B. E. S. T. slave training.

It is not often I pimp to many blogs or Web Sites but when I do it is for a good reason. To me it is kinda like recommending someone for a job , or someone asking me to be a reference for someone which I never do.

I learned a very long time ago not to stick my neck out for anyone , with the fall of a well known Gorean Master who got into a lot of trouble and did a little Prison time.
While at a munch last week I was speaking with another Dominant about him , and how he fell from grace. He was very well respected and really had it made. I believe when he got into trouble he was living with nine slaves. So for those reasons I never I mean never put myself out there like that any longer.

Our world the world we cherish because we are allowed to be who we are , we get to live our life the way we need and want to. We get to be us, we get to be real..

So here I am pimping so I guess I am back tracking a little but what I want to share about B.E.S.T. Slave Training is there is a wealth of information there. You can literately spend six months there and never read the same thing.

B.E.S.T. Slave Training also has a Fetlife group as well and is fairly active and Cuffsmaster who owns the group always takes part in the topics.

Many times it seems Dominants or Master who have been in the lifestyle for and length of time , spend way more time telling people who they are and what they have done , instead of reaching out to others , or criticizing the way other Doms live their lives and how wrong they are. There is nothing more irritating than having to listen to someone about all of their accomplishments in life. ME, ME , ME ,ME.

Most of what I blog about is about BDSM relationships , D’s and M’s but most you can even relate to Vanilla relationships as well. Because any relationship has to be about communication. Communication is the down fall of most.

Two things are needed before training begins , A Dominant who is sincere in what he wants and a Submissive or Slave who is sincere in moving forward as she is seeking freedom.

When I was in my early teens I read a book for History class. It was called Bury My Heart At Wounded Knee. It was by far the deepest book I had ever read, and when I was finished I was like What ? So I read it again , and again and still did not fully understand it.

Today when I read something I want it clear and in a language I can understand , now I am not stupid by any means , but I love to open a book and be like Bam.

B.E.S.T. Slave Training going into a lot of information , but it is written very well, easy to follow and understand , and the good thing is you can find just about any topic your interested in.

I always encourage new Dominants to perv the site because of the wealth of information. It also gives you not only a Beginning but a steady flow of information. There is no book that can tell you how to form a D’s Or M’s relationship but you can gain good information. What works for me may not work for another Dominant.

I love sharing my life here , it is more of a place for me to think and vent at the same time. I also enjoy helping other , and at times offering advice.

You read about every ones life, their new path in the D’s lifestyle , you hear the sorrow, the bitching , the complaining, fucking , sucking, and everything in between.

The Grand Daddy of it all is the submissive or Baby Girl who is seeing the so called Married Dominant. His wife knows and does not care if he see’s other people. Do you really believe this ? Are you really that naive ? Second this man or so called man is no way in any form a Dominant. This is a man who cannot even run his own home. He will see you once a week for an hour or so , maybe twice a month or even longer. He fills you will the words of love and he is going to leave his wife when the time is right. Think about it if his life was so bad he would of already left.

To you subs or Baby girls who see married men and your trying to rip a home apart because you cant find your own man, that is all good because youa re used merchandise and nothing more , I would doubt anyone else would even want you..

Now over the past two years or so , since I began my journey of blogging , I have for what ever reason opened up my life to everyone. The good , the bad and the ugly.

I have also shared my extensive training process with my slave, my property , my wife and best friend. I explained in such detail it would of been almost like you were there watching.

Many new Dominants who come to me for advice , I point them in the direction of B.E.S.T. Slave Training. Much of what I use today comes from there. Training is not something that takes place in a one week period , four weeks or three months. Training is continuous, there is not a day that goes by I do not learn something.

new Dominant coming into the lifestyle looking for a Submissive or a slave you have to have the right tools. Even when giving the right tools if you do not use them and you decide to go on your own way because now you know everything , you will crash and burn.

I have brought most of this up before , but here lately I have had several new Dominants contact me, and what I am sharing is the best tools available today. Your not going to use everything , but you will be able to put a solid plan together.

B.E.S.T. Slave Training Fetlife
https://fetlife.com/groups/5290

http://bestslavetraining.com/

This will not work

My Training Techniques Do Work

Ive spoke about how the submissive and slave should have a plan going into a relationship. How they should know what they want, and the questions to ask.

A Dominant should have a clear plan when it comes to training. The Dominant should know what he wants out of the relationship. I had a picture in my mind, a very clear picture of how I saw myself living everyday with a slave. I could picture the slave I wanted to live with. The hair the eyes, the body type.

I had the mold set in my mind. I already had my rules that I intended to implement , I had my protocols. I could see the structure within the home. I had a very clear picture of my everyday life and I was not going to settle for less. Now rules do differ from submissive to submissive and slave to slave, but you should have a general idea.

Pussy is pussy, a blowjob is a blowjob, it is the connection that makes the difference, it is the feelings you have that makes the difference.

When entering the relationship ship you have to go in with each knowing their place. Dominant Submissive, Master and Slave. You have to keep that frame of mind.  If you the Dominant you start to let your true feelings out, you can and will lose control. I am not saying you do not care about or love, but you entered the relationship with an understanding. I have said it before once you start to lose control you can never regain what you had. This is because the submissive has seen the soft side of you.

Now to all the Fifty Shade Dominants , this is the one who jumps from submissive to submissive. They want the sex but when you add a little responsibility to the picture the relationship is short lived. You read a book, look at some pictures and your ready to collar a submissive.

The Collar is a powerful object when placed around your neck. You are now different, you feel different, you want to be different. This is when you the submissive or slave, this is your weakest time, your really not thinking to clear, meaning your letting your guard down.  Now almost anything is fair game.

There is a lot of good information out there, and there is a lot of bad information out there. Most of what you read in common sense, but if there is not something you understand then ask, I would say ask more than one 3,4,5 and look at all the answers.  Chances are one or two will be the same, it is then up to you to decide what your going to do.

I made a comment not long ago before I was introduced to Mike Makai Who is a Author , I made the statement that there was no book that gave us guidance when it comes to BDSM and I was sent the name of a book Written by Mike Makai it is called

Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Domination-Submission-The-BDSM-Relationship-Handbook/195981700585877

Then Mikes Facebook page is.

https://www.facebook.com/mike.makai.9

Mike also has a radio station on Blogtalk radio once a week.

D/s Radio ,  Listen in at http://tobtr.com/s/6300283. ‪#‎BDSM‬ ‪#‎DSRADIO‬ ‪#‎MIKEMAKAI‬

You can also listen to older shows on YouTube.

I have read his book now and as with anything I agree with a lot of it then there is some I disagree with. I am sure there are many things Mike does not agree with me on, but you know what it is all good. I have never claimed I know everything, but I do know what works for me. The BDSM lifestyle was not something I learned over night, I did not learn from a book, I learned from experiencing and I also had a mentor. To this day some twenty plus years there is still someone I confide in.

It is not often two Dominants will agree on anything. I know when Arianna and I attend different functions such as MasT meetings or munchs, when we walk in together I can smell the ego’s Wow the strongest smell in the world.

Arianna posted something a couple of days ago, about her training . She wrote about her experiences while in training. She also wrote how it helped her.

I am my Master’s slave

I am my Master’s slave

Posted on May 13, 2014 by vilesarianna

This title has actually been in my drafts on WordPress since Christmas. I had a few minutes so I’d thought I’d try and see what kind of blog formed out of it.

“I am my Master’s Slave. “

That is so true if you think about it. If you were anything like me when I met Master Vile I was a bit of a blubbering mess. Spewing every aspect of my crazy life to Him in the hopes that He would accept me,  faults and all.  To my amazement,  He listened to my inner workings,  thoughts and fears.  His response to me was pretty much that I needed to be wiped clean.  I needed to forget what I had learned up to that point and allow Him to mold me into something more.

You can continue reading from her post it goes into more detail, but you will see how my training helped her.

I was speaking to a Dom not long ago, I do not usually use names but his name is Mark , and he had used one Submissive until she was drained, and went through several others, until he was able to leach onto her.  He told me he was going to train her, I said cool man what type of training. Mark said the usual stuff, I said yea I use the usual stuff too. So I said what are some of the things you are going to incorporate and again the usual stuff. So in reality he did not have a clue. Mark really has no concept of the lifestyle. He also made it clear when meeting a new submissive she was going to fuck on their first meeting or she was not submissive, yea Arianna heard this as well.

So as Arianna explained on her blog she was indeed a complete mess, but not as bad as she thought but she was clearly headed down a dirt road of destruction.

So I began to take things away, more so freedom, I have spoken about this before. I implemented new habits. I limited her space within the home. Where she could sit, where she could stand, how she spoke to people, I implemented protocols . To change bad habits and make new habits you have to stay consistent on a daily basis. Once everything is in place, you cannot change anything up or at least I do not. My rules were not sexual. Rules are meant to change habits, in my eyes anyway. I brought structure into the home, we had no Drama, we had zero problems and to this day it remains the same. Once you complete your what I call bubble, it is very important to make sure nothing penetrates it disrupting what you have worked so hard on building.

You will find what works for you, when I first met Arianna I spent about a week putting a plan together, something I thought would work and it did. I started training and she did not have aclue

I do know if you enter the relationship and it is based on sex alone it will not work for very long. If you are with someone who sees your submission as a weakness and he is not looking out for your well being , your clearly not going to get anything out of the relationship, except problems, and the drama..

Now the question is am I right? Maybe not in every ones eyes. Does everybody agree with me probably not ? What I do know what I do works for me it works for us. I do dedicate a lot of time to insure everything runs as it should.

Ive always said have a plan and stick to it, if you remain true to who you are, things will work out. I know doing things my way has worked in the past, and what has failed was on my part, and I have no one to blame except for me. Yes I do take the blame for past relationships not working, but I learned from my mistakes, and Ive grown over the years, maybe my hair turning white so early has made me wiser.

 

Vile

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life

I use the word Submissive because I think Slaves are becoming harder and harder to find, maybe we should get congress to put Slaves on the endangered list.

What is it you want out of life ? Where do you see yourself a month from now ? Where do you see yourself 6months from now? Where do you see yourself 5 years from now ?

Many who are submissive spend more time jumping from Dom to Dom, and if you continue you will never build anything. You spend 5 % of your time struggling trying to hold the relationship together hoping things will get better, then you spend the other 95% sucking cock or on your back. Still hoping things will get better.

I cannot even begin to imagine what goes through your minds when your in a bad relationship and your being used. Being used is just not about sex, but when it comes to sex I still cannot imagine what goes through your mind while your being fucked.

The problem you are having is you have no plan in place. You really do not have a clue what to expect once you open the door to BDSM. Then you instantly believe what your told. You are kelp isolated from the world. You hear the words of one person. Again I cannot imagine how you would feel being so alone and isolated from the world, even more while being in an abusive relationship.

You have no plan at all , you have no questions, even if you do your to scared to ask. Your to scared to question a Dom when you have not even agreed to submit. Your to afraid to question him in fear he will reject you, and I know rejection is a mother fucker. Being rejected makes you feel like you have walked off the edge of the world and your just falling. The truth is sometimes falling is much better than going through a bunch of bullshit you have no control over. Then you spend days, weeks and months crying over some dickhead who abused you for 6 months to a year.

What kind of life do you want to live as a submissive? I am sure you all have some sort of idea , I am sure you all have a clear picture in your head. I am sure you have thoughts about how you want to be treated. If you have this idea or this picture, or you have needs, why would you let someone destroy your dream, because you believe he is the only one?

Those who are real will encourage you to make friends in the community. Those who are real will take you to local functions. Those who are real and have been in the lifestyle for a reasonable amount of time will introduce you to other Dominants. Introducing you to other Dominants is a need. Every Dominant wants to show off his property. Other Dominants are proud of their property.

From the time you agree to be someones submissive, your training will start. The Dominant may tell you it has started but you will never heard the words training is complete because it really is never over. We learn and grow daily.

The Dominant already has a plan he already knows what he is going to do , he already knows what he is going to implement and what he is not. Training does take a little time, because what worked with the last submissive may not work with you. This is the getting to know each other time.

You cannot enter a D’s or M’s relationship without some type of plan. Before you agree to enter such a relationship, you need to share your plan, you need to make sure both of you are on the same page.  If the Dominant cannot agree to your terms when it comes to submission just simply say thank you, and you move on.

You never want to be a Dominants first, your just an experiment and you will be in a short lived relationship, not to mention he really has no clue as far as knowing what he is doing…. In my opinion it takes three to five years to have a good understanding when it comes to being in a D;s or M’s relationship , but many of the Fifty Shades guys have it pinned down when they set the book down.

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life ?

It is unfortunate if your new because your going to believe everything your told. Being new makes you very gullible , being new makes you an easy target. Even when there are warning signs you ignore them because you think your in a perfect world. Your blind, you do not see anything, nor do you want to. Your so infatuated your blind to warning signs.

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life ?

 

Vile