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What Runs Through My Mind

Posted in ass play, ass to mouth, bdsm, Bondage, Finger Fucking, sadist, sexual sadist, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Throat Fucking with tags , , , , , on July 2, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

Here is a good question I was giving ….

 

mmm Sir … what a question. Keeping the words “no prescription” in mind and knowing each is an individual … but also keeping in mind human nature …
May i ask a question … when a Master, Sir, Daddy … play with their treasures … when they have pushed us so very hard … knowing we will do anything ours Lords desire …
HOW does that feel … for it cannot be “a free for all ” set of emotions.
What drives you to push us …
when you touch our skin and feel the results of our torments (that we so do enjoy and some that we do not enjoy at all) … what goes through your minds. Bearing in mind … each is unique … but keeping in mind base human nature …
Sir … may i ask this question ..
Sex is about me and only me this was made clear from the start. I told Arianna she would be for my use and my use only. Although there are those few exceptions when I decide to just play with her. I love fingering her ass , one maybe two or even three fingers once her ass loosens up. Having her lay on her stomach and reaching my arm around her waist so I can reach her clit while fingering her with my other hand.. I guess you can call me a romantic..
I do have a sadistic sexual side , I have changed over the years at one time it was all about pain sluts. Inflicting pain was my game , I loved the look in a slaves eyes when pushing her over the limit.
As I grew older I wanted to be in more control , there are very few sadist who are Doms or even Masters although there are a few but very few.
I grew to crave the control and making sure my needs were met. There is nothing that is giving everything is earned. I also have the right to take back anything that is giving and Arinanna knows this.
Knowing that I can do what ever I want when I want without question is a fucking rush. Walking up while Arianna is watching Tv and just shoving my cock in her mouth , the thought is a feeling like no other.
The power of in my mind that I own someone , knowing I can do what ever I want is a sense of power.
So many people when entering a relationship settle for less than what their needs require. Most settle for that moment and time only later to find out the relationship was a mistake. Instead of saying hey its not working we need to split this is when the cheating comes in..
Having your property tied spread eagle on the bed, blindfolded and gagged just standing back and looking and thinking man she is fair game. I can take any hole I want without question. That is the ultimate rush , I get chill bumps all over just thinking I own someone who has no desires but to please…
Vile

I Love Bondage

Posted in bdsm, Bondage, Slave with tags , on December 14, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

Arianna waiting for me to finish dinner.

Playing And Sub-Drop

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, Bondage, slave, Sub-Drop, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , on July 25, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Playing and all the kink is the part of our lifestyle everyone looks forward to. The kink is an added bonus for us, the fetishes , the spankings, the bondage , the list just goes on and on.

I am a firm believer what we call Sub-Drop can be prevented with the right care. However just as sub-space , and Sub-drop both effect people differently. The effect of each can be good or bad.
With the proper care and communication sub-drop can be prevented. This is true if you are living together as a D’s or M’s couple.
However if you do not live together that is a whole different ballgame because without being around someone and the Sub-drop kicks in there is really no one to turn to.

I am not going to make this a long drawn out post like I usually do but I am going to share what I believe to be very important. What I am going to share may not be the standards of every Dominant or Master but they are my standards.

When you do not live together having that open line of communication is really hard, even more so if your someone who just likes to play be it in a private setting or public such as a local dungeon. So being in the right head space is not only a need but a must.

I have really gone through some changes here in the past 10 years or so, or maybe my morals or maybe I actually grew a conscious , but in order for me to play with someone I have to have a close connection.

If I did play with someone such as having a session I would be obligated to be there for the submissive for sometime if sub-drop was to hit. I feel I would have an obligation to be there and help if help was needed , and that is not a responsibility I would not want from someone I did not own..

If you meet someone and you play , your play scene gets deep and you find yourself floating away into sub-space, life is good, you have reached the level of submission you came for. Then as fast as it started it comes to an end, and you go home alone. Then Bam Sub-Drop hits you , your head is just fucked up , you have a feeling  of being lost , depression kicks in, you feel lost and confused.

While the play may have been good , it may have been fun, sub-space was incredible, the Dominant was awesome and he knew what he was doing, you clicked , but in the end you both left and went home.

He the Dominant owes you nothing, you met you played you both went on about your Business , he owes you nothing..

The submissive who spoke with us about going into sub-Drop and the Top she was playing with , again the key word TOP, a   TOP is Dominant while playing , after the play  he is himself , the Dominant role is over once he walks out of the room, he owes nothing.

I was really taken back and I was trying to understand the reasoning as to why the submissive was mad because the top was not there during the sub-Drop, it was not his responsibility.

There are those who can play ,there are those who can session   and go home and everything is fine , everything is good. There are those who play without being in a relationship who play and never have any problems.

I believe and this is just me , Sub-Drop can be prevented , if there is on going communication before, during and  after a session.

Sub-Drop effects people different , some want to be held , some want to  talk, some want a hot bath some, w ant to eat , and there are some who want to be left alone.

Sub-Drop your mind is trying to process everything that just happened, your mind is trying to process why you would let someone inflict so much pain on you.

in some cases during play and you think you have reached that point of sub-space , it is actually fear your brain is working over time, your thinking pleasure but your brain is far from pleasure….

I am not speaking of every submissive or slave. The way we process thoughts or feelings is different between each of us. Our thought process is different. The way we process pain be it physical or mental is different.

The bottom line is if your playing and you both go your separate ways and there was no agreement , which If I was just playing that is all it would be, I owe nothing and nothing should be expected.

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Vile

What Fifty Shades Doesn’t Tell You

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, Bondage, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on December 15, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am going to share this article I ran across in my readers section here on wordpress. This is really like an all in one post and it covers many different areas.

Here you will find a lot of good information…..

The blog is ….

https://jolynnraymond.com/2014/12/fifty-shades-doesnt-tell-beyond50/

#Beyond50 (2)

What Fifty Shades Doesn’t Tell You

The Local Dungeon – If there is a local dungeon where you live, don’t expect to be invited there until people get to know you at a munch or class. For many of us our kink life is a huge secret, one that would cause havoc in our lives if exposed. Some places have a more public play space where you have to sign up to be a member, or an event where you just have to buy a ticket and register, but these aren’t an everyday thing nor are they located for the most part in smaller cities. If you want in to the private parties, go to munches and make friends so people grow to trust you. No one sets foot in my house until I feel they are safe.

The D/s Factor – When you venture into the kink community whether it’s to a safe and laid back munch or to the local dungeon. The people there will not all be domly doms and obvious submissives. If you are of the D variety, no one there is your submissive. I don’t care if they identify as the lowest of slaves, they are not YOUR slave, and they are not there to serve you. Same for the dominants at a gathering. I am mistress to my kink family. I am not going to be your fantasy domme, I am not going to drop everything and order you about, and I am not going to appreciate being called mistress by you if I am not your mistress. It’s annoying.

Subspace Danger – Everyone writes about that lovely floaty fabulous feeling that is subspace. You are sent there by a talented Dom or Mistress through a deeply subservient mindset brought about by the release of endorphins while playing. Subspace is a very vulnerable place. You are basically high. You must have a good long while to come down from subspace before you drive, make important decisions, agree to play with someone else and negotiate anything more than was originally agreed on. There are unethical dominants or tops who will take advantage of your floaty ‘this is a wonderful state of mind’ so choose your partner wisely. Always remember, driving while in subspace is akin to driving drunk. Seriously, it is. My wife hit a bus after playing with her previous dominant who shooed her out the door after they played. Negotiate your aftercare needs to include care required during your return to ‘normal’.

Corset Issues – We’ve all seen them, the lovely corseted ladies with the plumped up breasts and the tiny waists. I love corsets; they do things for my body that shapewear cannot, but corsets come with their own issues. Beauty is not free people. Things you should know about wearing a corset include the following:

  1. Put your shoes on before you don your corset. You won’t be able to bend properly afterward.
  2. Going to the bathroom while wearing a corset is tricky. Take a friend if you can to get everything back in place, and other garments tucked in.
  3. Put your corset on last. It is a real bitch to try and put on your skirt, leggings, pants or whatever once you are laced in.
  4. If you eat a big dinner, you are going to get gas. You may get gas anyway because your stomach and intestines are squished.
  5. Your can crack a rib by pulling a high quality steel boned corset too tight.
  6. Driving is hard in a corset.
  7. Trying to get it back on after you play isn’t worth the trouble. Take a sexy robe, more comfortable clothes, or even a Snuggie with you down to the dungeon. Seriously, you may be all floaty in subspace, and you don’t want to wreck that feeling by trying to get your corset back on.
  8. If you are the top in a play scene and are wearing a corset you will have trouble bending to unpack your bag, you will get overheated more easily, and your ability to move about will be somewhat restricted.

Don’t get me wrong, I love wearing corsets, but they come with unique problems.

Gas – If you are going to play it’s best to skip foods that give you gas. I don’t care if you are on top or the bottom. Your body goes through a lot of different things during play on both sides. Gas happens, and corsets add to the problem. Also, basic hygiene is really something you need to practice. Onion breath as I whisper sweet sinister words in your ear is not a great mix. Body odor is a no no too. I know, people think well of course it is, but think about the fact that you will probably sweat if you are topping, and that someone is going to be touching, caressing, beating, and kissing you if you’re bottoming. A gassy stinky partner with bad breath really spoils the mood.

Playing in Heels – We’ve all seen them. Those incredibly sexy spiked heels that look fabulous with that new leather outfit or PVC dress. They make your legs look great, and are stereotypical Domme wear. I call them ‘come fuck me shoes’ or sit down shoes, and you may be able to walk around in them for a little while, but they suck during play. They mess up my balance; they make my feet hurt, and they make my back hurt. If you are going to wear spiked heels, you should bring a pair of slippers in your bag. Those little slip on ones will have your feet doing the jig of joy, and anyone who has been around will know exactly why you have changed. Put these up there with a corset for after play pains in the ass. When you’re feeling all yummy, a Snuggie and slippers will make you feel much better than trying to put your sexy outfit back on.

Topping is Hard Work – Being the dominant or top is hard work. Yes, the bottom goes through a lot. Possibly a great deal of pain, but they aren’t the only ones affected by the scene. You see those people doing Florentine with the floggers? They worked hard to learn how to do that, and flogging, paddling, caning or any other type of play a top engages in is a real workout. I expend a huge amount of energy when I play. This is both physical and personal energy. When I am doing a canning or electrical play session, my personal energy is transferred to my play partner. I am not just hitting or zapping them, I am choreographing a scene, controlling the flow, using all my muscles to spank, flog, whip, cane, zap, paddle the person on the receiving end. It is more than just beating someone. It is a transference of my aura and part of my soul.

That sounds weird, but I am having a hard time explaining what two people experience and exchange in a well played scene. Remember, you are 100% responsible for the person on the receiving end. Stick to the negotiated plan. Never push past a limit you have not been given permission to pass. When playing, you get a rush from the power exchange and the ‘dance’ of your creation. It is a heady experience, but you must never lose sight of taking care of your bottom. Check in often. How is their circulation? Are their hands cold and possibly numb? Do they need water? Are they coherent? They are your responsibility during the scene, and needed while aftercare is taking place.

  1. Know your implement. Do you really know how to use a flogger? There are areas of the body to avoid for safety.
  2. Keep a small first aid kit in your bag.
  3. Make sure you have water on hand for during the scene.
  4. Carry chocolates or candies for afterwards. Blood sugar can drop during play.
  5. Always check in. If a partner is new to me, I will say “Color” every 5 – 10 minutes. It’s an easy check in to make sure you are reading their body language right. Green= great. Yellow = I’m reaching my limit. Red = Stop. Stop right now. Stop the scene and tend to your partner. Triggers can be tripped (I have an article on triggers in the archives); dizziness can occur due to changes in the body from endorphins, adrenaline, or as said, blood sugar.
  6. When you take your person down from the cross or bench, what then? I always have a blanket for Beauty to lay on if we are at an event. The first time we played I took her down from the cross, and she started to crawl on the yucky hotel ballroom carpet. I had things set to wrap her up and cuddle with her against the wall behind us, but she was out of it, and she’s a crawler. Now I know. At home, I make a nest on the floor with cushions and heated blankets. In public, it’s a smaller nest for us and right there.
  7. You have to do a lot and be in charge of many things when you are on the top end of play. It gives me a rush but is physically and emotionally exhausting. I give of my whole self. Topping is hard work.

Dungeon Etiquette:

  1. Some dungeons have rule about nudity and penetration. All dungeons have other kinds of rules. Know them before you enter. You may have to sign something. Read it. That paper will tell you things like no cell phones. In many dungeons, they will take your cell phone if it is out. Our privacy is too important.
  2. Spectators are responsible for their own safety. If you want to watch me play, that is fine, but I am not interested in your safety. See that dragon tail, flogger, cord for the wand, or cane I am using. Stay out of the way. My focus is my play partner. You are not part of my world.
  3. Shut up! Do not screw with our headspace. Keep a respectful distance and speak quietly.
  4. Do you have a question or concern? Wait until we are done or go talk to a dungeon monitor. Do not interrupt our scene. You have no idea what has been negotiated.
  5. If my scene bothers you, leave. I have seen things that are not in my general comfort zone. I usually watch and learn, at least for a bit, but then I move on if what is going on bothers me. If you are watching and my scene freaks you out, leave. Do not comment. My scene is not about you. Yes, you may question me later, but do it politely.
  6. Tell the dungeon monitor ahead of time if your scene is going to be heavy or appear to be over the edge. They are the ONLY people who may stop a scene.
  7. If you want to play with someone or experience something, ask. This goes for both sides of the scene. If I am at a big event, it is best to ask early, even as early as before the event. My dance card fills up, and even at home during our play parties I don’t want to fill every minute with play, but you should ask. I might say no. The no may be for that night, or it may be a no, I don’t wish to play with you, but you won’t know until you ask.

What you shouldn’t do is:

  1. Beg, badger, or try to get me to change my mind. That is annoying. No means no. You have no idea if I am saving my physical and mental energy or if I have already expended it.
  2. Expect me to play with you without knowing you or having time for negotiation.
  3. Expect me to play with you if we are alone. I only do that with my wife and my play partner Jud.
  4. Pout or act like a child if you are told no.

Two more things:

  1. Don’t touch without asking. That goes for toys and people. You may hug my wife if she is okay with it, but if your hands wander, you will have them smacked. Remember that some of the people in a public dungeon belong to or are considered owned by a dominant. They are not yours to touch.
  2. Don’t disrespect someone else’s kink. Just because you would never dress up like Cruella Deville and have your partner dress like a Dalmatian doesn’t give you the right to criticize. Yes, Beauty and I giggle when we get back to our room or are alone, but never, ever put down someone for their kink.

It’s Not All Erotic – Not everything is erotic, and not all play is sexual. It depends on who I am playing with. Jud and I are completely non sexual. My wife and I always end our scene with orgasms. Play with Beauty gets me wet and sexually excited, but the rush I get from the energy exchange of others I play with is completely different. And the whole “He had me so wet just from his dominant demeanor, or wished to possess me that I came the second he touched me”. Really? No. Beauty gets primed up as I ready the scene, putting on her cuffs and play collar and such, but even when we were having sex like rabid bunnies it took the foreplay of kinky play before she reached her climax. That really is what our play is, foreplay.

Scenes Go Bad – Sooner or later a scene you are orchestrating will go wrong. Not everything flows a scripted. Sometimes this can be hysterical, and it’s okay to laugh. BDSM doesn’t have to be all serious, but scenes can go bad in a dangerous way as well. Be prepared. Have that first aid kit, piece of candy, blanket, safety scissors with the dayglow handle. Things happen.

It Isn’t Living to Please 24/7: – Yes, Beauty sees to my needs. She does as asked, follows the rules, does her chores. That does not mean she waits for my slightest command with her every breath. 24/7 includes real life things, and that submissive you think you want isn’t going to want to be naked and at your feel around the clock. Beauty has a strong desire to serve me, she also gets sick, has mood swings and PMS, has to deal with life’s emotional ups and downs, and sometimes doesn’t want to have to get the laundry, cook dinner, or whatever. She does do it, but she isn’t grateful and overjoyed to serve me every second of the day.

It’s not fun to make all the decisions all of the time. – Sometimes having to make all the decisions sucks. Really it does. Sometimes I just want to scream “Make a fucking choice or decision.” Yes I love to be in charge and yes, my little world get off kilter if things aren’t done to my specifications, but being in command, making every decision, never having peace from everyone looking to you for the answer can be daunting. I’ve said this before, being a dominant doesn’t mean get me a beer and give me a blowjob. That can be a side perk, but with dominance comes responsibility, ALL THE TIME.

Glamourous – The world of BDSM isn’t all glamourous. Dominants are people; that sexy Pro Domme is a person, that sexy attentive submissive is a person. I play in my jammies sometimes. We have our ups and downs. Sometimes I don’t feel kinky at all. Sometimes Beauty and I are just your basic married couple. We watch TV, spend the day being slugs in our pajamas, be anything but the stereotypical BDSM dominant or submissive. I’m not always up to cracking that whip or swinging that paddle, and Beauty doesn’t always want to play. It’s okay, and I don’t make her, just because I feel like it and I can.

Not all of us are damaged, but predators are very real. – Our kink community population most likely has the same ratio of people who had terrible childhoods, were victims of abuse, have depression or other mental illness as any other slice of society. We are not broken people seeking therapy through the giving or receiving of pain. That said, we also have predators among us like any other slice of society. It is very easy to take advantage of a new submissive. Once you hook them and they launch into sub frenzy you can have them eating out of your hand, and in your twisted version of a D/s relationship before they come up for air. Be careful people. There are great big old lines that aren’t fine in the least between a healthy D/s relationship, and an abusive relationship be it kinky or vanilla.

That’s about it. Some of this stuff no one tells you about when you are new. People make mistakes, people cross boundaries they don’t know exist, scenes go bad which can be funny or very bad, kinky people are just people, but we do have rules and expectations for conduct, and we tend to be pickier about manners and protocol. Come on in, the water is fine, but even though there is a lifeguard at some pools, it’s best to learn how to swim, and to stay in the shallow areas before you try out life at the deep end.

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Vile

Here We Go Again. Interview With A Submissive

Posted in bdsm, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , on July 21, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am going to tell you it just gets better and better….

I love doing these because although when people blog they tend to leave out some valuable information, and lets face it we all want to know.

So I ask and we get answers. People who blog love sharing their life, what is going on in their relationship. The ups and the downs.

When asked a specific question though you get a straight answer.

Today brings us the Latex Princess. I myself am a huge fan of Latex more so in pants and tight skirts.
You even have the awesome latex bondage, much like the rubber bondage as our Rubber bound Princess..

So here we go enjoy……….

Hi Vile,

Great questions! i hope i’ve done them justice by giving the right answers!

1. The name Latex Princess how did that name come into play ? I would assume Latex is a fetish ?

Sir gave me the name latex princess. When we first met, i always insisted that i was to be treated as a princess (something my mum taught me). Sir took this, combined it with our love of latex, and so it was! Latex was His fetish before it became mine. He was so pleased that i fell in love with it so quickly and became as excited by it as He is. When He introduced it into our relationship, at first i followed His lead, wore what He wanted me too etc, but then began to have my own ideas. i wanted Him to wear more latex. i wanted to start helping to choose the pieces we bought, i started watching porn with latex (we both have a crush on Latex Lucy) and now i make my own stuff! Sir wants me to write a blog post about how we got into latex, which i will get round to doing… promise!

2. Neither one of you were into the lifestyle from what I gather, how did the topic of BDSM come up ? Were you in a D’s relationship prior ?

Neither of us had been in a D/s relationship before. We have both had long term relationships in the past, i can’t speak for Sir, but mine became dull very quickly. i had very little interest in sex, i used to fantasise about naughty things (spanking, asphyxiation etc) a lot, but i never felt it was something i could bring up with previous partners. When i met Sir, we spent the first few dates getting very drunk, and frankly, i was feeling experimental and didn’t have much to lose, so just told Him! Luckily, He is as kinky and naughty as me and by the end of our first date He had me pinned against a wall by my neck kissing me more passionately than i could have thought was imaginable. After a few weeks we’d both experienced subspace and after that it was just a matter of time before we naturally fell into our D/s roles.

3 Do the two of you have rules or protocols in place that are followed on a daily basis ?

Yes! i have a list of rules, and then on top of that, any other duties Sir feels are necessary for that day. my list of rules include fun things, like tasting His cock when we wake up in the morning, and not so fun things, like cleaning my ears (i HATE cleaning my ears). i have to ask permission for a lot of stuff, like whether i can wear deodorant, whether i can wash my cunt, whether i can masturbate, how much i’m allowed to drink (alcohol wise), cigarettes (i get rewards for not smoking for a week), etc. i have expectations too, like Sir doesn’t like me eating rubbish food, so, although its not a rule, i tend to ask permission for treats and junk food and i give Him a heads up about where i am and what i’m doing in the day. i’d like Sir to take more control, over big things like money, but Sir isn’t willing to take on responsibilities that He feels he cannot fully commit to, so we will have to wait a while and see what happens.

4. Do any of your friends know about your lifestyle or are you just private ?

We are mostly just private. A couple of our friends know about it, one who is just lovely and open minded and the other who is into BDSM himself. Sir and i are worried that we might be judged by our friends and i couldn’t bear it if Sir was accused of abuse. A lot of my friends know we are into latex as i wear it quite publicly, but the D/s thing is a little bit more difficult to be open about.

5. Have you noticed that your submission has grown, since you two became a couple ?

Most definitely! i used to break rules, ignore Sir’s wishes and be kinda bratty. We’ve had difficult times due to Sir being distant or busy and me reacting by being a brat, but that wouldn’t happen anymore. If Sir has stuff to do, is pre-occupied or is working, i do my best to make His life easier by tidying up around Him, making Him food or just being there in case He needs me. i am a much better sub, and although i still make mistakes and i am still sometimes rude or naughty, Sir knows that i am completely under His control and would do anything He asked of me.

6. What has changed over time?

i’ve got better at understanding that i am His, that i need to put His needs first and follow His rules. The rules are there for a reason and it is in both of our best interests for me to follow them. He has become much more confident in being a Dom. He is better at setting rules, giving me orders and generally has more of a dominating presence. We have grown into our roles and we will continue to do so.

Without going into a lot of personal detail, what kind of Kink are both of you into and was there any negotiation before entering the relationship ?

Sir and i have a lot of Kinks… They weren’t discussed before entering the relationship, they grew with us, and we discovered new things together. Most of our Kinks are to do with the fact that i’m a masochist and this brings out Sir’s sadism. He hurts me and we both get off on it! We also like bondage, watersports, humiliation… there are just so many fun things to do!

7. Are both of you active in the community ?

Not really. Its something i’d like to get more involved in, but we live in a city where everyone knows everyone and i’m a bit worried about friends finding out. i manage a bar in the city centre and wouldn’t want my customers to find out and respect me less because of it. We are planning on moving to Berlin in the not-so-distant future, so hopefully we can get involved in the community a bit more over there, and my uncle is a drag queen in Amsterdam, so we are thinking of popping over for a few days to check out the scene there too!

8. What advice would you give to those who are single looking for a new Dominant.

i’m not in a very good position to answer that i’m afraid. Sir and i met away from the scene and grew into a D/s relationship. It wasn’t planned and i wasn’t actively seeking a Dom. i guess just be careful, don’t rush into things and take it slow. It would be awful to be collared by someone early on a relationship, and then to find out a month or so down the line that they’re a douchebag!

Thanks for taking an interest in mine and Sir’s little life. i hope my answers have been helpful and interesting. If you or anyone else has any other questions, feel free to drop us a line (i’m sure Sir will happily answer anything directed to Him) either via my blog, twitter (@Hisltxprincess) or email (hislatexprincess@gmail.com).

http://hislatexprincess.wordpress.com/

Lots of Love
From
latex princess
Xxx

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Vile

Arianna Chained

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Bondage, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on July 4, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

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At times Arianna needs the security of steel. She will sleep well tonight.

Trust

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock with tags , , , , , , , on June 21, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

There are to main areas in the lifestyle that make a relationship possible, the first being communication, and the second would be Trust. Without either of those two there is noway to move forward, and if you do it will never work.

A good example you meet a new prospective Dominant, and your having dinner , you have spent time chatting and talking on the phone, but when you finely meet face to face and you start thinking something is just not right, or you may catch him in a little white lie or a huge lie, you know right then you cannot trust him.

However many times and I am sure some of you have done this, you went ahead and moved forward with the meeting and perhaps more.

The internet has just blown up in the last five years, and like the bottom of the sea much of it is still unexplored. You can find anything you want legal and illegal all you have to do is start typing.

You cannot spend time chatting or on the phone and be able to make a wise decision about trusting someone. On the internet we can be who and what we want to be.

Trust only comes from face to face communication, open communication and both parties have to be completely honest. Both parties  have to be willing to lay all their cards on the table, and be truthful.

This is what kills me and then I will drop it. Yea the Married man who is Dominant when he is not home. The first thing a Dominant tells you, is to always be honest and always tell me the truth. You have heard this before. Well fuck me running with a chain saw, If he starts out the relationship with a fucking lie, what in the world makes you think he is going to be truthful with you.

If you start out with a lie and I know you have to be thinking really did he just say this?

Okay I borrow my friends car once a week once every two weeks once a month. I take it spend all day with it, bring it back no gas hand him the keys and say thank you. He continues to let me do this, then one day his car breaks down, I don’t care because I have nothing invested, only my time, it has cost me nothing.

You cost your married Dom nothing. You can be broke, you can be paying all the bills but your not going to say anything because he is just stringing you along until you break down.

Trust is built through time you have to become the best of friends, you have to know each other inside and out, you have to know what the other is thinking or at least care what they are thinking.

Trust is knowing every word that comes out of your partners mouth is the truth. Trust is knowing your partner has your back, Trust is knowing if you call at 3am your Dom will pick up the phone.

Trust you meet a new Dominant and you decide after dinner to get a room, or he did because he wants to start your training, Your training consist of being tied to a bed blindfolded and fucked in every hole. He gets his nut he is done unties you kisses your forehead and says bye. You may or may not hear from him. Now the trusting part you do not know this man from adam and you allow him to tie you up blindfold you and gag you. That is like asking for a death sentence when you have done nothing wrong, because once your in that position you are fair game little girl, and you have to lay there and take it, you are the one who will have to live with that. If you wake the next morning.

I wish someone could explain to me how going to a motel room and allowing yourself to be used is part of any training. Doing so does not make you a HOE, it does not make you a SLUT, it makes you LOOK STUPID, and that is exactly what he is thinking. Ive got this stupid cunt, and I am going to fuck her brands out. I know I have called many stupid cunts.

Your married Daddy or Dominant tells you I am here for you, but you can only call or text me at this time, so the rest of the time your on your own. One thing you fail to understand, you are not experiencing something that is meant to be so great, you are not experiencing the true meaning of a D’s or M’s relationship, and once you get tired of all the lies, and you decide you have had enough he will not care he will just find someone else. You will not even be a memory, not even a passing thought.  If he  lies to his wife, what makes you think he is going to tell you the truth, your not really that stupid. If you think your the only one he is fucking then you are lying to yourself, if you think he is going to leave his wife, you are lying to yourself, and you cannot live your life on false hopes.

I believe many of you are much better than you give yourself credit for.

Man Ive met bitches and getting my cock sucked 20 minutes after meeting them, its not hard and many new to the lifestyle makes it so easy. How is that part of training?

Ive got 20 years as a Dominant under my belt, well prove it mother fucker, show me. Tell me how you have 20 years and your only 30. Prove it. You have rights before you enter a relationship

There is no way you could possibly trust someone enough on the first meeting to let them fuck you like a piece of meat, because it could be the last time you get fucked.

Trust is the core of any relationship and once it is broken it may be reparable or it may not be. Even if you are forgiving your really not because it is always in the back of your thoughts.

Trust, do what you say your going to do and say what you mean. If you tell me something I will take your word until you prove me wrong. If I do not trust you I will tell you upfront.

Arianna and I spend hours upon hours talking, we talk about anything and everything. I want to know whats going through her mind, what she is thinking.  We have built trust in our relationship, we have built something we value.

Without trust your always second guessing, you have these doubts in the back of your mind, and then there are times when you know he is not telling the truth you still go along with him

A human lies when they have something to gain, the bad thing is they have to tell another lie to cover up the first, then another, then they forget, that is how they get caught.

The submissive or slave should be the main focus. The bubble thing again you both step into your bubble and nothing can come between you. Your focused one one thing and one thing only your partner.Because in the end, your partner will be the only one who has your back.

Trust takes time, building a relationship takes time. While it can be true you can click on the first meeting, you can like each other on the first meeting, but the trust is still not there

You can feel compassion you can feel love, you can feel these things by the way your being held, and the KISS the KISS tells all. Your heart can feel the trust, but do not get confused because your brain may be telling you hey this jerk is not telling the truth, sometimes your heart can mislead you, your heart and emotions will try to over ride your brain, you just have to be strong enough to stand frim.

You always go with your first instinct always because if you question yourself and you go against it you will get fucked up.

Trust, I love choking while having sex, you place your hand right above the adams apple and squeeze, as I am watching Ariannas face turn a deep red, then her legs start trembling I let go. She gets off on that, I can feel her getting wetter every time I do it, but she has enough trust in me not to fight back, she has enough trust to know I will not harm her.

You build trust like your building a home, you both sit down and you design your perfect home, room by room, door by door, then furniture in every room. You build trust in the same fashion one room at a time, from there you can even remodel some of the rooms to make them bigger and better. You can do the same with trust, and as long as you have the open communication, you know you will always have that one you can depend on, because you trust them.

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There you go right there you can begin your journey , you hold the key to your life, you control the choice and consequences.

Vile