Archive for the Trust Category

Today I Am Slave Vile

Posted in abuse, Adrenaline, anticipation, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, being used, chat room, Collar, Collarme.com, communication, Consensual, Dominants, Fake Dominants, No Panties, predators, Rules, slave, Submission, sucking cock, Training Collar, Trust on December 22, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

So I have been looking for a new master for a few months, I joined collarme.com because well that just seems like the place. There are so many Masters to choose from. I know I am new and I am inexperienced but surely I will find someone who will except me.

So I made a profile, and within 24 hours I have received over 250 emails, wow I cannot believe the response I have gotten. Then I notice there are three who live relatively close to me. So after a little thinking I decided to write each one and see how things go

The next morning I get three reply’s all giving me their Yahoo messenger so I log in and I add each name. Now I am feeling excited because I really do not know what to expect.

So after a little hesitation I send my first Message, Hello? I wait and wait, then finely that would be Master, how are you doing today?

I am doing well thank you hmmm Master.

So what are you looking for ? I am looking for a Master someone who can teach me about BDSM.

I only saw the one pic on your profile do you have any more ? Yes I can send through messenger if you would like. Yes send them now. There I sent four that is all I have at the moment.

Very pretty I love your eyes. I am looking for a Slave someone I can collar, but I really need to see more of you.

More of me ? Yes more you sent pics but there were no full body pics, I want to see all of you, do you have a cam? Yes I do, would you like to see me? Yes now, I will let you know upfront I am a very strict Master, and I have no problems punishing my slave.

What is your favorite position if your being fucked? Well I love it doggy style. I really hate being on top because it makes me feel like I am in control. Do you like oral sex? Yes. Do you swallow? I have but it is not my favorite. Well I expect my slave to swallow. Do you like anal sex? It is okay Ive done it once it hurt a little. I love anal sex and I take it when ever I want. Where is your cam?

How many slaves do you own now? I am single as of now so I am really looking. What kind of work do you do? I am in between jobs but I can afford to take my time. So turn your cam on.

So you spend a day chatting, you send pics, you get naked on cam for what you hope to be your new Master, you just open yourself wide open. He knows everything about you, things you have not even told your closest friends.

Now the next day your going to meet.

What would you like for me to wear? How short is your shortest skirt ? Well I really do not own a short skirt, and I cannot afford to by one. Okay wear the shortest dress you have and your not allowed to wear any panties, understood. Why no panties I really don’t feel comfortable not wearing any? Because I am the Dom, and you are suppose to please me.

So where would you like to meet? I know where this park is, it is kinda private we could really talk. I would like to meet someplace in public if that is okay like maybe a restaurant? 

So I show up about a half hour early waiting and waiting, then I finely see him walk through the door, and I am thinking really? OMG what have I gotten myself into.

So this guy sits down I get this big know in my stomach and he is just starring at me. I have questions I want to ask but I am not sure how to go about it. I really don’t want to make him mad.

Did you wear panties ? I think for a second and I say no I did not. Let me see lift up your dress. So I hesitate then I slowly lift up my dress exposing myself right there in front of everyone.

So John I have a few questions to ask? That would be Master. Hmm okay Master I had a few questions I would like to ask. Sure you can ask anything. How long have you been in the lifestyle? I have been a Master for 20 plus years.

Okay what makes you a Dominant? I like being in control, giving orders and I punish when it is needed. Okay well as I said I am not really into pain. That is okay I can train you to like pain not a problem. How many slave have you owned? I have owned hmmm lets see 9 I have owned 9 slaves. Okay would it be possible is I spoke to one of them or maybe emailed you know as a reference. There is no need for that I have already told you everything about me. I have not been in contact with any of them for a long time. You can trust me.

Well look it is getting late, we should get a room so we can start your training today? My training? Yes I want to see how well you suck cock, that is very important to me. I want to show you the way I like it.

Sucking cock is part of training? Look what is up with all these questions are you a slave or not? Are you looking for a master or not> Your lucky I even wanted to meet you.

Look I brought this training collar, you can put it on. So I will own you now. But we just met is this how it works? It is how I work, remember I am the master you are the slave.

Umm okay well are you active in the local BDSM community? Nah I don’t believe in showing off or proving anything to people I know who I am. Well do you know any other Masters? Sure I do. Would it be possible to meet your friends? There is no need I am a very private person.

Come on lets start your training.

Now many of you have been through the same scenario, many of you have heard the same words. The only difference is, you either were scared to ask any questions, or you did not know you should ask questions. 

The Dominant who insisted on being called Master gave you no real answers, he spent more time beating around the bush. He had one thing on his mind and that was getting his cock sucked, and chances are he would want you to pay half of the room or he may even want you to pay for all of it.

When meeting someone new. Do not ever let someone tell you what to wear. You wear what you feel safe in. Never let anyone demand you call them Master, nor do you let anyone offer you a collar on the first meeting. Remember a collar is earned.

You should never put yourself in any type of danger. Asking you to meet at a park is the first bad sign. Your going someplace wear a dress and no panties.

Ask questions take a list with you. When you ask look into his eyes, the eyes tell all, his hands the way he moves his fingers when he is being confronted. References are very important, are you just going to take some guys words you met on an adult dating site, the one with 20 years experience. Really are you.

Maybe go to a motel and get your ass beat, a black eye, a busted lip or worse.

Everyone of you be it a submissive or slave you have so much to offer, you have so much to give. Do not let someone take advantage of you, take what you are wanting to give, use you then toss you aside.

Be careful and play safe. Hey if you have something to prove and he is able to answer all your questions and you feel safe, have at it, but just be sure.

Remember your safe call which I did not do. Take a picture of his tag send it to a friend. Go the extra mile pay for a back ground check about 20 bucks. Call several times during your meeting. Have your friend call the restaurant so the waiter can give you a message. Let the new Dom know whats going on. If he is okay he will see nothing wrong with it. Always have his first and last name. You all have met Doms and did not know there last name.

Finely get there home address, where they work, and let it be known you will want to stop by his house to visit. If he acts surprised and starts to makes excuses then the conversation should be over. Simply get up and walk out no questions and no answers needed.

You do not need to end up someplace as a Jane Doe. nor does your family.

Image

Vile

A Comment Arianna Made On Fetlife

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, communication, Consensual, Conversation, Dominants, Ego, fetlife, married, Master, Masters, problems, Punishment, Respect, Rules, Security, slave, submissive, Trust on September 2, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I do run a very strict home, Arianna does not really see it that way because she has adapted so well over the past year.  I hear a lot of Dominants talk about the time it takes a new slave to adjust to a new home, 30 to 90 days. While I disagree to each their own.

What makes the BDSM lifestyle so great is we are all different, we all come from different backgrounds , we all have different needs and kinks. Most of all we all have our own opinions on how a house should be ran, or how we train our property. We all have different needs ,wants and expectations when it comes to our property.

When I first met Arianna her life was in total shambles, she had made some bad decisions. It did not make her a bad person, I am thinking she was looking for acceptance than anything else. We all make mistakes, but the only bad mistake is the ones we do over expecting different results.

My rules are not sexually based, my rules were meant to take old habits away and replace with good ones. As I have stated before the key is consistency. If you say something you mean it and you stick with your word. I cannot be a Dominant part time, nor can I take a day off.

Before entering a micromanaged relationship I had to give it much thought, was this the type of relationship I wanted? Did I really want to devote that much time? Did I really want that kind of responsibility ? I would like to say after a year things are running very smooth. We have no stress in our life, we have no drama in our life. We have no problems in our life, things are good.

Every morning Arianna makes a list for her daily activities, with the exception of being at work. I look the list over and if I think it is to much I veto some of her task. The last thing I want to do is put to much on her shoulders. I have set things up so she can move forward in life and excel. Putting to much on her would set her up for failure, and that is not my intentions.

When I started my venture looking for a slave and partner, I was looking for just that. I was not looking for a mother figure, I was not looking for a house keeper, nor was I looking for a cook, as a matter of fact I enjoy cooking.

Arianna and I both work full time she works 40 hours a week, I put in about 55 hours a week so she does do a lot of cooking, when I am off I love firing up the grill.

There is a group on Fetlife called Slave Home. I am not on fetlife often but I do get on from time to time then I see where Arianna has made a post. I do not have any of her passwords, I believe we should have some privacy. I do trust her, so I am not looking behind her back to see what she has been up to.  I believe those who demand passwords are insecure, and ego driven, if you cannot trust the one your with, then why be with them? After all Trust is very important in our lifestyle.

The question on Fetlife was do you as a slave have a daily routine.

VilesArianna: 1 day ago | report

I have daily tasks that enable my Master to relax and know that they will get done. For example, coffee is prepped every night so that He only has to push the button. Animals are taken care of and every night I make Him a mug of ice water and put it next to the bed. I have no set days for shopping and cleaning. It all depends on how my day goes at work. Each morning Master and I go over a list of potential things to do. I’m not punished if I don’t get to it all. I’m usually over zealous about the amount of work I plan to do. We both work outside the home full time and we both pick up after ourselves although I do most of the cooking and cleaning, Master does not have a problem chipping in. But routine yes, I believe I have routine. On a daily and weekly basis. I do enjoy making my Masters life easy and stress free.

Arianna is allowed free time, she does not watch much TV so most of the time it is just relaxing listening to music or reading E-books. She is not allowed to sit on the furniture without permission, but when asked most of the time I do allow. This is part of limiting her space within the home. Ahh before you go crazy this was per her request. So no I am not a total dick.

It makes me feel good when I read post such as this, she is correct she does do much of the cooking and a fine cook she is. I do not expect a three course meal, the truth is I am very easy to please when it comes to eating. As she stated I do pick up behind myself, again I was not looking for a maid.

Image

Vile

You Can’t Fix Stupid

Posted in 128 Basic rules, 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anger, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Safety, Beatings, blow job, Bondage, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, cum, Discipline, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fantasy, fuck hole, fucking, Giving Head, Humiliation, Kink, kinky, married, Married Dominant, masochist, Master, Masters, Mini Skirts, morals, No Inhibitions, No Panties, No Rights, non-consensual, On your knees on your back, oral, oral sex, Pain, Patience, punish, Punishment, Respect, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Safe, Safe and Sane, Scared, session, slave, Spanking, stupid, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, TPE, Trust, Whores, You Can't Fix Stupid on July 14, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Quoted by Comedian Ron White. You Can’t Fix Stupid. Yes that is the truth. There is no class you can take, nor is there a pill, stupid is forever.

Yea I know I rag on men pretty bad I suppose that is why 95% of my followers are women, single, married, dating, and yes confused. I do appreciate everyone who stops by to see what I am ranting over, sometimes I do get off track a little at times, mostly when someone does something stupid. Yea I rag on married men who have to cheat and step outside of their marriage because they cannot control their own home and put their bitch in place. They are scared to talk to their wives about there kinks, and needs, but for the most it is just a fantasy and nothing more it never does last to long. They end up going back home with their head stuck between their ass cheeks and continue to say Yes Dear. Pussy’s.

On the other side of the picture some men well most who are in a D’s or M’s relationship still do not fully understand what they have at hand. They have not a clue about how good things could or can be. They do not have a clue about how every fantasy, or dream, or a life of total bliss could or can come true.

Walk up to your Vanilla wife and say on your knees bitch suck my cock right now. Your going to get this stupid look like REALLY, are you SERIOUS?  Tell your Vanilla wife to strip and spread again that look, then here it comes you feel Stupid, again you can’t fix Stupid.

Men or those who are Dominant or claim to be , or who demand to be called Master do not have a clue about the possibility’s that stands before them. They know what they want but they are not sure how to go about it.

Then for what ever reason most believe or think that the lifestyle is about punishing, spanking, humiliating, degrading, and even physically hurting, and not looking at the mental aspects of what they are doing.

You broke one of my 128 rules bend over and take your punishment, I am going to beat you until you can understand my rules. I will beat you so bad you will think twice before disobeying me.

Yea it does not really work that way. The truth is a Submissive or Slave would not think of breaking a rule. The punishment in their mind is far greater than laying down and taking a beating. The Sub or Slave is more than willing to lay and take what you give, even after the bruising and yes some cuts. Which will most likely be there for weeks to come. Did they really break a rule or did you the Master change one up to fit your needs?

Submissive’s and Slaves thrive on making their owners happy, and will go through great lengths to insure their owner is taking care of. It gives the sub and slave a natural high knowing they have pleased. Even if it is a one way street they thrive on pleasing and the truth is they expect very little in return.

Here is the thing a Submissive or Slave is really looking for very little. Love , acceptance , communication, someone who is truthful. They are looking for guidance, structure, and most of all total understanding of who and what they are. As you can see the list is not really that long.

Most will allow the owner to have more than one, which you know in the vanilla world that would be a total no no. Most will allow you to pass them around like a bucket of popcorn with only the question in their eyes not from their mouths, a look of confusion, but yes most will do so just to please.

There are not many men who have the privilege of calling their woman their BITCH, again call your vanilla wife your bitch, and you get no pussy for two weeks. You can call her your whore, fuck meat what ever comes to mind, and if you wonder why you can refer yourself to what I wrote about what they are looking for.

So you have a woman, who will suck your cock at the snap of a finger, a woman who will spread and allow you to just fuck her without caring if she cums or not. A woman who will dress to please you, even when she does not feel comfortable wearing that mini skirt with no panties in public. A woman who will crawl on the floor like an animal, bark on demand. A woman who just truly wants to please their owner.

Yet after the above we still have those who have the need to abuse, be it physical or mental some still have the need.

We as Dominants are suppose to build up. Yes it is a fact that most who are submissive do have a low self esteem, not all but for the most it is true. So we as Dominants work to build up. We want to take all the hurt and pain away. We want to guide, we want ours to excel, we want to help with dreams, yes dreams can come true.

I believe most who are submissive will take what is giving bad or good. Most will except the pain, knowing they are being accepted. I just do not understand how a Dominant could not feel guilty after a long session knowing the submissive did not enjoy or get anything out of it.

It has been some twenty years now, my first was a total masochist and after the first session I was really scared and there was something inside me that just felt sicking. I had this load of guilt. Even the second and third session I felt guilty. Then it hit me the pain and humiliation is what she wanted and needed. Does this make it right? That would depend on who you talk to some see it as abuse and at times I saw it as abuse.

After our split it took me some years to realize that not every submissive was like sherri, not everyone needed the pain and humiliation. There were females in the lifestyle that were truly scared of me. What made this worse is other Dominants would praise me because of the recognition I had within the community. At that time it made me feel good but as I grew older and wiser, I knew that was not who I wanted to be known as.

We are all different, Dominants, Tops, Bottoms , slaves Submissive’s, and yes those who switch which I never understood. We all want different relationships, some of those who are submissive, only want to submit while in the bedroom, some only want to submit while at home. Then others want to give up full control. Some want to be punished, some want and need to be spanked and spanked hard, some do not want to be spanked at all. I myself am not physical when it comes to punishment.

As I stated the last thing a submissive or slave wants to do is break a rule. If they start to break rules they are acting out because they feel that they should be getting more attention and will do most anything in order to receive the attention they need even if it means breaking a rule.

I believe instead of being physical you can sit down and talk as adults, at times the submissive is looking for more to happen.

I just do not understand, you have a woman submissive or slave who will lay down and spread at anytime, really willing to do just about anything to keep their owner happy, and for what ever reason the Dominant has the need to abuse.

If anyone can figure this out please let me know, because after twenty plus years I still do not have a clue.

Image

Vile

Where Do We Fit In ?

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Arianna, bdsm, Bondage, control, controlling, Conversation, Dominants, Employer, Face Fucking, Fear, Fitting in, Friends, Friendship, hoe, Kink, kinky, Love, married, masochist, Master, oral, oral sex, pussy, Respect, Rough Sex, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, sex, slave, Spanking, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, Trust, Vanilla, Vanilla Friends on July 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We were texting today Arianna and I , and the subject came up of how stupid some people are. I made the comment about how at work all anyone talked about was how much beer they drank the night before and how much they plan on drinking once they get off. These are men who make six figures not your every day McDonalds worker not that there is anything wrong with working at McDonalds. It does not matter what you do as long as it is an honest days work.

Here is the thing, besides Arianna I really do not have anyone I would call a real friend, I mean someone I would hang out with on a daily basis. There are people I like, and I even invited a co-worker over for dinner sometime, but to call someone a friend to me that is deep and it calls for a lot of trust. Trust is a huge issue with me.

At work I try to fit in, I laugh and joke but for the most it is a big front, not that most of the guys are not likeable because most are. When I first started there I was giving the cold shoulder because they felt like I was cutting into their pay, which is not really the truth, we each make out own pay. So everyday it is talking about beer and hoes, hoes and beer. Pretty boring.

In the lifestyle I know a lot of people , there are those I would like to call friends, but then the trust thing comes into play. for the most I am a very private man. Although at work I have shared some of my kink but no one really understands and I do not want to spend a day trying to explain. People hear what they want to hear, people see what they want to see, and people believe what they want to believe.

So in my world where does Vile fit in? It is as if I do not belong anyplace. Sure I have my own space, my own freedom, but at some point you have to share your space, if that makes any sense.

At a young age I knew I was different. Even in my teens I was into spanking, tying girls up, I really got off on face fucking, humiliation, and yes even control. Even then I did not fit in, it was like I was a guest in someones world, I was just there, people all around me but I just could not find that spot, that spot where I belonged.

So is it so bad to be different? Should we be someone else we are not just to please others so that we do fit in? I do know living a life that your not can be a total disaster , and the consequences are not good. On the other hand if we are to be who we are where do we fit in?

You go to the wing house or hooters with the guys, well it is not my thing, because I have no desire to sit around a table telling old war stories drinking beer, and listening to men talk about hoes

Lets face it if you went to work and announced who and what you were you would not be accepted, you would be the black sheep of the office. People would think your weird or think your some sicko. So really we spend our life hiding in the closet. I have shared some but I have not gone into great detail. Do I care if I am accepted? Nah I am who I am and I am very happy. Do I care if Joe likes me? I could really care less.

We, us , them, submissive, slaves, sadist, masochist , kinky we do not fit in we are just here, or there for a short period of time. Most are ashamed of who and what they are, because of being afraid of being an out cast, we need acceptance, we need people to like and approve of use. Why ? Because we do not fit in the world the way people think we should.

Those who do want to fit in want everything handed to them without having to put forth any effort, for example. A co-worker who is single, I invited him to go to a place in Orlando called the wood shed. His remark was fuck that I am not driving sixty miles to meet a woman, I would rather go home and watch porn and jack off. I am glad that is working out for him.  Now if I just showed up at his place with a woman and said here she is yours to fuck for the night, he would gladly take her, unless he found out he had to feed her or something.

I can say without a doubt I am happy. I have a good life. I have an awesome wife and slave, and as of right now I would not change anything. If I need a fishing buddy I have Arianna, if I have the need to have a drinking buddy again I have Arianna. If I have the need to play rough, fuck or just get my cock sucked yup I have Arianna.

So the question is do I really need to fit in? I think being happy and content means much more than trying to fit in with the Jones, or the Smiths.

So I know every morning when I leave for work, I know just where I fit in. That is my main and only focus.

Much Fucking Love to Everyone

Image

Vile

We Must Have Trust

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, slave, submissive, Trust on June 6, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Trust is a must not only in the world of BDSM, but in the world of Vanilla.  I am not talking about sleeping around, but the words that come out of your mouth. When you lie it chips away at ones feelings. I know from my past vanilla marriage, she had a real problem with the truth, even when it was beneficial to her , or it was just easier to tell the truth. I could never trust her, her not having the ability to tell the truth was not learned until a year or so into the marriage.

The first thing a Dominant tells a submissive when they meet is, always tell the truth, never lie. The same is suppose to go with the Dominant as well, the Submissive gives so much, and put so much trust into the relationship, if the Dominant is caught in a lie, again the ability to trust is very hard if even possible.

During a deep session, if the Dominant has not been truthful, it makes it almost impossible for the Submissive to truly let go, thus not getting the real enjoyment of play, if the Dominant had been up front and truthful. It is not how your going to be caught in a lie, it is when your going to be caught. Once you have been busted it is impossible to back track. One lie needs another, then another and another to cover up the first.

I do not understand over half of the Dominants I know are married, their wives are vanilla. So they look outside of the marriage to fulfill their kink. A lot of this I know is out of guilt, they would never face fuck their wife out of guilt, but when it comes to someone they really don’t have a commitment with with, it is different. It is much easier to use someone you don’t care about.

The nine years I was married I was miserable, the sex really sucked. In the end though I came clean about who and what I was and what I needed in a relationship. Yea I was asked to move out. While married I just sucked it up, played my role, and I tried to be the perfect Dad.

Sometime ago I had a friend call me from jail. He wanted me to post bail, the first words out of my mouth was how much and where. I then asked him what happened, and he told me his wife and him got into it, and he messed up and hit her. I did not post bail and we are no longer friends. While I did not understand his infidelity , the physical abuse was the last straw.  I have never understood why a man would hit a female, not matter how bad the argument got. More so I never understood how a man could beat a woman, during the day, then apologize that night and crawl on top just to bust a nut. Hitting is much worse than telling a lie, but the bruises do go away, while lies do not.

So what do you get by telling the truth? Pretty much anything you want within reason. The more one can trust, the more a submissive will give. I would imagine the same goes in a vanilla relationship. The more the submissive can trust the more they will give and in most cases without question.

Telling the truth goes a long way, even when it is going to hurt someone.

Image

Vile

Sex When I want It, And On My Terms

Posted in 24/7, abuse, anal sex, Arianna, Ass, ass fucking, ass play, bdsm, blow job, Collarme.com, communication, control, controlling, cum, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Deception, Divorce, Dominants, dress, Eating Pussy, emotional, Emotions, ethics, fetlife, foreplay, fucking, Giving Head, Honesty, infidelity, Law, Lies, life, Married Dominant, Married submissive, Master, Masters, men begging, morals, needy, No Rights, non caring, oral, oral sex, owning a slave, Patience, pleasure, positive reinforcement, Private Protocol, Protocol, Protocol public, pussy, Respect, Rough Sex, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, serve, sex, sex slaves, slave, submissive, sucking dick, The word NO, TPE, Trust, Viles House on February 26, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am not sure if sex is one of the advantages of being a Dominant has anything to do with this topic, but I hear a lot of vanilla guys talking about how their women cut them off, or they wont suck dick, and how their girlfriends refuse to have anal sex.

The truth be known many vanilla men are pussy’s. In many cases the female holds sex hostage, to use at their advantage, usually to get what they want. I remember hearing my aunt talking yo my uncle when I was very young, how he had better watch his mouth because it was not Thursday yet, which was payday for him. She may of been playing but now that I look back on it maybe she was serious. My uncle was an average looking guy nothing special. My aunt had always dated rich men she was catered to. My uncle was a union carpenter at that time he made like 14 an hr, back in the early 70’s I guess that was considered good money. I remember hearing my aunt saying how my uncle was not much to look at, but he treated her like a princess, but still she held sex hostage.

I got a lot of flake off of a post I wrote several months ago about how women were put here to serve.Well in most cases I still stand firm on my beliefs. There are those exceptions where the woman runs the house. There are those exceptions where the woman controls the man, and the man just bows down. I would imagine some are happy, but then again there are those men who lost their control early on, and had no idea how to regain it, or maybe just to afraid to grab their balls and step up to the plate, in fear of what? Yup not getting pussy, their weekly reward, get on and get off and leave me alone until next Thursday.

Some men just cower down like a beat puppy. This really in many ways makes me sick to my stomach , I cringe when I hear those almighty words YES DEAR. Wow really are you serious? Your really going to take that. Your going to put your head down turn around and run off to the little man cave she allows you to have so you are out of her hair. All because you are pussy whipped.

Those were the choices you made before getting married, or moving in with your girlfriend. I have a friend named matt, who lives with a girl, and he can only get on collarme or fetlife when she is not home. Now at one time he was a Daddy Dom or I thought he was, but like many people who are willing to settle for less until the next best thing comes along. So yea he is pussy whipped to the max, his penis runs his life. Matt is not allowed to come over to my house because his girlfriend thinks I am a bad influence on him. Me a bad influence on someone well it is possible I suppose.

Another friend Fred, I am not allowed over at his place anymore because of the same thing yea a bad influence. Fred pays a hooker 10.00 dollars twice a week to give him a blow job, I have never seen her but 10.00 bucks really, I can just imagine what she looks like. This has been going on for about five years same girl. Why? because his wife refuses to give head, or do anal, but he knew this before getting married.

So him and I are standing in the kitchen, I really hated going over to his place, they have 7 cats, and as many birds but the litter boxes are over running, the bird cages are dirty, and the smell is just well, like a land field. His wife stays home all day playing games on the computer. She does not cook very often, most of the time he picks up a pizza before coming home. So we are talking about this bitch he pays to suck his dick. He is paying roughly a thousand dollars a yr for head, plus keeping his wife up. That is just crazy, more so it is uncalled for. So I told him go in the living room drop your pants and tell her to give you head. Well her being the nosy bitch she is over heard me, here she comes running in the kitchen. Excuse me what did you say? I told fred to go in the living room drop his pants and tell you to give him head, if you did that he would not be paying a bitch to suck his dick. Okay she did not know about the hooker, my bad. He knew before he married the cow she did not suck dick or take it up the ass. He should man up and except his own stupidity. He made the choice he dug his own grave so suck it up.

We all know how I feel about infidelity ,I feel once in a relationship the two should remain monogamous, unless, and I do mean unless, the couple has made arrangements. The problem with cheating, you really do not know someone you just met, and the odds of taking something home are really great. How much guilt would that carry? Would your marriage be reparable ? Is it worth putting your family through such an ordeal when you get caught, because you will get caught, it is not how, it is when.. I have absolutely no respect for a dominant who steps out of his marriage because his wife wont take it up the ass. So he finds a bitch who will, knowing he will never leave his wife, kids and lose his home, on top of all the money he will end up paying out. Now the submissive is thinking different, and it will take about a year of ass fucking for her to figure that out.

A Dominant who is married, and steps out of his marriage is a punk ass pussy. Your a fake hiding behind a title you do not deserve. While you have some bitch tied to a bed, your loving wife is home cooking dinner and helping the kids with their home work. Fuck I get worked up over this bullshit. Your a pussy and I will tell you to your face.

Here is the thing, I have a friend who is a Dominant, he is seeing a married woman, he is married as well but separated. The married submissive can only have sex with her husband when she is given permission. Are you kidding me? Her husband puts food on the table, pays her bills, a roof over her head, and a car to drive, but she is not allowed to have sex with him. Get the fuck out. The same goes for a female if your not happy, cut the rope and get the fuck out, be who you need to be, you do not have to drag your whole family down with you.

Maybe being a Dominant and owner does have its advantages, but I have met other Dom’s who have the same problem, they are pussy whipped, the first time a submissive says no , the dominant blows up then he wants to exert his authority. I am your Master Bitch you will do as I say. Come on now you have heard it as well, or the Dom will start pouting, or even worse he will pull the guilt trip out of his box of tricks.

The word NO is not in Arianna’s vocabulary, the word NO never comes out of her mouth. I will admit she still does hesitate at somethings, but she is slowly learning , I have her best interest in mind.

Sex I love sex, I love to fuck, I love getting my dick sucked, I love eating pussy, and if I am really into you I will even rim. Last night I rubbed lotion on Arianna, maybe not a full massage but close. Then I just got the urge to go down on her, so down south I went, for a good ten minutes or so, just loving life. I did not want anything in return, I just love eating pussy. So without saying a word I pulled the covers down I opened her thighs and went to town, I did not ask or say a word. The same with getting head, if I am in the mood laying in bed, I will just grab her by her hair and pull her down to my cock.

Yesterday I got the urge to fuck, I told Arianna to strip and get on her back, she did as instructed, I crawled on top busted a nut, and got off of her, I was done. Now most of the time I spend a lot of time when it comes to sex, I love hearing and seeing a woman get off, so I try to make sure I take care of her, but at times it is just about me.

I run my house, I control my house, it is my way and only my way, no questions asked. This was the agreement we had before entering a relationship. Sex when I want, how I want, where I want, be it oral, pussy or anal, it is about me. If you settle for less, you will never be happy, and I refuse to end up being the cheating Dom having to rent a motel room. I refuse to pay for pussy.

Being a Dominant, a Master and owner means a great deal of responsibility, A Dominant should be able to give 100% and no less to his property. We must be available 24/7. Because if you are not, she will find someone who will be, it make take a little time but she will dump your sorry ass.

Sex is on my terms. Now if Arianna is not feeling well. I am considerate enough to wait. Again on my terms.

When out I do not dress Arianna like a slut, although she would wear what she was told to wear. When going out I instruct her on what she will be wearing. In the afternoon, I have clothes laid out, she knows to come in, pull her shoes off at the door, pick up her clothes and shower, no questions asked.

Arianna does not have options the only options are those I allow her. I do not talk much about our business, I generally just handle things, Arianna has enough on her plate now, so I do not bother her with the little stuff. The other day she asked about something, then she made the comment, well I guess it is on a need to know basis. My reply was your correct. If I feel I need to asked her for advice I will, but until then it is on a need to know.

Arianna comes first, no matter what. She knows she can wake me at 2am if she needs to, if she feels she needs to talk. She does however wake me to request to go to the bathroom, then permission to re-enter the bed. I am good with that. She was told early on about getting up or entering the bed.

Most would think our relationship is one way, but that is far from the course, most think my way of running a house is somewhat unorthodox , some think I am to strict. Well they do not pay my bills, nor does anyone put food on my table. How I run my house is my business. As long as Arianna is happy that is all that matters to me.

Arianna is by far the most compliant slave I have ever met. She enjoys task, she loves structure. She loves being limited to where she is allowed to sit. I do not believe Arianna could ever be replaced.

Sex on my terms, and only my terms. You guys need to think about those words instead of paying for a motel room, so you can have it on your terms. Go home to your wife.

 

Vile

Proactive Aftercare

Posted in Aftercare, bdsm, Bond, control, Conversation, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, ethics, Health, Love, Master, needy, Patience, proactive aftercare, problems, relationships, Safe, Safe and Sane, Sane, session, sex, slave, Sub Drop, sub-space, submissive, TPE, Trust on February 10, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Those who are submissive are very needy, I believe slaves are more needy on many different levels. Being proactive in a 24/7 live in relationship is really important. I do believe it takes a lot more interaction and communication than a vanilla relationship. I know I keep bringing this up but if I am really anal about something, I feel the need.

When most say aftercare, the term is used mainly after play, be it just intense bondage, hard spanking, humiliation, you get the picture, but the fact is aftercare should be an on going process play or no play.

The needy is much different than a regular relationship. While I do not still understand how the neediness factors in with subs and slaves, if you are in a D’s relationship it is more noticeable.

I like the word Proactive, the after care is on going, never ending, and along with such care comes a great deal of responsibility. I cannot speak enough on being consistent, that is something that took me many years to master, listening also plays a huge factor , along with much needed communication.

I have said a hundred times that sub-drop can be prevented, and I truly believe this. Sub-drop does accrue mainly while in a long distance relationship, or when two are not 24/7. It is not to say even if you are 24/7 that it cannot happen, but if you are paying your sub or slave the attention they need, the chances of sub-drop are indeed very slim.

Sub-drop the opposite of sub-space can last anywhere from Ten minutes to a couple of days or more. Again the drop happens mostly when two are not 24/7.

This is a Time when the Dominant should step up to the plate and be who he is, and nothing less. If you are not 24/7 you really have a lot on your hands, and may end up spending hours on the phone, until they have calmed down. Sub-space can be just as bad as a drop, and the same attention should be giving.

At times after real intense play a submissive or slave may want to be left alone for a short time, so they are able to gather their thoughts, and figure out their surroundings, before talking or being held.

After care is looked over way to often, as many dominants really do not see the need, some believe, some do not.

The bottom line is, if you take care of your property, and run a well managed care program, the relationship will be unlike any other.

Image

Vile