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Do You Know What Training Really Is ?

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Argue, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, being used, commitment, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Conversation, cunt, Daddy Dom, Deception, Depressed, Depression, Dominance Through Intimidation, Giving Head, Humiliation, infidelity, married, Married Dominant, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Meeting a Dominant for the first time, poly, Polyamory, Rules, Safe and Sane, selfish, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on September 25, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Lets take cock sucking out of the picture, while we are at it lets take a rule out a lot of you have, or have had.
Your not allowed to cum for a month, or maybe even two months

The second I spoke about is pure ego, and nothing more. The you are not allowed to touch your pussy or cum without my permission was something I did when I was in my twenties. If I had come across anyone who had been in the lifestyle for anytime when I said those words I was laughed at. They knew then I was not a experienced Dom.

Before you begin your Training there are a few questions you need to ask yourself.
1. Is this lifestyle really for me? You know your own feelings, but much research must be done, before being able to correctly answer.
2. Why do I need to be trained?
3. What do I hope to get out of being trained by a Dominant ?
4. Just how far do I want to go ?
5. What are some of my limits ? You probably have an idea, but you also may need to explore.
6. What Type of Dominant or Master should I be looking for ?
Remember we are all different , we all have different values, and methods. Some are very strict, while some are not. Some have rules and protocols while some do not. Some want to see their property excel in life, while others will still care about you but you are more of a physical object.

These are just a few of the questions you need to ask yourself before you begin your journey. Know what you need is very important. Never let anyone tell you what you need, or how they are going to change you.

Meeting your new Dominant and taking an assessment should be done while you are getting to know each other. This covers many areas.
Your health should be talked about in depth, medications, phobias as well. Your work should be discussed, as well as family and friends.

Here is a list of health questions I used.
Do you have any dietary restrictions?
Are you allergic to anything? (Scene materials as well as common allergies)
Do you wear contact lenses or glasses? Dental bridges or hearing aids?
Do have any injuries that can keep you from service or play type training? (Neck, back, knee injuries)
Do you have any ongoing illnesses or chronic problems? What type of medications or treatments do you take for these?
Make a list of all the vitamins, herbal or nutritional supplements your take?
When was your last blood test and physical? Will you be willing to take a blood test or physical?
Do you use recreational drugs (including alcohol or tobacco)? What? How Often?
Do you have any addictions or are you struggling with an addiction?
Are you recovering from an addiction? Are you clean and/or sober? How long?
Have you suffered from abuse as a child? As an adult? (Physical, verbal, psychological, sexual, spiritual)
If so, are there any triggers that can cause you trauma now?
Do you abuse others, or have abused others, in the past? How have you addressed these problems?
Have you ever had any type of sexually transmitted disease? How was it, or is it, being treated?

All of these questions are very important, this is one of the ways besides communication you get to know someone. This will also prevent someone from getting hurt.

While there may not be a cure for many mental illnesses, I do believe that under the right house, and the proper structure , most can be kept under control, and managed.

Clarification. You will need clarification on the entire process. You will want to know what will be expected of you.

If you work or have children there will be limitations that will have to be put into place.

Just so you know this is not a Wham Bam Thank You Process. These discussions is something that should take place over time. This is a courtship, this is the getting to know each other time.
Go out to eat, catch a movie, long walks. The most important thing is to take your time. Communication is the most important thing in your relationship, but and there is a but, compatibility plays a major role.

Call me Sir, call me Master, call me Daddy, never fall for those demands. Each title no matter what should be earned and not demanded.

The RULE thing is never really clear, a lot of Dominants want to start out with rules before even entering a relationship.
Once your relationship gets to that point, when a Rule is giving out, there should be a clear explanation on why that rule is being put into place.

One thing I do and did, when I explained something to Arianna, I explained it in such a way there were no questions. Everything must be very clear.

It is also impossible to be told to memorize 30 or 40 rules. If the Dominant expects you to remember each and everyone , then he should be able to repeat them all.

We all have training ideas, but what works for one will not work for another.
The one thing you have to remember you are being trained to fit someone’s needs, it is you that will have to adapt to your new world, not the Dom.

In many cases you may need to be trained, looking for that structure in your life, or you may be perfectly fine, and your just entering a D’s or M’s relationship, at any rate you are still going to adapt to someone else’s world. Your life is going to really go through changes.

Some of the things that are important to us, is our family, we also need friends, you need to be able to go out, we all need down time.
During your negotiation part you need to make sure you will still be allowed to do the above.

If the Dominant you are meeting tells you he is married, make sure the spouse is okay with what he is doing. This is where it gets tricky because you cannot just take his word, after all if his wife says its okay for him to see other people, then it should be okay for you to talk to her.

He will come off well my wife is a bitch, she does not understand me, she does not fulfill my needs, she is always nagging.
Well!!! If things were really all that bad he would not be there.
I am staying because of the children. Yea that is a lame excuse.
He is cheating because she will not suck cock or take it up the ass but you will.
Remember you are now number two , and you will always be number two.
No Birthdays, no Holidays, no vacations, you are just a secret.

Training should start almost immediately once the two have agreed to enter a D’s or M’s relationship. The most effective way to train is while you are living together.
If your Dominant is a once a month warrior then you are not really going to get the whole picture.
This also happens when you see someone who is married, your in it for the benefits, and he is in it for the ass, and nothing more.

You the Submissive or Slave should have a good idea when it comes to what your looking for, and what your needs are. This is something you need to cover as well.
When you meet a new Dominant, and you are to intimidated or scared to talk openly about your needs then he is the wrong Dom for you.
A Dominant should make you feel at ease, relaxed. He should be easy to speak to, and not make any demands.
If you cannot speak freely and express your needs, how can you fully submit to him?

The first meeting all eyes should be on you. You should be doing all the talking, and the Dominant should have his total attention on you. If your shy he will keep the conversation flowing with questions
During this time he is taking in all the information. This is the time he is putting a training program together in his head.

Your question should be what does your training consist of? What do you think I will get out of your training ?

What are your protocols ? Are your protocols just private or are they public as well?

One thing I did, is I would request a journal be started something I could read everyday or week. I did not have to do that with Arianna because she had ten years worth of journals, so I really got a deep look inside her life.

There are rules and then there is sex. The two should never be mixed. Rules are meant to provide structure, and guidance.

A rule telling you to send a video on your anal training does not benefit you at all. You being told as a rule to send nude pics, does not benefit you at all.
If these are the things he is interested in, then he does not have your best interest in mind.

Being trained is real, and you need to be sure you are in the hands of someone who really cares about you. Someone who has open communication.
Our lifestyle is you are a True D’s or M’s is a mind thing. It is all about the Dominant getting inside your head, and having the ability to stay there, keeping you in that submissive frame of mind.

The first 90 days Arianna had almost zero freedom. She was allowed to call and visit family, she has a dear friend she was allowed to see, and of course work.
Other than the things above she spent 90 days learning Viles way.
Rules a few at a time, protocols, again Viles way, learning in service. Learning how to be a host in an M’s home.

The first thing I did, was introduce her to friends I had within the community.
Why did I do this? She has been in two Bad D’s relationships prior to me.
I told her I had been in the lifestyle for more than 20 years. So not that I had anything to prove, I introduced her to very close friends who had known me , here in the local community. This was a way to validate myself. I am who I said I was.

Any Dominant who tells you he has been in the lifestyle for 20 years knows people in the lifestyle, and he should be more than willing to introduce you to his friends.
99% of the time he will be active in the local community, if he is not then something happened.
It does not take much for a Dominant to get a bad name, and once your shunned , there is really not much he can do as far as meeting new subs or slaves, unless it is Via Collarme or something.
That should be a bad sign if he tells you he has no friends in the local community.
I know and I know others who need that interaction. We need to be able to talk to our friends, someone we can relate to.

There are warning signs to look for, and many times you see them but you over look them because you think he could be the one.
Well! he is nit the one, because there are thousands of ones out there, and if you settle for less than what you need, your relationship will be short lived.

Many Dominants who have no real life experience will try to isolate you, because they are still in the insecure mode. The married Dominant will even more isolate you, because you are his fuck toy on the side.
These are also warning signs you need to look out for, keeping you isolated is where the abuse begins, and once it starts you are the only one who can stop it.

You are a submissive you have the right to question, more so you have the right to say no.

Remember everything is a negotiation , this is when you talk about your needs, what you expect out of the relationship, as well as your limits.
You want everything out on the table, so there are no surprises.

Now the most important issues. What are you going to get out of the relationship? If you are not living together , how much time will be devoted to you?
Is the relationship going to be one on one or he is Poly? That is a very important question, if you do not ask he may bring it up at a later date.

If you are asked a direct question then give a direct answer, and do not tell something someone wants to hear, be honest.
If you ask a direct question you expect a direct answer.

If your going to submit, you cannot submit on your terms, if you happen to find a Dom who will allow you to do this , then what kind of Dominant is he ?

Also it is not that you will not have any say , but your whole thought process will be different, you are now in the follow position. The Dominant will lead you will follow.

When you first meet asking the proper questions, and giving honest answers would prevent so much drama and heartache. Many for what ever reason are to intimidated to speak up. If the Dominant has caused this, then you need to step away before even meeting him, so there is no connection.

You cannot gain a connection over the internet alone, well it can be done if both are honest. The truth is we can be who ever we want to be, and make you believe most anything without even meeting.

Married Dominants, they do not want a relationship with you. You will never be able to experience what the D’s lifestyle is truly like. You will never get that one on one attention you need, he will never be available when you need him, but he has agreed to take care of you, he has agreed to be there for you. The truth is that will never happen.
He will never leave his wife, his home, his cars, nor his children, nor is he going to part with his money.
Why would he leave he has the best of both worlds? He has everything at home, and someone who will suck his cock on the side. The truth hurts huh?

In the lifestyle training is for the betterment of the submissive or slave.
You have to decide if you want to be part of a growing relationship, or just a piece of ass on the side that no one knows about. The dirty little secret you cannot even talk about, because your married Dom is afraid you will blow his cover.
Sitting at home on your couch, crying because you cannot get a reply to a text is no way to live.
He cannot text because he is having a cookout with his wife and kids.
The biggest myth is you are the only one he is seeing on the side, if you believe this then you are dumber than your Dom thinks you are already, and yes he thinks your Dumb, he thinks you can do no better, and he thinks you are wrapped around his fingers, and when you leave after a year or so he will find someone to take your place. You are not an asset and never will be.
He will keep you until you become either to needy, or a burden to him. Keep your cock sucker shut and things will go as he had planned

This is why it is very important when a Dominant says he wants to train you, you need to get clarification on what he means.

You have the right to explain your needs, and you need to be sure they are going to be met, before you enter the relationship, because once his lies start they are never ending.

Training is meant to be one on one with no interventions. You should be the Dominants main focus during this time.
Telling you that you are not allowed to cum is not training , and I will tell any Dom or Master face to face he is full of fucking shit.

You calling him Sir, Daddy, or Master, and in his mind he is calling you an idiot.

Does anyone know the Definition of the word CUNT?
Cant understand normal thinking.

Men fall under this category as well it is not only women, because I meet stupid everyday, and I meet a lot of CUNTS

If you stay focused you will go far, if you stick to your plan you will go far. If you stick to your goals in life you will go far. If you make sure your needs are met you will go far.

The only way you can be trained is through someone being consistent, consistency is the KEY.

focused

Yours Truly
Vile

How Do You Dress Your Slave

Posted in abuse, Amish Dress, Amish Mafia, bdsm, Bdsm events, Mini Skirts, No Panties, Protocol, Protocol public, selfish, Six inch Heels, slave, submissive on April 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I remember back in the day it was short skirts, no panties , and sometimes a Bra, and high heels. I am a total leg man so legs are important, well the ass first, but then the legs.

It is different if I am not in a one on one relationship, If I am just dating then yes I want the total slut look. I want the skirt so short it just barely covers the ass cheeks, ahh yes and no panties.

Now that I am older things have changed, don’t get me wrong every Dom loves to show off his property, but my showing off is much different today than it was twenty years ago.  I do have a few slave dresses I bought for Arianna to wear around the house, yea they are ugly, but my reasoning behind the dresses are to keep Arianna in that frame of mind.

If I thought it was practical I would dress Arianna in Amish dresses everyday seven days a week and she would gladly wear them, but then I would probably have the Amish Mafia knocking on my door.

As I stated my showing off today is much different. My showing off is how Arianna acts in public, be it over at someones house, or at a munch. Yes the old Protocol.  While out I do allow her to dress up, short skirt six inch heels, she is always the finest woman there. The way she dresses, acts, speaks, walks. When we walked into the last munch all heads turned, and the eyes were glued to Arianna.

I guess at one time I had a large ego, and over the years it has slowly faded away. When it comes to dressing I am somewhat conservative now. I love the covered look, because I already know what is under the dress, and I know it is all mine.

I have seen some Doms push the dress protocol to the limit, making the submissive or slave feel uncomfortable and you can tell by the looks in her eyes she does not want to be there.

I have had other Dominants come up to me and tell me they cannot believe how well mannered Arianna is, and they love the way she acts while being out. Well if you like it so much put your Dom thing to work.  Even when going to speak Arianna ask me for permission before doing so, she just does not blurt out.

There comes a time slave or not we should respect our property, be it private or public. I mean as a Dominant would you go to a munch wearing a speed O and a T shirt, in heels, I would think not, so why would you expect the same out of your slave.

This is just how I feel, my thoughts and my opinion. We are all different, but when you tell a slave to wear something and you can see that look in her eyes. Just take a minute and put her shoes on think about her, and how she is going to feel.

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I have a problem with the word No

Posted in abuse, bdsm, De Leon Springs, Drama, Friends, Friendship, Pancake House, relationships, Respect, selfish, sex, slave, The word NO on December 16, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Very few would not think I have a problem with the word No. The fact is I do when it comes to certain situations.

I was out with a couple the other day, and his girl friend wanted to buy some makeup, the word No came out. She looked at new shoes, the word No came out. She then looked at a few tops and outfits the word No came out. We were talking about the four of us going to Golden Coral for Christmas dinner, again the word No came out.

Rick is far from a dominant, in many ways he is really pretty childish, his girl friend is pretty much the same way.

I believe it was Thursday Tish asked me if I wanted to go to a pancake breakfast place, her treat. Well if you have seen the photo I posted in my BDSM group on FaceBook you can see I seldom turn food down. She asked if it was okay to invite Kelly, sure she can come.

The restaurant is located in a national park in De Leon Springs Fla. They cook your meats, but there is a griddle in the center of the table, and your pancake mix and eggs are brought out to you and you cook them yourself. Tish was our chef and an awesome one at that. Anyway Kelly was like a kid in a candy store, a smile from ear to ear, I would of thought she was 13 and not 33. She was just glad to be out, and having fun.

Rick has changed a lot being around me, he has grown up some, but does not understand my ways. or my lifestyle. He still has a temper issue, but has calmed in the last three months.

So we were at wal mart which I despise , and the word No , was his main word of the day, even when it came to new under garments. Not my relationship, so not my worry, but I wanted to find out his way of thinking.

Back at the house I am cooking dinner, I do enjoy cooking, and yes I am a good cook, somewhat messy but good. We are eating dinner, and I start to ask questions, about why he said no so much while shopping. He just looked at me.

I said here is the deal. This girl cooks for you, does your laundry, lays on her back and spreads, and your all about the word No. I think it is pretty inconsiderate of you, and I feel you are taking advantage of a good relationship, and when she finely see’s the light, she will dump you.

At times I view the word no as a form of abuse, the female be it vanilla or in the lifestyle really gives so much, and to say No to even the most simplest things , well is really hard for me.

The things rick was saying No to, were mostly needs and not wants. I do not consider makeup a need, but many females do.

Will rick change probably not, it is not my problem, kelly knew what he was like before she entered the relationship. I think the word No is his way of being in charge, showing authority maybe, or maybe he is just that cheap.

Maybe I look at women differently, maybe I respect women more, maybe I appreciate, more than most. There are limits, I mean  maybe when it comes to making a large purchase , such as a car or something, but then again if it is a need, how can one say no.

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Verbal and Written Slave Contracts

Posted in 24/7, abuse, bdsm, communication, Fear, Health, Honesty, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, Safe Call, Safe Word, Sane, Scared, selfish, sharing, slave, Slave Contract, Verbal contract on December 12, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Slave contract is something I have not seen blogged about here, so I wanted to give my input on the subject.

There are those who truly take the lifestyle very serious, and feel more comfortable when a slave contract is in place. Then some Dominants feel they need that kind of power in place for what ever reason. Then at times a slave who does not know any better will agree, just to please.

The most common is the verbal. Some Dominants who need this kind of power will try to impose such conditions on a new submissive or slave. The slave really has no idea, and has probably ran across a contract on the net at some point. The verbal contracts are usually taking to the extreme, and can change on a daily basis to fit the Owners needs, just as rules seem to change to fit the owners needs.

The second is the written contract. Why this is really needed I do not have a clue. I suppose it could make the slave feel more secure, and needed. Truly feel owned to have a purpose.I would never ask for such a thing, I may consider if it was something the slave felt it was a need.

Before you enter a relationship, you pretty much lay all the cards out on the table, so each knows what to expect. Both know their places, so I really see no need for a contract.

Under some contracts a Dominant at times takes things to an extreme. Timed sex, oral, and even sharing. Cleaning , cooking, and so on, everything is timed. The slave has no down time. The contract usually goes one way and has no true benefit for the slave. A one way contract.

Many slaves will sign or agree to a verbal out of fear. Either losing someone they care about, or the fear of punishment.

It does not matter the contract, the slave has rights as well. This is over looked way to often, and most Dominants will fail to bring that part of the contract up.

The slave has the right to have an open line of communication.The other day I said something, and Tish asked if I could clarify what I had just said. The slave has the right to be safe at all times. The slave has the right to refuse to do anything that may cause harm or be illegal. The slave has the right to refuse anything that may put her career in jeopardy. The slave has the right to a safe word if they should choose.  The slave has the right to not be shared.

The other day a Friend of mine who owns three slaves came to visit from Daytona. He did bring his favorite with him, and his main topic was Tish. Instead of him asking he had his slave bring the subject up about sharing. I made it very clear I shared nothing. I do not mind someone looking, but to touch is totally out of the question. I knew why he had her bring it up. He knew I would not get upset with his slave, or say anything disrespectful. I can understand his way of thinking. Tish has a body built for sin..

I then brought up the question why one would need to own more than one. His answer was to add spice.

Before I enter a relationship I lay everything out on the table. My needs and what I expect out of the relationship. That is my spice. I get anything I want at home, so there is no need to stray.

Below is a sample contract, kinda mild compared to some of the others floating around out there.

Sample

Author Unknown

NOTE: It should go without saying that a “contract” such as this is not legally binding. Documents such as these are intended only to provide a fantasy environment for extended role-playing.

1.0.0 Slave’s Role

The slave agrees to submit completely to the master in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the master without risking punishment, except in situations where the slave’s veto (see section 1.0.1) applies. The slave also agrees that, once entered into the Slavery Contract, their body belongs to their master ,, to be used as seen fit, within the guidelines defined herein. All of the slave’s possessions likewise belong to the master , including all assets, finances, and material goods, to do with as they see fit. The slave agrees to please the master to the best of their ability, in that they now exist solely for the pleasure of said master .

1.0.1 Slave’s Veto

The slave, where appropriate, holds veto power over any command given by the master , at which time they may rightfully refuse to obey that command. This power may only be invoked under the following circumstances, or where agreed by both master and slave:

  1. Where said command conflicts with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution of the slave .
  2. Where said command may cause extreme damage to slave’s life, such as losing their job, causing family stress, etc.
  3. Where said command may cause permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0) to the slave .
  4. Where said command may cause psychological trauma to the slave, such as a rape scene for a slave that has been raped in the past.

2.0.0 Master’s Role

The master accepts the responsibility of the slave’s body and worldly possessions, to do with as they see fit, under the provisions determined in this contract. The master agrees to care for the slave , to arrange for the safety and well-being o f the slave , as long as they own the slave . The master also accepts the committment to treat the slave properly, to train the slave, punish the slave, love the slave, and use the slave as they see fit.

3.0.0 Punishment

The slave agrees to accept any punishment the master decides to inflict, whether earned or not.

3.0.1 Rules of Punishment

Punishment of the slave is subject to certain rules designed to protect the slave from intentional abuse or permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0). Punishment must not incur permanent bodily harm, or the following forms of abuse:
1. Blood may not be drawn at any time. Punishment must stop immediately if blood is drawn
2. Burning the body
3. Drastic loss of circulation
4. Causing internal bleeding
5. Loss of consciousness
6. Withholding of any necessary materials, such as food, water, or sunlight for extended periods of time

4.0.0 Permanent Bodily Harm

Since the body of the slave now belongs to the master , it is the master’s responsibility to protect that body from permanent bodily harm. Should the slave ever come to permanent bodily harm during the course of punishment or in any other slavery related activity, whether by intention or accident, it will be grounds for immediate termination of this contract, should the slave so desire. Permanent bodily harm shall be determined as:

  1. Death
  2. Any damage that involves loss of mobility or function, including broken bones.
  3. Any permanent marks on the skin, including scars, burns, or tattoos, unless accepted by the slave .
  4. Any loss of hair, unless accepted by the slave .
  5. Any piercing of the flesh which leaves a permanent hole, unless accepted by the slave .
  6. Any diseases that could result in any of the above results, including sexually transmitted diseases.

5.0.0 Others

The slave may not seek any other master or lover or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way without the master’s permission. To do so will be considered a breach of contract, and will result in extreme punishment. The master may accept other slaves or lovers, but must consider the slave’s emotional response to such actions and act accordingly. Under no circumstance should the master allow such actions to unbalance the slave emotionally, or allow such actions to result in ignoring the slave .

The master may give the slave to other masters, provided the rules of this contract are upheld. In such a situation, the master will inform the new master of the provisions stated herein, and any breach by the new master will be considered a breach by the master as well, subject to all rules stated in this contract.

6.0.0 Secrecy

All physical evidence of the slavery will be kept in total secrecy, except where both master and slave agree. Any violation of this clause shall be cause to terminate this contract, should the injured party wish it. The materials and physical evidence shall be kept under lock and key in a place acceptable to both parties.

7.0.0 Alteration of Contract

This contract may not be altered, except when both master and slave agree. If the contract is altered, the new contract shall be printed and signed, and then the old contract must be destroyed.

8.0.0 Termination of Contract

This contract may be terminated at any time by the master , but never by the slave, except under special conditions explained within this contract. Upon termination, all physical evidence of the slavery, including this contract, will be destroyed, and all materials and belongings shall belong to the master , to be shared or kept as they see fit. The slave , owning nothing and having agreed to give up all worldly possessions and body to the master , shall once again own their body, but nothing else, unless the master decides to give back their possessions.

9.0.0 Slave’s Signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to give everything I own to my master, and further accept their claim of ownership over my physical body. I understand that I will be commanded and trained and punished as a slave, and I promise to be true and to fulfill the pleasures and desires of my master to the best of my abilities. I understand that I cannot withdraw from this contract except as stated in this contract.

Signature:____________

9.0.1 Master’s Signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this slave as my property, body and possessions, and to care for them to the best of my ability. I shall provide for their security and well-being and command them, train them, and punish them as a slave. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall come to the slave as long as they are mine. I further understand that I can withdraw from this contract at any time.

Signature:____________

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Why ?

Posted in bdsm, Health, Rules, Safe and Sane, self confidence, Self-Discipline, selfish, slave, submissive on December 9, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Why rules are needed. I have posted about this before, but maybe not in great detail.

Last night Tish ,and I were talking. I like that we have good communication, and at times before I get a word out she is completing the sentence, and the other way around. This is the connection I have been speaking about for so long.

When Tish and I first met, one of the first questions was. What rules are you going to give me. Well I do not know. What does Tish need. I did not get an answer right away, but this morning, I was able to email her what I thought would keep her busy, and structured.

One of the first things I want to learn, is the relationship between the slave and the Ex Dom. I need to know this for a few reasons.  One what she has learned. What rules were giving? Protocol, you cannot talk to me about protocol, I am very anal about it.

When she mentioned the 128 Basic Slave Rules, I almost lost it. I knew then I had to start from scratch. The lack of communication, the lack of caring, and being one sided .

So last night we were talking, and I was going over a few rules, what I expected, and what I wanted. Once finished, I asked do you have any questions. Her answer was no, you explained everything in detail. Now will she remember everything , nah not a chance

When we Dominant’s give one rules, we have to explain why we are giving that particular rule, and why it is needed. I am pass the age of you must worship my cock, back to the 128.

We implement rules to help put structure back into their everyday routine, to help guide. This is what they ask for, we as Dominates provide.

A slave already knows you like your cock sucked. You must worship my cock. That is not a rule, that is a blind statement. More so a man who lives by his Dick.

If you give a rule without an explanation all the slave knows is she has to follow, she has no clue as to why.

Then the hard part. Once we implement we as Doms have to stay consistent. We need to insure what we have giving we enforce.  When a rule is broken, and we punish, we need to explain, the rule that was broken and what the punishment will be.

Just as I told Tish Choice and Consequences.

The rules I gave her, were not all about me, as a matter of fact very few were about me. If I see I have added any stress I will adjust, as needed. The rules are about Tish and what I think she needs, what she wants.

We cannot base our relationship all around us. We cannot implement rules that make us happy. If you tell your submissive or slave what you need, what makes you happy, they will take care of your needs without question.

A slave not so much a submissive, but a slave, wants her master to control almost everything in her daily life. This is not an easy task. I am not speaking of micromanagement. Micromanagement is very unhealthy. I have done that before, and it did not take me long to catch on, and change somethings. Perhaps on a short term basis it might serve a purpose, but not long term.

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