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Your Going To Be Used

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Relationship Negotiations, Choices, commitment, communication, compatibility, consequences, Consistency, Dominance Through Intimidation, fucking and sucking, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Safe and Sane, sex, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Sucking and fucking with tags , , , , , , , , on April 24, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

Welcome to a whole new world , a world of  kink , bondage , Discipline , sex , things you like and things you do not like. Welcome to the world of giving up your control. Welcome to the world of taking orders , following rules , protocols and structure.

There are two types of Dominants and Domme’s , those who care about you and have your best interest in mind , and those who are just looking to use and abuse and could not give a fuck about your feelings or your emotions and well being.

The bad your a object, your a piece of meat you have three holes or two if male with no face and when you speak your voice is not heard. Once you become to needy or start to question your status you are tossed aside like trash.

To the users you are nothing more than a commodity on the stock market and as you grow older your value will drop , your cock will not work as it did and your tits will start to sag as with your ass. You will go from trading at a hundred dollars or more to penny stocks and your playing field will become much smaller, and there will come a time your game will end.

You can only use so much , you can only play on someones emotions so long before your called out.

These men and women see submission as a weakness and nothing more, You are stupid , you are ignorant you have zero brain cells. Once you have grown tired of sucking dick or emptying out your bank account  your tossed a side only to start your next search but you did not learn from your last excursion. You will take the same path of destruction and repeat the relationship again and again. You will continue to send your pics , shoot videos and self punishment, and you will repeat these actions over and over and over.

You will complain to your friends , you will blog about your sorrows, you will blog about how bad the Dom was, you will complain about how you were used , but not one time will you accept responsibility for your own actions.

You make a mistake you correct it , if you make the same mistake that is possible but if you continue then you are just as stupid and the one using you. It is no longer the user it is you and only you, your the only one to blame.

The fake Dominant shows up when no one else is available and if you think your the only one sitting on the couch waiting for a text , you need to change your light bulb.

When you do see him or her , you get the pleasure of sucking cock or being used for about an hour then they have to run and you repeat , you sit on your couch watching Jerry Springer , because you can somehow relate.

The good news is once you decide to get on the right path and find someone who truly cares about you, the one thing you will be proficient in is cock sucking.

I know

You will continue to lay on your back , suck dick and get abused until you come to terms that something is wrong. Those who see the fake Domme’s seldom get the pussy if every, it is more bout humiliation and your bank account.

Your not dating little Johnny anymore , someone you would sit in the car and make out for hours with, or go to a movie theater when he would finger you or cop a feel of your tits.

Your life is going to go through some pretty drastic changes and you need to be on your game when you open the door.

You are now going to give up most of your freedom and in some cases all of your freedom for sometime.

Your going to be told what to wear , how to speak and when to speak. How to dress , your hair, your nails everything about you will change and it will change to fit someones needs.

Your no longer going to be begged to suck dick your going to be told. Your no longer going to begged to give up some pussy it will be taken and you will agree.

You have moved from being viewed as a girl friend or partner to property, an object a toy meant to be used.

You have to be able to communicate your needs and your thoughts when entering a relationship. You have to be able to say NO before entering a relationship. If you are feeling intimidated through fear you are not in the right frame of mind to be making any type of lifestyle decisions.

If you do not agree with something be it a sexual act or a rule you need to speak up , because if you do not you may be in for a bad experience and one you could end up getting hurt.

Here is  the key though is you are going to give up all of the above, if you are going to agree to all of the above, if you are going to serve one, give up control of your life , you are entitled to get something in return. What you get in return I guess depends on what you want out of life. I guess it also depends on how long your willing to wait on the one or spending your time jumping from one relationship to another making the same mistakes..

So why do we see so many lifestyle relationships crash ? Just as I am guilty I have settled for less, I have giving into my needs just for that moment in time companionship. Putting my kink to the side well some of it. Entering a relationship knowing we were not compatibility , it works for a short time but in the end you crash.

Many of us including me have put sex ahead of everything else, knowing it was not going to work. If your relationship is based on sex alone it will crash and burn with both leaving very hateful , putting the blame on each other.

Most are not willing to wait for the one , because we are selfish we want it now , we want it yesterday. If you the Dominant or submissive operate like this you will have a very lonely life and in some cases abusive.

I get emails all the time of those wanting advice , i email back with my opinion and I never hear back, why? Because it was not what they wanted to hear. They did not want the truth, they wanted to hear everything was going to be alright.

Life is based on two actions and only two. Choices and Consequences

vile

 

 

We Are Master And Slave

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Relationships, Building a BDSM Relationshp, consequences, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Slave, Submission, Submissive, viledesires62@aol.com with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on February 21, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

Last Friday we attended a local MAsT meeting and I can say it was one of the best meetings I have been to…

The topic was one I would of never thought of , The Seven Deadly Sins , how interesting does this sound when you attached BDSM to the topic.

Last year I was speaking with a very good friend of mine and the topic of Arianna came up and he said it was like I hit the power ball . He continued saying the relationship we had was very unusual even for a Master and Slave. As I was trying to take in his words I did not fully understand mainly because I am just me.

I very seldom speak about what I have done , nor am I one to brag. Many who know me think I am conceded but that is so far from the truth, the bottom line is I am just confident, and I am confident be it in private or public..

While at MAsT a Mistress made a comment that in any relationship there must be some sort of a exchange of power. As I listened I was trying to understand and I spoke up and said I disagreed , continuing I began to explain in my home I had complete control and the final say.

The Mistress then asked Arianna if she worked out of the home, of course the answer was yes, a 40 hour a week job she has been at for some 16 years. She was then asked if I controlled what she did at work and made her decisions , I saw this getting way off topic, but Arianna replied while she did make decisions at work I knew her every move, Arianna stated if she was told to quit her job she would do so , but it would fall on me, the responsibility and the consequences.

What makes a Master and Slave relationship ? The answer is there is no real clear definition , Each M’s relationship is unique in its own way, it is the way each relationship is defined between two.

The same with those who live a D’s relationship , it is the two who defines their relationship. No one has the right to tell someone they are wrong, no one has the right to tell someone they do not know what they are doing.

Many do not understand our relationship, and while some may be curious once I try and explain some find it to be unbelievable.

Some 3.5 years now I can say Arianna and I have yet to have an argument, and that is something I am proud of , that is something I have or we have both worked hard for. The base of this is from our communication.

When her and I first met we noticed the compatibility right away, we noticed how easy it was to talk to each other and not at each other.

I put strict protocols in place more protocols than rules. Protocol creates stability, consistency and forms good habits , Protocols keeps everything in check, and by staying consistent it keeps everything smooth…

At times a Master needs to humble , a Master needs to accept responsibility when something goes wrong. A Master must admit when he is wrong, as much as I would like to say I am perfect I am not, although at times I may feel I am, but I truly believe that is just confidence.

Expressing my needs prior to entering our relationship , I went into great detail when it came to my needs being met and I was not willing to give in or change anything.

On the other side I had to agree to Arianna’s needs in the type of M’s relationship she was seeking. If I did not agreed with her needs then it would not of been fair if she settled for anything less.

 

Going into a Lifestyle relationship you have to have a clear picture and understanding of what your getting into. If you look over the bad then you have to deal with the consequences, after all you made the choice…

A mistress was questioning Arianna or stating that there had to be a time in our relationship where she had some control, as the conversation continued it was a D’s relationship she was speaking about and not an M’s.

Arianna made the comment , My master has complete control but with control comes consequences. That is a very true statement that is why when I make a major decision I am thinking of two and not one, however there are times we sit down and I want her opinion and there are times when I do take her advice and roll with it.

Instead of criticizing someones relationship  maybe we should take a little to understand their dynamics. Maybe if we took the time to learn our community would not be so divided.

Vile

 

 

 

Sex and Submission

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, adapting, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Structure, Bondage Cuffs, commitment, communication, compatibility, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominant, Dominant and Submissive, Giving Head, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Protocols, sex, Sex and Submission, slave, Structure, Submission, Submissive, sucking cock with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on January 9, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

The world of BDSM is much different that=n the vanilla world, the little flirts , the long love making sessions , the caressing the I love you’s. The comes the no I am not doing anal , no I am not sucking your dick, or I do not swallow.

If you as a submissive look back on your vanilla dating and look at now there is a clear different.

In the vanilla world if you acted kinky you were a slut , so as we grew older we tended to hide our kink, until it was no longer controllable..

It takes time to get adjusted in the lifestyle we make many mistakes and mistakes we wish we had never made , but as long as you learn and you keep moving forward there will be a light at the end of the tunnel.

Although most when thinking about submission the word sex comes up, most think sex is the biggest part of the lifestyle and to many it is , but it really runs much deeper.

Submission being able to get into the mind and just walk around and check things out, being able to do silly mind fucks. Being able to understand the way your submissive or slave thinks, why they think the way they do, what makes them think?

Being in control , most who say they have limits when it comes to giving up control in a stable relationship the limits will slowly fade.

Sir Franco Bolli @ http://sirfrancobolli.org/  Made the following comment

..It is my personal experience that it is not so easy to find a partner who is compatible. Having found an almost perfect match is a true blessing.

The above statement is very true , this is why it is important you do not jump into the first frying pan. Being compatible means everything including outside of the bedroom on your back or on your knees.

If your going into a D’s or M’s relationship and your soul purpose is to be a used fuck toy then you need to have that understanding and both have to be on the same page.

Most of the time when you enter a new relationship everything for the first week or month is good, but then something happens you become more clingy , more needy you want to give up more control but your dom is not on board? This is when you communicate your needs. If you fear speaking what is on your mind then your in the wrong relationship, or if you do and your Dom is not on board then again your in the wrong relationship.

BDSM has really change so much over the past 10  years , today it is more of a kink than a lifestyle , most are only bedroom and that is fine if it works for you.

I do not have a switch I can turn on and off, at times it would be nice but as of right now I am in a good place , life is good.

BDSM today is more of a sexual based than anything , for the most it is just about sucking cock and fucking and very little to do with the D’s or M’s side of things.

I like the control , I need the control and not just in the bedroom. I need a very structured home , I need protocols in place as well as some rules. The truth is if you have the first two in place very few rules are needed. once everything is in place it is just daily maintenance and communication.

I love sex but sex is on my terms, I love the kink but on my terms, I love bondage and at times extreme bondage again on my terms. I have the final say in our home , be it from dinner going out or even when and where money is spent.

That is why when meeting someone new it is very important to be on the same page. Before entering any type of relationship both needs to know what is expected of each other and where both want to be and what part each will take on.

The submission is earned it cannot be demanded , it is earned by earning respect , and being who and what you say you are.

Control is in the mind , submission is in the mind , although being physical is good , it does not take being physical to earn ones submission. You cannot earn ones submission through intimidation those types of relationships are short lived.

Being compatible when it comes to sex is very important , sticking to your limits is very important , finding someone who respects your limits is a must.

As in any D’s or M’s relationship a great deal of time has to be invested, time invested from both not just one.

If you the slave or submissive are going to lay on your back or get on your knees then you should get something out of the relationship. It should be more than just fucking or sucking , or the Dom trying to find out how much pain you can take.

What do you want to do with your one life.

This set was custom made for Arianna by my good friend Jon. We received them yesterday and I have never seen such quality….

Beltcuffs

 

Vile

 

 

 

Do You Just Please , What About The Kink

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, commitment, communication, compatibility, consequences, Consistency, Daddy Dom, Dominant and Submissive, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master and slave relationship, relationships, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , on January 2, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

Lets face it we are living the dream, the lifestyle allows us to be free , it allows us to be who and what we are.

When your Dominant enjoys things you do not , do you do them anyway just to please, or does it please you knowing you have made him happy ?

Do you follow rules , protocols just to please or do you get satisfaction out of knowing you have done well ?

Do you dress as your told , does it make you happy your owner is pleased ?

The list can actually go on and on and the longer we are together the longer the list can get.

Are you completely honest prior to entering a relationship when it comes to your needs , or do you just go with the flow ?

If you meet someone and the need is Anal , and that is something your against would you follow through just to please or would you keep that as a hard limit and risk the relationship?

The pain side of things do you except pain just to please or do you take it because you truly enjoy it ? Are you in fear of losing the relationship if you do not play along ?

Is your Dominant available 24/7 if not why ? This is something that is very important not only for support , but your communication , and training, your Dominant being available 24/7 is your right.

Your kink may not be your Doms , or your Doms kink may not be yours, are you going to give in and do things you do not like.

where do you draw the lines when it comes to your limits or are they really limits? Are your limits just set in your mind ? Have you tried what you call your limits ? Many times once in a long term relationship what were your limits most of the time become no limits ?

How deep is your submission ? Is it bedroom only ? Is it when your Dominant is around ? Is it 24/7 ? Maybe you live in a TPE Total Power Exchange ? Are you a submissive , a Baby Girl , a Pet , A slave?

How serious are you about your submission ? Is serving someone a true need for you ? Will giving up control put you in the place you need to be?

All of the above are questions you need to ask yourself , and knowing exactly  what your needs are will help you be in a better place..

Vile

 

 

 

 

Many Do Not Understand Our Relationship

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, communication, control, Dominants, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on October 7, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

We are Master And Slave. The first words you hear in the background is, What many do not understand about a Master and Slave relationship is the Master controls everything including the money.

That comment has come up more than once , more than twice and more than three times. I am not sure why ? I suppose maybe checking things out , or making me rethink our relationship.

The truth is I control everything to include all finances , I control every dollar , every quarter every dime every nickle down to every penny. Arianna pays bills , but again I know where every dollar goes, and anything that is spent needs my approval.

It is no secret , not that it matters, Arianna makes more than I do as a matter of fact a lot more than I do. I was recently offered a job making 58K a year. After Arianna and I talked about it we weighed all the options and we came to a conclusion we are okay. I enjoy my job and now we are able to spend much more time together with our current situation. Our bills are really low, and our two care payments are what most spend on one payment.

So the training began , this was a task I had never endured before , it would require a lot of me. A plan , a plan where I would take full control of someones life.  a plan that would consist of a micromanaged relationship, a plan to remain consistent where in previous relationships I had failed, a plan that would consist of Behavior modification.

Arianna’s training did not include any type of pain , that is not how I roll, I wanted inside her head, I wanted to know her thoughts, her thought process , what made her tick.

The relationship was not something I jumped into, I had a lot to think about. I was at the age I wanted to settle down, I was at the age I wanted a one on one monogamous relationship, however I was not sure I wanted the amount of responsibility it would take to have the type of relationship Arianna needed.

Training in my mind does not have to consist of pain , I want the challenge, and I want to win. I am always first and I finish first there is no second place. Hmmm did that make any sense ?

 

So I get in the mind , the brain and I start picking, there are hundreds of doors  , and each room has a book or maybe at times more than one book and each one has to be read from front to back. This is the way you get into someones head, you get a clear vision on what makes them think.

I have never lost my temper towards Arianna , although she has seen me mad and really mad. During training you get no where yelling or screaming, losing your temper and losing control is not a very good trait for a Dominant.

One of the first things a Dominant tells a submissive is , he is always in control and not controlling. If he loses his temper on a regular basis then he is not really in control. If one cannot control their feelings or emotions , then how can one control someone else ?

One rule I made clear from the start is our life is private , nothing personal shared with no one. You know what kills me is when a submissive, Baby girl, or slave jumps of Fetlife or Facebook and just opens up her whole life, complaining about her Dom , her Daddy or Master. Here comes how fucked up he is, here comes he is not a real Master , he should be taking better care of you.

The one thing that was left out was his side of the story, his intentions , and now he is the bad guy. This could be a cause from a couple of things, maybe confusing on the property’s end , maybe lack of communication on both. Many times when something is  explained the submissive may be afraid to ask questions. This is just something I observed the other day…

Arianna and I recently attended a local event, we were all giving introductions, and when I got to the part about how our relationship was a consensual , non-consensual , then the eyebrows went up like it was an alarm.

So lets talk about the two , Our relationship is consensual M’s , Master and slave , we live a 24/7 Total Power Exchange. Although at one time I was a sadist and a extreme one , that is no longer the case.  Today I have different needs, I have a need for structure , I have a need for protocols, and I have a need for continuous training and when you put all of this together it equals control.

Still to date Arianna and I have still not had one argument, as a matter of fact we have not even come close and again this is due to communication, but it goes deeper than just communication. There are times when you know someone wants to be left alone, and instead of digging to find out what is wrong you just let things be. I call this the what is wrong argument . What is wrong ? Nothing, well sure there you can tell me. Nothing is wrong, yea you can see where this is going and before you know it your face to face screaming at each other.

Think before you speak , you may be thinking you stupid bitch , but many times those words exit your mouth before your brain has a chance to catch up with your mouth. Most have what I call pet names that would include , my bitch , my whore and so on, but to use those words out of anger causes way more damage that just beating her ass, Bruises heal but words do not. I have always thought an anger mans words is a calm mans thoughts.

The world of BDSM has grown so much and has branched off in many directions over the past ten years or so. There is a lifestyle or fetish out there for anyone and everything, but yet we are to quick to judge, we are to quick to say that Dominant does not know what hes doing, or she is really not submissive. Although there is a definition for the word submission that one definition does not fit everyone.  Just as the definition of a Dominant or a Master, although there is one definition that one does not fit everyone. If that one definition fit everyone in the lifestyle then you know what would happen? We would all get along and see eye to eye on the way we lives our lives. Now that does not making any fucking sense for all of use to get along does it? We would have no one to talk about nor would we have anyone we could bash on a daily basis because they don’t know what they are doing , and what fun would that be?

The second is non-consensual , when most hear that word abuse comes to mind , or maybe taking the rights away from someone, maybe being to physical to the point of abuse, or to verbal to the point of sever humiliation. Maybe cutting all of ones friends off to include family. Many Dominants who are not seasoned do just that, maybe one has a insecure problem or he is fake ?

I have the final say that includes anything and everything that may come before us.

I am not sure why others do not understand our relationship , I would assume we are just like any other couple who lives a M’s relationship, although when I mention we have never had an argument , we get looked at funny.

We are all different , our needs and wants are different, if what you have works for you that is all that matters.. I know at times I may seem a little one sided but I am really now , I truly wish everyone the best that life has to offer , no goal is unreachable ….

 

 

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Continuing Training

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Slave, communication, consistent, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, relationships, Rules, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive, Train your slave, Training Arianna, training your slave, Training your ssubmissive, viledesires62@aol.com with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on September 9, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Just as a job we tend to get comfortable and at some point and time we start to slack, we tend to do less, we start to believe we are not replaceable but the fact is we are.
The same goes for a relationship we get comfortable , we start expecting what we once valued as a gift, our partner just wanting to please. Last week I spoke about the Resetting of the relationship , mainly D’s and M’s but I suppose some vanilla could use the same thing..

I call it continuing Education and as we know things are changing daily, we change, our needs become different and at times more extreme. Right now again Arianna is exploring ways on how she can deepen her submission even more. While she thinks this would be added work to me that is not so, everything else is already implemented.

Something else I wanted to touch on we as Dominants or Masters we all march to the beat of a different drum. We all have our own way of doing things, we all have different visions , needs and wants.

While at a Munch Arianna and I sat next to a D’s couple who are pretty new to the lifestyle and that is what I told him, March to your own drum you have to be happy, find what fits you.

In the lifestyle we grow almost on a daily basis, our needs change, so it is up to the Dominant to step up to the plate and make changes.

So lets say the Dominant is in a happy place , but his submissive comes to him and says hey I think I would like to give up more control, or maybe add a few more rules or protocols.
It may be the Dominant does not want to add more to his plate , but he will also have to evaluate the needs of the submissive. Even though he may not want to take on more, our number one objective is to insure their needs are being met.. There has to be a time when we as Dominants have to look at a bigger playing field and give more even if we do not see the need..

Training is a type of Behavior modification and it takes time , it will not happen over night a week , or even a month. It will take the two a month to get everything worked out…

I run a very strict house , protocols , structure and believe it or not only a handful of rules. Last week Arianna was questioning her submission, stating she could not see her submission, at times she felt less submissive.

I put a plan together , the BDSM reset I spoke about a few weeks ago. I started taking things away. The first to go was the furniture, second she was giving a Dog bowl to eat out of not every night , but at a time I picked so she did not know until we were ready to eat.
I did however allow her 45 minutes a day on the couch after work, but there was a catch. She likes taking a nap in the afternoons after work, along with surfing the net on her phone and tablet.
She had 45 minutes on the couch but there had to be a choice, her phone, table or nap. She had to choose her time wisely..

Yesterday while she was laying in the floor she had a moment, as she sat on the floor she started thinking about her submission and she realized she had no down time at all, she was able to see not only her submission but her task, her protocols, her rules it seems with just a few days everything came to light.

While laying in bed talking she said you really know me, you knew the effect it would have on me, you knew how I would react, and she was correct.

Just a slight change in our daily life made Arianna open her eyes and she realized just how well she had it made.. It made her think and it only took a couple of days.

Training is an on going tool we as Dominants use to keep our house running smoothly…. Training on a daily basis keeps structure in the home.

We are all different , we all have different needs , what we all need to do , is while we may not understand others we should respect their lifestyle. In our world there is no wrong way, and just maybe if we try to understand those we don’t it may allow us to grow.

Something to think about, what type of training did you receive ? How did your training effect you ? How did your training change you ? Is your training consistent ? Do your rules benefit you ? Are you put first in your relationship? Do you have access to your Dominant 24/7 ? I feel these are all important…

train

Vile

BDSM Relationship Reset

Posted in 24/7, bdsm, BDSM Relationship Reset, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Slave training, BDSM Structure, BDSM TPE Relationships, Behavior Modification, cock sucking, communication, FaceBook Vile Woods, Master And Slave, owning a slave, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, Total Power Exchange, use your submissive, viledesires62@aol.com with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on August 20, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

We all get in a routine , we do the same ol thing day in and day out. The routine becomes such a habit we do not even realize it.
The same goes for relationships , the old routine , and up until last night I never gave it much thought until Arianna brought it up, and Reset was the word, a relationship lifestyle reset.

Now you could say the same thing about a vanilla relationship, but I really doubt you could pull your wife by the hair force her down to her knees, shove your cock in her mouth pump until you blow your load, bend her over the couch and force two fingers in her pussy and two in her ass and pump until your arm gives out, then put her in a cage. That does sound very interesting.

The routine , Yes Sir, No Sir, may I Sir? You may , you may not , hey lets play!!!!!!

You already have rules in place , you have structure in place and rules but your submissive or slave feels like they are in a rut, a dead end, no where to turn, and once their feelings are discussed you then think of a plan.

A Boot Camp a Mini Boot camp , 12 to 24 hours maybe even 48 hours, you can set time aside , after all its your relationship we are talking about, you cannot put a price on time spent with your partner. Once we get comfortable we tend to expect things instead of appreciating them , that is something we have to keep in check so your partner does not feel they are being taking advantage of…

So I am in the planning stage of what a Reset would mean to me , maybe something like the story I blogged about ? The Breaking Of Sabrina, maybe a kidnapping scenario, that would last 12 , 24 maybe even 48 hours.

Bondage , Hot wax , leather hood, ball gag, dildo’s , face fucking ass fucking … Fingers deep inside Arianna’s pussy probing and feeling around inside as deep as I can go, Fingering her ass, one, two, three fingers pumping her ass.

No conversation just using.. A Total mind fuck weekend nothing discussed , nothing negotiated.. What comes with all of this a total M’s relationship reset…

So we are different a Vanilla relationship may make plans for a nice weekend , a short get away. I on the other hand have a different thought of mind.

I think the only times this would not work is one , if you went through no training. Two if you did not enter the relationship as a D’s or M’s couple, or you do not live together. I do know LDR’s you cannot put an effective training program in place. The Dominant is not present so there is no way he can be in control 24/7 and he can only go by what he is told..

Sometimes we can get in a rut and we do not see the whole picture, we grow to expect things, everything just seem normal, and things begin to grow Blah.

Even today almost three years later I am always thinking of ways to change things up a little. The one thing we do not want to do is put or add more than the sub or slave can handle. The same with rules, once you have been together for a month or so the Dominant can begin to add a few rules, as the relationship progresses more can be added..

Many times we as Dominants let our feelings get in the way, we think one way and act on another, maybe in fear of that huge bad word NO. If your relationship is on track the word NO will never come to light. Your thinking you want your cock sucked but you see your sub watching TV, or playing a game on the phone, or maybe you feel guilty?

I take training very serious , once you begin a M’s relationship you are molding someone to fit your needs. You are changing someones thought process.
You are changing someones habits, you are training someone to know what your thinking, how to do something, and when to do it.

You as a submissive may think well I don’t want to give up that much control. Once in a relationship and as your trust builds , you will begin to let more and more go. Once you find you are in hands that truly care about you and has your best interest in hand…

One thing I do know, you always put your partner first no matter what, you keep an open line of communication open. If that happens you both will grow.

To have someone kneel because they want is a total rush, to have someone kneel because you can make them is just ego feeding.

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