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My Story The Breaking Of Sabrina. Breaking A Slave

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In the past just in general conversation, I have had Dominants who were friends of mine who had spoken of wanting to break a slave.
Why do you want to break a slave? Because I want to, I want that control.

The truth is you can have that control, and probably more control without Breaking a Slave.

Although The Breaking Of Sabrina had some fiction in it, some of it was real, and things like I spoke about do happen on a daily basis.

There was a Dominant who came to a munch a couple of years ago, who said he ran a Slave camp in Ocala Florida, after talking for a while I was invited, but I declined.

That is not the way I roll, and if I see nothing I know nothing.

Even today I would not want to take on such a task, nor would I want that kind of responsibility

The Breaking Of Sabrina is about a man who wanted something he knew nothing about. He thought he wanted what Vile had, but once he had it he did not know what to do with her, and in the end she left her husband, and Sabrina and Vile are still together, in the book anyway.

There are two ways to Break a Slave, consensual , and non-consensual.
I have seen the consensual side of Breaking, by a Dominant I know who lives local here, and through the weeks I clearly saw the transformation the slave went through. I suppose being willing to be broken play a Hugh part in the process, but I also suppose being with a Dominant you care about and want to stay but putting up a resistance would make things more difficult. It would depend on how far you want to go, and how much your willing to give up.

Breaking a slave does not have to be physical, although I am sure that is what some of the steps that are taking during the process.

Breaking one would be more of a mental thing, and the unknowing. Getting inside your head and playing with your brain like putty.

I had mentioned before about a Slave camp here where I live, does it really exist ? I am not really sure, it may because I would not of been invited to something that was not real.

One does not have to be extreme in order to be abusive, even minor abuse to me is extreme.

To Break a slave means you have to bring them back up. More importantly you must have the ability to bring the slave back up, and the want as well as the dedication.

Although I could, that is not again a responsibility or task I would even think of taking on.

If you are thinking about taking on such a task, you the Dominant needs to insure you are in the relationship for the long haul. Anything short lived could have bad effects on the slave, and may have trouble even functioning , or you could even cause a severe breakdown.

You have to think, why would you need to try and break someone’s will? What are you going to get out of it ? What do you plan on accomplishing ? What is the slave going to get out of this type of training ?

Before you begin your training, you should already know what steps you are going to take.

The one advantage you have over your slave or submissive, while your training, they will be spending much of their time trying to figure you out. Trying to figure out the Dominant is not a shirt term task either, so it is very important the Dominant keeps changing things up.

Breaking someone’s will can take less than 48 hours, up to about 6 weeks. Do you really want to spend that much time? If you do not live together it will be impossible to reach that point. Breaking someone is not something you can do on the weekends.

Also there should be no physical abuse, that will just blow up in your face. There should be no abuse at all.
Breaking a slave is Mental, it is getting deep in their mind.

Humiliation will play a huge part in this type of training. Everyone’s definition of humiliation is different, so the Dominant will have to explore, and see which avenue he will want to take..

The Training of a Slave is a form of breaking. It is actually a form of mind modification, you are reprogrammed. You are now told how to do task you did on a daily basis, but now you are being shown a different way. You must adapt to your surroundings.
What most do not understand is the training really never ends, because the Master is making sure everything stays in check.
I myself may add something or take away something, the last thing I want to do is cause an overload.

The breaking of a slave can be said the Master is causing a complete breakdown, and starting with a blank canvas. It can also get to a point where they slave cannot even think for their selves any longer.

The story The Breaking of Sabrina was about a greedy man who wanted something someone else had, but once he got it, he did not know what to do or how to handle. Yea not having instructions can be bad.

You cannot beat someone into submission, you can however beat someone into fear, and fear is all you have, with fear there is no relationship you have a puppet who is scared of you.

This is where the trust factor comes into play. It has to be a Dominant that you know and you are willing to just turn your life over to.
If you think about it that is a huge decision and one that should be giving a lot of thought.

As I stated it would have to be something the Dominant would be able to devote a lot of time.

Everyone’s definition of Breaking a slave will be different, but I am a firm believer it can be done and should be done without pain.

Humiliation will play a huge roll in the breaking as well as sex, and just being used. Maybe not being allowed to go to the bathroom, not being able to eat, and being talked to in a very humiliating way.
If you are willing with no resistance the time frame would be much shorter than if you did put up any resistance.

Arianna went through a Breaking in process, I would of never taking her down as I have stated above.

The other thing that should be considered is their mental well being, and the medications they are on. You could really hurt someone, if you are not experienced.

I have seen the process, I have seen it in person and I have seen the outcome as well, and in that case it turned out okay.
She did however become fully dependent upon the master.
He then was in his mid 60’s and she had not turned 30, so you have to look at the whole picture. What if something happens to him?

Something I have tried to explain not only to the younger Doms who are in the learning process, but older Doms who are new as well.
While the learning process is not easy, it can be very rewarding.
Then about two weeks into the lifestyle they know everything, and any advice is shunned. When their relationships are not working they want to put all the blame on the slave or submissive.

I find it very funny because even after 20 years or so I am still learning everyday. Everyday is a new day, and we should continue to grow.
Many times however some will let their egos get in the way.
I am in the Dominant in the relationship and I know what I am doing.
I am the Dominant you have no right to question me. I am in charge and you will listen. If you would do what you were told we would not be having these problems.
It just goes on and on.

These are the same Dominants who are not welcome with in the community. These are the same Dominants , that meet those slaves and subs who have been in the lifestyle for sometime, and they will have nothing to do with them….

While they will say it is not their fault, it is indeed they are just to blind to see, what they are doing wrong.

I learned sometime ago there comes a time you have to be humble, you also have to be willing you made a mistake. You have to have a level of respect.
Today there are older Dominants I will address as Sir out of respect.

You have to ask the Dominant what his goals are, what are his intentions, what does he plan to get out of the relationship?
There are so many things we tend to look over because you are in the excitement mode and your mind is going a 100 miles an hour.

Just like my story The Breaking Of Sabrina , he did not know what to do with her once he had her.

I have a much longer version coming out soon, and Sabrina will be helping with the training..

If your going to Break a slave or Submissive, make sure you have the time to dedicate, your willing to be in for the long haul, and you have the right tools and resources available to you..

breaking

Vile

The Young Dominant

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I talked about this before, I went to a Munch a couple of years ago. It was in a pizza restaurant. I asked the hostess where the group was meeting and she walked me to a conference room. I was met at the door by what looked like a guy who was maybe twenty years old. He told me I was not welcome because I was over 35.

I stated I had just seem him at our Munch the month before. He said our Munch was not age restricted. So as I was putting my hair in a pony tail. I just said fine and turned around and walked out.  WOW .

I am going to cover a few things here when it comes to younger Dominants and older, and problems that you subsmissives and slaves should stay away from.

I know in my twenty’s I had anger issues. I was barely able to really control my life. The only thing that kelp me straight was the fact I was in the army at the age of 17. So I had to grow up fast.

My interest in BDSM came to me while stationed in Korea. I had just turned 18. Even before that I knew I was different when it came to being with a woman. I had always enjoyed rough sex, bondage, pulling hair and spanking. I remember the first girl I fisted her name was Beverly. I was still in high school. That was really a trip to be fucking her with my arm. Then when I pulled out she squirted.

At the age of eighteen , twenty, twenty five, thirty , although I considered myself to be a Dominant. I was still far from being in control. I still had anger issues.

You take a younger submissive, and a Dom with anger issues, the submissive really does not know the difference. The younger submissive thinks that is what the lifestyle is about. At times I have even seen it get physical.

If your a Dominant and you argue with your submissive, scream and yell. Just who is the Bitch in the relationship now? When in fact the submissive is looking for someone who is stable, someone in full control, someone with structure, someone who care share their life experiences. Someone who is responsible. At the age of twenty this guy turns me away. I did not get angry, I was just in shock. It is not like I was going to try and run the show. I was just more less interested. I cannot go to their munch but their welcome at hours.

We as Dominants have to be able to maintain control, be it at home, out with friends, or at work. Okay work I am not so good at, I have lost my temper and the world knew it. For a Slave to see her Master out of control, I am guessing that would give her a much different outlook on their relationship.

Here in a few I am going to post a thread I found on Fetlife. a 24 year old Dominant. I have contacted him to let him know he was going to be my main topic today

Another Dominant to avoid is one who suffers from depression. If he cannot control his own life, how in the world can he control someone else. Someone who suffers from depression that is not their fault. In most cases they have no control over their depression.

We as Dominant are suppose to be in full control, we are looked up to. We are suppose to be there for support.

Many who are submissive or Saves suffer from depression, Arianna is one. So I have to take great care when it comes to her submission. I know how far I can push her. I know her limits, and I would never cross them. Not because I cant, because I care.

So a twenty year old submissive is caught in a catch 22. She does not like older men, but she is being abused by a 22 year old who calls himself a Master

I have always encouraged those who were younger, to try and find an older Dominant, so that you could experience the real side of BDSM.

I am not saying all Young Dominants are this way, but we know women mature much faster than men do. Dam did I just say that. Even at 51 my childish thoughts still come out. The difference being I can control my emotions.

If you scream and yell at your partner, your really fucked up. If you fight with your submissive or slave your really fucked up. If you argue with your submissive or lose your temper. Who is the Bitch then ?

I have talked to younger Dominants in their twenty’s and it was like I was trying to blow smoke up their ass. There was nothing I could tell them because they already knew everything.

I enjoy teaching those who are younger , sharing my life experiences. The truth is very few even want to listen. Even when those who are older ask me how I maintain my relationship, there like man fuck that. That is way to much work.

When in fact it is really no work at all. The first couple of months in-tells a little work because your implementing your plan.Your laying down the ground work, on how you want your house ran. Your laying out your protocols , your rules. What is expected. Then you have to remain consistent.

It is the Slave who has to do all the work, they have to adapt to your way. They have to give up control, and follow, but they are not going to follow some dumb ass, and they will put up resistance.  Resistance causes anger, it causes the younger Dominant to lose control, he will lose his temper.

If a slave is putting up resistance, then it is something the Dominant is doing or not doing. If you lead they will follow. If your pulling a Custer’s Last Stand guess what most will not go down with you.

If a Submissive or Slave argues with you, it is your fault, you are the one fucking up not them. It is you the Dominant who is not thinking clear.

Asking advice. Most Dominants will not ask advice because they already know everything. Well you don’t know everything because if you did you would not be going through all the hell your going through.

The lifestyle is about consent, the lifestyle is about being safe and sane.

I am against any type of abuse be it physical or verbal, even mental abuse. Playing that fucking pity me card. No one cares about me, well if you think that your probably right. You as the Dominant should be able to lead. You are followed by your actions public and private. If your a total dumb ass no one is going to follow you.

So I was reading this thread on Fetlife and a young Dominant was asking a question about permission. If he needed permission to touch someone. This is his train of thought

Here it is. I would like different opinions on this subject. I am not going to post his profile but check it out.

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Asking a sub permission?

 

by Budday 2 days ago

 

I’ve been into the lifestyle for a long while but I’ll admit I’ve had my moments where I went back an forth with being involved in it. I’ve flirted with unown subs a lot before when I’m subless and always given a bit of dominance to a point where I’m not leading it to sex or anything. Like pulling, ass spanking, hair grabbing, small things and it was never a problem before, in fact I’ve had it help actually grab a sub’s attention and like me for it.

 

Although lately; I’ve been having moments where an unown sub would get upset and apparently tell me I didn’t ask for permission or that’s not an OK thing for a Dom to do with out owning her. Each time I question; “What? When was there ever a rule to how to flirt with an unown sub?” It’ll also happen at times when something has been done to make it seem like it would have naturally been ok. Like spank her ass and been ok with it but suddenly a gentle pull on her wrist to bring her close is not ok. . .

 

 

Now this is his train of thought and he is 24 years old. He has been in the lifestyle a very long time.

 

 

Lastly if you are a Dominant and you have anger issues, you need to either fix yourself, get help, or just drop out of the lifestyle. There is no room at all for abuse.

 

Being a Dominant is not about getting your cock sucked, or fucking someone up the ass because your wife wont allow you to.

 

 

If your not sure what role a Dominant plays, or what his demeanor is suppose to be google it, make google your best friend. Hook up with other Doms in the local community.

 

 

#1 A Dominant is always HONEST

 

#2 A real Dominant will listen

 

#3 A real Dominant has no anger issues.

 

# 4 A real Dominant will not expect you to suck cock on the first meeting

 

#5  Beware of a Dominant when he says he suffers from depression. How can

 

he take care of you when he cant take care of himself.

 

#6  A job

 

#7  His own place.

 

#8 One of the most important things. He takes you to his own house. If he will not take

 

you to his house, or tell you where he lives, he is married.

 

#9 You the submissive put your foot down when you first meet, you do not know this guy

 

from jack, you owe him nothing, notta. You tell him the first sign of any anger or abuse you

 

are gone. You will vanish like a bad cold.

 

#10 Your sessions are only in his car. I had a friend tell me not long ago, when she was seeing a Dominant

 

they would only play in his car. You can guess why I am sure.

 

 

It is you the submissive that is giving, the Dominant is taking. If your going to submit, and lay on your back

 

why not do it with someone who truly cares for you. Someone who is going to be there for you, someone

 

who appreciates you, someone who is going to give in return.

 

 

I am not sure what happens but you meet this Dom, and you get stupid. You sit there with your eyes down, because

 

you have been told no eye contact before you even meet. Once you agree to that, you have already submitted. He has you right

 

where he wants you.

 

When he tells you I want you to wear a short skirt no panties and you comply, you have submitted to a man you don’t even know.

 

If your just going out to eat, what does it matter what you wear?

 

 

If I was just going to use someone this is me. and I knew there was not a chance in hell of me hooking up with them in a long term relationship . I would tell them short skirt no panties. I wanted some pussy that’s all.

 

If I told the sub no eye contact when we meet, I knew I had her, I was getting my nob polished I knew that.

 

 

If you say no to anything, and he gets mad guess what he is not the only dude in the world.

 

 

We all have to start somewhere when it comes to the lifestyle, but if your looking into a new career and your applying for jobs, most of the time you will hear we are looking for someone with more experience  Even fresh out of school, you hear the same thing. need more experience.

 

I went through the same thing before I found my first slave and she was willing to teach me. The key word TEACH.

 

Truth be told it took me almost a year to find my first slave. Most I contacted knew I was new and had no experience.

 

 

Why would you trust someone who has no experience? Why would you trust someone who has no life experience ? Most still have major anger issues.

 

 

I am not putting you guys down in no way, I was there once, but like me and your the same I was in it for the pussy, the head, I could do anything I wanted to, and I got away with it.

 

 

Those who I contacted that had been in the lifestyle for any amount of time would not give me the time of day. I was a waste of their time because they knew for one I did not have a clue , and I was not in it for the long haul.

 

 

As with any career it takes time to grow to the top, it does not happen over night.

 

 

The example above says it all, look at his profile, look at other profiles around the same age… You will see as always I am right.  Okay maybe not always.

 

 

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Vile