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The Stepford Wives / BDSM

Posted in bdsm, BDSM Relationships, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, molding your slave, Slave, Submission, Submissive, The Stepford Wives with tags , , , on May 6, 2018 by thekinkyworldofvile

In the beginning I thought I knew what I wanted or so I thought , I was submission but was not sure how to obtain without giving orders and making demands , I wanted kinky sex but was unsure what it would take to make me happy. It seemed with each relationship I was lacking something but I could not put my finger on it. I was jumping from one relationship to another not finding that happy medium.

Imagine having the perfect mate , the perfect submissive , the perfect slave , sounds really far fetched doesn’t it ? The truth there is such a thing and you can change someones way of thinking , you can change habits. You can change the way someone walks, talks and sits even how and what they eat , how they speak to someone in public or not speak. Now the downside to all of what I have mentioned it take work from the Dominant , it takes effort but most of all it takes the need not a want but a need.

There are Dominants who want none of the above , they are the do it now Dom’s. Do as I say not as I do here is a task do it , no rules , no structure or protocols just do it and many who are submissive are happy with this kind of relationship and if it works for you have at it.

Then we move to the Fifty Shades of Grey frenzy which has absolutely nothing to do with BDSM. The movies are based on kinky sex by a man who suffers from depression who happens to be a billionaire but if the guy worked at McDonald’s and lived in a trailer he would be a creep.  We all love kinky sex and those who do not think about it which is really cool because it will always be a thought in the back of their mind , but fifty shades has nothing to do with the lifestyle although the dungeon was really nice..

In 1975 I saw the movie The Stepford Wives which came out in 1972 I believe , I was at the young age of 14 and already had kinky stuff going on in my mind and just a year before had tied up my first girl to two trees in the woods. Watching the movie I thought why cant my home be like this thinking of my parents who always seemed to be fighting. I thought what a perfect fucking world if every woman acted the same way as they did in the movie. Now today it is far fetched because what they were creating was fake but in real life without creating some kind of robot it is possible.

I have talked about Behavior Modification before , that has been a interest for some years but it does take some time to perfect.  The other side of the coin you will need a submissive who is willing to turn over that much control. Consensual enslavement everything must be consensual or you have the stepford wives all fake with no emotions or cares just going through the motions. That is not true submission and you control absolutely nothing. If fake is okay with you then have at it but when you have someone who is willing to give and serve the rewards are far greater.

Know what you want and why you want it , this is very important. Have a plan in place but most of all you need to know the submissive inside and out. Her likes and dislikes , food , music , movies , hobbies , and yes even her favorite color. Getting into her mind knowing why she thinks the way she does , why she makes the decisions she does. Getting to know her so well you almost know what she is going to say before she speaks.  Yeah it sounds like a lot and it is a lot of work but the rewards will be far greater. Making her your number one priority and she has to know this. She must have access to you 24.7 of course this is before you move in together should this be your goal. If you cannot reach out and touch her it is nearly impossible to control her actions or her thoughts.

Lets take sex out for now , although sex does play a role in the relationship this should not be your main goal again it is the rewards you are looking for.

Then the interview forget about limits because down the road the limit she has will no longer be limits. Why is she a submissive or slave ? What gives her these feelings ? Why does she need a dominant in her life? What kind of problems does she have even financial ? Are there any medical problems , medications you should be worried about.

You do not want to be the white knight to the rescue , you do not want to fix anything , if you do once everything is fixed you will get dumped. You can give advice and if she follows through and takes care of things then you can think about moving forward with the relationship.

Is she willing to adapt , adapt is a huge word , is she willing to adapt to your way of life ? Is the slave or submissive willing to give up complete control of their life ? To follow , learn and Obey ?

I put sex on the back burner because you cannot make sex a priority in your M’s relationship , there are many more goals that must be achieved before hand. Getting caught up in sex can throw a wrench in the gears because you can let your emotions get in the way of your training. This is of course after the two of you have worked out all of the details when it comes to limits.

Yea this seems way out there but it is the truth you can have everything and then some but it does take some effort on your part.

Now to the sex , the nitty gritty , with a name like the kinky world you would think I would be talking about fucking and sucking all the time, yea I agree but I have calmed down a little in my later years , not the way I think because I have grown more kinky in my mind , darker thoughts , more creative but sometimes thoughts are better left as thoughts. As the trust and connection grows limits will slowly slip away , that is within reason. I mean think about it , you can teach someone to suck your dick the way you like or how to fuck , how to lay , what to say while fucking her , the training on that end is endless.

Get in the mind and you own the body , and with the body comes anything you want short of seriously hurting someone. You own the mind you can get anything you want , when you want it and how you want it , but as with anything nothing is free. Many hours of training and the training never ends it continues on a daily basis and at times you have to change things up.

Have a vision and create it

Vile

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Am Going To Use You

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, commitment, Consistency, control, Master and slave relationship, Punishment, Slave, Structure, Submission, Submissive, training your slave, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on July 25, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

I want to be your friend , I want to be your best friend , I want to know everything about you  starting with your earliest memories. I want to know the foods you like, movies , music, hobbies.

I want to be by your side , I want to be the shoulder  you lean on , I want to be the one you know you can depend on. I want to hold you so I can feel your inner soul , your thoughts and your needs. I want inside your mind including the good and bad . I want to know your thoughts at all times, but most of all I want you to know you can come to me and speak openly. I want you to feel as if you can speak to me without fear , this is a need I have.

I am going to use you , you are for my pleasure , you are for my use. I do not want to make love I want to fuck , I do not want my dick sucked I want to fuck your mouth. You have three holes for my use and will use when I have the need.

I will tie you up, gag you and at times even leave my mark. You have moved from being my best friend to my slave and property.

I am going to train you to fit my needs, I am going to change your train of thought , I am going to implement rules which you will follow, I will put protocols in place in which you will follow. I will allow open communication that is a need for me.

I am not trying to change you, I am going by what you told me from the beginning , you expressed your needs , you told me you wanted and had a need to be owned.

I am going to train you , train you how to act while out in public , remember you are a direct reflection of me your Master. When out alone you are a direct reflection of me , our world is small but you never know who you may run into, so it is best to be on your best behaviour.

I will put rules and protocols in place and you will follow, I will punish when needed but I will not punish you for no reason.

I will make you mine, I will make you feel owned, I will make you want to feel owned, I will make you crave submission. I will make you.

Now you ask what do I get out of the relationship ?

You get my undivided attention , I am here for you 24/7. I give you open communication, I give you loyalty , I give you the security you need, the guidance you need. I will alway put you first in my life no matter where I am or what I am doing . Yes you get me and all of me.

I will walk proudly with you , I will be honored to have you at my side. I will talk to you not at you.

I want you to have friends , I will encourage you

I will make sure your needs are met, I will not push you to the point of breaking you, but most of all I will respect you.

Vile

 

 

Training On Different Levels

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, adapting, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Relationships, BDSM TPE Relationships, Behavior Modification, Dominant and Submissive, http://bestslavetraining.com/, https://dominationsubmission.wordpress.com/2013/07/16/bdsm-training-methodology-and-techniques/, Master And Slave, Slave Owned Property, Submission, Submissive, Total Power Exchange, TPE, Training Arianna with tags , , , , , , , , on March 7, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

I was just reading a Blog By Master P.

https://dominationsubmission.wordpress.com/2013/07/16/bdsm-training-methodology-and-techniques/

The topic was BDSM Training-Methodology and Techniques
Before you start ranting I am not totally disagreeing with him but I find to have a different opinion one a few topics.
thekinkyworldofvile.wordpress.com is based one a Master , Slave relationship, it is based on a owner property relationship , it is based on a TPE relationship , Total Power Exchange. If you put these all together I control everything and while I do listen I have the final say.
Again I agree with Most of what Master P is talking about but we are talking about two different relationships. Dominant , submissive , Master And Slave and there by definition is a clear difference.
Behavior modification is changing ones way of thinking, in a good scenario this can be done willingly or forced that would be totally breaking someones will.
Although most training is done to fit the Masters needs there are other things we look at , changing bad habit into good ones.
I did train for service , I did so because I have protocols that I want followed when company is over. I have protocols for private and public, I have different stages of protocols and each one is used depending on the setting.
So I was just thinking about why men cheat be it vanilla , D’s and I do know Doms who cheat , hell Ive known Master who cheated.
So when finding a partner why not find someone you can train to make you complete.
I am in no way saying Master P is wrong with what he is saying it just proves that we are all different in the way we think , act, and train. Our train of thought is different , more so our needs.
Although a Master puts his slave first she is there to fit his needs and wants and the Master insures the Slaves needs are met on a daily basis.
When looking for a partner you should take your time and find someone you can connect with on every level in life. You should be able to communicate on every level and be able to speak freely and openly.
Training is something I take very serious and now I will only take on such a task if it is to be a long term. I also make it known it will be a slow process it is not something where I meet you on Monday and Tuesday we both jump head first..
Putting a plan together is needed before hand , what worked for the last slave will not work for the next.The same with rules although my protocols have never changed over the years if anything I have become more strict.
With the submissive , the submissive accepts and strives for submission a slave strives for Obedience.

Submission Vs Slave

Best Slave Training if your a new Dominant , or submissive , slave there is a ton of useful information. There is not one website or book you can base your relationship on but you can take bits and pieces and come up with a plan.
In my opinion, a submissive retains freedom of choice and a slave gives her freedom of choice to her Master. A submissive makes a choice to give her submission in a limited fashion, for a defined period of time and under certain conditions. A submissive can have a long-term relationship with a Master, but still retains certain controls. However, many are satisfied with casual role-play without any long-term goals. Training may or may not be involved between a Dominant and a submissive.
A submissive often has a list of conditions, rules, and limits that a Dominant is required to agree to before entering a session or relationship. These conditions, rules and limits usually define time, place and activity.
Slavery calls for a higher level of commitment and of serving, obeying and pleasing than submission. Slavery is the complete commitment of a slave’s body, mind, soul, and spirit. She submits to the will of her Master. His choices become her choices. Obedience is a major focus in her life.
Being a slave means you are willing to be molded to fit her Master’s needs and to serve him. A slave is re-socialized and re-educated by her Master to serve, obey and please him. Her attention is on his happiness.

Submission Vs Slave

The Master makes his slave his number one priority , even when it comes to friends and family. The Master insures the slaves needs are taken care of , even on a emotional and mental state.
While in some D’s relationship as stated above there may or may not be any type of training , what is important is you have found your place in life and your relationship.
Some thought my training strategy was a little strict , or maybe even a little unorthodox, but I am me and I was not going to change who or what I was . I did just that before and I failed..
Once you give your word you cannot go back or try to change anything when it comes to rules or protocols.
Again Master P is not wrong with what he is saying but we are talking about 2 different lifestyles.
I will give you a peak into Airanna’s mind she had dropped me off at a store and I told her to circle and pick me up when I was ready. She was texting with someone and she explained she was in service, this is just one example but her train of thought.
I enjoy the training , I love watching the transformation, I love creating but this comes with a cost, and that cost is Arianna and her well being is my responsibility, The decisions I make greatly effect two and not one. Yes this is where choices and consequences come into play…
It is the slave that has to adapt to the Masters way, if your having problems then sit back and think of what could be improved on
Vile

Mastering The Master

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Slave training, BDSM TPE Relationships, Building a BDSM Relationshp, choices and consequences, commitment, communication, consequences, Consistency, Dominant, Dominant and Submissive, Dominants, emotional, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, MAsT Kissimmee Florida, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Masters And Slaves Together, Mental BDSM, positive reinforcement, relationships, Submission, Submissive, Total Power Exchange, Training Arianna, training your slave, viledesires62@aol.com with tags , , , , , , , , , , on February 29, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

As much as I would like to think I am not perfect, although many would disagree with that statement. Most who know me think I am loud , very out spoken and at times obnoxious.

On the way to a local coffee group which all the people whoa attend are awesome , a good get together at a local star bucks then at times dinner after. I work from home as most know and come my Friday I need to get out I need that interaction with like minded people.

On our way the group leader was warning new comers of my arrival. I am warning you ahead of time Vile is unfiltered. Unfiltered I never looked at it that way , I simply say what is on my mind be it serious or joking…

Some months ago I received and email from a woman who said my blog was the most disgusting place she had ever visited and i should be shut down. So sitting back I am thinking if you find it that bad, why did you spend time reading it and then making time out of your busy life to email me?

Out in the world I like to have fun , I like to joke around , I enjoy making others laugh, but mostly I love learning how others live our wild lifestyle. I listen , I observe and I take in just like a hard drive on a computer.

I have come a long way in the past twenty five years or so and I am making plans for the next twenty five. I have grown on so many levels , I have set goals , I have made most of my goals and I continue to march forward.

My MAsT Chapter has been approved, Masters And Slaves Together. It was not an easy task and it was about a 13 month process.

Over the years I made mistakes, some were a mistake and at times things I did was because I could, I am me , I will stay me and I will walk my own path , but most of all I will not live a life where I have to be politically correct , my life is on my time and my time only.

I am positive , very optimistic , even if I have negative thoughts I keep them to myself. Everything I do has a plan and I seldom make a mistake but if I do I admit it, after all I can be wrong.

I am in control, I am control of my everyday life, my home and in most cases my job. I run my house , I am in full control, but with all of these choices comes consequences.

Mastering the Master is a long path and it is not an easy road to walk. You have to define who and what you are, you have to define where you are and where you want to be, you have to define the type of relationship you want, but most of all you have to define the type of partner you need in your life, not want but need, a want is nothing a want has no meaning and at times a want can be destructive and childish. I concentrate on my needs if my needs are met there are no wants.

When I first met Arianna I made a promise and a commitment , I told her I will never raise my voice towards her or call her names out of anger and some 3 years later this still holds true. Being in control was a strong need to me , being able to not only listen but being able to communicate in a clear and understanding voice. Saying what I mean and mean what I say , not only saying what I will do but do the things I said I would.

Some say it is healthy to argue and while I may agree a little it depends on how you agree to argue. Bruises heal words cut deeper bruises hurt but words effect someone on a very deep mental state and while one can forgive one will never forget The more you hurt with your words the more you are in danger of losing what you have.

If you are fighting with yours Slave or submissive if you had any type of training then you as a Master needs to sit back and maybe come up with a different approach.

MASTER / SLAVE

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

In BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual serves another in an authority-exchange structured relationship. Unlike Dominant/submissive structures found in BDSM in which love is often the core value, service and obedience are often the core values in Master/slave structures.[1] The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship uses the term “slave” because of the association of the term with ownership rights of a master to their slave’s body, as property or chattel. While male “masters” will usually be referred to as “Master,” whether or not female Masters are referred to as “Master” or “Mistress” may depend upon whether they identify as following the “Leather” or BDSM path.[1]:27-30

The Master/slave (or owner/property) relationship is entered into on a consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery, that is forbidden by the laws of most countries.

No where in the above definition does it mention a Master Arguing with their Slave. No where in the statement above does it mention a Master Losing control.

In BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual serves another in an authority-exchange structured relationship.

If you the Master argues with your Slave not submissive but your Slave who is the bitch in the relationship ?

When entering a M/s relationship , a power exchange relationship or a Total power exchange you the Master are taking on a huge responsibility. You need to have a clear plan and a training program in place and a training program that puts you in the lead but more important one who will follow and have the need to follow.

Training someone takes a great deal of thought , every submissive or Slave has a different thought process, different habits and react in different ways . Some are emotional , some may suffer from some type of depression , some may suffer from anxiety the list goes on and on, so what worked in your last relationship surely will not work in your next , that includes training and rules..

I think a lot of the misunderstanding comes from someone who is new to the lifestyle and just jumps in head first and not really having a clue… Waking up one morning and your a Master because of a blog or a porn site you ran across. We as humans are visual and you google BDSM and click images and there is your definition.

Mastering the Master , Mastering communication , Mastering honesty , Mastering commitment, Mastering your devotion , Mastering your understanding of ones needs , Mastering your loyalty , Mastering your consistency , your training but most of all your continued growth.

Each and everyday I work on most of those , not only daily but hourly . I work to maintain what I and we have. I want us as Master and Slave to continue to grow.

The out come is you end up with a best friend , partner , and Slave.

 

Vile

 

Are You Consenting Or Are You Just Agreeing ?

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, choices and consequences, communication, Consensual, CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENT, consequences, control, Daddy Dom, Dominant, Dominants, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, masochist, Master, Master And Slave, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , on October 25, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

The words Consent and non-consent has been coming up a lot in the past month or so. Our lifestyle is probably the only Lifestyle where we need to talk about Consent, the do’s and the Dont’s . What can be done what cannot be done and what we are open to, and what is off limits.

When we are talking to someone be it a Dominant or a submissive , one of the topics that seem to come up early on is what are your limits? The limits question was something I stayed away from until I knew we could make it as friends. Because if we had nothing outside of the lifestyle in common why would I want to enter a relationship if the only thing we had was sex. Kink and sex only last so long, and all your doing at that time is filling a missing void.

So the common off limits are, no blood , no children, no scat maybe no golden showers , the list can go on and on. The thing is what ever limit you have you need to stand by it.

Many times when meeting someone we tend to get caught up in the moment , this is the one, he or she has to be the one, they know what they are talking about. That is not always the case. More often you are being told what you want to hear, your being told something that is so far from the truth but you buy into the words and not the knowledge. Once you figure  things out it is to late because your already caught up in the relationship. Once you agree to something it is almost impossible to retract what you said or what you agreed to..

I am not into Humiliation, and the Dom will say we you don’t really know because you have not been trained.  Or I do not do anal sex, well no one has done it right I can make it feel good. Everything is about consent it is about coming to an agreement and hoping to have the chance to enter a long lasting relationship.

If your not into pain , or you don’t like being face fucked speak up, because if you do not , you are just agreeing and your not consenting. This falls under how much freedom your willing to give up, the rules your going to follow. Are you Monogamous ? Are you Poly ? These are all consensual questions.

Poly is a huge thing if you are looking for a one on one relationship, many times these types of relationships you are kept apart and never see each other. I had thought about poly at one time, but reality hit me, why not just find one who fulfills are of my needs rolled up into one. I am not saying Poly is bad its just not for everyone, so if you agree to a poly relationship and your not poly you are just agreeing and not consenting if that makes any sense..

Arianna and I had talked about having a closed Triad with another female, and being Bi was not a criteria. Bringing someone into our home, and when I explained to others it was not for me but would be a sister for Arianna some thought I was crazy, but it was not because I needed more flavor that is far from the case I get anything I want when I want and how I want it without question.

We communicated about the process and what would have to take place, it was 100% consensual. As far as a 3rd it did not work out but it is what it is no biggy..

The Bottom line is if you agreed to something but your not all in 100% then that is on you. Theoretically if I just wanted to bring someone in, I have that right because our relationship is consensual , non-consent  but at the same time I have to worry about Arianna and what the effects would be.

Believe me there is someone for everyone in our world , there is someone who will fit your needs. If you are agreeing in fear of not having a relationship your doomed from the start, it will never last, if you agree just because your in fear of the relationship not working your training will mean nothing just as earning your collar.

As I said in my last post , what do you want to do with your one life ? How much of your time do you want to waste on something that is not going to work? How much pain do you want to endure if your not a Masochist ?

It is not your Dom or your Master who will have to adapt it is you, so there should be a lot of thinking, we all make choices we just have to see if the consequences out weigh the choices.

viledesire62@aol.com

50 shades

 

Vile

 

 

 

Many Do Not Understand Our Relationship

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, communication, control, Dominants, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on October 7, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

We are Master And Slave. The first words you hear in the background is, What many do not understand about a Master and Slave relationship is the Master controls everything including the money.

That comment has come up more than once , more than twice and more than three times. I am not sure why ? I suppose maybe checking things out , or making me rethink our relationship.

The truth is I control everything to include all finances , I control every dollar , every quarter every dime every nickle down to every penny. Arianna pays bills , but again I know where every dollar goes, and anything that is spent needs my approval.

It is no secret , not that it matters, Arianna makes more than I do as a matter of fact a lot more than I do. I was recently offered a job making 58K a year. After Arianna and I talked about it we weighed all the options and we came to a conclusion we are okay. I enjoy my job and now we are able to spend much more time together with our current situation. Our bills are really low, and our two care payments are what most spend on one payment.

So the training began , this was a task I had never endured before , it would require a lot of me. A plan , a plan where I would take full control of someones life.  a plan that would consist of a micromanaged relationship, a plan to remain consistent where in previous relationships I had failed, a plan that would consist of Behavior modification.

Arianna’s training did not include any type of pain , that is not how I roll, I wanted inside her head, I wanted to know her thoughts, her thought process , what made her tick.

The relationship was not something I jumped into, I had a lot to think about. I was at the age I wanted to settle down, I was at the age I wanted a one on one monogamous relationship, however I was not sure I wanted the amount of responsibility it would take to have the type of relationship Arianna needed.

Training in my mind does not have to consist of pain , I want the challenge, and I want to win. I am always first and I finish first there is no second place. Hmmm did that make any sense ?

 

So I get in the mind , the brain and I start picking, there are hundreds of doors  , and each room has a book or maybe at times more than one book and each one has to be read from front to back. This is the way you get into someones head, you get a clear vision on what makes them think.

I have never lost my temper towards Arianna , although she has seen me mad and really mad. During training you get no where yelling or screaming, losing your temper and losing control is not a very good trait for a Dominant.

One of the first things a Dominant tells a submissive is , he is always in control and not controlling. If he loses his temper on a regular basis then he is not really in control. If one cannot control their feelings or emotions , then how can one control someone else ?

One rule I made clear from the start is our life is private , nothing personal shared with no one. You know what kills me is when a submissive, Baby girl, or slave jumps of Fetlife or Facebook and just opens up her whole life, complaining about her Dom , her Daddy or Master. Here comes how fucked up he is, here comes he is not a real Master , he should be taking better care of you.

The one thing that was left out was his side of the story, his intentions , and now he is the bad guy. This could be a cause from a couple of things, maybe confusing on the property’s end , maybe lack of communication on both. Many times when something is  explained the submissive may be afraid to ask questions. This is just something I observed the other day…

Arianna and I recently attended a local event, we were all giving introductions, and when I got to the part about how our relationship was a consensual , non-consensual , then the eyebrows went up like it was an alarm.

So lets talk about the two , Our relationship is consensual M’s , Master and slave , we live a 24/7 Total Power Exchange. Although at one time I was a sadist and a extreme one , that is no longer the case.  Today I have different needs, I have a need for structure , I have a need for protocols, and I have a need for continuous training and when you put all of this together it equals control.

Still to date Arianna and I have still not had one argument, as a matter of fact we have not even come close and again this is due to communication, but it goes deeper than just communication. There are times when you know someone wants to be left alone, and instead of digging to find out what is wrong you just let things be. I call this the what is wrong argument . What is wrong ? Nothing, well sure there you can tell me. Nothing is wrong, yea you can see where this is going and before you know it your face to face screaming at each other.

Think before you speak , you may be thinking you stupid bitch , but many times those words exit your mouth before your brain has a chance to catch up with your mouth. Most have what I call pet names that would include , my bitch , my whore and so on, but to use those words out of anger causes way more damage that just beating her ass, Bruises heal but words do not. I have always thought an anger mans words is a calm mans thoughts.

The world of BDSM has grown so much and has branched off in many directions over the past ten years or so. There is a lifestyle or fetish out there for anyone and everything, but yet we are to quick to judge, we are to quick to say that Dominant does not know what hes doing, or she is really not submissive. Although there is a definition for the word submission that one definition does not fit everyone.  Just as the definition of a Dominant or a Master, although there is one definition that one does not fit everyone. If that one definition fit everyone in the lifestyle then you know what would happen? We would all get along and see eye to eye on the way we lives our lives. Now that does not making any fucking sense for all of use to get along does it? We would have no one to talk about nor would we have anyone we could bash on a daily basis because they don’t know what they are doing , and what fun would that be?

The second is non-consensual , when most hear that word abuse comes to mind , or maybe taking the rights away from someone, maybe being to physical to the point of abuse, or to verbal to the point of sever humiliation. Maybe cutting all of ones friends off to include family. Many Dominants who are not seasoned do just that, maybe one has a insecure problem or he is fake ?

I have the final say that includes anything and everything that may come before us.

I am not sure why others do not understand our relationship , I would assume we are just like any other couple who lives a M’s relationship, although when I mention we have never had an argument , we get looked at funny.

We are all different , our needs and wants are different, if what you have works for you that is all that matters.. I know at times I may seem a little one sided but I am really now , I truly wish everyone the best that life has to offer , no goal is unreachable ….

 

 

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Continuing Training

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Just as a job we tend to get comfortable and at some point and time we start to slack, we tend to do less, we start to believe we are not replaceable but the fact is we are.
The same goes for a relationship we get comfortable , we start expecting what we once valued as a gift, our partner just wanting to please. Last week I spoke about the Resetting of the relationship , mainly D’s and M’s but I suppose some vanilla could use the same thing..

I call it continuing Education and as we know things are changing daily, we change, our needs become different and at times more extreme. Right now again Arianna is exploring ways on how she can deepen her submission even more. While she thinks this would be added work to me that is not so, everything else is already implemented.

Something else I wanted to touch on we as Dominants or Masters we all march to the beat of a different drum. We all have our own way of doing things, we all have different visions , needs and wants.

While at a Munch Arianna and I sat next to a D’s couple who are pretty new to the lifestyle and that is what I told him, March to your own drum you have to be happy, find what fits you.

In the lifestyle we grow almost on a daily basis, our needs change, so it is up to the Dominant to step up to the plate and make changes.

So lets say the Dominant is in a happy place , but his submissive comes to him and says hey I think I would like to give up more control, or maybe add a few more rules or protocols.
It may be the Dominant does not want to add more to his plate , but he will also have to evaluate the needs of the submissive. Even though he may not want to take on more, our number one objective is to insure their needs are being met.. There has to be a time when we as Dominants have to look at a bigger playing field and give more even if we do not see the need..

Training is a type of Behavior modification and it takes time , it will not happen over night a week , or even a month. It will take the two a month to get everything worked out…

I run a very strict house , protocols , structure and believe it or not only a handful of rules. Last week Arianna was questioning her submission, stating she could not see her submission, at times she felt less submissive.

I put a plan together , the BDSM reset I spoke about a few weeks ago. I started taking things away. The first to go was the furniture, second she was giving a Dog bowl to eat out of not every night , but at a time I picked so she did not know until we were ready to eat.
I did however allow her 45 minutes a day on the couch after work, but there was a catch. She likes taking a nap in the afternoons after work, along with surfing the net on her phone and tablet.
She had 45 minutes on the couch but there had to be a choice, her phone, table or nap. She had to choose her time wisely..

Yesterday while she was laying in the floor she had a moment, as she sat on the floor she started thinking about her submission and she realized she had no down time at all, she was able to see not only her submission but her task, her protocols, her rules it seems with just a few days everything came to light.

While laying in bed talking she said you really know me, you knew the effect it would have on me, you knew how I would react, and she was correct.

Just a slight change in our daily life made Arianna open her eyes and she realized just how well she had it made.. It made her think and it only took a couple of days.

Training is an on going tool we as Dominants use to keep our house running smoothly…. Training on a daily basis keeps structure in the home.

We are all different , we all have different needs , what we all need to do , is while we may not understand others we should respect their lifestyle. In our world there is no wrong way, and just maybe if we try to understand those we don’t it may allow us to grow.

Something to think about, what type of training did you receive ? How did your training effect you ? How did your training change you ? Is your training consistent ? Do your rules benefit you ? Are you put first in your relationship? Do you have access to your Dominant 24/7 ? I feel these are all important…

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Vile