What your slave wants ?

Pretty simple answer yes? It should be but it can be pretty complex. It can be very little work or effort or it can be a career. Does that make sense?

Security would be on top of the list I would guess.

Maybe honesty? Someone who puts the slave first to include family? Someone who communicates ? someone

Someone who puts reachable goals in place? Someone who provides growth and structure in the slaves life?

Someone who is loyal? I have seen masters who have a slave and still cheat. So if your poly be upfront about it, if the slave says she is not, then move on.

Someone who is not abusive, to include verbal and physical. A man who beats a woman will always beat a woman. Tons of broken promises, over and over again. Anger issues has no place in a relationship M’s or not.

Appreciation? Appreciation goes a long way. I will at least once a day tell Arianna how much I appreciate her. This lets a slave know their services do not go unnoticed.

A slaves home

There are old school masters who will say, a slaves only needs are food, water, clothing and a roof over their head. I get it I really do and I understand their view. After all we are talking about property right?

I love and cherish Arianna, she is my best friend and let it be known my only friend. However when it comes time to play, she is a toy. I use for my pleasure. I have played for a couple of hours , just bondage, floggers , cuffs, fucking all three holes. Arianna has created her own safe word. FUCK and really loud.

I am sure I missed out on other things, but I just covered a few.

You as a master has to be willing to give more than you take. Don’t get me wrong, the slave is to serve and be used, but you can only take so much before you break.

So you want a cock sucker on demand. You want pussy or ass on demand, but you don’t want to take the time out to invest in what you have.

This is the honest truth, I know a Dom who over the past year has banged over a dozen women, maybe more. So you still have the same girl? Nope I moved on, she was not submissive enough.

All he talks about how there is a pandemic of women feminists. The female culture is running rampant with feminism.

I’m like really are you being serious? Then he starts showing me all these videos from YouTube about the take over of wild feminists. Totally brainwashed.

Your slave is not your mommy.

The first time Arianna came to my house, it was almost spotless. I clean up behind myself. Now laundry I dropped off and for another 15.00 she dropped it off at my front door. I cooked and washed dishes but I never made the bed. I never understood the need to do that.

The slave has the right to speak up, call a fucking time out.

You have the right to speak up.

Ohh gainfully employed, now that is a good one.

Well that is it for today, be safe and remember, no passwords, or bank information.

Vile

Example of Slave Contract

I have a friend, SlaveMaster who provided a copy of his slave contract in our group. The group is called Best Slave Training , how I got to use the name is a long story.

There are those who take ownership very serious, and many have written contracts. We all know such contracts are not legal, but there could be situations where it could come in handy.

The contract can help with stability, security but most of all it can put everything on the table. What is expected, it could mean purpose, but the most the most important it provides a outline of what everyday would look like. Now SlaveMaster is probably the strictest Master I know, and he does have multiple slaves.

Maybe a written contract is not for you, in place there could be a verbal contract in place. All contracts should be negotiated and if there is something the slave does not understand, it should be explained.

SlaveMasters contract

Slave____, previously in possession of her own person agrees and states that she wishes and intends to deliver herself entirely into the hands of Master____ as her Master.

Master agrees and states that he wishes and intends to take possession of slave______.

By signing this Slavery Contract, it is agreed that slave_____ gives up all rights to her own person in every manner, and that Master takes entire possession of slave as property, claiming for himself her life, her future, and her heart body mind and soul.

1.0.0 Slave’s Role
(a) slave______ agrees to obey and submit completely to Master____ in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave____ may wilfully refuse to obey the directive of Master___, except in situations where the slave’s veto (section 2.0.1) applies.
(b) slave____ also agrees that, once entered into the Slavery Contract, her body belongs to her Master, to be used as seen fit.
(c) All of slave____’s possessions likewise come under the control of Master____ but remain the property of slave____, including all assets, finances, and material goods, to do with as he sees fit.
(d) slave____ agrees to please Master___ to the best of her ability, in that she now exists solely for the pleasure of Master____ except during free time periods that will be granted to her at the discretion of her Master.
(e) slave____ understands that all that she has, and all that she does, shall now move from right to privilege, granted only as He wishes, and only to the extent that He finds useful.

2.0.0 Safe words
If slave____ feels that a situation is approaching a boundary unforeseen, slave____ may utter the safe word “____” signifying this. Master_____ accepts the responsibility of assessing situations where slave____ calls the safe word and will, to the best of His ability, make judgment on whether to modify the activity or stop activity entirely. Slave agrees to hold no ill will due to Master____’s decision. Master____ agrees not to punish slave for the use of the safe word.

2.0.1 Slave’s Veto
Slave____, where appropriate, holds veto power over any command given by Master____, at which time she may rightfully refuse to obey that command. This shall be signified by the safe word “_____” Utterance of the safe word necessitates immediate termination of activity, is considered a veto, and is grounds for termination of that activity.

3.0.0 slave____’s Behaviour: General
(a) slave____ will strive diligently to remould slave____’s body, appearance, habits, and attitudes in accordance with Master____s desires. Slave____agrees to change the slave’s actions, speech, and dress to express the ownership. Slave____ will always speak of her Master in terms of love and respect, and address Him appropriately (i.e. “Master”, “Sir).
(b) slave____ will seek to learn how to please Master____ better, and will gracefully accept any criticism in whatever form Master____ chooses.
(c) slave____ renounces all rights to privacy or concealment from Master. This includes but is not limited to photography and video photography of slave____, in any situation, to be used and displayed in any manner Master____ sees fit.
(d) slave____ agrees to confess all of slave’s desires and fetishes for her Master’s consideration.
(e) slave____ will answer truthfully and completely, to the best of the slave’s knowledge, any and all questions her Master may ask of the slave. Slave____ will volunteer any information her Master should know about her physical or emotional condition.
(f) When in the same room as her Master, the slave will ask permission before leaving the room, explain where she is going. This includes but is not limited to asking permission to use the restroom.
(g) slave____ shall be responsible for maintaining the cleanliness and availability of all toys. None shall be used without the express permission of her Master, unless agreed to beforehand.
(h) slave____ is responsible for maintenance and completion of all household chores. This includes, but is not limited to
(i) cooking all meals; including preparing food for her Master.
(ii) cleaning; including vacuuming, dusting, and maintaining the kitchen, bathrooms,
(iii) laundry,
(iv) paying all bills in a timely fashion if instructed to do so,
(v) running errands and shopping,
(vi) laying out clothes for Master if requested to do so.

3.0.1 Slave’s Dress/Body/Appearance
(a) slave____ shall diligently maintain and adorn slave____’s body parts in such manner as will ensure that they are fully open and available to her Master. Slave____’s body parts shall be able to be displayed by Master____ in public or private, to others or to Him, when so ordered.
(b) slave____ shall never close nor cross her legs in Master’s presence, unless specific permission to do so is granted.
(c) slave____ shall never wear undergarments at any time, except when allowed to by her Master, and the design of the item of apparel or material, are expressly approved by her Master.
(d) Miniskirts, boots or shoes-with-heels, and stockings, and revealing tops or dresses shall be the mainstay of public attire unless granted permission otherwise.
(e) slave____ shall keep her body parts clean-shaven or waxed at the direction of the Master.
(f) slave____ shall keep her hair cut, styled, and coloured as directed by her Master.
(g) slave____ shall keep her fingers and toenails painted and maintained as directed by her Master.
(h) Master____ has the right to tattoo or have tattooed, pierce or have pierced, or brand or have branded slave____’s body.
(i) slave____ will wear, at all times, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, a token of her possession, given to her by Master.

4.0.0 Master’s Role
Master____ accepts the responsibility of slave____’s body and worldly possessions, to do with as He sees fit. Master____ agrees to love, care for, protect, and cherish slave____, and to arrange for the safety and well being of slave____. Master____ also accepts the commitment to train the slave, punish the slave, love the slave, and use the slave as He sees fit.

5.0.0 Punishment
Slave____ agrees to accept any punishment Master____decides to inflict.
Slave____ agrees that severe punishment may be assessed for any infraction of the letter or spirit of this Slavery Contract, and will accept the correction gratefully. The form and extent of the punishment shall be at the Master’s pleasure.
Slave____ enjoys the right to cry, scream, or beg, but accepts the fact that these heartfelt expressions will not affect her treatment. Further, she accepts that if her Master tires of her noise, He may gag her or take other actions to silence her.

6.0.0 Other People
(a) slave____ may not seek any other Master or lover, or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way, either in “real time”, or “virtual” or “cyber” time, without her Master’s permission.
(b) Master____ may accept other slaves, subs or lovers, but must consider slave____’s emotional response to such actions.
(c) slave____ agrees that her Master possesses the right to determine whether others can use her body and to what use they may put it. Master____will discuss all such instances in advance with slave____. Slave____ has no say in the choice of these other partners, with the exception that play with others must be “safe”

7.0.0 Alteration of Slavery Contract
This Slavery Contract may not be altered, except when both Master and slave agree. If the Slavery Contract is altered, the new Slavery Contract shall be printed and signed, and then the old Slavery Contract must be destroyed.

7.0.1 Termination of Slavery Contract
This Slavery Contract may be terminated at any time by Master____ or by slave____. Upon termination, all materials and belongings shall be split as agreed by both Master and slave. Slave____ shall once again own her body.

8.0.0 slave_____’s Signature
I have read and fully understand this Slavery Contract in its entirety. I agree to give everything I own to my Master, and further accept His claim of ownership over my physical heart body, mind and soul. I understand that I will be commanded and trained and punished as a slave, and I promise to be true and to fulfil the pleasures and desires of my Master, and serve Him to the best of my abilities. I understand that I cannot withdraw from this Slavery Contract.

Signature: slave_____………………Date…………..

8.0.1 Master’s Signature
I have read and fully understand this Slavery Contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this slave as my property, body and possessions, and to care for her to the best of my ability. I shall provide for her security and well being and command her, train her, and punish her as a slave. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall come to slave as long as she is mine. I further understand that I can withdraw from this Slavery Contract at any time.

Signature: Master____……………….. Date: …

Vile

At what point does Training end?

Many rush into a relationship without any negotiations and often there is no real training program put in place and both just wing it.  I often ask how do you train what are the steps you take and I always get close to the same answer, oh the usual. So I ask a point blank question and I do not get a answer and why is that? Ahh because there is no training, the relationship turns into a do what I say relationship. I will admit there is nothing wrong with such a relationship but do not come bragging about your intense training program.

Often these type of relationships survive from topping from the bottom and the novice Dominant or maybe experienced dominant does not even see it.

Come here and give me some head, then you hear no or I do not feel like it. Go to the bed strip and spread I want to fuck. I am to tired , I am not in the mood, what the fuck is this you are to tired ? My answer would be all you have to do is lay there and keep your cock sucker shut, it requires zero effort on your end just lay there like you are suppose to.

Go get the toys out I want to play, no I am not in the mood nor do I want to play. Come here I want to try my new flogger. No I do not feel like it , or I do not like the flogger.

Come on we are going out to eat, where are we going? We are going to Outback Steak house. I do not like outback I do not want to eat there, I want to go here>

Now why does this happen? Any Idea on why such a attitude? There were no negotiations nor did the dominant really know the slave, he did not take the steps to learn about the slave.

Now at this point it is to late to back track or wait you can but either way the relationship will most likely come to a end. The first thing out of your mouth will be, this is not the way I trained you, and the slave will have this confused look but will agree with you. Then you can put your foot down and explain how it is going to be but this is really not the right thing to try and put in place.One of  Two things will happen, the slave will leave or you will give in to the slaves demands. By the time you get to this point it is to late to try to correct it.

So how do you avoid such a fuck up? 1. Get to know the slave, I mean really get to know, get to know better than the slave knows themselves. 2 Have the slaves best interest in mind, set goals for the slave be it service, work or school always support the slave. 3. Be honest with the slave, be truthful and if you say something mean it and follow through. 4. Negotiate put your needs on the table , while you do not have to explain the training process you do need to communicate your needs in the relationship.  This includes service, play, limits, and sharing. Often times you will find a slave who is service orientated has no desire to be shared. If the slave is not Bi you cannot push the issue, I can assure you there will come a time when the slave will want to make you happy as long as you follow the above. Listen to the slaves needs and this is where it can get tricky more so if the slave is new to the lifestyle. The slave will be clueless and this is where a level headed master comes into play. It is your duty to probe for questions, where does the slave want to be in a year, even five years. What things are most important to the slave out of a relationship. Once you commit  and give your word , your words are carved in stone. This however can cause issues if the two are having problems down the road because you cannot backtrack.

So the question is when is there a point when you stop training and end it? 1. If the slave enters the relationship and a week in or even a month the slave determines they are not a slave. Remember while searching you were looking for a slave not a submissive, a baby girl or anything else you were looking for a slave. It is up to you to step up and say hey it has been nice I wish you well.

The slave refuses to follow your rules you put into place, protocols and becomes unmanageable. Remember physical punishment is not always the answer and if you cross that line you could find yourself behind bars. If the slave becomes bratty and mouthy and you have had open communication but nothing seems to help. If the slave decides they have found they are not really a slave and the slave wants out.

Often a novice slave will enter a relationship and they are clueless and are not giving much information about what is expected nor what to expect. It really takes a lot over conversation, more so a lot of detailed work.

 

Vile

 

 

Pussy Rules The World

Recently trying to mentor someone and yes I stated I never would mentor again but I really thought the guy was serious. As it turned out he was not and only interested in how many times he could make a woman cum. Shaking my head thinking this is coming from a 59 year old man.

Pussy is easy to get , keeping it is where the work comes in, and while you guys think you are rocking the boat, chances are she cannot wait for you to bust your load so she can move on to more productive work.

Do not get me wrong I love pussy, the way it looks, smells and taste but most of all the way it feels sliding in but let me make one thing clear. Sex is on my terms and my terms only. I actually prefer head and on a average week , I am being serviced about eh maybe 8 hours or a little more. Lets face it there is nothing like a warm mouth sliding down a dick. Just as with men and all men claim they are the king of eating pussy but that is really another myth. Just like women sucking cock if they do not love it then eh we really get nothing out of it.  I can say though the worst blow job Ive ever had still felt pretty good.

Arianna bless her heart she tries so hard to make me cum but that has only happened with her twice I believe and when all said and done she looked like she just ran a marathon. It is nothing she is doing wrong because if you ever got your dick sucked by her you would beg for more. She has this way of rolling her tongue while going up and down each time is a new experience. She is a fucking machine and can squeeze your dick so hard its like a vice grip but and but again sex is on my terms. I fuck when and how I want just like playing. I tell her the equipment to get out but share nothing else about what I am going to do.

Arianna sleeps naked well because she is not allowed to wear clothes while home unless I approve and late at night the covers come off and there she is spread eagle, and my dick says hey lets hit it.

We agreed when we first negotiated our relationship that there would be no sharing, she made it clear she did not want to be shared with anyone and I agree and why? Remember the oral skills I talked about and the vice grip?

Well that seemed to change for just a short minuet and I will explain. I bought a used car and it needed some work done on it and I had a very good friend who spent hours working on the car and once finished I offered to pay him and he refused the money.

So talking with Arianna one night I brought up sharing again and explained why I was thinking about it and she agreed, she even stated he would really appreciate you giving as a gift. Well he fucked that up, we went away for a weekend the 4 of us him , his wife and the two of us. A real nice hotel on the beach near Tampa and all hell broke lose with the other two. They fought all night long and I was thinking well his loss.

I get asked all the time from those who are novice , do you share? About a week ago a dom I did not even know wanted to take her out to dinner, I was like really are you serious? What was he thinking you ask? Pussy his mind was focused on one thing pussy.

A submissive or slave watches every move, listens to every word and how you act in public and they take in all of this information? Why do you ask? I am glad you did because they are looking for a weakness and why do they look for a weakness?  There will come a time when you can be manipulated with the all mighty pussy and you will cave like a kid at a willy wonka chocolate factory. You would crawl naked through a mile of broken glass just to taste her.

When a Novice dominant or maybe even experienced what comes up first in conversation? What are your limits, do you wear skirts with no panties? The deal Breaker is are you Bi ? Is you are a submissive somehow this dude who just met you , he says you know what? I believe you are a slave I really do and you just listen with confusion.  The list goes on and on and if you are new to the lifestyle you are clueless.

I need all of your information, all of your passwords and banking information so I can take care of you, and you give it , you give everything. Some have commented here before when they woke up their bank accounts were empty.

When you first meet you the submissive , slave you are in control and why are you in control? One your mouth and two look between your legs, yes the pussy. Your pussy controls the outcome of the relationship, your mouth controls the outcome of the relationship.

So the guy I was going to share Arianna with asked me before what it would take to let me let him fuck her. I was joking but I said a 2018 Dodge Challenger RT with a real shaker hood. We were going to the dealership the next morning but his wife blew the fuck up. Would I have done that? I cannot say for sure but probably not..

The power of pussy.

 

 

The Truth About Roman And Hims Erectile Dysfunction

You see the Tv adds about Roman and Hims promising to cure your erectile dysfunction with a private telephone doctors visit for only 15.00 Then you have a monthly subscription of about 17.00 dollars a month if you keep it going then you add the price of the medication.  Both promise a cure to make you more Manley but what both promote is not true you are being ripped off.

You can take the little blue pill and get hard but one key ingredient is missing and that is your train of thought. You can be rock hard but if your mind is not into it there is no enjoyment. So I am going to share with you some cheaper alternatives that most if not all can afford and get results.

First lets talk about Roman

Transparent Pricing

Always

 

 

Free deliveries and no hidden fees

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With the Ro pharmacy network, get free 2-day shipping in discreet packaging that we pack and ship ourselves. No more trips to the pharmacy, waiting in line, or unexpected costs.

The total price of your treatment plan may vary based on number of doses and shipping frequency. Complete an online visit to see if prescription treatment is right for you.

This is correct the pricing is up front and what seems really cheap is not really cheap. Roman also starts out with a 17.00 dollar a month subscription, this is the starting point

Then we get to the medication and the pricing and you will see it is really not that cheap.

 

Sildenafil

20mg 2.00 a pill

40mg 4.00 a pill

60mg  States most common 6.00 a pill

80MG 8.00 a pill

And 100MG 10.00 dollars a pill

Generic Viagra

25mg 34.00 a pill

50mg Still 34.00 a pill

And 100mg which I would recommend.  and 34.00 a pill.

Branded Viagra

25mg 70.00 a pill

50mg 70.00 a pill

100mg 70.00 a pill

Generic Cialis

This is the medication I now take daily 5mg

2.5mg 11.00 a pill

5mg  11.00 a pill I take one 5mg daily. Cialis stays in your system up to 36 hours.

10mg 44.00 a pill

20mg  44.00 a pill. I am not sure where the 20mg comes in because 10mg is the max a day.

Now these prices are per pill so you have to decide on how often you want to have sex.

Testosterone Support

Created by doctors, backed by science. You can’t get this blend anywhere else. Every active ingredient is backed by studies showing improvement in at least one area of male virility.

Get $15 off your first order
Available monthly ($35/mo.) and quarterly ($87/3 mo.)

First there are no pills that can help you reach your desired level and be able to maintain those levels. Again there are no pills and nowhere does it say FDA Approved nor does it say where their test were done or what the outcome of the test were.

Add the above along with the subscription to testosterone  support. Yea that can really hit your wallet pretty good when it is all said and done.

 

Now on to Him’s

 

How much does HIMS cost?

Hims subscriptions start at about $20 a month, although prices vary. For example, a hair-loss kit with pills, shampoo, topical treatment and vitamins costs $44, while for erectile dysfunction, a monthly supply of Sildenafil, the active ingredient in Viagra, costs $30 a month

Now we add the cost of the medication as follows . If you can navigate the site trying to find pricing I will have to admit it was pretty hard. You cannot get upfront pricing without filling out the questionnaire for the free doctors visit. However there is a review I found where a customer was rejected because of the questions that were not answered.

The price he was quoted was 10 20mg pills for 30.00, now most take 50mg when it comes to viagra.

https://www.businessinsider.com/what-its-like-to-use-hims-to-buy-generic-viagra-and-supplements-2018-11#with-that-all-filled-out-we-were-ready-to-go-heres-where-the-typical-online-shopping-experience-diverged-instead-of-confirming-the-order-and-waiting-for-it-to-ship-we-were-asked-to-start-a-visit-5

So here is the low down on what these companies are not telling you and the truth is they care more about your wallet than you.

I see a Urologist every 6 months this is mainly for blood work checking stuff like my Hemoglobin making sure the count is not to high. I give blood once a month through a prescription and the red cross loves me.

Testosterone is a bi-weekly shot my slave gives me in my butt. I remember the first time she gave me a shot she almost passed out, and do not worry guys it does not hurt.

Testosterone is a hormone produced by the human body. It’s mainly produced in men by the testicles. Testosterone affects a man’s appearance and sexual development. It stimulates sperm production as well as a man’s sex drive. It also helps build muscle and bone mass.

Now the cost for a 90 day supply on Good RX

Walmart 2 vials (10ml) of testosterone cypionate 100mg/ml

Discount Price $38.18 .. This is a 90 day supply

Now onto the Cialis

Winn-Dixie90 tablets of tadalafil (Cialis) 5mg

Discount Price $33.83.

You can take daily or take like Monday , Wednesday and Friday then two if you want to go all night. I take daily and if the wind blows you get hard

So as we age our Testosterone levels drop and by age 45 or 50 we can be in the low 200’s. You are tired all the time , no energy and then sex seems like a lot of work. Your mind is really not into it. You can take a pill and get hard but it is your frame of mind and this is where Testosterone comes in. You will not believe the results after the first shot.

Our insurance covers the Testosterone but does not cover the Cialis but who cares right?

If you did not use Good RX a 90 day supply would cost you are 870.00 dollars. How in the fuck do they do that?

The same with hair loss you can buy over the counter products much cheaper than Hims’s or Get Roman.

Testosterone has a lot of advantages when it comes to your health but you will also read some negative reviews but mostly from those who abuse the product..

You can reach me at

I_Vile_Own_Her

On Fetlife hit me up.

Vile

The Novice Dominant

You watched Fifty Shades and when you woke up the next morning you were ready to dominate the world.  You want a slave to serve you but most of all you are thinking only about sex. Your mind is racing about the thought of endless pussy.

You join all the kinky websites such as fetlife , you create a profile with nothing written and post a Dick pic of yourself. This is because you think your dick will draw women to you but in reality you are clueless.

You begin to send out random messages like Hey whats up? A few days go by and your mail box is empty and you cannot figure out why. You end up liking hundreds of pictures and you are following hundreds but your mail box is empty. You post in a few groups and get blasted for running of at your mouth. This is because you wrote a check with your battle ship mouth that your tugboat ass could not cash. You are angry at people because after all fetlife is a kinky site right?

If you by chance start a conversation with a experienced dominant you brush off most of what he says and you continue down the same road because your mind is driven by kinky sex and pussy.

Even before fifty shades you dated some but for the most you remained single. Probably the life of the party but in reality you do not have very many true friends. Your opinion of women is very low and have used through out your years and at times even abusive.

You are the predator , you are the danger and when and if you do get a chance to hook up with a novice submissive you expect sex and you take it. This does not make the moment consensual it makes it rape. You get angry when you message and there is no reply and still you do not understand the damage you have done.

Even if you are the harmless dominant or want to be dominant you still do not listen because pussy is running your life and you think that the women you contact are only interested in sex.

There are some who want to be dominant , there are some who want a slave but your just not cut out for the lifestyle and yet you will blame everyone else. You refuse to take a few minutes and look at yourself in the mirror to see the real you.

These habits are probably stemming from your childhood , either a single parent , or from abusive parents. Maybe or maybe not towards you, you could of just witnessed the abuse. Either way instead of getting help you continue tyo walk the destructive path.

Then we have the married vanilla who watched fifty shades or maybe not but you are stuck in a dull sexless marriage. Sex maybe if you are lucky once a month or less, and you are sex driving. When you do have sex your wife feels like it is a chore and while you are fucking her she acts like you are the king of the world. You crawl off in about 3 or 4 minutes and it is back to the same o same o.  You want to fuck your wife in the ass so bad but nope she will not go there, or you want her to suck your dick and nope she will not go there, but you knew this before you married.

The dominant who are new experience something a new submissive or slave does and it is called sub frenzy. Their mind is traveling a hundred miles an and will listen to no one when asking for advice. The subs end up getting hurt in some form be it physical or mental. The new dominant ends up in short lived relationships trying to figure out what the fuck happened. The new dominant is focused on two things and two things only and that would be pussy and kinky sex.

Growing up there was one thing on my mind and that was pussy. While in school I was known for being kinky and sadistic so my options were mainly open to one girl. As I grew older I knew something was wrong but could not pin point it and it was not until my late 40’s did I realize I had it all wrong.

The novice dominant is much like the novice submissive, there is one speed and that is wide open. There is no advice that will work and will continue asking for advice until they get the answer they want.

I was speaking with someone the other day about sex, and I explained it is my belief many who are new to the lifestyle or maybe not but many of the subs out there have sex because of pressure. The submissive believes it is what is expected. There could be some fear as well, the fear of losing out on a relationship. Most of you know what happens when you tell a male no to sex right? Then the begging comes in, the excuse on how the two will be bonded, how it will make the relationship stronger.  Then once you spread your legs it is game over you are had.

The dawn of the new dominant ages ranging from 18 to about 38 or so and at times older. The definition of BDSM has changed a great deal, the lack of respect, the lack of responsibility, the lack of seeking a true relationship and the list goes on and on. Then you meet a dom and ten minutes into the conversation he pulls out a collar from the local pet store and wants to own you, well for the next week or so.

You can find me on Fetlife

I_Vile_Own_Her

Vile

 

 

 

Training A Slave To Fit Your Needs

You have to have great appreciation for your slave ,in a way you have to love and cherish probably more than your slave will love you. The slave in today’s world probably works a full time job , then comes home and another job begins. However the work at home is more than likely more intense once home than at work.

Depending on the master there is a breaking process, some are extreme while some not so much but you have to be able to bring out the humble that is within the slave. My philosophy is if you break it you gotta fix it.

I have mentioned in other post the importance of getting to know the slave, the importance of knowing the slave better than family and friends and better than the slave knows themselves.

Knowing who you are , how much control you want, how much responsibility  you want, and how much care. Are you strict ? Are you easy going? Are you looking to take full control of someones life? Are you more service orientated, into humiliation, pain?

While sex is not my main driver in a M’s relationship  it does play a part and sex has to be compatible. Both have to be on the same page and both have to talk about sexual needs before entering a relationship.

If you are going to put rules and protocols in place you need to follow through on a daily basis. If you are going to take full ownership there is no what I call downtime , while I do allow my slave to have days just so she can unwind , relax and clear her head, my days are much different. I have no what I call true friends , I do have friends but no one I can really confide in , maybe sit down for a couple of beers or have a in dept  conversation about training. One of the subjects I have been studying for sometime is hypnosis but this is only a me thing. I have practiced on my slave and have been successful there is really no one to talk to. In the community I know a great deal many people but talking to someone and having to worry about something getting out is not something I want to deal with. I actually spend more time speaking with what I do call friends who live overseas , yea I know weird but it works.

I was really young when my kink first came to light , maybe 13 or 14 with a girl my same age. I spoke about her probably seven years ago and I am going to correct what I called her. I called her the school whore but the word whore was really pretty bad so I am going to replace it with the word slut. Just because someone is a slut is not a bad thing , it just means they have a huge sex drive, maybe slut is a word that does not fit but anyway.

Beverley was the first girl I tied up , spanked fucked and face fucked, yea she talked so I did not date very much while in school but she was a regular hookup for several years. The more we saw each other the more extreme we were even to the point of fisting, and wow the first time my hand vanished deep inside her pussy wow! I remember once my hand was fully inside and opening it and feeling all around inside her pussy , it was just amazing.

So while I was kinky and I wanted to be in control , I had no idea what I was doing. At that time is was hunt , fuck and move on.

To the slave, why do you want to be a slave ? What was it that drew you to this lifestyle? Something you read , maybe talking to someone, a movie? What type a slave are you ? Are you more about service? Are you a slave but a masochist ? This is something you have to figure out to insure you find the right match because not one master is the same.

Questions that are seldom asked of the slave is about health , be it physical or the most important mental. Medications the slave is on and why they are on them and what they are for. You as a master are responsible for doing research and it should give you a greater understanding on just how far you can go when it comes to play and that being physical and mental to include pain. If you break it you may not be ale to fix it and you could find yourself answering questions to law enforcement.

As a slave you have to have a need not a want because if it is just a want then while you are training there will be some internal fighting and will case you to resist to a point or you may find you are objecting to most.

Being mentally prepared having your mind right knowing you are about to step off a cliff and expect someone you trust to catch you.

The master must know the slave , the master must know the slave better than the slave knows themselves. You have to know the slaves limitations and something many look over are medications. What type of medications is the slave taking? Does the slave suffer from any type of depression? If so then this may alter your training program some. Remember if you break it you have to fix it and depression may not be something you can fix. I have found over the years those who do suffer from some type of depression are much better suited to be a service slave. Working with a masochist is this a area you have experience in?  The truth not many who are masochist are slaves just as not many who are sadist are actual master. Their pleasure comes from inflicting pain and humiliation.

Training a slave is really not as difficult as many think but it does take a lot of work and going into a relationship you really have to have a game plan. Some ask me about rules when they first meet a slave and my answer is you cannot give out rules until you know the slave. Rules are for the betterment of the slave and this does not include not being allowed to wear panties. I have found over the years that protocols can actually take the place of many rules although some see both as the same.

The one thing many look over is negotiating the relationship and if you do not it can cause a lot of confusion and trouble because you just cannot make shit up as you go.

I have standards when it comes to upkeep. I dress nice when out but I expect my slave to look 100 times better at all times. It is the masters responsibility on how the slave presents their selves when out. A slave is a direct reflection of the master and the masters training.

I had a list, a list of my needs when it comes to ownership and if the answer was no to anything on my list the conversation was over. The slaves needs are different, you have clothing, food, and a place to sleep anything else is a privilege and privileges can be earned or taken away.

Negotiations should include how much control the master wants to take, how much freedom to take and give. Sex is on your terms and your terms only after all it is about you the master. The slave must agree to your terms and speak the word I agree out loud not just by nodding. If you like anal sex and the slave does not and is not willing to compromise then the slave is not for you. If the slave does not swallow and it is a requirement for you , then the slave is not the right one for you. Do not give in to any of your needs.

The slave will come back with a list of needs besides the three basic. You the master must agree, if you say no and the slave does not agree then the slave is not the right one for you.

The slave has rights , the slave has the right to be able to communicate openly 24/7 to include waking you at night. The slave has the right to communicate freely without being judged and you the master must listen. This includes during your busy day, if the slaves sends a text you are to respond it only takes a few seconds.

A part time master cannot expect full time submission.

Ok you are taking a human and you are changing their train of thought, you are changing their habits, you are changing their needs. Needs in my eyes are four simple things. Food, water , clothing and a place to live. These are absolute needs

Training is about being consistent hourly, daily, weekly and monthly and so on. Once you begin the training there must be no interruptions. My thoughts on LDR these are extremely  hard because if you cannot reach out and touching someone you really do not have any control over someone, you have the control you are being told you have and nothing more..

You have a vision on how you see your daily life , you envision your home, you are the master , living with your slave. One thing, if you are looking for a slave then look for a slave. Your search should not include a submissive or a baby girl, a brat nor a switch. You are looking for a slave and nothing less.

One of the first words out of your mouth should be privilege. Everything you allow the slave to do or have is a privilege and privileges can be taken away at anytime. This is one area of the relationship the slave has control, privileges are in the slaves court and the slave controls the outcome.

You as the master having a clear game plan and knowing what your expectations are is a must. You can not just go in winging it or playing by ear. Once you start training it is really hard to make changes and this is mainly because you have already set the pace.

Strip, standing right there and strip as she walked through the door. Hand me you cell , your purse. In today’s the cell has become a part of life so allowing the slave to check a couple of times a day is important , maybe family friends, emails and so on but limited time.

You may sit here and here but not here or here. You are not allowed at anytime to sit on my furniture , you do not have that right. See what I did there? I have taking what once was normal freedoms and taken them away. Everything in a slaves life is a privilege and privileges  can be taken away at anytime.

Dinner time you may sit on the floor next to me , you do not have the right to sit on a chair, you are the slave remember? You will not begin to eat before I take my first bite,then and only then may you begin to eat and after the first bite you will thank me.

When you sit you will sit with both legs closed and hands placed on your lap, you will never cross your legs , you are not permitted to do so. When you stand and you are speaking or not your hands will be clasped in the front hanging in front of you.

You will ask permission to sit on my floor , you will ask permission to stand , to go to the bathroom , to get a drink or water , to shower and to enter the bed.

Here is the key as masters we can only make a informed decision based on the information given to us, if you do not communicate your feelings I cannot read your mind. If you ask a slave a direct question you expect a direct answer, if something goes wrong and the slave did not communicate the problem is clearly the slaves fault.

I have three main protocols in place while out. Protocol one, the slave may speak freely, two the slave may speak when spoken to and three speaking is not permitted.

My slave does not wear clothes while at home, she is not permitted  and does not have that right. If requested such as cooking or taking the dogs out I allow.

In the beginning of your relationship after you have agreed to enter one,  Use your slave this is your right. Guide the slave to the bedroom place them on the edge of the bed and tell them to spread. You fuck , bust a nut and walk away after you have finished. You and use often many times without saying a word. I have my slave trained I just tap on the back of the head and she knows it is time to suck dick, if I tap twice she knows to go all the way down and hold it until I grab a hand full of hair and pull her up.  If I want pussy I take pussy if I want the ass I take the ass but I do without giving any indication until I start.

All of the above is done in repetition , hourly, daily , weekly and so on.  You must remain consistent and what you have done over the past 90 days or so is changing the slaves mindset and taking old habits and replacing with habits you want in place. Just because a slave makes a mistake but not mean the slave should be punished after all the slave is human and even masters makes mistakes.  Punishments do not always include physical punishment. There is a mindset that if a slave breaks a rule which seldom happens then we must beat them.

The Collar is very sacred to me and I hold it above a wedding ring. The collar shows ownership , you own your slave , you own property. While negotiating find out what kind of collar would be suitable for everyday wear.

Myself I use a Turian collar  which for the most is Gorean and it locks with a allen screw. I am the only one with the wrench to remove it. Arianna has worn it for almost 7 years and it has never been off her neck. She wears to work and is out in public and in 7 years has been asked about it 3 or 4 times. She simply replies it is like a wedding ring and nothing else is said.

A collar is earned not giving , if it is just giving there is no appreciation

I do not believe in under consideration collars or training collars. I did make a leather one I put on Arianna when we went to events so others would know she was taking. Many today run down to the local pet store and purchase a dog collar and give it with no meaning. Most wear the collar as a trophy or to be able to stand out , maybe play.

Leave sex off the table until you get to know the slave, as a matter of fact let the slave bring the topic up when it comes to sex, kink and bondage as well as fetishes.

Shut up and listen

Start with a blank canvas and build what you need.

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Men’s Number One Weakness

Men’s number one weakness , would that be stupidity ? We are men we do stupid stuff , we cannot help it because it is in our DNA , but there has to be a stopping point. I know some men who would crawl naked through a mile of crushed glass to hear Brittany   Spears fart through a walkie talkie.  This is the truth, it is not about the relationship , building a relationship , or looking for something long term. It is about the Pussy and nothing more.

Lets take BDSM , this relationship is one of the fastest relationships you can enter and why is that? One of the first questions a Dominant will ask a slave is are you Bi and for many if not Bi that is a deal breaker or if not then the subject is brought up at a later date and often forced. What is the shortest skirt you own ? I am not sure why but this seems to matter. Do you go out in public with no bra or panties ? Again I am not sure what this has to do with building a relationship.  Do you enjoy anal sex oh and there is do you swallow ? Do not get me wrong compatibility is what helps make a relationship go round and round but this is within the first 30 minutes of just meeting and most of the time it is on line.

Now from my prospective , how I did and do things , please do not get me wrong because at one time I was like the ass above but in my defense I was in my late 20’s. Once I hit my 30’s those questions became obsolete and really did not seem to matter.

Anyone who ask me for advice on meeting a new slave my advice is sit down shut the fuck up and listen. Let the slave talk about anything and everything, just let them ramble and while their mouth is moving you are listening to every word and processing the information you are being giving.  What you are doing or what you want to do is get in their head and in order to do this you have to know, what their habits are, how they think and why they think the way they do. You want to know about their favorite music, food, movies , games , vacations and family and friends. If you know none of the above you cannot begin training or effective training and you just bullshit your way through it.

Leave sex off the table because if you just start out fucking that will be what consumes your whole relationship and it will end as fast as it started. Look those who are subs and slaves are use to being used , many believe sex is what is expected. Ok now don’t get me wrong because I love sex , I love getting head, head is my favorite pass time and although I average about 2 hours a week of just getting blown I would like to increase that by another hour or so. So I love to fuck but sex is on my terms when and how I want it, I do not ask and I am not much into foreplay ehh maybe sometimes but for the most I crawl on top bust a nut and get the fuck off. My foreplay is when Arianna is sleeping and she uncovers and I am looking at her , this is also when I take my best pictures but anyway I start with her tits and spend a hour or so just fingering before I need to sleep then I am on top, I do not say a word she just spreads.

I hear guys talking oh man when I am with a sub I love to make her cum as much as I can , I was with a sub sometime ago and I made her cum 30 times in 15 minutes . 

Yea man I am sure you did and most if any was to support your inflated ego. See the problem is you still have pussy on your mind. Pussy has control over your what litte brain you do have and the bitch will use sex against you. Then sex is on their terms and not yours because you are a begging little bitch.

To train someone you have to know someone , if you do not know you cannot train. The submission is earned through trust and the willingness to protect and guide. The slave should look at you as their best friend , the one they can confide in without judgement. The slave should have 24 hour access to you and nothing less.

A part time Dominant cannot expect full time submission, but those who are not true the front only last a month or two before it becomes to much work and it falls into a mostly vanilla relationship except for the barking orders when the dom feels like they want something.

You just cannot sit around barking orders and expect the slave to feel appreciated , or even the feeling of being wanted.

Training a slave , and think about this, you are changing someone way of thinking and changing habits to fit your needs. This can only be done if you truly know they slave , this can only be done with effort on your part.

I explain to up and coming masters you have to be able to get inside ones head, you have to truly understand them. You have to know how they think and why they think the way they do. The truth is not one has ever asked me how to do just that, I always get the answer yes.

Men do not understand just how weak they look when most would crawl through a mile of broken glass just to get some pussy, but and there is a but. Men talk and men brag about how they nailed a bitch , how they treated her like a whore, yea this is true just like women talk, eh probably not as out spoken as men are.

I really think this shit started with Adam and Eve.

 

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She is your Bitch why not man up ?

I had a friend who recently passed a very young age 49 years old. I had known him for several years and he had a habit of picking up a 20.00 hooker every week to suck his dick.  Now he did this because his wife refused to go down south and take care of business. She never knew what was going on until one day while over at his place him and I were talking in the kitchen and she had come home and decided to listen in on our conversation.  So I asked why do you pick up a 20.00 dollar crack whore to suck your dick when you have someone here to blow you. I mean really how fucking nasty is that a bitch who has not showered in day?

Oh then here she comes screaming at the top of her cock sucker yelling at me , yea me. Why are you yelling at me ? Your husband is the one picking up hookers because you wont blow him.

Most men are afraid to bring up any type of sexual needs when they first meet a female. This is the beginning of the end of the relationship and often the female will not bring up her sexual needs as well. These actions spell disaster and neither know it.

Back in the 90’s for a short time I went through a phase and I started dating older married women but there was a catch. There was no intercourse , while there was no fucking I did get my dick sucked a lot . The reason these women were reaching out is because they had approached their husbands about their kinky needs and many thought their wife was sick and even brought up counseling.

Now this is something I have never understood , you have a woman who is willing to do anything sexually with no questions and the husbands call them sick.

One woman I was seeing was the CEO of a large telecommunications company and her husband would only fuck her doggy style because he could not stand the look on her face while having sex. To make things worse sex was planned and put on his calendar and it was subject to change.

If you are dating someone and you are afraid to bring up your sexual needs in fear of losing a partner then they are not your match. Many men will cave in the hopes of just getting pussy. and many women cave for the security , yea a big difference there.

So women for the most are just looking for a few things , companionship , communication , which most men fail at and security. Women tend to blindly trust while the man who is cheating becomes possessive and often starts accusing the female of cheating when in fact it is the male who is cheating.

At one time I thought I could be poly and my slave and I had even tried a triad. The triad was successful for 3 years , everyone got along and I can point out one thing ,there was never any arguing. The problem was and still today my slave is very possessive but I knew that from the start. My reason for the triad was not sexual but more so for my slave and again nothing to do with sex but to be with someone who understood her. Today the three of us are still very good friends and will always be.

Okay so where am I going with this ? You find someone who meets your needs , friendship wise , communication  , having fun hanging together and then comes sex. While sex should never be at the top of the list it is still there. So I searched and found someone who could meet all of my needs. I was upfront from the start , I wanted sex on demand. I love having my dick sucked , many times at night while she is sleeping I will crawl on top bust a nut and get off and go back to sleep. I love anal sex to me it is the most private part and total submission again this is just how I feel.

My slave agreed to my terms , one thing I would like to point out is we entered our relationship as master and slave and we both negotiated our needs , well her needs but my needs and wants and in the end we both agreed.

In past relationships while I remained loyal I always looked and just had thoughts of what if. Today that is different because I have the full package and I know I have the best.

Today men cave like Christian Grey did in 50 shades when the two were negotiating their contract , he caved into almost every need and this is why most men cheat.

You can love someone and still think of her as your bitch , your slut , whore what ever you can think of but if you are not compatible you are a loser and you cant blame your partner because you were weak and remained silent. You might as well tattoo the word PUSSY on your forehead so everyone can see the real you. Then your work days become longer and you disappear on your days off because you are now cheating. Your cheating because you found someone who will take it up the ass because your wife will not but you knew this from the start. This makes you pathetic ,  this makes you a loser and you will get caught. If you have children what type of example are you setting for your children but many could careless and I have seen this happen.

When you meet not on the first date maybe not the second but sit down and have a heart to heart talk.

My ex wife told me onetime she was to tired to have sex. What the fuck are you talking about ? All you have to do is fucking lay there , I bust a nut and it is done.

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Total Slavery

As a young Dominant we dreamed of owning a slave , keeping them in a cage , feeding and using when ever we wanted. Although most never reached that dream for those who did I am sure reality kicked in finding it was not possible after all. Most young slaves just entering the lifestyle had this fantasy but once reality hit it turned into a nightmare .

Being able to maintain the strictness of what you dreamed at one time would be extremely difficult , this is due to time , life and working. Today it is almost impossible to have a one income home unless you are a billionaire but if you lived in a trailer you would be a creep. Then you have medical you have to worry about after all you agreed to take care of your slave right?

Love is a motherfucker and if not careful it can cause misjudgement and gilt will hit you. Once this happens you start to lose control. Once you have lost control there is no turning back. It is almost like a car out of control during a heavy rain.

The general public for the most looks down on our way of life , many see it as abuse and again  if you google BDSM you see porn , you see men and women being what it looks like abused.

How ever there are those who have the need to be under someones wing , someone who can guide them. Many professionals still today see being submissive a sickness. but if they would actually listen and not judge their thoughts might be different. Many say they understand but how can that be if they have never lived that role?

What type of master are you ? How much responsibility do you want to take on ? How much control do you want ?

Looking over some post on Fetlife got me to thinking , those who are having trouble finding a partner , but the real story is those who are seeking a lifestyle relationship are looking in the wrong places.

Times have changed and so have people some for the better but then you have those who feel entitled. Everything should be giving and nothing earned. If you are giving a car as a child you do not appreciate it as you would if you worked and paid for it out of your own pocket.

The one who will not go out with you is the one you are afraid to ask out. Most men stay clear in fear of rejection but rejection means nothing , their loss your gain. If you are going to Wally’s Bar and Grill on Friday night looking for the one then you need a different plan.

To be a slave , to be property has to be a need and not a want , if it is just a need then training will never be effective.

A friend of mine Malkinius wrote a book called ” I Can Do This ” and it is available on Amazon.

The book starts out with a slave wanting to be trained and the first thing that is done the slave is stripped of everything. Clothes , watch , purse and yes cell phone , everything is taking and the slave enters the house naked.

Putting the slave in their place is the first step and although you will take the phone you should allow time during the day to check email , text and so on but very limited time. You direct the slave around the house and point where they may and may not sit. It was over a year before my slave was allowed to sit on any of my furniture. At the dinner table she sat at my feet to eat dinner. This will include bath time , bed time, preparing your meals and coffee in the am if you drink coffee.

Your main objective as a master is to make your life as easy as possible but there is a catch and the catch is if you expect 100% from your slave you have to give back 150% at all times. The training must remain consistent , hourly and daily. You set rules and protocols but with the rules they have to be obtainable.

 

Behavior Modification

https://www.kinkly.com/definition/6612/behavior-modification

Behavior modification is a type of consensual domination practice that involves changing undesired behaviors into more desirable ones by using reinforcement or punishment. For example, a Dominant would use behavior modification techniques to encourage a submissive to use proper titles (like Sir or Madam) at all times.

Behavior Modification is something I have been very successful with using. While the slave goes through a transformation in many cases the changes are so small the slaves does not even know.

If you enter the relationship as a dominant or submissive , master and slave the transition is more obtainable and in most cases the transition is very smooth. If you are moving from lets say a daddy and baby girl to a D’s or M’s relationship I do not believe it is possible. I also want to add using this technique must be a need and not a want. The submissive has to want to be a submissive and the same with the slave.

Behavior Modification must also be consensual while the slave must have a idea of what it going to take place the slave must also consent to such changes. Such training if not meant to be long term can be damaging to the slave , I am speaking about the mental aspect of the modification.

While you explain what you are going to do you never give a reason , you the master does not have to explain yourself. While explaining something when finished ask if there are any questions , this is the time to make things clear but again you never have to explain yourself and do not allow such behavior.

Use and use often and the most effective way is to use without notice. If you want to fuck put the slave on their back , get it done and walk away. If you want your dick suck just walk up and put your dick in the slaves mouth. Again all of this is made clear before you enter the relationship , again the word consensual.

If you have anger problems you need to rethink your lifestyle , as a master you need to remain calm , cool and collective at all times. You are the master , the owner , why would you raise your voice or argue with your slave , think about that word , Slave.

It is funny you can ask someone for a good reason why two people would argue and no one can answer that question. Arguments stem from a lack of communication. You also need to let it be known you the master can only make a informed decision based on the information giving to you.  Many slaves come from broken relationships and they can even be making that transition from a vanilla relationship. The last thing the slave needs is to be yelled at or put down.

Egos if you have a ego problem you need to open the trash can and get rid of it. A ego has not place in a M’s relationship and will set you up to fail. You are no different from the guy next door , the only difference is your lifestyle. You are no better than the person who only makes 20K a year compared to your 100K a year.

The final word

Sit your potential slave down , explain what you need and want out of a slave and listen to the slaves needs. Make your expectations clear , make your goals clear for the short term and long term..

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