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When Does Abuse Cross The Line

Posted in abuse, Bad Reltionships, bdsm, BDSM Abuse, Consensual, http://bestslavetraining.com/, Humiliation, Slave, Submission, Submissive on September 5, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

The title does not even have to pertain to the lifestyle , you can be completely vanilla. Many times abuse , or the one being abused does not even recognize the signs even when it becomes physical. The mind fucking part of the abuse , the verbal abuse the controlling aspect of the relationship. Controlling the times you are out of the house be it doing errands or grocery shopping. Being slapped or knocked down because you were 3 minutes late getting home , being accused of fucking around , when in fact the abuser is the one fucking around.

Telling you that you never do anything right , never having anything good to say about you and if it does get physical and when he apologizes he expects you to lay on your back and spread your legs…  If a man fucks around on you once he will do it again , just like if a man ever hits you he will do it again and each time apologize and beg you to forgive. At that point and time he may be serious , or could be fucking with your head…

Demanding passwords to all of your accounts , checking and banking information. This is a very bad idea and no one has a reason to want such information. This all falls under insecurity , this falls under the controlling thing , it inflates his ego.

Demanding submission is a one way street , the abuser sees it as you submitting but you are really submitting out of fear. The fear of being scared but also the fear of being alone. The greatest human fear is the fear of loss.

Words have a far greater impact on the mind , works have a great impact on your self esteem.  Names like you stupid bitch , you dumb cunt the list goes on and on.

At the end of the day you are to lay on your back with legs spread and you are expected to take what is giving to you and you pretend you like it just to please..

The controlling insecure Dom lays all the blame on the submissive when the relationship crashes . She was not real or she was not submissive enough or she was not trainable. The truth is you got wise and saw the light , you realized you had to escape but it is to late many times the damage is already done. You now carry scares deep inside and will probably never trust again.

This type of relationship often takes place with those who are new to the lifestyle and have had no experience. These Dog prey on those who no absolutely nothing and you rely on the information giving to you is right. This is when the isolation takes place and cuts you off from the outside world. Cuts you off from family and friends because of his insecurities probably stemming from as far back as his childhood and upbringing.

Many times not all the time Alcohol plays a huge role in behavior , the more they drink the angrier they become , possibly a drug habit but you really dread it when a bottle is opened.

Forcing you to give all of your passwords to your email and social sites , even sometimes posting he is the one who monitors your page such as fetlife , again this comes from being insecure. Giving your banking information can at times run into big problems. I have seen a submissive wake to only find their bank account had been drained after a failed relationship.

Then mind is powerful it can work with us or in some cases work against us. Being forced to sleep with other , you agree because you just want to please. Being passed around like a piece of meat without a care. This comes from their ego , their insecurities , their need to show they are in charge. You could be one who enjoys such play and if it fits you have fun but for those who do not wish to take part could be very damaging.

At any giving time you have the right to say no , you have the right to just walk away. You have but only one life , what do you want to do with it?

 

Vile

 

The Year 2082 The Auction

Posted in bdsm, non-consensual, owning a slave, Slave, Slave Auction, Submission, Submissive, The Year 2082, women slaves with tags , , , on July 20, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

President Vile and his delegation traveled to the county of Religious Free State and the purpose was to attend an auction the free state had put together for the Brotherhood and parts of Canada. The women who were being auctioned off were those who did not wish to conform to the country’s beliefs and were disruptive.

The country had been divided into three different countries and the Brotherhood had control of much of what was the central part of the United States with the line starting at Montana and South Dakota down to Texas. While there was no serious threat The Brotherhood had a rather strong military while the Free state had a police force, they had no military. The Democratic Freedom Choice did have a military but the country would not be able to stand against the Brotherhood. The Brotherhood assured the Freedom state they had nothing to worry about should a conflict break out.

President Vile and his Delegation Traveled from Colorado to Atlanta. While there was no Air force one any longer, Vile flew in a modest Bombardier Learjet 60XR. The flight took about 3.5 hours. The transport plane that followed behind was an older plane, the Douglas C-124 would carry the slaves and any other cargo that may be brought back.

The auction did not mean every slave that was up for bid would be purchased. Each potential would go through different tests including a physical by the doctor who had traveled with the president. Vile would travel several times a year to different auctions including auctions that were held in the country of the Democratic Freedom Choice and although the two did not see eye to eye , even with just three countries trade was very important since there was very little trade with different countries around the world.

President Vile entered the dinning room and was welcomed by the President of the Religious Free State President David Hernandez ,  as the two sat down and spoke on trade for the better part of an hour Vile was more interested in the new stock he would be viewing. The slaves that did not meet the criteria and were not sold many times Vile would take but they would not be purchased , these slaves after training often worked in factory’s  and low skilled jobs until they had proven they could be a asset to a master.

Trade was very important since the Brotherhood controlled much of the oil. This was the section during the split Vile and his forces fought so hard to gain control over. While the Democratic Freedom Choice was not to happy both had lost many men but in the end Vile proved to be the strongest. President Vile’s main goal was trade and military and creating a trouble free society . While there was no congress or senate there was a governing body who served 2 years. There were no Presidential elections Vile would remain President as long as he lived , then and only then would a election be held. The Governing body was paid a salary of 65,000 a year and President Vile Drew a salary of about 97.000 a year. President Vile believed in equality , meaning everyone would be treated equal. Everyone owned a home , everyone had medical. President Vile controlled the pricing making everything affordable for his people.

The documents of the tests and physicals were delivered to Vile. While he and David sat talking about trade and vile was just skimming through the profiles which had pictures attached and there was one who caught vile’s eyes.

The auction was not held just for the Brotherhood by this time Canada had been broken down  into 5 different countries and parts of Canada would attend as well.

The average price for a slave was around 3500 but the cost did not stop there , after the purchase while the living conditions were not the best once finished with training and placement the total cost would end up over 100,000 dollars.

President Hernandez walked President Vile back to the staging area where 37 slaves were lined up , hands on top of head fingers interlocked , and blindfolded , as Vile walked past each and every slave looking through the files he stopped. Looking at the picture , then the slave he found the one he was most interested and had the thoughts of keeping her for himself.

The slave had a small frame , blonde hair and the palest skin he had ever seen, Vile stepped closer and whispered in her ear, Sarah and you could tell it startled her and again Sarah and the chill bumps were visible on her pale skin and vile stepped back and asked President Hernandez if there might be a deal that could be made prior to the auction.  Now , now President Vile as much as I would like to we are following procedures that were put in place by you yourself so lets have a little fun at the auction.

Vile stepped back up to Sarah and firmly grabbed both breast slightly twisting , then moving one hand down to her crotch forcing her legs apart and pushing a finger deep into her pussy then pulling out and smelling taking it in deep and then the evil grin vile was so known for. Turning Sarah around vile instructed Sarah to bend over as she resisted vile placed one hand on her head and the other around her stomach and forcing her to bend over. Once bent over Vile instructed Sarah to spread her ass open. There was no movement , Vile whispered in her ear , spread your ass or I will beat you until you can no longer stand. Sarah reached around grabbing each cheek and pulling wide apart , then Sarah felt a finger slide deep in her ass. Vile pulled his finger out and whispered excellent and walked away.

President Vile and President Hernandez walked in the auditorium and the auction had already began , and while there were several President Vile was interested in the slave named Sarah was the only one he planned on walking away with this day but he knew there would be others.

The slaves were brought out on the stage one at at time with hands on top of their head with fingers interlocked. As the slave reached the center of the stage there were instructions giving stand , turn to the left , then right , turn around and bend over with legs spread and then facing the crowd. The auctions were only attended for those who were there to make a purchase.

Each slave knew a couple of day in advance what was going to happen and had already gone through some conditioning. Being rejected by 3 countries including the Canada’s left very few options.

Today would be a long day with about 300 slaves on the table , president Vile had his secretary doing the bidding today and about a hour and a half into the auction out walked the slave vile had shown a great interest in. Sarah was not beautiful , she was attractive but there was just something about her that peaked Vile’s interest. The Bidding started out at 45.000 dollars , then 55.000 thousand and then 70.000 dollars. 70.000 dollars was the highest a bid had ever gone and the bidding continued now at 95.000 dollars and Vile was looking around the room to see who was bidding , 110.000 dollars.

President Vile stood and raised his hand and shouted 250.000 dollars and the room was silenced by his high bid , going once , twice , sold to President Vile.

President Vile and President Hernandez stood and walked back stage , Vile walked up to Sarah , vile reached in his pocket and pulled out a leash hooked it to her belt. Vile instructed the guard to take the cuffs of wrist and ankles , shook hands with President Hernandez and told him he would see him soon and started walking off.

President Vile started to board the plane with his newly purchased slave and a guard reminded president Vile that the slaves were to fly on the the Douglas. President Vile instructed the guard to fly on the Douglas to insure there was enough room for Sarah.

Once on the plane President Vile cuffed and chained Sarah to a seat sitting right across from him and the plane took off.

The story I am writing is a story I have had in my head for a very long time. I still stand firm that all relationships in the lifestyle or not should be 100% consensual.

This part I wanted to go into the Brotherhood and another country with who President Vile is somewhat close to but still does not trust. As I continue you will see there are very few people that vile does trust and is quick to eliminate anyone who defies him.

The third part will be the training and while some I have taking part in some will be more extreme and will be using words many will disagree with but again its just a story..

Vile

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Year 2082

Posted in bdsm, Master And Slave, Slave, Submission, Submissive, women slaves on July 7, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

While this story is much about non-consent  , that is not my belief , I have had this story in my head for sometime  and I wanted to share.

Being a sadist at one time I have had many thoughts and the thought was it would be interesting to share..

The story is based on a civil war and the United States being broken into three different countries and different factions with in the country with Governments rules by one , yes you guessed it President Vile..

 

 

The Stepford Wives / BDSM

Posted in bdsm, BDSM Relationships, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, molding your slave, Slave, Submission, Submissive, The Stepford Wives with tags , , , on May 6, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

In the beginning I thought I knew what I wanted or so I thought , I was submission but was not sure how to obtain without giving orders and making demands , I wanted kinky sex but was unsure what it would take to make me happy. It seemed with each relationship I was lacking something but I could not put my finger on it. I was jumping from one relationship to another not finding that happy medium.

Imagine having the perfect mate , the perfect submissive , the perfect slave , sounds really far fetched doesn’t it ? The truth there is such a thing and you can change someones way of thinking , you can change habits. You can change the way someone walks, talks and sits even how and what they eat , how they speak to someone in public or not speak. Now the downside to all of what I have mentioned it take work from the Dominant , it takes effort but most of all it takes the need not a want but a need.

There are Dominants who want none of the above , they are the do it now Dom’s. Do as I say not as I do here is a task do it , no rules , no structure or protocols just do it and many who are submissive are happy with this kind of relationship and if it works for you have at it.

Then we move to the Fifty Shades of Grey frenzy which has absolutely nothing to do with BDSM. The movies are based on kinky sex by a man who suffers from depression who happens to be a billionaire but if the guy worked at McDonald’s and lived in a trailer he would be a creep.  We all love kinky sex and those who do not think about it which is really cool because it will always be a thought in the back of their mind , but fifty shades has nothing to do with the lifestyle although the dungeon was really nice..

In 1975 I saw the movie The Stepford Wives which came out in 1972 I believe , I was at the young age of 14 and already had kinky stuff going on in my mind and just a year before had tied up my first girl to two trees in the woods. Watching the movie I thought why cant my home be like this thinking of my parents who always seemed to be fighting. I thought what a perfect fucking world if every woman acted the same way as they did in the movie. Now today it is far fetched because what they were creating was fake but in real life without creating some kind of robot it is possible.

I have talked about Behavior Modification before , that has been a interest for some years but it does take some time to perfect.  The other side of the coin you will need a submissive who is willing to turn over that much control. Consensual enslavement everything must be consensual or you have the stepford wives all fake with no emotions or cares just going through the motions. That is not true submission and you control absolutely nothing. If fake is okay with you then have at it but when you have someone who is willing to give and serve the rewards are far greater.

Know what you want and why you want it , this is very important. Have a plan in place but most of all you need to know the submissive inside and out. Her likes and dislikes , food , music , movies , hobbies , and yes even her favorite color. Getting into her mind knowing why she thinks the way she does , why she makes the decisions she does. Getting to know her so well you almost know what she is going to say before she speaks.  Yeah it sounds like a lot and it is a lot of work but the rewards will be far greater. Making her your number one priority and she has to know this. She must have access to you 24.7 of course this is before you move in together should this be your goal. If you cannot reach out and touch her it is nearly impossible to control her actions or her thoughts.

Lets take sex out for now , although sex does play a role in the relationship this should not be your main goal again it is the rewards you are looking for.

Then the interview forget about limits because down the road the limit she has will no longer be limits. Why is she a submissive or slave ? What gives her these feelings ? Why does she need a dominant in her life? What kind of problems does she have even financial ? Are there any medical problems , medications you should be worried about.

You do not want to be the white knight to the rescue , you do not want to fix anything , if you do once everything is fixed you will get dumped. You can give advice and if she follows through and takes care of things then you can think about moving forward with the relationship.

Is she willing to adapt , adapt is a huge word , is she willing to adapt to your way of life ? Is the slave or submissive willing to give up complete control of their life ? To follow , learn and Obey ?

I put sex on the back burner because you cannot make sex a priority in your M’s relationship , there are many more goals that must be achieved before hand. Getting caught up in sex can throw a wrench in the gears because you can let your emotions get in the way of your training. This is of course after the two of you have worked out all of the details when it comes to limits.

Yea this seems way out there but it is the truth you can have everything and then some but it does take some effort on your part.

Now to the sex , the nitty gritty , with a name like the kinky world you would think I would be talking about fucking and sucking all the time, yea I agree but I have calmed down a little in my later years , not the way I think because I have grown more kinky in my mind , darker thoughts , more creative but sometimes thoughts are better left as thoughts. As the trust and connection grows limits will slowly slip away , that is within reason. I mean think about it , you can teach someone to suck your dick the way you like or how to fuck , how to lay , what to say while fucking her , the training on that end is endless.

Get in the mind and you own the body , and with the body comes anything you want short of seriously hurting someone. You own the mind you can get anything you want , when you want it and how you want it , but as with anything nothing is free. Many hours of training and the training never ends it continues on a daily basis and at times you have to change things up.

Have a vision and create it

Vile

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our First Swingers Club

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Submission, Submissive, swingers club, www.secretsfl.com on April 12, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

Secrets Resorts and Spa , Arianna made contact with a fetlife group about going , and asked if we could check it out.

Secrets is a work in progress but very nice , the place has come a long way from what I have been told.

Two pools one heated one not, two hot tubs and two tiki bars. there are roughly 170 rooms you can rent although many have been converted into nice condos. A food buffet which is free and then a huge night club, with a full bar. While outside the music was good more of a 80’s rock but as we entered the Bar the music was Techno , Arianna was looking forward to dancing but the music was just not there.

Continuing the tour we hit the Dungeon , it was small but had a spanking bench , a Cross which was nice , a cage and a rigging area and a couple of tables. Then we were escorted to the play rooms , the first room was for couples who enjoyed being watched and moving on back there were several private rooms then one large with tons of mattresses. The sheets are changed after a couples leaves or can be changed anytime during play if requested just ring the bell .

Arianna and Lynn enjoyed the hot tub while I just sit around soaking everything in. The group we had met there was really nice and even though our lifestyles were completely different we were welcomed into the group.

Our Second trip we met friends there and obtained a 6 month membership. Each time you visit there is still a small fee to enter but there are different theme nights throughout the week. This coming Wednesday night is Karaoke and free well drinks , plus the buffet , how can you fucking beat that and at just 35.00 a couple that is a cheap night out.

Arianna fell in love with the place , the freedom and if needed we could rent a room for the night. She just loves the atmosphere and the people.

I am really into exhibition while Arianna and Lynn are not both are more conservative and I respect those boundaries  , I truly enjoy showing off my property.

Now the not so good when reading the rules , it seemed the dress code was very strict and I liked that. No shorts , no tennis shoes , flip flops , or Tee Shirts. Well this was not the case once everyone started rolling in. Out of the hundred or so people there were only a half dozen or so who read the rules as I did. You want your girls to dress up like hoes but you come in dressed like a slob.

The Dungeon was crowded , the Dungeon Master stayed on top of everything , watching and keeping the rules in check.

We went back on 4/11/2018 and found secrets to be very relaxing , the buffet was pretty good serving Brisket. The well drinks were free , I do prefer beer on tap its just colder but I had two beers and one well drink. The three of us chilled in the hot tub with two other couples and it was nice. Arianna likes Karaoke and the sound system was really nice..

The membership is 140.00 dollars a year for a couple and 60.00 dollars a year for a single female. When it comes to the single male the yearly membership is the same as couples but the event pricing goes up. Secrets is good about the male to female ratio.

https://www.secretsfl.com/

Really a nice place to relax.. If you are ever in the Orlando area check it out…

Vile

Submission

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, communication, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Training your submissive with tags , , , , on April 8, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

What better way to start out than a definition from wikipedia ?

A 1985 study suggests that about 30% of participants in BDSM activities are females.[1][2] A 1995 study indicates that 89% of heterosexual females who are active in BDSM expressed a preference for a submissive-recipient role in sexual bondage, suggesting also a preference for a dominant male, and 71% of heterosexual males preferred a dominant-initiator role

Female submission describes an activity or relationship in which a female submits to the dominance of a sexual partner. The submission can be voluntary and consensual. The dominant partner is usually a man, but can also be another woman, or there can be multiple dominant partners simultaneously. The term female submission most commonly refers to a woman who derives sexual pleasure or emotional gratification from relinquishing (to varying degrees) control to (as well as satisfying) a trusted dominant partner.

I like this.

Submission may be manifested in a multitude of ways whereby a woman relinquishes sexual or personal control to another, such as acts of servitude, submission to humiliation or punishment such as erotic spanking, or other activities, at times in association with bondage. Female submission can take the form of engaging in sexual activity with a person other than her normal partner, as in the case of swinging (sometimes called wife swapping) or prostitution. The level and type of submission can vary from person to person, and from one time to another. Some women choose to include occasional sexual submission in an otherwise conventional sex life. For example, a woman may adopt a submissive role during a sexual activity to overcome a sexual inhibition she may have. A woman may choose to submit full-time, becoming a lifestyle slave.

Where did your journey begin ? Most will say at a very young age , while others are hit later in life , maybe a life changing event , a thought , words someone speaks or maybe you stumbled across a website and you were intrigued. Growing up submissive can at times be confusing because you know you are different but you just cannot figure it out. You may go through your life and never learn the definition of who and what you are. However you do know you enjoy service, you enjoy giving up control , you enjoy letting others take the lead. Someone will say at a young age there where thoughts of older men , or being kidnapped and used. I am not sure if all have these thoughts or just those who are submissive.

In our lifestyle there are a great number who suffer from depression , I have no data this is just from my experience in the lifestyle. I am not sure how the two are connected or if they are at all. Some are willing to share with others in the lifestyle while some keep things to themselves. So this is where the importance of finding the right Dominant , one who understands you and is willing to take the lead and guide.

Depression is not the end even for those who are Dominant , although in the past I have made statements to the contrary. With the right medications and the right submissive things can run smoothly. The problem would be a submissive who is combative , has a short fuse when it comes to temper , not following rules but most argumentative. Many Dominants though will hang on with the fear of losing a partner , the fear of being alone. The greatest fear when it comes to being human is the fear of loss , be it material , or a partner.

The good is you get pleasure by serving , helping others completing task on time and the rewards of being a good girl.

The bad , you are with someone who does not understand you , nor have they ever heard the word submissive or slave , submission. What they see is someone who is weak , someone who will stand and take verbal abuse and at times physical abuse , but after all is said and done you still stand tall and proud.

Some who are submissive not all but some do not really enjoy sex , what they do enjoy is knowing they have pleased. This is where their greatest pleasure comes from. Now do I have any data ? Absolutely not , I am just speaking from my own experiences in the lifestyle. When I meet someone I drill their mind , I want to know more about them than they know their own self. The knowing you have pleased someone , makes sex enjoyable , it makes you feel needed and cared for. You are willing to do things you never even thought of or maybe thought you would never do such things but you do because you have this deep desire to please.

Over the years the different roles have come to light , it is no longer just submissive , slave or dominant or master.  The daddy dom , the daddy dom master , then the master .The baby girl , the little ,Submissive , slave  and the list goes on and one so finding the right partner , someone who understands you is most important. We as humans by nature have to have companionship we need to be with someone even if that someone is wrong , not the right fit but they are filling that hunger for the time being.

How much are you willing to give up ? How much freedom are you willing to give up? Are you going to follow rules and rituals? Are you going to allow someone to take full control? Maybe you need more but your Dom is only dominant in the bedroom and you are more of a 24/7 how would that work ? Are you willing to compromise your needs for a little companionship?

What type of submissive are you? What type of dominant are you looking for ? We are all different , we all have different needs , we all have different taste , we all have different goals.

One of the biggest myths you will hear is a submissive does not have the right to say no. That is a outright lie. You as a submissive determine how much you will give , when you will give and how and where. Remember you are a submissive not a slave but the truth is even a slave can say no if they feel like they are in danger. There is also a on off switch and many times it confuses the dominant. Once you have had enough and you are done the word no will just flow.  Once you are done you are done , the feeling of being submissive for that time just goes away.

There is a difference between fantasy and reality knowing the difference before entering a relationship. Take your time and speak with other who are submissive , stay clear of dominants , but find out what others are thinking and doing. If you do not take the proper steps you could find yourself in a world of hurt.

How do you see yourself ? How do you envision your life? What are your goals?

Meeting a new Dominant you the submissive , the slave are in complete control until you feel the time is right to enter a relationship. You should be his number one priority , you should come first no matter what. If you go a day without hearing from him , you give your first warning. This kind of behavior is not acceptable and will not be tolerated , the second time it happens you drop him like a bad habit, there is no strike three. How long does it take to answer a text? How long does it take to drop a email?

Vile

She Is Your Bitch Run Your House

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, adapting, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationship Negotiations, BDSM Relationships, Behavior Modification, Consistency, Master And Slave, Punishment, Slave, Submission, Submissive, training your slave with tags , , , on March 26, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have had a few Dominants approach me , telling me that they let their feelings get in the way. When it comes to control , punishing or even giving out task , the biggest is when it comes to enforcing rules. The feeling of guilt like you are abusing someone , mistreating , being unfair , being to strict. Well! You did not have these feelings before you entered the relationship ,or when you both agreed to enter the relationship , you had everything planned out right ? You told the Submissive you were a dominant , you told her you wanted to take control , you gave out rules right?

Many over time begin to get this deep sense of guilt , like everything is abuse , maybe mistreating their partner but remember these are thing that were agreed on before you entered the relationship , so was it just Dom frenzy or maybe just a deep fantasy and instead.

When you both sit down and start talking about each others needs and most important what they Dominant lays out about how he envisions how the house will be ran. It is okay as a slave or submissive to express your feelings but to be outright argumentative is nothing more than disrespect and should not be tolerated. When should you question your Master ? When you see a bad decision  is going to affect you and your house , put you in danger or possibly homeless. This should include while out in public , if you have something to say it should be in private , calling your Master out in public is nothing more than being disrespectful. If there are no consequences to ones actions then the Master is no longer in control.

Neither Master or slave should be afraid to speak up , if you do not communicate the slave in a respectful manner the Master has no way of knowing what you are thinking or what problems you may have until you the slave blows up.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Master/slave_(BDSM)

In BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual serves another in an authority-exchange structured relationship. Unlike Dominant/submissive structures found in BDSM in which love is often the core value, service and obedience are often the core values in Master/slave structures.[1] The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship uses the term “slave” because of the association of the term with ownership rights of a master to their slave’s body, as property or chattel. While male “masters” will usually be referred to as “Master”, whether or not female Masters are referred to as “Master” or “Mistress” may depend upon whether they identify as following the “Leather” or BDSM path.[1]:27-30

The Master/slave (or owner/property) relationship is entered into on a consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery, that is forbidden by the laws of most countries.

Keeping that head space , one the collar if you the slave should ever have a doubt about your position in the home then reach up and grab your collar , if your Master requires you to wear one. It seems today very few Master require a collar for what ever reason , maybe he does not want to spend the money on one or he simply does not care. Putting rituals and protocols in place. Putting things in place even slave positions keeps the head space and is a reminder. Everything put in place has to be consistent or they will not work.

http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Protocol

A protocol is any defined, enforced code of behavior, and or rituals whether it be within the confines of a particular group, community, or other interpersonal dynamic (such as a power exchange relationship).

Protocols are a set of governing rules that dictate the body, behavior and attitudes through an enforced code of behavior and/or rituals whether it be within the confines of a particular group, community, or interpersonal dynamic.

Protocols are often referred to those found within a power exchange relationship. The reason there is no set rules about universal protocols is because every power exchange relationship is different, not just based on relationship style, but more specifically on the individuals involved in the relationship and their needs and wants.

Best Practices indicate that it is unreasonable to expect that others should or must respect your particular set of protocols if you have not negotiated for such things with them.

Why would a Master argue with a slave ? What sense does it make for either to even argue with each other? If a Master will argue with his slave then he becomes the bitch.

The Master

http://bdsmwiki.info/Master

Values , and this is interesting….

Some commonly emphasized values consistent with best practices concerning a Master may include but are not limited to: (in no particular order)

  • Honorable behavior in word and deed.
  • Is in touch with their wants and needs; gives clearly stated expectations, orders and instructions.
  • A clear understanding of their own personal limitations and failings while consistently seeking to learn more and better themselves.
  • The ability to respect and forgive the personal limitations and failings of those that serve them while still helping them push towards and achieve self betterment.
  • Possession of sound judgement, logic, reliability and the ability to keep their personal affairs in reasonable order.
  • An amazing degree of control of temper and impulse.
  • Recognizes both service and Mastery as callings worthy of respect.

You set the rules , you sit the rules and protocols and you enforce consistently ,  Your house you the Master sets up how things will be ran. Many at sometime will begin to feel guilty about enforcing rules or afraid of rejection , or maybe even your slave will leave you. It is the slave who has to adapt to your way of living.

You cannot change up the rules after you have put them in place , rules can be amended but there are some who will change just so they can punish.

Keeping that head space , protocols and rituals along with a few slave positions , all of these not only induce good behavior but they are a training tool. Having to ask permission to do anything and everything even when it comes to scheduling a free day with family or friends.

Use your property and use on a regular basis , the slave is there for your use , your enjoyment and it is up to you if you let your slave get off. Play and do not share what you plan on doing but it is good to give warnings throughout the week. Take what you want when you want and how you want , this will also keep your slave in that head space.

A good Master shows control , not only at home but while out it is the Master who sets the example. The way your slave acts in public is a direct reflection of your training.

Do not make demands that are not reasonable , do not make demands that will set the slave up for failure. Do not make demands that would cause the slave harm or get into trouble.

Positive reinforcement goes along way , several times a week I tell my girls how much I appreciate them and the things they do. Reward when the slave does something good. The system put in place should be everything is earned nothing is giving. All of the privileges are just that privileges and anything can be taken back.

Restrict the space with in the home the slave is allowed to sit and the way the slave sits. While out my girls sit with hands in lap and are prohibited from crossing their legs. While standing the hands are clasped in front. All of these are reminders of the slaves position within the home.

The Master needs down time a time to relax clear your head , time alone , this is just as important as the slave having down time..

You can change plans when they are not working but never change goals.