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Submission , Codependency And Depression

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, BDSM 101, BDSM Relationships, codependency, codependent, Depression, Dominant and Submissive, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Trust, Uncategorized, Vanilla Relationships with tags , , , on April 11, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

I get it I really do , Ive been in the lifestyle for more than 25 years and still counting and still going strong. I have had my ups and I have had my downs , I have also made mistakes but I learned from my mistakes. Mistakes allows you to grow unless you continue to make the same mistakes.

I get and understand submission , I understand Codependency and to a point I understand depression .

I do not have a PHD but what I do have is life experience , I have had and continue to have a relationship where all three apply to this subject. Depression runs in the lifestyle this is a known fact. I did not say all so don’t be putting words in my mouth. Codependency is very common in the lifestyle.

The problem when seeing a professional you get 30 minutes to an hour , he or she pulls out a booklet and proceeds to write you a prescription. Ill see you in 30 days maybe 60 or even 90. The pills take the edge off but your still not on that high your looking for, not high as in a drug but the high on life, the happiness.

The problem is you are seeing someone who knows very little about you,and the truth is very few are completely honest. This comes from a lack of trust and the feeling of the awkwardness of telling a stranger your problems .

What causes depression ? I do not think anyone person has the answer maybe a chemical balance malfunction. Things happen you could lose someone very dear and close to you. A break down the brain becomes overwhelmed and can no longer function, or function correctly without some type of adjustment . Today the pill is the answer and you could spend years finding the right combination before you find yourself on a level playing field.

Codependency usually comes at a later time in life most of the time it becomes stronger once you are out on your own. You enter a relationship and the codependency grows stronger , the needy comes out of the closet and you just want to rely on your partner. You become stressed when away from your home , more stressed when away from your partner. Being codependent is not something you brought up at the beginning of your relationship and this is because you did not even know. Then comes the end of the relationship. Your partner wanted someone who is independent , someone who can take care of the bills , the shopping , cleaning and cooking , while he sits on the couch and watches sports.

Your doctor will guide you to a Life coach , it is explained the coach can guide you down the right path. Ladies and gentlemen , Doms and Subs , Masters and Slaves this is so far from the truth it is not funny. A Life coach is not going to understand you and why? Because you are not going to share your feelings with a stranger and if you do he or she has no clue. It is not only a waist of money but it is a waist of your time and if you are like me my time is very valuable.

One thing for sure depression is huge in the lifestyle , although many will not admit it, some may be ashamed to talk to a potential partner. Honesty is the best medicine.  If you are not truthful upfront it could be the end of your relationship when things start to emerge.

It will not matter how many relationships you enter if someone does not understand you or is not willing to try to understand you it will never work. You have to be upfront when you first meet as embarrassing as it may seem. Codependency and depression is not something you can hide in the closet. So your upfront and to the point and either they are willing to give it a shot or they are not.

There are not many who understand Submission as a matter of fact many see submission as a weakness , many see submission as a easy target , many see submission as a easy fuck , someone they can control for a short time until you have a breakdown or you become to needy. I am not speaking of a full mental breakdown just kinda like the feeling of being confused.

Submission can start in one or two phases , one being from a younger age but you do not know the word or anything about it , or two it hits you at a later time in life. In most cases not all but most something dramatic in life happened , the loss of someone very close, or the worst being abused by a family member or even raped at a young age. Something triggers your feeling but you are not sure , you just know you are.

While there may not be a fix all cure , while you just may be on a level playing field, not happy but not sad I can tell you the environment you spend your time in can help you maintain what you do have.

If you suffer from depression , your taking medication, seeing your doctor on schedule but your home life is a total wreck you are fighting a losing battle. If you spend your days fighting and arguing the medication you are taking is doing nothing.

You need someplace you feel safe, you need someplace peaceful, you need someplace you can truly call home. You need to be stress free , drama free, but more important you need someone who supports you , someone who understand you. Someone who cares enough to find out what is going on and what they can do to help your healing process. This not only applies to BDSM but those who are vanilla.

Being honest about your depression , codependency does cut your odds in half in finding the right Dominant but if you stand your ground your odds are better in finding the right one.

Arianna sees a doctor , at times I go at times I do not, when I notice things are slipping I go this is so I can give my side of the story. Her doctor has requested I come to each visit. I feel taking part is very important.. You should want the same..

Your Passwords.

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, commitment, communication, Dominance Through Intimidation, Master And Slave, Passwords, Slave, submissive, Trust, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , on December 25, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Your Password is just that yours. No matter the relationship we need some source of privacy.

Trust is a major issue no matter what type of relationship your in, be it Vanilla or Submissive , more so if you have stepped into that Slave role in life.

I as Arianna , Master and Owner have the right to look at anything I want and at times I do pick up her cell and strum through it. At one point she did give me her passwords to all of her accounts but I no longer have. She has no Social Media accounts nor does she care to have.

Now lets turn the tables around , I am driving and I receive a text or email , or maybe an alert from Twitter , ill ask Arianna to read what ever it is to me, all of my emails are open , Facebook , twitter , everything , she as well has full access to anything.  Does this make me weak ? Does this make me Non Dominant ? The way I see it is it makes me open and I have nothing to hide, coming back to that trust thing.

All Dominants are different , Masters and Owners our needs are different, what I am posting about is my personal stance.

This happens mostly when a Dom is married and stepping out or a Dom could have a control issue , ego problems but most of the time it is a security problems meaning the Dom is insecure.

There are those who are insecure who have to bully their authority , who used fear to try and force submission. Fear and submission never works and when it does it is only for a short time. The out come of such a relationship could be devastating to the one who is submitting, not only on an emotional scale but mental.

Being open is very important in any relationship more so when it comes to a D’s or M’s relationship. A friend of mine at a MAsT meeting a couple of months ago made the statement. I can only make and informed decision based on the information that is giving to me, now that is deep. That is why it is so important to be able to communicate and receive the communication back. If you ask a direct question you should expect a direct answer, but it goes both ways.

A year or so ago Arianna came up with this idea , if she was to give me her passwords to all of her emails it would give me more control. I agreed but today I could not tell you what they are.

I myself cannot think of a reason why I would need such information, I however I felt like I needed them there would be a trust issue and I would no longer need your services…

If you have just met someone and you give out everything it can really fuck up your life in a big way and the effects could last for a very long time.

Keep your passwords

Vile

 

 

The Core Of BDSM

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, bdsm, Rules, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Safe, slave, Submission, submissive, Trust on April 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Bondage , Discipline Sado , Masochism, and those words have branched off into many different area’s, but no matter what branch you are on or what your kinks are it boils down to one word and one word only. TRUST.

Without trust you cannot fully give yourself, without trust you cannot be who you truly need to be. Without trust you cannot achieve the high you need  , without trust you cannot find that one release you need to feel fulfilled. Because without trust you always have that wondering in the back of your mind. It runs even deeper if you are lied to, or mislead to believe something and you later find out everything was a lie, but at times even after the lie is exposed you feel trapped, because you have devoted so much time into building a relationship.

Most who are submissive or a slave are very needy, needy to the point you feel like a piece of Velcro. The neediness does not fully come out until you have entered the relationship, the submissive will become more dependent upon the dominant and the neediness will continue to grow.

I am not saying this is all who are submissive or slaves but for the most. So we as Dominants have to be prepared to take on such a task.

There are many who want to fill that Dominant role , but it is hard to separate what you truly need and what is a fantasy. Your thinking how awesome it would be to have a bitch at my beck and call. Getting my cock sucked when ever I want, sex anytime I want, but with your choices there are also consequences. Just like that old saying, Be careful what you ask for.

If it is just a fantasy one you have what you wanted you do not have a clue, what your suppose to do with the submissive. Then the needy comes in, the rules, the guidelines, the hourly check ins, talking on the phone, and making sure they are the center of your attention.

I have seen this happen when two enter a relationship as a Dominant and Submissive. They move in together and at first everything is going as planned but then things begin to change the real needy kicks in. It makes the Dominant feel somewhat over whelmed, and he is thinking I never signed up for all of this, I just wanted the sex and head. I did not want all of this responsibility, and slowly but surely the relationship begins to fall apart.

Entering a BDSM relationship is so much different than a vanilla, because the female is giving so much more, on the other hand the male is taking on much more responsibility, and he has to be willing to step up to the plate.

Many years I wanted to benefits but I never wanted the responsibility , the one thing on my mind was how many women I could nail. how many woman I could use. It was a lot easier than dating a vanilla chick, because a submissive was needy, and I could play off of her emotions, her needs and hurt. So I just acted, I acted like I cared, I acted like I wanted to be there and help. The truth was I just wanted her panties off, nothing more. There were times after I had used a month later I could not even recall their name, but the one thing I did was I broke the one thing that was needed and that was the TRUST that was giving to me. I did not ask for it, I did not want it but it was giving.

So I have been in the lifestyle for over 20 years, probably much longer because growing up I knew I was different, but even then it was just using. I could not of giving a fuck about feelings , I did not care who I hurt, or what I had to do to get what I wanted, so for a very long time I lived one big LIE. Just like when I had Beverly tied to a tree, I had no feelings, I did not care. I got off on the humiliation, I got on on the using, and she took it because she had that trust. She was different like me, well not like me just different she did not fit in, but she thought I excepted her for who she was, and that was not the case, I was using her, and nothing more.

So when I give advice I am not just talking to hear myself talk, I have been there, I am giving you the male side of things. The only bad thing is some never want the TRUST, some just use, they feed off of using. That is how they get their rush, their high, because they can do things to you, they cannot do to others.

So if your thinking something is not right or you have a bad feeling about your relationship, you are probably right. You have to go with your gut feeling and not your heart, your heart will fuck you up every time.

Your afraid of being alone, you have the need to submit, you have insecurity’s maybe a low self esteem, you need someone to be in control, you need rules, you need to attention. You know the list can go on and on, but the bottom line here is, if you do not have the core down, you will continue to jump from Dom to Dom, and in the back of your mind you think it is you that is the problem and it is not. It is finding someone who will not betray your trust, someone who truly cares about your needs, someone who wants the same thing out of a relationship that you do. Most of you are just afraid of being alone, that is what it really boils down to the being alone part. So you sacrifice so much to get so little, and the little that you get is short lived, then your just a piece of ass and nothing more.

If you do not have the TRUST, you can have everything else in the world but without the TRUST you have nothing and you never will have nothing. .

A RELATIONSHIP WITH NO TRUST IS LIKE A CELL PHONE WITH NO SERVICE ALL YOU CAN DO IS PLAY GAMES.Not my quote.

Vile

 

My Blog Is About Kink, Safety and the Love Of My Life Arianna.

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Advice, anger, Anger Issues, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Hypnosis, BDSM Session, Being fucked, being used, blog, Bondage, Cheaters, Cheating Dominant, Christians, Collar, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Domestic Discipline, Dominant, Face Fucking, Facial Abuse, Foot Worship, Hypnosis, Living Poly, Living Triad, married, Married Dominant, Married submissive, Master, Master And Slave, Mind Fuck, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, rimming, Security, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, The World Of BDSM, Thekinkyworldofvile, Total Submission, TPE, Trust, Verbal abuse on March 1, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

It is hard to believe I have reached over 800 post. I truly enjoy blogging it is my own little world. A place I can come to and be myself, be who and what I am. Not that I hide anything out in the vanilla world because I do not, but here I am truly me.

My 800 or so post are mainly about the BDSM lifestyle, safety, what slaves and submissive’s need and should look out for when looking for a new Dominant, Master or Daddy.  The do’s and the Dont’s what to look out for and the questions you need to ask.

To live in a Broken home is not the life you want, to be abused is not the life you want, to be lied to is not the life you want.

You have to remember everything I tell you is from a mans point of view, many of you may not agree with me, I would not expect everyone to agree with me. I can say this I speak the truth. I have been the user, I have been the abuser. I have used just for my pleasure, and tossed to the side. In the past I have fucked women and could not even tell you their name the next morning. I have fucked and when finished they were told to get the fuck out. I have giving out collars on the first meet. What you have to remember the collar is a powerful tool, it can be a tool of deception. It can be used to just to use you, and this has happened to many of you.

800 post almost 200.000 visitors, and over 4000 comments, and a few friends so things are not to bad. People who read my blog are from all over the world. The middle East, the US, Asia , Africa, the UK , I will post the different countries tomorrow the numbers are astonishing

There are many who visit and do not comment, I am assuming that since most who follow me are women, it is the same with the readers. Most wish to remain anonymous and just read my thoughts, and my opinions, and that is fine.

There are those I am sure who read who only wish of such a life, or maybe there are those who cannot believe that there is even such a life. There are those who want to fully submit, but cannot communicate with their partner.

There are things from my early years I do not wish to share. There are things I am not proud of, and as I look back there are things I would not of done.

I can say this and I say this with great truth, I have never hurt anyone physically , I have always honored a safe word and I have never done anything that was not asked for, or that was not communicated

So in my kinky world I come down hard on married men, these are men who cannot run their house. Their wife will not take it up the ass so they find someone who will. They find someone they can use.

I point out the fake Doms, Masters and Daddy’s who want to be a leader so bad but they do not have a clue because again they do not know how to run their home, or they see submission as a weakness.

I have talked about Domestic Discipline and how I believe there is abuse within the home, not all but for the most. I say this because I have talked and chatted with women who live in a DD home, this is not just something I pulled out of my ass.

I have talked about the dangers of impact play, and how you can get hurt. I have blogged about where it is okay to hit and where not to. You can get hurt.

I have blogged about bondage, and yes you can get hurt if not properly tied. You can damage muscles and tendons if you do not know what your doing.

I have blogged about how communication is a must during play, and the need to know what is going through their minds.

I have blogged about the power of mind fucks, and how it can benefit the relationship, or even carry you to the point of sub-space. A good mind fuck can be very erotic.

I have blogged about a topic I truly enjoy, Sexually Broken. Being tied up to the point you cannot move, and being used in every hole. Moving from the mouth to the pussy, then to the ass. I call it three hole golf.

I have talked about how I run my house, my rules, my protocols. My love for total control, and having the ability to control my property, my own. Living with and being married to my wife, my slave and my property.

I have blogged a great deal about hypnosis and the benefits it could have in a relationship, and this is a subject I am still pursuing. We have invited someone over to teach, only to find out he thought he was going to get some pussy. No one fucks my slave but me.

I have blogged about my love for Anal sex, and how I believe it is the most submissive act a woman can take part in. You are invading the most private part of a female body.

I have blogged about my love for face fucking, this falls under the control factor. Most of the time when I am getting head I don’t even want to cum , it just feels so fucking good, I want it to last for ever. When I do want to cum. I grab a hand full of hair and I control the rhythm.

I have blogged about the love of my life, Arianna, my first breath when I wake and my last thought before I fall a sleep. My universe, my world. She is truly my drive in life.

Our relationship is micromanaged, I invest a great deal of time making sure our relationship runs smoothly. Being a Dominant is not a 9 to 5 job it is 24/7 365. Although I do put a great deal of time and effort into our relationship, the rewards I receive come back 100 times over.

I have blogged about our new journey into the world of poly. How I believe it would benefit Arianna. As many of you have noticed, I have not said anything about how such a relationship would benefit me. That is because I am not thinking about me.

Then after a great deal of thought I moved to the idea of a Triad, moving away from the poly idea, because most who are poly are not loyal to just a home, or two.

If you have noticed the subject of sex within a triad has not come up, mainly because that is not my train of thought. Because my main focus is on Arianna, but here is my thoughts. In time with in a Triad sex would come up. My way of thinking would be to find someone who was not open to things that Arianna is. Such as Anal sex, or rimming, or a foot fetish like Arianna has.  These would be things exclusive to Arianna. She would be the only one who could offer these things.

I am not looking for another Slave, we are looking for a submissive, someone to be Arianna’s best friend, to do things with. She wants to take art classes, while I have no interest I would go and take part in. Events they have downtown on the weekends, to help out around the home. While I do help when I am off, it would be nice to have someone around to help.

So my train of thought has nothing to do with the sexual aspect of how we would live with a third. If you are wanting to bring someone into your home with the thought of your getting more pussy, it will never work.

I believe if you do bring a third in , there are things that should be kept exclusive to Arianna. This is what separates the two relationships, it separates the Slave and Submissive.

My standards are very high, if you have seen Arianna or read her blog you would know this, and I refuse to lower them.

We are still in the talking stages trying to piece things together.  I can say this in the end Arianna has the final say, and I will go with what ever she says.

A D’s home an M’s home if ran correctly and the Dom or Master follows through with his word, can be a very loving home, a well structured home.

The Dominant or Master not only have to implement but he has to follow through. He must remain consistent and remain consistent on a hourly basis, a daily and weekly basis. Then and only then will the home grow.

It has been almost two years since the Kinky World Of Vile was born, and I shall continue for sometime. I will continue to give advice, talk about abuse, and most of all My life with the love of my life Arianna.

If you invade my home I will shoot you, and in the end I would take a bullet for Arianna, I am her sole protector. If she needed a heart to survive she has one right here, because I would give without question

This is the kind of home and love I want everybody to experience. I can tell you when I hold Arianna I can feel our souls embracing , I can feel the warmth, most of all I can feel the love.

Submission is the greatest gift of all do not abuse what is giving.

Much Love to all and those around the world.

Image Submission is the gift that will keep on giving.

Vile

If You Can’t Trust

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, slave, submissive, sucking cock, TPE, Trust on January 21, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

In our lifestyle trust is probably 95% of the relationship. Trust is the building of a relationship. Trust is being tied down spread eagle and knowing your not going to be hurt.

The words you can trust me, those are and can be very misleading I think when someone uses those words that is a huge flag. That is why I believe trust is earned and it is earned from getting to know someone inside and out

That is why or I use to be shocked when a submissive would meet a Dominant and on the first date allow someone to tie you up. That is not trust that is being dumb.

If you cannot trust the one your with , and you always have thoughts in your head that should not be there, why be with someone ? Because even when your together you still have these thoughts looming in your head.

If your with someone who has cheated before be it male or female they will do it again. Just like when a man hits a woman out of anger and he promises not to do it again, the fact is he will. There are no if’s and’s or but’s about it he will and each time it will get worse.

Trust does not happen over night, trust is like building a bridge. Depending on how many times you have been hurt depends on the amount of time it takes to build a new bridge. It takes one fuck up to make a bridge collapse, and a long time to rebuild.

There are a lot of things in life I do not understand, one I have talked about is the married man who has a family and he has to find a submissive to suck his cock because his wife wont .

The other thing I do not understand is the submissive who sees the married so called Dom and sucking his cock after he has fucked his wife. If you think your the only one he is banging besides his wife then you are way out there. I am speaking from experience , I have done the same thing, well I take that back when I was married I remained loyal even though it just sucked ass. At one time I was stringing 4 or 5 along making each one believe they were special, when in fact none of them were. I had someone come over almost nightly and suck and fuck me then go home. So I am speaking as a male. Do not think your that special, that your the only one he is cheating on his wife with.

You do not have to agree with me, you can say I am wrong or I do not know what the fuck I am talking about, or maybe you can show me a different point of view. I am open minded. The one I think about is the wife stuck at home taking care of the kids.

So even being in such a relationship how can you fully trust ? How can you fully give yourself? How can you bild on such a relationship knowing that it could end at anytime?

Your in cuffs, blindfolded, ball gag , on bed legs spread, butt plug in. You are fair game and there is nothing you can do except lay there and take what ever is giving. If your in a relationship things tend to be much different, but if your just meeting someone think about the possibility’s. Think of the different outcomes that could happen, like when they show you different ways a movie could of ended. You are the star of the movie.

Living in a D’s world or more so an M’s world, you are putting your life in someones hands. You are giving up most if not all control of your life. Someone who is going to give you rules, make most of your decisions .

Arianna brought something up last night before going to bed. We talk every night once we get relaxed. She wants to give up more control, she wants or needs to be restrained more, less move ability, more restriction on where she can sit or be allowed with in the home. Remember we are talking about a Slave and not a Submissive. We also know as we grown within a relationship we change and our needs change as well. Keeping an open mind is very important. Also if something is implemented and it looks like things are not going as planned, then we should change things up.

This is the trust I am speaking about, and the trust that is needed. Trust is everything.

If we are going to control someone we need to be fair. We need to be upfront and honest about what is expected. If we are honest and keep our word as a Dominant, the submissive will give everything they have, no questions asked. If we as Dominants show we care and we are putting them first, the submissive will give all they have. If we are truthful, and we live by the truth the submissive will give everything they have.

The submissive will give, and give, and give until there is nothing left to give, but the giving will continue if they are getting something back in return.

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Vile

I Could Of Fucked Her

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Arianna, bdsm, Be who you are, being used, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dating, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, extreme, Face Fucking, Finger Fucking, Finger fucking pussy, fingering, fisting, fucking, Humiliation, kinky, masochist, Master, micromanage, Micromanagement, oral sex, Philippines, punish, Rules, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, submissive, sucking cock, Total Slavery, Trust, Vile on January 6, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

BDSM has changed as well, the people, the respect everything. More so the younger generation. I just googled BDSM clicked on images and nothing but pain and torture. People are visual,it does not matter what you read , who you talk to, its all about being visual.

I remember the first time I left Sherri’s house I was scared to death, she was black and blue from the neck down from and back. She got off while I was just terrified. After that day though something clicked, the more control I had, the more pain I could inflict the harder I got. During sessions I am talking sessions that lasted hours, there had been times I had actually came, and came hard, just off of impact play.Seven years and she did not cry one time, until the day came and I said goodbye.In that relationship Humiliation was a huge part of her kicks, at first mine but as time went by it was more like a job, I had to out do each session.That is the past, maybe at times we reflect on the past to much and it does not allow us to move forward.

We all have thoughts, and it is good to have memories , but that is what they are just memories, some were good some were bad.Over the years the Sadist part of me seemed to slip away, or maybe I just truly wanted more out of a relationship. I can tell you the vanilla mistake I made, was just that a mistake. What was the hardest was having to live two different lives. Although I remained loyal during that ever so shocking adventure, and it was so not me. Because there were times I just wanted to let loose, but I would of never disrespected her in that manner.

Going from using a Masochist to a vanilla marriage puts one in shock. What the fuck did I just do, and I knew it was a mistake. I knew from the first time I went to her house and it was trashed. I refused to live in a dirty home, it was not like filthy it was just cluttered papers piled everywhere just fucking cluttered.What else is odd is to be in a relationship for seven years and never fucking, that was while with sherri. Unless face fucking counts, that was almost daily. I think if we would of had sex that would of put me on a much different emotional playing field and I did not want to be that close. While she did have rules I seldom enforced them . I did not care because I was getting off. The Fisting part is what was incredible, she was my first.I remember the first time I laid her on the coffee table and told her to spread and my hand just slipped in, I closed my fist and I just started pounding her. I could open my hand and feel all around and I could make her stomach move.Today I enjoy fisting but it is not a need like it was then. Then it was a new experience , it was taboo to me, everything with her was taboo.

As I grew older the more control I needed, as I grew older the more in control I was. As I grew older I became aware of my surroundings. I started observing people more, and trying to figure them out. Wondering what their home life was about. Wondering if they harbored a deep secret like I did.When out I felt kinda like a freak show, because of being so different. While at the mall in the food court eating I would look at different women, and imagine different ways of tying them up, and using every hole. Or what it would be like to face fuck them, to humiliate them, to take them down as low as I could, get my nut and just walk away as if nothing had happened.

I was the guy who would walk up to the women other men were afraid to, being afraid I mean being rejected. I have always had standards , and I always set them high, because I refused to fuck someone I did not want to wake up next to. So I suppose when it came to fucking someone I never settled for less.

I remember one time I was at a convenience store visiting a friend, and this woman walked in, I was like fuck me , she was fucking hot, maybe 5.0ft even ,long dark brown hair, fakes tits. She was wanting to know if we knew anyone who sold pot, she said her husband was in their truck past out. As we were talking I told her I might know someone but I had to call in private so I walked in the stock room and she followed. I made a call , I hung up and I put my flip phone back in my pocket and I just looked at her. I walked closer to her  and she was backing up I did not say a word I just looked into her eyes. Once she was against the wall, I wrapped my hand around her throat and kissed her for what seemed like for ever. While kissing my other hand was down her shorts banging her pussy with my hand three fingers deep. After I finished kissing her , I pushed her down to her knees and I took my cock out and it slipped into her mouth and I just started fucking, it took all of a minute for me to blow my load. Once finished she got up and said in this little country accent, No man has ever treated my that way. I gave her the number to my friend and told her when her husband woke up show him what you like.To stop everything all she would of had to say is no or stop, and I would of apologized, but I could read her from the second she walked in. I didn’t want to fuck her I just wanted or needed that control.

Then the stuck up bitches , until 5 or 6 years ago I would work at a shell station during events to help out and make some extra cash Arianna has met the owner of the store before. Anyway This girl Sarah would come in every night and buy one beer Coors. Then a week went by and she did not come in. The following week Sarah came back in and I greeted her, then I said there is something different about you. I said ahhh you got a boob job, she made the comment I was not to worry I would never get the chance to touch them. So I closed my eyes and I started moaning, then I stopped. She said what the fuck are you doing. Well Sarah I have a very vivid imagination and I just fucked you and you were by far the worst piece of ass I had ever had, so I do not want to touch them. I never saw her again.That was how open I was, and yes those are true story’s.

Being a Dominant for any period of time it is so easy to spot the submissive women. I have point out a few to Arianna but she just laughs, little does she know.As I grew older I needed more. I needed more control but there were very few who could give up the control I needed. BDSM is much like a drug, the more you learn about it, the more you take part, the more you converse about it the more you need.There was never a shortage of pussy, it was finding women who did not use it as a tool , so they could get their way.

I wanted to have it my way.A year and a half before I met Arianna, I got up at 3.30 am, turned on the coffee pot waited, poured a cup went back to the bedroom, I was watching the morning news and I started thinking, Vile what the fuck are you doing. You are 48 years old and your waking up alone, that is fucked up. You come home to two dingy roommates . What kind of life is that?So while at work I began to put a list together, A list of what I wanted out of a relationship. The type of slave I wanted to have a life with. A slave who would want to follow. A slave who had no rights. A slave who would want to drop to their knees because it was a need, or spread because it was a need to please. A slave who wanted to communicate,

A slave who was smart, beautiful and intelligent. A list I was not going to give in, just so I could get some pussy.So I met Arianna, we talked for hours, even after I told her what I needed she did not flinch. I had pretty much figured out what she needed, but I was thinking what the fuck she has needs to, do I really want to do this. Just by talking to her and with out her giving out to much information. I had figured out she was being used, your whole life was out of control, she needed micromanagement, she needed someone to take her by the neck and say stop. Did I really want to invest that much time? I had to think about it for a day or so.Okay she is beautiful, her smile is one to kill for, she has a body built for sin, an ass to die for, each cheek just fits in the palm of my hand, small but firm breast, just fucking wow. The first time she got out of her car, blood rushed down to my cock so fast I got dizzy.There had to be more to the relationship than just sex, I needed so much more. I was in the process of moving to the Philippines , I had already made up my mind. I had a job lined up. I was going to start over.
I was going to start fresh, but something inside me clicked, just like the first click in my life. I was thinking maybe just maybe this will work, but I will have to put a long term plan together, a plan that I had to stick to, and I knew I had to remain consistent or I would loose.The first time she wrapped her lips around my cock I knew I had her, more so the first time I crawled between her legs, and I wrapped my hand around her throat, and I started to fuck her, I looked in her eyes and said I am going to own you. That statement proved to be correct, because I did everything in my power, my years of knowledge, and experience I had gained within the lifestyle, everything that I had learned, and for once I was putting it towards good use. I was finely using what I had learned over the years. I can tell you this believe it or not. If I want something bad enough, Vile always wins. If your just a passing thought that is what you are or were a passing thought. I never lose.

Image The key is to give back as much as you take, sometimes you as the Dominant has to give back much more. In the end though you can have anything you want, without question.

Vile

What Can You Do For Me

Posted in 24/7, abuse, bdsm, being used, Cheating Dominant, Collars, communication, consequences, control, controlling, Conversation, Disrespect, Dominants, Fake Dominants, Married Dominant, Master, passive, slave, submissive, sucking cock, Trust, What Can You Do For Me on December 31, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

You are in the process of taking the biggest step in your life. You are going to submit, you are going to give your body and mind. You are going to allow someone to tie you up and just use you. You are about to embark on a new travel, you are going to see what the other side of the world looks like in the world of BDSM.

Lets put several things aside for now, sex, sucking cock, bondage, all the kink and lets concentrate on six words and only six words. These words are very important.

What Can You Do For Me. These are words you should not be afraid to ask, those six words are probably the most important words you could ask.

As you ask you will see the jaw drop open, and a moment of complete silence, a look of disrespect because you have just called a Dom out.

If you met online most of the topic has been whether he wants you or not, are you worthy of being his submissive or slave, are you real, are you serious?

Most of you are to shy or scared to ask such a question, but this is clearly your right. After all chances are on the first meeting your going to let him take you to a motel room tie you up and just use you. You may like it or you may not but you will take what ever is giving.

I have got a lot of negative feed back about the waiting period, so I am going to skip that. Having a session on the first meeting is up to you. It is all based on choices and consequences nothing more.

What Can You Do For Me?I am not speaking financially, although it is good if he has some type of income coming in. What Can You Do For Me? I am speaking in terms of stability, comfort , structure , communication , the feeling of being safe, being number one, treated with full respect, respecting your limits. Being not afraid to speak your mind when things are going south.

What is your time limit when it comes to giving you a collar? What do I have to do to earn a collar? How many have you collared ? What happened to those relationships? Can I contact any of them?

Are you bringing any Drama to the table? Are you married ? Are there any problems with your Ex? Is there a reason why I would not be able to go out with you and your friends? Who do you know in the lifestyle? Can I meet them?

What makes you a Dominant ? Why do you want an M’s lifestyle? What would our everyday life consist of? What are your limits?  Do you have anger issues? if so why ? What do you consider abuse ?

The most important thing is to say what is on your mind instead of just thinking it, you have to get everything out in the open. Say what is on your mind right then. Because if you just sit there and agree with everything, then you have to face the consequences alone.

I come down hard on Married Dominants or those who think they are Dominant. Their wife wont suck cock or take it up the ass, so you are now the one who will fill his void. While you go home alone he will go home as if nothing happened, and crawl in bed with the wife he says he does not love. While you are at home alone he is banging his wife. You will spend your birthdays alone, you will not go on vacations. You will wait for days for that call, or text. If you do get a call it is for phone sex or he wants you to send pics or a video. Again consequences.

The married cheating Dominant cannot control or run his own home, you are filling that void, now he has someone he an use once or twice a month, and again he will crawl in bed with his wife and kiss her good night. You once again will go home alone and WAIT. That is what your suppose to do is just WAIT.

If your into married men and you do not mind the above then have at it.

If your not happy in a marriage get the fuck out, leave, kids or no kids. Take your loss, be who you are and who you want to be.

Okay enough on Married men who cannot control their home.

WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME, those are the words you should be thing and asking.

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