The Slave Is A Direct Reflection Of You

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, bdsm, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Train your slave, Training Arianna, Uncategorized with tags , , , on November 5, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

The Slave , the Submissive , the Baby Girl you train is a direct reflection of you. A direct reflection of how your home is ran m your training , your protocols and even the way your property dresses. When out together the way your property acts is a direct reflection of you the owner, when you have company over , a direct reflection.

Much of this falls under your training , your protocols and really how much you care. If you really do not give a fuck it shows.

The more you show you care , the more protocols you put in place , the more you enforce your rules the more your property will appreciate you.

Vile

 

 

Five Years Ago

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Building a BDSM Relationshp, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, https://www.facebook.com/vile62, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Total Submission, TPE, Training your submissive, Uncategorized with tags , , on November 5, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

Wow fucking time flies , where the fuck the did years go?

Around November 12th five years ago Arianna and I met , two strangers looking for the same thing.  When introduced I felt a instant connection , I just wanted to listen and listen. I probed questions out of her just so I could listen more. The second meeting I knew Arianna was the one but I had a lot to prove. I could tell trust was going to be a huge factor. One advantage I had is we were both looking for the same thing.  We were both looking for a 24/7 Master/Slave relationship. When entering a relationship in our lifestyle its extremely hard to change someones ways if their mind is already set. Why would you the Dominant or Master want to change someone into something they are not?

I hate the word lifestyle , lifestyle has so many different meanings. You change your diet that is a lifestyle change. You change your job , that is a lifestyle change. So why cant we just say our way of life?

Arianna had been in two previous relationships and neither of them were good or healthy , so it was I who had to clean up the mess, it was I who had to get the bad taste out of her mouth , and it was I who had to erase all the bad and replace with good , this is why trust was going to be a huge issue.

I never really got the dating sites , it just seems like way to much work and then you really don’t even know who you are talking with. If you want to meet someone who has the same interest you do then get out and attend different functions. No ones going to see you , there is no sign up at Munchs that says all Masters and Slaves this room. Munchs or coffee’s are not sex parties , just a bunch of people sitting around getting to know each other.

One mistake we make a humans is we tend to settle for less. We do this because as humans we need the intimate touch of another. We need to know we are not only wanted but needed. Those relationships are short lived and usually only has has the feelings of knowing its not going to last.

I gave Arianna a collar of protection the second or third week , it was not a sign of ownership but to show others she was taken, to show others she was hands off.

Training Arianna was much different from my past relationships , I wanted to go much deeper than I had before. In order to maintain the type of submission you as a Dominant wants to achieve , you have to be on top of your game 24/7. You will find at times you may have to change things up a little. It is very easy to gain control if your slave is in the right frame of mind , but to keep them there is where the task comes into play.

Life is good…

Vile

Consensual Objectification

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationship, Consensual Objectification, Dominant and Submissive, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Humiliation, Sexual Objectification, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Uncategorized with tags , , , on October 30, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

A very touchy subject to most ok for some it can be good but very can relate but I shall explain where I am coming from and maybe you will agree or maybe you will not.

 

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person as a mere object of sexual desire. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity. Objectification is most commonly examined at the level of a society, but can also refer to the behavior of individuals.

The concept of sexual objectification and, in particular, the objectification of women, is an important idea in feminist theory and psychological theories derived from feminism. Many feminists regard sexual objectification as deplorable and as playing an important role in gender inequality. However, some social commentators argue that some modern women objectify themselves as an expression of their empowerment.

Here come the feminist , I can hear the roar , the abuse , the lack of caring , but yet will lack the knowledge of what I am about to talk about.

Consensual Sexual Objectification , just as entering a D’s or M’s relationship everything is negotiated and is done so both fully understanding what is and is not being consented to.

Being treated as a object , a toy , but with these thoughts comes cherished , valued , and needed. I will explain my thoughts.

In a M’s relationship love is needed , caring is needed , communication is needed , showing appreciation , showing you value the relationship. There is a but and a big but , in order to maintain a M’s relationship there has to be some sort of separation in the mind.

Master and Slave not boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife , you are Master and Slave. In our minds we use the term owner/property. I own but it is a consensual ownership. A ownership that has grown over the years.

Arianna and I entered our relationship as Master and Slave so there was no confusion on where we stood. As we grew and our minds expanded , Arianna’s thoughts  came to Owner/property.

My thoughts turned to sexual objectification , a body for my use. A body for my use as I wanted to , when I wanted and how I wanted. I no longer see a mouth a pussy or ass I see three holes for my use. Yea that does sound pretty bad , in fact many will see it as abuse.

So what is the definition of Master and Slave ? Does a Slave have rights or a voice ? Absolutely they do , they have the rights and a voice , the same rights and voice when the relationship was negotiated. Can the terms of the relationship be renegotiated ? Again absolutely  at the Masters discretion. I myself decide when the terms of our relationship can be renegotiated. There is a but and a big but. If there is good communication a good Master can see the needs of his slave. A good Master will make adjustments and many times without the Slaves knowledge and I have done in the past and recent without Arianna knowing.

Can Arianna sit down and say hey I am interested a D’s relationship or a Daddy Baby girl relationship , would I then make adjustments ? Absolutely not , we met I explained my needs and wants in great detail , I also stated I was not willing to change or renegotiate my terms.

The frame of mind when it comes to the Slave , the need to serve , not a want. The need to please the owner , not because one is being forced. One cannot demand submission , one cannot gain submission through fear , submission is earned and earned through respect. Respect is not giving , respect is earned as with trust.

I have learned in the past in a D’s or M’s relationship you can let your feeling get in the way. Maybe not wanting to enforce rules , or when a rule is broken , not wanting to punish. I have also learned physical punished is not always the best avenue to take.

My way of thinking there has to be a mental wall , a wall that separates your feelings in a relationship. There is a very loving and caring side but there is a side that can be a total Dick.

In modern times we all know you cannot own a slave. The way we live is a mindset , it has grown into a way of living. Kinda like changing your eating habits trying to live a healthier life. It is not something that happens over night , there are steps that are taking and before you can take any steps you have to have a plan of action  and you must follow each step in the order you meant them to be. Once all steps are in place you have to maintain that level of everything you have put into place.

The object or the objectification , looking at someone as object even while having sex. Although there are feelings , I have a wall that separates two things , one being love , and the other being somewhat cold looking at my partner as a Slave , maybe cold is the wrong word but there is a wall..

RAPE

Now before I continue I will talk about consent , non-consent. If you both agree to enter a relationship is rape possible ? Now in a D’s relationship is rape possible? What about a M’s relationship is rape possible ? Is it right to give consent to fuck then take the consent away? If being in a relationship and your looked at as being a object a consensual object is rape possible? Rape is probably the worst act of violence there is. A man forcing himself on a woman or man , or maybe a woman raping a man. No one who commits such a act should never see the light of day.

My point is how can one consent then at a later date take the consent away? I am speaking about any type of relationship. There is a but , there is always a but. If there is a case of abuse , physical , mental or verbal which can be mental as well. Then I believe consent can be taken away.

I get fixated on a word at times and the word I am fixated on is Objectification , I stumbled across a article and it made a lot of sense. I contacted the Author and asked for permission to use his material and was granted permission.

– Sir Vice
© Limits Unleashed 2017

http://www.limitsunleashed.com/sexual-objectification-pt1/

Introduction

In this post I will be sharing a preview of a workshop I’m giving to a few events on sexual objectification & training.  In this instance we are defining sexual objectification fairly literally, that being (a) the act of treating a person as an instrument of sexual pleasure; (b) broadly implies treating a person as a commodity or an object.

The caveat is that none of the above should occur without full and enthusiastic consent.  In other words we are paying careful and mindful attention to the fact that we are dismissing the third common definition – (c) often without regard to others personal dignity or emotional experiences.

As a result, sexual objectification play is much more suited as an activity within a defined scene than a part of a 24/7 lifestyle. This is due to the risk that a habit can develop where the Dominant forgets that the submissive must be a willing participant.

Clarification

Consensual sexual objectification is less concerned with the immediate feelings or experience for the sake of providing or achieving a sense of value through utility.  Participants in BDSM and the objectification kink cannot fully remove all elements of self-agency and responsibility without the risk of it turning into abusive and unhealthy behaviors.  As a result, even objectification still must be consensual activity, though it can be very blurry (i.e. edge-play and/or Total Power Exchange).

As a result, this type of activity requires invoking a certain suspension of disbelief in having this role insisted on or subjected upon the submissive or bottom even though they are a willing participant, has negotiated proper opportunities and boundaries, and can cease such activities with the appropriate safe word.

Looking Deeper

There are many types and variants on sexual objectification. Most often the focus is on the use or attributes which defines the object, versus the experience (since objects don’t have experiences).  Common types include:

  • Role: bimbo/himbo, personal slut, sex slave
  • Toys & Parts: fuck doll, live dildo, T&A, etc
  • Degradation: party favor, house slut, performer/entertainment

So what is the attraction?  First we must acknowledge that the benefits people receive in sexual objectification are quite subjective to those involved. That said, the most often expressed benefits include a clear sense of role & purpose (utilitarian); the feeling of being removed guilt or shame; and a lighter conscious knowing that matters of safety and care are left to the one in control.

Sexual objectification is often no different in other forms of objectification in that the submissive or bottom will often experience being “turned on by turning off” – shutting off the brain, silencing the chatter, and allowing themselves to go into a state of dissociation (sub-space) and just “enjoy the ride”.

Note how these benefits often are about subverting the sense of personal agency to the whim of another’s control as a means to fulfilling desires or fantasies.  As such, sexual objectification is a very focused practice in power exchange – the Owner of the object, and the owned as the object, which exists for the enjoyment and use of the Owner.

All Good in Theory

As with many elements of BDSM and fetish activities, much sounds like a good idea in theory. I have found this to be particularly true of sexual objectification.  Indeed, the reality of such play may be vastly different that of your imagination.  As a result, all parties involved need to be mindful that something can (and likely will) go awry in practice.

All those involved must be prepared to plan for setbacks and triggers, as such events are nearly inevitable, and adapt accordingly.  Change and re-evaluation is an eventuality, not a possibility. This is largely because of the potential emotional risks involved in any kind of edge play, especially ones that are deeply psychological.  Key risk factors and setbacks include significant disillusionment; the loss of confidence or security in the relationship; prior abuse & PTSD triggers; mismatched pace or desire of progression (rushing); or finding deep contradictions in core values & beliefs.

As such, it is extremely important to strike a balance between the rewards and risks.  All those involved must be adaptable and ready to recognize challenges and change to help address issues.  In some cases that means taking a step back, while in others it may be re-negotiation as new limits may be uncovered.  Only thoughtful communication and discussion will help you surmount these moments and potentially adjust to them.

Closing

Depending on how well this post is received I may continue with a “part 2” will be looking at a methodology which describes a framework for how to actually train someone in this role. If you want to see part 2 make sure you rate the post and like/share through social media so we know you want more.   😉

For now, I will leave you with the strong suggestion that many things seem like a good idea at the time, and are exciting to entertain within the mind or bedroom on occasion.  Taking it further, however, requires significantly more investment of time and attention to ensure everyone is on the same page.  This means careful consideration of needs, wants, and limits; constantly evaluating and communicating; and being very adaptable and forgiving when things go off the intended path.

That said, if you find enough common working ground, you can find deep satisfaction and excitement as you explore hidden needs and unlock them through sexual objectification.

Yes there is a part two , the information here is really informative. I ran across several articles but found Sir Vice to have very in depth information…

Sexual Objectification Part 2 Training.

Introduction

In my prior post on Sexual Objectification Pt.1 I provided a high level introduction to what it is, why people do it, and some things to think about in terms of starting your exploration.  In this Part 2 writing I’m going to dive more into the Training aspect.  How does one train a submissive (or prepare if you are a submissive) for sexual objectification play and conditioning.  The methodologies in the following are typically key elements in sexual objectification training, which in no way is standardized.  Everyone has their own way of doing things. The below is presented in order of what I have found useful, but is subject to interpretation and the fit and response of those involved.

Negotiation

Before you even start the training, you have to try to get a full appreciation of the page on which everyone rests.  If you haven’t read my post on Negotiation & Consent, I strongly advise you do so before proceeding.

 

To review, Negotiation requires active participation by all parties to constructively and collaboratively build a framework of success.  This means being able to openly discuss desires, needs, limits, and potential solutions.  Sexual objectification training should therefore begin with an assignment for all to outline a history of inspiration or desire for this activity – What influences brought you here to desire to explore this aspect of yourself?   Itemize the desires, fantasies, wants and needs in one list.  Similarly, you should also itemize potential triggers, traumas, restrictions, or limitations.  For both of these lists it’s important to then prioritize by “forced ranking” – meaning each category can only have one number one or top priority.  This helps to reduce conflict resolution between wants, needs, and limitations.

 

Only once this is accomplished can you hope to sit down to compare & contrast ones desires with the limits, both for yourself (no matter what side of the power dynamic you are on) as well as between those involved.  This is when you start to work to find solutions as a cooperative team with the goal of developing something that is mutually satisfying.

Planning

Once everyone has a common understanding and goal, it takes some planning to get there.  Achieving any goal or destination requires some degree of active planning, at least at a high level or outline format.  This is to help ensure progress is taken in measured steps, and that all involved are ready for the next step once signs are clear.  As in Negotiation, there needs to be ongoing discussion about readiness, comfort levels, and if the goals remain valid.  Remember that change is inevitable, especially as progress is made, and one has to adjust accordingly.

 

Execution and planning is largely up to Dominant/Owner in the relationship, having drafted at least a rough plan or road-map with Indicators that things are on the right track.  The submissive must provide feedback & input, so a calm “sit down” is required prepare the submissive mentally and help remind them this is something that they accepted and are actively responsible for choosing to support.

Intensity & Control

Once conditioned to respond, constant use becomes predictable. As such one needs to intensify use through building sexual tension, feelings of suspense, even lack of use.  One needs to disrupt the rhythm in order to add to the intensity.  There is no brightness without experiencing the shadow, so contrast is required to help highlight the response and value from use.  One can accomplish this with periods of abstinence, edging, ad hoc “quickies”, public sexual simulation (without release), and others.

 

This is a form of control via removing the submissive’s sense of personal agency and self-control. The more the submissive is likely to be used at any time, the more likely they become compliant and remain fully “on alert” and desirous. Of course, you cannot do this without slowly ramping up the level of control.  You can exhibit control through general appearance & dress, dictated use (when and where), forced orgasm, using some spontaneous variety and/or innovation, etc.   Essentially you want to get to a place that says the sexual object is to be used by any and all (negotiated) means, at any time or place.  Again, within the confines of the negotiated and consensual terms.

 

Note that the above introduces selective chaos by creating patterns and then disrupting them.  We break the pattern to add to the suspense, we add tension by adding measures of interruption or uneven rhythm.  The purpose is to stimulate desire while conditioning to be “always ready” since the when is never quite known.  While surprise can build anxiety, if carefully employed gradually over time, it can greatly enhance progress.

Assess & Revise as Needed

Pushing the envelope of progression too far & too fast will cause problems, setbacks, or relationship failures.  All involved need to keep communication channels open and have regular “touch base” conversations.  Avoid giving in to frenzy or over-ambitiousness and trying to speed things along, as this will often lead to a catastrophic failure.  Cautious pacing is needed, as well as the need to remain adaptable.  Sometimes a step back is required to evaluate where someone is emotionally, physically, or otherwise.  The more we respect the truth that everyone processes their inner world experiences differently and at different rates, the less firm out expectations are and the more flexible we can be to a given situation.  The benefit of being “soft” is that we can respond with grace under pressure and allow progress to resume, even if modified.  What is too resolute and hard in its ways will often break.

 

Bear in mind broken toys are no fun, and leaving wreckage is irresponsible at best.  If we can accept the reality as it happens, then we can manage the consequences more readily and appropriately.  Managing the consequences (versus the intent) means working collaboratively, being clear in communication, and honesty with yourself and with all others.  Other than just managing the situation, we have to show compassion – care for another’s wellbeing.  Keep in mind to prioritize safe & healthy practices which will not damage or harm yourself or others physically or emotionally.  Take care of yourselves, of one another, and remember this is only a Part of your life, not the whole of it.

Conclusion

Sexual objectification focuses on use & utility, and while very exciting a notion, it often can sounds better in theory than in practice.  Be very honest about wants, needs, limits & risks, and focus on collaborative negotiation constructively for everyone’s success.   Bear in mind this is a form of conditioning, so take your time, there’s no need to rush, and being able to move forward at all is better than having to abandon ship entirely.  Since sexual objectification training is like any edge-play, there are increased risks inherent – be adaptable, flexible, and able to change as needs arise.

– Sir Vice
© Limits Unleashed 2017

Any type of training takes time , the first initial maybe 90 days , then depending on your goal 8 to 12 months. There is a conditioning  a transformation the slave goes through and this is a slow process. The training never ends it is a daily activity , that comes with consistency.

Vile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Consensual Objectification

Posted in bdsm, being used, CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENT, Objectification, Slave, Slave being used, Submission, Submissive with tags , , , on October 27, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

Yes it has been a while I know , but life kicks in , work has been busy , but more important keeping my home together. I know what you may be thinking when I say keeping my home together , its not a bad thing just a lot of work involved.

I have been working on this blog Consensual Objectification and sexual Objectification for a little while , but ive been gathering information and articles and waiting on permission to post someones information but Bam I got it.

Arianna and i were talking about this subject recently her views , my views and how we felt about the topic. Yea while I am going to share more of my views , I am just going to touch on hers just a little.

I am going to share my thoughts and why I feel Objectification is not a want for me but a need. It is a mindset I have to maintain in order to keep control. Now before you think anything Arianna is on board as a matter a fact it was her who brought it up.

At times ill ask he what is on your mind ? This helps me continue to understand where she is at. Then the word Objectification comes up.

This is going to be a very touchy subject for some and I thought about it for a split second if I should post or not.

 

Much Love to everyone who has dropped by , and if you email me and it takes a little time to get back to you again its life.

Vile

MAsT International

Posted in bdsm, http://www.mast.net/, Lifestyle Education, MAsT Kissimmee Florida, Master And Slave, Slave, Submissive, Uncategorized with tags , , on October 12, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

As most of you know I have been giving the honor of Leading a MAsT Chapter for my area. Those of you who are not familiar with MAsT , it stands for Masters And Slaves Together.

I was interviewed last night for the position of Membership Director. I am usually very outspoken and love to talk but last night I was at a total loss of words. Needless to say I did not feel it went as well as it could have.

I was asked about my blog being based mostly if not all Heterosexual which it is. What I failed to say it 90% of what I write is about abuse and helping those who are entering the lifestyle somewhat of a guide for those who Identify as a submissive or slave and the rest is about my own life who I share with my slave and our submissive.

Genders , while I do not touch on the subject very often I do not see genders , I do not see colors , I see a human and no matter how one identifies everyone deserves the same respect.

MAsT is about education , it is about helping each other grow and learn. MAsT is pan- sexual meaning however you identify you are welcome and welcome with open arms. We are family, we are one.

I kinda fucked up on the question how my organizational skills were , I had a massive brain block. I am OCD when it comes to be organized and staying on task , but most important if something needs to get done it gets done. Also what I failed to bring up is I work from home so I have the time to dedicate to insure things get done..

Those who are interested in learning more about MAsT please visit…..

http://www.mast.net/

Welcome

MAsT exists as an education, support and resource group for individuals involved in, or interested in, the Master/slave lifestyle.

MAsT provides an opportunity and forum for like-minded individuals to come together for discussion of issues that concern Masters and slaves, to share ideas and gain and/or share knowledge of the Master/slave lifestyle.

Vile

 

Where I am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook

Posted in Author Chistina Parker, bdsm, Slave, slaves hand book, Submissive with tags , , on October 12, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

This book was brought up in one of the Fetlife groups I help moderate. Best Slave Training. After doing a little research on the book I had my Slave order the book.

The book is very well written and it gives you a very deep look inside. It has daily weekly and monthly written exercises. Slave Arianna did ask if she could modify some of the exercises one being preparing dinner for 45 people.

Where I Am Led is probably one of the best Slave manuals someone could own because it is you who inputs all of the information… Check it out I believe it was 20.00 on Amazon.

The book is written by Christina Parker , there are two versions the second is just a revised version…

Vile

Control The Mind Control The Body

Posted in bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, Dominance, Dominant and Submissive, Dominants who suffer from depression, Submission, Submissive, sucking cock, Train your slave with tags , , , on October 3, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

Anybody can bark orders , anybody can intimidate someone into submission , but when you do that you are not getting true submission, it fakes you have absolutely nothing. You can scream , you can lose your temper or the best is using names like you worthless whore , cum dump or you stupid bitch. It goes on and on , you are the dominant at that moment and time. Making someone fear you does not equal service , humiliating someone does not make you a dominant. Forcing someone to have a low self esteem does not make you a dominant. The above you do not control anything you are forcing, and it is only you who needs the self gratification, you need that ego boost and really know absolutely nothing about true submission .

I have spoken in the past about Best slave training , http://bestslavetraining.com/ This is a awesome source of information. Recently I was made group leader of Best Slave Training on Fetlife which is truly an honor.. CuffsMaster the Moderator had taken a leave of absence and others were trying to take over the group. Some had said they tried to reach out to CuffsMaster and received no reply. On Fetlife if a group goes Un-moderated for a length of time , one can petition and take over the group. The funny thing I emailed CuffsMaster and he responded in less than an hour. That would be like well Vile has not posted in over a month and I want to take over his wordpress. I am also the Director of MAsT Kissimmee , which falls under MAsT International. http://www.mast.net/ MAsT International is dedicated to education within the lifestyle and is also world wide.

In other news there is now Thekinkyworldofvile.com which I am really excited about , this will allow me to be more open and practice my first amendment without fear of being shut down as I have been in the past. I was told I was not a real or serious blogger because I use wordpress. The truth be known I am not nor do I consider myself a blogger , what I do is share information so that others may take a little and put my words to good use. Everything I write about and I am by no means a professional writer is about my life, my thoughts , where I was and where I am at now in the present. At times I do share what others have shared meaning I will re-blog something but that does not happen very often. I will use quotes from other sites after asking permission. If the site is old , 5,10, 15 years and I contact someone and I do not get a response then I may post or I may not.

Submission is not giving nor can you take it. Submission is earned and there are steps that has to be taken. Earning trust is a huge factor , trust is not something that happens over night. Training is not something that happens over night.

When I was younger my thoughts of having a naked slave in the house seemed fun , it seemed controlling , there was power but little did I know there was a reason and a very valid reason and years later I would put my thoughts to good use. Out in public my girls are covered. Going out both girls are always dressed better than I am, do not take that wrong because I dress very nice when I go out. Keeping both covered shows respect , and it shows those in the community I have respect for my property not that it matters.

Keeping nude in the house is not a power thing nor is it a ego thing , it is continuous training , it is a mindset a reminder she is a slave. It has little to do with sex although it is there for my taking. Being nude is a high protocol of mine , I speak of protocols often but they are needed. Protocols are not only meant for training they are meant as a reminder. You keep reminding and it keeps your property in that frame of mind.

Many see BDSM as a sex tool , the kink , the spanking , flogging and bondage although those are good benefits but the lifestyle or my lifestyle runs so much deeper. BDSM has changed so much over the past 5 years or so and has turned to more of a kink base. Hey do you want me to tie you up and beat your ass , then you can suck my cock when we are done? There is no emotional contact just physical no meaning , no connection.

Today there are far more what I call true Submissive’s and true Slaves than there are true Dominants or Masters. Years ago it was just the opposite , I suppose things change. I wanted to introduce a Dom to a submissive , I explained she owned her own house , she made 45k a year and looking for a real Dominant. He asked me what she was looking for and I explained not to much , strict rules , complete control and accountability . His words were fuck that. I was like really dude?

Every time I meet a new sub or slave my words of advice is to think with a clear head , know what you need , and do not give in. How often does that work ? Never maybe for the first two hours then its like running down the street butt ass naked. At some point the stupid switch turns on and this Sub frenzy kicks in. You end up falling for the first Dom you meet which 99% of the time is online. My advice is to go out in public and meet people who can relate to you but the answer is always I am to shy or I don’t have time but you have time to turn your cam on and get naked, sending pics of yourself everyday to a man you do not even know. You give your phone number your address , where you work and within a week all of your passwords. WTF? Then you give all of your banking information to someone you hardly know. You have no idea where this guy lives , you have never been to his house , fuck you don’t even know where he works. What makes it sad is you know everything seems wrong , you know you do not want to give out any information but you do it out of fear. The fear of loss is a motherfucker , you fear you will never find another but in reality you are getting nothing out of the relationship with the exception of being used.

To control the mind you must know your slave , you must know their habits , food , movies , music , why the like the clothes they buy. What they fear , love , care about, what gives that cozy feeling. The master should be able to anticipate thoughts , movements and needs without asking.

These guys who spend so much time playing games just to get pussy or their cock sucked are total losers. They have huge egos , and for the most they suffer from depression and have a insecurity problem. Most do not even have a pot to piss in and are under employed.

Get in the mind and you can have anything you want without question….