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My Soul Searching

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Before meeting Arianna I was single for a little over two years , my you it was by choice. I had spent that time in doing some deep soul searching and I needed to find out a few things about myself. One who was I , I mean really I needed to know who I was in terms of the lifestyle. I cant remember back far enough when I had what you would call vanilla friends and my circle of friends in the lifestyle well I could count on one hand. There are reasons I keep my circle so small , one being if my circle is small and I am in contact with someone on a regular basis and I know I can turn to them ,  then I can consider them to be a friend. Even social media like Facebook or Fetlife I am not a friend collector , after all what is the point of having 2000 friends if you are never in contact with them?  Two I needed to find out what my needs were , what type of relationship did I need to have to keep the fire inside going ? Three what type of woman did I need in my life , was it a submissive ? Was it a Slave ? Or the last thing that popped in my head was she to be property ? There are clear differences between the three and each Dom or Master or owner differs as well , after all we are all different.

Knowing those three things before you enter a relationship is very vital when it comes to having any type of successful relationship but more so when it comes to our lifestyle.

Now during the 2,5 years I was single I did date and the dating process was so I could eliminate what I was not looking for and again I wanted a better Idea as to what I truly needed out of a partner…

One date I remember submissive saying I do not swallow , now sex was really down at the bottom of my list but to tell me you are not going to do something is a strike , and another no anal for me I get nothing out of it. It was obvious we had different out looks when it came to a relationship because it was not about her it was about me. I do not like bondage it does nothing for me , another I do not like humiliation it takes me to a bad place , the list went on and on. So at the end of the dates I would pay for the dinner and explain we were way to far apart to be able to come to any type of an agreement when it comes to a relationship. You mean because I do not like anal you do not want a relationship ? You are 100% correct that would be a need for me and while anal is not at the top of my list I may at times go a month or so just ass fucking , but of course then I always want to finish in the mouth. ATM is my favorite word..

Being a Dominant just did not fit me , this is mainly because a submissive has the right to say no. Being a master there are still negotiations which meant something on my check list could be marked off , yes such as no anal , or no sex when I dont feel like it or I am to tired. Tired really ? All you have to do is lay on your back I bust a nut and get up and you can go back to being tired.  I am to tired what the fuck does that mean ?

I wanted the word NO wiped from ones vocabulary , I cant , I wont. I wanted and needed full control over someones life, I would be responsible for taking care of everything , I would meet ones needs but then I expected my needs and wants to be completed again after all it was about me.

First entering the lifestyle the first slave I met was a total Masochist and needed humiliation just to survive , now how awesome was that ? Well one would think they struck gold but in time I found the Humiliation to be difficult because each time I had to out do the last. The pain part I learned where I could hit and where I could no that my friends is very important because you can really fuck someone up and try explaining that to a Judge. Sherrie wanted a relationship but I did not and while we dated for almost seven years I never not one time fucked her , yea that is the truth. Now she did however suck a lot of dick and I mean a lot but I never fucked her. I did fist her pussy and ass she really got off on that. I would stop by her work and insert a coke can and come back several hours later so I could take it out.  Driving down Hwy 95 in Daytona one time we were pulled over , and I am thinking what the fuck. Sherrie was sitting in the passenger seat butt ass naked holding a huge ass dildo. So the cop walks up and looks in the car and I am thinking this is not going to be good. He simply asked if everything was ok and Sherrie said yes. She was giving a ticket because her tag had expired. The cop never said anything about her being naked , I am guessing the size of the dildo did shock him because it took two hands to hold it.

Years and years past since the late 80’s and while I thought all of my relationships were on spot they were not and each one failed because of me. They failed because I was not willing to commit the time needed and it was pretty much one sided , which now it is pretty much one sided but what makes it different now is I give back , on my terms..

Now you are thinking the kind of relationship you want is impossible. You would never find a slave who would just submit to your every need right ? The key word is patience , good things come to those who wait and most of the time just like my now relationship Arianna fell right into my lap out of the sky. Speaking to a Dom one night and him and I are pretty close with our thoughts when it comes to ownership , anyway we were talking after a MAsT meeting one night and he stated I was lucky and just like I thought he said it was like Arianna fell from the sky as a gift.

I have been very blessed over the past 6 years and knowing many more years to come is more of a blessing. I am also blessed to live with not one but two women Arianna my slave and Lynn our submissive. Arianna completed most of Lynns training taking a huge weight off of my shoulders. Our house runs smoothly and without a glitch , both girls get along with each other.  There is zero Drama and zero problems yea sometimes I cannot believe how smoothly things are going.

Negotiating our relationship was really pretty easy it was my way or no way. I was straight forward and to the point. The thing that blew my mind was Arianna said one word, Okay. That threw me off for a few minutes but I did not show it. Arianna then explained her needs , now in order for me to get what I want I knew I had to give back and her one and only request was to be micromanaged. This was a area I had zero experience in , even asking others in the lifestyle I was told it was way to much work let her go..

Remember the slave must adapt to your way of living , your life , your needs and your training.

Training is something I take very serious and I put a lot of thought into it. What worked for the last slave will not work with a new one. The rules are different , their personality is different , their mindset is different and of course needs. If all the needs are met there are no wants.

I asked the question several times are you sure ? Are you sure this is the path you want to take? Each time the answer was yes and so our journey began.

I am more of a Mental Owner , in order to control someone you need to be in their head , you need to know what makes them think the way they do , their habits , why they have those habits. You have to know their reasoning , now that part is deep. You have to know what makes them think the way they do. Once you are inside as confusing as it may be you are now in full control. The hard part is knowing what to do , when and why. If you fuck something up you gotta fix it so be careful.

What I do in a sense is strip one of ones dignity , I take everything away that was a need and turn them into privileges. I took all clothes away including when company came over , again depending who it was. I took all furniture away including being able to sit at the dinner table. I controlled shower time , bed time , food that was prepared. I controlled hair color , nail polish and I controlled what clothes would be worn outside when we did go out.  I controlled the way she sat , how she spoke and who she spoke to. I used her and used often. I used without a word , I used every hole , I let her know I was taking what was mine.  The slave is yours , your property , you own after all they gave you that right. Use and use how you want and when you want. While I am not a huge fan of Humiliation I do use some form during my training , again this is to reinforce our positions within the home.

Breaking a rule must be a serious offense , the slave forgot to text this is part of training. There is no reason to go off the handle. Training is about changing habits and depending on who you are working with you are looking at 90 days or more before most things catch on. We as owners must show patience.

Keeping that mindset , putting protocols in place and staying on top of the protocols , ownership is not a 9 to 5 job. As Dominants , Masters and Owners we must be available to our partners 24/7 no questions asked.

The one weakness that can kill a M’s relationship is when the Master feels guilty about punishing , or slips and does not stay on top of things , begins to let rules go without consequences. Once you change and your property has seen the difference it is impossible to turn back the pages.

The words I wish I was a better Dom or a better Master , I am sorry I am a failure. Think about those words yea pretty pathetic and your property may not say anything but the same thoughts are there. There are thoughts you keep to yourself , it is actions and words you share. The property looks up to us , not only for a relationship but guidance , direction and depends on us to keeps the rules we have put in placed enforced..

I had thought about Blogging about feminism but as stated above I will leave that as a thought..

Vile

Communication

The Year 2082

Posted in bdsm, Master And Slave, sadist, Slave, Slave being used, Slave school, Submission, Uncategorized with tags , , , , on July 4, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

President Vile

 

Just after the great war in the united states we find the country divided into 3 different sections. Section 1 the Democratic freedom choice. Where people are treated equal , then we have the Religious free state , where all of the Christians come together in hopes of building a better life. The last is the Brotherhood Alliance Coalition , this is where there are strict laws when it comes to female behavior. Women from the two other states who are rebellious are sent to the Brotherhood to live and be reprogrammed. The Brotherhood is the last place a woman no matter the age wants to be sent , the sentence is a lifetime without the possibility of parole.

Women are sent to training camps and each serve a purpose , for those who are single will have a locking red collar placed around the neck showing they are single and available for marriage. The camps the slaves are sent to determines the needs at the time for the Brotherhood. Camps are labeled , Service , teaching , secretarial , book keeping and general care. These camps last one year with zero failure rate , failure is not a option and there are consequences for those who do not perform. The first 6 months of training is to learn a trade this includes cooking. The second 6 months the slave will be trained for proper sexual activity on how to please a master , this will also include some pain in case your Master is a sadist.

The married slaves are broken down into three different groups but these groups are determined by the Brotherhoods laws. The groups are as follows , the silver locking collar are for those who have working class Masters , the gold collars are for the slaves who have been given to the white collar workers and finely the platinum collars are for the slaves who are married to the Brotherhood government officials. While waiting to be placed in a home after training the slave has no say with whom she will be placed with. On her graduation day she will be cuffed and placed in a caged wagon and put on display for the city of the Brotherhood to witness. This only happens twice a year so there are Masters who have been waiting patiently for that knock on the door. There are cheers in the streets as the slaves pass the huge crowds of people , after all this is something to br proud of yes?

The Master is sent 2 different BIO’s along with pictures in different poses , nude of course and the Master this go around can only pick one. In the Brotherhood as long as a Master can afford the upkeep , a Master may marry more than one slave. The Bio includes a break down of test scores , sexual talents to include your best services maybe Oral , Anal , maybe a masochist and the most important scores are service in general, cooking cleaning and hosting when friends are over.

No Married slave is allowed to have sexual relations with another Master or a single Master waiting for a slave. If the law is broken the slave is then returned for training for another year and her Current Master’s marriage will be voided and he will be giving a new slave.

If at any point the slave shows any signs of not wanting to serve or gets mouthy , the slave is returned to training and reconditioning for a period of one year,

Once the slave arrives at her new owners residence her only purpose in life now is to serve and please her new owner and she will only bear children if the owner wishes to. The slaves only rights are the rights giving to her by her new owner.

Once girls reach the age of 18 they will be placed in training camps with no choice of camps , the choice is made by the Brotherhood. The first 3 months of training the slave will be placed in a small 4×4 cell with only a mattress , one cover and no pillow. There is a small toilet for use but everything is monitored by staff. Once the slave arrives at the camp she is striped of all clothing and giving a full medical exam to insure the slave is in good heath , if not then slave is then sent to one of the two states because she has been deemed unfit to serve in the Brotherhood Alliance.

While out and shopping no clothing is allowed , when the slave arrived for training all clothes were taken from her , stripping her of her identity. The slave was giving a new name also taking her identity away along with a number tattooed on her neck in plain view.

The slaves only purpose is to serve her Master be it domestic or sexual its all service.

Hmmmm could be interesting ?

 

 

Consensual Objectification

Posted in bdsm, being used, CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENT, Objectification, Slave, Slave being used, Submission, Submissive with tags , , , on October 27, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

Yes it has been a while I know , but life kicks in , work has been busy , but more important keeping my home together. I know what you may be thinking when I say keeping my home together , its not a bad thing just a lot of work involved.

I have been working on this blog Consensual Objectification and sexual Objectification for a little while , but ive been gathering information and articles and waiting on permission to post someones information but Bam I got it.

Arianna and i were talking about this subject recently her views , my views and how we felt about the topic. Yea while I am going to share more of my views , I am just going to touch on hers just a little.

I am going to share my thoughts and why I feel Objectification is not a want for me but a need. It is a mindset I have to maintain in order to keep control. Now before you think anything Arianna is on board as a matter a fact it was her who brought it up.

At times ill ask he what is on your mind ? This helps me continue to understand where she is at. Then the word Objectification comes up.

This is going to be a very touchy subject for some and I thought about it for a split second if I should post or not.

 

Much Love to everyone who has dropped by , and if you email me and it takes a little time to get back to you again its life.

Vile

Your Purpose Is To Be Used

Posted in 24/7, adapting, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, communication, compatibility, control, Dominant, slave, Slave being used, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, sucking cock, sucking dick, viledesires62@aol.com on August 15, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Fetlife something that just kills me is to see all of the complaining and whining about Daddy Doms, Doms, and Masters. Can my Master do this or that ? Can my Dom treat me this way ? Are these rules fair?

A few thoughts come to mind , one a Lack of communication , a lack of respect , a lack of training a lack of protocol and a lack of not giving a fuck about bashing his name in front of people you don’t even fucking know. My main thought that comes to mind is Bitch ask your Dom.

You as the Baby girl , the submissive or slave did not enter a relationship blindly . I am almost certain at some point and time during your conversation when you first met there was one word that stood out. USED , you were told at some point you were going to be used. You were told you would be trained, you were told you would have rules, you were told you would follow them , and you were told you would be punished.

Now if you did not ask questions and you sat there like some dumb bitch just agreeing and going along with what ever, then you keep your cock sucker shut.

My train of thought is first and for most Arianna is my slave , I own her and deep down I truly believe that statement.  While I do love her with all I have , while I put her first, I own her , we live a 24/7 Total Power Exchange, a relationship many do not understand and you do not have to, you don’t even have to like or respect me, you don’t even have to understand.

The initialism BDSM includes psychological and physiological facets

BDSM
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Bondage and Discipline (B&D)
Dominant and submissive (D/s)
Sadism and Masochism (or sadomasochism) (S&M)
Master and slave (M/s)

The term be careful what you ask for should be your main focus , because many of you signed up and it was nothing like you imagined , and your Dom is not the one to blame… It is you and only you who has to adapt to your new surroundings. It is you who will be trained not your Dominant.

We attended a MAsT Friday night we had not been able to make one in several months due to my work. I do work from home it mostly has its ups but it also has its downs, at any rate I love it.
Being out allowed me to be around very close friends and I also met a few new ones. The topic was a good one , it was Topping From The Bottom. That will be an awesome post.

Okay I am not sure there are many who are submissive or Baby girls, and even those who think they are a slave, who enter a relationship without a clear picture. Then Bam it hits you like a Brick wall and your thinking what the fuck have I gotten myself into.

Why do some Dominants cheat ? Why do some Dominants go behind their partners back ? I do not have a clue , I suppose if the training was not real, or maybe he did not know what he was doing. Because if he had trained to fit his needs there would be no cheating and no need to.

You may be a partner a lover a submissive , a baby girl, what ever category you fall in , but the bottom line is you are meant to be used. Used to play with, used to fuck, suck what ever your Dominant needs , no questions asked.

If you are having problems in your relationship , sit down and think about resistance you may be putting up , you may or may not know. If you put up a lot of resistance during and after training ask yourself what you can do to make things better, how can you improve things?

One of the subjects I like to talk about or a couple , is Rules , Structure , and Protocols. If you have the last two in place , you will not need very many rules. Structure is putting rules into play as well as protocols for public and private…

If both agree to all terms before entering a relationship , there is no reason to cheat. If the Dominant you meet loves ass fucking and that is a hard limit, then you just need to shake hands and go separate ways. you have a mental list or maybe a written one, as you go down your list each topic should have a check, if it has an X then you can talk about it or just end.

What is your role going to be ? Submissive , Baby Girl , Slave , a pet ? Are you going to be an in-service submissive? Are you going to be used as a sexual toy ? There are a million in one questions to be asked and answered.

To fill my needs and wants I trained Arianna. The way I like my cock sucked, the way I like her to lay while I am fucking her. Before all of this though I had to earn her trust and as I stated before that took me some 6 months, maybe a little longer.

You have to be in the right frame of mind , okay I am going to be cared for but I am going to be used and used a lot. You have to take your training serious…

The main problem going into a D’s or M’s relationship if your new , is getting use to Rules, being told what to do and how to do it, also some go into the new relationship blind not having a clue.

The one mistake I made in the past was not keeping that frame of mind, my slave, my property , for my use. I found this to be hard as a Dominant when I had very little experience, at times I would let my feelings get in the way..

Just a few of my thoughts…

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My email is viledesires62@aol.com

Vile