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Training Arianna

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Training still continues today, after two years we still continue to add. What is more interesting is Arianna continues to think of ways to give up more control. Truth be known she would be happy if she could stay home 24/7 chained to the floor, or most of her day spent in a cage.

When you hear the words A no rights Slave if you want to know the definition you can look to Arianna to find out that answer. Some take the no rights thing to an extreme but we all have common sense or I would hope. You would never want to do anything that would cause your slave any harm, or push them to the point of breaking. That is why I have stated over and over it is very important to know your submissive or slave inside and out.

What do I mean when I say no rights. First Arianna has no say so at all, before you jump the gun this was something she needed and wanted. This is why at times it is hard for a submissive or slave to find the right Dominant. If he is in it just for the game he will want no responsibility , meaning he is just after the pussy. The minute you show you are the slightest bit needy you will see a fast change in the Doms attitude.

When you speak of living D’s compared to living an M;s relationship there is a huge difference. A submissive has the right to say no, a submissive submits on their terms. While it is true a slave could really do the same if it really came down to it, but for the most that is not the frame of mind a slave wants or needs.

While there are many different resources and books on the market today, if you are a new Dominant or your interested in exploring the lifestyle then I recommend, http://bestslavetraining.com/ There is just a huge amount of information that is provided, it is almost endless.

The new Dominant who is just entering the lifestyle or the young Dominant I truly recommend this site. Also to those who are submissive it is good reading and it will show and teach you about how a D’s Or M’s relationship should truly be, again a lot of good info.

So you take a Slave and you mold them into someone you need. I myself had a very clear picture of how I saw my life living as a Master , and fully owning a Slave. In reality in today’s times you cannot legally own someone, but to be able to achieve that frame of mind is truly an unreal feeling.

You take someone and mold them into someone who fits exactly what your looking for when it comes to an M’s relationship. This is why once I started my search it took well over a year, as a matter of fact I was at the point of saying fuck it I am done, because there is no one out there who truly wants to live as a Slave. I was at the point of packing everything up and I was going to move overseas, I already had a job in place, and a place to live.

Then I met Arianna , I could tell just by talking to her she was different, the way she sat, talked , the way she communicated, the way she carried herself, the way she expressed herself and explaining why she needed to be a slave. I asked several times a Slave are you sure a Slave and not a submissive.

Then as she began to go into details about how she saw herself living as a Slave, I myself began to have doubts about taking on so much responsibility. Now it was I who had to decide if I wanted to take that step. You know I never really gave it much thought until Arianna shared how she wanted and needed to be treated. Rules , Structure , the giving up total freedom.

So I had a very short time to think about if I wanted to take such a deep step, I also have a very short time to put a plan together so it was very important to spend as much time with Arianna as I could , so I could really get to know her inside and out.

Arianna had been going through some very bad times before I met her , she was like a kid turned lose in a toy store but on an adult level, and she was very close to having a break down. She had been seeing a Doctor who had been prescribing the wrong medication for years, and every time Arianna went for a visit it was always her fault. So shortly after we met Arianna did in fact have a break down. So it was I who found a Doctor, and the doctor put her back on the right track. In the meantime I had come across Journals that Arianna had written, hundreds of them, note books dating back some 15 years, full from front to back. I spent a day and three pots of coffee just reading. I could not believe how one person could possibly endure so much hurt and pain. So we talked about the journals and I explained it was a need to get rid of the past, so we sat down and went through the journals and one by one putting each one in the trash. There were a few I did allow her to keep, those with poems that she had written or ones she felt really close to. I had someones life right before my eyes. A true story of a life full of pain and confusion, and people who did not understand her.

I suppose there comes a point where people want to care about someone until you have to put a little effort back into the relationship, once it becomes a little work to make the relationship work it is no longer adventitious so you slowly begin to start being pushed out, or everything is just blamed on you.

You can do it, there is nothing wrong with you. I do not understand how or why you feel like you do, I just want you to fix it.

Now my challenge had grown ever bigger because I had to change my whole plan, I had to sit down and think and think fast. I knew she wanted to be trained but I also had to consider her health factor, on the mental side of it. Her past relationships with Dominants had been abusive, verbally and physically and neither one of them had a clue who Arianna really was. Neither one really knew Arianna as a person , neither one knew her thoughts or needs nor did they really care. At the same time I had to stand firm, I had to implement rules, put structure into place.

Shortly after her break down I was called in to meet with her doctor, and after explaining our relationship she even said Arianna was in a good place, and the structure I provided was good for her..

You can only be trained if you actually live the D’s or M’s lifestyle 24/7. If you do not live together there is noway to even implement a plan. The Dominant is not there to enforce the structure, rules or protocols. Some may disagree and if you do I would like to see your plan because I am going to lay my plan out here.

If you do not live together you really do not have any control, you as the Dominant may think you have control but you are not there. Being in control via text, chat, on the phone, Skype does not compare to being able to wrap your hands around her throat and looking straight into her eyes, and speaking, then you are and have control.

If you are only seeing your Dominant once or maybe twice a month you are not living the true D’s more so if your just meeting up in a motel room, you are only experiencing the kink side of it, your there for a couple of hours maybe the night, the Dom leaves happy and you leave full of cum until the next meeting.

Training your Slave I am going to leave the submissive out of this picture for now because the Submissive has the right to say no. The Submissive puts limits on their submission. Just as the Bottom the bottom for the most only submits during play and will tell you before hand what is going to happen.

I believe many who are new to the lifestyle and who are submissive are being told they are a slave when in fact they are only submissive. Many men who claim to be the Fifty Shades of Grey for what ever reason prefer the word slave, or they try and plant a seed in your mind to make you think. You already have a pretty clear picture of what your limits are and you should stand by them.

This is why I did not want a D’s relationship, I had tried a D’s relationship several times and it just did not pan out. Once I started my search it was well over a year before I stumbled across Arianna, and it was like she just fell from the sky right onto my Lap

When training your slave you are taking bad habits and changing them with new habits. You are implementing new habits into ones life. The thing that really got into my mind was Arianna really had no habits, there was nothing she did on a regular basis that you would actually call a habit.

The same with rules and structure you are implementing new habits. I will say this none of Arianna’s rules are sexual. Rules are meant to improve ones life, to help guide, provide structure. safety , and make one feel secure. Ive read many post and blogs where rules are posted and they are sexually based. I really find this to be really disturbing , because the Dom or Daddy is really doing nothing to improve.

If you do not get to know your Submissive or Slave inside, out and you start implementing things and you do not know them on a emotional playing field you could really fuck someone up. If you have a submissive who suffers from any type of depression and you don’t know the medications they are taking, again you can really fuck someone up. If you do not ask these questions in depth during your first meeting , then it is apparent you really do not give a fuck, your only thinking of yourself.

You take someones life and you turn it completely around, you take a human and turn them inside out, you change everything about them right down to their personality, in some cases even the way they think.

I started training Arianna the day she moved in. I did not say okay your training has started, or this is what we are going to do. The training is something that we had been talking about but I really did not go into any great details.

I have talked about this before but I did not really go into any great detail. One huge mistake that most Dominants make or Daddy’s once in a relationship they tend to isolate the submissive, they cut them off from all friends and sometimes family. My train of thought is this is a huge mistake, because you still have to allow them some freedom, because there is a breaking point. The Submissive or Slave does need a break, a day off , time to visit friends, a girls night out, a day with the family. Doms who do not allow this have a very low self esteem, they are very insecure, jealous, they have trust issues, and probably ego driving, these are the abusers be it verbal or physical. Your relationship is a power struggle between the two of you, your resisting on all levels but you do not know why you cannot fully submit.

The first week we lived together we were like your every day normal Vanilla couple, we talked laughed, joked. The 8th day I restricted certain areas of the house. I walked Arianna around the house showing her where she was allowed to sit, and the furniture was not anyplace she was allowed. This was practiced on a daily basis. She now had to have permission to enter the bed. She now had to have permission to shower, to go to the bathroom. She now had to have permission to play on her phone, watch TV . When we ate dinner she sat on the floor next to me, and at times I would feed her. While in the house there were only two places she was allowed to sit. On the floor next to the sofa, or on the floor next to me at the dinner table. In the morning time I would allow her to sit at the table while we had our morning coffee.

Over a period of ninety days I implemented 20 rues, all of which were meant for self improvement. Again none of the rules were sexual. To gain more control, I implemented the speaking in thirds, may this slave, can this slave, this slave would like. Speaking in thirds is an awesome training tool, but I use only for a short time, or at times I will use as a form of punishment

I changed Arianna demeanor meaning the way she walked, the way she spoke to people. I implemented protocols for private and public. I trained her for in house service for when company was over.

One of the first things I did when Arianna and I first met I introduced her to others who were in the lifestyle, people I had known for 20 plus years. This I believe gave me greater credibility in her eyes, because she knew then I was who I said I was. We went out to eat with other couples in the lifestyle, we were invited to friends of mine for dinner , people just had to meet Arianna, and everyone welcomed her with open arms.

The came the service test I invited a Master and Slave over. Arianna and I cooked a rockin dinner, and Arianna served, and before we ate she either stood behind me or knelt beside me while we talked. That night she was the perfect host.

During this time sex was kept minimal and only on my terms. I said spread I used her and I got off, most of the time without even speaking, until she asked permission to exit the bed.

Arianna now needed permission to shower , she now needed permission to go to the bathroom. There were no exceptions. I now controlled what Arianna ate while at work, and how much she was able to spend.

Arianna now had to keep a daily journal one in the car so she could write down the time and mileage, when she left the house to go to work, when she arrived to work, when she left from work. If she needed to stop by the store if we had not discussed prior she needed permission. Once home she had another journal. This was so she could write down the time she started task, and the finish times.

I then implemented a few of the Gorean slave positions I did not use daily but when I did they were used mainly for humiliation to sort of remind her who and what she was.

Sex I love to fuck, I cannot remember the last time I made love. I do not even think it is possible for me any more, I love to fuck. There are three holes and I use which ever I want without asking.

You know years ago I never would of thought you could actually teach someone the way you wanted your cock sucked, or the way you wanted them to spread while your fucking, or if you told someone to lube your cock and they immediately got on their hands and knees and reached around spreading their ass open with out having to tell them, or to snap your finger and that was the notification to suck your cock.  There is nothing like the feeling knowing that your Slave lives to please you.

Okay so going on a little over two years now, wow time has flown by. Arianna has been punished one time and one time only. I usually do not spank as a form of punishment but this time it was needed. It reminded her of what she did, and now she thinks before acting, because she knows in our house there are two things you take note to, Choices and consequences.

To be able to train someone or be trained if you do not live together it is almost impossible, its like putting a screen door on a submarine and not expecting water to come in.

Now before you jump the gun and say wow vile your an asshole, or your mean and cruel, I am going to say 90% of the above was Arianna’s idea this is how she saw herself living as a slave, A slave not a submissive.

We were only able to achieve such a relationship with constant communication. Communication is the magic key, and if your submissive or slave does not feel they can talk to you about anything on any level, then you will never have their total submission, and your relationship will crash and fucking burn.

If you are seeing a married Dominant who is cheating on his wife, you will never be able to explore your submission to the depths you need, you will never be allowed to be who you are, most of all you will never be fully free.

One thing that just blows my mind and maybe someone can answer this question. If your seeing a Married so called Dom or Daddy, what do you think about while your sucking his cock? Do you think about how his wife sucks his cock? Maybe you think about him fucking his wife? Maybe he fucked her in the ass and did not shower before coming to see you? Do any of these things go through your mind? Do you ever think he just fucked his wife and your cleaning his cock off? Worst if you think your the only one he’s banging if hes married, WOW . Just keep texting or trying to call see how long you have to wait, go on be miserable. Or if your texting stops abruptly for no reason. You know what the deal is, you really know but you ignore it. You will sit there and wait and wait and wait, now that is really pathetic no matter what page your on, that is truly pathetic, and you deserve everything you wish for. If you were willing to enter such a relationship, LISTEN TO ME, you get what you deserve.. Get upset with me I did not do anything I am just speaking the truth.

More to come here shortly.

Guys you can have the world, you can have the perfect relationship, you can have anything you want or need, it is at your finger tips. All you have to do is be real and stop playing games. If your married and your not happy this is for male and female get the fuck out, just fucking tell who ever your living with, Hey I am done, I am outta of here. Don’t bring your drama into their life fucking leave.

As I am nearing 250.000 visitors Sometime next week I want to share the different country’s that have visited. This is really awesome to know that people from all over the world are reading my blog….

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Vile

It Is Not Always The Dominant’s Fault

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, anal sex, Arianna, bdsm, Consensual, consistent, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Dating, Dominant, Face Fucking, Fake Dominants, Lie, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Meeting your new Dom/Master, micromanage, Micromanagement, mistakes, morals, Patience, Protocol, references, relationships, Safe, Safe and Sane, sex, slave, Slave no rights, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on March 2, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

A year and a half I have been ragging on other Dominants because of abuse. The fake Dominants who lurk in the shadows waiting for the perfect prey to come along.

Even those who are Submissive or a Slave has said well this Dom is a fake that Dom is a fake, but that is not always the case. There are those few times the submissive has just read someone wrong.

When you first meet a Dom, or a Daddy, maybe a Master, they all have a series of questions they ask you. When a question is asked they want a straight forward answer. They want the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. When asked questions you give a direct answer, and sometimes it is good to add if you see the need, or you want the conversation to take a different avenue.

If your asked a question or he makes a statement and you agree, you have just started digging yourself a hole, and unless you do something to correct it, your hole will continue to get deeper, because this is your train of thought.

When you speak about limits stand firm on your hard limits. Do you like anal sex ? No I do not that is a hard limit. If you do not like Anal sex say so? Do you enjoy pain ? No Pain is a very hard limits.  If pain is truly a hard limit say so. Do not say something that may have a bad outcome if you choose to enter such a relationship.

This is Vile.

Why do you want to be a Slave. I am looking right in her eyes waiting for a reply. I also want full eye contact.

When did you first become interested in the lifestyle ? Wait for answer.

How many Doms or Masters have you been with and what happened ? May I contact them ? And I have contacted other Masters.

How do you see yourself in an M’s relationship on a daily basis ?

The Slave What are my rules ? Vile I do not know as of yet I do not know you well enough to give or enforce any rules..

Vile

Before we go any further let me explain who I am. I am looking for a slave with little to no limits. I am looking for a slave who wants to be completely owned.  Sex is when I want and need, you have three holes and I plan to use all of them is that understood ? If the answer is no to anyone of those the conversation is over because I Vile will not bend.

You will follow my rules once I know you well enough to start implementing them is that understood ? Again the answer must be yes, looking at me in the eyes.

You will follow my protocols to a T without question,  is that understood ? What are your protocols ? I then say I am simple I have three that will be followed 1 2 3 I may add more as I see fit.

Vile

I do not share, you must remain loyal at all times is that understood ? Again the answer must be yes.

Are you into pain ? The Slave no I am not, good because I am not either. If her answer would of been yes that would of ended the conversation. Why ? Because that was something I could no provide her.

Vile

What are your needs ? What is it you need to be a slave on a daily basis ?  Very important questions there, again you must give a straight answer. You should already have every answer in your head by the time you meet someone. You should have a fucking list a mile long.

Vile

I am going to go one more step. In my home there has to be a bitch, you would be my slave, I would owne you without question, you are to follow. You do not have the right to question me and the word no never comes out of your mouth, unless.

There is an unless and a exception to the rule. If the submissive or slave sees their owner is making a mistake and it will effect the house, then they have the right to question, and they have the right to know what is going to be done to fix the problem.

Vile

Have you understood everything ? Did I leave anything out ? Do I need to cover anything I said again?

It is very important for the Dominant to be very clear when he is explaining his need, his rules and protocols. It should be explained in such a manner that he leaves no rock un-turned.

Vile

Do you have any questions or comments, or something you would like to share?

Answer I need all of the above, but I need to be micromanaged . WHoa , she just through in a wrench into my thinking process, that was something I was not expecting, so now my brain has just hit Mach one.

Vile

Micromanaged as in ? I want you to completely run my life, including my daily task, what I eat, when I sleep, when I shower, what I wear, everything.

Vile

Well um hmmm let me think. This was something that caught me totally off guard.

See now the Slave has the upper hand, the slave is now in control of the conversation.

Vile

That is something I am going to have to think about. I did not give a reason, I did not have to.

Vile

So if I agree to your terms and you agree to mine, your thinking maybe we should try to move forward is that correct ?

If I had agreed to her terms right then and there I would of been stuck, or played the micromanage part until I felt like I had enough control so I could back off.

I had to think about that part for a day. That would be taking a very large step. Before I could commit I had to come up with a plan, I even tried consulting with or Dominants, and their answer was man fuck that shit.

I however felt we had enough in common that I just might be up for such a task.

Everybody is not going to have the same questions, or the same needs, but you get the idea.

If you give the Dom a false answer or your just saying yes to please, you are like the Titanic you will sink and you will sink fast, and there are no life boats.

Sex is not the main road in a relationship, but if someone answered no to anyone of mine, the conversation was over, done. In the past I had giving in and it did not last. Why ? Because I was not upfront and I lied.

Be prepared, ask questions, do not be afraid to say I will not or afraid to use the word no. If the Dominant gets up and walks out, then it was not meant to be.

That goes the same with the Submissive or Slave, you to should get up and walk out. Kick the dirt and move on

It is not always the Dominants fault.

If a Dominant tells you when you are meeting with him, and he says your not allowed to have any eye contact. Tell him to go fuck himself. He does not have that right. If you agree you are already submitting , at this point that is not where you want to be.

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Are Sadist Cruel And Un-Caring

Posted in abuse, Aftercare, bdsm, Bond, clit, control, controlling, Dominants, events, Fake Dominants, Friendship, hoe, Home made toys, Humiliation, Make your own Flogger, masochist, Master, Masters, Meeting, Mentor, Mind Fuck, munchs, nipple pump, Pain, references, SADOMASOCHISM, Safe Call, slave, submissive on September 24, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

I re-Blogged this from http://daddysnaughtylittlegirl.wordpress.com/2012/09/23/in-search-for-a-dominant-fake-fraud/

The Sadist

These guys are really scary.  They genuinely want to hurt you.  There is nothing romantic or loving about them.  They enjoy watching others suffer, both physically and emotionally, and have contempt for those around them.  They relish the humiliation of their victims and are naturally duplicitous.  Because most find sexual satisfaction in their sadism, they can disguise themselves as Dominants.

I see this as putting all Sadist in the same category, even profiling if you will. I disagree with this statement 100%.

We are all different when it comes to the lifestyle, that is why it is very important for us to find someone we are compatible with .

First of all, You can be a sadist and not be a Dominant, you can be a Dominant and not be a sadist, or you can be both. To say all Sadist are ruthless, uncaring, and they just want to hurt and humiliate you, is really a false statement.

While I do know some Sadist who are very extreme, the play is done with a masochist. It is not to say that a sadist would not meet a submissive and could cause harm, but for the most this is very untrue.

With me if you are a submissive, and not a masochist we can still play, sex probably not, I have to have a connection. If I am just in a session, I like to please. I enjoy seeing one get that high, slowly slip into sub-space. More so I enjoy the after care. After care is very important, this prevents sub-drop. After care should not just be a tool used after playing, it should be part of the everyday relationship.

If you are my slave, you are the center of my world I have stated this before. The slave always comes first, no matter what. The slave has an open line of communication.

A Masochist has needs just as a Sadist has needs. I believe in this type of relationship the Bond is so much greater, because both give so much, both can feel what the other is feeling. The trust is so much greater.

This is not to say that a bad sadist is not lurking, but the same is with a fake dominant.

I agree with TheDomNextDoor On the first meeting a slave should have a safe call, a friend she can trust. When she leaves her place and when she arrives at the dominants house, and should be allowed to make a call during the visit. He should also not mind if she takes a pic of his tag, and send it to her safe call.

You never I mean never let a dominant book a room for the first meeting. Yea Ive heard it before, we have chatted, we talked on the phone, we have so much in common, he is what Ive been looking for.

Let me tell you something, if you allow a man to book a room, more so who you have never met. Take you inside tie you down, you know what, you are fair game at this point, bound, gagged, and blindfolded. You have no idea what is going to happen. A safe call may not make a difference. If you allow this to have you are just fucking stupid.

A Dominant should be able to provide references on the spot as a matter of fact I am going to add a couple one from a dominant and one from a slave. He should not have to stop and think about this question.

I like to take a new slave to a munch, and introduce her to friends of mine. While letting her get to know others who are submissive.

Some say well I don’t like to go, I do not like the interaction , or I cannot go because of my work. These are like minded people, Blue Collar workers, white Collar workers, Doctors, Lawyers, shrinks, we come from all forms of life.

The toy thing that was brought up. I make a lot of my toys, from floggers to spreader bars. I am not going to pay 100 dollars for a pair of spreader bars when I can make the same thing for 20 dollars, ball gags, Nipple pumps, clit pumps 5.99 at wal mart. While I do have some toys I have purchased such as The Violet wand in the sum of 1200 dollars and a couple of tens units.

Sometime ago I blogged about a slave named Kim who just basically showed up at my door at 3am. I am flattered by the way that she felt the way she did. After a couple of sessions, she approached my friends wanting to know how to make me change, they just looked at her dumb founded.

Okay so I do have a heart well kinda sorta, I just did not want to say hey you got to go. We had nothing really, more so no sex, I just did not have that connection.

So here came the mind fuck I blogged about, it really dome more damage than I thought it would, that I feel kinda bad about, but in the process she tried to ruin my name. Telling others I had no control, I lost it with her I abused her. Fucking what ever..

So here we go…

Hey Man

list of conversations

Leland
Leland 49M
New Smyrna Beach, Florida
written 14 days ago:

Hey first thing, I just wanted to bring something up, it caught my attention the other day while we were talking. It was about the pain thing.
Looking through your pics, I have to say while I admire, I am not really into leaving marks, I have in the past, my first was a Masochist some 20 yrs ago, she taught me much of what I know today, a real pain slut I suppose, more into humiliation. We saw each other for about 6 or 7 yrs.
Although everything was new to me, in the beginning the humiliation was fun, but it got to be more of a job, because each time we saw each other, I had to out do the last.
Kim gave me a pretty bad rep Craig, although I do enjoy some impact play at times, I never left a bruise on her. Breast play was out because , she said they hurt to bad to even tie up.
Although I do enjoy rough sex and bondage, along with a little humiliation, I have never hurt anyone, nor would I even think of hurting another.

I have a blog it has been up for about 4 months now, with 16K in visitors and about 70 people following. Most of my blog is about safety and Submissive’s ,it does get out there sometimes but safety is first.

I was seeing a submissive for a 9 months she was married a Jehovah Witness yup thats correct.
There is a Dom who lives in Edgewater SirXcalbar on my friends list. Lyn and I went to his house one night and I allowed him to use an evil stick on her, I used it a couple of times, but it really marked up her breast. I like Calbar much respect for him,
I guess what I am trying to say man is I am not the cruel sadist that some have portrayed me to be.
Am I strict ? yes. High Protocol ? yes. Am I abusive? No.

I have met this Chinese American she goes to UCF 21, well the guilt has set in, we have dated a couple of times, she has wanted to play, but I cannot bring myself to it.
Any thoughts?

Craigash
Craigash 52M
Orlando, Florida

Leland, I think the Kim thing fucked you over. I never thought you were dangerous and I know you get off on the mind fuck. Anybody that has a question about you, I would be happy to vouch for you and never hesitate. As for this new girl, I think if you are interested then go for it and don’t hesitate because of an untrue past. You are a man in control of yourself so just follow your own rules. If she says stop then you stop but I don’t have to tell you, you know more than I do. Be yourself and go for it…you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

From a submissive really read this one..

Leland

Check this out

by Leland

A submissive called me who lives on the west coast, we have known each other for more than 5 years.. She was contacted by a dom named thebull2k2.

He wanted to meet her, told her that if he likes her she would take his seed right there she had no say in what he wanted to do.. He wanted to make her pregnant a breeder.

Really has the lifestyle come to this..

This is the submissive I have spoken about who I mentor.

First, I want to thank you Leland, for having my best interest at heart. I respect you, and your opinions a great deal. I have wrestled with posting, as this is similar to public speaking for me, but I want to clarify.
First, I did not meet this person.
Second, this Dom may be perfectly respectable, as I thought so through many of our conversations, and this could very well be a misunderstanding. The breeding part is clearly stated on his profile, and was discussed through conversation at length, where it was also made clear that I would not bring a child into this world outside of a committed, loving relationship. That was not, and still is not, what the issue was that I wanted to bounce off Leland.
Third, I believe this post was intended as a reminder for everyone to pay attention. The original meeting that was agreed to was just a ‘get to know you’ meeting. The other terms were not mentioned until a point in the conversation where I really shouldn’t have been paying much mind to what was being said. After it cooled off a bit, I then attempted to question the part that was tossed in about being taken with no time being spent building trust. It was at that point I was told it is the Dom’s choice of when and where he took a sub, that they had no choice in the matter. THIS is what my issue was, and the reason for mentioning the whole thing to Leland, for his words of wisdom. Obviously, there are as many opinions on this as there are people in the lifestyle, however, mine were made perfectly clear in this, as well as previous conversations.
I believe the point of this post was intended to remind us we do have choices. I speak to Leland about many things, including many of the absurdities, I, as a single woman here, receive on a daily basis. Most of them are laughable. Many so called “Doms” tend to use the lifestyle and the title as their right to a bootie call, and nothing more. If that is what you are here for, to each their own. However, many subs who have not yet learned to weed through these and spot the red flags get taken advantage of. Sometimes, even those of us who do know become lax, and let our guard down. I understand his frustration with this. I do think this thread could have been done a bit differently, however, I understand the point was also to remind and protect myself, and others like me, against some of the dangers of not paying attention and rushing into meetings too quickly.
A GREAT follow up would be the nearly day long lecture I had the privilege of receiving from you (Leland) on safety measures! (Typed.. here… I think I am good for a while on hearing it!)
Again, I am honored to be able to call you friend, and to have you as a sounding board, regardless of the lectures it brings me!

SirXcalbar is a very dear and close friend of mine.

Well, there are those who are fakers and use the lifestyle to attract those innocents. However, if she agreed, then that is her fetish and is probably what she seeks. However, I wold not want such an individual as she puts everyone at risk and all safety goes out the door. She does have choices and she does not appear to be very responsible and mature. She needs guidance from those who care and are true practioners and not just bootie calls. @just_jess appears to have received your message and guidance and she will continue to need it to grow safely.

I agree with the guidance SirXcalbar, as with many submissives and slaves. Many are to eager to meet, many to eager to please, just hoping someone will except them if that makes since..

So yes every Dominant should be able to prove who he is, without hesitation.

ImageA slave is very special, very strong, and should be cared for.

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