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There seems to be many definitions of the word Patriarchy.
A few months back I was invited to a KIK group that had to do with Training or so I thought. I’ve met some good people with good intentions but had absolutely nothing to do with training. During any downtime I would jump in to pass the time.
Then I was invited to a Patriarchy group, my thoughts were maybe it would be somewhat more organized. At first things were ok, then a female joined in and here came the change. The worthless whore entered the room, and what surprised me was she welcomed the words.
Now I am 61 years old, and have been in the lifestyle for more than 3 decades. I’ve seen a lot of shit and heard even more.
So I started questioning their actions and it was explained that along with patriarchy there is a mixture of misogyny.
So I began to explain my thoughts on patriarchy, about how the leader of the house provided structure, leadership, and security. The conversation grew deeper and while a few were interested the majority just shrugged me off to include the women.
So my question is, if the women are taking part in the misogyny role, is it considered abuse? Within the group the women are shared with other members and a few even meet up.
I do know they could care less about the lifestyle, well the BDSM part.
I’ve never met men who I considered to be disrespectful but women who welcomed their words and the physical part as well.
A female in the group directed me to a book.
Born With A Cunt
My thoughts on nature, society, law, crime and punishment, politics and in particular women.
My thoughts on nature, society, law, crime and punishment, politics and in particular women. Many of my ideas will be controversial and some people will find them crazy or disgusting. They’re based on personal experience, reading, study and discussion with lots of people
Smashwords has a free download.
The book is about 228 pages and very graphic.
There are 3 reviews and they are not good.
While I do not condone such behavior or actions, I am sure there are people who think the same about the BDSM lifestyle.
The book is not well written but she does acknowledge she is not a professional writer.
The people I interacted with were all living a consensual relationship.
We are all different and we all live a different belief system and for most it works. I really thought maybe it had something to do with low self esteem or maybe mental issues but that did not seem to be the case.
I imagine with some who are living double lives. At home you live as master and slave, but with family and friends you are both the couple with the house and white picket fence.
Over the years many gays have come out and today many are getting married. I applaud those who have the courage to do so. Although LGBTQ community has made progress, there is still much work to be done, My point is many have come forward, because it is important to be who you are.
You live as master and slave, but this is a secret life you both live. Everything is hush hush, you both don’t want anyone to find out. It seems you are afraid of others finding out who you really are.
I would think living a double life might be kinda of stressful at times. Having to keep your kinky furniture hidden because you’re afraid of what people might think.
While Arianna and I do not boast about who we are, we do not hide it. Both sides of our families knows about our way of life.
I remember the cable guy coming over and was in my room, I had a cross on the wall and a spanking bench in the middle of the floor. He was silent and while working he was just looking around and confused. I’m sitting at my desk and he looks at me and I said , my dungeon. Hahahaha. This blank stare came from him and he looked really scared. My mother in law has come to visit and our spanking bench was in the living room.
Here is where the problem is, speaking with the NCSF , National Coalition For Sexual Freedom. Most of the time when they are contacted is when a Dominant has gone to far with play and caused injury. Or going to far and ignoring safe words.
Not knowing how to respond when the police are called, letting them in your home , that is a big No No. instead make sure your girl is with you and explain, the two of you are enjoying adult consensual play. Do not let the police separate the two of you. Do not let them in your home, they cannot enter without a warrant.
NCSF will help as long as you did not get stupid. There are lifestyle lawyers and doctors as well.
If someone can identify as a puppy or pony in public, which is ok because it’s about freedom. Why can’t we identify as master and slave? Afraid of family, your employer, your closest friends finding out, who the fuck cares ?
Another problem is some take it to the extreme, while in a parade marching half nude in public, is that what your lifestyle is about? While I could technically walk Arianna down the sidewalk with a leash, I do not out of respect for other people, and no I am not afraid of offending someone, it’s about respect. You can call me names or say I’m abusing, that does not offend me. The word offensive, offend , offended has no meaning. If you are offended nothing happens, you still wake up the next day. Vile you offended me, um no you allowed me to offend you.
You can identify as anything you want, as long as you are happy, however you do not need my approval. I may not understand and I may not want to, but it’s your life , be happy.
In our community a neighbor was giving some pillows away and Arianna wanted them, we pulled up and frank came out and introduced himself. Hello I am Frank and I’m gay. My response was , well good for you, I mean what do you say? My husband is in the house, ok Coolio. Then he continues, we have rights you know, and I’m like I know you do, but why tell me you’re gay, I already knew ? The whole conversation was awkward, but today we are friends.
I will support you but it does not mean, I am going to march with you waving a flag . It does not matter what side of the fence you are on, do your thing .
Every who follows me knows I am a conservative with some liberal views, I support the 1st amendment, huge supporter of the 2nd amendment and 4th amendment the most, but it does not mean I’m going to go out and march. I have met with state representatives, even gone to a gun range with them, I’ve met with congressmen, senators and our governor, that is my support.
Be who you are just don’t try to push your beliefs on others like a Jehovah witness. Most do not care how you identify.
Anyway this will probably piss a lot of people off.
I hope everyone had a awesome Christmas and I hope you have a kick ass New Year’s
My last post I spoke about Doms taking advantage of those who are submissive. However at times you can find those who are submissive and they did not know.
There use to be a hotel in Daytona Beach called the desert Inn, it is now a Hard Rock restaurant and hotel. The desert inn was the largest hotel in Daytona beach but it was a full blown dump.
I would stop in a pizza place a friend of mine owned, his name was Amed who happened to be married to Miss Egypt, a former Miss Egypt but at any rate she was fucking smoking hot.
Now what happened turned out to be consensual because I spent 4 days with this woman and she wanted to move down to Daytona.
Amed asked me if I would run a pizza over to the desert inn, all the drivers were out and I said sure.
I walked across the street into the lobby which was full of spring breakers and walked up to the desk and informed the clerk I had a pizza for room. He tried to call but no one answered. I waited around and low and behold, I heard the sexiest southern voice id ever heard.
I looked and wow! I said well look at you, and she turned and looked at me baffled. I said you are the prettiest bitch I’ve seen all day and she just stared at me.
Probably 5 ft wearing a tank top , no bra, short jean skirt and these fluffy ankle boots.
I looked and I said out loud, fuck me, Eric you see this bitch?
We started talking and she was still baffled by the way I was talking to her. I said look I gotta deliver this and I’ll be back down.
Walking to the elevator she follows me, I’m like what the fuck. Delivered the pizza and walked back to the elevator going 5 floors down she just stared at me. I walked over and she’s still staring and I put my left hand around her throat just pinning her against the wall and I reach up her skirt, your fucking soaked. She said I ain’t never had a man treat me like this. I said wanna go to your room?
We got to the lobby and she pressed 3 and it was game on.
Walking down the hall, I had her skirt pulled up showing her ass and the hall was crowded with spring breakers. Once in the room I pinned her against the door and pushed her down to her knees. I pulled my dick out and stuck it in her mouth, and once hard, I started pounding her face. I do love a messy wet blow job .
After I finished, I gave her some money and told her to walk across the street and get a pizza . She started to wash her face and I asked her, what the fuck are you doing? She said I’m cleaning up, I said I told you to go get a pizza. She looked at me dumbfounded and I asked is there something you don’t understand?
Once back I told her to shower and coming out of the bathroom she started to get dressed and I stopped her. I instructed her to crawl to the bed. I then instructed her to start blowing me again, once hard I asked if she had any lotion? She said yes and I told her to get and lube my dick up.
I then instructed her to stand up, I got up and I bent her over, and slowly slid it in her ass. After I finished I grabbed her hair, put her on her knees and right in the mouth I went.
I instructed her to shower again and once finished again she crawled to the bed. Out of nowhere she asked if she could move down and move in with me? I said bitch you don’t even know my name, where I work or nothing . She said well it’s a process. I spent 4 days of nothing but face fucking and anal.
What a 4 days it was and back to North Carolina she went.
Please note, the long weekend was consensual, something we must all remember is the words No and Stop. In my mind I was playing cards and I had a royal flush , but if either of those words came up, I would have lost the game.
You have met the one, you have found the slave who you think will fit your needs. Compatibility means everything, it just cannot be about sex or BDSM. You have to become friends before anything, you have to know each other outside of the way you live.
Training is not about barking orders or getting your dick sucked. Training is not about overloading the slave with rules that you cannot even remember. Training is not about isolation from family and friends. Training is not about humiliation or degrading.
Training is about changing one’s habits , changing one’s way of thinking. Training is implementing rules and protocols of your house.
I will admit during training I did use a bit of humiliation, however this was meant to put the slave on a different level and mindset.
As a master you might of experienced several relationships not working out and ending. One thing I hear often is, she was not submissive enough or she would not listen. Always putting the blame on the submissive. If this is the case then it is probable the next relationship will fail. Until you can recognize the pattern of the failures, the new relationship will most likely crash and burn.
You have to have a plan, you have to know who you are training. You both have to know each other’s goals and what you both want out of the relationship.
While I do not share what would be taking place or my training process, I used the information I gathered over a period of several weeks, so I could determine the path I was going to take. I’ve spent several weeks not days getting to know the slave, I mean really getting to know her.
Prior to Arianna I knew why my last relationship failed so I was determined not to make the same mistake. I was determined to make this one work out and not make the same mistakes.
Life is based on two things and two things only, choices and consequences, nothing more.
Guilt can play a huge role in a relationship, many want to be a dominant or master but guilt takes its toll. Many have a high first starting out but then the guilt hits them. The thoughts of mistreating or abuse, however if the relationship is consensual on both partners then there is no reason to feel guilty. That is a heavy stone to turn. The bad can be the slave sees you have changed and you are not who you said you were.
Those who are controlling or have a low self esteem tend to cut the slaves world off, this being from family and friends. He demands passwords to your social media accounts and often your checking account. Those are big red flags.
While depression runs through the lifestyle, a dominant or master who suffers from depression cannot maintain a healthy relationship, for the most. I do not believe it would be healthy for either.
This is from my own experience, it takes about 90 days for both to adjust to the new environment and relationship. It will take at least 90 days for the slave to start to adapt to not only the environment but to rules and protocols.
It seems the main word most masters use the most is punishment. Always looking for a reason to punish. I myself do not have that much time, nor do I just want to sit around and wait on a rule to be broken. My time is worth more than that, there are mistakes that are going to be made, We have to be able to determine if a mistake was made or just a fuck you. I am not one to put up with a lot of bull shit, you either want to be or not be.
When you ask someone about their training technique, most of the time there is no real answer. A master told me once he was training a new slave and I asked what it consisted of, he said the usual. What the fuck does that mean?
When the relationship fails it’s the slaves fault, she was not a real slave or not submissive enough.
We create what we need in our life. We take someone and transform them into something that fulfills our needs, realistic needs. All of this is possible with the proper guidance and understanding that it takes time.
When we first met Arianna had me on a pedestal, something I did not ask for nor did I understand why. 4 years past and we are out and she sees the first time I showed my anger. It was not towards her it was someone else. She saw that I was in fact human.
I have a very small circle of friends, I can count on one hand and I like it that way. I for the most dislike people, does not matter who you are or where you come from. I’ve worked from home the last 12 years and I love it. Last year I was offered a job with the government and I turned it down just because of having to be around people.
The slave always comes first, even before friends and family. The slave has to feel not only wanted but secure.
How do you as a master see your house? What type of slave and what I mean is, looks, personality, build, hair color and so on. How about the slaves demeanor? All of these must be thought out before agreeing to enter a relationship.
My definition of a slave is as follows. Humble, loyal, dedicated to service be it domestic or sexual.
What type of slave are you looking for ? Looks , build, personality, education? All of these thing you have to take into account. Do your kinks align with the potential slaves kinks? How about your personal beliefs or even political?
You must commit for at least 90 days straight . Have a plan in place. Have a complete training plan in place and stick to it.
Sitting, eating , walking, the way the slave speaks and responds to you. You are implementing new habits and that takes time.
Only start out with a few rules, and the rules should benefit the slave. Yea no panties rule does not count, that is stupid to even bring that up as a rule.
Mistakes are going to be made, a mistake does not mean punish, ignoring you does.
Service does not mean the slave is replacing your mother. The first time Arianna came to my house, it was spotless. I cook and still do most of the cooking today. I kept a clean house as well as laundry, how ever I did drop mine off.
Before you start, the relationship should of already been negotiated and both have come to a agreement. You cannot change the rule to suit you midway through training, that is not fair and can be confusing.
Now to the fun part, you are going to use your slave on a daily basis. Use as often and how you like. What you are doing is setting the pace of the relationship and the expectations of what is to come.
The slave will need down time, friends and family is very important. This also gives the slave a opportunity to recharge. Isolation should never be part of a master / slave relationship
This really has nothing to do with BDSM or the lifestyle but it seems to be a growing trend . I will also post a link to the article.
Today young people are getting married and living in separate housing, at times separate states and even different countries. It could be a job neither wants to leave as well.
Reading the article from what I gathered, the female wants to keep and maintain her independence. Also so she can keep her current lifestyle. This is not to say the male is not seeking the same but the article does not really go into much detail about the male.
If the female wants to marry and live in separate housing, is the husband responsible for any of the wife’s bills ? If the wife wants a new car is the husband on the hook for the purchase? Is there a limit on independence? I want my independence but I want you to pay for it?
I am just going to assume the checking and savings would also be separate.
How does a couple plan for the future? How would the couple purchase a home? How would the couple plan for retirement?
Rental property is really expensive in today’s market and in most cases it takes two incomes.
The world has changed from the 1950’s where a couple could survive off of one income. Those days are long gone.
So moving into the lifestyle, how would a master/slave relationship survive living in separate homes? Yes there are circumstances where it is more advantageous, maybe one has children, or possibly in school in another state and a few more maybe.
Ok! I agree to be your slave but only Monday and Tuesday. The other 5 days I want my independence?
Maybe over the years, the husband has not put the wife as a first priority? Maybe it takes responsibility off of each other?
Believe it or not, there are organizations who visit Washington DC and speak to Congress and senators about our lifestyle. There are organizations who are active in the community who meets with law enforcement about our lifestyle.
Just like in traffic it takes one dumbass to cause a backup. The same goes with a Master and slave.
NCSF is the main organization who rallies for us. I emailed Ms Wright who runs the organization and her reply was, the only time a Master contact them is when he’s in trouble. Has never supported the organization, did not belong to the Fetlife group nothing.
The master beat his slave senseless and was facing jail time. As I stated it takes one dumbass.
Some dude thinks because someone decided to submit to him, in his mind he has a open ticket to do what the fuck he wants. Do not pass go, do not collect 200.00 your going to jail. Then you have no one to call except NCSF, and they are going to say oops.
These are the uneducated when it comes to the lifestyle or those not willing to learn. Heaven forbid you have to put a little work into a relationship.
I believe most people are ashamed to admit they are in the lifestyle. Why do I believe that? You see people marching for different reasons and causes but never for the lifestyle. Afraid of what family may think, or your friends and employer. What did you do last night Bob? Ohh I tied my girl up, fucked her ass with a 12 inch dildo and face fucked her. How bout you Jerry? Yea.
In Europe it is much different, most countries are open minded when it comes to kink.
I am sure you remember when this hit the news.This is fucking Hot
So you get arrested, your broke and all you have is a dumbass public defender. You know your in trouble, but who do you call? NCSF and they put your name in the database and you are not there. However you expect them to defend you in a court of law, yea Here’s your sign.
Your a Dumbass
In my 25 plus years, I have found the biggest offenders are married men, who are cheating. This is just from my experience in the lifestyle, and for what ever reason even though he’s married, he’s excepted in the community even though the wife does not know.
These are probably just a few reasons as to why it is not legal to own a slave.
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