BDSM Relationships Move So Fast

Your traditional dating is pretty simple, you meet , talk go out spend time with each other. You go out to eat the movies , parks, kissing making out a little foreplay. You know this things tend to move slowly , both of you are on your best behavior trying to convince each other your the perfect fit.. If it works out it does if it does not oh well.

Then we cross the tracks , the other side of the world a new world unknown to most, something with a dark side , but in a way it is exciting.

Your train of thought changes as a female , you have not yet figured out where you fit in, all you know is what you have read really gets you going.

Now all train of thought is no longer rational , your not thinking clear, your brain is moving at Mach one and as of this moment what you have read , what you have chatted about in chat rooms, and maybe some small talk with women at work or maybe your to ashamed to bring it up.

Your Hormones have just kicked into high gear, all of a sudden you need BDSM in your life this is what you have been missing in your life…

You meet a Dom or Master in a chat room , maybe a Daddy Dom. You now let a complete stranger dictate who and what you are and the way words are put you may not fully understand but you go along with what your being told. He gives little hints using key words you pick up on.

Unlike the traditional dating 20 minutes into the chat , your asked what your limits are ? Limits what the fuck is that? Ahhhh your not sure so he begins to explain feeding you more. The next question is are you Bi ? That is always the first question, the second is do you swallow, do you take it up the ass? Do you enjoy pain? Do you enjoy humiliation ? What is the shortest skirt you own ? What are the shortest shorts you own? Do you go out in public without a Bra? How often do you Masturbate ?

If your not lock then comes the webcam , or kik then talking on the phone leading up to phone sex.

Here is what really gets me is the self punishment , making you punish yourself, spanking your pussy , putting clothes pins on your nipple and clit. Then the name calling starts and you go along with it because you do not know any better. The isolation kicks in keeping you away from friends and family. Your passwords and in most cases your banking information. I have seen a few get completely wiped out, and left with nothing.

If your local and you meet you are to wear a skirt or dress with no panties which I have never figured out. Once you meet about twenty minutes into the conversation he wants to start your training, you either get a room or if your dumb enough you take a complete stranger back to your home.

Then the cock sucking training begins , he blows his load down your throat pats you on your head and tells you to wait on his text..

All of the above happens in a matter of days not weeks or months, days and at times a day.

You are experiencing mass confusion your mind is stuck in neutral and you feel you have no where to turn. On the other hand you are taking the word of one person, then one who claims he can lead you down the right path, the one word you hear is Trust, trust me.

Your going to make mistakes , your going to make more than one , more than two or three and you will continue until you get your head straight.

Everything becomes a chore nothing is now fun, you dread seeing your Dom but at that moment and time he is the only one in your life.

All of the above has to do with your Hormones , and nothing more until your able to take a grasp on things.

The process is not as bad as you think it is, thinking through things is the difficult part..

Vile

 

 

 

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life

I use the word Submissive because I think Slaves are becoming harder and harder to find, maybe we should get congress to put Slaves on the endangered list.

What is it you want out of life ? Where do you see yourself a month from now ? Where do you see yourself 6months from now? Where do you see yourself 5 years from now ?

Many who are submissive spend more time jumping from Dom to Dom, and if you continue you will never build anything. You spend 5 % of your time struggling trying to hold the relationship together hoping things will get better, then you spend the other 95% sucking cock or on your back. Still hoping things will get better.

I cannot even begin to imagine what goes through your minds when your in a bad relationship and your being used. Being used is just not about sex, but when it comes to sex I still cannot imagine what goes through your mind while your being fucked.

The problem you are having is you have no plan in place. You really do not have a clue what to expect once you open the door to BDSM. Then you instantly believe what your told. You are kelp isolated from the world. You hear the words of one person. Again I cannot imagine how you would feel being so alone and isolated from the world, even more while being in an abusive relationship.

You have no plan at all , you have no questions, even if you do your to scared to ask. Your to scared to question a Dom when you have not even agreed to submit. Your to afraid to question him in fear he will reject you, and I know rejection is a mother fucker. Being rejected makes you feel like you have walked off the edge of the world and your just falling. The truth is sometimes falling is much better than going through a bunch of bullshit you have no control over. Then you spend days, weeks and months crying over some dickhead who abused you for 6 months to a year.

What kind of life do you want to live as a submissive? I am sure you all have some sort of idea , I am sure you all have a clear picture in your head. I am sure you have thoughts about how you want to be treated. If you have this idea or this picture, or you have needs, why would you let someone destroy your dream, because you believe he is the only one?

Those who are real will encourage you to make friends in the community. Those who are real will take you to local functions. Those who are real and have been in the lifestyle for a reasonable amount of time will introduce you to other Dominants. Introducing you to other Dominants is a need. Every Dominant wants to show off his property. Other Dominants are proud of their property.

From the time you agree to be someones submissive, your training will start. The Dominant may tell you it has started but you will never heard the words training is complete because it really is never over. We learn and grow daily.

The Dominant already has a plan he already knows what he is going to do , he already knows what he is going to implement and what he is not. Training does take a little time, because what worked with the last submissive may not work with you. This is the getting to know each other time.

You cannot enter a D’s or M’s relationship without some type of plan. Before you agree to enter such a relationship, you need to share your plan, you need to make sure both of you are on the same page.  If the Dominant cannot agree to your terms when it comes to submission just simply say thank you, and you move on.

You never want to be a Dominants first, your just an experiment and you will be in a short lived relationship, not to mention he really has no clue as far as knowing what he is doing…. In my opinion it takes three to five years to have a good understanding when it comes to being in a D;s or M’s relationship , but many of the Fifty Shades guys have it pinned down when they set the book down.

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life ?

It is unfortunate if your new because your going to believe everything your told. Being new makes you very gullible , being new makes you an easy target. Even when there are warning signs you ignore them because you think your in a perfect world. Your blind, you do not see anything, nor do you want to. Your so infatuated your blind to warning signs.

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life ?

 

Vile

 

Do You Really Want To Live In Total Servitude / Solitude

Stockholm syndrome, Patricia Campbell Hearst, who was kidnapped by the Symbionese Liberation Army, but later joined them in their fight. Patty went through a form of Stockholm.

As one would living in a Master and Slave relationship. Total servitude, total solitude. No connection with the outside world. The only contact with anyone would be when your Master allowed, or perhaps when he had company over.

At one point I was seeking a total servitude slave, I searched for about six months, and I came across several slaves who were interested, but after giving it deeper thought, I began to look at both sides of the coin. The good and the Bad. The cost for one could really sky rocket, if the Master and Slave were not married, I am speaking of just healthcare alone. Between 600 and 900 a month alone for a private policy.

The side effects could be more dangerous though I do believe. Total solitude, being trained to fit one mans needs. At his service 24/7 be it sexual or domestic.

Arianna and I watched the movie The Pet last week, besides the ending and what the slaves were being used for Arianna really liked it. I explained that human trafficking was alive and well today. In the movie The Pet, which was a real disappointment to the BDSM community, was not only based on human trafficking, but the selling of organs. The Pets were being conditioned and brought to perfect health. Once achieved they were sold on the open market.

The United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime stated that there were 2.4 million people around the world who are victims of human trafficking at any given time in 2012.

80 percent of the victims were involved in sexual services.

The UNODC also stated that human trafficking is a $32 Billion market.

Living as a Slave in total solitude, in service to one, would be much like Stockholm syndrome. In a short time, I am speaking a few weeks to a month, I believe you would begin to lose some of your senses. You would begin to lose the ability to think on your own. You would have to be told every move to make, even cooking or how to do laundry.

If you just take the time to sit back and think of how a relationship such as this would work. It may seem fine for a short period, but being in contact with one one, being trained, and fully conditioned to serve. Even after a short time if company did come over, to the slave it would be like no one is even there, your only care would be your master and owner.

The Pet, although it was just a movie, the way it was explained, Any man or woman could be forced to sever as a slave, but after a short time it would become willingly. You begin to lose senses, the ability to care, in some cases even think. Your only purpose or care would be to serve,and serve without question.

I do not want you to think that a lifestyle as such is not real in today’s times, I can almost promise you it is. Just as women being sold into slavery.

This all sounds bad but it gets worse. The Master and Slave are together for lets say a period of five years. The Master becomes ill, and passes away. Where does this leave the slave? How does the slave now function on her own? How does the slave begin to provide for herself?

I have heard through the grapevine , that a Master would choose another master if he should become ill or perhaps be in some kind of accident. The other Master would then step in, and take over. I have only heard of this I have never seen it first hand. I am not sure if I would or could trust someone else enough to take care of my property.

So living in a Master / Slave total servitude / Solitude relationship. In just a period of weeks the slave would go through some major transformations. You would begin to lose your thought process. You would begin to not care, and deeper into the relationship it would be hard for the slave to comprehend the slaves surroundings. Your only purpose in life would be the one who owned. Again this is just my opinion.

Those who have gone through deprivation of some type, for more than several hours would suffer from the same disorders, I do not think the effects would be long term, but after only a couple of hours you begin to lose some of your senses. After being in a deprivation tank longer than a couple of hours, the slave would need some major aftercare. Just to bring back to reality.

Pretty Interesting.

Consensual Slavery.

n BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual (the submissive) gives to another (the dominant) ultimate authority over them. It is a form of dominance and submission. The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship is structured in terms of slavery, because of the association of the term with ownership of the slave and the rights of a master to their body, as property or chattel. The dominant is often called Master if male, or Mistress if female.

The owner/slave relationship is usually entered into on a consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery, which is forbidden by the laws of most countries.

Outside the BDSM community, the relationship of Master/slave is sometimes regarded as a form of consensual sexual slavery. In BDSM, a slave is a specific type of submissive. The master/slave relationship refers to the relationship between the individuals involved, and does not necessarily require any specific acts, sexual or otherwise, though sexual activity is usually an aspect of the relationship. The sexual aspect could be conventional, and not necessarily BDSM. A slave could also be a masochist or bottom, but this is not always the case.^[1]

Some participants regard the relationship as sexual roleplay, while others enter into the relationship on the basis of a highly committed, long-term, submissive lifestyle.

Some practitioners feel the difference between submissive and slave is the degree of submission. However, many who are involved in Master/slave relationships see the difference as being conceptual. For example, some slaves may not have a naturally submissive personality, but choose to surrender their will and volition to another.

Non-Consensual Slavery

Slavery is a system under which people are treated as property to be bought and sold, and are forced to work.^[1] Slaves can be held against their will from the time of their capture, purchase or birth, and deprived of the right to leave, to refuse to work, or to demand compensation. Historically, slavery was institutionally recognized by many societies; in more recent times slavery has been outlawed in most societies but continues through the practices of debt bondage, indentured servitude, serfdom, domestic servants kept in captivity, certain adoptions in which children are forced to work as slaves, child soldiers, and forced marriage.^[2] There are more slaves in the early 21st century than at any previous time but opponents hope slavery can be eradicated within 30 years.^[3]

Slavery predates written records and has existed in many cultures.^[4] The number of slaves today remains as high as 12 million^[5] to 27 million.^[6][7] Most are debt slaves, largely in South Asia, who are under debt bondage incurred by lenders, sometimes even for generations.^[8] Human trafficking is primarily used for forcing women and children into sex industries.^[9]

In pre-industrial societies, slaves and their labour were economically extremely important. Slaves and serfs made up around three-quarters of the world’s population at the beginning of the 19th century.^[10]

In modern mechanised societies, there is less need for sheer massive manpower; Norbert Wiener wrote that “mechanical labor has most of the economic properties of slave labor, though … it does not involve the direct demoralizing effects of human cruelty.

I was speaking with a Dom at a munch recently , and he was telling me he was looking for a Master / Slave consensual and non-consensual relationship. When I asked him to elaborate on the subject in more detail, he told me he could not because he did not know me well enough. As of now he is single, but his target is to have four slaves living at home.

The fact is, while in a Master and Slave enter a relationship, even if not total servitude or solitude. The slave goes through a slight transformation. The slave comes to know she only has one to answer to. Great care must be giving for those who work. The slave needs to know it is okay for a supervisor to give orders. I am speaking from experience. The slaves world only revolves around her owner. The slave becomes dependent upon her owner. Great care must be giving, not to take advantage of what has been giving. The slave becomes codependent, again great care must be giving. The amount of trust giving is probably a unheard of number.

This is why it is very important to allow the slave to interact with others. Like munch’s friends and most importantly family. Family should always come first no matter what. A golden rule never try to come between a slave and her mother, it will not work, no matter how fucked up you think the mother is., again speaking from experience.

Vile

Living in Total Solitude

At one time I was looking for a slave who wanted to live in total solitude. Little to no contact with the outside world. Only able to leave the house when I wanted to take her out.

To be nude twenty four hours a day, no rights, no say, no opinion. Just for my service and my service only.

Now your thinking I am really crazy, or you have never heard of total solitude within the lifestyle. The fact is it is alive and well. It could very well be a neighbor next door.

I was really pretty serious in my search for sometime,  I really looked diligently for about six months and spoke with about six potential slaves who were seeking total solitary. Then things came up in life and I had to put things on hold for a little while. Then I met Arianna.

Recently Arianna and I were at a munch, and we met a single dominant who was seeking the same thing, total solitude. He wants a consensual/ non consensual relationship. Now try to figure that one out. To top it off his number of slave to have is four. A nice even number I suppose.

One thing I never understood is why a man or dominant would need more than one. More than one slave who fully serves. I am not speaking of a submissive, I am talking about a slave. A friend of mine and I were talking and I was trying to understand him, when asked the question of why more than one slave, his answer was to spice things up.

Some fifteen years ago I met a Dom who lived in Tampa Florida who owned seven or eight.Again I just do not understand unless maybe it is just an ego thing.

Total solitude, the only interaction with other people was that is allowed. The only talking is that is allowed, clothes, bathing, eating, and even sex on demand, no questions asked.

Total solitude can have its benefits, but it can have its setbacks as well.

Positive effects

There are many benefits to spending time alone, freedom is considered to be one of the benefits of solitude. The constraints of others will not have any effect on a person who is spending time in solitude, therefore giving the person more of a scope to his actions. With increased freedom, a person’s choices are less likely to be affected by exchanges with others. ^[8]

A person’s creativity can be sparked when given freedom. Solitude can increase freedom and moreover, freedom from distractions has the potential to spark creativity. In 1994, psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi found that adolescents who cannot bear to be alone often fall short of enhancing creative talents. ^[8]

Another proven benefit to time given in solitude is the development of self. When a person spends time in solitude from others, he may experience changes to his self-concept. This can also help a person to form or discover his identity without any outside distractions. Solitude also provides time for contemplation, growth in personal spirituality, and self-examination. In these situations, loneliness can be avoided as long as the person in solitude knows that they have meaningful relations with others.

A meaningful relationship would be with a slaves Master. This is where proactive Aftercare would come into role, being consistent in the lifestyle.

So the Dominant is looking for, four slaves to live in total solitude. This sounds really good, a lot of fun, different pussy every night. Unlimited cock sucking, how much better could it get.

The first thing is finding two women who can live together, that is hard, but to find four women, four slaves, Yea I am thinking not. It is not impossible, but next to it.

Then the Dominant finds his self supporting four slaves and not just one. Clothes, food, housing, and the most important medical. Has anyone priced what medical insurance would cost for one. Now your paying for four. Who in their right mind would want that kind of responsibility. So if you were able to find medical for each at a cost of 800 dollars a month, times four that comes to 3200 a month, and around 38.000 a year. That is just medical, that does not include any co-pays,  that does not include any prescriptions, so roughly 40.000 a year just in medical.

The other thing is, there has to be a number one, one of the four has to be number one, she has to keep things in order while the master is away, but at the same time all four have to be treated equal. A master cannot show any favoritism towards anyone slave, nor can the master take sides. Once a fight breaks out the master has to let the slaves work things out, or he can step in and punish everyone. This is keeping it equal.

Total solitude also has its down fall, it can be unhealthy, and can cause great mental distress, if not looked after properly.

Negative effects

Too much solitude is not always considered beneficial. Many of the negative effects have been observed in prisoners. Often, prisoners spend much time in solitude, where their behavior may worsen.^[9]

Negative effects of solitude may also depend on age. Elementary age school children who experience frequent solitude may react negatively.^[11] This is largely because, often, solitude at this age is not something chosen by the child.^[11] Solitude in elementary age kids may occur when the kids don’t know how to interact socially with others so they prefer to be alone, causing shyness or social rejection.^[11]

While teenagers are more likely to feel lonely or unhappy when not around others, they are also more likely to have a more enjoyable experience with others if they have had time alone first. However, teenagers who frequently spend time alone don’t have as good of a global adjustment as those who balance their time of solitude with their social time.

Is it wrong to take a slave in, who wishes to live in total solitude? Yes and No. If the Master is willing to give 100%, stay loyal to his property, take care of the slaves needs, including health. To care for in all that factors into a long term relationship. I believe this would work if both were committed to a long term commitment.

A slave is much different than a submissive we all know this. A submissive only submits on their time. A submissive has the ability to say no. A submissive can impose limits. A submissive can voice opinions.

A slave has no rights. The only rights are those giving. A slave has no say in any of the family affairs. A slave has no limits, eh with in reason. A slave submits at the snap of a finger, without question. If a slave has a master who is looking out for the slaves best interest then all is good. All we as dominants want is total self improvement. We as dominants are to give total support.. We as dominants thrive to see our slave progress in a positive manner.

As pleasure

Solitude does not necessarily entail feelings of loneliness. For example, in religious contexts, some saints preferred silence and found immense pleasure in their uniformity with God. Buddha attained enlightenment through uses of meditation, deprived of sensory input, bodily necessities, and external desires, including social interaction. The context of solitude is attainment of pleasure from within, rather than seeking it in the external world. In psychology, introverted individuals may require spending time away from people to recharge. Those who are simply socially apathetic might find it a pleasurable environment in which to occupy oneself with solitary tasks.

As punishment

Isolation in the form of solitary confinement is a punishment or precaution used in many countries throughout the world for prisoners accused of serious crimes, those who may be at risk in the prison population, those who may commit suicide, or those unable to participate in the prison population due to sickness or injury.

Having a slave who wants to live as a total solitude slave has its ups and down, positive and negative. I myself would really have to think long and hard if I was approached with someone seeking that type of life.

Vile