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Words And Submission

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Gorean lifestyle, Gorean Portocol, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive, The slave must adapt, The World Of BDSM, Thekinkyworldofvile, Total Slavery, Total Submission, TPE, Train your slave, Training Arianna, training your slave with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 14, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

One thing I do during training is, I utilize what is called speaking in thirds. This is something that is common in the Gorean lifestyle.

To me speaking in thirds has a purpose, and the purpose is to make one focus, to think, to think before they speak.

The words tend to have more meaning, and the slave is able to explains things better if she has to think before speaking.

Speaking in thirds gives one a total different aspect of who and what they are, it is like a reminder, and it teaches self discipline.

Once I start training I use the technique for a couple of weeks or sometimes I will use as a form of punishment, again to make the slave think.

When a Dominant uses the word Train, it is good to ask what he hopes to get out of it, and how the training is going to benefit you ?

So the night before last we were laying in bed, I was watching shark week, Bah Humbug, and I get an email. Guess from who? Yup Arianna, I was like what but sometimes she is able to express herself better writing things down, or in an email , than talking sometimes and I do understand her reasoning.

Arianna was expressing interest in speech restriction, and using the term your property when addressing me.

Her reasoning was it would make her feel a deeper submission, not only speaking in thirds but using the word property.

Once you give up full control , and you learn to follow the rules, protocols, it becomes a habit, and when things are a habit there are times we do not even realize we are doing them.

That is how Arianna feels at times, everything just falls into place and she does not see her submission.

That is why I have said in the past it is very important for the Dominant to remain consistent on a daily basis. If you say something, then mean what you say. If you say your going to do something then do it.

Although I am not Gorean I do follow many of the protocols, and I am consistent.

I can also tell you what rules work for one does not work for another. It would be almost impossible for every slave or submissive to have the same rules.

What protocols, and rituals that worked for one will not work for another. Every Slave or sub is different, their habits are different, but more so their needs…

Behavior Modification, changing the way one thinks or acts, in public or private.  Changing ones thoughts, or how they view things.

This can be done, if the Dominant is true to the relationship , but just as I tell those who are submissive, I tell the Dominants the same thing. Be careful what you ask for.

The best way to kick off your training, is for both to be able to take a vacation, and no I am not joking. You have kinda like a 5 to 7 day mini boot camp.

Before you say anything Arianna has been there, and she can tell you that her changes have only been positive.  Being able to let your mind go, and just flow with your training, but truthfully training can only be successful if you trust the one your with.

So there are some who wish to move into a deeper submission, even after training, the training never really stops, it does continue and it is daily maintenance.

The changing of one word , yes that is all it takes, just as Arianna stated in her email.

Instead of using the word I, she wanted to use your slave, or this slave.

About a month ago , I instructed Arianna to use the words Thank You. Thank You for everything.

Thank you for letting me sit, shower, bathroom. After taking the first bite of food, Thank You.

This all falls under Behavior Modification, but you as the Dominant you need to remain consistent.

You know what I truly find disturbing is a Dominant who is not really a Dominant, but enters a relationship with a Baby Girl a Submissive, under false pretenses. Promising one thing but not being able to deliver.

The Dominant not thinking of the negative effects he is having on someones life, the damage that is being done, and playing with someones emotions.

Then it is clearly not the Submissive who is the problem, it is the Dominant who will put all the blame on the sub or baby girl because the relationship did not work. When in fact the Dominant either had no intentions of making things work, or he did not have a clue.

Changing one word, can change ones life.



My Views On BDSM Courtship

Posted in bdsm, Dominant, Dominants, fucking, slave, Submission, submissive, Train your slave, training your slave, Training your submissive with tags , , , , , , on July 22, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

The first 20 minutes of conversation is when most of the mistakes are made when it comes to a Baby Girl or a Submissive. This is when you give out information that you should keep to yourself until you think something may just work out.

Meeting someone in our lifestyle is probably more difficult than finding a horse in a room full of horse shit, I am being optimistic here. If you have a room full of horse shit there has to be a horse in it somewhere….

One of the first questions you are asked is , What are your limits ? My thoughts are why is such information needs so soon ? You just met you do not even know if your compatible.
What is the shortest skirt you own ? Do you ever go out without panties ? Do you wear Heels ?
Again you just met, you have the compatibility thing still yet to come

Do you like anal sex ? Do you swallow ? Again the compatibility thing, your still not sure.

When you were dating in the vanilla world, I am almost sure these questions never came up. So why would you think anything is different now ?

If a Dominant ask you any of those questions in the first day of meeting , online probably, how much respect does that show he has towards you ?

Send me a few pics so I can see who I am chatting with. Yea okay sure, then you send and he ask for nudes. Again why would you send a nude pic to someone you have not even met ?

All of you have seen this, and many of you have given in to such a dumb ass.
No real Dominant would even consider asking such questions, because they are not a need to know so early on.
Why would you tell a complete stranger you love being fucked up the ass ? Why would you tell a complete stranger you love sucking cock ?
Think about it does it really make any sense ?

Let me tell you something, the reason so many who are submissive or Baby Girls, and I will talk about the baby Girls here in a little bit. The reason your relationships are not working is because you are bowing to soon and to easily. You are giving out to much information to soon.

The courtship should be no different than any other. Okay you may feel obligated to call him Sir, or Mam which ever the case may be, but other than that you are under no obligation to submit until you are 100% sure.

Meeting your new Daddy or Dominant for the first time in person. This is still the learning about each other.
What kinds of food, movies, music, travel , everything this again falls under the compatibility thing.

I think we should start your training today. Okay fine what will my training consist of? How is your method of training going to benefit me ?
I am going to give you a list of rules and you need to memorize them by next week. Sure I will do that , I am sure you have them memorized so tell me what they are..

Your training , is probably the most important part of your relationship. The rules that are giving to you, and yes protocols are the invisible leash.

To pass out rules someone must know you. Someone must know you inside out, and outside in.

The Collar is earned it is not giving. To offer you a Collar on your first meeting that is a clear sign you are having dinner with an idiot.

Submitting is more than sucking cock, submitting is more than allowing someone to fuck you up the ass.
Submitting is you being yourself, following the rules that were giving to you, your protocols, doing your daily task that have been giving to you. Following instructions. This is done on a consistent basis, not just when you feel like it.

If you take the proper steps, and you ask the questions your suppose to, you could stop 99% of your grief. If you slowed down and took the time to think clearly you could stop 99% of your grief. If you found your own man instead of someone whose married you could stop 99% of your grief.

What is your training going to consist of ? You need to get a clear answer. How am I going to benefit from your training ? Again get a clear answer.

There is so much you can do to stop the bull shit before it becomes shit…love