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The Collar

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Collar, Collared Slave, commitment, Dominant and Submissive, http://bestslavetraining.com/, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Slave, Submission, Submissive with tags , , , , on January 7, 2019 by thekinkyworldofvile

The Collar to me is very sacred to me , it is not something that is given just because  it is earned.

When a couple gets married the two exchange vows , then exchange rings , this seals their fate , and love and now there is a piece of paper that says Husband and wife.

The collar is almost the same as the above but it runs deeper. The collar is a sign of ownership , one giving and one taking. Giving up control of ones life and one taking control of ones life.

If you just give a collar and no reasoning behind it , then it means nothing but if the collar is earned it takes on a whole different meaning.

I myself used two different collars , one was a collar of protection , this was used when going out so others would know the slave was with me , then the actual collar. The collar was earned over a period of 6 months.

You as a slave should have a deep feeling to earn your collar , you should want to strive to earn your collar. If it is just giving to you what meaning would it have ?

 

 

Imagine A Perfect World

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, Being A Dominant is 24/7 365, commitment, communication, Dominant, In Service Slave, Master And Slave, Slave, Submission, Submissive, training your slave, Uncategorized with tags , , , , on December 29, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

Imagine a world without any problems , or imagine a world with the perfect partner , the perfect submissive , the perfect slave , is it possible ? Imagine having zero drama , imagine no arguing , imagine receiving perfect service with no complaints , again is it possible ? Absolutely it is and more but with all of these rewards comes a little work.

The submissive or slave you have chosen to serve you was born to serve just as you the Dominant , Master or Owner were born to lead . Little did we know it would lead us down the road of kink.

Just because you meet a slave does not mean the slave is meant to be with you. Both have to have somethings in common outside of the land of kink and service , if not kink will be the only thing you have in common and the relationship will be short lived.

Knowing the slave , knowing the slave inside and out is very important before taking that step.  You have to be able to form a relationship based on friendship first , then slowly introducing kink.

If you start with kink then you have nothing else to build on , making conversation hard , making communication hard and it makes it hard for the slave to communicate when the time comes.

Nothing comes easy , everything we have we all had to work for. In a relationship if we do not work for it , at some point and time it will fall apart. Any type of relationship requires regular maintenance , if we do not in the end it will fail.

Learning to communicate is not an easy task , we all know how to talk and hear but to be able to communicate and listen requires practice but most of all it is something you have to be passionate about.

The problem with most D’s or M’s relationships just starting , is the lack of compatibility. If either have a need or needs and you give one or more up during the negotiations , in the end you will not be happy. Just because you are submissive does not mean you have found the right Dom and you can reverse that as well. As humans it is a need to have a companion and at times we tend to settle for less knowing its not going to work.

Try to picture a perfect world , your own world , a world you have complete control over , then you add the perfect relationship and both are attainable.

Meeting leaving sex out of the conversation is a must , and while it is hard to do it will prevent you from reaching your goal.  Knowing who you are trying to form a relationship with is most important. The problem is most men see someone who is submissive as weak and that is far from the truth. Men are natural hunters , the hunt then the kill and its over you move to the next.

I cannot stress enough on how much training will make a difference. One of the first words out of a Doms mouth is I am going to train you , then nothing happens. Training is mental not just for the submissive but the dominant as well. The training you used on the last will not work with any future relationships. The personality’s are different , the needs are different and the structure needed.

Making your slave your number one priority , the slave comes first and yes before family and friends. The life you have always wanted is right in front of you but now there are things that will come to an end. The life you have always wanted is kneeling right before you , hands face up laying in lap. It is you who has made the decision to take ownership.

Molding the slave to fit your needs and wants can happen but as with any relationship you have to put work into it , but living a Master and slave relationship will be much different. While in a vanilla relationship you did not train your partner.

You are going to mold your slave , walking , talking , how the slave stands and sits , even when it comes to sex. You will control how the slave dresses if clothed , hair color and nails.

I have always been a firm believer to train a slave you have to be able to reach out and touch , be able to look into the slaves eyes , the eyes tell all , the eyes tell the truth. I have not seen to many LDR relationships really work. Although today you have email , text , face time , you are still not in 100% control. Again I did not say all , just from my experience.

During the negotiations you present your needs and wants . Since you have I would assume giving the two a great deal of thought then you should stick to your guns. Once you give up one need you have become fair game and you will lose other needs or wants.

When out at local events there are those who take notice. When out I have 3 protocols that are followed. 1 do not speak to anyone even if spoken to , 2 speak when spoken to and 3 you are free to speak and have fun. People take notice how the slave stands , sits , how one is dressed , hair makeup. My slave is a direct reflection of me and my training , and when out my slave dresses like she is walking the red carpet.

I do not have to explain myself when I maybe change a rule or add a protocol but my slave may ask for clarification.

You the Dominant can have the life you want but as with anything nothing is free.

Vile

 

 

 

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Life

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Slave, Submission, Submissive with tags , , , , on October 28, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

It seems I have been MIA compared to my earlier days when it comes to my blog but as you know life happens.

On the home front life is still good and I continue to find ways to make things better. Work ,  relationship and life and juggling all three and keeping things in check can be a little work but in the end the work and effort will and has paid off.

As a master we have a responsibility to not only insure our home is safe and secure but it remains secure if something were to happen to me.

We are in the process of buying a house but it could not be just any house. The house had to have requirements before I would even give it a look. The number one thing was safety , it is my responsibility to insure our home is safe. Affordability is at the top again if something happened to me the home would continue to be comfortable and if something should happen Arianna could just pay it off. The house had to have gas since I also love to cook and I prefer cooking with gas that was a top priority and I refused to give in..

I remember my dad buying a chicken farm when I was a kid and even being so young I was thinking how easy is this. Now our farm had eight houses and each house held 80,000 chickens and the house sat on 10 acres . A older frame house with wood floors a wood stove for heat , no AC but it had a gas stove. We walked in a bank and two hours later we walked out a proud owner.

Times sure have changed now going into month one with just paper work , background checks , financial records going back over a decade , and explaining every penny we have spent over the past couple of years.

So my responsibility as a Owner is to make sure Arianna is taking care of first and for most as I stated above.

I was speaking with someone not long ago and we were talking about the very subject. The subject was brought up about how I should find someone who would be willing to step in and take care of Arianna.  Although I do have what I call a few close friends I do not know anyone who could step in and give the care that would be needed or truly understand her..

 

Just a update  but I will be posting more in the near future.  I have a lot of stuff I would like to cover and somethings have been on my mind…

Vile

 

 

I Am A Dominant Call Me Sir

Posted in A slaves passwords, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, communication, Dominant, Dominant and Submissive, Slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , on October 28, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

You are new to the lifestyle and very excited to learn everything you can but most of all finding the One. I hope that you would talk to many but chances are you will end up speaking with only 2 or 3 before taking that leap.. After only chatting for a short time you are giving a direction to call the one you met Sir.

I firmly believe in the lifestyle we need titles , we need titles to identify ourselves when it comes to meeting others. It explains our position in the lifestyle , maybe a Daddy , a Dominant a Master and so on. In the end it is our property who addresses our identity.

Speaking with someone a couple of months ago who is somewhat new to the lifestyle , he had asked me if I could introduce him to a submissive. Being new Dominant in our community can be somewhat tough because there is a vetting process we all go through. I was told by this new Dominant that he was displeased with the vetting process and thought it was not fair. I sent information one being bestslavetraining.com a huge source of information and the other of course my blog here although most is just my opinion but my opinion is based on more than 20 years experience. You do not have to agree with everything but I am sure there are parts you can take and put to use.

So I introduce the Dom to a submissive a very good friend and at first everything seemed to be going well but it soon fell apart. One was the work schedules but my thoughts are if you want something to work it can work if you are willing to make the effort. Once the frenzy fizzled out he lost interest. I asked if he had read the material and he stated he looked over it but was more worried about his own well being , so in short no he did not. I sent it again and received the same answer so I see this as not wanting to put any effort into learning. I also made the point that it was very important to get out in the local community , you cannot just sit at home and hope someone will just walk up to your front door and drop to their knees.

The truth is you are in full control for the most until you decide to submit. The Dominant may make request but it is you who has the final say. You have the right to question , you have the right to avoid any situation that may make you feel uncomfortable.

What do you want me to call you ? You will address me as Sir! By now you may have formed some type of rapport but not near enough for you to have gained enough respect to call someone Sir , unless you were brought up in such a way and just being polite. One who makes such demands again have severe ego and security issues.

Here is the problem , most not all who are new to the lifestyle want to learn but they want to learn on their terms. When a relationship fails the blame goes to the submissive and not the one who is truly at fault.

Things have changes , people have changed but most of all the lifestyle has changed. The new Dominants entering the lifestyle wants the cake and ice cream but do not want to put in the effort.

Recently mentoring someone for a very short time , I found this to be true. What I found disturbing is wanting me to introduce him to someone.  Introducing a Dominant with no experience , nor the wish or need to learn placed me in a very bad place. So I decided to give it a try and I knew someone who I thought might have some compatibility , this ended to be a huge mistake.

You cannot start off on the right foot when one starts off making demands. You cannot start a relationship when a 100 rules stuffed down your throat.  One may be able to start off with a few small rules such as bed time or texting ,  but to hand you a book of rules without even knowing you is insane.

Remember rules are strictly for the betterment of the slave. If it starts out with you having to send naked pics or videos then you should just move the fuck on..

Stay calm and think logical and your way of life will come..

Much Love

Vile

 

The Year 2082

Posted in bdsm, Master And Slave, sadist, Slave, Slave being used, Slave school, Submission, Uncategorized with tags , , , , on July 4, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

President Vile

 

Just after the great war in the united states we find the country divided into 3 different sections. Section 1 the Democratic freedom choice. Where people are treated equal , then we have the Religious free state , where all of the Christians come together in hopes of building a better life. The last is the Brotherhood Alliance Coalition , this is where there are strict laws when it comes to female behavior. Women from the two other states who are rebellious are sent to the Brotherhood to live and be reprogrammed. The Brotherhood is the last place a woman no matter the age wants to be sent , the sentence is a lifetime without the possibility of parole.

Women are sent to training camps and each serve a purpose , for those who are single will have a locking red collar placed around the neck showing they are single and available for marriage. The camps the slaves are sent to determines the needs at the time for the Brotherhood. Camps are labeled , Service , teaching , secretarial , book keeping and general care. These camps last one year with zero failure rate , failure is not a option and there are consequences for those who do not perform. The first 6 months of training is to learn a trade this includes cooking. The second 6 months the slave will be trained for proper sexual activity on how to please a master , this will also include some pain in case your Master is a sadist.

The married slaves are broken down into three different groups but these groups are determined by the Brotherhoods laws. The groups are as follows , the silver locking collar are for those who have working class Masters , the gold collars are for the slaves who have been given to the white collar workers and finely the platinum collars are for the slaves who are married to the Brotherhood government officials. While waiting to be placed in a home after training the slave has no say with whom she will be placed with. On her graduation day she will be cuffed and placed in a caged wagon and put on display for the city of the Brotherhood to witness. This only happens twice a year so there are Masters who have been waiting patiently for that knock on the door. There are cheers in the streets as the slaves pass the huge crowds of people , after all this is something to br proud of yes?

The Master is sent 2 different BIO’s along with pictures in different poses , nude of course and the Master this go around can only pick one. In the Brotherhood as long as a Master can afford the upkeep , a Master may marry more than one slave. The Bio includes a break down of test scores , sexual talents to include your best services maybe Oral , Anal , maybe a masochist and the most important scores are service in general, cooking cleaning and hosting when friends are over.

No Married slave is allowed to have sexual relations with another Master or a single Master waiting for a slave. If the law is broken the slave is then returned for training for another year and her Current Master’s marriage will be voided and he will be giving a new slave.

If at any point the slave shows any signs of not wanting to serve or gets mouthy , the slave is returned to training and reconditioning for a period of one year,

Once the slave arrives at her new owners residence her only purpose in life now is to serve and please her new owner and she will only bear children if the owner wishes to. The slaves only rights are the rights giving to her by her new owner.

Once girls reach the age of 18 they will be placed in training camps with no choice of camps , the choice is made by the Brotherhood. The first 3 months of training the slave will be placed in a small 4×4 cell with only a mattress , one cover and no pillow. There is a small toilet for use but everything is monitored by staff. Once the slave arrives at the camp she is striped of all clothing and giving a full medical exam to insure the slave is in good heath , if not then slave is then sent to one of the two states because she has been deemed unfit to serve in the Brotherhood Alliance.

While out and shopping no clothing is allowed , when the slave arrived for training all clothes were taken from her , stripping her of her identity. The slave was giving a new name also taking her identity away along with a number tattooed on her neck in plain view.

The slaves only purpose is to serve her Master be it domestic or sexual its all service.

Hmmmm could be interesting ?

 

 

The Stepford Wives / BDSM

Posted in bdsm, BDSM Relationships, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, molding your slave, Slave, Submission, Submissive, The Stepford Wives with tags , , , on May 6, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

In the beginning I thought I knew what I wanted or so I thought , I was submission but was not sure how to obtain without giving orders and making demands , I wanted kinky sex but was unsure what it would take to make me happy. It seemed with each relationship I was lacking something but I could not put my finger on it. I was jumping from one relationship to another not finding that happy medium.

Imagine having the perfect mate , the perfect submissive , the perfect slave , sounds really far fetched doesn’t it ? The truth there is such a thing and you can change someones way of thinking , you can change habits. You can change the way someone walks, talks and sits even how and what they eat , how they speak to someone in public or not speak. Now the downside to all of what I have mentioned it take work from the Dominant , it takes effort but most of all it takes the need not a want but a need.

There are Dominants who want none of the above , they are the do it now Dom’s. Do as I say not as I do here is a task do it , no rules , no structure or protocols just do it and many who are submissive are happy with this kind of relationship and if it works for you have at it.

Then we move to the Fifty Shades of Grey frenzy which has absolutely nothing to do with BDSM. The movies are based on kinky sex by a man who suffers from depression who happens to be a billionaire but if the guy worked at McDonald’s and lived in a trailer he would be a creep.  We all love kinky sex and those who do not think about it which is really cool because it will always be a thought in the back of their mind , but fifty shades has nothing to do with the lifestyle although the dungeon was really nice..

In 1975 I saw the movie The Stepford Wives which came out in 1972 I believe , I was at the young age of 14 and already had kinky stuff going on in my mind and just a year before had tied up my first girl to two trees in the woods. Watching the movie I thought why cant my home be like this thinking of my parents who always seemed to be fighting. I thought what a perfect fucking world if every woman acted the same way as they did in the movie. Now today it is far fetched because what they were creating was fake but in real life without creating some kind of robot it is possible.

I have talked about Behavior Modification before , that has been a interest for some years but it does take some time to perfect.  The other side of the coin you will need a submissive who is willing to turn over that much control. Consensual enslavement everything must be consensual or you have the stepford wives all fake with no emotions or cares just going through the motions. That is not true submission and you control absolutely nothing. If fake is okay with you then have at it but when you have someone who is willing to give and serve the rewards are far greater.

Know what you want and why you want it , this is very important. Have a plan in place but most of all you need to know the submissive inside and out. Her likes and dislikes , food , music , movies , hobbies , and yes even her favorite color. Getting into her mind knowing why she thinks the way she does , why she makes the decisions she does. Getting to know her so well you almost know what she is going to say before she speaks.  Yeah it sounds like a lot and it is a lot of work but the rewards will be far greater. Making her your number one priority and she has to know this. She must have access to you 24.7 of course this is before you move in together should this be your goal. If you cannot reach out and touch her it is nearly impossible to control her actions or her thoughts.

Lets take sex out for now , although sex does play a role in the relationship this should not be your main goal again it is the rewards you are looking for.

Then the interview forget about limits because down the road the limit she has will no longer be limits. Why is she a submissive or slave ? What gives her these feelings ? Why does she need a dominant in her life? What kind of problems does she have even financial ? Are there any medical problems , medications you should be worried about.

You do not want to be the white knight to the rescue , you do not want to fix anything , if you do once everything is fixed you will get dumped. You can give advice and if she follows through and takes care of things then you can think about moving forward with the relationship.

Is she willing to adapt , adapt is a huge word , is she willing to adapt to your way of life ? Is the slave or submissive willing to give up complete control of their life ? To follow , learn and Obey ?

I put sex on the back burner because you cannot make sex a priority in your M’s relationship , there are many more goals that must be achieved before hand. Getting caught up in sex can throw a wrench in the gears because you can let your emotions get in the way of your training. This is of course after the two of you have worked out all of the details when it comes to limits.

Yea this seems way out there but it is the truth you can have everything and then some but it does take some effort on your part.

Now to the sex , the nitty gritty , with a name like the kinky world you would think I would be talking about fucking and sucking all the time, yea I agree but I have calmed down a little in my later years , not the way I think because I have grown more kinky in my mind , darker thoughts , more creative but sometimes thoughts are better left as thoughts. As the trust and connection grows limits will slowly slip away , that is within reason. I mean think about it , you can teach someone to suck your dick the way you like or how to fuck , how to lay , what to say while fucking her , the training on that end is endless.

Get in the mind and you own the body , and with the body comes anything you want short of seriously hurting someone. You own the mind you can get anything you want , when you want it and how you want it , but as with anything nothing is free. Many hours of training and the training never ends it continues on a daily basis and at times you have to change things up.

Have a vision and create it

Vile

 

 

 

 

 

 

Submission

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, communication, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Slave, Submission, Submissive, Training your submissive with tags , , , , on April 8, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

What better way to start out than a definition from wikipedia ?

A 1985 study suggests that about 30% of participants in BDSM activities are females.[1][2] A 1995 study indicates that 89% of heterosexual females who are active in BDSM expressed a preference for a submissive-recipient role in sexual bondage, suggesting also a preference for a dominant male, and 71% of heterosexual males preferred a dominant-initiator role

Female submission describes an activity or relationship in which a female submits to the dominance of a sexual partner. The submission can be voluntary and consensual. The dominant partner is usually a man, but can also be another woman, or there can be multiple dominant partners simultaneously. The term female submission most commonly refers to a woman who derives sexual pleasure or emotional gratification from relinquishing (to varying degrees) control to (as well as satisfying) a trusted dominant partner.

I like this.

Submission may be manifested in a multitude of ways whereby a woman relinquishes sexual or personal control to another, such as acts of servitude, submission to humiliation or punishment such as erotic spanking, or other activities, at times in association with bondage. Female submission can take the form of engaging in sexual activity with a person other than her normal partner, as in the case of swinging (sometimes called wife swapping) or prostitution. The level and type of submission can vary from person to person, and from one time to another. Some women choose to include occasional sexual submission in an otherwise conventional sex life. For example, a woman may adopt a submissive role during a sexual activity to overcome a sexual inhibition she may have. A woman may choose to submit full-time, becoming a lifestyle slave.

Where did your journey begin ? Most will say at a very young age , while others are hit later in life , maybe a life changing event , a thought , words someone speaks or maybe you stumbled across a website and you were intrigued. Growing up submissive can at times be confusing because you know you are different but you just cannot figure it out. You may go through your life and never learn the definition of who and what you are. However you do know you enjoy service, you enjoy giving up control , you enjoy letting others take the lead. Someone will say at a young age there where thoughts of older men , or being kidnapped and used. I am not sure if all have these thoughts or just those who are submissive.

In our lifestyle there are a great number who suffer from depression , I have no data this is just from my experience in the lifestyle. I am not sure how the two are connected or if they are at all. Some are willing to share with others in the lifestyle while some keep things to themselves. So this is where the importance of finding the right Dominant , one who understands you and is willing to take the lead and guide.

Depression is not the end even for those who are Dominant , although in the past I have made statements to the contrary. With the right medications and the right submissive things can run smoothly. The problem would be a submissive who is combative , has a short fuse when it comes to temper , not following rules but most argumentative. Many Dominants though will hang on with the fear of losing a partner , the fear of being alone. The greatest fear when it comes to being human is the fear of loss , be it material , or a partner.

The good is you get pleasure by serving , helping others completing task on time and the rewards of being a good girl.

The bad , you are with someone who does not understand you , nor have they ever heard the word submissive or slave , submission. What they see is someone who is weak , someone who will stand and take verbal abuse and at times physical abuse , but after all is said and done you still stand tall and proud.

Some who are submissive not all but some do not really enjoy sex , what they do enjoy is knowing they have pleased. This is where their greatest pleasure comes from. Now do I have any data ? Absolutely not , I am just speaking from my own experiences in the lifestyle. When I meet someone I drill their mind , I want to know more about them than they know their own self. The knowing you have pleased someone , makes sex enjoyable , it makes you feel needed and cared for. You are willing to do things you never even thought of or maybe thought you would never do such things but you do because you have this deep desire to please.

Over the years the different roles have come to light , it is no longer just submissive , slave or dominant or master.  The daddy dom , the daddy dom master , then the master .The baby girl , the little ,Submissive , slave  and the list goes on and one so finding the right partner , someone who understands you is most important. We as humans by nature have to have companionship we need to be with someone even if that someone is wrong , not the right fit but they are filling that hunger for the time being.

How much are you willing to give up ? How much freedom are you willing to give up? Are you going to follow rules and rituals? Are you going to allow someone to take full control? Maybe you need more but your Dom is only dominant in the bedroom and you are more of a 24/7 how would that work ? Are you willing to compromise your needs for a little companionship?

What type of submissive are you? What type of dominant are you looking for ? We are all different , we all have different needs , we all have different taste , we all have different goals.

One of the biggest myths you will hear is a submissive does not have the right to say no. That is a outright lie. You as a submissive determine how much you will give , when you will give and how and where. Remember you are a submissive not a slave but the truth is even a slave can say no if they feel like they are in danger. There is also a on off switch and many times it confuses the dominant. Once you have had enough and you are done the word no will just flow.  Once you are done you are done , the feeling of being submissive for that time just goes away.

There is a difference between fantasy and reality knowing the difference before entering a relationship. Take your time and speak with other who are submissive , stay clear of dominants , but find out what others are thinking and doing. If you do not take the proper steps you could find yourself in a world of hurt.

How do you see yourself ? How do you envision your life? What are your goals?

Meeting a new Dominant you the submissive , the slave are in complete control until you feel the time is right to enter a relationship. You should be his number one priority , you should come first no matter what. If you go a day without hearing from him , you give your first warning. This kind of behavior is not acceptable and will not be tolerated , the second time it happens you drop him like a bad habit, there is no strike three. How long does it take to answer a text? How long does it take to drop a email?

Vile