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30 Days Of Submission

Posted in 24/7, 30 Days Of Submission, abuse, Adapt, anticipation, Arianna, bdsm, Be who you are, communication, Dominance, Dominants, Master, Meeting a new Dominant, Patience, Protocol, relationships, Respect, Rules, Self-Discipline, skirt no panties, slave, Submission, submissive on January 18, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This is where you write your own book. Your 30 days of submission. This should be giving a great deal of thought before you even enter your relationship.

How do you see yourself as a submissive? How do you see yourself living as a submissive ? How deep do you want to submit ? Do you just want to submit in the bedroom only ? Do you want to submit outside of the bedroom ? Do you want 24/7 submission ?

If is up to you for the most part keeping yourself in that submissive mode. What rituals would you like to implement on a daily basis, rules for yourself to keep you in check. What protocols do you want to put into place ?

Remember once you enter a relationship and you have a plan, you this submissive will have to adapt to the Dominants way, his surroundings, his needs and wants. You are there to follow.

At times you do not feel submissive and staying in that frame of mind is not always an easy task, so putting a game plan into action can make all the difference in the world. You in a way can put your life as you see it into place.

Once you enter a relationship or lets say your in the process of entering a relationship you should go over everything with your potential Dominant. How you see yourself in a relationship, and what it is you want out of the relationship. Remember everything you do effects not only your Dominant but you as well. You have to get just as much out of the relationship as your new Dominant.

Most how ever do not think about the 30 days of submission until they have already entered the relationship. Sometimes that works but for the most it does not and if it does it turns out to be a one way street, and this is not fair to you the submissive. If you just give and give and get nothing in return, what do you really gain?

Your 30 days of submission should never have to stop at just 30 days. You go 30 , 60 , 90 , 120. It is a never ending story, it is your story, it is your life.

If you choose to only submit in the bedroom, why would you try to connect with someone who wants a 24/7 ? If you want a 24/7 why would you try to connect to someone who only wants the bedroom.

This is where your 30 days of submission begins. You have a clear plan and you stick to that plan. Share your thoughts, and get answers for everything.

The world of submission and Dominance can be a very beautiful thing. The ability to be as open as you want, the open communication like you have never had before. The Bond you have never felt. Yes all of this is in your hands. You control the level of submission.

No one can tell you that you are submissive, more so do not let anyone twist your thoughts around telling you that your more of a submissive. Maybe your told you are a slave, when in fact your not , but you will go along with what ever because you feel this is the right Dominant. Never allow yourself to be pushed into a corner, and if you are speak your mind.

This is probably one of the most important things you need to learn. If you are asked a DIRECT question you need to give a DIRECT answer. You need to give a truthful answer, you need to share your feelings. If you are not allowed to speak your mind, or share your thoughts and feelings, then you have the wrong Dominant.

Maybe instead of 30 days of Submission, you should think about doing 30 days of Interviewing , while your sharing your 30 days of submission. Because until you commit to such a relationship you are the one who says yes I can or no I cannot. It does not matter what is said prior to entering a relationship. You should be able to speak your mind.

Another good thing to do is write, not on a daily basis, or hourly but when you feel like it. This book should be yours and only yours. This is your private get away place, your own little world.

The book would be called The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly . Picture a piece of paper with three lines going down. one is the good, one is the Bad, and last the Ugly. This will help you see things more clearly, and it just may help you understand your own little world. If your filling up the two last then something is wrong, and then and only then should you start to question yourself. Then and only then should you share your concerns. After all you are submissive, you are not a Slave.

The difference between the two is a huge difference. You as the submissive has the right to speak up when things are not going as planned. You have the right to say hey wait a minute we did not agree to this. You do have that right, just as you have the right to open and honest communication.

You the submissive before entering a relationship should already have a list of rules in your mind that you would like to follow. What is going to help you thrive? What rules are going to benefit you you as a submissive ? What rules are going to help you in daily life ? Share these ideas with your new Dominant.

Protocols , when that word comes up most people just shrug their shoulders. Why do I need protocols ? Protocols are stupid. Well Protocols help keep you in that mindset , they help with your submission. Depending on the protocols you have depends on your state of submission. These are some of the things that should be in your plan when meeting someone new.

Listen to me , because when you first meet someone and you already have your plan in place. The new Dominant will know you are not a push over. He will know you know what your talking about, and your not going to be an easy target.

When asking questions make direct contact with his eyes, and make sure you get direct contact with yours. If his eyes are drifting or looking around, that is not a good sign.

Now most will say before you meet, there will be no eye contact, you will address me as Sir. Wear a skirt with no panties, high heels. Again this is not the case because you do not know if this Dominant is for you. Addressing someone as Sir is earned, it is not giving.

The Good, The Bad , and The Ugly your own book, write it and stick to it. Do not I repeat do not use an eraser. Once you have your thoughts and ideas down stick to it.

I can assure you if you stick to your plan things will work out to your advantage. It may not work out in the time line you want, but it will work. Having a plan before hand will make a huge difference. White writing your book before entering a relationship you can make changes, because as you are writing you will grow inside, you will grow daily, weekly and monthly. It is okay to make changes, but before entering a relationship have your book finished. Most of all make sure your new partner is willing to follow your ideas as well as you follow his. The two of you need to work together.

I am not speaking about a Slave although a Slave should have a game plan as well in the type of Master they are seeking, but a Slave is looking for total submission. A Slave wants a master to take full control, so please do not confuse the two.

If you think for a minute you may be a Slave you need to do some hard soul searching because once you cross that line it is real hard to walk backwards.

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The Power Of Pussy

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Fake Dominants, pussy, skirt no panties, slave, submissive on December 8, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Your meeting a new Dom and you think the two of you have clicked, prior to meeting. You are  really hoping things will work out.

Yes I want you to wear the shortness skirt you have, remember no panties, maybe even asked to go bra less. Remember you have spent the last week talking about sex. Yea you swallow, you don’t like anal but you will do it, you love sucking cock. So by now he knows you inside out. Well he knows the sexual side of you, but he does not know you as a person.

You have the one thing he truly wants. You have the Pussy. This can be a powerful tool in your favor. You can now find out where he is coming from, if he is really interested in you, or what is under the skirt.

So let me ask you a question ? How is wearing no panties showing you are submissive ? What does wearing a short skirt have to do with being submissive ? Your first meeting you wear what your comfortable wearing. The idea is for you to be safe.

At this point and time you have three things he is interested in your mouth, pussy and ass , not always but if you have to wear a skirt with nothing underneath there is only one thing on his mind.

Don’t think for one minute I am talking out of my ass I live with my Bitch, we had to meet , and she will tell you I wanted to know her as a person we spent 2 or 3 hours just talking the first time. Don’t get me wrong from the second my eyes scanned her up and down I wanted to fuck her, and bad. The thing is if you fuck the first time that is all you have in common, now the chances of him calling or texting back is 50/50 now maybe even lower. He has already got what he was after he does not need you anymore. If you have been looking for any time you have been played or they tried to play you.

If you follow these few rules you will be able to weed out the fakes. If the Dom gets mad because you refuse, then you know what time it is, and you two are not on the same time.

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Dominance Through Intimidation

Posted in abuse, bdsm, Dating, Discipline, Dominance, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominants, dress, Mini Skirts, No Panties, skirt no panties, slave, submissive, sucking cock on December 5, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

You have been chatting online for sometime , now it is time to meet. What is the shortest skirt you own ? Do you ever go out without wearing panties ? Do you ever go out without a Bra on ? Do you shave ? Do you swallow ? Can you deep throat ? Do you like anal sex ? These are all questions you have heard from prospective Dominants, Masters , Owners. You know how I know ? Because I have asked the same questions.

Most of you had to go out and buy a short enough skirt for the big date the first meeting, because you did not own one that was mid-thigh or higher. A skirt that short is something you would never wear just for the sake of going out, but tonight you will and without panties. Tonight you will do what your told and you do not even have a clue that you will.

Your standing in front of the mirror doing your makeup, your hair everything has to be perfect. You are thinking of everything you have talked about and what you have shared , things that were very personal. You have never shared such things before but this time it is and was different.

Your driving your car to a local restaurant , and you look down and your pussy is almost showing, no panties , you can feel the sweat between your legs, the palms of your hands are sweating, you are so nervous , because this could be the one. The Master you have always been looking for.

Why is it so important that you wear a skirt so short and without panties, after all you are just meeting to see if you both click. Maybe the two of you can build a relationship.

You  pull into the parking lot of the restaurant he picked out, you get out of the car and he greets you. You get this knot in your stomach. He introduces himself shakes your hand and turns around and starts to walk towards the door and you follow. Once inside you both sit down, and now your thinking about what is okay to orders, your thinking maybe a salad, very simple.

You look at him and his eyes are looking right through you, and you ask what is wrong ? Nothing I am just admiring your beauty. You are nervous , your shaking inside, and yes you are intimidated. Is it because of the first meeting, or because he could be your future Master.

He talks about what he expects, his rules, his work how busy he is, but he will make time for you. I will tell you when it is okay to call, you can text me, or email.  His questions can get pretty personal, mostly sexual. You are going through an interview process.  He spends most of the time just looking at you, and he will ask what you are wearing under the skirt you say nothing as he glances down you spread a little.

After dinner and your both walking out the Dominant says we should begin your training now. You may get in his car and blow him or he will want to get a room.

Intimidation is a powerful tool, and it is a tool that works and it works well. If you are not prepared or your not thinking straight you will fall victim every time.

After is the waiting game, will he call or text ? Did you make a good impression ? Were you on your best behavior ? All these questions are running through your mind.

Now you may enjoy dressing up, you may like pleasing, you may have a need to show your submission, but there is a right way and a wrong way. If you are vanilla would you have done the same thing? I would think not.

Maybe you like sucking cock on the first date, or going to a motel on your first date. If that is you and you feel you have to do so, then so be it. It does not make you bad. Submission is a need, and as humans we are looking for things in life. One would be acceptance , two a companion, three to be loved.. Just do not let anyone take advantage of you.

Thesaurus

Noun 1. intimidation - the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do somethingintimidation – the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do something

aggression – deliberately unfriendly behavior
frightening, terrorisation, terrorization – the act of inspiring with fear
2. intimidation – the feeling of discouragement in the face of someone’s superior fame or wealth or status etc.

discouragement, disheartenment, dismay – the feeling of despair in the face of obstacles
3. intimidation – the feeling of being intimidated; being made to feel afraid or timid

fear, fearfulness, fright – an emotion experienced in anticipation of some specific pain or danger (usually accompanied by a desire to flee or fight)
4. intimidation – a communication that makes you afraid to try something

discouragement – the expression of opposition and disapproval

 

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My Slave, This is Arianna’s Story Her Search For A Master.

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Argue, Arianna, BDSM Dating Sites, Change, control, controlling, Dating, Dating Add, Deception, Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, Email, Fake Dominants, Fear, In Search Of A Master, Masters, Mini Skirts, older Dominants, Respect, Rules, skirt no panties, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, Total Power Exchange, Total Submission, Train your slave on November 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

This email was just sent by my Slave and wife, she is at work today and I am just about ready to leave for work. She does read my blog daily and at times she does comment. Arianna for the most is private and I respect that.

This is the story of her search and I am guessing you are going to know and understand where she is coming from. The road can be long and scary. The key is to think before you act.

Dear Master. 
This is my response but I totally understand if it's too personal to use. 

The search
So, I stumbled into the lifestyle out of curiosity and need. A need to fill an 
emptiness. A void. A knowing that there was a deeper connection that could be 
had between two people. From what I knew of the bdsm lifestyle, which was very 
little at the time, i understood it as a viable possibility that this is where I 
needed to be. So the search began. I put myself out there. I went to a bdsm 
personals website and created a profile along with a real pic and info that 
included I was new to the lifestyle. 

The very next day my in box was breeming with inquiries. I sifted through the 
hey babys and picked three that I thought might be real doms. The term "real 
doms" for me was really vague. I was looking for older gentleman who claimed 
they knew what they were talking about and were already starting to give advice. 
There was a consensus between two of them that I should immediately take down my 
profile off the personal site because my profile screamed newbie which could 
land me in a predators hands. This gave me a sense that these people really were 
looking at for my best interest. 

Next, I started emailing back and forth between the three. I also started phone 
calls with them. One wanted to know something that I never shared with anyone 
before. This was a hard task because I'm an open book. Between the three I 
blurted out my entire life story. I babbled and babbled hoping that one would 
accept me for me. 

It came time within a week to meet the local guy who responded. I met him at a 
local eatery but he did request that I wear a skirt or a dress with no panties. 
So I did. The conversation was all about me and I was loving the attention but 
in the back of my mind I couldn't help thinking that there has got to be a 
better connection to submit, right? I told the guy about the other two doms I 
was talking to. I was very truthful with how I was feeling. I just didn't feel a 
connection and told the guy that I wasn't choosing him. That was hard but the 
prospect of him taking me home and fucking me, kind of disgusted me. 
The guy responded to the rejection by saying that he was disappointed because he 
wanted to start my training as a slave that day which would have included me 
being naked at his house giving him a blow job to see what areas needed 
improvement. 

So. Now there were two. The two remaining doms were both out of state. One was 
30 years my senior and wanted to fly me up to his house to spend three weeks 
with him. That was to be the first meet. I decided that the age gap was just too 
much for me.  And  he seemed to smother me. I wasn't looking for cuddling and 
spooning with an older guy. I wanted a Dom to enforce rules and put into place 
structure. 

Then there was one. Although I had already told this last Dom that I wasn't 
interested he wouldnt take no for an answer and I wasnt confident enough to 
stand firm and had The belief that he knew best. So after a couple arguments and 
heavy discussions we decided to meet. He flew down to meet me at a fancy hotel. 
I met him in the Lobby. He was a smooth talker. Asking all sorts of questions 
about me. It was all about me. And he started buying me drinks. I got relaxed 
and then we moved up to his room. He said that I needed to ask him to submit. I 
decided that I didn't have much to lose and the conversation was going so well 
and I could always change my mind, right? The last question was internal and not 
verbalized. 
So I said, Master I would like to serve you. Will you accept me? 
Of course his answer was yes. I felt a twinge of excitement. A new beginning. 
Then in a moments notice everything changed. His demeanor got serious. His face 
had a scowl. He turned scary. Then I was like, oh shit. I said, your scaring me. 
He responded that now I was his. We proceeded to get into a heated argument 
where I threatened to leave. He threatened that security wouldn't let me because 
I had too much to drink. I screamed fuck you. Then he changed again and gave me 
a whoo is me story about how nobody loved him and he wanted to take care of me. 
Really laid the guilt trip on so I conceded my defeat and submitted to him 
again. Little did I know that over the course of the next six months we would 
have other heated arguments about me leaving and each time he turned the tables 
on me to where it was my lack of commitment and falling back on my word. This 
was my downfall every time. 

I finally was able to break free. After six months. It wasn't a match. Never had 
been but I was naiive in figuring out what my needs and wants were in the 
lifestyle. I thought that every Dom was real and experienced. I believed every 
word they said. Never in my mind did I think that there was a hidden agenda. I 
didn't classify them as a normal male. Doms were so far above the vanilla man 
because they are confident and take a " true" interest. Lol
This is not always the case. I admit. I was full of anticipation. Full of 
excitement. It was a total rush but over time it was a burden with my first Dom. 
I realized that he was controlling and not in control. He would lose his temper 
and blame me and my emotions for anything that went wrong. And I took it because 
I was his property even though I was not flourishing. Even though I knew in my 
heart that this wasn't going to work. I settled. I got hurt. And it took me a 
while to heal. 

. 

I'm awesome now. I have gained a better understanding of myself. And I have 
found my "one". 

All in all my experience is like thousands of others just entering the 
lifestyle. We have stars in our eyes and fluttering hearts that maybe we will 
have our very own Dom or Master. 

I just wanted to let other subs and slaves and newbies know that it's pretty 
normal to trust. I think it's in our nature. But that could be a double edged 
sword. Trust should be gained and not given when meeting someone. I know my 
experience may ring true with others. I hope it opens your eyes that it's easy 
to be swept away when your guard is down. 

My openness was taken advantage of and used against me in my search. Also my 
attitude of doms not being able to do wrong. That they always have the best of 
intentions. That they would never harm. But what I failed to realize until later 
is that the lifestyle is like the vanilla world in that there are good and bad 
apples. It's up to our internal discernment to tell us the difference but we 
have to give ourselves the chance. 

Be careful and good luck. 
Arianna

Vile

Warning Signs Of A Fake Dominant

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, anger, Argue, Arianna, assault, bdsm, Beatings, Dating, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, Master, Mini Skirts, sex, skirt no panties, slave, Submission, submissive on November 23, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Those who enter the world of BDSM are really clueless , the first is the chat rooms which are really polluted , and most of the time is spent arguing over who is real and who is not. Private messages telling one to strip and kneel, or the hours of phone sex , sending pics and short videos.

The second are BDSM dating sites. If your looking for a partner in the lifestyle my number one choice is Fetlife. There are thousands of groups and any fetish you can think of, and within the groups are members profiles, you literally have your pick from thousands and you pick and choose who you want to contact.

Collarme.com is known as the meat market by Dominants, 90% of Collarme is spam and predators just looking for a piece of ass, or maybe some late night Head. ALT.com is getting just as bad if not worse, to have a pay site and allow so much spam , but they are making money and lots of it so who really gives a fuck.

It has been years since I have been in a chat room. as I entered the moderator wanted me to ask permission to enter, well yea go fuck yourself, I ask permission from no one. Then the Slave who was asking permission to enter has to strip and beg to enter. Okay if she agreed how do you know she really stripped. Just an ego thing I suppose.

The Fake Dominant will come off smooth at first , he is going to tell you everything you want to hear, he is going to sweep you off of your feet in just a matter of minutes. Yes it is true you will probably fuck on the first meeting because that is what he expects. or at least give head in the parking lot so you can prove your submission.

He will offer you his collar if not the first meeting , it will be within a week or less, and you the Slave not knowing any better will gladly except.

This is when the smoothness goes away. His personality changes he becomes more controlling. His communication has all but stopped, he does not praise you any longer. It is now about him and only him.

He becomes more controlling this is fear of losing what he has just gained. He starts to isolate you from friends and family. He no longer allows you to go out. Your time has to be accounted for.  Now you find out he has a temper, the name calling starts the yelling and yes sometimes it gets physical. The comes the emotional black mail this keeps a tight rope on you. Just look what I have done for you, Making you feel guilty and the guilt comes from fear.

This is why I encourage other Slaves to interact with others in the lifestyle. I feel it is very important to allow a Slave to have friends someone they can speak to on the same level.

Once the relationship has ended it is the Dominant who ends it. He has already gotten what he wanted the challenge is over, there is nothing left to win.

So he will either cut off all communication, or just stay in contact enough so he knows he has some pussy on the side. Or you get a bogus email or text saying something bad has happened. I have seen this many times. While the communication is limited the reason being he is now on the hunt again. You are on the sideline until his next catch. Then poof like Casper the ghost he is gone.

Now your thinking I am full of shit, I can live with that. The thing is I have no reason to lie to you, because I have nothing to gain. A human lies when they have something to gain, or they just cannot help it.

When meeting a new Dominant , you the Slave picks the time, the location and what your going to wear. If you have any thoughts that he expects you to put out on the first meeting, just go to the bathroom and wash your hands, and keep on driving forward.

Think about it for a second. Your going to meet a man, a Dominant whom you know nothing about except for a few emails maybe a few phone calls, and your going to let him take you to a hotel and tie you up. Are you really serious ? Once you are tied up spread eagle and gagged guess what ? You are fair game. One or two things could happen. One you leave happier than you have ever been, because he has just fucked you like no one else ever has, or you wake the next morning black and blue and unable to go to work. Are you really going to put yourself in that kind of position ?

When first meeting a new Dominant okay lets say online. He should be willing or want to get to know you as a person. See what things you have in common, other than BDSM. If you start off with BDSM guess what ? That is all your going to have in common. Beware if sex comes up to soon. Beware if he demands you wear a skirt with no panties. Wear what you want, you have the right to refuse. If he says fine I do not want to meet then you know what head he was thinking of.

I have known many who have been raped, and they continue on the same path of destruction hoping that they will find the right one, allowing themselves to be used and abused.

Think before you act the right one will come along. Don’t get fucked up.

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