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Some Have A Very Dark Side , Michael Makai

Posted in Bad Dominant, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Online Relationships, Charles Michael Segaloff, consequences, Convicted Sex Offender, Fake Dominants, http://housemakai.wordpress.com/, human trafficking, Living Poly, Manipulation, Michael Makai, morals, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, Polygamist, polygamy, Self Proclaimed Master, Slave, Submissive, Total Servitude / Solitude on December 26, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am going to say it was roughly two years ago I received a phone call , at that time I was very interested in starting a internet radio show , and today I am still pondering the idea. It is a long time commitment if I were to venture into such a thing.

The call came in and the number was blocked , I found that to be somewhat odd but I took it anyway , note this was already prearranged. I had a million questions and then a few more, as I was talking the answers I was getting , were in a belittling format , but I just looked over it because it was apparent the person I was speaking with on the phone was not who he portrayed himself to be…. It was not long after I unfriended  him from social media.

So a somewhat successful book it would seem he was at the top of the world , but I am sure the closet was getting so full the door would not shut, so he manipulated others to stand and hold it closed , if that makes any sense.

Thinking back about all the people I have met in the lifestyle ive noticed one thing , and that would be manipulation. Manipulation runs wild like a cancer, preying on those who have no clue about the lifestyle or maybe even infatuation plays a part , but there is a trigger..

No matter who you are, or think you are, or the game you are playing you always get caught. The world crashes down around you , the walls cave in around you and there is no place to run , or even any friends to turn to , because everyone runs and hides.

It is funny you think you have a million friends but then you find out your really alone, I cannot even imagine how that would feel, on any level.

So who am I speaking of ? I was not going to bring up any names but I have changed my mind.

If a 17 year old contacts a grown man , the only words that should be spoken is I cannot help you. Mike was contacted via face book this is where the relationship began.

I am speaking of no other than Charles Michael Segaloff , or as many know him as Michael Makai

I want to go over a few things first before I begin my rant. A Dominant is a leader in the community , reaching out to those in need , and not expecting anything in return. As we grow older we want to share what we have learned over the years, while my way or our way may not be yours maybe there would be something you could put to good use. While I cannot fix you or your relationship , maybe some of my advice just might come in handy.

When someone wants to profit from your needs or questions , this is not the trait of a real Dominant. I am proud to say I did not purchase any of his books, I did listen to about 10 minutes of his boring radio show.

You always get caught no matter how good you are, be it cheating , drugs , or picking up a 17 year old girl so you can have sex with her, more troublesome driving 2500 miles to pick her up and really thinking your going to get away with it.

Just thinking that makes you a dumb ass , and acting on it makes you stupid.

I cannot even think why A man or a Dominant could think that a 17 year old would even understand the lifestyle , but when you turn it into manipulation that makes it a different story.

When someone thinks they can just pickup a 17 year old girl and think no one is going to miss her or report her missing, then that makes you really stupid.

What I find really upsetting is he was able to form a 501 non-profit on the study of Polyamory, wow really ? Being a convicted sex offender since 2001, you would of thought someone would of caught that..

I am going to share some recent articles along with news paper releases..

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/bdsm-author-allegedly-lured-girl-small-town-sex-family-article-1.2475835

http://www.kswo.com/story/30818181/lawton-author-charged-for-bringing-teen-from-new-york-for-sex

I also have the Arrest Warrant that was shared with me on Facebook , which was more than happy to share all the emails and chats, as they should have…

So it is not like the lifestyle already has a bad name , I am not sure if this will make national news or not Mike is really a nobody…

 

 

 

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What Makes A Dominant

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, anal sex, Argue, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Collar, BDSM Rules, BDSM Safety, Behavior Modification, Bondage, cheating, Cheating Dominant, Collar, Collared Slave, Collars, Commit, commitment, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Daddy Dom, Depressed, Depression, Dominance, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, FaceBook Vile Woods, fifty shades of grey, Humiliation, Living Poly, Married Dominant, Master, Master And Slave, poly, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, sex, slave, Spanking, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, submissive or slave has rights with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 12, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This is an answer that will differ from one person to another. Every Submissive, Slave, or Baby Girl will have a different definition. Every Slave, Submissive or Baby Girl has different needs, their submissive is on different levels, but the characteristics should be somewhat the same when it comes to A definition.

Honesty should be first on the list. When you first meet a new Dominant the first words out of his mouth is. You should always be honest with me. Now if he holds you to such high standards , why would he not be held to the same ?

I know I rag on married men who cheat on their wives, but if a man is married and he tells you, I want you to be honest with me at all times. You need to stop and think about those words coming out of his mouth, because he is already lying to you about being honest. It is clear he cannot run or control his own home, so how can he control you?

I will speak about couples who move into the lifestyle here in a minute, because there is a clear difference.

You know when meeting a new Dominant you should be able to tell if he has your best interest in mind. Such as asking about your home life, your health, any medications your on. The music you like, your favorite foods, you get the picture.

It is very important the two of you get to know each other as friends.If you start the relationship off on a sexual note, then that is all you will have and it will be short lived.

Make sure you fully understand what is expected of you. I myself explain things in such detail when I am finished there are no questions. If you ask me a question I give a very in depth answer.

Before a Dominant can hand out any rules, he should know you inside out, He should know how you think and what makes you think the way you do. He must have a clear picture and understanding of your bad and good habits.

I have said before rules are meant to replace bad habits. Rules are meant to provide structure. Rules will give you a comfort zone, meaning you have a clear understanding of what is going on. Once you have rules in place, they are almost never altered. Once you have a grasp on everything a few maybe added or old ones taken away.

Training

Is training real? Absolutely it is real and there are many different levels of training depending on how far you are wanting to take your submission.
Training can be mild, or it can be extreme, and even taking as far as what some would call the Stockholm syndrome, and one of the best references would be to study up on the Patty Hurst case.

You the Submissive or Slave should know and understand exactly what it is you hope to gain out of your training. How do you see yourself living in a D’s Or M’s relationship.
Before the training begins, the Dominant should sit you down and explain what he hopes to gain from your training, and where he hopes to see you in 90 days or so.
The training process can only be effective if the Dominant is consistent on a daily basis. The training can only be effective if the rules, and protocols are enforced on a daily basis.

A Dominant will never ask you to do anything that may put your job in jeopardy. A Dominant will never ask you to do anything that could be against the law.

Isolation

Many of you really have no idea what the term Isolation means when it comes to a D’s or M’s lifestyle. Implementing such an act can be very harmful to you mentally, and physically. Shutting you out from the outside world, keeping you away from family and friends.
Lets face it we all need a break at one time or another. Being able to visit friends, family, having a girls night out. You want to be able to clear your head.
Isolation is something many fake Doms use as a tool. The more your isolated the less chance you have finding out any real information.
You Don’t need friends you have me. You don’t need to talk to anyone else , that is why you have me. I am your Dom, or master I have all the information you need.

You should never give your passwords or any other personal information to your Dominant. This is a true sign of the Dominant being insecure. We are all adults and we all need some privacy. Insecurity, and a huge ego will get you nowhere.
You as a submissive or Baby girl, you have the right to question, you also have the right to say no. If your not sure Google submissive or Baby girl.

If you do not live together you should have full access to your Dominants home, once you both have agreed to enter a relationship.
The reason being, he will tell you what is yours is now his. Well surprise, surprise it works both ways now..

You should have access to your Dominant 24/7 if you are not living together. If you send a text or email, you should expect a response in a timely manner, meaning within an hour or so.
I have seen on her where a Dominant has told his property he was to busy to text, or email for several days.

Pick up your cell phone and type 35 words and time yourself and see how long it takes. 15 seconds maybe? So your going to tell me the Dominant does not have time to respond, yea bullshit.

Remember you have giving your submission, and he the Dominant has taking on the responsibility. You do have rights.

If you do not live together, and you have agreed to enter a relationship, the Dominant should be able to provide you with a clear time line on when the two of you would be making some kind of move. If neither have no plans of moving in together that is fine.

The Poly Dominant

Poly is not for everyone, and living in a poly relationship is probably one of the hardest task in the lifestyle. Most poly families do not life together, for one reason or another. I know of a couple right now that are working but the drama is just out of hand.
If you do not live together, there is no way to maintain any type of structure. If you do not live together, there is no way to enforce any type of rules or protocols.

You the Submissive needs to ask upfront if the Dominant is poly or not. If you are not poly then you need to make it clear, and you need to stand by your words.
If you are open to the idea but with stipulations you need to make them clear.
You should also ask why he has a need to have more than one submissive or slave. When I has asked other Doms the answer has always been I need more flavor. Think about this for a minute, more flavor really? So your cocking sucking skills are not good enough, maybe he needs a tighter pussy? Or maybe you refuse to do anal and that is a need for him. If ass fucking is a need and your not into anal, guess what? Your the wrong submissive for him.

Dominants And Depression

That is a loaded gun, and the clip is never empty. There is a great chance you the submissive or slave has some form of depression, not everyone but the odds are pretty good you do.
If this is the case, how would you expect a Dominant who suffers from pretty much the same thing, take control of your life. If the Dominant is not able to control his own life, how can he control yours?
These are questions you need to find out before entering a relationship. You need to know what type of medications he is on and what they are for.
When entering a D’s or M’s relationship you can leave no stone un-turned.
Depression is a silent killer, watch the news this morning and you will see.

The Dominant.

No real Dominant has anger issues. The real Dominant is in full control. The real Dominant lives by the truth, and expects the same in return. A Dominant is in full control of his life and surroundings. The real Dominant has no Drama inssues, he has no Drama with the Ex.
Most Dominant are very active in the lifestyle it is a true need, I know this because it is for me, and the 25 or so I meet with every month.
You should be able to ask for references, of other Doms he knows and in some cases other Subs he knows or has owned before.

Reason being you are going to let a man tie you up, spank your ass, along with many other things, and you do not want someone who just read 50 shades thinks he is the almighty, he is now the Master of Masters. You can get hurt.

Couples moving into the Lifestyle

Now this is the other Dominant, he may still have some anger issues. Anger or controlling anger takes a while to master, it takes time to learn how to control. It took me some time, I do have a temper, and I have lost it, but Arianna has never seen that side of me and she never will.
You have to learn how to filter that anger and replace it with good.
One thing I started doing, my mentor told me this. If you are angry think about what your going to say before you say it.
This gives you time to rethink what your about to say, and it also gives you time to calm down a little.

If your wife is not Submissive, but you have found a Dominant side in you, if you sat your wife down and explain your needs in full detail, it is more than likely she will agree to experiment with your idea. You have to be able to sat her down, and explain in clear detail what has made you change, and why these things are now a need. In most cases it is in the woman’s blood to want to please.

If you are a submissive and your Husband is not Dominant, well it is sad to say your pretty much out of luck.
Chances are the male is not going to want to take on anymore responsibility than he already has, which in most cases is very little. Those who have very little responsibility, are in it for the mother figure thing , and that is what you are you do everything his mother did, except for sex.

You cook, you clean, you take care of the kids, you pay the bills, and he watches Monday Night Football.
Many married men see BDSM as abuse, and they feel bad about doing certain things.

You all know how I feel about stepping outside of the marriage, it is wrong.
When you got married you exchanged Vows and you made a promise.
If you are not happy leave, it is not fair to you, but more so it is not fair to the other.
How long are you going to live your life unhappy, so when you think about stepping out, think about your family. Why would you want to drag them or your children through your mess.

The Collar
The collar has great meaning. The collar is a sign of ownership. Once around your neck you will feel a bond like no other. This is when your relationship really begins to grow.

The Collar is giving after your first phase of training. The first phase as I call it, can last anywhere from 3 to 6 months. About the same length of time you would think about getting married to someone.
The collar means you are now owned, the collar means you and your Dominant have come to terms and you are now ready to settle in.

If your Dom went to Wal mart and purchased a 6.00 dog collar, you now know how much your worth. If he went to an adult book store and paid 9.99 for a collar, again you now know how much your worth.

The collar is meant to be worn 24/7, so if you are a professional then great care should be taking when he is selecting your collar.

Many 50 shades Dominant have these wal mart collars and will try to give you the collar on the first meeting. This is used as leverage, this gives him more control over you, because you have agreed to submit, and only knowing him in person for a couple of hours.

Last you want to be excepted for who you are, not who the Dominant wants you to be. You want to be loved and cared for, you want communication, you want honesty, you want someone who is going to always put you first no matter what. You want someone who understands you, as a partner and a submissive, you want security, but you want that firm hand as well.
You want a leader who is in control, and stands by his words.

You want a real Dominant.
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You Do Not Have To Agree With Me Or My Reasoning

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, anger, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire., https://www.facebook.com/vile62, Master, Master And Slave, poly, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, slave, Submission, submissive, Triad on July 3, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I do appreciate everyone’s comments, and I still appreciate them even if you do not agree with me.

What I write here is my opinion and nothing more, while Arianna and I along with Lea Berrymire who is an awesome writer, once finished it will be just my opinion…
I have had writers tell me you do not need help, do it yourself, keep what you make to yourself.
Yea well Okay although I do have a diploma I never did that well in English as my grammar here shows, I am not a professional writer nor have I ever claimed to be I am me , I am no one else, what you read here is the real me.

You Don’t need anyone to help you write just be you, or else you will have to split the money.
I do not care about the money, while I do believe a book would support my radio show , that will start out one day a week, I would like to increase to three or four days week.

I enjoy helping others.That is why I do this blog. I am able to be me, this is my world, my life, this is my vent.
While out in public , for the most I am or have to be someone I am not . I live my daily life a lie.

You may not understand my way of thinking or my train of thought. One thing I can assure you is before I act I think everything through. Remember Choices and Consequences ? I never act on an impulse I am not wired that way.

While
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and
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Did not agree with me and they both expressed their feelings,and that is perfectly okay. I welcome all comments and thoughts. You cannot agree with me on everything, if you did we would live in a perfect world.

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Did however come back and say she did now understand..

So I suppose what we have to offer is really no different, than those who are living in a poly with a married man is really no different, I can see that….
Or I suppose those seeking a poly or Triad home that is very stable, and well structured, would not be a benefit.
I can see where a poly or Triad where everyone works as a team would not be beneficial.
So all in all maybe I just worded things wrong, that is very possible.

The Triad was not even my idea, I did not even bring it up, the truth is I never even thought about it, because that was something that Arianna and I discussed prior to entering a relationship. She made it clear she wanted to be the only one.
So we change, she brought up the subject, and gave me her views on it. My answer was, I have to think about it.

So the comment that offended me was. The reason I wanted this Triad was because of Lust.
The truth is although bringing someone in would be a good idea with everything I have going on, it would be nice to have an extra pair of hands , and thoughts and ideas.

I do not think with my cock, my life does not revolve around my cock. As far as sex goes I get anything I want , when I want and how I want.

As I stated maybe I just worded everything wrong.

There is no particular type of female, it all has to do with personality, that is really all, short, tall, skinny, chunky, there is no real preference. So if it was Lust my train of thought would be much different.

Arianna is very possessive , the key word VERY, but she knows having sex would have to be part of the relationship. We would just have ground rules for the house when it came to sex.

One last thing I would like to mention, this would only be long term and nothing more. So we are looking ahead into the future..

Now to the awesome Lady who has been working with us on my book. I would like to thank her, and you should check out her pages.

http://www.leabarrymire.com/

https://twitter.com/LeaBarrymire

http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/5819512

https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire

leabarrymire.blogspot.com/

Much Love to all
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Vile

Why Do You Cause Your Own Pain

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, cock sucking, Commit, commitment, consequences, control, Dominant, Dominants, Master And Slave, Meeting a Dominant for the first time, poly, Poly couple, Polyamory, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , on July 1, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Before you buy a new car you research it. A car is probably the second biggest investment you will ever purchase. Before you buy a new phone you research it, before you buy a new computer you research it. You spend hours upon hours making sure you make the right decision because you only want the best.

Why would you not think better of yourself ? If your going to be used why not get something back in return? Why fill yourself with problems and drama ? Why would you be with someone who does not know the truth ? Why be with someone who lies because they don’t know the difference.

You step into a world you know nothing about. You believe training a submissive starts out by sucking some dudes cock you know nothing about.

Maybe one of you who are submissive can explain that type of training. Maybe you can share what it is you get out of it, besides you just liking to suck cock.

If you really want a D’s relationship why would you not seek out information about the lifestyle ? Why would you not research how others live the lifestyle?

Those of you who are in the lifestyle , I have said it before and I will say it again. Women were put here to serve, be it Domestically or sexually. I truly believe that statement .

If you are going to have a submissive or slave, and you Dominants expect the same thing, then it is our responsibility to give back as much as we take.

If you own a brick house and you live in it, but one day you wake and you decide you need bricks and you start taking bricks one by one and your putting nothing back, yea at some point your house is going to fall in. You cannot take and take and expect something to last if your not giving back.

No Rights Slave

While Arianna and I live a No Rights M’s relationship we also live a No Limits relationship. Your thinking wow no limits. The term no limits has a thousand different meanings and it does vary from Master to Master. I have never met a D’s couple who says their relationship is no limits by the way.

Our own perversions vary as well, mine are not as extreme as others I have met, but hey if it is consensual and they are happy so be it.

I am not into sharing Arianna, and I have been asked a million times if I would allow someone else to fuck her. It does give me a high feeling knowing she is sucking my cock and someone else is jacking off to her.  After being asked, even to swap slave for slave for the weekend, as I turn around and walk off, I am thinking yea mother fucker eat your heart out.

I am not into forcing Arianna to fuck others, and I have met Doms and Masters alike who do share and they demand it. I suppose it is the power thing, the ego, then him getting to brag about it.

Even stuff like K9 I have seen more than once but I have never thought about bringing it into a relationship. To each their own if it rocks your world and your happy and it is consensual then have at it.

So we use the term No Limits and we can put that on any level. To me the No Limits only covers a few things and I made it clear from the start. Sex when I want, Oral sex when I want, Anal when I want. I like using different toys and at times veggies, shrugs, I love watching things slide in and out of a pussy or ass.  I truly get to do anything I want without question. Even when Arianna was sick like with the flu or something, it upset her because I would not use her. There is not a day that goes by she does not ask if she can suck my cock.

No limits can mean anything, come on really we all have limits.The thing is if you truly care about your property knowing your submissive or slave will do what ever it takes to make you happy, why would you want to damage on a physical level or a deep mental level. Many will do what they are told because the believe it is expected .

We as Dominant and Masters do not or should not want to bring harm to our property. When we first met our partners, our submissive’s  or Slaves we made a promise. We said we would take care of them on all levels. We said we would be there no matter what, we also said we would put them before our own needs. Yea you dudes said that.

Some of the blogs here on WordPress are so depressing, seeing what these girls and women are going through, or what they have been through. They continue to walk the same path, making the same mistakes, hoping things will get better.

So we have a game plan we put together, kinda like football , but I am offense and defense I play both sides, and I play it well. I keep my word, and I live by the truth.

I do not mean to brag but I am a very simple man , I live a very simple life. I allow nothing that is going on with the outside world to bother us. I allow no trash into my home. I can talk because my backyard is clean, and has been for many years, so I have the right to talk.

Sex, the act when our animal comes out. We can be who and what ever we want to be. In order to be happy all of our needs , need to be met. So this has to be discussed prior to entering a new relationship, it is very important  to be who you are, and lay your needs out on the table.

You as the submissive or Baby Girl has the right to speak up if you do not believe things are going as they should be. If you were promised something and it did not happen you have the right to speak your mind. You have the right to express your concerns. Many times you know things are a lie but for what ever reason you just go with the flow.

Life itself is made up of two very simple things, 1st choices , 2nd consequences. Every choice you make there is a consequence, for every consequence there has to be a choice. Making the right right choice you can control the consequences, but making the wrong choice you really have no control over the consequences.

You also have to determine what is healthy for you and what is unhealthy for you, in your everyday life, again choices and consequences. Do you want to continue to live in a unhealthy relationship, or do you want to move into something more stable ? Choices and consequences. If you choose the first then you have no right to complain, if you choose the latter then you move on and put the past behind you.

Before I make any type of decision , I am not talking about buying eggs , but something that will effect the home, I think things out very clearly. Because the decision I make is not only going to effect me, it will effect Arianna as well, choices and consequences. If I make the wrong choice, I face the consequences for two and not just one.

While it is true we do not have control over everything in life, because it does throw curve balls from time to time, but when life does throw a curve ball and we are prepared and we make the rights choices, we may be able to control most of the bad and in some cases turn it around to our advantage.

Finding the right Dominant is a choice you have just as finding the right submissive or slave. if your willing to settle for less then you made the choice so you have to deal with the consequences, and you either fix it or you just deal with it, but if you choose to stay willingly you have no right to complain. That is just like if you do not vote, you have no right to complain about how someone sucks ass.

You do not have to cause your own pain, because you are in control, you are in full control of your choices, and for the most you can be in control of your consequences, things get fucked up when you try to buck the system, and you have full control over most any situation.

I use to feel bad for the homeless, but the truth is most choose to live that way. I remember one day I was pulling into a Krystals and I saw a man standing on the corner with a sign saying I need help my family is hungry. So I went inside ordered my food and I bought a dozen burgers I walked out and gave him the bag and said there you go man, its not much. He opened the bag and the first words out of his mouth was what no cheese? I just looked at him in disbelief, reached over and took the bag from him.

I was in a 7/11 one day I was buying a pack of smokes and I heard the male clerk talking about how his ex had moved and he had no way of seeing his daughter. I was driving a 1991 Isuzu Rodeo a complete rust bucket, and the clutch was slipping, a few weeks back I had bought a new clutch but had not had a chance to put it in. Anyway the story touched me. I walked outside, reached in the glove box took the title out , walked back in bought my smokes and I put the title and the keys on the counter. I said man its not much but it runs. I thought he was going to fall apart. Unlike the burgers I made the right choice, the consequences were I now had to walk home.

We control most everything in our life, we are able to control the outcome 99% of the time. It is when you try and sand against the grain when things go wrong. You may not like it or think its right, but you have to remember your bubble.

Arianna and I looking for a third to add to our family. You know I could just bring someone in and tell Arianna here deal with it, but that would be a bad choice, and I would not want to know what the consequences would be. So we have to work together, and find the perfect fit. The gloves must fit both hands. It may never happen. Right now I am in full control, I have the final say, and this is not really for me, and it does not have anything to do with two women being Bi, Ive been there done that. It has to do with making something more complete than it is already, notice I said more complete, it is not something that has to happen, because our home is already complete.

Choices and consequences
choice
Vile

We Are Still Considering A Poly Triad

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, poly, Poly couple, slave, Submission, submissive, Triad with tags , , , , , on June 12, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

While we are still considering we are not what you would call actively looking. We have slowed down somewhat, while we have met a few who were really nice, they just did not fit into our bubble.

At times I think it would be ideal then there are times I am thinking nah is it really a need? Remember this is not about me, I am not looking for different flavor. I really get anything I want when I want and how I want it.

If you have ever wondered what a no limit slave is, well you need to speak with Arianna. Now when I say no limits you have to take into consideration of the respect I have for Arianna. Just because she is a Slave does not mean I am just going to use her as a doormat. The truth is there is not really anything I could think of that she would not do if told to do so. So the flavor is not a need.

Pussy is pussy, sucking cock is sucking cock. You can train your submissive or Slave how to suck cock, or how you like to fuck, so I have never understood the cheating part.

Training your submissive should be more about helping them improve in areas that needs improvement. The sex is the bonus, because if you are who you say you are and you do what you say your going to do, then the rewards are never ending

If at some point if we did find someone we would consider it could not be a slave, it would have to be a submissive, and the submissive would have complete different rules than Arianna. There is no way I could even attempt to have another slave in the home.

At the MasT meeting I was speaking with another Master who now has 5 slaves but only one lives with him. His Alpha was explaining that each one brought something else to the table and how each was different. I suppose that works out okay but it depends on what you need out of the relationships.

So one would have to be able to make friends with Arianna, the two would have to click. The idea is to become best friends. When you hear most Dominants talk if they want to bring in another you have to be Bi sexual. I do not see the need in one or the other being Bi.

You do have to insure the two are compatible , and the Dominant needs to give the two space so they can grow once a friendship is established then the Dominant can step in.

I see a family, a family of love and caring, a family full of support, being there for each other. Going out to eat together, the movies, vacation. Then the two women shopping together, thrift store, art classes.

It can be done.

So who knows what the future may hold

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The House Of Vile

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The title does have a nice ring to it , Arianna and I had a very deep conversation this am while she was driving to work. We do talk every morning , at times it is more general, then at times the conversation turns very deep.

I am for the most a jokester , hmm is that a word ? I am a prankster , now that is a word. For the most people do not know if they should take me serious or not, or I will say something make a comment and the room gets quite, and someone will say I am waiting on the punch line.

It is no secret or at least I don’t think it is I sell cars for a living , it is okay it was a huge career change for me , and Saturday I was selling a prius V to a lady and when I took her credit application in the general Manager looked at me and said what do you know about this woman ? My reply was man she has a huge camel toe, and I just got this blank stare and everyone is looking at me, and I am like what it is huge. People laugh when my phone rings and my ring tone is Tone Loc, Funky Cold Medina. It was Stranglehold By Ted Nugent for the longest. I am not very good with my Samsung Galaxy S4 so every now and then Arianna will showing me something new, like the Mp3 down loader then this bad ass ringtone maker. So I am not all serious 24/7, Ariannas Mother still has not figured me out, and I have made some comments that has just blown her mind.

Ariannas Mother does know about our lifestyle, and although she may not agree with everything, she has seen a vast improvement in the way she acts and her health, Her mother also knows she is loved and cared for. Just like last Sunday I was off and Arianna had to work. I love cooking and I like to cook when I am off I guess I am helping out in a way. So I went to the store and I bought dinner. When Arianna arrived home dinner was prepared.  I served her Lobster tail, Baked Salmon, and shrimp and Lobster meat, and pasta. My way of saying thank you.

Twenty plus years I have had three long term relationships., I have talked about the last two in depth, in my past blogs. The in between was some pretty rough road, not for me but those who were submissive, because in my eyes they were just objects, something for that time. Okay so I used and I was wrong because many times you can give false promises without even saying a word. At times I was very cold because when I was done, I was done it was time for you to get the fuck out. The ones that I just used I had never brought up the topic about a collar, because that was not my intention.

The last before Arianna was Lynn. Lynn was the perfect situation for the time. She would come over on Friday and stay til Sunday then go home. We would text through out the week , then when she was over it was just bondage and sex. I knew it would never turn into anything, so it was fun for about a year. I never took her to any local events because I was not into her like that. There was only one Dom I introduced her to, again because I was not into her that way.  When it was over it was over, no contact at all between us so the parting was mutual. That was the slave whos husband came over crying because I was banging his wife. That is what I keep saying you will get caught, it is not a matter of how, but when. No matter how sneaky you are or how good you think you are you will get caught, and in today’s times you get get hurt or even killed.

So the House Of Vile. I run a very strict well structured home. We are problem free and drama free. I have rules and protocols that are followed daily. If they are not, then the choices and consequences come into play. In almost two years Arianna has been punished one time, and it is something she will not forget, since then it has been smooth sailing.

There is no arguing, there is no yelling, I rum my house. I have a place within the home and Arianna has a place. I am Dominant she is Slave, and yes she does call me Master but that was never anything I brought up or told her she had to do. As a matter of fact when she first met me she asked, what do I call you? I told her for now just call me Vile, then what will be will be. I think it was a couple of weeks and she started calling me Sir, again that was not something I told her she had to do. I had to earn her respect, and being called Sir is something that has to be earned.  Although we have never argued , nor has Arianna ever spoken out of place, I do get the eye roll every now and then, sometimes I say something then at times I just let it go.

So we are now talking about adding a 3rd, bringing someone into our home. I blogged about this the other day, our little bubble. To bring another into your home is a huge decision, and it is something that needs to be discussed in great depth. Both parties have to come to an agreement. We are speaking to a slave now, who will soon come out to visit. The first time we spoke on the phone I made it very clear. It is not me nor is it about me. You will have to win Arianna over, you will have to become her friend, you will have to become best friends. I am the easy one I am the one who can adapt. Although having another Slave would be nice, and I am not speaking about sex, because that is something we have not really talked about. It would be nice to bring another in to help run the house. To insure things run smoothly. To help Arianna , help with task, shopping and so on. Go out together have fun, Art classes and art shows. So bringing a 3rd into our home is not just about pussy or getting my cock sucked by two women at the same time.

There has to be an Alpha Slave, there has to be, although both are treated equal there is a chain of command. The Alpha is just as respected as the Dominant, although the Alpha does not run the home , she is in charge while the dominant is not home. The Beta is giving task and will follow through with them without question.

I believe you have to have an open forum once a week. This is the time that the three sit down and speak freely about anything and everything. How things are going. Did any problems arise that needs to be addressed? Are things running smoothly ? Did the two have any differences that needs to be addressed. This is not and will not turn into a bitch session.

The Alpha is an Alpha for a reason, number one she was present first. The Alpha was the Dominants choice , The two has been in a growing relationship for sometime. So when you start to talk about bringing a 3rd in, the Alpha has to know things will not change, no matter what happens, because if she feels threatened in any way, then the possibility of a 3rd will never work. So the weekly talk should be very open so both can speak their feelings. Maybe something could be done a different way, maybe the two do not agree with something.

The first rule of the house is the Alpha is always right, if your confused about anything then you ask. The Dominant and Alpha sit down and work on the daily task. I then pass down what the Beta needs to do, and the Alpha insures everything is done.

If you have experience and you have been in the lifestyle for a while, maybe a long time. You can take everything you have learned and throw it out the window , because you will have to adapt to my way, and I can assure you my way is much different.

The way you will act, the rules, the protocols, even the way you dress. When you are out in public you are a direct reflection of me. Just like the bracelet Arianna wears WWVD . So while being a 3rd will not be an easy task in the beginning, the payoff would be great because Arianna and I have a lot to offer the right one.

One thing Arianna brought up was sex , and she made the statement , that no sex would take place without the three being present. I said done. That is the way it will be, it is not because I gave in to her want or need, I did it out of respect. On the other hand, Arianna and I will have sex while alone, but I would never have sex with the 3rd without Arianna being present. Arianna is no Bi but should would play.

The reason is I have deep respect for Arianna, although Arianna is my Slave, although is she owned, she is first and for most my wife. Nothing will ever change that.

Protocols are something that has been long forgotten , but with out protocols you cannot have any type of structure, you can not function as a D’s ran home or for that matter an M’s run home, without structure you have nothing. Without house rules you have nothing.

It is clear it is the 3rd who will have to adapt to our way of living, she will have to adapt to our protocols, our rules, and be willing to take direction from Arianna.

You have to show an interest, you have to ask questions, surely you want to know what your about to get yourself into.  The idea is the three take care of each other, and with everything stated above, you can have a nice peaceful, home, you have have the security you need, you can have the structure you need, and most of all you will be cared for.

WELCOME TO THE HOUSE OF VILE , Sit down and fasten your seat belt your in for one hell of a ride.

I had the privilege of speaking with a Dominant last week, who also happens to be an Author and I will pick up the book he recommended to me , but he also has his own radio show, it is a weekly broadcast and that is the main reason I contacted him, I was seeking advice, because I am still thinking about doing the same thing as well as a book. The awesome Lea Berrymire is assisting me with the book. We spoke for about 10 maybe 15 minutes, and what an awesome conversation we had, well I think so anyway, but I want everyone to check out his blog. I just found out he is poly but the way he runs his home is much how I see things.

I do prefer the word Triad over poly just my preference and there is a huge difference, in my eyes anyway. Here is his link.

http://housemakai.wordpress.com/

Vile

Our Search For A Third , Our Bubble Our World

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, blow job, Bondage, cage, Change, Commit, commitment, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominant, Emotions, FaceBook Vile Woods, Living Poly, Living Triad, MAST, Master, Master And Slave, Masters And Slaves Together, micromanage, Micromanagement, No Rights, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, Protocol, Rules, sex, Sister Slaves, slave, Submission, sucking cock, Task on April 26, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

First I want to say I have been cigarette free since January 1st, okay sort of, I am still using the ecig thing. Second I have to wait until October for the Walking Dead to come back on. I am addicted to that show. Now I have to wait almost seven months, and it is killing me.

 

Well it is almost 6am eastern time , I am up as I am every morning. I wake at 3.40 am with Arianna we sit in the dinning room and have our morning coffee and we talk. Then around 4.30am I walk her out to the car and see her off to work, then our morning drive talk. Sometimes we talk about nothing, then at times like this am we have a deep conversation, and the conversation did get pretty deep and personal, mainly about our life.

The one word that comes to mind is simplified , our life is very simple, but I have made it that way. I have made our life simple and drama free, not a worry in the world, why or how is that ? Vile has made it that way. We live in a very controlled environment. It is almost like walking into a clean room in a hospital, you dawn your little paper suit, your paper boots and your mask, then you enter Vile and Arianna’s bubble our own little world.

The world of a Slave, the surroundings of a Slave, the thoughts of a Slave. What I have done it taken someone and I have molded them , I had a perception of what I needed out of a Slave. I had a picture of my own little bubble, I had a clear picture of how I saw my life.

When I first met Arianna she was way out of control, her life was in total shambles, a life with no direction. This was not her fault not in any way. Once she found out who and what she was she needed guidance she needed a teacher, someone to step in that really cared about her well being. What she found was men who thought they were Dominants or who thought they were Masters who were controlling and lived their life with their cocks. One thing on their mind and one thing only PUSSY.

The sad part is many of you out there have been through the same thing and many still are but you feel you have no place to go, or you think okay I am here I just might as well stick it out, better to have someone than have no one.

Now this can be a little scary and some will think there is no way, but when I say train a Slave that is just what I mean. Having this ability does not come over night, nor does it always work. One you have to be true to yourself, two you have to have the need to own, three you have to be willing to step up to the plate, four you have to have someone who is in need and also willing. It is kinda like okay my way is not working you do what you need to do.

So I open my world, you can step into my bubble , I will share what is so precious to me. In my world you will find no problems, you will find no stress, you will find no drama. Welcome to Vile’s world.

I am very much in control of my life and I let very few people into my world. When I invite someone over which is very seldom, even then I do not allow them into my bubble, I unzip and I step out, once they are gone I step back in.

Arianna was talking about how much she has changed, and how she missed somethings, it was like she did not care about anything or anyone any more.

Then I began to explain, I talked about the local news the other day she said I want to change this it is so depressing. The thing is none of that effects us. The problems around the world does not effect us, the cost of food going up, the price of gas going up, the problems the people next door have, all of the killing going on around us the everyday problems around us, none of that effects us, because I do not allow it to. Mainly because of our own little bubble. I handle things before they become problems, many times I handle things without Arianna even knowing. She will bring something up and I will say its already done. There was a problem from her past that came up and it had a huge effect on her. All along I told her I had a plan and when the time came I would take care of it, and sure enough I did. It is not something that will happen over night there are steps we have to take, but I am doing the stepping, Arianna just has to follow. It was a huge load off of her shoulders, and once it is finished there will be a great relief.

The bottom line is I will not let anyone or anything disrupt our way of life, our bubble our world. I am in full control and I will continue to be in control. Sure even I have rules, I have rules that come with daily life. I may or may not like them but they are there, sometimes they have a meaning and sometimes they do not but they are there, I follow the process because I do not want to disrupt what I have.

So I met Arianna and we hit it off , but after we had met I had a lot of thinking to do because it was really the first someone had laid out to me what they fully needed. It was now me who had to decide if I wanted that much responsibility. If I wanted to take on such a task. The I had to stop and think wait a minute you are Vile, there is nothing you cannot do. The one thing I learned long ago is, you never tell someone you cannot do something even if you do not know how, you say yes I can then you learn how to do it.

Okay so Arianna needs this and this and this, Arianna needs to be micromanaged, she needs daily structure, she needs rules, she gets pleasure out of being used, so I just had to come up with a plan. I was about to venture a total new training process. I called several Doms who I consider friends not close friends but friends, and everyone gave me the same answer. DUDE FUCK THAT, THAT IS WAY TO MUCH WORK. I can tell you the first time I walked Arianna into a munch and I saw Jaws dropping open, I was thinking yea mother fucker eat your hearts out, this is my bitch. You can look and then go home and jack off thinking about her.

So I had a plan it was a plan I had to sit down and put on paper, and once I was done I knew I had to stick to it. Although she was a slave and she had needs it was her who had to adapt to my ways, she had to adapt to my way of living, my thoughts and needs, it was her who would crawl to me.

A month into the training, I remember eating Dinner,Arianna was chained to the kitchen table and I was feeding her, I knew then the Adapting process was well underway, or when I chained her to the couch. Then when she asked for permission to go to the bathroom, I knew I was on the right path.

So our search for a third, it has been on and it has been off. The need for another Slave was not something I brought up, it was Arianna who brought up the subject. This was after attending a few MasT meetings and then we had a Dom invite us to lunch because he wanted to drill us about our life and how it worked. We get that a lot people want a peak into our little world, people seem so amazed when we talk about the way we live. We are really no different I do not think. Either you are Master and Slave or your not.

I am very protective of Arianna , I keep a close eye on her, while at home and even while at work. While I am in control, while she is my slave, it is her who comes first. I make sure her needs are met before mine. Why? Because she gives so much, even when she does not see what she gives. She does not see how she has changed mainly because she lives her life daily, I keep everything in check. I keep the two of us in our own little world…

So in the past couple of months I have emailed, spoke with and text several slaves, and I have nixed all of them with the exception of one we have been in contact with now for about a month. We talk on the phone and Arianna and her are in consistent contact with each other during the day, and soon she will fly out to visit.

When her and I first started talking I explained to her that is was not me she had to win over it was Arianna. Her and Arianna had to become friends, because well on my end, I know everything would just fall into place.

There are things that have to be understood and after reading this she may very well change her mind, but I cannot bend from our way of life. It is the Slave who will have to adapt to our way of life, my rules, my protocols , then she may enter our world our bubble.

The third will not be micromanaged which is obvious , I have no room for that. She will not have to follow the same rules Arianna does, she will not have the same task Arianna does. She will have to understand Arianna’s way, the way she is treated, she will have to understand her rules, her protocols, and be willing to except them. Arianna does have a cage, it is Ariannas cage and only her cage. That is her special place, she goes there to let everything go, to relax, she feels safe from the outside world. The slave will have to adapt to our way of life, our surroundings. The slave will have to fulfill our needs. Although Arianna does not fit into that normal Alpha position the third will still have to be the beta. The slave is there for Arianna.The slave will serve the home, the slave will help with the upkeep of the home. The slave will become part of the family, and except the way things are ran.

My first thoughts when thinking of adding a third was someone who is docile, and introvert, someone who is quite. This slave is some of those things but I think will be able to adapt.

We had thought about a Baby Girl in the recent past but I decided against that  because it would disrupt our process, it would disrupt our way of living. I think Arianna might be willing to except someone with one child, we spoke a little about it the other day and she said something about needing a three bedroom, that was the end of the conversation.

The slave the third would have different rules as I have stated, different task, but most important be willing to except Ariannas way of life, and not make any judgements one way or the other. Arianna is in a very happy place right now, Arianna is in a very safe place right now.

I have not brought up the extra flavor yet. This is what most Doms or Master say their reason is for needing another Slave. You know I get everything I need from Arianna. The word no has never come out of her mouth. I get my cock sucked when ever I want, I fuck when I want, I get the ass when ever I want. Sometime I just pull out of her pussy and slide it right into her ass without a though. I can do pretty much anything I want . Arianna does really not have any limits, that in itself is not easy to find, with the only exception she is not into pain.

So while sex would come up , that is not our main reason for adding a third. The third has to bring something to the home, the third has to be able to add to the home and to help continue to build a solid foundation.

Another thing I have to keep in mind Arianna will pretty much go along with anything, so I have to be careful with some decisions I make, things I do, again it is her who will need to benefit from such a relationship.

With the right Slave a Third could be good.

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