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Fifty Shades Of Grey. What Christian Grey Lacked

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Anastasia Steele, are you submissive, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Safety, BDSM Structure, BDSM TPE Relationships, Christian Grey, commitment, communication, control, controlling, Daddy Dom, Dominant, Dominants Protocol, fifty shades of grey, Manipulation, masochist, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Rape, relationships, Rough Sex, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 17, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am far from perfect and I will be the first to admit , I do not know everything. What I share is my past 20 plus years in the lifestyle and as many active in the local community.
I have met thousands in the lifestyle , from Sadist who scared the fuck out of me , to totally wicked Domme’s, submissive’s of all kinds real and fake, slaves with different levels of submission, and then my relationships.

I have been with a Masochist I could not make cry , who fed off of humiliation , I have been a Daddy Dom as well. I have lived a D’s Lifestyle , but for some reason I was never complete.
I have had successful relationships that ended well, and I have had relationships that crashed and burned , due to my actions. I take full responsibility for the relationships not working because I did not think clearly or I used bad judgement. I am not going to put the blame on others when it was I who fucked up.

Most of the time when a D’s or M’s relationship falls apart it is the subs fault. The bitch was not real, she was just playing games. She was not a true submissive, she was not a slave, she could not, would not follow rules.
Now the above could be true , because there are some money grabbing women out there who are looking for a free ride , but it makes me think , how many times can someone lay on their back to get a car payment made, or to be a kept woman. There has to come when it just slaps them in the face. Maybe they think that little of themselves.

I have seen it I have done it , I bit off more than I could chew , and it just turned my whole fucking life upside down, and I would not give up. Well!!!! At least not until I could not stand anymore , maybe I enjoyed self punishment.

I have done this before , entered a relationship for security purposes , yea and you guessed it , that does not work either just for a short time.

A D’s or M’s relationship requires a lot of time. You are investing so much , but lets take a look at another way we are investing time.
Lets say you the Dominant buys a 1969 Carmaro Z28. You bought just the hull of the car . No doors , no hood, no bumpers, no interior , no glass, no nothing , what you have is a hull.
So what are you going to do now? You are going to rebuild it from scratch. You are going to make sure everything is right , your going to make sure everything is complete and not done half ass.

It is the same when you enter a D’s or M’s relationship. You are going to build from the bottom up to meet your needs. You are going to cherish and like me you will stand back and look and think to yourself , man look at what I have done. If your willing to invest all that time , why would you not follow the two main rules in life. Choices and consequences , those two thing will either make you or break you , if you break you will crash and burn.

So you have Anastasia Steele, who just happens to be a virgin , then you have the Sadistic Christian Grey who can only get off on rough sex , which I can relate to. i can also relate on being able to channel anger into positive outlets. Controlling my anger took years to learn how to control , but there are still things that can set it off but that is really very seldom and never towards my property. You will gain so much more out of life if you are in control of not only yourself but your surroundings.

Anastasia a 21 year old naive woman who meets a Dominant who has sadist tendencies. The result Anastasia walks into a world she has never known or perhaps never should of been introduced to that world.

The truth is very few sadist will take on someone who has zero experience in that type of the lifestyle. Second most sadist are not Dominants , it is usually one or the other. You can be a Daddy but not be a dominant. Every Dominant is different , every Dominant has different traits , every Dominant has different needs in their partner.

That is why when a Dominant is single and looking , he is looking for someone specific. The Dominant already has a general idea as far as what he is looking for.

The movie Fifty Shades was based mainly on sex , again nothing wrong with that. What happens is those who have no idea what the lifestyle is about and they see the movie , it gives most the wrong idea about those who are in the lifestyle. Here is the kicker , I have had two women send me a message and ask me if Christian Grey Raped Anastasia. So if there are two I am sure many more are thinking the same way , and under the circumstances I would tend to agree.

So every movie has a behind the scenes , movies have parts that are never seen, the public does not have a clue.

So behind the scenes , being a Dominant is no easy task. A Dominant is on call 24/7 , it is not a 9 to 5 gig.

What Fifty Shades failed to show and yes it is just a movie but if your going to try and mock a lifestyle you need to get somethings right.

It did not show the training that goes into building a D’s relationship , it did not show the communication that goes into building a D’s relationship , it did not show the care , or the emotional side of the submissive , like it did in the movie The Secretary.

There is a line that one can cross when it comes to the lifestyle , the broken line would be abuse, and rape. One in five women in their lifetime will be raped, maybe abuse is just as high. One thing that is very troubling very few are ever reported, and the numbers go even higher if a female is in the lifestyle and meets a new Dominant and is raped.

Behind the scenes , the structure , the rules , the protocols , and yes the punishment.

One thing I do not understand is how so many people could take a movie that is Fiction to heart. Many men will take this fiction movie to heart and the hunt is on.

Fifty Shade Of Grey is Fiction it is not real. If your truly interested in our world do your research , meet and talk with people..

Do you really want to live your life in a Fiction state of mind.

The Truth About Daddy Dominants

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Structure, BDSM TPE Relationships, Cheating Dominant, Collar, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Daddy's Baby Girl, Discipline, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, Fake Dominants, fuck buddy, kinky, Local events, MAST, Master And Slave, Masters And Slaves Together, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 9, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

First I am not speaking about every Daddy Dominant in the lifestyle , I am however speaking about 98% or higher .
Baby Girls in the lifestyle for the most are really different than those who are submissive or even a Slave. Most Baby Girls do not live with their Daddy Dominants, while I am not sure what the numbers are the percentage is very high.

Most Daddy Dominants are married and cheating , most Baby Girls do not care that they could be responsible for ripping a family apart because they are selfish. Selfish enough to try and separate the father from his children. In those cases I look down on both and I have zero respect for either.

Baby Girls first coming into the lifestyle are very vulnerable, all are really clueless when it comes to the lifestyle. Most if not all are clueless when it comes to finding a good Dominant.

So A week or so ago I was speaking with a Baby Girl who mentioned the same thing I am speaking about , how the Doms wanted a relationship but they did not want the responsibility.

So while chatting with this Baby girl she told me she had been talking to a Daddy Dom or maybe just a Dom , but when I asked if he was married she said luckily no , she too has had the same problem with married Dominants.

Again I am not speaking about all Daddy Doms , there are some good ones out there who have their baby girls best interest at heart.

You know I spent almost 7 years in a Daddy Dom role , I will also be the first to admit that was a bad turning point in my relationship but I did it because it was a need for the slave, little did I know she saw that as a weakness in me , because I was willing to change who I was.

My role was not an easy one , I set goals for her , and I made sure they were followed through with. I had rules , and protocols that were followed. Again the weakness was me changing who I was.

Once your Baby girl , submissive or slave spots a weakness they will prey on that to see how far they can push you.

While our relationship is strictly an M’s , it is based more on structure , rules and protocols. I have never left a mark on Arianna , the key word here being NEVER. One I know her limits and I respect them , two I care to much for her.

This statement is going to hit some nerves. The term Daddy Dom is somewhat new to the lifestyle. Another for the most I do not even think in a Daddy baby girl relationship the term BDSM should even be used. The main reason being many do not have rules , many do not have protocols , nor any type of structure. The final the only time a collar is put on is during play.
While at a MasT meeting sometime ago a Daddy Dom called me aside and told me I was abusing Arianna, I should not even be in the lifestyle because I did not know what I was doing. He said I was to strict, and I did not give her any freedom.
I thought for a second and I asked his what was he even doing at a MasT meeting. MasT means Masters And Slaves Together.
I have been approached by Dominants who have asked me basically the same thing. These are people who do not have a true understanding of what the dynamics of a M’s relationship is really about.
Again this is not my thoughts to all Daddys Doms within the lifestyle.
However there is a reason why you do not see many Daddy , Baby girl relationships active in the local community, who knows?

Books are an excellent reference , and you can obtain a great deal of information from books , good and bad , but you cannot live your life according to what someone else has written it will not work. We as humans have different needs , different kinks , we need different structure , and rules. Books can give you an out line but in the end your just reading someones opinion, just like my blog.

Most Daddy Doms do not collar their property, well the first meeting but after that the collar is not brought up except during play.

We need to learn to accept everyone for who they are , and what would help is maybe learning to understand our friends a lot more. The more we understand the more we grow, the more we grow , then we are open to more ideas.

I have a very dear friend Master R , him and I live total different separate lives , we both have total different views on how a M’s relationship should be ran, how a house should be ran, but we are open enough to understand we both have different needs. We also know we can depend on each other , and today in the lifestyle that is really hard.

That is why when you first meet someone being able to clearly communicate is so important, being able to understand where each other is coming from. Knowing what is expected of each other. How you see yourself in a relationship , be it Daddy Dom Baby Girl , Dominant , and Submissive or Master and Slave.

I have said this before , my way is not the only way, and just with any book , after reading some 1000 post maybe you can lay the ground work to something awesome…

Again there are a few Daddy Dominants I respect but for the most man I cant even say.

Many who call themselves Daddy Doms are married and want a piece of ass on the side. So you sit and wait and wait and wait for that call or text and then you get a couple of hours alone, then you wait another two weeks or a month and in some cases longer. You are an object and if you are happy being an object then so be it I am happy for you.

Daddy

Vile

We Have A New Baby Girl Interview With A Side Of Primal

Posted in Baby Girl, bdsm, kinky, primal, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , on January 23, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I love these interviews , they really give us an inside peek at someones life. It is very important to be completely honest though, in the past I found out later someone was not completely honest.

This is going to be someone a lot of people know so it should be really interesting……dr_evil Let the Interview Begin

How Do You Know If Your Submissive

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, are you submissive, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Safety, Collar, submissive submission with tags , , , , , , , on January 4, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile
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In BDSM relationships, the bottom or submissive takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role. The other partner is the top or dominant.

A bottom can be subjected to acts such as flogging, servitude, or humiliation and can be physically restrained by bondage, which can itself inflict pain. This can include feminization as a punishment or as humiliation. A person who relinquishes control for a large percentage of his or her day-to-day life to a top, or who submits within a formal set of rules and rituals, is sometimes referred to as a slave. The top is then often called the Master or Mistress.

The term bottom originates from a more general use of the word, especially in the gay male community, to mean receptive partner during anal sex

That has to be the million dollar question , How do I know if I am submissive or not? It is  Unfortunate but you are the only one who know that answer and I suppose you have a lot of soul searching to get done.

Many are what I call people pleasers , you have the need to please and you say yes or agree to something even if you do not want to, in fear of hurting someones feelings or not being liked . I call these people the politically correct people people pleasers. Many come with a low self esteem , and there is really no reason for it and often this was the way you were raised, so yes in a sense one could confuse submission with just being a people pleaser. Although the two may seem the same they are really totally different.

Again some deep soul searching is going to be needed. Do you have the need and desire to serve or do you need because you just like to please , I see the two as being different. Do you have the need to surrender control , I did not say want I said need. Do you have the need to have rules put in place, the need to have to answer to someone, the need to kneel.

One of the first things I tell a New Dominant is to take care of all his problems , be it drama , bills , family and the worst are Ex’s the Ex has no place in a new relationship , nor does drama from an Ex. The relationship can be doomed before it even starts.

Get your life in order we all have problems that do come up but we handle them at first sight. It is not fair to someone if you bring someone into your life and your riddled with problems and drama. If you are not willing to get your life in order Submissive or Dominant you will not devote the time when it comes to a relationship.

After you come to terms , after you have the answers , your submissive or not your ready to move forward. Never let someone else tell you if your submissive or not, you are the only one who knows that answer.

Dominants come in different flavors , we are all different so this is something you must consider when you are trying to determine what type of Dominant your looking for.

Are you looking for a 24/7 relationship or are you just looking for something once or twice a month ? Are you wanting to be collared ? If that is your goal then something long term would be the idea.

Are you looking for a Daddy Dom ? Maybe your not looking for a Daddy Dom maybe someone who will enforce a few rules to help keep you in line. Maybe someone who is strict has rules and protocols.Are you looking for a Dominant who is into pain ? Maybe you just need the structure , are you looking for kink as well ? The list goes on and on it is you who has to decide where you want to be in a relationship.

Only you and only you knows who and what you are , again never let someone tell you that you are something , your submissive or your a Baby girl , or a slave, it is you who has to figure out those questions.

Last make sure you are accepted for the person you are. You do not have to change for anyone , to be yourself is your goal. If someone wants to change you , then move on because your better than that……..

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BDSM And Drama

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Safety, Cheaters, Cheating Dominant, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Conversation, Daddy Dom, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, Drama, Ego, emotional, Emotions, Humiliation, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , , , , , , on October 10, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

First before I get started I wanted to share some breaking news.

U.S. airstrikes “are not going to save” the key Syrian city of Kobani from being overtaken by ISIS, said Pentagon spokesman Rear Adm. John Kirby.

Now on the good side of things. US Airstrikes were successful yesterday hitting ISIS targets.
The US hit 4 Toyotas a Chevy and a Hurst . While this may not seem bad. ISIS did take a hit on their credit score according to credit Karma. The 4 Toyotas were leased and ISIS did not have Gap Insurance. The Chevy was stolen so it did not count.
It also turns out the Hurst was the remaining band members of the Greatful Dead on tour in the middle east.

I would like to say I believe we are moving in the right direction.

I would also Like to apologize about a post I did last week.

If The Truth Hurts Go Fuck Yourself.

That post was not in my character , and I should have never posted it. I let someone upset me, because they Blasted my name out in a public forum.
While the outcome disappointed me it also did the same to Arianna. Acting out in such a manner is just not me.

The last thing you want or need when entering a new D’s or M’s or any relationship for that matter is a boat load of Drama.

It is not fair to you if you enter a relationship and someone just dumps their fucked up world in the middle of your floor.
Here you go now your part of all of my bullshit, for anyone to do such a thing is really self centered , non caring, and very selfish on their part.

If a Dominant cannot control his own life, how can he control you ? If a Dominant cannot take care of his own problems, if you have any how can he possibly help you ?

Any Dominant is in full control of his life, be it at home , at work, or out in the public world.
A Dominant will not show any signs of anger, or aggressive behavior. The more in control the Dominant is, the more you are going to be willing to submit, once he has earned your respect.

A Dominant who is not in control and has a lot of Drama will put all the blame on you. Everything will be your fault. You will be the cause of the problem is the relationship does not work.

Ego this seems to be a problem going around our Happy Little community. If your Dominant is ego driven he will never have your best interest in heart. You will never be his number one priority.

A Dominant who wants to share you has a huge ego and probably knows nothing about the lifestyle.

Before entering the relationship you have to put ground rules in place, and you need to stick by them. If being shared is a hard limit then speak up.

I spoke with a Guy last year who said before his slave could come back she would have to agree to a bare back gang bang, by the men he would choose.

So where does the concern about her health come into play? Is or was he really looking out for her best interest ? I would say no myself.

Being forced to be shared can cause you harm if not physically it could do so mentally as well, and you could end up dying in the end.

Keep drama out of your life , no matter the connection you think you have. Because if your relationship is causing you heartache , and problems there is really no connection.

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Vile

Words And Submission

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Gorean lifestyle, Gorean Portocol, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive, The slave must adapt, The World Of BDSM, Thekinkyworldofvile, Total Slavery, Total Submission, TPE, Train your slave, Training Arianna, training your slave with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 14, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

One thing I do during training is, I utilize what is called speaking in thirds. This is something that is common in the Gorean lifestyle.

To me speaking in thirds has a purpose, and the purpose is to make one focus, to think, to think before they speak.

The words tend to have more meaning, and the slave is able to explains things better if she has to think before speaking.

Speaking in thirds gives one a total different aspect of who and what they are, it is like a reminder, and it teaches self discipline.

Once I start training I use the technique for a couple of weeks or sometimes I will use as a form of punishment, again to make the slave think.

When a Dominant uses the word Train, it is good to ask what he hopes to get out of it, and how the training is going to benefit you ?

So the night before last we were laying in bed, I was watching shark week, Bah Humbug, and I get an email. Guess from who? Yup Arianna, I was like what but sometimes she is able to express herself better writing things down, or in an email , than talking sometimes and I do understand her reasoning.

Arianna was expressing interest in speech restriction, and using the term your property when addressing me.

Her reasoning was it would make her feel a deeper submission, not only speaking in thirds but using the word property.

Once you give up full control , and you learn to follow the rules, protocols, it becomes a habit, and when things are a habit there are times we do not even realize we are doing them.

That is how Arianna feels at times, everything just falls into place and she does not see her submission.

That is why I have said in the past it is very important for the Dominant to remain consistent on a daily basis. If you say something, then mean what you say. If you say your going to do something then do it.

Although I am not Gorean I do follow many of the protocols, and I am consistent.

I can also tell you what rules work for one does not work for another. It would be almost impossible for every slave or submissive to have the same rules.

What protocols, and rituals that worked for one will not work for another. Every Slave or sub is different, their habits are different, but more so their needs…

Behavior Modification, changing the way one thinks or acts, in public or private.  Changing ones thoughts, or how they view things.

This can be done, if the Dominant is true to the relationship , but just as I tell those who are submissive, I tell the Dominants the same thing. Be careful what you ask for.

The best way to kick off your training, is for both to be able to take a vacation, and no I am not joking. You have kinda like a 5 to 7 day mini boot camp.

Before you say anything Arianna has been there, and she can tell you that her changes have only been positive.  Being able to let your mind go, and just flow with your training, but truthfully training can only be successful if you trust the one your with.

So there are some who wish to move into a deeper submission, even after training, the training never really stops, it does continue and it is daily maintenance.

The changing of one word , yes that is all it takes, just as Arianna stated in her email.

Instead of using the word I, she wanted to use your slave, or this slave.

About a month ago , I instructed Arianna to use the words Thank You. Thank You for everything.

Thank you for letting me sit, shower, bathroom. After taking the first bite of food, Thank You.

This all falls under Behavior Modification, but you as the Dominant you need to remain consistent.

You know what I truly find disturbing is a Dominant who is not really a Dominant, but enters a relationship with a Baby Girl a Submissive, under false pretenses. Promising one thing but not being able to deliver.

The Dominant not thinking of the negative effects he is having on someones life, the damage that is being done, and playing with someones emotions.

Then it is clearly not the Submissive who is the problem, it is the Dominant who will put all the blame on the sub or baby girl because the relationship did not work. When in fact the Dominant either had no intentions of making things work, or he did not have a clue.

Changing one word, can change ones life.

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Vile

Reflecting On My Past , Fucking and Humiliation

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, Humiliation, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , on June 27, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I was looking at my Blog last night, the main page, and just scrolling down the topics seemed like it took forever.  Probably if you printed everything it would be a ream of paper maybe more.

I remember my first BDSM experience while I was just a teen, with Beverly in the woods. Everyone called her the school whore but she was not a whore she just liked to fuck. I never got that a man can fuck twenty women a week and he is a stud but a woman would be a whore. That is just so one sided.

When I was young I use to think something was wrong with me, 9th grade and up. Then it was not even about fucking, it was about pain, and humiliation.

Ive always felt inside that anal sex was a sign of submission although many view it different, but as a young teen even then I felt that it was total submission, looking back though I did not know the term submission. I owned you those were my thoughts.

As I had Beverly tied to the tree, and I sat down in front of her just looking and thinking, I could do anything to this bitch I wanted to, and she would take it. It was not because she liked it, it was because she wanted to be excepted, and like everyone else she wanted to be loved.

Even in High School I was a people watcher, I looked at how dudes would try to kiss up, just so they could hold hands walking down the hall, and pass little notes back and forth. I thought how fucking pathetic is that these dudes are like begging, for something they will probably never get.

Most girls were scared of me, and there were a few who were truly good friends, friends I never fucked with. I am weird in a sense because if I do not start out as a M’s in a relationship you become more of a Sister to me, and no matter what my thoughts are sex is out of the question.

My parents did okay even though they both had a drinking problem, and each was in and out of rehab all the time. We has a chicken business , eight chicken houses and each house held 80.000 chickens. , but I learned quick if I worked for my parents and they paid me I owed them something, so often I would work for nothing. Once I turned 16 I went to work at the old cotton mill after school, that was hmmm 1978, and then I was making 200.00 dollars a week. Once I turned 17 I joined the Army and that is when my life changed.

As I grew older my need to humiliate grew, and if you watch any of the public disgrace videos I have done much of that in my past, only those girls were paid. So although I do like the series, its not real.

While in Korea I saw first hand how some men were weak, and they bowed down to the pussy. A GI would go to a local bar, get drunk , pay 10.00 to get fucked and fall in love with the girl, go the the credit union get a 5.000 dollar loan and buy her freedom. Divorce his wife who was in the states, to marry a bar girl. The 5.000 dollars was just for the bar owner to pay off the girls debt, then came the real money. The back ground check, the physical , the visa, in the end he would end up spending 15.000 grand on some pussy. I suppose some were in love, but I am sure for the most the girls wanted a way out.

With me NO meant NO and it has always meant stop , No is the magic word, NO means stop right now. If you did not want to fuck then go get the fuck out. I was not going to beg for a piece of ass, because tomorrow was a whole new day.

I learned it was easy to spot a submissive in public. so on the weekends I would hit up the local mall . Think about this, and ive tried to explain this to many. Your walking in the mall or someplace where there is a lot of people. You walk past a woman, look at her in the eyes, and when you make eye contact, her eyes will drop. This is really true. It was then look at finger, if no ring it was conversation time.

Ive never been shy about approaching women, rejection never bothered me, I cannot think of a time when rejection did bother me, because I knew for every no there was a yes around the corner.

I always picked out women other dudes would not talk to, or the women that intimidated some men, that was the challenge . I had a rule never fuck someone you did not want to wake up with. I love beautiful woman. Beauty is not only in the face or body, Beauty if in the personality. I am not just attracted to a blonde or redhead , or petite, to average, or maybe a little chunky. I have a wide range of taste..

My first threesome was with sisters Tami and Bambi, that was hmm in early 89 or 90. The next day my beeper went off yea a beeper, so I called the number and it was Bambi she wanted to know if I wanted to go back out. I said really  ? I knew both of you all of 45 minutes, and we were at your house fucking, yea do me a favor and lose my number. They did not do anything together but I guess it was the taboo thing of being together, while I let Tami suck my cock, I face fucked Bambi, I fucked Tami in the pussy, but I fucked Bambi in the ass.

47 years old I woke up one morning and said dude what the fuck are you doing. I wanted more, I needed more. so I sat down and I compiled a list of everything I wanted out of a Slave.

Many of you who are jumping from Dominant to Dominant, Daddy Dom to Daddy Dom, have no real plan nor did you ever. You fall for the first line that catches your attention. Or maybe you let your insecurities get in your way.

So how many years are you willing to waist? How many years are you just going to throw away ? How many Doms are you going to go through before you stop your madness ? How many are you going to go through before you get hurt ?

You need a plan, if you need to write it on paper, and you stick to eat. You make a list and you check it off one by one. Question by question must be answered looking eye to eye.

Adding a third to our home. Adding a third must bring something to the table, it is not about money, or how much you can clean or cook. It is about you fitting in, and be willing to adapt. If your a true submissive then the adapting part would come natural.

Getting to know you, no one will chat , email or talk to Arianna until I say so. I protect what is mine. The truth is Arianna does not have a lot of time to just be chatting or emailing, although Brit was supposed to and never did. She has been a very dear friend for a long time. Now she is like the Bundy’s Married with children.

If I do not think your a fit, you will never have any contact at all. It is not to say others on here cannot contact Arianna, such as Bopeep and a few other. Just as friends , there are some good people on here.

As usual I get off track, someone made the comment the other day I must of messed up on a blog by copying and pasting something, but if she had been following my blogs she would of known I get off track a lot, then I just kinda flow back into it.

I do however feel some form of humiliation is needed in a D’s or M’s relationship, how extreme is up to the couple. I have known some to really get off on humiliation, it is really not my thing, but it is needed from time to time as kinda like a reminder. Hey this is your place. Nothing in public or in front of friends, it should be a private thing….

Much love

 

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