My Blog Is About Kink, Safety and the Love Of My Life Arianna.

It is hard to believe I have reached over 800 post. I truly enjoy blogging it is my own little world. A place I can come to and be myself, be who and what I am. Not that I hide anything out in the vanilla world because I do not, but here I am truly me.

My 800 or so post are mainly about the BDSM lifestyle, safety, what slaves and submissive’s need and should look out for when looking for a new Dominant, Master or Daddy.  The do’s and the Dont’s what to look out for and the questions you need to ask.

To live in a Broken home is not the life you want, to be abused is not the life you want, to be lied to is not the life you want.

You have to remember everything I tell you is from a mans point of view, many of you may not agree with me, I would not expect everyone to agree with me. I can say this I speak the truth. I have been the user, I have been the abuser. I have used just for my pleasure, and tossed to the side. In the past I have fucked women and could not even tell you their name the next morning. I have fucked and when finished they were told to get the fuck out. I have giving out collars on the first meet. What you have to remember the collar is a powerful tool, it can be a tool of deception. It can be used to just to use you, and this has happened to many of you.

800 post almost 200.000 visitors, and over 4000 comments, and a few friends so things are not to bad. People who read my blog are from all over the world. The middle East, the US, Asia , Africa, the UK , I will post the different countries tomorrow the numbers are astonishing

There are many who visit and do not comment, I am assuming that since most who follow me are women, it is the same with the readers. Most wish to remain anonymous and just read my thoughts, and my opinions, and that is fine.

There are those I am sure who read who only wish of such a life, or maybe there are those who cannot believe that there is even such a life. There are those who want to fully submit, but cannot communicate with their partner.

There are things from my early years I do not wish to share. There are things I am not proud of, and as I look back there are things I would not of done.

I can say this and I say this with great truth, I have never hurt anyone physically , I have always honored a safe word and I have never done anything that was not asked for, or that was not communicated

So in my kinky world I come down hard on married men, these are men who cannot run their house. Their wife will not take it up the ass so they find someone who will. They find someone they can use.

I point out the fake Doms, Masters and Daddy’s who want to be a leader so bad but they do not have a clue because again they do not know how to run their home, or they see submission as a weakness.

I have talked about Domestic Discipline and how I believe there is abuse within the home, not all but for the most. I say this because I have talked and chatted with women who live in a DD home, this is not just something I pulled out of my ass.

I have talked about the dangers of impact play, and how you can get hurt. I have blogged about where it is okay to hit and where not to. You can get hurt.

I have blogged about bondage, and yes you can get hurt if not properly tied. You can damage muscles and tendons if you do not know what your doing.

I have blogged about how communication is a must during play, and the need to know what is going through their minds.

I have blogged about the power of mind fucks, and how it can benefit the relationship, or even carry you to the point of sub-space. A good mind fuck can be very erotic.

I have blogged about a topic I truly enjoy, Sexually Broken. Being tied up to the point you cannot move, and being used in every hole. Moving from the mouth to the pussy, then to the ass. I call it three hole golf.

I have talked about how I run my house, my rules, my protocols. My love for total control, and having the ability to control my property, my own. Living with and being married to my wife, my slave and my property.

I have blogged a great deal about hypnosis and the benefits it could have in a relationship, and this is a subject I am still pursuing. We have invited someone over to teach, only to find out he thought he was going to get some pussy. No one fucks my slave but me.

I have blogged about my love for Anal sex, and how I believe it is the most submissive act a woman can take part in. You are invading the most private part of a female body.

I have blogged about my love for face fucking, this falls under the control factor. Most of the time when I am getting head I don’t even want to cum , it just feels so fucking good, I want it to last for ever. When I do want to cum. I grab a hand full of hair and I control the rhythm.

I have blogged about the love of my life, Arianna, my first breath when I wake and my last thought before I fall a sleep. My universe, my world. She is truly my drive in life.

Our relationship is micromanaged, I invest a great deal of time making sure our relationship runs smoothly. Being a Dominant is not a 9 to 5 job it is 24/7 365. Although I do put a great deal of time and effort into our relationship, the rewards I receive come back 100 times over.

I have blogged about our new journey into the world of poly. How I believe it would benefit Arianna. As many of you have noticed, I have not said anything about how such a relationship would benefit me. That is because I am not thinking about me.

Then after a great deal of thought I moved to the idea of a Triad, moving away from the poly idea, because most who are poly are not loyal to just a home, or two.

If you have noticed the subject of sex within a triad has not come up, mainly because that is not my train of thought. Because my main focus is on Arianna, but here is my thoughts. In time with in a Triad sex would come up. My way of thinking would be to find someone who was not open to things that Arianna is. Such as Anal sex, or rimming, or a foot fetish like Arianna has.  These would be things exclusive to Arianna. She would be the only one who could offer these things.

I am not looking for another Slave, we are looking for a submissive, someone to be Arianna’s best friend, to do things with. She wants to take art classes, while I have no interest I would go and take part in. Events they have downtown on the weekends, to help out around the home. While I do help when I am off, it would be nice to have someone around to help.

So my train of thought has nothing to do with the sexual aspect of how we would live with a third. If you are wanting to bring someone into your home with the thought of your getting more pussy, it will never work.

I believe if you do bring a third in , there are things that should be kept exclusive to Arianna. This is what separates the two relationships, it separates the Slave and Submissive.

My standards are very high, if you have seen Arianna or read her blog you would know this, and I refuse to lower them.

We are still in the talking stages trying to piece things together.  I can say this in the end Arianna has the final say, and I will go with what ever she says.

A D’s home an M’s home if ran correctly and the Dom or Master follows through with his word, can be a very loving home, a well structured home.

The Dominant or Master not only have to implement but he has to follow through. He must remain consistent and remain consistent on a hourly basis, a daily and weekly basis. Then and only then will the home grow.

It has been almost two years since the Kinky World Of Vile was born, and I shall continue for sometime. I will continue to give advice, talk about abuse, and most of all My life with the love of my life Arianna.

If you invade my home I will shoot you, and in the end I would take a bullet for Arianna, I am her sole protector. If she needed a heart to survive she has one right here, because I would give without question

This is the kind of home and love I want everybody to experience. I can tell you when I hold Arianna I can feel our souls embracing , I can feel the warmth, most of all I can feel the love.

Submission is the greatest gift of all do not abuse what is giving.

Much Love to all and those around the world.

Submission is the gift that will keep on giving.

Vile

My Love For Facial Abuse

I love control be it in life in general, or in the bedroom it is truly a need. It is like a natural high. The rougher I get the more excited I get, the more excited I get the harder I get, then comes the explosion.

Leather cuffs on, hands behind back On her knees, blindfolded. Tell her to open her mouth, slide my cock in real slow and feel it grow. Place hands on both sides of her head, and the fun begins.

I love that gagging feeling, I can actually feel the throat muscles tighten up.  At times I do not even want to cum, because it feels so good, and I don’t want to lose that moment

I love the tears in her eyes, the drooling, gagging, the hoping it will be over soon. I love face fucking, mouth fucking, throat fucking what ever you want to call it. I get such a high from being in so much control. I am able to do what ever I want, no questions.

Just like anal sex when I get ready, and I say lube me up, the words I hear are with lube or my mouth. To me Anal sex is the most submissive thing a woman can let her partner do, the most private part of her body. On hands and knees, I tell her to reach around and spread her cheeks, so I can watch myself slid in and out. the same with face fucking looking up at me while I am pumping away, the tears, what a fucking turn on.

I love the humiliation factor of face fucking, a huge turn on.  Having that much control, and you never hear the word stop.

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Vile

Using Sex As A Tool

I have said in the past that BDSM has truly changed so much in the past 10 years or so, and for those of you who have been in the lifestyle any length of time knows exactly what I am talking about.

Sex is good, fucking is even better, making love I am not so sure I can even go there any longer, maybe the way I fuck is my way of making love. I have the need to be rough, spank while having sex, at times slap, or choke.  This is a need for me not a want. Maybe sometime ago something just clicked.

In today’s times more so the younger generation, when you bring up the word BDSM one or two things come to mind first abuse, second sex.  I think even more so the older generation is more out to judge. I truly do not understand why people judge something and they do not have a clue when it comes to a certain subject.

Don’t get me wrong I love sex, I love everything about sex.  There is nothing better that will relieve a stressful day, than taking a nice long hot shower, then laying back and enjoying some slow head, WOW.

I love anal sex, sometimes I do get carried away while in the doggy style position and I look down and I am thinking yea here we go, just one quick move and I am in, oops no lube. I do have a ass fetish that goes way beyond this world. I enjoy being rimmed and rimming, on my part I have to really be into you or be my partner. To me anal sex is total submission on the subs or slaves part. The most private thing one could possibly give, and in some cases humiliating.

I have noticed though that there are a lot of those who are submissive or a slave who think that the only way of pleasing their Dominant is by offering their body, be it a blow job or just being fucked. I think there is a huge misconception when it comes to a D’s or M’s relationship. I believe the sub or slave thinks sex is the main part of the relationship, when in fact in my eyes this is not true.

This is something I have been trying to break Arianna of. that although sex is good, it is not what serving means or being in service as a slave. Being in service should not just be about sex, communication, great conversation, just being there. Doing things you know your dominant likes or enjoys, sitting at my feet while watching TV. I suppose with every couple the situation is different.

Don’t get me wrong sex does play a part in any relationship. I think the knowing is more of a high, knowing I am able to get what I want when I want, no questions asked. That to me is a total rush, knowing I can just snap my fingers and BAM instant head. Knowing the word no or I cant never comes out of her mouth.

Arianna has a foot fetish, while watching TV she lays at my feet and services me, yes truly relaxing, but most of the time it does lead to a good fucking. Head I love head and I try to just lay there and enjoy, but all to often I just have to grab her by the head and start face fucking, yea pretty much uncontrollable.

I do enjoy being asked if there is anything she can do for me, again this is sexual. I am glad that she really cares enough to want to please.

This is a misconception when it comes to a D’s or M’s relationship, even more so if someone is new to the lifestyle, and their first dominant is just using them as a fuck toy. You can give a false impression and it seems like you in control and giving out rules, but at the end of the day they are just a piece of ass.

I do love this pic

Vile

It’s Okay To Use Her

I do not get to sexual most of the time, but today is a new day.  Even at the age of fifty, I love sex, I love to fuck, I think more so now than when I was in my teens. Now when it comes to sex, I truly love head, and it is true not every woman can give good head, just like not every man can eat pussy. You have to love what your doing, or if not you have to love to fully please your partner.

Those who are submissive or a slave are wired different from the vanilla chick next door. She will probably say no 50% of the time, a good 40% of the time the man has to beg, 5% of the time she will fuck to to shut him up, and the last 5% she wants to get off. I think I broke that down right.

The word use sounds funny more so when your talking about a human, a person, a wife, girl Friend, Just use her, it is okay. Believe it or not most if not all of those who are submissive or a slave get great enjoyment out of being used, in some form. Yes I am speaking sexually, even if you do not allow them to cum at that time, they get much satisfaction out of knowing they have made you happy.

It had been sometime since I allowed Arianna to cum. The truth is most of the time it is about me. I want to get off. Now there are time I do take care of her, but at times it is just about me. Her knowing she has made me happy makes her feel good.

Nothing feels better than to come home shower eat, and lay down for some nice slow head, just lay back and relax. Then at times I am in control, I love face fucking, I love the gagging feeling, all the slobber running out, feeling the wetness. Then at times I just want to fuck, get off and I am done. I love Anal sex, anal is not an everyday thing but it is there when I want.

We were laying in bed a couples of weeks ago and Arianna asked if she could use her vibrator, but of course I do like to watch I really get off on watching. It only took about five minutes and she exploded.  It was an awesome show. I love watching a woman masturbate but who does not.

Listen up fellow Dominants,Masters, Tops what ever you call yourself, you slaves and submissives can go in the other room now. Okay their gone, listen up.

If your in a relationship for any length of time I am speaking of a D’s or M’s relationship many times you grow soft, I am not talking about your dick, your feelings. You can start to let your feelings of being in love interfere with your relationship. Because now you feel bad about face fucking your sub, you feel bad about just crawling on top and busting a nut and getting off. You feel bad about using toys or different objects to fuck her with. When your fixing to fuck her ass and she says ouch, you back off and say okay maybe next time.

Dudes if you want the ass then hit it, if you just want head tell her, face fuck just do it. Here is why. If you start to change, if you let up, you are no longer the man or Dom she once knew. A submissive gets much pleasure out of knowing they have pleased you.

Arianna sleeps nude just for that purpose, if I wake up and want to hit it and roll off and go back to sleep, that is what I am going to do. I don’t want you to say anything, I don’t want you to hold me just spread let me finish and get off. Nothing more nothing less.

Arianna tells me thank you several times a day. Thanking me for everything I do, my reply is there is no need for thanks, I do what I do because I love you.

Now what do I get in return, everything I just mentioned above and more. I get what I want when I want and how I want it, no questions asked.

Use what you have, I am speaking about your submissive or slave, it is okay to just use at times for our pleasure, our needs, our wants. I am not talking about abuse, verbal or physical I am speaking in general. Sometimes I just want to get off, sometimes I just want my dick sucked, use what you have it is an awesome stress reliever better than any pill you can take.

The other day we were playing I had Arianna in the cage blindfolded , nude, in the cage hands tied above her head, gagged, she did not have a clue to where I was what I was doing until she felt the hot wax drip on her back, I said not a word for about an hour. I untied her, pulled her from the cage, still blindfolded ropes still around her wrist, I turned on some top 40 music that is what she likes I sat in my chair and said dance. My enjoyment, my titty bar time, I directed everything with just words. Yup my own Titty Bar and I did not spend a dime. Almost an hour she danced for me. She did not even know if I was in the room or not, kinda like a mind fuck thing.

Arianna has made the comment that she feels closer to me when I use her. I can see where she is coming from.

If your into the relationship and you start to feel guilty about the way you were using yours, and you change, your relationship will fail because you are not the Dominant that you were when you first met.

In return alll that is asked of us, is to be who and what we are.

Just use and be happy.

Vile

I Love Facial Abuse

On your knees hands behind your back. I love the reaction when I pull my cock out and the mouth automatically opens, with not even a thought. Already hard just from the anticipation of what is to come.

I enter and I begin to pump, There is nothing but the feeling of control, being in control. One hand placed on top of the head and one hand on the chin. At this point it is game on. I love the feeling of the gagging sensation, its like you can feel the muscles in the throat grasp your cock.

On her knees you can tell when she she is beginning to lose control, the arms start to move and around they come to catch the saliva that is drooling out. I then grab her by the hair and smack her face, put your hands behind your back, do not move them again. She knows now I mean what I say.

Most of the time I do not cum just by face fucking, and at times I do not even want to cum, I just love the feeling and the control. Even when I just want head, at times I just want to lay back and enjoy the feeling. There is nothing more relaxing than laying back and getting my cock sucked.

In 50 years I have came across three women who could actually get me to the point of cumming while getting head, yup you guessed it.

Sucking cock is an art, and not just anyone has that skill, more so if you just do it to please. Now your talent really comes out if you love it and your doing it to please.

Not all head is created equal, During my nine year marriage, I look back and I think wow, what the fuck did I do.  I felt like Al Bundy on the TV show Married with children when it came to having sex, it was now a chore, there was nothing to like. Even when getting head I had to finish myself off. Wow I blew that one. It is like you think you have a big fish on the hook and your fighting to get it is the boat and you find out you have a fucking guppy. I kick myself in the ass every time I think about that part of the past.

I love facial abuse, by far my favorite, well besides Anal.

 

Vile