleeding, blindfold, blow job, Bondage, Collar, communication, control, controlling, Dominance, Dominants, extreme, Face Fucking, Fear, fucking, Gagged, Humiliation, masochist, Master, oral sex, Rape, Respect, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, Safe Word, session, sexual assault, Sexually Broken, skull fucking, slave, submissive, sucking cock on December 18, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I learned about the term Sexually Broken on Sirius 102 about a month ago.Sexually Broken is an adult video series, but I did find the topic very interesting.

There is a huge warehouse full of Bondage Equipment and women are tied up, strapped to different equipment and just used. The sex gets so rough the actresses are giving safe words to use in case things get out of hand. they are tied in every position you could possibly think of and fucked in every hole.

Now I suppose you could use the term in a BDSM or S&M setting. Where the submissive or Slave is just used hard, used in every hole..Sometime ago I had Arianna tied almost into a little ball. I pulled her ass to the edge of the bed, she was cuffed tied, blindfolded, and gagged, ahhh ear plugs as well. While sliding in and out of her pussy, I could not help but to just stare at her ass. She has an ass to die for. So I pulled out of her pussy and right into her tight ass I went, and pumped until I came. So in a sense you could use the term sexually broken.

Now on the other side if what your having done to you is not consensual and it is forced, you could use the term sexually broken., or maybe even rape.

This is what can happen if you meet someone for the first time and you decide you have to prove your submissive and you agree to go to a motel, only having spoken to this Dom a hand full of times. Because once you are tied down, on the bed spread eagle, guess what ? It is to late to change your mind. Hence the word sexually broken, used, raped, abused.

In a consensual setting I do not think the word applies because both are willing to take part. The fact is most slaves love to be used. The more their owner uses them the more they feel they have pleased.

phoenixasubbie used the word skull fucking, that is a word I really do not care for, although I guess there is no difference in the term face fucking. I am going to guess she is somewhat new to the lifestyle as she stated she is still trying to figure a lot of things out.

Many find the lifestyle intriguing , many fantasize about BDSM, being a submissive, or deeper an owned Slave. Until you can experience it and I am not talking seeing someone a couple of times a month, I mean until you have lived it you will never know.

The idea is to be able to give up most of your control, or as a slave all of your control. So being in a 24/7 setting would give you the idea of what it is really like.

Safe words are put into place to keep you safe, to let your partner know when a line has been crossed or you are unsure about what is going on. At that point you stop and you should talk about what just happened. What was it you did not like, what happened to confuse you, or why it hurt. Maybe there is another avenue that can be taking. If your safe word is not respected then it is time for you to leave, thank you but no thank you. No questions asked just I am outta here.

One of Arianna’s friends met a Dom on line, they talked for a couple of weeks, they text each other and she finely agreed to meet him. They had dinner, went to a motel to start her training. Tied her up legs spread and he fucked her with this huge dildo, when he was done the bed was covered in blood. He told her to wash, get out he would call her when he wanted to use her again.

The same thing could happen to you or worse, you might not wake up the next morning, because you really did not know anything abut this dude. You took his word he was an experienced Dom.

I myself do not use safe words , and I told Arianna this up front and I will explain. During a session, communication is very important, vocal and visual. You can see when your almost at their breaking point. You can tell by their body movements, their eyes if not blindfolded. To this day I have never hurt Arianna, the truth is I have never hurt anyone. I have left bruises, marks and sometimes small cuts, but everything I did was wanted and consensual.

If a Dom tells you he can train you to take pain, he is fucking nuts. Either you enjoy pain like a Masochist, or you do not. No one can train you to enjoy pain. If your in a long term relationship you will find the more you trust, the more you bond grows there are some lines you will be willing to cross just to please, but again you cannot be trained to take pain. As a matter of fact I would be willing to debate the issue with another Dominant.

The Dom will say we take our time, we move slowly, and each session we increase the pain until you grow accustomed to pain. I do not buy that one bit, and I would hope you would not.

Sex between two people is what you have agreed on, the do’s and the dont’s , what is off limits and what is fair game. Your off limits should be respected, if not and you allow it, it will only continue.

When I began my search and I have said this before I had a list , it was a list I thought about several days. Once it was completed , this is what I needed and I would not bend. If someone did not like it then move on, because if you settle for less and I am not speaking just sexually, you will never be happy.

I myself I get what I want , when I want as far as sex we really have no limits, with the exception of the normal stuff, no blood, no scat, nothing broken, no perm marks.

If you truly care about someone why would you want to harm them? Why would you want to cause a breakdown or stress? Many do not take the time out to think about safety, they are thinking of the now, they are thinking how bad they want to be in a relationship, to wear a collar, to be owned.

So how long do you go before you let your new Dom fuck you, that is up to you. Thinking with a clear head may make you wait just a little instead of having something to prove. You the submissive has nothing to prove. The Dominant has everything to prove. Him fucking your mouth or ass is not proving anything, and fucking your mouth is not part of training.

Just Think

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Vile

Training And Fear And Fucking

Posted in Adapt, Aftercare, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Consistency, consistent, control, Daddy Dom, Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Face Fucking, Fear, fucking, gagging, Giving Head, Golden showers, Honesty, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, Lie, Master, Mind Fuck, My Bitch, oral sex, piss, Protocol, punish, Punishment, Rough Sex, Rules, Scared, Security, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, Task, Total Power Exchange, Total Submission, TPE, use your submissive, whore on December 11, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

The first ninety days is the most important when it comes to training. I myself thing that once you put a plan together it is very important to stick to it.

The fear comes from the submissive, the not knowing what is going to happen, more so not knowing what to expect. There may be a little fear within the submissive not knowing if they will please or be able to meet your standards.

Training day begins I do not share anything, I do not give any ideas about what I am going to do. Just like I explained to Arianna watch and listen. That is all you really have to do.

Remember the Submissive will adapt to their new surroundings, and most will without question as long as you the Dominant keeps your word.

If you are new to the lifestyle the first ninety days will tell you if you really want to be part of a D’s relationship, in some cases it may take less than a week.

The first ninety days I gave no punishment, we were actually almost six months into our relationship before I had to punish Arianna. As a punishment I do not believe in spanking, because most who are submissive enjoy being spanked, so what is the point in doing something they enjoy when you punish. Arianna on the other hand is not into pain at all, so I decided that my best approach was to spank and I set that ass on fire. .

During the first ninety days a lot of positive reinforcement is needed, the idea is not to break down, but to build up. We want to point out the good, but we also need to correct when something is not done correctly. A firm voice without yelling or humiliating . The fear factor comes into play.

Your plan you must stick to exactly what you have planned, if you try to change things up you as the Dominant can get distracted, and may cause a little confusion.

The truth and always the truth, the first thing we tell a submissive is to always be truthful, never lie and always be upfront. If we cannot abide by the truth we cannot expect the submissive to. If we lie how can we expect the submissive to always be truthful. Once you gain their trust, that is the easy part, the hard part is keeping it. Once you break that trust you can almost never get it back.

I only started out with 4 rules as we progressed I added a few more. Handing someone a page full of rules, can really cause confusion, and again fear, the fear of forgetting. Some Dominants will hand out 25 maybe 50 rules and say you have to memorize each and everyone. Ask him if he knows them word for word, if not why or how could he expect you to. Rules are meant to give structure, and guidance. Rules are meant to be a reference for daily life.. If you give out to many at one time, the submissive will become overwhelmed , and feel like they are being set up for failure. Also rules we take bad habits and turn them into good ones. If you do this in a short time the Dominant will see a great improvement in any areas that needed work.

I was talking to a Submissive on the phone a couple of weeks ago, her and her Daddy Dom had split. When she broke a rule he would not punish, so there were no consequences for her actions, he was more worried what was for dinner.

I have found from past experiences if you do not stand by what you say and do what you mean you can lose control, again once you start to lose that control it is impossible to regain again. You cannot sit there and say I will change because it is to late. I changed because I let my feelings get in the way when it came to punishing or enforcing rules. I had a huge guilty feeling come over me and I no longer wanted to punish. In the end I lost control. Keeping our word is very important.

Arianna has daily task that has to be completed just like this am a list was completed and I will go through it and either keep it the way it is or I will veto if I feel she has put to much on herself. She has had a rough couple of days emotionally so I stepped in and helped out a little, yea I did dishes, cooked breakfast. Eggs bacon and sausage. I made her watch as I put three eggs into the frying pan and I flipped her without breaking a yoke. I broke one of mine so one out of six is not bad. Dinner I made a taco salad. We should step in at times and take some of the weight off of their shoulders. I like to show my appreciation.

From time to time I believe a little fear is needed, just like a little humiliation is needed. Sometimes the submissive starts to lose that feeling of submission, so we want to put them back in that mode..

Not long ago we were in our Den watching TV , Arianna was nude, I was on the couch she was on the floor, just looking at her drove me crazy. So I told her to spread, and she has these huge lips that look like butterfly lips that just makes me go bonkers. I stood up undressed crawled on top and just started fucking her as hard as I could. I wrapped my hand around her throat, and told her she was my whore, she was my cunt, but I had changed my voice up a little deeper , slower and I could see this look in her eyes. I told her to fuck me back and push, when she pushes I can feel her pussy grip my cock, and then her rocking her hips just WOW.

So I got up pulled her up by her hair and shoved my cock in her mouth  and started face fucking her, one hand one her chin and the other on the top of her head, pushing my cock in as as far as it would go.. Calling her my bitch, my whore, telling her that I owned her. After a few minutes I grabbed her by her hair again and pulled her into the kitchen bending her over the trash can and back in her pussy, I fucked her for a few minutes then I slipped it out and right into her ass. One hand around her throat the other with a handful of hair I banged her as hard as I could until I dumped my load. I then grabbed her hair taking her to the bathroom put her on her knees and I pissed all over her Tits, then came the cold shower. To me golden showers shows that I own, ownership.

She was scared, she did not know how to take my actions. After it was all said and done came the aftercare which was truly needed. I believe aftercare is needed but at times I am not at my best. So I am trying tp improve in that area.

The change in my voice, the way I was fucking, really confused her, not knowing how to act or respond but she went along with what I wanted to do and how I used her. It is good to have sex, sex makes life good. On the other hand it is okay to just use your submissive. Sometimes I will tell Arianna to go to the bedroom and strip putting her on the bed pulling her to the edge, fuck her and tell her to get dressed. Using puts them in that submissive state of mind.

The mind fuck, last week we went out for Mexican we were both stuffed Arianna was in the bathroom washing up and I told her to hurry, I said I have the brown bath towel on the bed I was ready. Her first thoughts were oh god he is going to face fuck me and I am going to puke. She procrastinated  for a good ten minutes once she walked in the bedroom and she saw no towel the look in her eyes were priceless. The mind fuck can be a very powerful, you can mind fuck even when joking, keeps them thinking.

You can tell when your cared for as well, the hug the kiss the way someone listens when your talking, you can just tell. I was getting head and Arianna asked if I wanted to finish in her ass, I love those words Fuck my ass. I had other plans though, I told her to lay on her side her mouth on my cock and I started fucking just like I was pounding her pussy, her arms were moving in the air her legs were kicking, I stopped from time to time to allow her to breath then right back at it, until I blew my load. It is okay to use your property. There is a very pleasing feeling that comes across your submissive when they know they have pleased.

Never share what your training plan is about. slowly implement things on a daily basis, give small hands on test. Such as Once I thought Arianna was ready I invited a Dom and Slave to our home and she was in full service, I am not talking sexually. When they both set down she was standing legs shoulder width apart arms behind back waiting for instructions for drinks and dinner. When training you train to fit your needs and wants. The submissive you train to fit their needs, their wants come later. If you say no then mean no, if you say yes then mean yes.

A little fear can be good with the proper aftercare the same with a little humiliation.

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Vile

I Am Me

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, blog, Bondage, Collar, communication, Consensual, control, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, events, Giving Head, Humiliation, Impact play, Kink, kinky, Lie, Lies, Love, Loyal, Master, Masters, munchs, needy, oral sex, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on December 6, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

In he past I have posted a little about who I am but I never have gone into any great detail. I have been into the lifestyle for longer than I can remember this dates back into my teens, before I even knew what BDSM was all about. Even in my teens I had the need to be in control.

I grew up in a very small town in Northern Georgia my 8th grade class had 23 people in our graduation. Going into high school it was somewhat bigger but total 9th 10th 11th and 12th only had about a thousand kids so compared to today’s school it was small. I played baseball in elementary and high school. I was a relief pitcher. I was only good for 2 or 3 innings though due to my side arm throw. At the age of 16 I was throwing 86 MPH so after a few innings my elbow would swell.

I was popular with most of the guys, but I cannot say the same about the girls , due to my sexual behavior. At that age I enjoyed bondage, face fucking, anal I was game for pretty much anything. It was a control things.

I caught onto life pretty fast I grew up in an abusive home, and both parents were addicted to pain medications, and of course alcohol. The one thing I learned on a daily basis is I was not going to be like them. To this day I could never figure out why they argued. My real mother has since past but my father is still living and we have somewhat of a good relationship. I have one brother who just turned 46 I am 51 by the way. Him and I talk often but have only seen each other maybe 3 or 4 times in the past 15 years.

I have never really been into drugs although as a teen I tried to smoke all the pot in the world but they just grew more so I lost that battle, I have never done any hard drugs such as cocaine , I am not big on pills , but I do have a drink from time to time. Every now and then I will get sideways but that is far and few.

I learned about the lifestyle shortly after I joined the Army and was stationed in Korea, and even then I just happen to stumble into it. I was introduced to an old man named Kim who lived with 5 slaves.

There is a huge difference in the lifestyle than in the US. In Korea a Slave would have nothing to do with a Dominant or Master unless she knew who trained you. Since the lifestyle in Asia is so underground it is probably still the same.

Once back in the states I was still young and dumb, but I had a couple of things on my side. I no longer had a temper, I was very calm, and I knew how to get into someones head. All of the sex, face fucking, ass fucking meant nothing but now I had a weapon that was very effective.

So for many years I spent most of my time just using, I would get what I wanted and just toss to the side and look for the next. This went on for a number of years. To me a long term relationship was a three day weekend, much more past that I was just bored.

One thing I did learn and it can be good and bad, I learned from an early age to speak my mind, If I thought it I said it. Another thing I learned was to observe people, I am a people watcher. What I learned from watching people is how I did not want to live.

So I have had several long term relationships, but have only been in what I would call love maybe 3 times in my 51 years. That is not a very good track record. In between up until a couple of years ago there were a couple of times I settled for less that what I needed and wanted, knowing it was not going to work, but I am human.

How you see me on here is me, once I log on and I start a new post I do not change. I am the same at home, in public, at work or at a local munch, I am me. I never try to be someone I am not.

I remember several years ago and this is what hit me, I was at a Chinese buffet with a friend and another friend showed up with a date, and when he said hey Vile whats up I asked them to sit down and join us and his date was just starring at me, and finely asked if I use to live in these apartments and I said yes. She actually started trembling and told her date she wanted to leave. She was truly scared of me. On my way home Animel and I were laughing at her, but once home I mixed a jack and coke and I was standing outside on the river bank and I started thinking. Wow if she was scared of me just how many more feel the same way. Then it hit me being feared is nothing to be proud of, that is not how I wanted to be known as.

So I put a plan together, I was going on a Vile clean up campaign. I was going to be my own public relations manger. I was going to clean the story of Vile up.

I became more active in the community. I started doing a lot of speaking, dating more, changing up my way of playing, putting my sadistic nature to the side, and before I knew it I was back in the game, I was back in the hunt. I was no longer feared I was very respected in the community, today even more so.  So a year later standing outside looking over the river drinking a jack and coke, I thought to myself well done Vile you did the impossible.

I was still missing something though and I could not put my finger on it, then I was at Bush Gardens one day and I saw all of these family’s walking by with kids and I said that is it man you need a wife and a kid. So off I went 3 months later I was married and a short time after she was pregnant. We lost our first son to a heart transplant he was 18 days old. By this time I had enough of the vanilla life and I had to get back to being me, and wow she was pregnant again. So I stuck it out for another 3.5 years then I had to come clean about who and what I was.

Now I was married for nine years to the most vanilla woman in the world, the sex was horrible, she could not suck a dick to save her life, and no ass fucking. I said you are killing me here. So after I came clean she agreed to let me move a Slave in, yea baby , but she was only an in service slave, NO SEX. My ex-wife was a horrible house keeper, she could not cook, and clutter everywhere. So I moved this bitch in and she went to work. A week later spotless house, meals cooked every night, my lunch packed kids off to school, picked up this was the life. So my ex gets jealous and says you both have to go. Let me think okay I am out of here. I told the salve hey its been nice love ya go back home.

I have a very good relationship with my Ex wife, there is no drama, Arianna and her get along good, my son likes Arianna. So now life is good.

So when I log onto wordpress I am me, this is who I am. If I were to try and be something different what would people who read here think of me. I tell the truth , I live by the truth.

Many have asked for advice and when I tell them what they do not want to hear, most get mad. If I told everyone what they wanted to hear where would that get you ?

I do not want you to agree with everything I post, or the way I believe, the way I think. My post are to make you think, my post are meant to be objective.

Much of my blog is about safety okay so Ive had a change of heart over the past several years. I speak on safety because you as a submissive or slave can get fucked up, you can get hurt and hurt bad. Most do not think before entering a relationship. More so the new who are entering the lifestyle. You do not listen until it is to late. You want what you want and you want it now. It does not work that way

So the next morning when you wake up and your bruised from head to toe, or something is broken, you can think back, yea Vile told me, and I did not listen. Bondage is no game and if you get some dude that does not have a clue to what he is doing, you just may not wake up the next morning.

Most new Doms are into hard impact play, again if he does not know what he is doing he could break sometime, or even worse while spanking and he hits to high and to hard, you could lose a kidney. BDSM is not a game you can get fucked up. Bondage there are many no’s. You can damage tendons if tied to tight. Remember that when you meet a Dom for the first time and he brings his little travel bag and he is totally clueless about what he is going to do. Yea take his word when he says oh I have been in the lifestyle for 20 years. Are you really going to take his word ?

The first thing I did when Arianna and I agreed to enter a relationship was to introduce her to people I knew in the lifestyle people I had known for years. There is nothing like the feeling of being safe.

Keeping your girls safe is what the majority of my blog is about, it is up to you if you listen or not. Again why do you think that over 95% of the 236 followers are women and there are so few men ?

I am not here to put other Doms or Masters down. I am not here to say I am better than your Master, because I am not we all have our own way of living.

Being a Submissive or Slave is not about being on your hands and knees scrubbing the floor, doing laundry , cooking or cleaning house. Being a Slave is not about being passed around like a dog, unless that is your kink, if so then go with the flow. Being a Slave does not mean your stupid, or you cannot think on your own. You are human, but a Human with different needs.

Slaves are needy for the most as with those who are submissive. You should not have to change who you are. I like needy myself, I like my Bitch to hang all over me. If your Master excepted you the way you were then he should not try and change you.

I share things because I want you to see what kind of relationship you can have, a relationship filled with love and respect. A relationship where you are cared for. A relationship filled with communication, then you add all of the kink.

You do not have to put up with drama, you do not have to put up with lies , you do not have to put up with abuse, arguing the list goes on and on. Before a Slave or Submissive you are human, you have feelings, you have needs and they should be met. If they are not speak your mind and if things do not change, fucking leave.

Why would a Master argue with his Slave ? Who is in charge at this point ? Why would you allow a Master to Slap you around ? degrade you, humiliate you in anger, call you names out of anger. Why would you allow such things ?

You as a slave or submissive has the right to be happy treated with respect, you do not needs someones drama brought into your life nor should you bring your drama with you.

I put a lot of work into my relationship 25 hours a day 8 days a week 366 days a year. I take care of mine and only mine. I am there through good and bad. I am there when Arianna gets emotional . My time is dedicated to her and only her. I am not looking to add to my house. Because I get anything I want when I want.  She would never think of saying NO. Be it sucking my cock, fucking , anal anything. Why ? Because I go above and beyond to insure she is taking care of. She knows that not matter what she comes first. That is the way it should be.

Be who and what you are, and make sure your Master does the same.

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Vile

Asking To Be Released

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, anger, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, betrayed, blow job, Change, Collar, Collared Slave, Collars, communication, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Dating, Discipline, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Honesty, Lies, masochist, Master, oral sex, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive, submissive or slave has rights, sucking cock, sucking dick, Total Submission on November 26, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

You as a slave enter a relationship in hopes of being accepted for who you are, and are promised your needs would be met. It is very important when entering a new relationship that you be upfront about everything, and what you expect out of the relationship. Where you want to be in a month, three months a year and so on.

When you first meet a new Dominant you should take great care with the amount of information you give. You do not want to spill your whole life out on the table over your first meeting. Somethings are meant to be private until you really feel like you are truly getting to know someone.

Information such as a abusive childhood, maybe you suffer from depression, maybe you were raped. So the information you share is very important but on a need to know basis.

I am not sure what the reason is but most slaves just want to sit down and open their book of life when they first meet someone new. This could really have a bad effect on the new Dominant. One being to much information, he could prey on what weaknesses you have shared, or two it could be to over whelming, and he is thinking man fuck all of this.

Another thing that really bothers me is a lot of slaves think they have to fuck on their first meeting, maybe trying to prove their submission, or the willingness to please. This is so far from the truth, you just need to be you, be the person you are. No one can make you submit until you are ready.

In the vanilla world when you meet someone , you spend time getting to know each other, you talk on the phone, go out to eat, the movies. So why would you think a D’s or M’s relationship is any different.

BDSM is not about sex . BDSM is not about you having to spread to prove who and what you are. BONDAGE DISCIPLINE SADO, AND MASOCHISM. No where in those four words does it say you have to spread or get on your knees.

In those four words the key word is Discipline , most do not fall under the last two words at all. So lets put the Bondage and Discipline together , again it does not say anything about sucking cock.

You the Slave are really looking for very little out of a relationship. Your looking for security, someone who will take care of your needs, someone who cares about your thoughts, your emotions, and someone who understands you. Your looking for structure in your life, your looking for stability in your life, and most of all your looking for someone who is not abusive, and someone who is in full control.

A Dominant is in full control of his life public and private. We set the standards and like me my standards are very high. You should avoid the Dominant who is full of drama, the dominant who cannot control his anger, the dominant who cannot control his emotions, and then the dominant with the ex problems.  A Dominant leads by example, that is how our respect is earned our respect is earned by all of the above I have mentioned.

I understand where a submissive or slave is coming from more so from those who are single. Most slaves are very needy, and being needy does not make you weak. The needy factor is a natural feeling, but you need to learn how to control those feelings until you are sure you are with the right one.

I myself prefer someone who is needy, someone who is depends on me. I am an attention hound. I like being the center of attention. Most Dominants I believe prefer someone who is needy, someone who is open, and someone who is able to communicate.

We are all different, we all have different needs. You notice I have not said anything about wants. I could careless about your wants because if your needs are met, and met on a daily basis guess what ? You do not have any wants.

I am far from perfect and I will admit I do make mistakes, but any mistake I make is far and few between. I think on a rational level, I look at both the choices and consequences. I look at every angel and everything that could go right or wrong, then I make a decision on my next move.

You as a slave have rights, you as a submissive has rights. You have the right to make demands if your needs are not being met. You have the right to speak up. Because if you do not speak up, you will spend the majority of your time on your knees or on your back.

Why am I sharing all of this information with you? Because I myself have been there, I have used, I have played on emotions just to get my dick sucked. I have played on emotions just to get some pussy and it is not very hard. I got what I wanted washed my hands and walked out. So now I am trying to make things right, in my own way I suppose. Emotions that is a very powerful weapon that can and will be used against you and any problems you have shared, a very powerful tool.

The Collar, the collar is to me very symbolic it has more of a meaning that a wedding ring. Accepting a collar you are submitting , you are giving yourself as a whole. So you have to have a clear understanding of what you are doing and what you are going to be giving up.

It is very important to ask questions, if your answer is not clear ask the same question in a different format, until you get the answer you need. You need to have a clear understanding where your new Dominant is coming from, because if you do not ask, and down the road you now have questions it could be to late because he is not going to change. I myself would never change.

If you are made promises from the beginning , you are explained how the relationship is going to work and what is expected, what your role is going to be then you need to make sure that path is followed. A Dominant cannot change rules midstream to fit his needs or wants.

You have the right to ask to be released, and you explain why your asking, and also explain that the relationship is not what was promised from the beginning.

Then comes the guilt trip, now everything is going to fall on your plate, it is your fault the relationship did not work. You are not a true submissive or slave. The relationship fell apart because of you and only you.

Well that statement could be true, but who was the one in charge? who was the one who was suppose to be in full control ? Who was the one who wanted to lead and you follow ? Who was the one who promised your needs would be met no matter what ? Because your relationship ends does not mean it was your fault.

If a man is abusive and he hits you, he is going to promise never to do it again, but he will, again and again and again, but he will continue to promise and he will promise to change.

Do not let yourself be abused, be it mental or physical.

If you are told one thing and down the road the Dominant wants to change things up. Lets say he told you he wanted a one on one relationship. Now he comes up and says I would like to have a threesome or even move someone else in. This is not what you were told from the start. In my eyes this is something that was planned all along, just waiting for the right moment. You have the right to refuse. Your goal is to always be number one, in my eyes anyway. If the topic of moving someone else in he had better have a good explanation as to why,and why he thinks it is needed. I believe most slaves do not want to share but do so just to please. I would not want that kind of guilt on me.

Shrugs just my thoughts and opinion.

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Vile