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BDSM And Mental Health

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, anxiety, Argue, Arianna, BBW, BDSM Hypnosis, Collar, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Depression, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, FaceBook Vile Woods, Fake Dominants, Honesty, Humiliation, Hypnosis, Lie, predators, Protocol, Rules, sadist, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, submissive or slave has rights, sucking cock, sucking dick on July 4, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

While it is true there are many who are Slave and Submissive’s in the lifestyle who do not suffer from any type of depression, anxiety, or anything else. It has been my experience over the past two decades that well over half of those I have met have falling under what I am going to speak about.

Before Arianna met me she had been with a couple of Dominants who were abusive, one more physical than the other. The one who was the oldest was more mental abuse, screaming yelling, keeping her up for hours at a time. While the other was more mental, he was the one I called the Hypno Dom.

He is local and uses hypnosis to lure his victims in. Now Hypnosis does not work with everyone, I know because I went to see one once before to try and stop smoking

On the other hand hypnosis does work on some, if the mindset is right. Picking those who are submissive and knowing one could have problems, or maybe even show signs of being lonely. I even consulted a couple of well known Dominants in the area, and it was pretty much Wow that sucks huh.
Well when it comes to rape, or really hurting someone physically to me is a huge deal. Arianna had taking a couple of good beatings from him before she caught on.

I mentor a submissive who lives in another country, and she has improved 1000 times over since we first met, and it was mainly just staying in touch and giving advice when she asked.
So she emailed me about this Dominant who was into mental sadism , I was thinking like wow really? Okay so I contacted him, and I asked if he knew she suffered from anxiety and depression? His answer was no.
So he was going to session with her not knowing anything about her or her mental state..

It is no secret that Arianna had a break down not long after we had met, it was something that was a long time coming, and things were just piling up, and it was like a Volcano.

I do try and make all of Arianna’s appt with her, and yesterday was one, and as the Doctor walked out to welcome Arianna, she looked and said oh your here. Yes I am I thought.
So there were a few changes, and I asked a thousand questions. I wanted to know why, how, what for, and why again. Yea she loves me.

Her doctor knows of our lifestyle as well, we had never come right out and said anything but I am sure she knows what the collar is around Ariannas neck.
I forget what was said but she made the comment that rules and structure were good to have in a home.

I am not going to go down a long list of medications, but I just want to touch on a few things.
If someone is taking medication for depression you as the Dominant need to know why, the same with Anxiety . How long have they been on medication?
At what age did they start? What was the family upbringing like? What was school like? You need to know the submissive inside out ,and then outside in.

So what if this Mental sadist was to of had a session with this Submissive who is bipolar, suffers from depression, and anxiety, not having a clue about her mental state. Lets say he started off playing some mind fucking games, moving into a little pain, all while she is bound, gagged, and blindfolded.
Do you really think he was going to care about the aftermath . The same with the Hypno Dom, who preys on weak women…

Before I say anything else, not every submissive , or slave suffers from anything, there are those who wake up perfectly normal. There are those who do not need to see doctors. To those I say you are very lucky.

Above is the abuse I have been talking about for so long. If you meet a Dominant and he is not asking these question, you are not going to volunteer any information in fear of rejection. If he is not asking questions wanting to know the real you, and he is just interested in your kinks, or demanding you call him Sir. Yea you know.

Although you want to share your life, you do not want to spill your life out in one sitting, this can also make you a target. You should however share information about any medications your on and why you are taking them, how long you have been taking them, and why.

Once I learned about Arianna, I did have a little help as well, that was her journals I read, it took me over 8 hrs to read everything. The training plan I had in mind prior was much more strict , I probably would of seemed more distant in someways. I was not looking to hurt anyone mentally or physically, I was looking for a partner and slave.

When you first meet a Dominant and the first couple of days are just sexual, and he is not trying to get to know you as a person, do you really think he has your best interest in mind?

Here is the number one problem this is to those who are new. You believe anything your told,and you feel you do not have the right to ask questions.

I know when I first meet someone I want to know them inside out, because if you dont and you have a real intense session, and the Dominant dose something to cause a break down, the first words out of his mouth is , Well I didn’t know.. You did not tell him, or he did not ask, there is the lack of communication maybe on both parts, it is not always the Doms fault.

A submissive told me the other day she had suffered from depression but no longer took her meds, she said she was cured and no longer needed them. She came to this conclusion on her own, and the Dominant who I take is a Doctor agreed with her. If he was not a doctor he would of taking different steps I would think. You cannot play with someones well being, you cannot play with someones mind, or their emotions.

All it really takes is you sharing very important information, you the submissive has the right to say no I am not going to do that, or you are not going to do that to me. You have that right. You have the right to have what was promised, you have the right to walk away when you are being abused or lied to.

If the Dominant your with does not care about your safety , then he is not the one for you. If the Dominant does not care about your well being then he is not the one for you.

Move on…

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You Should Be Scared

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Dating Sites, Consensual, consequences, Dominant, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Master, predators, Rape, Safe, Safe and Sane, Safe Call, slave, submissive, Vile Woods on FaceBook on May 19, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Sometime last year I made the statement that a Submissive should ask a Dominant for references, prior to exploring anything physical. Someone made the comment that it was stupid to ask for such a thing because you do not ask a vanilla male for references. In my eyes there is a huge difference when it comes to dating a Dom VS a Vanilla male. The vanilla your probably going out to eat and a movie, the Dom and the submissive is probably going to get their kink on.

There are thousands of rapes everyday, some are very brutal, and some do not have the opportunity to go home or to the hospital. A lot of you out there are mothers, more of you at some point in life want to be mothers, have a family.

You meet a new Dominant on line and you plan on meeting. He wants you to wear the shortest skirt you have with no panties, and if you agree your chances of being raped have just jumped up drastically , not meeting in a public setting your numbers have just jumped up even more.

It is a good feeling when you think your about to meet the one, you have probably been searching for sometime and most of the Doms you have been talking to are not local.

Wearing a short skirt with no panties does not have anything to do with being submissive. Wearing a short skirt with no panties does not prove you are submissive.

Most of you at least end up sucking cock in the Doms car the first meeting, then there are some who even agree to get a room to start your training.

Think about this for a second you do not even know this man, you do not know anything about him, except what he has told you.  He has told you he has been in the lifestyle 5,10,15 or even 20 years.  Again this is what he has told you, and you have to believe him because you have not asked all the questions you were suppose to because you feared that you would upset him or make him mad.

When your sitting in the car and the Dom makes the statement , well lets start your training as he is unzipping his pants. Something in your head has to be thinking. This cannot be right, is this really part of training? The bad thing is you are not going to question your just going to do it. Now those who have been in the lifestyle for any amount of time will call his bluff or just tell him to fuck off.

You agree to get a room, with a man you have never met. Your chances of getting hurt has just shot up. Now you may or may not walkout. So what is your life worth? What is your family and friends worth?

You decide to play, you let this man you just met tie you down on the bed spread eagle, your gagged , you don’t have to be blindfolded just gagged. What the fuck is going through your mind right about now?

If you have done any kind of real research then you would know that no respectable Dominant would even go through a scenario like this. You would know, no real dominant would of even brought play into the picture on the first meeting.

Some of you have played just like the above mentioned and you came out okay, but some of you know exactly what I am talking about, some of you have been used and raped. Those of you who walked out okay, you can be thankful , those of you who have been raped you have to carry that memory the rest of your life. While I have met a few it did not bother I have met those who it tortured. Even after the bad they still continued down the same path, with the same experiences.

Meeting a Dom for the first time, going to a room with him, allowing him to tie you up, gagging you, make you fair game. Your chances of being hurt is now about 50/50 maybe more like 70/30 or even 80/20.

I had a friend who had been talking to a Dom on line for a while and agreed to meet him. The first meeting yep a room. They could not go back to his house because he was married. Once finished the bed covered in blood, he told her to get cleaned up and get the fuck out, when she came out of the bathroom he was gone. The bad thing is she did not even know his real name. The only thing she knew was he was married, and did not find out until that night.

You cannot let your emotions run your life. Entering any type of relationship requires a great deal of thought, but to enter a BDSM relationship where the trust factor is so great. Okay any type of relationship requires trust, but to allow someone to tie you up, someone you just met, it just does not make sense.

Okay I will back track a little here, there are some Doms who are not active in the local community, while this maybe true, they do know others in the lifestyle, and these are questions that should be asked. For a Dominant to say he has been in the lifestyle for ten years and not know anyone, yea that does not carry to much weight, but if your new then why would you even wonder how that is possible.

Good things comes to those who wait, anytime you make a rush to judgement the outcome is rarely good. A good thought out plan will serve you much better, but you have to stick to that plan.

You can save yourself a lot of heartache , you can save yourself a lot of drama, and problems, but most of all you can keep yourself from being hurt

A D’s or M’s relationship can be very rewarding, it can be very exciting, it can be everything you have ever imagined and more, I know I am living the dream. The difference is I had a much thought out plan.

Safety should be your first concern, and submitting to someone on the first meeting is not being safe.

Always make that safe call………

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Introducing BDSM To The Home

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Collar, Collars, commitment, communication, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, Fantasy, Humiliation, Introducing BDSM To The Home, Loyal, Lube, Married submissive, Master, Master And Slave, masturbation, oral sex, Owned Slave, predators, Punishment, Rules, Security, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on March 30, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This can be very difficult but if the communication is right and both parties are open minded enough it could work. There are more than a few ways the idea could come into play, some are good while some are not so good.

The male will take one of three stances, yes , no , or maybe. This is it being brought up to him. Much of the time a male needs time to roll ideas through his mind. The main thought is what do I get out of this if I have to put any effort into it. I have to get something or its just not worth my time.

The female however will take two stances on the subject it will either be yes or no, there is no maybe. Just as I brought up the idea and the need I had to my ex-wife, but I got the your fucking perverted . It took you seven years to come to that conclusion congratulations you stupid bitch. So yes it does pay to be honest at all times even if you do not get the out come you had hoped for..

Most men who say NO or let me think about it truly have this guilty feeling, because no matter how you explain it, it is still drilled in their mind that it is abuse. Somehow being tied up , spanked, told what to do, or face fucking is abuse.

How ever those who stray have no problem bending some bitch over and dry fucking her ass until she passes out. Why ? I suppose there is no real connection between the two, there is no love between the two. The male does not feel ashamed doing what he is doing because it is now expected. With his wife he was exploring uncharted territory or he knows she is against any type of kink

If your a woman who is married and you have been asked to suck cock, or do anal and you refuse he will find someone who will do those things for him. He may not leave you and the chances of him leaving is very slim. The main reason is he has already built his kingdom, he feels secure, he feels safe, and he knows you are not going anyplace. He will how ever step out on you, and find someone who will fulfill his needs.

While you can get pissed off, while you can scream and yell because how dare he let some other women suck his cock.  Think about how you refused to. The worst thing you can tell a male is NO, because when say say that one word it now becomes a need, and vengeance will be his.

I believe sex falls under wifely duties, short of being abuse you are meant to please, now that does not mean you do not get anything in return because any relationship was meant to be a two way street. You as the wife are suppose to lay on your back, get on your knees, or on your hands and knees bent over spreading your ass. Everyone is not going to think the way I do and that is fine, I am expressing my own opinion. The husband has duties as well, and I have covered much of that in my 800 and something post. I have covered the abusive male, so do not think for one minute I am about abuse because I am not.

The key to a successful relationship is finding someone you are compatible with, you like the same music, food, going out, walking the beach at night, and then yes this also includes sex.

While I was searching for a partner I dated probably a 100 who thought they were slaves, and I refused to settle for less, if you told me you did not suck cock, the conversation was over, if you told me you did not do anal the conversation was over, which means I just blew 30 bucks for dinner, and I was going to go home and jack off. If you settle for less you will never be happy, you are only happy for that moment and time.

The man brings up BDSM to the wife and she may go along with it just to please, but most of the time the male gets a little rough because why? We are visual he has googled BDSM clicked on images and what do you see? Some bitch getting her ass beat. So he truly has no clue, or he has read some stories on erotica.com. The woman if she is in love enough or she thinks it will improve their already soggy relationship she will go along with it for a while, only to find out things are still soggy.

Now the female brings it up, now we are in a whole different ball game, the rules have changed, because what she is thinking is nothing the way the male see’s how things might turn out.

The woman has thought things out for the most. The woman can see herself living as a slave 24/7. She can see in her mind how it would be her living as a slave. The truth is she thinks about it for a long time before bringing the subject up, for a couple of reasons. One she is ashamed of her now kinky thoughts, second she is afraid of rejection, or third she is afraid you the husband will leave because she is not the woman you married..

Now while you the husband knows nothing of this, while your at work and she is at home having full blown fantasies, your working and she is at home pounding her pussy with something , and she is probably masturbating 3 or 4 times a day. Even while your fucking her she is thinking about kinky things and you do not have a clue.

To the male most of the time it is about kink, giving out orders, bondage, subjecting your wife to pain she does not want.

To the female it is much different, the submission is a need, to be a total slave is a need, because she has already thought it out. The fact is once she has already put all of her thoughts into motion you the male only has a small role to play in your new relationship, and it really takes very little of your time. She the slave is going to do most of the work all you have to do is keep things consistent.

Really the only thing you the husband has to do is except her for who and what she is. Let her ask for permission, write down a few chores. Come up with a few realistic rules, rules that you know will not be broken. The last thing a slave wants to do is break any rules, if they do it is truly a mistake.

She the wife is looking to be excepted, she wants to be able to be who is is and needs to be. When it comes to women this is not something that just happened on the contrary this has been brewing for a very long time. There was something at a young age that had a mental impact on her, something happened that more than likely she has not even shared with you. She could of been raped, maybe molested by a family member, or even abused at home, but something happened when she was younger to trigger her thoughts. I am not saying that is accurate 100% of the time but I will say 95% maybe a little higher. Most suffer from some type of depression, some are bi-polar, some suffer from anxiety , and most are on some type of medication.

That is what these men who prey on women do not realize or if they do they do not care. These women are looking for help, they are looking for someone to except them, they are looking for security. They expect the kink, why ? Because we are visual animals and nothing more, now some do enjoy the kink, some need the kink. These men prey on those who are submissive because they see it as a weakness, they see an easy fuck, or when they are talking to you the only thing on their mind is you sucking their cock.

I preach over and over when your first meeting a new Dom keep your legs close and your mouth shut, find out if he is really interested in you, or if he just wants the pussy.

Let your wife be who she needs to be, the only thing that will happen for you the male is your life will get a whole lot better. You as the husband will want for nothing, your every need will be answered without question. There will be total submission, and this submission will only benefit you, and remember your role is very small, it is not going to add to your day.

Think about it, you have what most men only ready about, you have what most men talk about when out with the boys.

You have someone you can dress how you want, eat what you tell them to eat, they feel good because you have giving them task. You get your cock sucked when and how you want, she will lay on her back at the snap of a finger, and will proudly lube your cock for her ass. She will be loyal to you and only you, you are not replaceable the main reason is she has gone through to much to get your relationship where it is at today. If she strayed she would have to start all over.

The collar this is a biggie. The collar is a sign of ownership. She now has a purpose, she now belongs, she is now who she truly needs to be not wants to be who she needs to be.

That is what we do as husbands we meet ours needs. Your wife, your slave we still need to provide their needs, we have an obligation to meet their needs, we have an obligation to make them feel wanted, and we have an obligation to reward when the time is right.

The wife or slave has done everything to insure the home is ran smoothly, she takes care of you without question. To make her feel complete is something we should have a need to do. The collar will bring out someone very special, and your relationship will blossom it grow 100 times over and end the end it will only benefit you.

Long ago I only use to see married slaves or more so those who were submissive. These were women who were not able to express their needs to their husbands, or their husbands thought they were sick.

I had hours and hours of sessions, which mainly included bondage some lite spanking never any bruises, and a lot of humiliation. I how ever never fucked anyone of them, there was never any penetration vaginal or anal. I did leave cock sucking out. I did get my cock sucked. If I was going to spend a couple of hours of my time pleasing you because hubby would not, you were going to suck my cock. I did that for a year or so, because I was not looking for any type of commitment. She got a motel most of the time, she paid for it, took us out to dinner, and I got to play with her, and I got to watch my cock slide down her throat.

I suppose it goes the same way, if the submissive or slave is not getting what they need they will seek out those who will give. This is not every case though. Many just sit at home and suffer with their thoughts to afraid to bring the topic up.

Let your wife be who she needs to be, it will cost you very little time. Let her be the slave she needs to be, let her be humble and thankful laying at your feet. While she reaches up and touches her collar, knowing that she is loved, cared for and owned.

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Today I Am Slave Vile

Posted in abuse, Adrenaline, anticipation, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, being used, chat room, Collar, Collarme.com, communication, Consensual, Dominants, Fake Dominants, No Panties, predators, Rules, slave, Submission, sucking cock, Training Collar, Trust on December 22, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

So I have been looking for a new master for a few months, I joined collarme.com because well that just seems like the place. There are so many Masters to choose from. I know I am new and I am inexperienced but surely I will find someone who will except me.

So I made a profile, and within 24 hours I have received over 250 emails, wow I cannot believe the response I have gotten. Then I notice there are three who live relatively close to me. So after a little thinking I decided to write each one and see how things go

The next morning I get three reply’s all giving me their Yahoo messenger so I log in and I add each name. Now I am feeling excited because I really do not know what to expect.

So after a little hesitation I send my first Message, Hello? I wait and wait, then finely that would be Master, how are you doing today?

I am doing well thank you hmmm Master.

So what are you looking for ? I am looking for a Master someone who can teach me about BDSM.

I only saw the one pic on your profile do you have any more ? Yes I can send through messenger if you would like. Yes send them now. There I sent four that is all I have at the moment.

Very pretty I love your eyes. I am looking for a Slave someone I can collar, but I really need to see more of you.

More of me ? Yes more you sent pics but there were no full body pics, I want to see all of you, do you have a cam? Yes I do, would you like to see me? Yes now, I will let you know upfront I am a very strict Master, and I have no problems punishing my slave.

What is your favorite position if your being fucked? Well I love it doggy style. I really hate being on top because it makes me feel like I am in control. Do you like oral sex? Yes. Do you swallow? I have but it is not my favorite. Well I expect my slave to swallow. Do you like anal sex? It is okay Ive done it once it hurt a little. I love anal sex and I take it when ever I want. Where is your cam?

How many slaves do you own now? I am single as of now so I am really looking. What kind of work do you do? I am in between jobs but I can afford to take my time. So turn your cam on.

So you spend a day chatting, you send pics, you get naked on cam for what you hope to be your new Master, you just open yourself wide open. He knows everything about you, things you have not even told your closest friends.

Now the next day your going to meet.

What would you like for me to wear? How short is your shortest skirt ? Well I really do not own a short skirt, and I cannot afford to by one. Okay wear the shortest dress you have and your not allowed to wear any panties, understood. Why no panties I really don’t feel comfortable not wearing any? Because I am the Dom, and you are suppose to please me.

So where would you like to meet? I know where this park is, it is kinda private we could really talk. I would like to meet someplace in public if that is okay like maybe a restaurant? 

So I show up about a half hour early waiting and waiting, then I finely see him walk through the door, and I am thinking really? OMG what have I gotten myself into.

So this guy sits down I get this big know in my stomach and he is just starring at me. I have questions I want to ask but I am not sure how to go about it. I really don’t want to make him mad.

Did you wear panties ? I think for a second and I say no I did not. Let me see lift up your dress. So I hesitate then I slowly lift up my dress exposing myself right there in front of everyone.

So John I have a few questions to ask? That would be Master. Hmm okay Master I had a few questions I would like to ask. Sure you can ask anything. How long have you been in the lifestyle? I have been a Master for 20 plus years.

Okay what makes you a Dominant? I like being in control, giving orders and I punish when it is needed. Okay well as I said I am not really into pain. That is okay I can train you to like pain not a problem. How many slave have you owned? I have owned hmmm lets see 9 I have owned 9 slaves. Okay would it be possible is I spoke to one of them or maybe emailed you know as a reference. There is no need for that I have already told you everything about me. I have not been in contact with any of them for a long time. You can trust me.

Well look it is getting late, we should get a room so we can start your training today? My training? Yes I want to see how well you suck cock, that is very important to me. I want to show you the way I like it.

Sucking cock is part of training? Look what is up with all these questions are you a slave or not? Are you looking for a master or not> Your lucky I even wanted to meet you.

Look I brought this training collar, you can put it on. So I will own you now. But we just met is this how it works? It is how I work, remember I am the master you are the slave.

Umm okay well are you active in the local BDSM community? Nah I don’t believe in showing off or proving anything to people I know who I am. Well do you know any other Masters? Sure I do. Would it be possible to meet your friends? There is no need I am a very private person.

Come on lets start your training.

Now many of you have been through the same scenario, many of you have heard the same words. The only difference is, you either were scared to ask any questions, or you did not know you should ask questions. 

The Dominant who insisted on being called Master gave you no real answers, he spent more time beating around the bush. He had one thing on his mind and that was getting his cock sucked, and chances are he would want you to pay half of the room or he may even want you to pay for all of it.

When meeting someone new. Do not ever let someone tell you what to wear. You wear what you feel safe in. Never let anyone demand you call them Master, nor do you let anyone offer you a collar on the first meeting. Remember a collar is earned.

You should never put yourself in any type of danger. Asking you to meet at a park is the first bad sign. Your going someplace wear a dress and no panties.

Ask questions take a list with you. When you ask look into his eyes, the eyes tell all, his hands the way he moves his fingers when he is being confronted. References are very important, are you just going to take some guys words you met on an adult dating site, the one with 20 years experience. Really are you.

Maybe go to a motel and get your ass beat, a black eye, a busted lip or worse.

Everyone of you be it a submissive or slave you have so much to offer, you have so much to give. Do not let someone take advantage of you, take what you are wanting to give, use you then toss you aside.

Be careful and play safe. Hey if you have something to prove and he is able to answer all your questions and you feel safe, have at it, but just be sure.

Remember your safe call which I did not do. Take a picture of his tag send it to a friend. Go the extra mile pay for a back ground check about 20 bucks. Call several times during your meeting. Have your friend call the restaurant so the waiter can give you a message. Let the new Dom know whats going on. If he is okay he will see nothing wrong with it. Always have his first and last name. You all have met Doms and did not know there last name.

Finely get there home address, where they work, and let it be known you will want to stop by his house to visit. If he acts surprised and starts to makes excuses then the conversation should be over. Simply get up and walk out no questions and no answers needed.

You do not need to end up someplace as a Jane Doe. nor does your family.

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Shit Just Happens

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Argue, bdsm, blow job, communication, control, Depression, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Giving Head, Marriage, Married Dominant, Master, oral sex, predators, Rules, serve, sex slaves, slave, submissive on November 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We enter a new relationship hoping this will be the one. We have finely found the one. The one problem is both are on their best behavior, people tend to hide who they really are, hoping to make a lasting impression.

The problem is this lasting impression never last , and most of the time it is the male or Dominants fault. Those who are not real I call imposters , posing to be someone they are not. On the prowl, the hunt. Once the hunt is over it is no longer fun the thrill is gone, they have conquered.

Not every Dominant is this way , but the fakes or wannabes do out number the real. The real are far and few between. Someone who is new to the lifestyle does not see this nor do they want to see. I have blogged about this before as a matter of fact several times.

Your Newly found Dominant should encourage to to meet others like yourself ask if he is active in the local community. Ask about other Dominants he may know. Ask about his relationships and why they did not last. If the reasons fall on the slave every time, then there is a problem.

The Submissive or Slave runs into a problem the Dominant may step in and help this is a good sign. If the Submissive or Slave is emotional at times, he will not stick around to long. I am sorry but I am not the one for you we need to move on. Remember you have already been conquered the thrill is already gone, if you produce any problems this becomes more of a task, it kills the thrill.

Those who want to be a Dominant or pose as a Dominant the thrill does not last. He lays out a few rules sexual most of the time because he is fucking clueless. You think its okay because he is showing authority , he is taking charge, even if the number one rule is, you will worship my cock.

The spanking grows old, the bondage grows old and fast. The sex grows old because he is a predator the thrill is gone he has hunted and made the kill.

He knows what to say because of the wide access of information today, the childish chat rooms. So yes he knows exactly what you want to hear, and you will fall for it every time until you get wise.

I have spoken about mentors many times. I believe a Dominant should have a mentor more so if you are new to the lifestyle. The same goes for a Submissive Or Slave. If you are new to the lifestyle find someone who has experience someone who will help you pick through the fakes.

It could take you several months to realize something is wrong, but you cannot put your finger on it. Even after speaking to others. At this point you are in love and you are going to hang in there hoping it will change, but you know what ? It never does or will, it will continue to get worst. At this point the Dominant is hoping you will break it off, this takes the guilt away, he walks away with a clean slate because everything was your fault or this is what you are led to believe .

So you have spent the last six months on your Back or on your knees. You have spent the last six months crawling around on the floor, phone sex, sending pics, and in some cases videos.

This is not a bad reflection of you , you have done nothing wrong, you are just trying to please. This is a normal reaction for a Submissive.

So you are going to meet a new Dominant for the first time. Listen I am not talking out of my ass, I am speaking as a male a Dominant and a owner of a Slave.

Do not let him tell you what to wear. You wear what you feel comfortable wearing. You never session on the first meeting, after all this is your first time meeting. A real Dominant would never expect you to do so anyway. There are signs but you ignore them, you know there are signs but you still ignore. This is the time you take a breather , clear your head, gather your thoughts.

You meet someone for the first time you go to a hotel, he ties you up blindfolds you, guess what ? You are fair game, he is going to do what ever he wants, and he will say fuck your limits. Think about that, you can get really fucked up. You are not going to call anyone, you are not going to call the police and tell them this dude had you tied up.

If your in a relationship and it goes south, and you are clueless, you did nothing wrong. You did not know just like the ones before you did not know.

When you first meet you the Submissive has to set guidelines down. You got his number you should be able to call when you want, you should be able to text when you want, and expect a return text in a timely manner. You should know where he works, what kind of work he does. You should know his address where he lives. He should invite you out with his friends. You should be able to go to his house at any giving time. If the answer to any of these is no, you have a problem on your hand.

Here we go again I cannot get over married men who stray from their wife, because she wont do anal, or suck cock. So he finds someone who will. Some do not care if someone is married, and that is okay, if you are willing to spend your birthdays alone, Christmas alone, thanksgiving along and never spend time on vacations. If you are good with this more power to you.

If you are emotional , or you stress easy, your Dominant should step in with a plan of action, take control and fix the problem. The Dominant should show great patience , and the desire to work through any situation that may come up. Your Dominant should never yell at you, he should never call you names out of anger. The Dominant is always in control.

If any of the above is happening to you or has happened, it is not your fault. You were just one of the unlucky ones that met a Dick Head.

So put your shoes on, kick the dirt and move on.

I am here to tell the truth , I have no reason to lie to you or mislead you. Again I have been in the lifestyle for a very long time, I am married to my Slave, and very happy.

A Dominant will have a plan of action when he meets you, he will have goals for you, he will want to see improvement, he will want to guide you.

Rules are meant to help, rules are meant to guide you. Rule number 1. You must worship my cock. How is this going to help you ? On the other side of the coin every Dominant is different, every Dominant has different goal, and some do not even have goals.

So what kind of Slave are you going to be or what kind of Slave do you want to be. A Slave who is used for service? A Sex Slave ? the list really goes on and on. You have to be you, and you have to be upfront about who you are and what your needs are.

Be careful about what you share with someone, start out with small bits and pieces , you do not want to lay your whole life out on the table to someone you have known for a couple of months. In the end if the relationship goes south, this is all ammunition to be used against you. Take great care in what you share.

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The Self Proclaimed Master

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, Advice, Arianna, bdsm, blog, Bondage, Dominants, Ego, Master, predators, Safe, Self Proclaimed Master, slave, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick on August 9, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I really get a kick out of some of the Men who are Dominants and put the name Master in front of their names. I am Master Dick, I am Sir Balls, some even go as far as saying my name is Lord scrotum.

When I was young and dumb and full of well you know, I had an ego the size of Texas, I am Master Vile to you Bitch do not forget it. On your knees suck my cock.

Yea I am older, the age on the inside caught up with me faster than on the outside, meaning I became wiser at a younger age. Banging a different chick every night, eh so what, I still woke up alone the next morning. It does not take long to see that there is something wrong with that picture, well unless you just don’t give a fuck.

Today I am called Master by mine, I am called Sir by mine, and even at times My Owner. I might add this is nothing that I demanded, nor was it ever really an interest of mine. Arianna calls me Master out of respect, I believe as well it gives one the feeling of submission.

Then there are those who do the cap thing, I am Master Dick, My Slave, you will Respect me. on your knees Bitch, you will call me Sir.

I am guilty of the cap thing in a different way when I blog I will cap the word Slave or Submissive, but that is just to make it stand out more.

We as Dominants have to earn respect nothing is giving, but many seem to think it is okay to take without giving.

So if you demand to be called Lord Balls and you live in a double wide trailer , what would a slave truly think. Your single and you demand to be called Master, what are you the Master of? Who gave you the title.

Okay maybe if your one of the few who have been knighted by the queen, then yes you can tell your slave to say yes my lord.

Now to those who are new to the lifestyle who know no better, would be in total awe if they met a Dom on the net and demanded to be called Master, yes a good way to pick up some pussy, but to someone who has been in the lifestyle for any length of time would think your an idiot, and really put a huge hole in your ego.

When Arianna and I first got together she did ask me what I would like to be called, I told her what ever made her feel comfortable. I did not make any demands.

I do believe those who are not true to the lifestyle take things way out of context. just asking a few questions and you can find out real fast if you are speaking to a true Dominant.

Never Let anyone demand you call them Master or Sir when you first meet. If you do use the word Sir you can explain it is just out of respect. No real Dominant would ever make such a demand.\

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You Must Take My Pain

Posted in abuse, bdsm, Fake Dominants, Pain, predators on December 14, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have heard these words many times from an inexperienced Dominant. You must take my pain to show your owner appreciation. You must take what I give to show you are true to me.

The upper statement is truly a shame, and many subs/slaves suffer at the hands of these predators. Even young Dominants who are trying to be true , and acting without a Mentor believe the same thing.

I cannot understand a man who can lay a slave down, and beat until her body is covered with bruises , and even think that a small portion of this is right.

Once the sub/slave has had enough, and finely gains the courage to leave, they are now thinking if I wish to continue, what is in store for me with my next relationship.

The question then becomes is this what BDSM is really like? Is this all I have been waiting for all my life? How can a man be in control, when all he wants to do is beat on you, and then wants you to thank him.

This is a conversation Tish and I have had, from her two previous experiences . Both basically explaining the same thing. You must take my pain to show appreciation. You must submit no matter what.

You will clean my apartment, you will cook for me, you will do my laundry, you will have sex with me, and you will take my pain. All of this without any real communication.

The truth is, once you have come into contact with a slave who has been abused, the slave is much like a whipped puppy. They tend to shy away, and it takes a good long while, for the new Dominant to help repair, what has been damaged, more so to gain trust.

No matter how much you try to exploit those kind, the fact is , a new slave or submissive pops up daily. These men see those as easy prey. Targets, an open line for abuse. While it is true, until these Dominants can get a grasp on things, they do not believe what they are doing is about abuse. So much junk has been published over the net, it is hard to determine what is real, and what is fiction.

Once you sit a submissive or slave down, and you begin to talk, they feel very stupid. Stupid is not the case, because they simply knew no better. Some are so needful they will stick out the bad, and hope some good will come of the relationship, but the sessions come more frequent, and much harder.

While in the past, I have enjoyed some impact play, it has never been against someone’s will,and I have never pushed one to the point of what would be called abuse.

In three and a half weeks, going on a month, Tish has learned more than she has learned in a year. She now has a greater understanding of the lifestyle. She now knows it is indeed a very loving relationship, and it is much different when one does listen, to their needs.

Do not ever let anyone tell you. You must take my pain. to show appreciation.

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