What Is A Good Dominant

You know while it is not written anywhere Dominants do have what is called a code of Honor.

At one time what set us apart were the strict protocols that were put in place, and there was a time not only did those who were slaves and submissive followed them, but Dominants did as well.

In the lifestyle we were held to higher standards , because well not only was it expected, but we were leaders. Sometime ago it took a very long time for a Dominant to become recognized within the community, it was not a title that was just giving out or a title someone could claim. As a Matter of fact many were not accepted in the local community just because of who they were and what they stood for.
So yes there was a time when protocol’s were indeed protocol’s and they were followed.

Then the internet boom, all of this information was online and available , and just as with anything you read you can take parts of this and parts of that, and come up with your own ideas.

Then somewhere along the line what we believed in and what we stood for began to fade away. Protocols were being lost in the pile of confusion.

While at a local MAsT several months ago this topic came up and as I was speaking about how things use to be another Dominant stepped in.

He stated you had to let others in who did not believe in the same protocols, rules. His thoughts were you had to let everyone in because if you did not you would have no one to lead.
So then we have to bend our rules, we have to set our protocols aside, we have to let others criticize the way we live and what we stand for.
While I do agree to a point everyone should be allowed to come to MAsT meetings, I also believe they should have to adhere to our rules and protocols, if they cannot do that, show them the door.
I would rather lead a 100 strong into battle than a 1000 blind.

Okay where am I going with this you might be asking ?

What I can say is today there are those who are fake who would never think of going to a MAsT or a munch because they know they would be called out. There would be people who are able to see through the fake wall you have built, and for the most you would be ignored.

There are things that do not mix in the lifestyle , whether you are a Dominant or you just gave yourself the title.

There is no place for anger, if you have anger issues you are not a real Dominant.
There is no place for Alcohol during play, if you drink you can hurt someone, and hurt someone bad. I have met very few Dominants over the years who have had a drinking problem. So if you have a drinking problem and you cannot control your alcohol you have no place within the lifestyle.

Last year we were at a party and another Dominant asked me if he could session with Arianna. It took me a minute to digest what he had to said, but what really got me is he had been drinking.
I explained that I did not share my property and if I did I would not because he had been drinking.

Married Dominants or single Dominants who have this idea about going after married women.

If you re married and you have to cheat on your wife because your needs are not being met, then do what a real Dominant would do, Leave. Pack your things up file for divorce and leave. Why wreck someone’s life because your little kinks are not being met.
You knew before you got married, she did not take it up the ass, you knew she did not swallow, you knew she was not submissive. You knew all of this ahead of time. To bring someone into your mess is not fair. To lie or mislead someone is dead wrong. What you have done is wasted that much time of their life.

Find you own woman, your own submissive, there is no shortage, and if you find a married woman who will fuck around on her husband, guess what? She will fuck around on you as well.
Just like the Dominant who fucks around on his wife, he will fuck around on you in time. Please do not think you suck cock that good, or your pussy is any different because it is not.

I do not like women who are weak, I am not a rescuer , I do not roll like that. I like the challenge , I love the hunt, then you move in for the kill.
I wanted the best, I wanted the woman who would not normally give me the time of day.
One thing that is for sure I never wanted another mans problems.
If you have the need to wreck someone’s home no matter how bad it is, and believe me if it was that bad they would already be gone.
You my friend are no Dominant, you are not now and you never will be.

A Dominant is a leader, a Dominant is someone who is in full control of their life. This is just no my opinion either. A Dominant accepts responsibility but more important admits when he is wrong. A real Dominant would never step between someone and their family.

I don’t want your wife, who is already fucked up in the head with her own problems. I don’t want your girlfriend, if the pussy is that easy to get, why would I want it?

I got game, I do for those of you who have been lucky enough to see Arianna, I got game.
I had to be able to back up my words, if I was going to play the game, I had to know the rules. I had to walk the walk and talk the talk. I got game
I would never stoop so low as to try and take another mans wife, more so if children are involved. They did not ask to be brought into your fucked up world, how fucking pathetic is that.

I can talk shit because I am living the dream. I have what you fake Dominant only dream about.
Yes I have what you never will.

While this blog or post is not about anyone in particular, I am sure many can relate to my words.

If your a Dominant then be one.

As Always

Vile

Interview With A Slave. Greetings From Serbia

So we get to take another peek into a Slaves everyday life, but now for most of us we travel across the world to a beautiful country.

Where we are traveling BDSM is not accepted in any way, and is looked down on even more so than in the USA.

First I have the questions then I will  post the answers…. IW as going to post this much earlier, but again life happens..

Here is a link to her Blog as well.

http://fenixwild15.wordpress.com/

Hello

How are things going in Serbia ?

I have been really busy here, Arianna’s father passing, now I am selling his SUV just changing jobs, a lot.

I just wanted to ask you a few questions if I may nothing to personal. I have tried to find a program so I could read your blog, but Google or Bing will not translate for me anyway..

1. First how old are you and your Master, and how long have the two of you been married ?

2. Whose idea was it to enter the lifestyle and how willing was the other partner ?

3. Do you have rules and Protocols you have to follow on a daily basis, and if so could you please share a few of them ?

4. You had stated you live an M’s relationship, is that while being outside as well, meaning while your out of the home?

5. You stated BDSM is Taboo in Serbia, have you met any others in your country who are in the lifestyle?

6. How long did it take you as a slave to adjust to the lifestyle ?

7 Is your relationship micromanaged or are you pretty much free to move about?

8. Without going into deep detail is your relationship more about the Disicpline or does it involve kink as well such as bondage ?

9. What advice would you give to those who are trying to convince spouses that the lifestyle is a need for them?

10. Since I have gotten things messed up what is the weather like in Serbia?

Thank you so much for your time….

Vile

Hello Vil. Nor I do not have much time so late with the response. Sorry for Arijanna father.

Here about us :).

  I have 31 years, my Master is ten years older than me. We’ve been married ten years. We have not always been in a D / s relationship. In my life I have always been decisive and dominant, that is a sort of armor. In a very strange way I found out I was a masochist and the pain makes me stronger. I suggested to my husband to try erotic spanking and so it all began. He was very excited. And so I discovered one of my vulnerability and the need that not even I was not aware. I wanted to have a Master who controlled me completely. So we started something new M / s relationship. Given that we are very much together and that is a tacit understand, we have certain written rules . Always seek permission if you want somewhere to go, I have e-mails and codes that he does not know, I ask his opinion of clothing combinations.

  When you get home from work, waiting for him on my knees, without panties beside tables.

One of my favorite rules the bath. Almost always I bathe my Master, and he enjoys so that cares about me.

As for the other people who are members of the BDSM community in Serbia, with a couple of them we are personally acquainted with several them to keep their contact online using social networks. Here, there are not many couples, men who call themselves the homes are usually married, women or married so they bdsm excuse for cheating or read some stupid book as for example 50 shades of gray.

How much time do I need to adjust to life slave girl? In many ways, I quickly come upon us. In some a little harder, but most depend on the current mood, because, in the end, people are living with another bunch of problems.

Discipline … I am a person with a very sharp and venomous tongue :). Most time is spent my training to bite her tongue and resist not to answer hahaha. Penalties are usually ban orgasm as other things such as spanking, scourging, etc. as something positive.

Marriage M / s – advantages and advice: First, a man must be strong enough to prove that its worth, places Master, that my wife loves, protects, understand, given her attention. A woman needs to know its place, at the feet of her husband who loves and adores as much as it was under as slave, it must be inexhaustible source from which her ​​husband / Master takes effect. When everyone knows their place, marriage and relationships can only be developed.

As far as fetishes, we adore bondage, exhibitionism, erotic pictures, predicament bondage, however lots of stuff :).

We are currently looking for a girl who would play with us, where would I tried out as her dominatrix :).

Weather in Serbia is fine, summer and 36 degrees, with little rain :).

To write a message I used google translate, so I hope that I have enough to understand it if I was unclear, I now have more time and I’ll be happy to answer relevant questions.

Best regards from Serbia :))

The trick is to keep breathing…

Vile