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My Short Story Is Out. The Breaking Of Sabrina

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One Complaint, to short.

I have been in three TPE relationships over the past twenty something years TPE.
My first Slave Sherri , was a total masochist, and was into deep humiliation, and a total pain slut. The only time I ever seen her cry was the day I told her it was over.

In the beginning the relationship was a lot of fun, but as time went on it grew old, because it became more of a job.

I guess one reason was I never developed any real feelings for Sherri, and I cannot explain why, unless it was her three kids.

My second was Bea who I truly thought I was in love, but I now realize I was not. I cared for Bea but I now know it was not Love..

I know this now because my now wife and Slave, I am deeply in love and I truly cherish her. I hate being away from from her on a daily basis but I know it is only a short time.

The thing I want to point out is each Slave was different, each had a different personality, but most important each had different needs.
So the way each was handled was different, the same rules, or protocols would not of worked for either.

You have to be able to open ones mind so to speak and take a walk around in their brain.

Sherri was not hard because I was told what and how to do something . I understand more today than I did then.

Bea was a little more of a struggle. Once I knew her, then I had to figure out how she thought, what made her tick, what made her want to cut herself, once I was able to communicate with her on her level and the more I understood her, the less of cutting there was until it stopped all together.

Arianna was a task in the beginning , it was not until I had access to her journals did I grow to have a clear understanding of what made her tick..

So each and everyone of us is different, every Dominant, and Master, every Submissive and Slave. It is finding the one who fits your needs.
If you rush without really looking at the whole picture you could fall prey.

Which now brings me to my short story, being a sadist at one time, I was able to clear my mind and take a walk. I actually viewed myself in the book, the only difference is I would of never trained Sabrina for someone else she would of been for my own use.

Which Brings us to The Subject of Stockholm Syndrome. A human can be broke in as little as 48 hours under the right conditions.
Now everyone who is taken captive does not suffer from Stockholm. Some are stronger than others.
In the case one does, it is because they develop feelings for their capture, they develop feelings for the one who is abusing them, I know its weird. No one really knows what sets that timer off.

I saw myself, how would I break someone if I was going to take that type of path. Starting out with pure fear, and humiliation, then moving to a more caring individual. Those steps I believe may have to be repeated it would depend on who you were trying to break….

So here is the link it is a very short story, but at the end you should see the purpose of the book..

There is one more coming out sometime in November I do believe, it will be much longer, and it will be Non-Fiction. It will be about the life of a master and slave, and the safety steps you should take when looking for a relationship.

Much love to everyone who has stopped by over the last two years.
As always feel free to drop me an email
viledesires62@aol.com

Smashwords (for all but Kindle users): https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/457549

Amazon/Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LRZLRUO

Coming soon to B&N, iBooks, KOBO and other retailersbreak

I want to thank Arianna for giving us such a great cover. Lea Barrymire did finish it up for us…

If you do make a purchase please leave a review, good or bad, but keep an open mind when reading it.

Vile

Do You Really Want To Live In Total Servitude / Solitude

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Aftercare, anticipation, Arianna, bdsm, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, Bond, Change, codependent, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Discipline, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, events, forced sex slaves, Health, life, Loyal, Master, Masters, molding your slave, morals, munchs, needy, non-consensual, Owned Slave, owning a slave, Patience, relationships, Safe, Safe and Sane, Sane, serve, slave, Stockholm syndrome, submissive, Total Servitude / Solitude, Total Solitude, TPE, training your slave on February 19, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Stockholm syndrome, Patricia Campbell Hearst, who was kidnapped by the Symbionese Liberation Army, but later joined them in their fight. Patty went through a form of Stockholm.

As one would living in a Master and Slave relationship. Total servitude, total solitude. No connection with the outside world. The only contact with anyone would be when your Master allowed, or perhaps when he had company over.

At one point I was seeking a total servitude slave, I searched for about six months, and I came across several slaves who were interested, but after giving it deeper thought, I began to look at both sides of the coin. The good and the Bad. The cost for one could really sky rocket, if the Master and Slave were not married, I am speaking of just healthcare alone. Between 600 and 900 a month alone for a private policy.

The side effects could be more dangerous though I do believe. Total solitude, being trained to fit one mans needs. At his service 24/7 be it sexual or domestic.

Arianna and I watched the movie The Pet last week, besides the ending and what the slaves were being used for Arianna really liked it. I explained that human trafficking was alive and well today. In the movie The Pet, which was a real disappointment to the BDSM community, was not only based on human trafficking, but the selling of organs. The Pets were being conditioned and brought to perfect health. Once achieved they were sold on the open market.

The United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime stated that there were 2.4 million people around the world who are victims of human trafficking at any given time in 2012.

80 percent of the victims were involved in sexual services.

The UNODC also stated that human trafficking is a $32 Billion market.

Living as a Slave in total solitude, in service to one, would be much like Stockholm syndrome. In a short time, I am speaking a few weeks to a month, I believe you would begin to lose some of your senses. You would begin to lose the ability to think on your own. You would have to be told every move to make, even cooking or how to do laundry.

If you just take the time to sit back and think of how a relationship such as this would work. It may seem fine for a short period, but being in contact with one one, being trained, and fully conditioned to serve. Even after a short time if company did come over, to the slave it would be like no one is even there, your only care would be your master and owner.

The Pet, although it was just a movie, the way it was explained, Any man or woman could be forced to sever as a slave, but after a short time it would become willingly. You begin to lose senses, the ability to care, in some cases even think. Your only purpose or care would be to serve,and serve without question.

I do not want you to think that a lifestyle as such is not real in today’s times, I can almost promise you it is. Just as women being sold into slavery.

This all sounds bad but it gets worse. The Master and Slave are together for lets say a period of five years. The Master becomes ill, and passes away. Where does this leave the slave? How does the slave now function on her own? How does the slave begin to provide for herself?

I have heard through the grapevine , that a Master would choose another master if he should become ill or perhaps be in some kind of accident. The other Master would then step in, and take over. I have only heard of this I have never seen it first hand. I am not sure if I would or could trust someone else enough to take care of my property.

So living in a Master / Slave total servitude / Solitude relationship. In just a period of weeks the slave would go through some major transformations. You would begin to lose your thought process. You would begin to not care, and deeper into the relationship it would be hard for the slave to comprehend the slaves surroundings. Your only purpose in life would be the one who owned. Again this is just my opinion.

Those who have gone through deprivation of some type, for more than several hours would suffer from the same disorders, I do not think the effects would be long term, but after only a couple of hours you begin to lose some of your senses. After being in a deprivation tank longer than a couple of hours, the slave would need some major aftercare. Just to bring back to reality.

Pretty Interesting.

Consensual Slavery.

n BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual (the submissive) gives to another (the dominant) ultimate authority over them. It is a form of dominance and submission. The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship is structured in terms of slavery, because of the association of the term with ownership of the slave and the rights of a master to their body, as property or chattel. The dominant is often called Master if male, or Mistress if female.

The owner/slave relationship is usually entered into on a consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery, which is forbidden by the laws of most countries.

Outside the BDSM community, the relationship of Master/slave is sometimes regarded as a form of consensual sexual slavery. In BDSM, a slave is a specific type of submissive. The master/slave relationship refers to the relationship between the individuals involved, and does not necessarily require any specific acts, sexual or otherwise, though sexual activity is usually an aspect of the relationship. The sexual aspect could be conventional, and not necessarily BDSM. A slave could also be a masochist or bottom, but this is not always the case.[1]

Some participants regard the relationship as sexual roleplay, while others enter into the relationship on the basis of a highly committed, long-term, submissive lifestyle.

Some practitioners feel the difference between submissive and slave is the degree of submission. However, many who are involved in Master/slave relationships see the difference as being conceptual. For example, some slaves may not have a naturally submissive personality, but choose to surrender their will and volition to another.

Non-Consensual Slavery

Slavery is a system under which people are treated as property to be bought and sold, and are forced to work.[1] Slaves can be held against their will from the time of their capture, purchase or birth, and deprived of the right to leave, to refuse to work, or to demand compensation. Historically, slavery was institutionally recognized by many societies; in more recent times slavery has been outlawed in most societies but continues through the practices of debt bondage, indentured servitude, serfdom, domestic servants kept in captivity, certain adoptions in which children are forced to work as slaves, child soldiers, and forced marriage.[2] There are more slaves in the early 21st century than at any previous time but opponents hope slavery can be eradicated within 30 years.[3]

Slavery predates written records and has existed in many cultures.[4] The number of slaves today remains as high as 12 million[5] to 27 million.[6][7] Most are debt slaves, largely in South Asia, who are under debt bondage incurred by lenders, sometimes even for generations.[8] Human trafficking is primarily used for forcing women and children into sex industries.[9]

In pre-industrial societies, slaves and their labour were economically extremely important. Slaves and serfs made up around three-quarters of the world’s population at the beginning of the 19th century.[10]

In modern mechanised societies, there is less need for sheer massive manpower; Norbert Wiener wrote that “mechanical labor has most of the economic properties of slave labor, though … it does not involve the direct demoralizing effects of human cruelty.

I was speaking with a Dom at a munch recently , and he was telling me he was looking for a Master / Slave consensual and non-consensual relationship. When I asked him to elaborate on the subject in more detail, he told me he could not because he did not know me well enough. As of now he is single, but his target is to have four slaves living at home.

The fact is, while in a Master and Slave enter a relationship, even if not total servitude or solitude. The slave goes through a slight transformation. The slave comes to know she only has one to answer to. Great care must be giving for those who work. The slave needs to know it is okay for a supervisor to give orders. I am speaking from experience. The slaves world only revolves around her owner. The slave becomes dependent upon her owner. Great care must be giving, not to take advantage of what has been giving. The slave becomes codependent, again great care must be giving. The amount of trust giving is probably a unheard of number.

This is why it is very important to allow the slave to interact with others. Like munch’s friends and most importantly family. Family should always come first no matter what. A golden rule never try to come between a slave and her mother, it will not work, no matter how fucked up you think the mother is., again speaking from experience.

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Big Changes Have Come

Posted in abuse, bdsm, Beatings, communication, Consensual, Domestic Abuse, Email, FaceBook, Pain, Stockholm syndrome on November 19, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am back from Tenseness my father is in the first stages of Dementia. My Step Mother is a total bitch, lazy and has never done anything in her life. She does teach at UT part time, which gets her out of my dads hair for a few anyway.

She has been caught after 28 years of marriage, she now finds it easier to try and put him in a nursing home. So she accidentally forgets to give him some of his medications, then he ends up back in the hospital.

I brought her little games to an end real fast, informing the doctors what was happening. So she was sat down and giving the 5th about senior abuse. Everything seems to be back on track now, he is doing much much better.

The Changes.

I have someone old back in my life although it will just be temporary , I needed some help getting something in order. I find it truly amazing that someone will make a 23 hour flight in a time of need.

I have a slave who has been following me here for about 5 months, she even made a face book just so we could communicate. I did not really catch on,to what was going on, until about a month of correspondence.

I play a couple of games on face book, as she did, of course only the games I played. All of her post, included her and I interacting to some degree.

I am thinking this is really pretty harmless. I suppose she mistook my kindness as an open invitation. That does happen often. I speak much different to submissive’s and slaves. I have a huge heart, more so when it comes to those who have been abused.

She is from the Midwest, very small in build, and Deaf. That is right cannot hear a word, but reads lips very well.

I was wondering where she was at that morning, she usually hits me up pretty early, then it hit me well she is off today.  Then I receive a message from her. My first question was , where are you, her reply was. I am in Arkansas. Really what are you doing in Arkansas? Her reply was I will be in Daytona soon. My reply why are you coming to Daytona? Her reply was, I hope to stay with you.

I am a little late her bus had already left.The bus station here is small. I walk in, and what I see is a lost puppy. On the way home, she is stuck to me, wont let go. I find this odd since she had never even met me. I do like attention, but this was more of a fear thing. The fear of being left behind..

I am guessing the abuse has gone on for year, this last relationship was verbal more than physical. I guess it makes you more of a man to abuse a tiny female who is deaf, and has the demeanor of a child.

The scars from the clothes hanger abuse is very visible from her previous relationship I take it he was a Sadist.

You just cannot turn your back on someone. A while back I had posted on Stockholm Syndrome, this is what I think caught her eye . She experienced just that for almost four years.

A couple of months ago, a friend of mine called me, he is a Dominant who lives in Daytona Animel yes that is his real name. He looks like a pissed off Santa Clause .He asked me if I could help out a submissive couple for a couple of months, and I agreed. I have never seen two people who fight so much. Anyway  we are all sitting in the living room and a friend stops by so I step outside to talk. I had a flat on my truck, and he brought a patch kit over, a long with an air compressor . This is the kind of friends I have. I like people who help, and do not expect anything in return.

So I am outside talking and Lyn the female comes out and says you need to do something, she looks like she is going to cry. I tell her to have Amber come out. She stands right behind me holding me.

The clothes she brought consisted of two pair of pants a few shirts , a pair of tennis shoes with no shoe strings, and a pair of flip flops. Her wardrobe.

I look at her and I feel some much pain, it really hurts. How could someone abuse someone so fragile , and caring. Make her work then take her check at the end of the week, while he did not work.

I will post more here pretty soon. I do know she will have a home as along as she needs

Vile

Stockholm syndrome Is Alive And Well In BDSM

Posted in 24/7, abuse, bdsm, blow job, Bondage, Collars, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, craigslist personal add, Dating Add, Fake Dominants, Fear, fucking, Kink, kinky, Master, oral, oral sex, Punishment, sex, Stockholm syndrome, Sub Drop on October 30, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Your a new Submissive, something just hit you, you came across a blog, a web-site, hearing your friends talk. You scan the internet looking for information. Your reading everything there is to read. As time goes by you begin to get hungry, you need the hands on, you need to feel what your feeling inside. It is like your on fire, but where does one go. I am to ashamed to talk to anyone about my desires. Ahhh there has to be dating sites. You come across ALT.com, Collarme.com, then Craigslist, yes I will run an add, I will make a profile.

The problem is you are really not sure what you like, what you do not like, what your into, your limits, more important your needs.

Your pretty much in the Dark, you feel lost, mass confusion,, you cannot stop thinking about being owned, you want a collar, you need to give up control. Where do I go or who do I turn to?

You run an add on Craigslist, and you get a hundred reply’s, and you pick out the best looking guy, he is good looking so he has to know what he is doing. So you email back and forth for a short time. Then you text, and finely talk on the phone.

You agree to meet, your told what to wear, over dinner he tells you that he wants to get a room, you do not feel comfortable but you comply, you want to please.

So once in the room, you suck a lot of dick, you get spanked a little, fucked. Then before you leave he hands you a collar. Don’t even shake your head this has happened to most every submissive.

Now you start to see each other, at first there is a lot of communication, but you find that he is getting short with his answers. Now it is mostly spanking, sucking cock, and fucking, nothing else.

You go by his word, he knows everything. He has drawn you into his world, he has gotten into your head. To you he can walk on water.

Then you read more or someone brings up BDSM events, munchs. You wonder what other dominants or slaves he knows, all these questions. He tells you that you do not need any of these things, he is all you need. He has all the information you need.

Your time together grows less frequent, your questions are no longer welcomed. Now the lost feeling comes upon you. You find out he has family issues, which puts you on the back burner. The question is were you ever number one.

Now your going crazy, you crave to see your Master you need his touch. You have no one to talk to, because you do not know anyone else in the lifestyle. You feel like your locked in a dark closet.

Then you wake up one morning, and your thinking there has got to be more to it than this. This cannot be right. It is nothing like I have read.

The bad thing is , it will take you much longer to break things off than it did to meet. At least with him you do have someone. It may be abuse, but still someone.

This happens all to many times. Most do not know the qualities of a good Dominant, nor do they know the questions to ask. More so the submissive cannot stand her ground on issues. that may arise.

Things to look for. He is in control, I have talked about this many times. No anger issues. A Dom with anger issues is not a Dom he is a man into kinky sex. A real Dominant will never raise his voice at you, never call you names out of anger, and the most important, never hit you out of anger. He should never threaten you.

A Dominant is in full control of himself , and his surroundings. He is calm, he speaks in a positive way, he is never negative. A good Dominant will drop what he is doing when you are in need. A good Dominant is supportive, caring, loving. A real Dominant will always put you first no matter what, you are the center of his world. A real Dominant, will not set you up to fail. A real Dominant will hold and comfort you. He will listen to you, even if you have to wake him up. You should feel you can speak to him on all levels.

If you are seeing a Dominant who does not meet anyone of the above, I would rethink my relationship.

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