A while back I blogged about how I truly believe women were put here to serve, and I received a lot of bad feed back, not that I care, because I am me, and nothing about me will change. I would like to give a better explanation on my feelings.
I have been in the lifestyle a very long time as most of you know. As I had stated my first was a Total Masochist, also into heavy humiliation. I have lived in a Poly relationship, which at that time was good, but I do not think that would be something I would ever want to pursue again. I was a Daddy Dom for some 7 years. In the beginning it was not something I was into, but it slowly grew on me.
Now I am more into the D’s aspect of the lifestyle. My last relationship was a slave who was a masochist, and it really did nothing for me. That was Lyn who turned out to be married. I was going to end things anyway, just because I was not getting anything out of the relationship, but being married, and seeing what it was doing to her family was really the last straw. So I gave her the mind fuck of the decade. She left on her own.
Someone had posted on my FB that after being married for 10 years now he has these BDSM urges and he asked me if I thought it was okay if he stepped out and dated other women who were in the lifestyle. Well that is on you. After he spoke with his wife about his now needs she was totally against the idea.
This is just my opinion if your married stay married, or be a man and get a Divorce like Lion and I did. If the shoe was on the other foot, and the man caught his wife fucking around the male would come unglued ,even if the male is seeing someone else. The wife is expected to stay home and take care of the kids. No matter how slick or careful you are, you always get caught. The damage that is done to the family is not repairable.
Women were put here to serve, that is a bold statement.When I said that, I did not mean, as someone just to cook and do laundry, clean the house, or not be allowed to have an opinion, or a say. You cannot live the lifestyle 24/7, you have to be a normal couple at times. You have to sit down and talk things out, when problems arise.
Serving is an agreement between the two, coming to an agreement, on what each expect out of the lifestyle, now and in the future.
While it is true, the Dominant will have needs the submissive is not into, as with the submissive will have needs the Dominant is not into, both do to please.
I enjoy cooking, as a matter of fact I prefer to do 80% of the cooking, I do not mind washing dishes, or doing a load of laundry sometimes..
My last blog on this subject was pretty harsh. The problem is, everyone made negative comments, but not one asked any questions, in order for me to clarify my statement.
Yes women were put here to serve, but under a consensual agreement. Once the two have come to an agreement, that is what you stay with.
Being truthful and honest with both upfront is very important.