You are who you are

If you follow you may end up at a cliff. Never let anyone tell you that you are wrong.

Your a Dominant you have your own belief system, you know who you are. Live your life the way you see fit.

Your a slave, be who you are and live the life you need to.

To be free is to be you.

No one has the right to judge anyone. Those who judge you are in need of help.

My blog is about my life, my beliefs. My blog is about what works for me.

I have made mistakes, I have been wrong. I have admitted when I was wrong.

Before entering a relationship I put everything on the table. I hide nothing, I explain my needs and wants. If the potential slave says no to anything the conversation is over. If you as a master bend from your needs you will never be happy.

The same with a slave, never agree to do something you are against something or one of your limits.

You control your own destiny, you control your life and home. It is ok to ask for advice but in the end you have to go with your gut feeling.

You are in control of your life and unless someone is paying your rent, you are the boss

So I am me, I am my own. I walk my own path.

Our thoughts and belief system is different. We all live different

I have my own world, and when I walk out the door, I breath in the fresh air and think to myself the world is mine, and I truly believe that.

I’ve had problems and they were self inflicting. 90% of our problems are self inflicted. We either stand up and fix them or just run, and more often it is easier to run, but they always catch up.

I was going to retract a statement I made, but I’ve changed my mind and I have the right to do that. After all this world and the way I live my life is my own. Everything that I or Arianna have Acquired has been done through hard work. We have not asked for any help from friends or family. I’ve never lived anywhere rent free.

More about me, I paid child support for 13 years and never missed a payment. I was suppose to pay 85.00 a week but every Friday I transferred 150. Even when unemployed I made the payment every week. That did not include clothes or school trips.

I’m getting to my point here in a few. Just because I believe a certain way does not mean that anyone needs to agree with me and 90% do not, but I am good with that. I may not agree with your beliefs or your lifestyle but that has absolutely nothing to do with me. If your way, if your relationship works for you I am happy for you. See the way I live does not affect you, just like the way you live does not affect me.

I’ve been know to miss speak, more so with my horrible writing. Arianna usually goes behind me and points things out but 2020 was a bad fucking year. We both were sick for most of 2020 and I’m not sure what kept us going. We were at the point of divorce and Arianna was within a day of signing a lease.

Remember I said problems are self inflicting? Well we both recognized the problem and we disposed of it. Any problem that arises can be handled before it gets out of hand. We failed to do that and did not recognize until it was almost to late.

I was just going to pack one bag, get in the car and my destination was going to be Alaska.

I would of just disappeared. I had made a decision based on the information provided to me.

I’ve been working on a book for a couple of years, I had it reviewed by a book club on everything I had and was giving positive feedback. This is where I am going now.

I blogged sometime ago and I believe it was titled, Women were put here to serve. I made that statement but I need to clean that up a little bit here. Remember when I said I put my foot in my mouth? Yea I did and pretty deep.

Again this is my world, today that is my house, my world.

So nothing else is going to be read now so I’m just wasting my time. The main focus is women were put here to serve.

I have always been dominant, I have never been controlling.

When Arianna and I were introduced, I hid nothing from her. The first week she knew more about me than all the friends I had at that time or previously.

Again my wording here I’m kinda all over the place here. Do I believe the women who live on either side or across the street were put here to serve? Absolutely not. Number one that is not their lifestyle nor can I force my beliefs on them. I am not some Jehovah witness passing out Vile towers trying to change people.

So you come to my house and you want to join my house, you are to serve, be it domestic or sexual.

If I bump into a woman at Walmart if I should ever go, do I believe that her only purpose is to serve? Again absolutely not.

Living in any lifestyle relationship must be consensual and nothing less. I’ve known dudes to move someone in and over night change to Dr Fucking Evil.

Yea

90% of my blog consist of talking points about safety. Females who have been abused and how to avoid anything from happening. When I first started blogging some 12 years ago and 4 million people later. My goal was and is about reaching out to as many submissive’s and slaves so maybe just maybe I can prevent anyone for being hurt. Up until a few years ago I received nasty emails from men, haha.

So anyway on the phone with someone the other day who called me a misogynist because of the way I believe.

Then I was questioned because I did not blog about gays or lesbians. I was called homophonic because I did not blog about LGBT. 

The conversation went on longer but the gist of everything was I am a misogynists that was the main, but then being homophobic.

I am not going to blog about something I am clueless in. I am a straight male who lives with a straight female slave. That makes me heterosexual does it not?

If a blog comes up on my feed and I do not like or just not interested in I pass it by. If I do take a interest I will comment. Here lately I have just forgotten. If you do not like by blog, hit that delete or take off mailing list. Don’t let me live in your head for free.

It’s now very common to hear people say, ‘I’m rather offended by that.’ As if that gives them certain rights. It’s actually nothing more… than a whine. ‘I find that offensive.’ It has no meaning; it has no purpose; it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. ‘I am offended by that.’ Well, so fucking what

Be safe out there.

Vile

What your slave wants ?

Pretty simple answer yes? It should be but it can be pretty complex. It can be very little work or effort or it can be a career. Does that make sense?

Security would be on top of the list I would guess.

Maybe honesty? Someone who puts the slave first to include family? Someone who communicates ? someone

Someone who puts reachable goals in place? Someone who provides growth and structure in the slaves life?

Someone who is loyal? I have seen masters who have a slave and still cheat. So if your poly be upfront about it, if the slave says she is not, then move on.

Someone who is not abusive, to include verbal and physical. A man who beats a woman will always beat a woman. Tons of broken promises, over and over again. Anger issues has no place in a relationship M’s or not.

Appreciation? Appreciation goes a long way. I will at least once a day tell Arianna how much I appreciate her. This lets a slave know their services do not go unnoticed.

A slaves home

There are old school masters who will say, a slaves only needs are food, water, clothing and a roof over their head. I get it I really do and I understand their view. After all we are talking about property right?

I love and cherish Arianna, she is my best friend and let it be known my only friend. However when it comes time to play, she is a toy. I use for my pleasure. I have played for a couple of hours , just bondage, floggers , cuffs, fucking all three holes. Arianna has created her own safe word. FUCK and really loud.

I am sure I missed out on other things, but I just covered a few.

You as a master has to be willing to give more than you take. Don’t get me wrong, the slave is to serve and be used, but you can only take so much before you break.

So you want a cock sucker on demand. You want pussy or ass on demand, but you don’t want to take the time out to invest in what you have.

This is the honest truth, I know a Dom who over the past year has banged over a dozen women, maybe more. So you still have the same girl? Nope I moved on, she was not submissive enough.

All he talks about how there is a pandemic of women feminists. The female culture is running rampant with feminism.

I’m like really are you being serious? Then he starts showing me all these videos from YouTube about the take over of wild feminists. Totally brainwashed.

Your slave is not your mommy.

The first time Arianna came to my house, it was almost spotless. I clean up behind myself. Now laundry I dropped off and for another 15.00 she dropped it off at my front door. I cooked and washed dishes but I never made the bed. I never understood the need to do that.

The slave has the right to speak up, call a fucking time out.

You have the right to speak up.

Ohh gainfully employed, now that is a good one.

Well that is it for today, be safe and remember, no passwords, or bank information.

Vile

Codependent Does Not Mean Your Broken

1. characterized by excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction.”you go with him or her all the time because you’re a little codependent”

Now I am far from being a doctor or a psychologist, I am speaking from experience.

There are times when codependency can become a huge problem, but first if you feel you need help, then please reach out. Do not ever let anyone tell you, that you do not need help. You are the only one walking in your shoes.

It depends on who the taker is.

I have mixed feelings about councilors and psychologist, the majority are seeing councilors. Ok I get it kinda, but seeking advice from someone who has emotional issues eh. You have that right to ask as well.

Your life is no one’s business, how you live, eat, sleep or what ever. It is your life and you should never change to make someone else happy, because If you do they will find something else wrong.

Now on with the bad shit, as you know there are predators out and about. In our lifestyle it seems to be more, fuck can’t think of the word.

These predators are seeking those out who are codependent, those who have a low self esteem. Easy target and easy to manipulate. They are much like leeches, they attache themselves to your back and drain your body dry. You can do nothing right even if you do it how you were told. Now the first couple of months are great, you are the princess, your treated like royalty. All you can do is talk about your new partner. Then one night there is a flick of the switch

The anger sets in

You are questioned about every move, going to the store takes 28 minutes and you were gone 35 minutes, who are you fucking? You turn over passwords, banking information, everything. You are cut off from the outside world, friends and family. Now I can only imagine how lost someone could feel, Um no I can’t.

The reason you were targeted was your codependency, that is number 1, 2. your mouth and pussy, that is the truth. You are a fuck toy and you will agree to do what ever he wants. 3. You are his mommy, you will cook, clean laundry, you will do everything and it does not matter if you work a full time job or not. The anger may not become physical but verbal and humiliation can be just as bad or worse.

During 2021 Arianna and I went through a very rough patch. We both have careers and working part time 3 nights a week. To much work and a lack of sleep certainly took its toll. Once we realized the problem we shut it down. Now things are pretty much back to normal or what I would call normal

My normal

Again just my opinion, I believe that being codependent is alright. If you are in good hands and someone understands you and does not take advantage of you, just roll with it.

Again you are normal

Vile