Halloween Horror Nights, Universal Studios

The word on the street is correct, and if you have seen it on CNN the rumor is true. My Birthday is coming up very soon. October 14th as a matter of fact. So you can now put all the rumors from coast to coast, and land to sea, and sea to land yes it is Viles Birthday.

Next year will be much different though , because I being the Master of my Slave, wife and home, have the ability to add and delete as I see fit. Yea it does feel kinda good, I will have to admit.

SO this month starting on the 1st it is Viles Pre-Birthday up until the 14th, at which time I shall turn the ripe ol age of 52.

Next year how ever I here by put into law next year being 2015 I declare the entire month of October Viles Birthday, again ladies and gentlemen , I am head cheese, the big boss man, the man with da plan, Styling and Profiling Vile. Again yea that does feel good. So keep an eye out on CNN for next year.

Okay So Arianna wanted to do something special, the first thing was she knows how much I love music, so we went out, I wanted to take the Fiat because I love driving it, and Arianna insisted on taking the jeep so as we are driving she says does master not want to listen to music, Nah I am good no really in a music mood.
So on the way home she asked for permission to play the radio once on she looked and said Master will have to change the station, and wham the sirius radio had been activated, fricking awesome.

Then came Universal Studios, Halloween Horror Nights. The walking dead house, it was so fucking cool, then the Dusk til Dawn.
I had not been to Universal in 20 years maybe longer. I was however bummed out because there was No Beetle Juice show, he will come next time here soon.

Although we arrived somewhat early there was still a crowd and by 8pm the park was packed so we left early.

What surprised me was the amount of alcohol being sold, and people were starting to get loud.
The police presence was very noticeable , there were cops on every block inside.
Arianna said once it gets later and people start to get hammered they hit the people in the haunted houses, that is why so many cops were there.

I love theme parks, but I hate being in such a huge crowd. Then you add the drinking, and that is just not a good mix.

I am a huge Walking Dead fan, and in just six more days it will be back.
Making the trip to Universal with Arianna and going though those two houses made it worth it.

Life is good and much love to you all…

Vile

We Are Still Moving Forward

The last two months have been seriously crazy. While my career as a car salesman are blowing in the wind, the 60 and 65 hours a week, and still running our home, and yes much needed Blogging time, ahhh yes my down time, my home away from home.

As I sit on the couch, and I think about how I rolled up a piece of paper like a Dildo and handed it back to the public relations manager and told her it looked like it would fit, I laugh inside, what a fucking relief.

Working as a car salesman if you are not in the little click, it can be very difficult. You can be good at a job, but you can be prevented from being good if you do not fit in.

I never ate lunch with the boys, I never joked around with them.
While standing outside hearing the men moan and bitch about how bad their life was at home. There is nothing worse than a whining man, you is acting like a little bitch. It is really , really sad when a man cannot run his own home. More than half were fucking around on their wife including the general manager.
You know if your going to stoop so low to fuck around, at least fuck around with someone better than what you have.

I am very vocal in my beliefs. It is funny because I will say something to someone and Arianna’s eyes get huge, like no he did not just say that.

Anyway I brought up a subject a couple of months ago, about Vile Radio, and yes it is still coming, like I stated things have just been wacky. There has not been anything I have not been able to handle, I strive better, when I am pushed.

There were times I became somewhat stressed but I really have no signs of being stressed, I just get kinda quite.
I am also one to believe everything will always work out, and so far in my lifetime it has, maybe not exactly the way I wanted but it does.

Someone made a comment here not log ago, that rules are made to be broken. Well no they are not, even I have rules I have to follow in everyday life. I have mentioned a thousand times if you go through life and you do what your suppose to by the book, life will be good. As soon as you start trying to take short cuts, and things get fucked up, you have to rush so you can blame someone else. We all know its not our fault so we have to blame someone else.

We were in the process of moving, and we were down to a month, but when I saw the added stress it was putting on Arianna, I advised her we would be moving at a later date, so I opted to sign another lease for a year.

I like having a plan, in everyday life we should wake in the morning with a plan. It makes the day so much easier. Things do come up, as well as obstacle’s, but again the by the book thing.

So we are still looking and once we find a place then, I will start putting everything together.
So who is going to pick our new home? It will be Arianna, Arianna has to fall in love with it, and the kitchen is the deal breaker.
Me I could really give a fuck, as long as it is nice and clean, and public enemy number one is not selling drugs next door.
I have also been working on two books. I have released one short story already as most of you know. The Breaking Of Sabrina. A very short story, but a second is in the making and will prove to be much better and longer.

The main book I want to do is about building BDSM relationships, and being able to maintain what you have. It will also cover abuse, and what to look for when meeting a new Dominant.
I will also go into great depth about Training, and what I do and the steps I take.
It will not be much about sex. I just want to show everyone how it is possible to have an awesome relationship in our lifestyle.

I do have another Author helping out her name is Lea Barrymire
http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/?zx=80d58364c2fa41c

I can assure you it will be good and it will have a ton of good information.

What I say here is just my opinion, and nothing more. What works for me may not work for you, but I can give you the foundation to build on.

What bothers me is when someone visits, and they want to blast me, telling me I am wrong.
Don’t get me wrong, I love comments, I love interacting with everyone, and I have made some good friends.
The truth is we are all right, while there are books out there that will give you someone good information, you have to find what works for you.

I have never gone to another Blog and bashed someone because of their views.

What I can tell you about me, is I have been in the lifestyle for more than twenty years, I know hundreds if nota thousand people, and I am very respected here in the local community.

So those of you who want to Bash me because of an opinion I have or something I have stated, you can go fuck yourself. I did say that in a polite Manner. so no need to get upset.

I have really grown over the past twenty years, and I have made many mistakes, I have been the abuser, not in a physical way it was more mental, and taking advantage of others feelings, mainly not giving a fuck.

I had a blog not long ago called, You can have your whore, and fuck me the Christians went fucking nutty, I believe it was a Morman, not that it matters

I am totally against Organized religion, for many reasons, one it is all about money and power. The Catholic’s condone child molestation. While I do enjoy watching Joel Olsteen from time to time, his net worth is about 150 million.
I am not ragging on the rich either I love to see others get ahead in life. I just see to much taking from the poor to feed the rich.

I have said before I am not politically correct, I know I am not. The reason being I am not going to live my life, to make others like me. I am not going to by pass the truth in fear of hurting someone’s feelings. If you speak to pacify others you are not being you, you are being someone else just so someone will like you.
So if you do not like my blog, or I offend you, once again just right click the X.

I know when we walk into a Munch or MAsT who likes me and who does not, but you know what ? I am good with that, I still sleep at night with a clear conscious.

So we will move in the near future, we will narrow our new home to two places, and we have one Arianna is in love with. Once we find the one, I will start putting everything together.

The biggest thing was finding someone who could move our fish aquarium , it will have to be disassembled, the fish will be bagged up and then moved. We were able to find are doing.
someone, imagine that, and someone who knows what they

Arianna and I had talked in the past about a closed Triad, I suppose that is on a hold for now, as we have not talked about it now for a couple of months.
The main problem that main her change her mind was it seemed to be more trouble than it was worth.
The key was to find the perfect fit, and everyone was either not real and playing a very bad joke, or they wanted us to adjust to their way which would never happen.
Who knows one day someone may pop out and Arianna would say WOW okay lets try this.
The one thing I could not get clear was, it was not I they had to get close to, it was Arianna.
So for now we are on hold, or maybe it will never happen.
Either way I am good.

I love doing the Interviews, if anyone would like to volunteer that would be awesome……

Vile

Do Not Send Arianna Any Fucked Up Emails

Arianna received and email yesterday from a male, she did not even finish reading it. She told me she was going to forward something to me so I could read it.

I open and it goes into how a couple were swingers, and explained how his wife became a sex slave to a car salesman, Hmmm sounds interesting. So it goes on hoe they bought a car and the car salesman turned her on, so she became his sex slave and was giving a steel collar.

A picture of Arianna’s collar was attached to the email as well.

I was sorry to hear his wife had passed, but the email was just unacceptable and uncalled for.

There was no reason behind the email, no story behind the email, nothing.

I did email the gentleman and explained how upset Arianna was, and me as well. I also explained if he had something to share it should be in a public forum.

I am not sure what some are thinking, but I suppose many do not think before they hit that send button.

It is not the fact you are talking to a female, a slave or submissive, but you are talking to someone’s wife. Someone who is married.

Your not going to get any pussy from Arianna, that is out of the question. Because with her pussy comes a huge responsibility and I am willing to bet there are not many who would or could step up to the plate.

Arianna as we all know is a very private person, from our blogs you can tell we are both very different. No where in her blog does it give any indication she is open to such emails.
It may not be much to some but to me it is total disrespect.

Have some respect , single , married, dating, it is all about respect.

Here is the email maybe I am blowing things up more than they should be, but the email has nothing to do with anything..

Hi.. I’m Dean and I loved you blog(s). My now late Wife was a swinger in the mid-80’s. We both did not think that would happen in our marriage, until we bought a Honda Accord from a dealer in Chicago. We lived in the north burbs at the time. We’ll my Wife became turned on to the car salesman that sold us the car. He was tall about appox 6’1″
And had a full beard, and my wife loved guys with a beard. I’m only 5’7″ clean shaven. We both worked on the north side of Chicago near that dealer. After we bought the car and got home, my Wife told me that she was turned on buy the salesman. It turned me on also, because she was very sexy, blonde hair and green eyes, and had large tits ( 36 D). So I let her have her way and aloud her to see this guy on Friday night. She was having sex with him for about five hours. My Wife was a 10 at sucking cock and loved to swallow cum. A shame we did not have cell phones with a camera like today!! She told me the details, that she fucked him for hours, and then finished him off by sucking his cock and swallowing his cum, and loved every second if it. Then she told me she would like him as a sex partner. And I told her that it was OK, and have fun, as long as she told me the details after!! She had been with him once or twice a week. Then after a month she came home with a tight fitting collar around the base of her neck, and told me she is his sex slave and he was her Master now.. Not me!!

The collar was locked in place using a key that he had control of. My wife said that they became close lovers, and that she would only satisfy him sexually not me anymore. Whenever he called for her, she would go to him A.S.A.P. . She said she enjoyed his bigger cock more than me. And that someday she would leave me for him. We still lived together for years after until she got sick with liver cancer and died in 2009. Even though I did not get anymore sex from her, I till miss her and love her deeply!!

The Picture he added is of course Arianna with her collar on..

Vile

My Interview Questions Are In. I will Be Truthful With My Answers

So I posted yesterday that I would be willing to answer any question giving to me and answer it honestly.
What I am surprised with but somewhat grateful none of the questions were sexual.

I like doing these interviews , it opens up a whole new world to those we know and follow here on wordpress.

Some of the questions are very deep, so I will try to explain them the best I can….

Susie Jul 22, 8:41 pm

could you please, in depth, list and explain. 5 emotional, physical and spiritual ways Arianne lifts, enhances, & contributes to the quality of your life as a Man,Dom and Master.. By giving the gift of her submission and slaving.

I did say deep didn’t I.

When I first met Arianna I was in a bad place. I had been searching for over a year, for a long term partner, and I had all but giving up. I refused to move on my needs.
I had made plans to move out of the country and I had already obtained employment in the Philippines , my next choice would of been Thailand.

I was not what you would call depressed, I would say more of being lonely. That is the main reason I had decided on taking in a roommate, for the company. Although Kelly is an awesome person, she is like a sister to me, that still did not fill the void.

So when I first was introduced to Arianna, I felt something right away. I felt a connection, and that is something I need.
You can be the hottest bitch to walk the earth, but if I do not have that connection, I cannot fuck, it will not happen.

Spiritually, I am what I would call a spiritual man not religious I am far from religious and I feel I am in a much better place.
I am Buddhist , I have been studying Buddhism for about 15 years, and I believe it has helped me walk the path I walk today.

Arianna has giving me insight, it is like I can breath now, and knowing someone has my back. Physical , this is huge January 1st I quit smoking after 38 years 2 packs a day, because it was a need for Arianna. She does not smoke so it was not really fair to her that I did, and I smoked in the house. My house remember, so to speak. I quit because of my love for her, and me being somewhat older, I want to live a very long time, because she does give some awesome head.
Truth be known there are very few 24/7 M’s couples we are very rare, but there are very few D’s couples who live 24/7 and I am not sure why.

To have someone kneel before you and give you total control over their well being. There is truly no other feeling, it is a total rush, I could feel the blood flowing through my veins. To have such a prize possession giving to you. Truly there can be nothing greater.
It the relationship gives you drive, it makes you want to excel at everything you do, you need to be the best at what you do.
The truth is I want for nothing, my every want and need is anticipated , it is very seldom I even have to ask for anything.

I hope I answer your questions..

The next question was from an email.

Are the pictures you post of Arrianna? Did you always know you were a Master?

Sent from my iPhone No they are not, although the picture on my book cover is her, and she will probably be on all of the upcoming covers. I would never post any nudes of Arianna on here I respect her way to much..
As far as being a Master, I knew I was different at a very young age. At the age of 14 I liked to tie girls up, spank, and so on, it was the control factor I was missing.

thecheekyhousewife Jul 23, 2:13 am

Two questions:
1. Your pen name. You’ve shared how you got it so I get that it’s suppose to be playful or fun. But I’ve been a social worker for 15 years and have seen what vile is. You’re not it. Not even close. So my question is: Would you be open to changing your pen name?
2. You’re friggin hilarious and smart. You’ve compared yourself to Howard Stern. And he’s just gross. Would you ever consider a PG-13 edition of your writing or radio show? I think there are many teenage girls that would benefit from your writing. 🙂

My pen name as you call it has been with me for some 35 years, Gretchen thought I was Vile. That is what and who I am known by and not just here on wordpress.

I would be open to doing another blog, or maybe being a partner with someone under a different name, but to change my name, I could never do that, that would change who I am.

My radio station will be about the lifestyle, BDSM , it will be about my blog, the topics I have covered and I intend on having guest as well. Arianna is and has been very supportive when it comes to the radio station, it means as much to her and it does me.

I have a soft spot for children, today so many are left out in the cold, and they have to fend for themselves and it is really sad. When something goes wrong they take the blame.
If I could just snap my finger and make everything alright I would. If I had a huge farm I would take everyone in who needed help.

No I cannot change who I am..

And another

It seems that neediness is a very common trait among submissives. What is your advice for submissives who have been made to feel that their neediness is a bad thing?? How would you “draw out” a submissive who is closed off and not communicative?

As an experienced Dom, your style has changed over the years, but you have maintained your sense of self through it all, even through your own “training”. Do you think this is an attribute common among Dominants?

Vile, I’ve liked the interviews, they have given a lot of insight into how different people and relationships are. I hope you keep it up.

❤ mel.

It seems that neediness is a very common trait among submissives. What is your advice for submissives who have been made to feel that their neediness is a bad thing?? How would you "draw out" a submissive who is closed off and not communicative?

I have blogged about this before. This is the way you separate the real and from the fakes.
It is true many who are submissive are needy, I believe this is more true with those who are slaves.
Those who are not true, the fake Doms I have talked about, the married Doms or Daddy Doms I have talked about, they are the ones who tell subs that being needy is a bad thing, because then they have responsibility, they actually have to do something in the relationship instead of just getting their cock sucked.
Being needy is not a bad thing, so what if someone depends on you, at least you know you have someone you can depend on. I find someone who is needy to have strength, I believe they will open up more.If you except them for who they are as a person and a submissive, the communication is unlimited. In the end that is what we want communication.

Being needy is only a bad thing when the other does not care about you, and saying it is a bad thing should tell you one thing. They do not care about you.

As an experienced Dom, your style has changed over the years, but you have maintained your sense of self through it all, even through your own "training". Do you think this is an attribute common among Dominants?

This is an awesome question.

I believe Dominants tend to think things out more on an intellectual level than lets say someone who is vanilla. Did that make sense ?
Yes it is true for the most we do have to train ourselves, but as I have stated I myself have always had a mentor, someone I look up to and respect.
I go to him because he will not tell me what I want to hear. If I am fucking up he will tell me.

A good Dominant if he meets someone he cares about, and he believes a relationship is possible, then he should be able to meet ones needs, not really giving in, but bending a little, adapting is the answer I think.

Is it a trait, while all Dominants are not bad, I do not believe it to be common no.
Just like while at the local much and the topic came up about another Master stepping in if something happened to me. There were 12 Doms there and there was not one I would of trusted.

I find the love you have for Ariana to be truly special. To me, it transcends
Master and slave. When did you know she was the one? Was there a specific
moment?

xxoo Jane

Thank you for the email Jane.
The moment My eyes landed on her, actually when she extended her hand and we shook hands, I could feel the warmth. What I saw in her eyes told me everything. I new from the first words out of her mouth.
Thank you.

The Beach where we were Married.

Vile

I do Have A Temper

I do get angry, and yes I do have a temper. Arianna has never seen that side, and she never will. Once I walk out the door my life as Vile for the most stays home.

The downside to it staying home google is alive and well, and all really someone has to do is google my name. I have since taken steps to start cleaning a lot up. I will never be able to get rid of everything, but some.

One of my down falls or maybe its not I speak my mind, and if you cross me the wrong way, I can get sideways. Again Arianna has never seen this side of me, and there is no need.

Once I leave work, I pull out of the parking lot, that is where work stays. There is no need to bring any stupidity home.

Remember I was talking about our Bubble. The Bubble is our world, we do take the trash out on a daily basis, but we bring no trash home.

So I was at work last week and I was being talked to about a form that was not filled out correctly . Okay I had made the same mistake more than once, my bad. Then it came to a point I was being talked to like a child, and I sit there and I listened, and I listened, I then took the paper from her, I rolled it up, and I folded over the end and I handed it to her and told her it would fit much better now.

Yea that did not go over to well, so you know what the next step was. Yup Vile packed up, and when I walked out the door, I felt this great weight being lifted off my shoulders. I just wanted to yell FUCK YOU.

The 50 to 55 hours a week were killing me, and I do mean it was taking a toll on me, physically and Mentally and Arianna was starting to feel the effects as far as being away from each other so much.

Life is good and will always be good. Keep a positive attitude and good things will flow your way.

One thing I always preach about and no this is not about Married men. It is about doing things by the book. Even a Dominant , Daddy and Master has rules we have to follow on a daily basis. If you follow the rules and you do everything by the book, nothing will get in your way and everything will go your way. This is all Dominants , Daddy’s , Masters and Owners. Slave , those who are submissive and yes even Baby Girls.

Life is good so make it fun.

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To Those Who Cheat

I give my opinions nothing more , I may not be much but I am a man with Morals, I am a man with pride, I am a man who lives by the truth , but most of all I am a man who is loyal to the end.

I was stuck in a bad marriage for 9 years because I was at Bush Gardens one year and as I was sitting there watching all these married couples pass me by who had children , I started thinking man I am missing out on a lot. The wife, the kid the dog, the house with a fence, cooking out with the smith’s I was missing out on something very special.

Chong had just left maybe I was just feeling lonely, my feelings were mixed, my mind was going a thousand miles an hour. So I found a wife. To this day I harbor some guilt, not because I still love her, that is so far from the truth, but because I lead her down a false path, I made her believe I was someone else, and for 8 1/2 years I lived a lie. The longer we were married to more it tore me up on the inside, I was dieing to get the fuck out, but I was going to try one thing. I was going to come clean about who I was and what I needed. Well that did not go over so well, and being married to the church lady did not help the situation at all. So I was asked to leave, and it was not until after I moved out Bea and I came into play. Now I had met Bea on line but we had not met each other until I moved out.

We had a son while I was married he will be 16 this year, and here is part of my morals coming out. I have not missed a child support payment in 16 years, although it is court ordered it does not come out of my pay check. 16 years not one payment has been missed and for many years I paid twice the amount that I was suppose to because I knew how she was struggling.  Again part of my morals.

Part of my morals when we were married I took vows, and many of you wrote your own vows, you swore to stand by each other through thick and thin for better or worse. You said it looking into each others eyes, and your husband or wife believed you, they took what you said to heart and trusted you.

Now there are circumstances that comes into light than can change those vows, If you are being abused, be it mentally or physically.. If you catch your spouse cheating, that is the unforgivable sin in my home. I told Arianna first thing if you cheat make sure that is who you want to be with because that is where you are moving. I refuse to sleep with someone who has been where I lay. The unforgivable sin, if you fuck around you are dead in my eyes.

Okay so we change, we are human, our needs change, not wants our needs. We begin to age and we want more out of life, so this is where the communication comes into play. You do have the right to express your needs, you have the right to tell your spouse how you have changed. If your spouse refuses to comply or try, then you have the right to leave, remember the VOWS you took now, for better or worse.

So the female cheats because she is not getting her kink met, her husband no longer communicates with her, they are no longer on the same intellectual level, hes hanging with the boys at the bar. You have the right to communicate, you have the right to express your needs. What you do not have the right to do is let someone other dude bang you and then go home to the man who has built the roof over your head, the man who pays your bills the man who puts food on your table, the father of your children, because this other dude is not going to share any of that responsibility, he is there for the pussy. The bad news is, the relationship will be short lived and you will be back to square one. The truth is you will get caught it is not when but how. You have to think is it fair to drag your children into your mess, to drag your whole family into your mess. Is it fair to catch something you cannot get a shot for and pass it on to your spouse. Again you took Vows.

The male who cheats, once a cheater always a cheater. So his wife will not suck cock, or refuses to do anal. He knew this before he took his what ? His Vows he knew this ahead of time, but at that point and time it was not a need because he had a steady piece of ass, he was or is getting a steady piece almost every night but the one thing missing was the cock sucking, being able to get the ass. Now it becomes a need because you told him no. If you tell a man NO then he needs it, it is in bedded in his brain now he has to have it.

Now we have google, I found Bea through yahoo profile searches which was the best. all you had to do was go to profiles and type in submissive or slave and a million names popped up. I had the world at my finger tips. The internet is a powerful mother fucker, you can find anything, including a bitch that will suck cock. someone who will take it up the ass, someone who will crawl to you,and someone who will sit by their phone and wait for your text or call.

You found your married Dom your married daddy. He is married to the worst bitch in the world, shes a fucking cunt, she is worthless, she is a bad mother, he wishes he was not still married to her, but you saved him your just what he needs now. He has been assuring you he is going to leave, but the time has to be right.

The bad thing is you fall for it, and you wait and you wait and you wait, but it never comes , he never moves out, even though she is so bad. She will not communicate with him, she will not have sex with him, she does not connect with him, she is so so bad, but he never leaves.

The truth is everything is fine on the home front except the sucking cock part, or the ass fucking, being able to tie you up, being able to spank you, you know the little things his bad wife wont do, but she does cook clean, probably works as well, and takes care of his children. He takes them out, they go on vacations together, school functions, they have cook outs with the smiths, while you sit and stare at your phone.

I am telling you this as a man not a pissed off woman, I am letting you in on how a male thinks , because I do not want to see you be someones bitch who is just there to suck cock once or twice a month.

If his life was so bad and he was treated so bad, you know what ? He would leave. He would pack his shit up and move the fuck out no matter the cost. No man is going to stay where he is not happy its not going to happen. On the other hand if he can stay home and get ass on the side, he will ride the storm out.

You know 30 years ago if you caught something you could go to the doctor and get a shot. Today that is not true, and most of you do not enforce any type of protection, putting your own life in danger. In the end you will be stuck alone, and your Dom or daddy is still cooking out with the smiths.

Some men for what ever reason are just close minded, I know dudes who don’t even like blow jobs, I know dudes who think anal sex is nasty. Some men see tying you up and spanking you as abuse. Some are just that stupid. A woman can tell their husband here I am you can do anything you want, and they think your sick, they think you need help. Like you I do not get it nor do I understand it.

If your an unhappy submissive and you have talked to your husband and he will not come around, if your kink means that much to you then leave. If you need to submit and he will not fill that dominant role then leave, but you better hope the one you move in with is going to be able to provide for you on all levels.

To the women who are subs or baby girls, and your seeing a married man.. He is not going to leave his wife, he is not going to leave the stability he has. He is not going to leave the mother of his children There are a few who will very few, but you have to look at his side of the world can you fill the shoes his wife can, because everything today comes down to money. If his wife is making a hundred grand a year and your making thirty grand a year, go on think about it, or maybe your not even working, the odds are not there, but if your a betting woman, go ahead and roll the dice.

I am just ranting, if your being cheated on it is not fair, if your the cheater its not fair. Somewhere in your head or heart if your seeing a married man, you have to be thinking about his wife, the one who gave birth to his children, the one who has built what he has, the one who has stood by all his bull shit. How would you feel if you were being cheated on? In a way you are because hes banging both of you.

Remember all you get is one side of the story, his side. If he says she does not care what he does, then it should be alright for you to talk to his wife. Last if you think you are the only one he is banging, your really dumb.

Vile

 

I Own You

I am not Master alone you call me Master out of respect. You are not a Slave alone, I call you my own. You are mine you have chosen to give yourself fully without question. Upon my return you kneel with great pride and respect. You kneel because you have the need.

I am Master because you are my Slave, without a Slave I am but only a Dominant man. I was a Dominant man in search of a partner who would complete the man I am, the man I needed to be.

I was lost, I was not complete , I searched for the one , I searched for the one who would fill that empty void, the empty feeling deep inside.

You were a lost Submissive who was seeking much more, you were lost in every sense, you were confused, and no where to turn. Then you were guided to me.

June 15th 2013 you married me as the sun rose standing on the beach, you excepted my ring of love, and the gift of my collar, and I thank you for both.

Owning you comes with great responsibility now I must look out for two. The mistakes I make now effects both and not just one.  I now must take the steps to improve our lives in the home and out. I must take great care when making decisions. I must do what is right for both Master and Slave.

You have giving yourself without question, and I see daily how proud you are to wear your collar, public or private. You are a Slave and you walk with great pride.

Your collar is locked just like our love for each other. Our love and respect for each other will continue to grow, our M’s relationship will continue to grow.

I feel everyday we are as one, while we are apart I feel as if something is missing from deep inside. It is only replaced once I am home and I hold you, only then do I feel complete.

I own you Arianna, and I do so with great pride, and Honor. When I walk through the door and you are kneeling I look and I am thinking there is my wife, my slave my property. I own you. You as a Slave have adapted to my way, you follow without question.  You are my Slave. You have giving up all rights, you are now able to be free. I own you.

You follow my rules with a great need and passion, you follow my protocols without question, you have excepted punishment without question. You have giving yourself to me. You are my Slave

Vile & Arianna

I Could Of Fucked Her

BDSM has changed as well, the people, the respect everything. More so the younger generation. I just googled BDSM clicked on images and nothing but pain and torture. People are visual,it does not matter what you read , who you talk to, its all about being visual.

I remember the first time I left Sherri’s house I was scared to death, she was black and blue from the neck down from and back. She got off while I was just terrified. After that day though something clicked, the more control I had, the more pain I could inflict the harder I got. During sessions I am talking sessions that lasted hours, there had been times I had actually came, and came hard, just off of impact play.Seven years and she did not cry one time, until the day came and I said goodbye.In that relationship Humiliation was a huge part of her kicks, at first mine but as time went by it was more like a job, I had to out do each session.That is the past, maybe at times we reflect on the past to much and it does not allow us to move forward.

We all have thoughts, and it is good to have memories , but that is what they are just memories, some were good some were bad.Over the years the Sadist part of me seemed to slip away, or maybe I just truly wanted more out of a relationship. I can tell you the vanilla mistake I made, was just that a mistake. What was the hardest was having to live two different lives. Although I remained loyal during that ever so shocking adventure, and it was so not me. Because there were times I just wanted to let loose, but I would of never disrespected her in that manner.

Going from using a Masochist to a vanilla marriage puts one in shock. What the fuck did I just do, and I knew it was a mistake. I knew from the first time I went to her house and it was trashed. I refused to live in a dirty home, it was not like filthy it was just cluttered papers piled everywhere just fucking cluttered.What else is odd is to be in a relationship for seven years and never fucking, that was while with sherri. Unless face fucking counts, that was almost daily. I think if we would of had sex that would of put me on a much different emotional playing field and I did not want to be that close. While she did have rules I seldom enforced them . I did not care because I was getting off. The Fisting part is what was incredible, she was my first.I remember the first time I laid her on the coffee table and told her to spread and my hand just slipped in, I closed my fist and I just started pounding her. I could open my hand and feel all around and I could make her stomach move.Today I enjoy fisting but it is not a need like it was then. Then it was a new experience , it was taboo to me, everything with her was taboo.

As I grew older the more control I needed, as I grew older the more in control I was. As I grew older I became aware of my surroundings. I started observing people more, and trying to figure them out. Wondering what their home life was about. Wondering if they harbored a deep secret like I did.When out I felt kinda like a freak show, because of being so different. While at the mall in the food court eating I would look at different women, and imagine different ways of tying them up, and using every hole. Or what it would be like to face fuck them, to humiliate them, to take them down as low as I could, get my nut and just walk away as if nothing had happened.

I was the guy who would walk up to the women other men were afraid to, being afraid I mean being rejected. I have always had standards , and I always set them high, because I refused to fuck someone I did not want to wake up next to. So I suppose when it came to fucking someone I never settled for less.

I remember one time I was at a convenience store visiting a friend, and this woman walked in, I was like fuck me , she was fucking hot, maybe 5.0ft even ,long dark brown hair, fakes tits. She was wanting to know if we knew anyone who sold pot, she said her husband was in their truck past out. As we were talking I told her I might know someone but I had to call in private so I walked in the stock room and she followed. I made a call , I hung up and I put my flip phone back in my pocket and I just looked at her. I walked closer to her  and she was backing up I did not say a word I just looked into her eyes. Once she was against the wall, I wrapped my hand around her throat and kissed her for what seemed like for ever. While kissing my other hand was down her shorts banging her pussy with my hand three fingers deep. After I finished kissing her , I pushed her down to her knees and I took my cock out and it slipped into her mouth and I just started fucking, it took all of a minute for me to blow my load. Once finished she got up and said in this little country accent, No man has ever treated my that way. I gave her the number to my friend and told her when her husband woke up show him what you like.To stop everything all she would of had to say is no or stop, and I would of apologized, but I could read her from the second she walked in. I didn’t want to fuck her I just wanted or needed that control.

Then the stuck up bitches , until 5 or 6 years ago I would work at a shell station during events to help out and make some extra cash Arianna has met the owner of the store before. Anyway This girl Sarah would come in every night and buy one beer Coors. Then a week went by and she did not come in. The following week Sarah came back in and I greeted her, then I said there is something different about you. I said ahhh you got a boob job, she made the comment I was not to worry I would never get the chance to touch them. So I closed my eyes and I started moaning, then I stopped. She said what the fuck are you doing. Well Sarah I have a very vivid imagination and I just fucked you and you were by far the worst piece of ass I had ever had, so I do not want to touch them. I never saw her again.That was how open I was, and yes those are true story’s.

Being a Dominant for any period of time it is so easy to spot the submissive women. I have point out a few to Arianna but she just laughs, little does she know.As I grew older I needed more. I needed more control but there were very few who could give up the control I needed. BDSM is much like a drug, the more you learn about it, the more you take part, the more you converse about it the more you need.There was never a shortage of pussy, it was finding women who did not use it as a tool , so they could get their way.

I wanted to have it my way.A year and a half before I met Arianna, I got up at 3.30 am, turned on the coffee pot waited, poured a cup went back to the bedroom, I was watching the morning news and I started thinking, Vile what the fuck are you doing. You are 48 years old and your waking up alone, that is fucked up. You come home to two dingy roommates . What kind of life is that?So while at work I began to put a list together, A list of what I wanted out of a relationship. The type of slave I wanted to have a life with. A slave who would want to follow. A slave who had no rights. A slave who would want to drop to their knees because it was a need, or spread because it was a need to please. A slave who wanted to communicate,

A slave who was smart, beautiful and intelligent. A list I was not going to give in, just so I could get some pussy.So I met Arianna, we talked for hours, even after I told her what I needed she did not flinch. I had pretty much figured out what she needed, but I was thinking what the fuck she has needs to, do I really want to do this. Just by talking to her and with out her giving out to much information. I had figured out she was being used, your whole life was out of control, she needed micromanagement, she needed someone to take her by the neck and say stop. Did I really want to invest that much time? I had to think about it for a day or so.Okay she is beautiful, her smile is one to kill for, she has a body built for sin, an ass to die for, each cheek just fits in the palm of my hand, small but firm breast, just fucking wow. The first time she got out of her car, blood rushed down to my cock so fast I got dizzy.There had to be more to the relationship than just sex, I needed so much more. I was in the process of moving to the Philippines , I had already made up my mind. I had a job lined up. I was going to start over.
I was going to start fresh, but something inside me clicked, just like the first click in my life. I was thinking maybe just maybe this will work, but I will have to put a long term plan together, a plan that I had to stick to, and I knew I had to remain consistent or I would loose.The first time she wrapped her lips around my cock I knew I had her, more so the first time I crawled between her legs, and I wrapped my hand around her throat, and I started to fuck her, I looked in her eyes and said I am going to own you. That statement proved to be correct, because I did everything in my power, my years of knowledge, and experience I had gained within the lifestyle, everything that I had learned, and for once I was putting it towards good use. I was finely using what I had learned over the years. I can tell you this believe it or not. If I want something bad enough, Vile always wins. If your just a passing thought that is what you are or were a passing thought. I never lose.

The key is to give back as much as you take, sometimes you as the Dominant has to give back much more. In the end though you can have anything you want, without question.

Vile

The Difference Between A Master And A Dominant

I ran across an Article this am I found on a website I hope you enjoy.

http://www.denversub.com/labels.html

I suppose you could debate the two, who is who and what is what, but if you really think about the difference , the two are only similar in a small aspect of the lifestyle. While Both are Dominant 95% of the time the two live in two totally different worlds.

I will also cover the difference between a slave, submissive and a bottom. All three are very different and all three have different needs.

A Master Is certainly a Dominant , but not all Dominants are Master, within the local community. The term Master is usually those who live with a slave on a 24/7 basis. The title if we were giving one is mostly giving to those who are highly recognized within the community . I do believe that the Master and Slave is wired much different than lets say a Dominant and his submissive. I am not saying one is better than the other, or one has an advantage over the other, our lifestyle are just different.

The Dominant and Submissive. The Submissive , only submits when they choose, the play sessions are talked over before play, The Submissive will say what is allowed and what is not. The submissive will follow some rules but usually in the bedroom only. Once out of the bedroom there is still a Dominance and submissive feeling but not as noticeable as it was during play.

A Master / Slave relationship the Slave Submits once and only once giving up full control over their life. The only rights are those giving to them by there owner or Master, again the is mostly in a 24/7 relationship. The slave gets pleasure from serving their owner, be it helping with the shower, undressing , cooking, cleaning, and yes sexually. Sex between Master and Slave the Slave is more concerned with their owner receiving pleasure than their self, knowing their Master is pleased, is what brings on the feelings they are seeking.

Last night I logged onto FaceBook and I started chatting with another Dominant who also has a blog on wordpress. Franco Bolli. We were talking about the Holidays and he brought this subject up to me, he said.

For me there is a difference between a Master and a Dom, like there is a fundamental difference between a slave and a sub.

Yes he is correct, but those of you who are submissive and new to the lifestyle you really do not have a clue, or maybe you do but your afraid to speak up.You the submissive has the right to submit on your terms, when and where, and how. You have the right to follow what rules you want.

The word Dominant in the lifestyle is relatively new, , or calling someone their Dominant is relatively new going back some 15 years or so, when the pansexual revelation came about.. When BDSM started breaking off into separate groups

So the terms would be Master and Slave, Dominant and Submissive or Top and Bottom, Now the Top and Bottom really differ from the other two, and here is how.

The Bottom will dictate the entire scene , the Bottom will instruct the top , what they can do and what they cannot do, right down to how many times they can be spanked with a belt or flogger. The Bottom can refuse to do certain sex acts or bondage.

Again it is not that anyone is better than the other our lives are just very different. I know even here in the local community some Dominants are called Masters by their Submissive’s, and there is nothing wrong with that, it is what makes your relationship. It is what puts you the submissive in that frame of mind.

Remember the difference between a Slave and a Submissive. Many who are Submissive do not understand how a Slave could live such a life, While a Slave cannot understand how one could only submit at their will. Arianna does not understand those who are submissive, but she respects them. She does not understand how a submissive could talk back to their Dominant, or even argue with them. Arianna knows there would be great consequences if she were to question me, but this is the relationship we have.

Remember the above is just my opinion and nothing more. I have included an article that was written some several years ago That I would like to share, and it speaks about the same subject.

The biggest difference is the COLLAR Like Arianna since she excepted my Collar it has not been off one time. She even wears it to work without question. A Submissive will determine when and where she will wear her collar, if she wears one at all.

One of the best sites out there for information more so those who are new to the lifestyle is Bestslavetraining.com

There is a ton of information it will take you a week to read everything. It will also give you the submissive or slave some ideas on how your Dominant or Master should be,. Read you will truly enjoy.

The slave also goes through what some would call a Behavior Modification process, this happens during training. The way the slave talks, walks, how they act in public, around their owners friends, and yes even sex.

What really got me thinking was what Franco Bolli had said to me about how a Dominant was different than a Master in his eyes or thoughts. You can find him here   http://francobolli666.wordpress.com/

So here is the Article have fun reading maybe it was explained a little better and more detail than I was able to.

The last words are so right, Lets all be kind to each other we Deserve it.

I love this position

The article I found below is what I came across this am. All credit goes to.

http://www.denversub.com/labels.html

Master or Dom? / slave or sub?

Labels… we use them… we abuse them.  Disclaimer: this is only one person’s opinion.  You may find it helpful… if not, you may ignore it… Probably the most difficult thing to explain (and some would say impossible) is the difference between the labels we use to define us.  The most common argument occurs with the labels Dominant, Master, slave and submissive.  This page will include opinions… some mine, some borrowed from other sources.  I will attempt to credit those sources where I am able.  If you visit this webpage and see something that was originally yours, please email denversubmissive@aol.com and I will either credit you or remove it, as you wish.

“To be thrilled at the touch of leather, aroused by the sound of harsh words, or satisfied by the security of rigid bondage is the mark of a lover. To be thrilled at the opportunity to provide useful service, aroused by a pleased nod, and satisfied by the proverbial job well done is the mark of a slave.”
_{The Marketplace, Chapter 7, by Laura Antoniou writing as Sara Adamson}

Well, that’s not very sensual or erotic, is it?  But it is a good definition of the term “slave“, and one that is used in our lifestyle quite often to describe a voluntary submission of one’s will completely to another.  In truth, very few “slaves” would apply this definition to themselves, if they are honest with themselves about what they require to be fulfilled in the role.  Most of us (at least part of the time), want the thrill of leather, the arousal and satisfaction provided by the role, and would be less than satisfied with simply service.  So, we modify the definition a bit.

Another common distinction between “slave” and “submissive” is that a slave submits only once, and that given her submission to her Master, she no longer negotiates anything with him.  A “sub”, by contrast, negotiates each scene, or changes in the limits of the relationship as time goes on.

A popular debate takes place over the difference between a submissive and a bottom (meaning the noun).  I think this one is solved fairly easily.  A submissive is a bottom who submits to the will of the Dominant in a scene, within the pre-negotiated limits they agree upon.  She does not direct the scene in any way and it is his choice which of those negotiated items he will incorporate into any particular scene.  By contrast, a bottom often negotiates precisely what will happen in a particular scene, down to how many strokes with a particular toy.  She does not submit her will to that of the Dominant or Top, and there is no exchange of power… simply a planned scene.  The verb form, to “bottom” can apply to either a bottom or a submissive, describing the activity of being the recipient of the Dominant’s actions.

I often tell those I mentor that you can picture it on a scale of 1 to 5.. with the submissive being 1 (“whatever pleases you, Sir”) and the bottom being 5 (“This is the way we are going to do the scene”).  We fall all along the scale, rather than at one end or the other.  This is what makes labeling impossible.  There is no right or wrong way to bottom… everyone should find the place that gives them the most satisfaction.

A similar scale exists for “Dominants” and “Tops”. The Top in a scene is the person giving the sensation or pain.  Picture the scale with the “Service Top” at 1 (“My pleasure comes from giving the bottom exactly what she wants to be completely satisfied”) and the Dominant at 5 (“Now that we have negotiated what is allowable, I will choose what pleases me”).  Again, we fall all along the scale… there is no right or wrong way to top someone.  I believe that most 5’s on the scale are hard-core sadists who derive their primary pleasure from the infliction of pain, and playing with one of these sadists can be a heady experience… they *enjoy* it so much!

Now we come to the most difficult: Master and Dominant.  Obviously all Masters are Dominants, but certainly all Doms are not Masters!  At least not in the generally accepted use of the term, which is someone who owns a slave and controls her life completely.  In some communities, the term “Master” is reserved for highly qualified Dominants who have proven themselves to be of excellent character and skill.  The community itself reserves the right to bestow this title and does so sparingly.  For others, it is simply a condition of the mind… the thought processes that a Dominant entertains as he tops… and some believe that the “Master” truly feels the ownership and responsibility of the slave under his control in ways the Dominant does not.  I tend to believe in “slave” wiring and “Master” wiring myself, and don’t consider them better, just very different.

The most important point I hope to make with all this is that we should avoid using labels to rate someone’s skill or dedication to our lifestyle.  Labels are beneficial in helping others understand us… but statements like “oh.. she’s just a bottom” or “he’s only a Service Top” do an injustice to us all.  Whether someone likes a lot of pain or none at all; total surrender or neatly negotiated play; absolute control or a part time play experience… we all have a right to pursue our fantasies and desires, and deserve better than to be labeled by the very people who should understand the most clearly how diversified we all are.

Let’s be kind to each other… we deserve it!

Vile

My Next Post

My next post I am going to be a slave meeting a new potential Dom. I will be asking all the questions, hoping to get the answers I am looking for.

Will be posted on 12/22/13

Vile