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Pussy Rules The World

Posted in Arianna, Bad Dominant, BDSM 101, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationship Negotiations, commitment, communication, Consensual, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , , , on June 27, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

Recently trying to mentor someone and yes I stated I never would mentor again but I really thought the guy was serious. As it turned out he was not and only interested in how many times he could make a woman cum. Shaking my head thinking this is coming from a 59 year old man.

Pussy is easy to get , keeping it is where the work comes in, and while you guys think you are rocking the boat, chances are she cannot wait for you to bust your load so she can move on to more productive work.

Do not get me wrong I love pussy, the way it looks, smells and taste but most of all the way it feels sliding in but let me make one thing clear. Sex is on my terms and my terms only. I actually prefer head and on a average week , I am being serviced about eh maybe 8 hours or a little more. Lets face it there is nothing like a warm mouth sliding down a dick. Just as with men and all men claim they are the king of eating pussy but that is really another myth. Just like women sucking cock if they do not love it then eh we really get nothing out of it.  I can say though the worst blow job Ive ever had still felt pretty good.

Arianna bless her heart she tries so hard to make me cum but that has only happened with her twice I believe and when all said and done she looked like she just ran a marathon. It is nothing she is doing wrong because if you ever got your dick sucked by her you would beg for more. She has this way of rolling her tongue while going up and down each time is a new experience. She is a fucking machine and can squeeze your dick so hard its like a vice grip but and but again sex is on my terms. I fuck when and how I want just like playing. I tell her the equipment to get out but share nothing else about what I am going to do.

Arianna sleeps naked well because she is not allowed to wear clothes while home unless I approve and late at night the covers come off and there she is spread eagle, and my dick says hey lets hit it.

We agreed when we first negotiated our relationship that there would be no sharing, she made it clear she did not want to be shared with anyone and I agree and why? Remember the oral skills I talked about and the vice grip?

Well that seemed to change for just a short minuet and I will explain. I bought a used car and it needed some work done on it and I had a very good friend who spent hours working on the car and once finished I offered to pay him and he refused the money.

So talking with Arianna one night I brought up sharing again and explained why I was thinking about it and she agreed, she even stated he would really appreciate you giving as a gift. Well he fucked that up, we went away for a weekend the 4 of us him , his wife and the two of us. A real nice hotel on the beach near Tampa and all hell broke lose with the other two. They fought all night long and I was thinking well his loss.

I get asked all the time from those who are novice , do you share? About a week ago a dom I did not even know wanted to take her out to dinner, I was like really are you serious? What was he thinking you ask? Pussy his mind was focused on one thing pussy.

A submissive or slave watches every move, listens to every word and how you act in public and they take in all of this information? Why do you ask? I am glad you did because they are looking for a weakness and why do they look for a weakness?  There will come a time when you can be manipulated with the all mighty pussy and you will cave like a kid at a willy wonka chocolate factory. You would crawl naked through a mile of broken glass just to taste her.

When a Novice dominant or maybe even experienced what comes up first in conversation? What are your limits, do you wear skirts with no panties? The deal Breaker is are you Bi ? Is you are a submissive somehow this dude who just met you , he says you know what? I believe you are a slave I really do and you just listen with confusion.  The list goes on and on and if you are new to the lifestyle you are clueless.

I need all of your information, all of your passwords and banking information so I can take care of you, and you give it , you give everything. Some have commented here before when they woke up their bank accounts were empty.

When you first meet you the submissive , slave you are in control and why are you in control? One your mouth and two look between your legs, yes the pussy. Your pussy controls the outcome of the relationship, your mouth controls the outcome of the relationship.

So the guy I was going to share Arianna with asked me before what it would take to let me let him fuck her. I was joking but I said a 2018 Dodge Challenger RT with a real shaker hood. We were going to the dealership the next morning but his wife blew the fuck up. Would I have done that? I cannot say for sure but probably not..

The power of pussy.

 

 

It has been 10 years On WordPress

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Dominant, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Slave, Submissive with tags , , , on May 28, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

Eight years here on wordpress sharing my thoughts, my ideas, my life but the majority of my blog is about abuse. I am huge on consent , consent means everything. I ama huge advocate when it comes to abuse and it can go either way but mainly towards females. Abuse come in many forms, from mental to verbal abuse but the kicker is physical. No man or Dominant should lay a hand on a female out of anger.

So you get angry and slap you slave around a little , black a eye, bust a lip and then a hour later you expect her to lay on her back and pretend to enjoy. Then comes the promise comes I will never hit you again and he starts to cry maybe shedding a tear and you break down out of guilt and forgive.  Once a man lays a hand on you no matter how many times he states he will never do it again he will and each time it will get worse.

While the emails have slowed, I still get from time to time where a slave has giving all of her passwords to her master she just met a few weeks back, to only wake up one morning to find her bank account empty. The bad thing is you don’t even know who this man is or where he lives because he would never share any information with you.

Domination through fear is a manipulative way to get a novice slave to submit. The isolation not letting you go anywhere, or see family and friends because he tells you he is the only friend you need.

I talked about my growing up, my family grew up poor and for most of my life we lived in government housing. Both of my parents spent more time in rehab than at home or working. I learned at a very young age I was going to be better that both parents and at the age of 13 my first job was washing dishes at a place called Rosies diner.  I made 2.05 an hour but at the end of the week it was my money and I spent it on me. At 14 just turning 15 I went to work at a cotton mill in Canton Ga working 3rd shift where I made 2.75 an hour. After work I went to school during the day and slept after. At the age of 16 a Army Recruiter came to our high school and I talked to him and he explained when I turned 17 with my parents consent I could join the Army. October 14th I brought paper work home and explained I wanted to go to baseball camp but I would need their approval. They both happily signed. October 19th I was on a train going to Ft Dix New Jersey.

Arriving in Korea and 18 year olds paradise , there was pussy everywhere , all shapes, sizes , kinks , and fetishes, and for around 20.00 you could eat, get drunk and fuck . Although I learned about kink early on from paper back books I had read, Korea was my first real experience into the world of BDSM. This was mid 1980 and I met a Korean Soldier named Kim, come to thank of it most Koreans were named Kim. In 1980 a Roc Soldier made 5.00 dollars a month. Kim and I became close and when I got paid I would by a carton of Kents. Most Koreans for what ever reason Liked Kents and I could never figure it out but a carton would set me back 7.00 dollars.

Kim invited me to a live show one night and I sat there amazed and I could feel the click. I thought to myself this is my way of life. My first mentor at the age of 18, this is where I learned the importance of listening and communication but I also learned the art of manipulation not by teaching but turning things around in my mind.

I then moved on to Germany which at first I did not really like, but the people for the most were really nice and the beer kicked ass. This is also where I was introduced to Hash. I was still taking pills just about anything I could get my hands on looking for that next high.

I met Gretchen in a small pub downtown Wiesbaden right on the Rhine river and if you ever get the opportunity to take a tour it will blow your mind.  Although in my early teens I kinda of knew what kink was by the books I read, Gretchen took it to the next level. Waiting for a bus sitting she would just start giving head and while people were walking by or in the back of a taxi. Gretchen is also responsible for my name Vile and I have blogged about that but it stuck with me after I left Germany.

My exit from the military forced me to make changes , the first change was the drugs. Having lost my first two jobs due to drugs and drinking , I stopped cold Turkey and never looked back. I knew I wanted to be better than my parents and by this time we had fallen out and there was no communication at all. You learn in order to move forward in life you have to rid yourself of toxins and at times this can or will have to include family.

Moving on from 1986 my exit from the military, I could not tell you or give you a number when it comes to the women I had dated and used. Remember the manipulation I spoke about above, well I put it to work to only benefit me. I did not understand the hurt or trouble or the effect it had on others , the only thing that mattered to me was getting off. Pussy and more pussy, it was like a gunslinger putting notches in his gun belt. However later down the road I realized something and that was most mornings I woke up alone and very seldom did the girl from the night before want to see me again. Without the internet it made my hunt very hard but again this is where the manipulation came in at. One thing I was good at and I played to my advantage was reading people and if I could get 15 minutes conversation in she was mine.

 

Moving ahead a couple of years, I took a job driving a taxi and Limo part time. I was liked and the owner of yellow cab gave me dedicated runs that averaged 150.00 a day plus my regular pickups. Sitting on a stand on day this old man in another cab pulled up, he looked like a pissed off santa clause. I said hey whats up ? He came back with fuck you and I thought wow. He said his bitch was at home chained up and was deciding if he should go and unlock her after all it had been 3 days. His real name was Animel and after a month or so I kinda latched on. I had never asked him to mentor me but he would share information with me, some I agreed with and some I discarded as it did not fit my way of life.

The life between him and his slave was consensual but the two did not look like a couple, he was some 30 years her senior.

A few years down the road Animel had a triple by pass , then another by pass allwith in a month of each other. His slave had moved back home due to a family illness so I decided to move in and take care of him. I lived with him for a couple of years until I took a job some 30 miles away, so I moved out but stayed in contact with him. I am not sure what happened but we kinda drifted apart until one night I received a call telling me he had passed away and people had stolen everything he had.

Moving on to about 2009 and I had truly found myself , taking some time just for me and figuring out who I was and what I needed to complete my life.

I had a complete list and this list included not only my needs but wants, the slave would have needs. As long as needs are met there really are not any wants, but now you are thinking hey you have wants? Yes I do but the difference is , it is my house and the rules are mine.

I dated probably 30 to 40 slaves not submissive’s but slaves and the deal breaker was with most was not wanting to wear a collar in public around friends, family and work. What I was looking for was a more service orientated slave, someone who was dedicated in taking care of their owner. While I do enjoy kink and bondage I truly thrive off of a well structured home.

The collar to me is very sacred and a sign of ownership and devotion. It really surprised me at the amount of no’s I received and when asked if that was a deal breaker I replied yes.

After almost two years I had made arrangements to move to the Philippines and live out the rest of my life, I had a job lined up and a place to live. The truth is I had giving up on my search and just said fuck it im gone.

Watching Law and Order I received a call from another dom and stated he wanted to introduce me to a slave, he said he thought we would hit it off. I explained my situation but agreed to email her. We emailed back and forth , then we began to text and then the meeting.

When Arianna exited her SUV and I had a full body view, my thoughts were, fuck me with a chain saw.

This June will be our 6th Anniversary and life continues to get better and better..

Vile

 

 

 

 

Mentoring

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Slave, sucking cock with tags , , , , , on May 18, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

Times have changed , people have changed and those who take this way of life has changed.

It took me some 25 years to get where I am at today and in this time those who want or claim to be a dominant want it now. While I have had successful relationships, I had many more that failed and the failure was on my part and my part only. I made mistakes and I only blamed myself.

Being inexperienced has its ups and downs, meaning if you speak with someone who has been a slave most of their life they will smell you from a mile away and as a new dominant you have nothing to offer. If you are lucky and hook up with someone new and they know no better you may get away with it for a short time but you will crash and burn.

I did not stay with my mentor for a month , six months , stayed years and when he became ill I moved in and took care of him because I cared and he had dedicated so much time to me.

You have to start out with compatibility , you have to become friends first. Then trust, trust is earned and to this day many do not understand that. A slave in time will turn over body and mind to you and enable to do this there has to be a lot of trust.  How long does it take to build trust ? That really depends on the Dominant and how true you are to your word.

When mentoring the first question that is asked is what about punishment ? How do you punish your slave Sir Vile ? Well my response is I do not , short answer I do not have to. There are times we may have a discussion but there is never a need for any type of physical punishment.

Before entering or thinking about entering a relationship the two have to come to an agreement on how the relationship will work. You will both give your expectations on what is expected from each other. The dominant will lay the ground work on what he will accept and not accept.  I am speaking of behavior , attitude, mouthing off and so on. I myself will not put up with such. Mouthing off or being a brat, and my thoughts are the definition of a brat is a bitch.

If you are a Master and looking for a slave, you cannot look at baby girls, brats or those who are submissive, you look for a slave.

Here is where the problem is, you have a whole pie and you cut the pie into slices. You cut the submissive’s out, then the brats, baby girls and now you are left with not even a quarter slice. This is another problem those dominants who are middle aged are looking for little 18 years olds who are 5.0 ft and under a 100 pounds. Guess what ? Your fucking pie is gone.

Mentoring should be a easy task, we talk and I bombard with information. A couple of weeks later I will bring a question up that was on a site I sent only to be told they had not had a chance to look at it. A month goes by, two months and still no time. This makes me ask myself are they serious about learning or just overwhelmed with the responsibility ?

 

Another first question that comes out of  novice dominant is what are your limits? To this day I do not understand why such a question would be asked because you do not even know the slave well enough . Do you wear mini skirts in public without panties ? The loaded question and many times a deal breaker is are you Bi?

If you cannot take care of yourself, how do you plan on taking care of a slave? One thing that stood out when Arianna first came to my house was how clean it was. I was not looking for a mother to take care of and I was able to pay all my bills including child support.

I read people very well and I can perv Fetlife and find those who I think may be compatible with the one I am mentoring. The killer is once I introduce it is out of my hands. The way things move forward depends on the Novice dominants interaction and it seldom goes well. Recently a nice looking Asian going to school to be a RN and down the road a doctor.  As I was chatting with the dom his words were I got this, well it turned out he did not and even after I tried to intervene it was to late. He had freaked her out asking for her number and texting then making her agree to be his slave before the two had even met.  I was in total disbelief as he was texting me what he was telling her. Now all the blame was thrown on her , it was her fault, shes not a real slave and she will not talk when I ask a question.

So you are stepping out of the vanilla world into a whole new dimension and there will be a lot of struggles, there will be a lot of failures and mistakes but you have to learn from the mistakes in order to move forward.

In most cases the slave will not open up until there is some trust that has been established and your conversations are not about sex or their limits. It takes time to get to truly know someone.

When you first meet you have no rights to impose demands or to instruct the slave to call you sir. The two of you have not come to any type of agreement, the slave has no one to answer to not even you.

Just because she is a slave does not mean the slave is for you. You or both may have different ideas about how a house will be ran, or different goals and yes limits when it comes to playing and sex.

The problem with mentoring someone is once things are explained , once the conversation begins everything they were told goes out the door because the novice dominant knows everything.

The females have changed over the past 20 years and while a little may be true a submissive is a submissive and a slave is a slave.

The novice dominant those who listen turn out great but the majority do not listen and place blame on someone else.

The dominant could have the world at his feet and never want for anything, it is just the being real part.

Ask yourself something, why do you want to be a master?

Vile

 

 

2020

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Dominant, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, pandemic, Slave with tags , , , , on May 17, 2020 by thekinkyworldofvile

What a fucking year so far, who would of ever thought entire economy’s would be shut down? The whole world has come to basically a stand still with record numbers out of work and while we are being told there is a light at the end of the tunnel, it seems like the tunnel is just getting longer.

Who do I blame ? This is just me but I cannot pin point any one or any country, shit happens. There is really not one country in the world who was truly prepared , looking at Italy , Germany, the UK and so many more.

I am not going to go on a political rant here because my blog is not the place and over the last 8 years or longer I have never brought politics up.

My slave and I are just fine, when the shit hit the fan I took the steps to protect my home. I started making the necessary calls to shore things up and put things on hold until this crap blew over. So while the economy stopped so did 3/4’s of our bills, again this is what the head of our house does, we keep our family safe.

My slave Arianna was furloughed from her job of 20 years and it has really hit her, but my thoughts were the down time is really good for her. She has good days and bad days, she has days when she is stressed and her mind is traveling at mach speed then she has days when she is mellow and all is good.

The one thing that has not changed is her service to me, the service never stopped and I want for nothing. The only thing that has really changed is her oral service, she is not use to twice a day but she continues to go with the flow.

I do appreciate her service in all areas and when she is having a bad day I leave her be and just let her chill. We have a Lani and I gave that area to Arianna so she would have a private place to go. She can clear her thoughts, she can write , or her and Lynn play games and read fairy cards.

I work from home and this what ever it is has only made my job much harder and complicated and by the end of the week my brain is fried. My  normal days off are Thursday and Friday but recently I was giving Saturday and Sunday off because of my stats. I felt pretty guilty when that was announced in our team meeting and the scores were brought up. Just so everyone knows Vile has kicked everyone’s butts for the past 90 days and a forth month coming and I am still kicking ass. Out of 25.000 employees I am at 78 and would of been higher but I have missed a lot of work due to being sick and my computer getting locked up and had to wait on a replacement. 98% of the time I am in the top 20 of 25.000. Every month I send a private message to the supervisor and ask , hey who is leading the team this month? The only answer is you. This month I asked again and the reply I got was really? Once a month our company publishes stats and breaks down by teams, then supervisors which each supervisor has 6 teams and the the line of business. There had been several months the stats had not been published and I complained and complained until they were but all names were blocked out except mine. It seems most did not want their stats published because of the low numbers. My thoughts are if your numbers are that bad then fix them.

Arianna and I have been watching A Handmade’s Tale and while Arianna likes it I love it. I love the concept of most of it but as in all things there are good and bad.

 

Much Love to everyone, and stay safe..

Vile

My Mentor

Posted in bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, Behavior Modification, Consensual, http://bestslavetraining.com/, Humiliation, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Mentor, Slave, Submission, Submissive, training your slave with tags , , , , on July 16, 2019 by thekinkyworldofvile

By the early 80’s I had somewhat of a grasp of what the meaning of BDSM meant , but I did not know how to really implement anything as far as building a relationship.

I had lived with chong for almost 7 years and we really just winged it even after chong moved beth in. Beth was someone I really disliked but only went along with it because it was a need for chong.

Shortly after chong had left and went back to Korea , I guess I went through a early midlife crisis . This is when I thought I was missing something in life but little did I know it should of been left as a passing thought. I had to get married , I wanted the house with the fence , the dog and kids. Little did I know this would be the biggest mistake I would ever make in my life.

I knew before I married it was a mistake but I had put a plan in place and I was going to stick to it. Nine miserable years just short of ten years and I was free. Something I learned early on as a Dom was I had morels , I placed standards on myself when it came to my integrity and I would not bend. The duration of my marriage I remain Loyal , I never stepped outside of my marriage. I felt that any Dom who claimed to be such should have higher standards but through out the years I have found many do not and just as many lack integrity. Many associate BDSM with just fucking and kink nothing more and then they complain when things go south.

I divorced and both went through a paralegal to complete the paper work. I had agreed to pay 85.00 a week in child support but soon after I realized 85 a week was really nothing.

I left with nothing and about 1200 dollars in my pocket , to make things worse I was in between jobs. I rented a apartment for 600 a month and I talked the landlord into letting me make payments on the deposit.

While sitting in the waffle house one night , just getting off of my day labor job , yes day labor paid daily. Anyway I over heard two taxi drivers talking about how much they made that day. One was 250.00 and the other boasting about the 560.00 he made that day. Bam the next day I applied , passed background check then drug test and I was set.

The first 3 months I found to be hard , I did not know the ropes but little did I know things would change. The owner of the company Francis took a liking to me and gave me two dedicated runs daily that would give me a take home of about 250.00 dollars a day plus what ever else I made.

Soon after I bumped my child support up to about 150.00 a week because I knew how hard it must be for a single mother to try to raise a child..

Sometime passes and came the breakup , while in the hospital my slave left and moved on. Wow what a rough year that would prove to be. After leaving the hospital it would take me almost a year to recover. The only thing that kept me a float was the two dedicated runs I had , other than that I slept in the car while waiting on a call.

I pulled up on the taxi stand where most drivers sat through out the day waiting on a call. I seldom sat there , mainly because I had those two dedicated run and a dozen of regulars that kept me running most of the day. I pulled up next to this car and I noticed it was a new driver. This guy looked like a pissed off santa clause and I am just looking at him , he looks at me and says well does that cock sucker you have work ? I said excuse me really? He stated well if you are not like most of the bitches here speak the fuck up.

Wow! What in the fuck crawled up your ass and died you old mother fucker , did someone piss in your glass of Im pissed off at the world today?

Then out of nowhere he shouts fuck , I forgot to feed her. So I asked what? He stated my bitch is chained to the floor and she cant reach the fridge. You have your dog chained up? No you stupid mother fucker I would never chain a dog up , my slave you ignorant fuck . Then he started his car and drove off.

Later that night I was thinking about this old dude for what ever reason , I could not get him out of my mind. Thinking there was someone else out there like me , well kinda like me , I was not as grumpy.

Somehow Animel had the ability to pull in some very beautiful women and I remember one who is still in my mind today. She was half American and half Taiwanese. Probably 5’1 and less than 100 pounds. As I had mentioned while driving a cab part time , I took a call over the radio and pulled into this apartment complex and out came walking this drop dead gorgeous woman well young woman , I am guessing in her mid 20’s. It was like a movie , time seemed to stop and as she walked her hair was blowing in the wind. She wore this crop top and a pair of Daisy duke shorts and sneakers. She was not very friendly and really pretty snobbish so I just ignored her and gladly took my 40 bucks.

Several months later I went over to Animels to borrow some tools , I was changing a motor in a 71 Monte Carlo . Animel and his grumpy ass mumbled and pointed towards his shop and as I was going through his tool boxes I heard a slight moan . Walking around his dune buggy he had been building for years , I see this bitch chained to the floor and when she looked up at me , I said well , well, well look at what we have here. I yelled out yo dude you have a bitch chained to the floor. Animel yelled out don’t  feed her yet. So I picked up the tools I needed and walked around the dune buggy and just looked down at the woman and mumbled , fuck me and walked out.

Animel had been living in the warehouse for several years , I really thought the setup was pretty cool. As I walked out I looked at him and just starred and Animel blurted out what dick head? I said nothing and walked out.

As I stated most of what was shared I did not agree with but what I did learn I put it to good use. Sometimes you can listen to someone and only hear what you want and your brain just disregards the rest maybe you know you are doing that or maybe you do not.

 

What I did learn was the mental side of the lifestyle , control and not being controlling , and the need for open communication and listening.

Last year I received a call around 9pm  from someone I had not heard from in several years and was asked if I heard ? Then I was informed Animel had passed , I was stunned and felt great hurt. What is weird it affected me more than when my own parents passed , I felt like I had a great loss even though we had not spoken in 5 years.

A mentor , a teacher , someone you can confide in , someone who will guide and bring out your short comings.

I never knew for sure but I believe Animel was a trainer. His relationships were short but very intense . One day the slave was there and 2 or 3 months would pass and the slave was gone as fast as she appeared.

There were no task giving , no test , just hours and hours of conversations , questions and sharing life experiences.

One topic I concentrated on was Behavior Modification , changing someone to fit my needs and my needs only. Changing habits , the way someone spoke , acted in public and private , the way one sat and even walked , and all can be done without the slave even knowing. This is what I not only wanted but needed.

I learned anger had no place in a Master/slave relationship , how could a master be respected if he was full of anger and rage ? Every time , you scream , call names or even getting physical , verbal abuse is just as bad as physical , each time you lose a little more respect.

Once he passed even though we had not spoken in sometime I still feel like something is missing.

Vile

Once he passed even though we had not spoken in sometime I still feel like something is missing.

Vile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How The Lifestyle Changed My Life

Posted in abuse, Arianna, bdsm, cock sucking, Collar, http://bestslavetraining.com/, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Part Time Dominant, Part Time Submission, Slave, Submission, Submissive with tags , , , , , , on February 3, 2019 by thekinkyworldofvile

Even at a very young age I was kinky , going back to 12 and 13. Then I enjoyed bondage , face fucking and anal. There is just something about a nice ass that rocks my world , more so being in a nice ass.

In my late teens while stationed in Korea , my first look into a dark world I did not understand but I knew I had a connection.  Leaving Korea going stateside for a very short time then heading to Germany where I met Gretchen. Gretchen was up for anything and for two years it was like a 9 1/2 weeks. You would think after spending almost two years with someone love would of come up but neither of us used that word nor did it ever come to mind.

Heading back to the states I was even more curious , curious about something but I could not pin point it I just needed more of it. Most of the time if I went on a date it was a one time thing because if I got into her pants the real me came out.

Fast forward to the early 90’s and I met another Dom name Animel , the meeting him was just by chance and passing. While I lived in Daytona I would drive a cab part time during events. On any giving event I could make 3 or 4 thousand dollars. While sitting waiting on a call this old man pulled up next to me and struck up a conversation. It did not take long to figure out we had a lot in common and I knew he had a lot of wisdom to share. In a very short time we were like best friends and I found myself at his place just about every day. I would spend hours just listening to him about his life , relationships and why they failed..

At this time I had one thing on my mind and that was pussy. Back then yahoo was the best search engine when it came to finding someone. You could search other users right down to the city. Your search could include , submissive , slave , hair color everything. Then you pulled up their profile and off went a message.

Most Dominants place the blame on the submissive when a relationship fails , I find this hard to believe , because in my experience if the relationship fails it falls directly on the Dominant.  One lying about who he was , two not willing to put any effort into the relationship and last not staying consistent.

I met Bee on yahoo how fucking awesome and our relationship lasted for almost 7 years and when we split yes it was my fault. After Bee I jumped from bitch to bitch , most ending in less than a week. Those that lasted longer than a week was only because I wanted the companionship. As humans we tend to settle for less just for the sake of having companionship. I met Bee about 3 months before my divorce , the entire 7 years I was married and miserable I might add , I remained loyal. I remained loyal because while most might disagree I had some morals. The marriage was a mistake and I had to own it.  Prior to getting married I was in a long term relationship with a little Korean who danced for a living. This was a relationship that lasted 7 years or so and she ended up moving back home due to her parents health.

Being a Dominant is not a part time job , nor can you train a submissive or slave on a part time basis. So ask a Dominant or most how they train ? Ask a Dominant about his protocols and you get a blank stare. The training question never gives you a answer or a answer I got from a Dominant last year when he stated he was training a new submissive , of okay what is your training techniques ? The answer he was was uh you know the usual. Yes really that was the answer.

You as the Dominant you have to sit down and figure out not only who you are but what you want out of a relationship. Again a part time Dominant only gets part time submission and nothing more and if you expect more you are just living a fantasy and nothing more.

To train someone you have to have a clear understanding of what it is you want out of life. How do you picture your life? What type of submissive or slave are you looking for ? What amount of control do you want in your relationship?

If you are already in a relationship or even married the partner you are with can be trained , and can be trained and in most cases not even know it. It is much easier to talk you your spouse than to look elsewhere , unless you are upfront about your plans.

Back in the day I was pretty wild , heavy into pills , I smoked more pot than I can remember . Germany was good , I smoked Hash and a lot of beer , I love beer.

After I exited out of the Army and I lost my first two jobs I knew I had to do something and I just quiet everything cold turkey.

The lifestyle I knew I was different but I could not pin point what I was feeling or the way I was thinking. I knew I was different and I also knew if I wanted to find a partner I needed someone like me. It did not take me long to be able to recognize those who were submissive , but I was not looking for anything long term , just someone for the weekends.

Years go by and I began to feel like I was missing something and that was someone to come home to. I lived with several knowing all would be short term but I had company and I was able to get my kink on. I have never allowed clothing to be worn inside the home and getting dressed when company came over it depended on who it was.

At one point in life I tried to change , I truly thought I was missing out on something so I walked away from the lifestyle and married Vanilla. I wanted the house , the dog and kid but little did I know I would spend the next 9 years being miserable. I have made a few mistakes but this would be a mistake I would pay for 18 years.

I was married for 9 miserable years , and I paid for it and in the end I walked away with a son who was barely 8 years old. I left a house and a shit load of money. During my marriage while being unhappy I remained loyal. I did not step outside of our marriage because when I married her I made an agreement.  I am a man of Morals and integrity , if I give you my word you can take it to the bank.

My life has changed over the years and for the good. It is a different feeling when you own someone instead of just the thought of being married. In my head the responsibility is much greater. You not only own , your decisions affect someone more because your slave looks not only up to you, but follows you through good and bad. We as Masters making the setting. I tend to think things out more logically , thinking of the consequences as well as the good and bad.

You have a slave who depends on you to make the right decisions , you own a slave who has the thinking you have their best interest in mind. Our fuck ups can have a rolling effect , mentally and if you continue to fuck up there will surely be a loss of respect.

We as Masters cannot continue to make mistakes and expect to be looked up to , or even expect someone to follow our rules.

Our slave must be our main focus , our slave must come first even before family and friends.

Today my life is perfect ,  and many when I explain just how my life is I just get a blank stare as if my story is unbelievable.

I want for nothing including sex , sex is always on my terms. Sometimes I tend to get relaxed and I start taking advantage of the girls and tend to take more than I am giving back. When I speak of giving back that would be communication and just listening. Arianna gives me a little reminder and I get back on track.

The lifestyle has made me more responsible for my actions ,  I think things through before action. I never put more on my plate than I can handle.. In my relationship Arianna come first even before family , Lynn comes first as well. I think that is a huge mistake Doms make not putting their property first…

I have grown calmer over the years and I came to realize there is nothing really to get angry over. Why would you yell of abuse someone who lays on their back or sucks your dick? I learned long ago to think before I speak , it gives me time to process my thoughts and words.

You want the world but you are not willing to put any effort into making the relationship work. BDSM is so much more than having someone suck your dick , then you get angry when things do not go your way. You make unrealistic demands , demands you would not do.

Your Property comes first no matter what , before friends , before family and if you are married and seeing someone the man up and leave because you cannot give 100%. You as the Dominant cannot expect full time submission being a part time Dom it does not work and in the end you will lose.

We as humans tend to settle for less than what we really need , this is called pussylitice , your dick is your brain , depending on your Testosterone depends on how Dominant you are.

You can have the life you want but you are going to have to work for it.

 

 

 

 

My Soul Searching

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Before meeting Arianna I was single for a little over two years , my you it was by choice. I had spent that time in doing some deep soul searching and I needed to find out a few things about myself. One who was I , I mean really I needed to know who I was in terms of the lifestyle. I cant remember back far enough when I had what you would call vanilla friends and my circle of friends in the lifestyle well I could count on one hand. There are reasons I keep my circle so small , one being if my circle is small and I am in contact with someone on a regular basis and I know I can turn to them ,  then I can consider them to be a friend. Even social media like Facebook or Fetlife I am not a friend collector , after all what is the point of having 2000 friends if you are never in contact with them?  Two I needed to find out what my needs were , what type of relationship did I need to have to keep the fire inside going ? Three what type of woman did I need in my life , was it a submissive ? Was it a Slave ? Or the last thing that popped in my head was she to be property ? There are clear differences between the three and each Dom or Master or owner differs as well , after all we are all different.

Knowing those three things before you enter a relationship is very vital when it comes to having any type of successful relationship but more so when it comes to our lifestyle.

Now during the 2,5 years I was single I did date and the dating process was so I could eliminate what I was not looking for and again I wanted a better Idea as to what I truly needed out of a partner…

One date I remember submissive saying I do not swallow , now sex was really down at the bottom of my list but to tell me you are not going to do something is a strike , and another no anal for me I get nothing out of it. It was obvious we had different out looks when it came to a relationship because it was not about her it was about me. I do not like bondage it does nothing for me , another I do not like humiliation it takes me to a bad place , the list went on and on. So at the end of the dates I would pay for the dinner and explain we were way to far apart to be able to come to any type of an agreement when it comes to a relationship. You mean because I do not like anal you do not want a relationship ? You are 100% correct that would be a need for me and while anal is not at the top of my list I may at times go a month or so just ass fucking , but of course then I always want to finish in the mouth. ATM is my favorite word..

Being a Dominant just did not fit me , this is mainly because a submissive has the right to say no. Being a master there are still negotiations which meant something on my check list could be marked off , yes such as no anal , or no sex when I dont feel like it or I am to tired. Tired really ? All you have to do is lay on your back I bust a nut and get up and you can go back to being tired.  I am to tired what the fuck does that mean ?

I wanted the word NO wiped from ones vocabulary , I cant , I wont. I wanted and needed full control over someones life, I would be responsible for taking care of everything , I would meet ones needs but then I expected my needs and wants to be completed again after all it was about me.

First entering the lifestyle the first slave I met was a total Masochist and needed humiliation just to survive , now how awesome was that ? Well one would think they struck gold but in time I found the Humiliation to be difficult because each time I had to out do the last. The pain part I learned where I could hit and where I could no that my friends is very important because you can really fuck someone up and try explaining that to a Judge. Sherrie wanted a relationship but I did not and while we dated for almost seven years I never not one time fucked her , yea that is the truth. Now she did however suck a lot of dick and I mean a lot but I never fucked her. I did fist her pussy and ass she really got off on that. I would stop by her work and insert a coke can and come back several hours later so I could take it out.  Driving down Hwy 95 in Daytona one time we were pulled over , and I am thinking what the fuck. Sherrie was sitting in the passenger seat butt ass naked holding a huge ass dildo. So the cop walks up and looks in the car and I am thinking this is not going to be good. He simply asked if everything was ok and Sherrie said yes. She was giving a ticket because her tag had expired. The cop never said anything about her being naked , I am guessing the size of the dildo did shock him because it took two hands to hold it.

Years and years past since the late 80’s and while I thought all of my relationships were on spot they were not and each one failed because of me. They failed because I was not willing to commit the time needed and it was pretty much one sided , which now it is pretty much one sided but what makes it different now is I give back , on my terms..

Now you are thinking the kind of relationship you want is impossible. You would never find a slave who would just submit to your every need right ? The key word is patience , good things come to those who wait and most of the time just like my now relationship Arianna fell right into my lap out of the sky. Speaking to a Dom one night and him and I are pretty close with our thoughts when it comes to ownership , anyway we were talking after a MAsT meeting one night and he stated I was lucky and just like I thought he said it was like Arianna fell from the sky as a gift.

I have been very blessed over the past 6 years and knowing many more years to come is more of a blessing. I am also blessed to live with not one but two women Arianna my slave and Lynn our submissive. Arianna completed most of Lynns training taking a huge weight off of my shoulders. Our house runs smoothly and without a glitch , both girls get along with each other.  There is zero Drama and zero problems yea sometimes I cannot believe how smoothly things are going.

Negotiating our relationship was really pretty easy it was my way or no way. I was straight forward and to the point. The thing that blew my mind was Arianna said one word, Okay. That threw me off for a few minutes but I did not show it. Arianna then explained her needs , now in order for me to get what I want I knew I had to give back and her one and only request was to be micromanaged. This was a area I had zero experience in , even asking others in the lifestyle I was told it was way to much work let her go..

Remember the slave must adapt to your way of living , your life , your needs and your training.

Training is something I take very serious and I put a lot of thought into it. What worked for the last slave will not work with a new one. The rules are different , their personality is different , their mindset is different and of course needs. If all the needs are met there are no wants.

I asked the question several times are you sure ? Are you sure this is the path you want to take? Each time the answer was yes and so our journey began.

I am more of a Mental Owner , in order to control someone you need to be in their head , you need to know what makes them think the way they do , their habits , why they have those habits. You have to know their reasoning , now that part is deep. You have to know what makes them think the way they do. Once you are inside as confusing as it may be you are now in full control. The hard part is knowing what to do , when and why. If you fuck something up you gotta fix it so be careful.

What I do in a sense is strip one of ones dignity , I take everything away that was a need and turn them into privileges. I took all clothes away including when company came over , again depending who it was. I took all furniture away including being able to sit at the dinner table. I controlled shower time , bed time , food that was prepared. I controlled hair color , nail polish and I controlled what clothes would be worn outside when we did go out.  I controlled the way she sat , how she spoke and who she spoke to. I used her and used often. I used without a word , I used every hole , I let her know I was taking what was mine.  The slave is yours , your property , you own after all they gave you that right. Use and use how you want and when you want. While I am not a huge fan of Humiliation I do use some form during my training , again this is to reinforce our positions within the home.

Breaking a rule must be a serious offense , the slave forgot to text this is part of training. There is no reason to go off the handle. Training is about changing habits and depending on who you are working with you are looking at 90 days or more before most things catch on. We as owners must show patience.

Keeping that mindset , putting protocols in place and staying on top of the protocols , ownership is not a 9 to 5 job. As Dominants , Masters and Owners we must be available to our partners 24/7 no questions asked.

The one weakness that can kill a M’s relationship is when the Master feels guilty about punishing , or slips and does not stay on top of things , begins to let rules go without consequences. Once you change and your property has seen the difference it is impossible to turn back the pages.

The words I wish I was a better Dom or a better Master , I am sorry I am a failure. Think about those words yea pretty pathetic and your property may not say anything but the same thoughts are there. There are thoughts you keep to yourself , it is actions and words you share. The property looks up to us , not only for a relationship but guidance , direction and depends on us to keeps the rules we have put in placed enforced..

I had thought about Blogging about feminism but as stated above I will leave that as a thought..

Vile

Communication

What shall we talk about?

Posted in bdsm, BDSM Relationships, Slave, Submission, Submissive with tags , , , , on December 12, 2017 by thekinkyworldofvile

Any Ideas?

Your Going To Be Someones Personal Bitch

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, A slaves passwords, Bad Dominant, Bad Reltionships, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Relationships, fucking, https://livingwithx.wordpress.com, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, New Dominant, piss, relationships, Slave, Slave Contracts, Submission, Submissive, Total Submission, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , on August 29, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

I use the word Bitch Loosely , to me it is more of a pet name, my bitch , my slut, my whore, my everything.

It is only our lifestyle you can teach someone how to sit , eat , dress, walk , talk, suck cock and fuck. It is only our lifestyle you can enforce rules , protocols and for the most structure. Our lifestyle is the only one where someone will fully submit without question or hesitation.

There are a few things in life that I strive for and thrive in. That is a well structured home, a drama free home and a home without fighting. I am and need to be in control of my home and surroundings.

I dated a hundred before I found the one. I did not fuck a hundred , I fucked the one. The one takes time, it takes dedication, and you need to stay on one path and not many.

After years of settling for less I had to do some soul-searching , because I had to figure out who I was , what I needed and the type of slave that would make me complete, someone who would compliment me. Someone who needed the above not just wanted.

So you can gain submission through intimidation but your really not accomplishing anything , you’re not earning anything in fact it is fake submission and that will only last so long. However if you earn the respect someone will want to follow on their own free will.

It is amazing to be able to sit back and watch the transformation when training someone, watching the changes and the one being trained does not even notice the changes.  Then one day it will hit them and it will be like holy fuck batman what the fuck?

Here is something to think about. Words yes I said words , words have different effects on people more so those who are submissive or slaves.

Words, No , Sit , stand , spread, inspection , suck my cock , lube your ass. These words have different meanings , depending on who you are speaking to and the depth of ones submission. Some may take those words as being funny, a joke if they are not in the right frame of mind.

You think about Rules , and Protocols all have a different meaning depending on where you are at in your head. The above should be a need and not a want. In the lifestyle wants have zero meaning, it is needs that should be met.

You are now someones property , you are now for someones use. You are going to do things you either do not like or have no interest in, but the same will go the other way.

If you are not in the right frame of mind you get nothing , you get nothing out of training or the relationship. What is more important if you are not in the right frame of mind or it turns out it is just a fantasy you have wasted someones time who has dedicated time into building a relationship , and all is for nothing.

This is part of a comment I just replied to , she had found a Slave contract online ..

I just read the most appalling example of a slave contract where it was proposed to beat her daily, keep her in a cage, make her drink piss and eat dog food, enslave her for life or sell her, own her bred kids as though chattel, and let her kill self when old and sick.

Okay pretty extreme , I have known Masters who were this strict, not to the point of killing ones self. I think if someone spent a great deal of time with someone the Master or Slave would take care of someone if they got sick.

If Arianna was Bedridden I would take care of her that is how deep much love is for her. I would not think of putting her in a home , because she has giving me so much, and I promised to take care of her.. Divorcing or separating is the easy way out today , why would you want to work something out? Maybe because it takes up to much of your precious time ?

You the Slave has to be in the right frame of mind, your Master is already there or you hope he is. A Master can let his feeling get in the way when it comes to enforcing rules, or even punishing.

You know what fuck looking at contracts online if you are both serious about having a paper contract you should sit down and come to some sort of agreement. When a submissive goes out and googles slave contract it scares the fuck out of her, daily beatings, drinking piss, being shared , eating dog food, really ?

How deep does your submission run ? What makes you think your submissive ? What makes you think your a Slave ? Have you really thought about training ? What do you want out of training ? Have you thought about what type of Dominant your looking for ? Have you thought about turning your life over to someone?

I want all of your passwords, I want access to your cell phone, I want your banking information.  My question is why? When I hear these words they come from a Dominant who has no experience, has a low self esteem. Has trust issues , or just a mental case.

A submissive contacted me last year and said she had giving all of her passed words and banking info , woke up the next day flat ass broke because he emptied her bank account, shut her phone off and had bought a new cell phone with her money. Did she call the police ? Nope , why? Because she was ashamed to tell anyone about her lifestyle.

In the end your going to be someones Bitch you have to decide which side of the fence you want to be on..

Remember one thing a True Dominant will never scream or lose their temper towards you.

It is not always the Dominant , at times there are those who get off on playing games. Mind fuckers is what I call them..

While your at it go check out this awesome blog , there is so much information..

https://livingwithx.wordpress.com/

 

Vile

 

 

 

 

 

I Am Going To Use You

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, commitment, Consistency, control, Master and slave relationship, Punishment, Slave, Structure, Submission, Submissive, training your slave, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on July 25, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

I want to be your friend , I want to be your best friend , I want to know everything about you  starting with your earliest memories. I want to know the foods you like, movies , music, hobbies.

I want to be by your side , I want to be the shoulder  you lean on , I want to be the one you know you can depend on. I want to hold you so I can feel your inner soul , your thoughts and your needs. I want inside your mind including the good and bad . I want to know your thoughts at all times, but most of all I want you to know you can come to me and speak openly. I want you to feel as if you can speak to me without fear , this is a need I have.

I am going to use you , you are for my pleasure , you are for my use. I do not want to make love I want to fuck , I do not want my dick sucked I want to fuck your mouth. You have three holes for my use and will use when I have the need.

I will tie you up, gag you and at times even leave my mark. You have moved from being my best friend to my slave and property.

I am going to train you to fit my needs, I am going to change your train of thought , I am going to implement rules which you will follow, I will put protocols in place in which you will follow. I will allow open communication that is a need for me.

I am not trying to change you, I am going by what you told me from the beginning , you expressed your needs , you told me you wanted and had a need to be owned.

I am going to train you , train you how to act while out in public , remember you are a direct reflection of me your Master. When out alone you are a direct reflection of me , our world is small but you never know who you may run into, so it is best to be on your best behaviour.

I will put rules and protocols in place and you will follow, I will punish when needed but I will not punish you for no reason.

I will make you mine, I will make you feel owned, I will make you want to feel owned, I will make you crave submission. I will make you.

Now you ask what do I get out of the relationship ?

You get my undivided attention , I am here for you 24/7. I give you open communication, I give you loyalty , I give you the security you need, the guidance you need. I will alway put you first in my life no matter where I am or what I am doing . Yes you get me and all of me.

I will walk proudly with you , I will be honored to have you at my side. I will talk to you not at you.

I want you to have friends , I will encourage you

I will make sure your needs are met, I will not push you to the point of breaking you, but most of all I will respect you.

Vile