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Continuing Training

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Slave, communication, consistent, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, relationships, Rules, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive, Train your slave, Training Arianna, training your slave, Training your ssubmissive, viledesires62@aol.com with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on September 9, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Just as a job we tend to get comfortable and at some point and time we start to slack, we tend to do less, we start to believe we are not replaceable but the fact is we are.
The same goes for a relationship we get comfortable , we start expecting what we once valued as a gift, our partner just wanting to please. Last week I spoke about the Resetting of the relationship , mainly D’s and M’s but I suppose some vanilla could use the same thing..

I call it continuing Education and as we know things are changing daily, we change, our needs become different and at times more extreme. Right now again Arianna is exploring ways on how she can deepen her submission even more. While she thinks this would be added work to me that is not so, everything else is already implemented.

Something else I wanted to touch on we as Dominants or Masters we all march to the beat of a different drum. We all have our own way of doing things, we all have different visions , needs and wants.

While at a Munch Arianna and I sat next to a D’s couple who are pretty new to the lifestyle and that is what I told him, March to your own drum you have to be happy, find what fits you.

In the lifestyle we grow almost on a daily basis, our needs change, so it is up to the Dominant to step up to the plate and make changes.

So lets say the Dominant is in a happy place , but his submissive comes to him and says hey I think I would like to give up more control, or maybe add a few more rules or protocols.
It may be the Dominant does not want to add more to his plate , but he will also have to evaluate the needs of the submissive. Even though he may not want to take on more, our number one objective is to insure their needs are being met.. There has to be a time when we as Dominants have to look at a bigger playing field and give more even if we do not see the need..

Training is a type of Behavior modification and it takes time , it will not happen over night a week , or even a month. It will take the two a month to get everything worked out…

I run a very strict house , protocols , structure and believe it or not only a handful of rules. Last week Arianna was questioning her submission, stating she could not see her submission, at times she felt less submissive.

I put a plan together , the BDSM reset I spoke about a few weeks ago. I started taking things away. The first to go was the furniture, second she was giving a Dog bowl to eat out of not every night , but at a time I picked so she did not know until we were ready to eat.
I did however allow her 45 minutes a day on the couch after work, but there was a catch. She likes taking a nap in the afternoons after work, along with surfing the net on her phone and tablet.
She had 45 minutes on the couch but there had to be a choice, her phone, table or nap. She had to choose her time wisely..

Yesterday while she was laying in the floor she had a moment, as she sat on the floor she started thinking about her submission and she realized she had no down time at all, she was able to see not only her submission but her task, her protocols, her rules it seems with just a few days everything came to light.

While laying in bed talking she said you really know me, you knew the effect it would have on me, you knew how I would react, and she was correct.

Just a slight change in our daily life made Arianna open her eyes and she realized just how well she had it made.. It made her think and it only took a couple of days.

Training is an on going tool we as Dominants use to keep our house running smoothly…. Training on a daily basis keeps structure in the home.

We are all different , we all have different needs , what we all need to do , is while we may not understand others we should respect their lifestyle. In our world there is no wrong way, and just maybe if we try to understand those we don’t it may allow us to grow.

Something to think about, what type of training did you receive ? How did your training effect you ? How did your training change you ? Is your training consistent ? Do your rules benefit you ? Are you put first in your relationship? Do you have access to your Dominant 24/7 ? I feel these are all important…

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Vile

What Kind Of Submissive Or Slave are you

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, anticipation, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Safety, choices and consequences, communication, control, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, Exploit, FaceBook Vile Woods, fucking, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, non-consensual, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 20, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

We are all Different our personality’s , our lifestyle , our work. We are come from different backgrounds. Submission comes on so many different levels. Dominance comes on so many different levels, our kinks come on so many different levels….. More important our needs come on so many different levels.

Over the years I have grown , over the years I have made mistakes and I have paid my dues. Today I live by two words yea you know them Choices and Consequences , those two paths will lay out your whole life.

Submission, The state of being obedient : the act of accepting the authority or control of someone else. Those are some very deep words and words that need to be given heavy thought.

So you grab a pen and paper , a blanket and curl up on the couch and you let the thinking begin. I have posted something else about this , one was. There are seven different types of submissives , but as I was thinking about that topic I believe there are way more. To be put in any one group is not right or fair, so you have to get your thinking cap on.

Do you want to follow rules? Do you want structure ? How much power do you want to give up? Do you want just in the bedroom , the house or 24/7 ? You have a million and one thoughts so I would not think this is something you would complete in one sitting.

What kind of Dominant are you looking for? Strict ? One who gives you rules ? Protocols ? One who punishes when needed? One who keeps his word and tells the truth ? A Dominant who will listen to you , A Dominant who will communicate with you on all levels ?

You have to figure out your kinks , some you will not be sure of because you have not explored. What hard limits you have , medium and soft.
You must know the difference between the different Dominants. A Dominant and a Master are very different. A Daddy Dom is very different from the other two. Once you have kinda figured out where you think you would fit, then you can determine what type of Dominant your looking for….

Wanting someone who wants you for you, not someone who wants to try and change you. I take and improve on what I have to fit my needs. If you have to go through all those changes then you have found the wrong person, the wrong partner…

Acceptance in any relationship matters the most , being able to be yourself , be who you are and being free.

Many who are first entering the lifestyle will feel rushed , and may even have that feeling of being overwhelmed. It happens and this is when you have to sit and take control over your emotions and your thoughts. You have to learn to tell the difference between what your heart is saying and your head, most of the time your brain is right.

Limits , every Dominant wants to know what your limits are. Do you enjoy anal sex? Do you swallow ? Do you like Rimming ? Do you like humiliation ? Do you enjoy pain ? The most frequent question on the street today is are you BI ? Why is that number one I do not have a clue?

Being new to the lifestyle you have know know if what you want is fantasy or reality, not knowing has been the down fall of many relationships. If it is just fantasy and the relationship ends , then it was the Dom who abuse you , or so you think. Many times when fantasy meets reality it can be a crashing blow. Now your fantasy turns to fear and the Dominant ends up getting blamed for something you told him you wanted.

Being new and not talking to anyone in person who lives the lifestyle is really hard. While it is true you can chat on the internet , knowing if someone is telling you the truth or not is harder.

The number one rule you have to follow is never let someone tell you who you are , this is trying to change you and change the thoughts you have already put together in your head. You may say well I am a submissive , and someone try to tell you your a slave or a baby girl when in fact your a submissive. Your going to listen because this Dom has told you he has 100 years in the lifestyle. The key to your success in the lifestyle is being able to be you. The key is finding someone who will except you for you. If someone wants to change you then you are not be accepted for who you are.

If your asked a direct question then you give a direct answer. You do not at any time give an answer because it is what they want to hear. You answer with your first thought. Are you poly ? No I am not nor do I wish to be. Acceptance is the key word here.
Those two words again Choices and Consequences those two words will make you or break you and your answers need to be clear and straight forward.

Do you like pain ? You already know the answer to that question or you should if not then your answer would be , you know I am not sure I am willing to explore a little. A direct question gets a direct answer.

You have to remember every submissive is different , every submissive has different needs , just as with a slave or a Baby girl. Your needs are what is important , your needs should be met without resistance.

Rules are meant to improve not change you. Rules are meant to provide structure and guide you , not change you.
You must send me nude pictures everyday , that is not a rule , that is exploiting you , and do not think he is the only one who is seeing your pictures.

Do not think the first Dominant you meet is your last , if something does not feel right , then thank him for dinner and tell him it is just not you, you are not what he is looking for. Choices and Consequences.

The predators in the lifestyle truly out number those who are real and have their best interest in you. It does take time to figure out who is real and those who are just looking for a quick fuck. These types of predators will string you along until you catch on.

Remember this is your life , you are in full control of the outcome.

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Vile

The Truth About Daddy Dominants

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Structure, BDSM TPE Relationships, Cheating Dominant, Collar, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Daddy's Baby Girl, Discipline, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, Fake Dominants, fuck buddy, kinky, Local events, MAST, Master And Slave, Masters And Slaves Together, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 9, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

First I am not speaking about every Daddy Dominant in the lifestyle , I am however speaking about 98% or higher .
Baby Girls in the lifestyle for the most are really different than those who are submissive or even a Slave. Most Baby Girls do not live with their Daddy Dominants, while I am not sure what the numbers are the percentage is very high.

Most Daddy Dominants are married and cheating , most Baby Girls do not care that they could be responsible for ripping a family apart because they are selfish. Selfish enough to try and separate the father from his children. In those cases I look down on both and I have zero respect for either.

Baby Girls first coming into the lifestyle are very vulnerable, all are really clueless when it comes to the lifestyle. Most if not all are clueless when it comes to finding a good Dominant.

So A week or so ago I was speaking with a Baby Girl who mentioned the same thing I am speaking about , how the Doms wanted a relationship but they did not want the responsibility.

So while chatting with this Baby girl she told me she had been talking to a Daddy Dom or maybe just a Dom , but when I asked if he was married she said luckily no , she too has had the same problem with married Dominants.

Again I am not speaking about all Daddy Doms , there are some good ones out there who have their baby girls best interest at heart.

You know I spent almost 7 years in a Daddy Dom role , I will also be the first to admit that was a bad turning point in my relationship but I did it because it was a need for the slave, little did I know she saw that as a weakness in me , because I was willing to change who I was.

My role was not an easy one , I set goals for her , and I made sure they were followed through with. I had rules , and protocols that were followed. Again the weakness was me changing who I was.

Once your Baby girl , submissive or slave spots a weakness they will prey on that to see how far they can push you.

While our relationship is strictly an M’s , it is based more on structure , rules and protocols. I have never left a mark on Arianna , the key word here being NEVER. One I know her limits and I respect them , two I care to much for her.

This statement is going to hit some nerves. The term Daddy Dom is somewhat new to the lifestyle. Another for the most I do not even think in a Daddy baby girl relationship the term BDSM should even be used. The main reason being many do not have rules , many do not have protocols , nor any type of structure. The final the only time a collar is put on is during play.
While at a MasT meeting sometime ago a Daddy Dom called me aside and told me I was abusing Arianna, I should not even be in the lifestyle because I did not know what I was doing. He said I was to strict, and I did not give her any freedom.
I thought for a second and I asked his what was he even doing at a MasT meeting. MasT means Masters And Slaves Together.
I have been approached by Dominants who have asked me basically the same thing. These are people who do not have a true understanding of what the dynamics of a M’s relationship is really about.
Again this is not my thoughts to all Daddys Doms within the lifestyle.
However there is a reason why you do not see many Daddy , Baby girl relationships active in the local community, who knows?

Books are an excellent reference , and you can obtain a great deal of information from books , good and bad , but you cannot live your life according to what someone else has written it will not work. We as humans have different needs , different kinks , we need different structure , and rules. Books can give you an out line but in the end your just reading someones opinion, just like my blog.

Most Daddy Doms do not collar their property, well the first meeting but after that the collar is not brought up except during play.

We need to learn to accept everyone for who they are , and what would help is maybe learning to understand our friends a lot more. The more we understand the more we grow, the more we grow , then we are open to more ideas.

I have a very dear friend Master R , him and I live total different separate lives , we both have total different views on how a M’s relationship should be ran, how a house should be ran, but we are open enough to understand we both have different needs. We also know we can depend on each other , and today in the lifestyle that is really hard.

That is why when you first meet someone being able to clearly communicate is so important, being able to understand where each other is coming from. Knowing what is expected of each other. How you see yourself in a relationship , be it Daddy Dom Baby Girl , Dominant , and Submissive or Master and Slave.

I have said this before , my way is not the only way, and just with any book , after reading some 1000 post maybe you can lay the ground work to something awesome…

Again there are a few Daddy Dominants I respect but for the most man I cant even say.

Many who call themselves Daddy Doms are married and want a piece of ass on the side. So you sit and wait and wait and wait for that call or text and then you get a couple of hours alone, then you wait another two weeks or a month and in some cases longer. You are an object and if you are happy being an object then so be it I am happy for you.

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Vile

Interview With a Little With A Touch Of Primal

Posted in Baby Girl, bdsm, Daddy Doms, openminded, primal, Primal sex, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , on January 25, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I love doing these what I call Interviews. It lets us deeper into someones life and maybe we hit on things that is not shared on their blog.

I stopped because one of the last ones basically the whole interview was a lie and I know this because they confessed shortly after , so I felt uncomfortable with sharing information that may or may not be true.

This is a different story I believe you are going to enjoy this interview , she is awesome and very straight forward , with a touch of primal….

I try not to get to personal but some of the questions I ask are to make someone think….

I also want to say I like her enough , my slave and I have invited her to our home in February and we will take her to an amusement park for the day then out to dinner. I also want to say I do not invite just anyone to my home. There are a few I have met on here I would but it is not very often..

So here we go……

Thank you for asking and I agree, if you are going to do it, tell the truth, shame the devil and have a good giggle ;-).  I’m sorry if this is long winded but you know how Self Important us Littles tend to feel about ourselves (giggle).

  1. Tell us a little about yourself . How many children do you have and how do you manage your day working ?My blog has changed names a few times but the last and final is Searching 4 Selina.  I have no problem embracing my Super Villian façade when it comes to dealing with things that scare me but I am learning to stop hiding behind my secret identity and to allow others to see the softer side of myself.

Like Shrek said, I am like an onion.  I may make you cry at times but odds are good you will laugh as well.  It can be painful but you keep coming back because I just add that extra spice you need!  I grew up in a military family raised by my Aunt and Uncle.  I have 3 older brothers who are very protective and old fashioned with one in the life style who is a Master and Sadistic.  I have always been very sheltered by the men in my family and in a way it has always allowed me to take chances and risks as I will always land on my feet thanks to them.  I am affectionately called the “Spoiled Little Princess” and that is a true description at times.  I will take as much as you allow me to.  Why?  Because I am the princess of course (giggle).

I have 3 children whom I love with all my heart.  They are all different and all very creative.  I grew up with “parents” who encouraged me to be myself and I passed this along to mine.  I ended up with a cheerleader, football player and a self celebrated “awkward, Social geek, and friend extraordinaire”.  I am THAT MOM… I drove a decked out mini van (until it went stupid), wear the shirts with my kids names to events and volunteer with the booster clubs, and for the youngest.  Whatever weirdness she is into (anime) I embrace, even to the point of tolerating Harley in DC.  She has a best friend who is gay and open in middle school.  She has adopted him and I call him my son as well.

As for work, I am a office/Program Manager so I have to be ON IT when it comes to most things.  I am highly respected not only for my knowledge but because those who meet me find me personal able and approachable when they need assistance and trust me when I say I will help I will help.  I am the subject matter expert and I speak my mind “respectfully”.  I have a schedule on which I do everything that helps me to remain in control/charge and to get things done.

2. How long have you been in the lifestyle and when did you come to realize you were a little ?  In a way I have always been in the life style.  My Aunt and Uncle were D/s and I got to grown up seeing the peace that it can bring to a relationship.  I think I have always known I was little but before they called it a “sweet spirit”.  I have always collected dolls, always been a hugger, and always LOVED Disney and embraced the innocence of life.  This has made my Aunt and Uncle’s children (my brothers and sisters) more protective of me as well.

3 Can you please explain the term little and what it means to you ..FOR ME:  A Little is someone in the BDSM Life style who has a inner Little person.  Its not a personality disorder but a genuine way of looking at things.  We like sparklies, we tend to giggle a lot, we squeak and squeal when we are happy you can feel that energy.  For me, my little is always a part of me.  At work they call me quirky as I hide in plain sight.  I wear pink bunny slippers when I want to get out of my heels, I have been know to skip down the halls after a long meeting, and once when meeting a new section head who was OVERLY STUFFY I sang the Mr. Rogers theme song under my breath

4. How many D’s little relationships have you been in and what happened ? I have had 5 and they were

1 – MP who was a Master.  I was with him from the time I was 21 to 25.  I didn’t know that we had a D’s relationship but rather viewed it as old fashioned.  After he proposed and we were planning the wedding he presented me with my 1st collar and explained it as well as the direction of our relationship moving forward.  We had already been doing spankings, and light bondage, I called him Daddy and he took care of me.  But naming it like that, I ran afraid at the feelings of invoked.

2 – CSM I was 35 to 37 and we got together not long after my separation and through my divorce.  He was  a Sadist and loved me very much.  He could cause suck pain but loved me so well.  I use to be afraid to tell people about our play sessions afraid they would think badly of him but having meet others here on WP I can be proud of my time with him.  He got sent to Japan so we had to end as I couldn’t go there or take my kids and he knew it wasn’t right to keep me waiting 3 years.

3 – Younger guy who was poly.  It was a bad experience as he had a slave who HATED ME and for the most part much of our relationship was to make her happy.  He even gave us the same collar because she hated that I didn’t have one while she had to wear one.  Also, he pretty much just piggy backed onto what CSM did and rules set by him.  He also went to Japan

4 – Garrick….Garrick was Primal and online only.  He and I were friends on Fetlife who found we had TONS in common.  We didn’t set out to enter into a DD/bg dynamic but rather…it just happened, two Primal people walk into a bar so to speak.  Even though we were long distance he really understood the needs I had and did his best to provide.  However he was married with a lot going on and became over whelmed and ended up abandoning me.  We have since spoken and gotten closure and it’s nice to have my friend back again.

5 – DK…goodness DK was a SAGA!  DK was Alpha and vanilla who loved me enough to try D’s and to try to be my Daddy.  He was good at the D’s part and found freedom in giving into his darker urges of being dominant and bondage (I once spent a weekend chained to his bed as I kept threatening to leave) and providing that FIRM HAND that I needed.  However he wasn’t a Daddy.  He did not feel those Daddy urges and could not REALLY understand my Little.  In the end, I had to accept that fundamentally we were NOT as good a fit as everyone thought and end the relationship.  I am blessed that we are still good friends which made the break up that much easier.

  1. What are you looking for in a Daddy Dominant? This is a hard question to answer as it is hard to define what I need in a Daddy.

#1 DADDY DOM!  He has to have a back bone, speak up and not get trampled under my feet.  I want him to put that bass in his voice and call me on my actions no matter how little and he needs to be a Daddy.  He must feel those Daddy urges and not just because I am for them.  Need to put me to bed, need to check on me, need to bath me or ensure that I brush my teeth and wash my face before bed.  MUST have that Daddy Dom tone and look DOWN!!!  The kind who will pull you in close, run his hand up the back of your neck then grab a fist full of hair to pull your head back when you get out of line
#2 – Affectionate and caring.  I love to snuggle and cuddle so having a DD that feels the same is important.  He will need to understand that as much as I crave sex there will be times when I need to put my hair in pony tails, crawl into my pj’s and hide away.  I need him to hold me and understand this is a part of me.

#3 – Sense of humor.  I am a Brat after all and I am going to get into mischief.  He will need to laugh it off when he tells me I can’t go somewhere by myself and I roll out with a call full of stuffies…he needs to be able to appreciate my creativeness even if he does have to punish me (not saying that he would HAVE TO punish me of course – giggle-)

#4 – Crave the power exchange.  If he needs to choose my panties every day, remind me to exercise, drink my water, go to bed, stay away from pepsi then he should DO IT, not ask me if he can.

#5 – Sexual…I need to be used sexually and I need to be used hard.  Fucked not only for my pleasure but for his as well.  CSM use to call me into his office when eh was stressed on something.  He would bend me over his desk, whisper in my ear “Not a word Little One” and pound the hell out of his pussy.  He would then fix my clothes, kiss my forehead and send me back to my office.

#6 – Protective…I have shared a little recently on my blog that I have a bit of social anxiety in some aspects.  I am 5’1 and in large groups of people I have a fear of getting separated from my group or run over by people not watching where they are going.  I don’t need him to make a huge things just pull my arm though his and hold me close.  I hate to order when dining out so I need him to order for me and not make it noticable that the wait staff make my skin crawl.  I am always nervous I am going to piss them off and they will spit in my food or they think I am stupid when I order from the kids menu or just judging me for my food choices period.

#7 – Assertive and firm in his role as my Daddy. If I am wrong then tell me I am wrong.  If I am to be punished don’t ask me if I should be, tell me to assume the position, and if you don’t like something then SPEAK UP because if he doesn’t then I will and its down hill from there.  As the Daddy it is his right to lay down the law and my duty to follow.  If I don’t know the law I can’t follow so there’s the pickle.

#8 Able to communicate his needs and desires to me.  I want to be useful and to serve him.  I can’t if he doesn’t tell me what he needs.  If he doesn’t tell me when I have let him down then I can’t fix it and if he doesn’t tell me that he misses me or appreciates me or even desires me then I am caught up in my own head telling myself god only knows what and that could be a problem.

  1. How are you different from other Little’s? I think what makes me different is that I am not JUST Little.  I have my Little needs, but also, I have the slave needs of desiring TPE and to hand over all control to my Daddy.  I have my primal feline needs and need an orgasm to relax and center myself so I’m a little more slutty than other Littles and I have found that I am a little to straight forward or more so than the others that I have meet.  I get to know a Dom first, without considering him as a “Daddy” possibility.  I don’t judge his kinks or pass but want to know HIM.  When they press me to be “their’s” I have no trouble saying “thank you but no thank you.  In the past I have had Dom’s ask why and I have told them, if he was meant to be my Daddy he would not have to ask for my submission, it would have already been leaking that way and all he need do is pull me in. I have only asked myself twice if I would submit to a Daddy and each of those times I should not have and stuck to my gut feelings.

    7. Knowing what you do now , is your search different when looking for a Dominant than lets say 2 years ago ? Yes it is, before I had a “vision” of what my Daddy was going to be like and over this journey I have meet and talked to to so many different types that I have found that what I WANTED and what I NEED are totally different.  I am more aware of who I am, of how I became this way and more secure in WHAT I am.  I don’t’ let labels define me or others but learned to use them as guiding points on my path.

    8.How important is it to be who you are?  It is VERY important to me!  I have found that when I try to be something that I am not, I am not happy and it causes problems for me.  I NEED to express all sides of my personality.  I NEED to be free to be me or I can’t be happy and I tend to start to resent the situation preventing me from it.  I have to stress I grew up ACCEPTED for me, over protected for it yes but accepted none the less.  My brothers know my short comings and took care of me.  They never made me feel less for it but always made me feel loved that I can balance a $50,000 budget at work but suck at balancing my own check book.  MP never made me feel less of a mother because I use to have Disney movie days with the kids growing up but would rather come over and build the blanket fort for us (I suck at the structure part of it -giggle-).  I am smart, sexy, sassy, snarky, and slutty and I am okay with that  so everyone else should be as well.

    9. Are you looking for a Daddy who is looking for a family , meaning to include your children a father figure ?  My children have 2 wonderful fathers who have worked together to put aside their ego’s and co-parent 3 wonderful children.  I would expect for my Daddy to join that tribal at some point but to also understand they have FATHER’S who provide for them, he will be back up where needed and when they are with us.  Our triad has always include my oldest daughters step mother Tru and I would hope that my Daddy would join us in the same fashion.

    10.  You had mentioned you are primal when it comes to sex , could you explain what you mean by primal ?  For me, attraction isn’t based on a certain “body type”.  In person, its been the way they smell, their voice tone, or even the way that they carry themselves.  It makes my nipples hard, or my panties wet and I want to know more.  I find myself watching them, learning them and plotting their down fall into my bed.  I have often sat a dinner and just craved to run my tongue up their neck and have even done so a couple of times, the need to taste them that strong.  I am submissive in my relationship needs but when it comes to sex my feline has her own.  She will use whatever is necessary to be feed.  I have used puppy dog faces, sad eyes, tears…to weaken a Dom and get him to let down his guard and pull me close.  Once he does I use what I have learned about him to my advantage to seduce him.  Nibbling his neck and saying the words I know turn him on, running my hands along his chest.  I actually had a guy whose weakness was stocking and heals.  I “twisted” my ankle and when he was rubbing my foot to check for swelling I started rubbing his crotch with it (silly Dom’s – Giggle).  I call it “breaking the Doms” because afterwards they will apologize afterwards for taking advantage of me which always makes me giggle.  They ask why giggle, I admit the truth and they get all “Domly” and “explain” how it will be from that point on.  I always grin and say “OTAY” and it becomes an issue I’m not repenant about my actions.  If you want to make me sorry, punish me, if you don’t then just accept that I enjoyed it and lets move on.  There have been those that I wasn’t able to seduce and found them all the more that repremand and firm putting of me in my place…just YUMMIE!

There have been men who capture my attention with their words, in fact, I never really know what will capture my feline side but once sighted she “hunts” them.  There have even been a few times when she had discontinued the hunt finding someone lacking or not the meal she envisioned them to be.  Funny enough, I have never regretted sex with anyone but I have regretted a few relationships (giggle)

  1. You stated some of your friends do not agree with your primal side , is there anything you would like to say ? I wouldn’t say “AGREE” with my primal side but it was hard for them to understand that I am okay with my slutty needs and side.  I don’t’ view sex the same as them.  I need a connection to have sex so I don’t just fall in bed with ANYONE but when I feel that connection and attraction…I just want to ride him like a pony at a carnival or suck him like a Tootsie Roll and I’m trying to answer the age old question…how many licks does it take to get to the center (giggle).  However I am also a little more vocal about my needs and have no shame on how people take it.  I am not A SLUT, I am HIS SLUT and I’m okay with that.  However I also had to realize that my friends were concerned out of love and now they understand that I am not just slutty but I am safe and slutty.

    12. You are a little but how much control do you want to give up in a relationship ? I NEED to give up total control in my D’s relationship.  I am seeing a TPE (Total Power Exchange) where I know that my Daddy is the boss in all things.  Now this doesn’t mean micromanage as I am a pretty smart girl but I do want to always answer to him.  I want him to take charge of my weight loss, my eating and sleeping habits (they are HORRIBLE) as well as to ensure that I am not blowing my money on ever Dooney/Coach bag that I see (giggle).

I love checking in with my Daddy when I am away from him, having to ask for permission to masturbate (orgasm control) is such a turn on to me, and knowing that he CARES if I do or don’t do these things makes me feel truly loved and secure in my relationship.  I think that many don’t realize that growing up the way I did, my uncle and brothers showed me the benefits of submitting to another’s will so it comes natural to me.  I don’t’ feel the need to buck or fight, once I have that faith and trust in someone I can exhale and let it go.  Maybe that is a down side to the way that I was raised…but it is what it is right.

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Vile

Interview With A Daddy And Baby Girl

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, Baby Girl, bdsm, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, masochist, Rough Sex, SADOMASOCHISM, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , on August 14, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This is just awesome a Daddy and Baby Girl who has been married for 17 years…

So I put a series of questions together and they both answered them. These interviews gives up a different perspective about someones life. It gives us a deeper look, into someones home…..

 

1. You stated that you now have a Daddy, do the two of you live together ?

***** Yes. I am fortunate that I am married to my Daddy. We have been married 17 years. We have 3 kids. All teenagers.

2. How long have both of you been in the lifestyle?

***** we have been in the lifestyle over a year. However when I happened to stumble across a few things on twitter I realized that my submissive nature and the way I had been living my whole marriage had a name and I wasn’t the only woman who lived this way. Taking care of her husband and such.

3. This is for you Daddy. Have you always been a Daddy Dominant, or was there a time when things were different , meaning did you ever take on a different role? I myself was in an M’s relationship and we moved into a Daddy Baby girl role.

No, I have not always been a Daddy Dom.  I have been a “normal” dom as well as a Master.  I have explored all aspects in finding what I am and what I need to be.

4. This is to your Daddy. I know a lot of Daddy’s who really do not have rules they have their Baby Girl follow. Are there any rules or protocols you enforce on a daily basis ?

Yes, my Baby Girl has both rules and protocols that she must follow on a daily basis.  For example, she must check in with me when she leaves and arrives someplace, keep a daily food log to make sure she is eating healthy, make my coffee, etc.  These help give her daily structure and make her feel safe.

5. Are the two of you active in the local community if not do you have any plans in the future ?

*** we live in a small town and we were not sure what was in the area. We started out in the swingers community over 2 years ago. However we have found a couple of events in the area that we hope to go to next month.

6.  You stated that in the past you had an online Dom. Did you learn anything from that relationship ?

***** Yes, I learned several things from that relationship.

 1. An online relationship does not fulfill everything I need as a submissive.

 2. From this relationship I found my true submissive side as a baby girl. Just being a submissive wasn’t enough. So I found myself doing things for Daddy to fill the holes that I had. Since I wasn’t unable to do them in person for my on line Dom.

3. I learned that what I thought I was looking for I already had living with me. I had feared that daddy would not be able to handle this new baby girl side. We had tried a straight Ds relationship with a contract, that I signed under duress, and it just ended ugly. It did significant damage to our marriage. It has taken us son time to repair and in that process I was allowed to have an on line Dom. However Daddy was in the know about everything that happened with that relationship. I eventually out grew him which on line isn’t hard to do and Daddy was patiently waiting for me.

7 To Daddy, Are you Collared and if so what was the time period for the collaring ? I do know that all Daddy Doms do not believe in a collar.

My Baby Girl is not yet formally collared.  She is currently wearing a training collar until the time that I present her formal collar.  There is no time frame in my head for collaring.  Yes, some Daddy Doms do not believe in collars but I believe a collar is a wonderful symbol of her submission to me.  It also makes her feel safe and gives her a reminder of me all day.  She feels that I’m there and that she is protected.

8. As a Daddy and Baby girl, are you just into the Discipline part of the lifestyle or is there kink involved as well…

**** While while I thrive and feel a very strong need for the discipline. I am a masochistic. I love pain. I find a clam in a good therapy spanking. Canning can and has taken me into the beautiful depths of sub-space. I love to be tied up. A good rough fuck is always great. I am a fan of wax play and the Wartenberg wheel. I enjoy a good scene. Really as long as Daddy is using me for his pleasure I am happy.

This is just awesome Thank you both for taking part, and sharing something so deep. More so showing a Daddy and Baby Girl relationship can work…

Vile

Words And Submission

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Gorean lifestyle, Gorean Portocol, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive, The slave must adapt, The World Of BDSM, Thekinkyworldofvile, Total Slavery, Total Submission, TPE, Train your slave, Training Arianna, training your slave with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 14, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

One thing I do during training is, I utilize what is called speaking in thirds. This is something that is common in the Gorean lifestyle.

To me speaking in thirds has a purpose, and the purpose is to make one focus, to think, to think before they speak.

The words tend to have more meaning, and the slave is able to explains things better if she has to think before speaking.

Speaking in thirds gives one a total different aspect of who and what they are, it is like a reminder, and it teaches self discipline.

Once I start training I use the technique for a couple of weeks or sometimes I will use as a form of punishment, again to make the slave think.

When a Dominant uses the word Train, it is good to ask what he hopes to get out of it, and how the training is going to benefit you ?

So the night before last we were laying in bed, I was watching shark week, Bah Humbug, and I get an email. Guess from who? Yup Arianna, I was like what but sometimes she is able to express herself better writing things down, or in an email , than talking sometimes and I do understand her reasoning.

Arianna was expressing interest in speech restriction, and using the term your property when addressing me.

Her reasoning was it would make her feel a deeper submission, not only speaking in thirds but using the word property.

Once you give up full control , and you learn to follow the rules, protocols, it becomes a habit, and when things are a habit there are times we do not even realize we are doing them.

That is how Arianna feels at times, everything just falls into place and she does not see her submission.

That is why I have said in the past it is very important for the Dominant to remain consistent on a daily basis. If you say something, then mean what you say. If you say your going to do something then do it.

Although I am not Gorean I do follow many of the protocols, and I am consistent.

I can also tell you what rules work for one does not work for another. It would be almost impossible for every slave or submissive to have the same rules.

What protocols, and rituals that worked for one will not work for another. Every Slave or sub is different, their habits are different, but more so their needs…

Behavior Modification, changing the way one thinks or acts, in public or private.  Changing ones thoughts, or how they view things.

This can be done, if the Dominant is true to the relationship , but just as I tell those who are submissive, I tell the Dominants the same thing. Be careful what you ask for.

The best way to kick off your training, is for both to be able to take a vacation, and no I am not joking. You have kinda like a 5 to 7 day mini boot camp.

Before you say anything Arianna has been there, and she can tell you that her changes have only been positive.  Being able to let your mind go, and just flow with your training, but truthfully training can only be successful if you trust the one your with.

So there are some who wish to move into a deeper submission, even after training, the training never really stops, it does continue and it is daily maintenance.

The changing of one word , yes that is all it takes, just as Arianna stated in her email.

Instead of using the word I, she wanted to use your slave, or this slave.

About a month ago , I instructed Arianna to use the words Thank You. Thank You for everything.

Thank you for letting me sit, shower, bathroom. After taking the first bite of food, Thank You.

This all falls under Behavior Modification, but you as the Dominant you need to remain consistent.

You know what I truly find disturbing is a Dominant who is not really a Dominant, but enters a relationship with a Baby Girl a Submissive, under false pretenses. Promising one thing but not being able to deliver.

The Dominant not thinking of the negative effects he is having on someones life, the damage that is being done, and playing with someones emotions.

Then it is clearly not the Submissive who is the problem, it is the Dominant who will put all the blame on the sub or baby girl because the relationship did not work. When in fact the Dominant either had no intentions of making things work, or he did not have a clue.

Changing one word, can change ones life.

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Vile

I have Been Busy, 4 More Awesome Interviews on The Way

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , on July 27, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

We have been really busy here, but good things are coming.

I have 4 more interviews coming up, with the hopes of doing more.
This lets others take a different look into someone’s life.

Coming up is a Dominant, a Slave from Serbia, yes Serbia, not Siberia , Serbia, did I say Serbia where the weather is not as cold as it is in Siberia.

I have a Daddy Dom and His Baby Girl who will be interviewed together, and a Baby Girl.

Arianna’s Dad is not doing well at all, and will probably not be with us very much longer, so lets show her some love. The past month has been really hard.

Much Love

Keep Kink Alive

Vile