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If The Truth Hurts , Go Fuck Yourself

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Argue, Arianna, Bad Dominant, bdsm, Broken Dominant, Cheaters, cheating, Cheating Dominant, commitment, communication, consequences, controlling, Divorce, Domestic Abuse, Dominant, Dominants who suffer from depression, Ed Wolf facebook, Ex wife, exposing bad dominants, Fake Dominants,, Humiliation, Master And Slave, non caring, non-consensual, self centered, Self Inflicting, Self Pity, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , , , , , , , , on October 4, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Last night I was on Facebook just minding my own business , playing Pawn Stars which is really boring by the way, and I get a private message.
Hey Vile you should see what is going on with this blog, so I look and I do not see anything, so I ask again, Ohhh on Facebook okay let me check it out.

Now before I go on, I want everyone to know I never use any ones name on here. One I know most people want their privacy , and two I never bash any one individual.

So for those of you who do not know me, I have never claimed to be politically correct. I tell it as I see it, but one thing you should know is I live by the truth , the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Something else I would like to bring up , I have never claimed to know everything in the BDSM world or the lifestyle, but what I am sharing is more than 20 years of my life in the community.

Also I would like to point out those who do not know me, may think I have an ego problem, and that is so far from the truth, I am just very confident, and there is a huge difference.
I have made it clear many times there is no room in the lifestyle for an ego. Ego’s kill relationships.

So I go and check out the Facebook page, and I am reading.

I want to Blast Vile Woods so bad, but I know when to take the high road.

I start thinking and I do not even know this dude, why in the fuck is he bashing me? What the fuck did I do to him?

As it turns out I did nothing to him at all, he is angry because his submissive , well I think she is his submissive reads and likes my blog.

I would also like to point out, what I write is strictly my own opinion, and nothing more.
I am sharing my life experience’s with everyone. As you have seen 90% of my blog is about abuse, what to look for when meeting a new Dominant? Questions to ask when meeting a new Dominant.

I have a very successful M’s relationship and I want to show others it can happen, and you can be happy.
While my way may not work for you, you can take bits and pieces , and maybe put a plan together.

So I send Ed Wolf a Message, I would not normally use anyone’s name but he did blast my name for everyone to see, so now I return the favor. I am not going to get drawn up in all the drama by the way, so after this post it will be done..


Mr Wolf

If you have a problem with me, you should come to me.
As far as I know I have done nothing to you, maybe I have and did not realize at any rate I am not sure what blasting on FB does.


Ed Wolf

As I said have strong feelings but wouldn’t result to sniping on social media


what the fuck are you talking about


Have you got the right dude?

Ed Wolf

Yes never mind. I regret that I commented at all. Sorry


Um I’ve never said anything about you on social media


you have never even crossed my mind


If I am going to talk about you I will use your name


Dude really you should know me.
Which he does not, even though I guess he follows my blog, he has liked several post in the past.

Ed Wolf

No I shouldn’t. I have enough on my plate without dealing with another egomaniac.


well okay I am not sure what got you all in an up roar but I am good dude, if I was going to talk about you I would of used your name.


I am not an egomaniac by the way I have no reason to be.

My life is good dude

Believe what you want but you were never a topic on my blog

I do not know enough about you to blog anything

dude I know nothing about you nor do I wish to

I don’t know if your single married, divorced kids nothing at all

I do know now he is divorced, and his submissive is still married.

Ed Wolf
I know you weren’t specific or talking about me. Im worried about someone else who considers your opinions as fact. Biting my tongue sorry I said anything. My apologies

Ahhh now the cat is out. His submissive reads my blog.

Well if you have a lot going on in your life you should fix it.
Sounds like a lot of drama.
chill out , come up with a plan and do it.
Staying calm and cool is the best path

Ed Wolf
That was Mr Wolf’s final answer.

So while I am not going to speak bad about the submissive, out of respect.
I will tell Mr Wolf he should leave married women alone and get his own woman.

Far be it for me to spread rumors but word on the street is Mr Wolf has stock in Jack Daniels. Alcohol and BDSM do not mix any Dominant should know that.

Rumor on the street has it Mr Wolf also has a bad temper, again a bad temper does not mix well in a BDSM relationship, or any relationship for that matter.

If Mr Wolf has a drinking and temper problem, how is that going to effect his newly found relationship.
I am sure is played a huge part in his divorce as well.

A Dominant is in full control of his life, a Dominant does not have a temper problem, after all we are leaders.
Then you add the drinking problem, which probably stems from a childhood trauma, who knows, maybe just stressed and he cannot handle everything thrown at him.

Then I look at Mr Wolf’s blog, there are a few post but nothing he has written. His whole blog is just re-blogs, which shows he really has no real interest.

This will make my 990th blog and maybe I have re-blogged a 100 maybe less.

Here is Mr Wolfs Blog

BDSM -Ties That Bind or Break Us

You know if you had a problem with me, you should of come to me instead of blasting it out over the net, but just like your last comment Lol it shows your colors.

A true Dominant would not of acted out as you have, a true Dominant would not of gotten angry at his so called submissive, with who you do not live with, and I will share with you how that is going to play out here in a minute.

you the Dominant are now running around and apologizing to others you have offended. Speaking to other submissive’s in a rude way, which again a true Dominant would of never done.

Mr Ed Wolf let me tell you just how things are going to play out, so you can prepare.

You are going to lose, and you are going to lose with your actions, your childish behavior , you are going to lose because of the anger issues you have. You Mr Ed Wolf are a abuser, you were in your first marriage and you will be to whom ever your lucky enough to lure in.

You will lose the married submissive you have now, as well as the friendship. Your actions are causing her great distress, your actions are causing her to be depressed, your actions are making her confused, your actions are making her cry.

Mr wolf only cares about Mr Wolf, it is all about Mr Wolf, and no one else.

I feel deep pity for you, I do not feel sorry, but pity

Shame on you, what gave you the right to go to another mans house and try to claim his wife? Who the fuck are you?

This is why you lose friends, and again you cannot see it, because it is all about Mr Ed Wolf.

If what your submissive is saying to you is the truth you have no reason to get upset. My guess is your upset because your cover has been blown.
She is married you should leave her alone and find your own woman.
Someone who likes Jack Daniels?

Do not ever bring my name up and try to get me mixed in with your garbage.
I am unforgiving so I do not accept your apology..

Arianna wanted me to say nothing to you, and I understand because your full of drama, but you never should of called me out in public among my friends when I did nothing you.
You should of been a man and came to me, but instead you laughed.

If you cannot control yourself, your anger, your emotions, how can you possibly control someone else?



What I have Learned

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, anticipation, anxiety, Arianna, bdsm, betrayed, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, greed, Master, Masters, oral sex, pussy, Safe and Sane, self centered, self confidence, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , , , , on September 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I learned about greed at an early age. I remember deer hunting at 14. I invited a friend, while hunting one early morning I shot a buck. We would clean right there on the spot because it was to hard getting the whole deer back home. As we were packing I noticed once we were through he had taking way more than half. That was the last invitation. I figured he needed it worse than I did so I said nothing.
Hunting was something I enjoyed it was my get away. I remember I would go squirrel hunting and I would take Mrs Wright my catch and she would cook squirrel dumplings for me.

I have learned that Drama is a cancer, and the only cure is to cut it off at the source. If you feed on their drama is just complicates your life.

I’ve learned that if people are to quick to help they have their own agenda.

I have learned once an abuser always an abuser, you are just wired that way, and there is no cure.

I have learned once a cheater always a cheater, yes you are just wired that way.

I have learned to keep my friendship base small. You cannot trust to many at one time, because all do not have good intentions.

I have learned that being confident you can get ahead in life.

I have learned you cannot live your life trying to be politically correct. If you live your life being politically correct you can never be yourself. In fact your life is a huge lie.

I have learned honesty is the best policy. You should never have to lie to get what you want.

I have learned religion is a huge farce. Religion is something people hide behind living off of false hopes.
Religion is nothing but greed, and it has brought down millions of people, and millions have been killed. Religion is greed and nothing more.
I am not saying there is no god, but I believe you can be right with the man in your own home.
People believe in order to be next to god you have to give money or your prayers will not be answered.

I Have learned the lifestyle has changed so much in the last ten years and abuse is running rapid. It is truly a shame how people can abuse and not have a care. To not have any compassion or care for someone’s well being. The explosion is due to the internet and like the drama it to is a cancer.

I have learned that greed now runs the world. Families are no longer families, they are more acquaintances, and they are there until you need something.

I have learned that if your partner will lay on her back and take what you give, she should be your only concern. Your partner should always come first no matter what.

In my eyes Arianna can walk on water, she is a true sign of perfection.

We spend to much time looking at faults, when really if you look at the good, and focus on the good, there are no faults. It took me years to learn to look for the good qualities.

I have learned there is no end to submission. If your submissive or slave is treated with respect, the submission will grow.

I have learned our community is no longer as close as we once were, and I find this to be alarming. We no longer look out for the ones who need guidance , advice, or may just need a push in the right direction, everything now comes with a price.

I will be your mentor but your going to suck my cock, or your going to fuck me, but I will help you. That is very unfortunate that we have gone in that direction.

At one time I had the complete set of the native American dawes rolls, and yes that is the truth. I would help people obtain their cards from the different tribes.
The thing is once I explained the steps I needed from them it was to much work.
Everything we do in life consist of one word. Effort.

I have learned real love is almost impossible to come by today. It seems most have their own agenda. When things go wrong it is easier to just pack up and leave.

I have learned drug abuse is no longer a habit that was once known to be part of the poor population. Our country has a huge prescription addiction problem.

Everything I have stated above also consist of one word. Greed

I have learned there are those who want what others have. Those who want to destroy homes, take away what someone else has built, but in the end they lose, and they lose everything, expecting others to feel sorry for them.

A man will destroy his home, and family over a little pussy, with no guilt or regrets.

Yes all of the above consist of one word as well.




Living The Threesome

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, Collar, Collared Slave, communication, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominants, Ego, kinky, poly, Polyamory, Protocol, rimming, Rules, self centered, sharing, slave, submissive, sucking cock, Threesome on December 21, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

What better way than to wake up with a Bitch on both sides of you. Walking into BDSM events with a woman on either side. Being able to bring another home so you and your slave can enjoy her. Even letting your Master go out with other slaves and fucking them but he always comes home to you.

I have talked about poly several times, but then I read other blogs and they bring up new points that I did not cover. Every mans dream why stop at two, why not three, or four?

Poly can be good more so in today’s times so now you have three putting into the pot, and it does make things easier on the Alpha female, or so it would seem.

Poly is not a good thing when your relationship is fresh, poly is something that you should take your time when seeking another. I am thinking six months maybe a year. The two really need time to get to know each other

It is my opinion having a new slave for a month or two, is not a time to be bringing another into your home. Number one you do not even really know your slave, her emotions, what she can take or not take, her feelings. Surely after knowing someone just over a month you would not already have her collared. How could that possibly happen.

If your collar is just giving to you because your new Master wants to own you, how can you as the slave respect wearing a collar you did not even earn. Or you except it because you want to be owned. Again would you marry someone only knowing them for a month?

A collar is earned , Earned being the key word. I know for myself even implementing rules takes a good thirty days, I believe with Arianna is was roughly 2 months before I had my rules in place. In order to put any rules into place you have to know your slave inside and out. The rules we give are rules to improve, to make better, to insure they are using their time wisely, for the betterment.

So the rules are in place, your own protocols are in place, then the collaring begins. I myself just sit back and observe I watch I take mental notes. I look for consistency, but most of all I look for the need, the need to be owned, the need to be collared.

I do not have a desire to bring another into our home, my house. Its just not the sex I get, but it is everything that encircles our relationship. One piece of a pie does not make a whole. You have to start from scratch. You have to add all the ingredients, then you have to mix everything together, pour into your pie pan, add the crust, then you bake until done.

That is the same way when it comes to building a relationship, you are baking a pie, and you have to keep a close eye on it to insure it does not burn.

So if Arianna came to me and said Master I think we should bring another Slave into our home, your house. My first question would be why. Why do you feel we need another? Her reason would have to be a valid one, and I can tell you it would not just be about sex. It would be about helping with the daily chores, the daily task, such as cooking, or shopping, taking care of bills.

The poly relationship should never be based just on sex. The foundation should be built, the need has to be brought out, what you expect out of the relationship. More important how is a third going to benefit your home. How is the third going to make things better. What are the good point and what are the bad points?

I have someone who is somewhat of a friend who moved in with a slave, and from day one it was a total fuck up. He could not control what he had or the house, but once home from work, he spent hours on his computer trying to find another to add.

Is this fair to the slave you are bringing in? Not at all your going to bring someone into all your problems, your drama, your arguing, and say welcome to our happy home.

A good portion of slaves or those who are submissive do not even want anything to do with poly, but they will agree just to please. Because they have this acceptance thing going on, maybe a low self esteem. The need to please.

Again poly can work and it can be good for some, but it takes time , not thirty days after you have met your slave.

Okay lets say I wanted to bring in another lets say I needed more than one. I would leave that up to Arianna because she is the one who is going to have to get along with her, she is the one who is going to be going shopping with, standing side by side cooking, cleaning, laundry. The slave has to get along with your slave, they have to become best friends.

If I brought another slave into my house it would make Arianna feel inadequate, she would feel as though she was not enough, or she was not able to please me.

Okay my check list here, maybe I do need a third.

I have awesome communication , check , I have the best friend I have been looking for all my life , check, We enjoy our time together, check. We enjoy doing the same things, check. We enjoy the same foods, check. Okay now the kinky stuff. We both enjoy bondage, check. I get my cock sucked anytime I have the want, check. I get pussy anytime I want, check, I fuck her ass anytime I want, check. I can just play with her, probing both holes, really anything I want to do, check. I love being rimmed, I get that anytime I want, check, I love foot worship all I have to do is point , check. I even have my own Titty Bar, when I want her to dance for me, check.

You know I have got it made. I cannot think of a different flavor I would need. So to bring in a third there has to be a valid reason, there has to be a need that would benefit the both not just one.

I know that Arianna is against the poly thing, I know bringing in a third would do more harm than good, but if I really wanted to and I insisted on it, she would keep her mouth shut and do it. That still does not make it right. We talked about this before, she was against it and I agreed the case was closed.

Before bringing in a third sit down and talk. There has to be a reason and having a different flavor is just not a valid reason. More so in today’s times when there is some bad shit going around. Back in the day you could go down and get a shot to get the drip to stop. Today it is tons of medication just to keep you alive. Is the different flavor really worth ones life. Unless you really know someone, I still do not know.

The reason has to benefit your slave in some way. I would think there would have to be a good reason, not just so the Dom can get off. The power trip, the ego booster. Watch me while I fuck her.

Just my opinion you can agree or disagree , but do not just let someone walk all over you. You should both agree on what is good for your relationship and what is not, what is healthy and what is not.

Here is a question you can ask your Dom. Can we bring in another Male Dominant. See how far that gets you. Instead of you eating pussy in front of him, see how he feels about you sucking another cock in front of him, or how much your enjoying getting banged by another dude. See how far that conversation goes.


Image See how far that gets you