It seems the above is common within the lifestyle and even more today.
I will start off by saying I am not a medical professional nor am I a psychiatrist. However I am speaking from 30 + years of experience. So I am not giving any type of medical advice. Just my own observation.
Bipolar Mania or Hypomania Symptoms
Symptoms of a manic or hypomanic episode include:1
- Being easily distracted
- Decreased need for sleep
- Delusions or hallucinations
- Elevated or expansive mood
- Grandiosity or inappropriate behavior
- Impulsive risk behaviors (including gambling and lavish spending)
- Increased sexual desire
- Irritability, hostility, or aggression
- Physical agitation and relentless movement
- Racing thoughts
- Talking excessively
That is a lot to take in especially from someone who suffers from Bipolar disorder.
Anxiety, depression and a long list of others can have an effect on a D’s or M’s relationship.
I am a analyst, I love to analyze during a conversation. I am good at reading people. When out like at a restaurant, Arianna will catch me gazing or staring at a couple. What I am doing is trying to figure out what their life may look like. I point out to someone and I tell Arianna, see that guy? He’s abusive, and sure enough at some point you can hear him snap or say something degrading. Or those who have drinking problems, those who are out for themselves. Maybe I have to much time on my hands.
It is possible someone can suffer from Bipolar, depression and anxiety disorders at the same time.
Here is where your master skills come into play.
Arianna sees a doctor and a counselor. I sit in on sessions from time to time, and before Arianna sees her psychiatrist we go over her meds and how she has been doing. We talk about any med adjustments if any.
It does not matter the meds you are on, if your home life is not in order, the medication will not work. If the two of you are constantly arguing or fighting your medication is not going to work.
If you are not getting at least 7 to 8 hours sleep a night, chances are your medication is not working up to its full potential.
When I first met Arianna, I knew within the first 15 minutes of our conversation she was bipolar and suffered from depression. I could see and hear the anxiety in her eyes and voice.
So in my mind I had to determine if that was a road I wanted to travel. Did I want to invest in the time knowing my odds were 50/50?
Kelly was living with me at the time of the first meeting with Arianna. After she left Kelly said you will never pull that in, I just looked at her and grinned. Three days had past and I didn’t hear back from her, so I sent a short text, it was nice to have met you, I hope you find what you are looking for.
My phone started blowing up and in a few hours she was at my house. It was exactly 6 weeks to the date we met she moved in.
It was 3 solid weeks I let Arianna just ramble, she talked and talked and talked. What was I doing ? I was analyzing, taking in massive amounts of information. It was in the first couple of days Arianna told me about being bipolar and having anxiety along with depression. I had her write down every prescription she was taking. I spent hours doing research on every medication she was taking. Why? The side effects if any and what they were intended to do.
At about week three of living with me, she started going to group sessions which I encouraged her to do. One session she started crying and could not stop, she asked repeatedly to call me but did not. Arianna would be gone for nearly 30 days.
So Arianna explained our relationship to her doctor but he did not fully understand, so he wanted to meet with me. As I sat down the doctor seemed to try and make me angry, I was not sure why but I just shrugged it off. He then asked me about our relationship and what it meant, what was the daily routine of a master and slave relationship. He then looks at me and says, she does not want to marry you and he repeated it like 3 times. As I sat there staring at him, I said well that never crossed my mind but did she tell you she proposed to me? He looked at her and she said nothing.
Now we had been talking for over a hour. He excused himself and came back in shortly and looked at me and said I am releasing her today and you can take her home. That is correct, the doctor released Arianna to me.
After we left, I realized she needed a medication change, she was worse than when she first went in. Remember, all of this happened because she got emotional, and the fact she had good insurance.
Now here is the kicker, while Arianna was gone, I got bored one day and started going through her stuff, and what do I find? 20 years worth of journals, yup 20 fucking years of Ariannas life.
Made a pot of coffee, sit down with a pack of smokes, ordered pizza and I was off into Ariannas head. By the way I no longer smoke.
I knew more about Arianna than anyone in her life even her family. I knew what made her tick, why she thought the way she does, habits good and bad. The only thing was left, is to come up with a plan for training.
Finding a new doctor, new medication and we were on a new track.
While negotiating the only need Arianna had was to be micromanaged. Now she’s far from being dumb. She has a degree and had been at the same employer for 17 years and is probably the most intelligent person I had ever met. At times her vocabulary went way over my head , even reading her journals.
Today we make a awesome team and while she is more book smart, I am street smart. I think things out logically and before making any decisions, I look at all the different outcomes. Remember life is based on two things, choices and consequences.
The master should have a questionnaire, that should include any type of illness. A list of all medications and why they are prescribed.
Here is why I’m going over this, if you are not asking all these questions and you hurt someone, guess what ?
Knowing all the answers can not only assist you with training but will help you recognize limits and just how far you can go.
Bipolar there will be a high and these are easy to spot. Arianna is very upbeat more than normal but she wants to buy things, spend money without thinking rationally. Now I don’t always say no to her unless it’s just something she does not need or to costly. Please note, there will be a crash and we can control the landing somewhat.
The home environment , accountability, the correct amount of sleep and last the correct medications and taking on a regular schedule.
I learned a long time ago to never ask what is wrong? Instead I am what are you thinking or what’s on your mind ? If you ask what is wrong ? That puts up a defensive wall and very little chance of getting through.
Any relationship can work it just takes a little work on both sides
Vile