Free To Use Slave

Yes it means just as it sounds when it comes to sec.

During our negotiations those words were used towards the end of the negotiations. The main reason was to see how other things played out. As it turned out Arianna is a very unique female and more so slave.

I know there are days Arianna does not feel good and I do take that into account, she also works outside of the home. So it’s not like I’m a total ass, well so to speak.

Sex on demand, kinda like a TV remote, what more could someone ask for?

Oral sex , there is no better feeling in the world and the truth is I get more head than Bill Clinton could ever imagine.

Access is very important. So Arianna is allowed no clothing while home, with the exception of that time of the month.

She can be watching TV, cooking or sleeping, she is here for my use. I love fucking at night, and often while she’s sleeping, I’ll crawl on top and busy one out and roll off.

Very important about the above, everything I am speaking of is 100% consensual. The free to use was worked out prior to entering the relationship.

Free to use does not mean just sex, there are times I want to have a drink and I’ll turn on some music and Boom, I am at a titty bar. Why pay to go out when I already have entertainment right at home?

Deciding which hole to use? That really depends on my mood. The one thing that really convinced me was her oral skills. However there are two more holes and I take the one I feel like at that time.

Knowing who you are and what your needs are very important. Being upfront with your potential slave is also important. The free to use was important to me, not because the relationship is just based on sex, but was available to me on my terms.

A few months back a Dom asked me what I did to get my slave off? I thought about it for a few minutes and replied, I’ve never giving it much thought, the sex is about me. If my slave has the need to get off, there are vibrators.

I’ve not really spoke with anyone on this topic.

Living Apart Together: What It Is and Why Couples Do It

This really has nothing to do with BDSM or the lifestyle but it seems to be a growing trend . I will also post a link to the article.

Today young people are getting married and living in separate housing, at times separate states and even different countries. It could be a job neither wants to leave as well.

Reading the article from what I gathered, the female wants to keep and maintain her independence. Also so she can keep her current lifestyle. This is not to say the male is not seeking the same but the article does not really go into much detail about the male.

If the female wants to marry and live in separate housing, is the husband responsible for any of the wife’s bills ? If the wife wants a new car is the husband on the hook for the purchase? Is there a limit on independence? I want my independence but I want you to pay for it?

I am just going to assume the checking and savings would also be separate.

How does a couple plan for the future? How would the couple purchase a home? How would the couple plan for retirement?

Rental property is really expensive in today’s market and in most cases it takes two incomes.

The world has changed from the 1950’s where a couple could survive off of one income. Those days are long gone.

So moving into the lifestyle, how would a master/slave relationship survive living in separate homes? Yes there are circumstances where it is more advantageous, maybe one has children, or possibly in school in another state and a few more maybe.

Ok! I agree to be your slave but only Monday and Tuesday. The other 5 days I want my independence?

Maybe over the years, the husband has not put the wife as a first priority? Maybe it takes responsibility off of each other?

https://www.brides.com/living-apart-together-5189895

I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and have a awesome New Year.

Vile

You are who you are

If you follow you may end up at a cliff. Never let anyone tell you that you are wrong.

Your a Dominant you have your own belief system, you know who you are. Live your life the way you see fit.

Your a slave, be who you are and live the life you need to.

To be free is to be you.

No one has the right to judge anyone. Those who judge you are in need of help.

My blog is about my life, my beliefs. My blog is about what works for me.

I have made mistakes, I have been wrong. I have admitted when I was wrong.

Before entering a relationship I put everything on the table. I hide nothing, I explain my needs and wants. If the potential slave says no to anything the conversation is over. If you as a master bend from your needs you will never be happy.

The same with a slave, never agree to do something you are against something or one of your limits.

You control your own destiny, you control your life and home. It is ok to ask for advice but in the end you have to go with your gut feeling.

You are in control of your life and unless someone is paying your rent, you are the boss

What your slave wants ?

Pretty simple answer yes? It should be but it can be pretty complex. It can be very little work or effort or it can be a career. Does that make sense?

Security would be on top of the list I would guess.

Maybe honesty? Someone who puts the slave first to include family? Someone who communicates ? someone

Someone who puts reachable goals in place? Someone who provides growth and structure in the slaves life?

Someone who is loyal? I have seen masters who have a slave and still cheat. So if your poly be upfront about it, if the slave says she is not, then move on.

Someone who is not abusive, to include verbal and physical. A man who beats a woman will always beat a woman. Tons of broken promises, over and over again. Anger issues has no place in a relationship M’s or not.

Appreciation? Appreciation goes a long way. I will at least once a day tell Arianna how much I appreciate her. This lets a slave know their services do not go unnoticed.

A slaves home

There are old school masters who will say, a slaves only needs are food, water, clothing and a roof over their head. I get it I really do and I understand their view. After all we are talking about property right?

I love and cherish Arianna, she is my best friend and let it be known my only friend. However when it comes time to play, she is a toy. I use for my pleasure. I have played for a couple of hours , just bondage, floggers , cuffs, fucking all three holes. Arianna has created her own safe word. FUCK and really loud.

I am sure I missed out on other things, but I just covered a few.

You as a master has to be willing to give more than you take. Don’t get me wrong, the slave is to serve and be used, but you can only take so much before you break.

So you want a cock sucker on demand. You want pussy or ass on demand, but you don’t want to take the time out to invest in what you have.

This is the honest truth, I know a Dom who over the past year has banged over a dozen women, maybe more. So you still have the same girl? Nope I moved on, she was not submissive enough.

All he talks about how there is a pandemic of women feminists. The female culture is running rampant with feminism.

I’m like really are you being serious? Then he starts showing me all these videos from YouTube about the take over of wild feminists. Totally brainwashed.

Your slave is not your mommy.

The first time Arianna came to my house, it was almost spotless. I clean up behind myself. Now laundry I dropped off and for another 15.00 she dropped it off at my front door. I cooked and washed dishes but I never made the bed. I never understood the need to do that.

The slave has the right to speak up, call a fucking time out.

You have the right to speak up.

Ohh gainfully employed, now that is a good one.

Well that is it for today, be safe and remember, no passwords, or bank information.

Vile

Why isn’t owning a slave legal

Believe it or not, there are organizations who visit Washington DC and speak to Congress and senators about our lifestyle. There are organizations who are active in the community who meets with law enforcement about our lifestyle.

Just like in traffic it takes one dumbass to cause a backup. The same goes with a Master and slave.

NCSF is the main organization who rallies for us. I emailed Ms Wright who runs the organization and her reply was, the only time a Master contact them is when he’s in trouble. Has never supported the organization, did not belong to the Fetlife group nothing.

The master beat his slave senseless and was facing jail time. As I stated it takes one dumbass.

Some dude thinks because someone decided to submit to him, in his mind he has a open ticket to do what the fuck he wants. Do not pass go, do not collect 200.00 your going to jail. Then you have no one to call except NCSF, and they are going to say oops.

These are the uneducated when it comes to the lifestyle or those not willing to learn. Heaven forbid you have to put a little work into a relationship.

I believe most people are ashamed to admit they are in the lifestyle. Why do I believe that? You see people marching for different reasons and causes but never for the lifestyle. Afraid of what family may think, or your friends and employer. What did you do last night Bob? Ohh I tied my girl up, fucked her ass with a 12 inch dildo and face fucked her. How bout you Jerry? Yea.

In Europe it is much different, most countries are open minded when it comes to kink.

I am sure you remember when this hit the news.

This is fucking Hot

So you get arrested, your broke and all you have is a dumbass public defender. You know your in trouble, but who do you call? NCSF and they put your name in the database and you are not there. However you expect them to defend you in a court of law, yea Here’s your sign.

Your a Dumbass

In my 25 plus years, I have found the biggest offenders are married men, who are cheating. This is just from my experience in the lifestyle, and for what ever reason even though he’s married, he’s excepted in the community even though the wife does not know.

These are probably just a few reasons as to why it is not legal to own a slave.

Vile

My Perfect World, The Stepford Wives

Without the Robots of course, although the Japanese have come a long way.

Are they better?

Before trying to train a slave there has to be some type of compatibility. What worked on slave Tina will not work on Slave Julie. It will not. You have different personalities for one, you have different habits and the thought process is different.

There are Doms, young and older who come to me for advice. Once I start going through the process and from the beginning, I explain it’s going to be a lot of work. In any relationship both have to put in work to make the relationship work.

It was not long ago I was called a male chauvinist pig.

A male who patronizes, disparages, or otherwise denigrates females in the belief that they are inferior to males and thus deserving of less than equal treatment or benefit.

That above definition is so far from the truth when it comes to me. Do I believe women were put here to serve? Absolutely that has been my train of thought since my teens, now that is a long story.

However, I do believe in respect and consent. Everything must be consensual. Even when you are negotiating everything must be consensual.

I love a smart woman, I love intelligence. I once spoke with a Dom who stated he liked his bitches broken, and did not want to help. He wanted to keep his slaves broken. If he ever fixed, his thoughts were they would leave.

You have to set goals but realistic goals, the same with rules. I’ll tell you why I prefer protocols over rules. Protocols are used daily and at times hourly. Going out to eat, visit with friends or what ever. Being used often enables the slave to remember more easily. Let’s face it, if your slave works, comes home and cooks, does laundry, and a few chores, the day is shot. The plate is full and to add much more could have bitter consequences.

Ok back to the stepford wives. Watching the original movie makes or can put one in a dream land but most can be achieved. There are two factors in any relationship. The first would be communication and second trust. If you lose either then there is a break in the link, and can take sometime to repair. Ahh respect plays a factor as well, along with being honest. Ok so four total, I was never good in math or writing. Ok left out anger issues, this plays a huge part so now we are looking at 5.

So if you keep the above mentioned in check, your slave will want to serve. The more you are in control with the above, the more your slave will want to submit. The more the slave is willing to serve and submit, the more your out look will change.

The more you the master, keep your word and stay fair and consistent, the slaves submission will grow and continue to do so.

Here is the problem, most men think with their Dicks and not their brain. Every relationship fails and the slave is to blame. She was not submissive enough, she would not follow rules. Blah Blah Blah Blah. The master was not willing to put the work into the relationship. His only purpose was to hunt, go in for the kill and leave it. You end up getting Ghosted because he’s already conquered you.

I get more head than Bill Clinton, pussy or ass is available 27/7 no hesitation.

Training is not easy and requires a lot of time and dedication. The first 90 days is what I call the adjustment time. During this time I issued no punishment, just conversation on what happened and what was going to be done.

2021 Master Training Manual

The slave has to have the need to be a slave, a want or experiment means nothing. Well! Ok it does, it means you are wasting someone’s time.

One of the first things you think your expected to do is suck dick or spread your legs. If you follow your head then you know better. You do not have to submit until the two of you have come to an agreement. This certainly cannot happen on the first meeting, or the second.

There is really no known reason as to why you need to blow him or give up your pussy. Pussy is just that and the worst blow job I’ve ever had was still good. That is not part of training, and you have to stand firm. You have the right to say NO.

The first meeting, he says I want to collar you right now. Really? The Dom knows nothing about you, absolutely nothing.

At any rate a Dominant can mold the perfect slave if the time and dedication is put into the relationship.

We know where she’s been

Vile

Have You Ever Met A Dom?

Now I am not a male basher but I speak my mind when it comes to abuse. Abuse does not have to be physical, it can be mental, it can be isolation and many other forms.

Have you ever met a dom at a Dennys and wanted to start your training in his car by sucking his dick? Telling you not to wear and panties or not to make eye contact?

The Dom has no control over you until you choose to submit. Until then you are just two people meeting to see if their might be some compatibility. You have to listen intently and ask plenty of questions. If there is something you do not understand ask again. The smart thing to do it to write it down, and ponder on it for a few days. Remember you do not have to give definite answers, after all it is your first meeting.

Many will try to claim you right then and there with a collar he picked up from petco. I am sure many of you have experienced the same thing.

Those of you who state you are submissive, at times a dom will tell you that you are a slave. The dom will spend a great deal of time convincing you of it. Most of you will give in but a few will Stand firm.

Ok so you agree to see each other again, now he will ask if you are talking to other doms. If you are he will direct you to stop. He will then ask for your passwords to your social media accounts. This is a sign of insecurity and trust, it is also a sign of power on his part. It now becomes a power trip, he now feels fully in charge. I can assure you, you are not the first nor will you be the last.

What you do need is his cell phone number, you need his address for sure and work number. It would also be advised to take a pic of his tag. What you are doing is protecting yourself, and letting him know you are watching him.

Also you need to let him know if you text you expect a reply within a hour or so.

It is unfortunate one has to take all these steps, but you need to protect yourself.

Again I am not bashing males but I am speaking from experience.

You the slave hold all the cards until you are ready to submit. The new Dom has one thing on his mind, and that is your mouth and pussy.

Never give your passwords unless the Dom is prepared to give you his. Never give your banking information, you could wake up broke. Someone who wants your password is a little insecure bitch.

Do you go braless? Do you wear skirts with no panties? Are you Bi? Are you Bi has to be the number one question. Are you poly? This is another question that comes up. If you are not poly then say so.

You have to stand firm and mean what you say. This lifestyle is more about compatibility. If you are not a masochist then don’t meet a sadist.

I would really like more likes and comments.

Thank you for stopping by

Vile

Sometimes You Need A Reset

We get comfortable, we tend to take things for granted. Is this done on purpose? Absolutely not, we fall into a routine and this is a bad practice for a Dominant.

There is good news and bad news. The good news is, most of the time it can be fixed. The bad news, You have to nearly start all over, just like day one.

Something that comes into play is respect. We are watched like a fucking hawk. Remember we set the example, and we must carry on the same way as day one of entering the relationship.

The training is already there, the rules and protocols are already there, you just have to slowly start implementing again. You slowly start to take control over your house.

I hate calling it a lifestyle, I even hate the term BDSM. BDSM was a term invented in the 70’s. None of those 4 letters really have anything to do with a Dominant/submissive or Master/slave. Bondage , Discipline , sado, masochist. Ok well maybe discipline to a degree.

I suppose one of the areas I could improve on is the holding hands or cuddling, yea not my thing.

I show my appreciation in different ways. 2 years ago I rented out half of a steakhouse in Gaylord Palms near Orlando, we even had our own waiter. I try to do something special 2 or 3 times a year.

At times Dominants start to feel guilty as the relationship starts to mature. Guilty as enforcing rules, or just using as far a sex goes or playing. While it does not happen to all it does to a good many.

You want to slowly start to regain control in small pieces. You do so without any mention of what you have planned. I know I’ve preached this but consistency is the key. Hourly, daily and so on. This is not a 9 to 5 gig, so you have to dismiss those thoughts.

So my life is different, my core beliefs are different, my thought process is different and I am going to get bashed.

So here I talk about those who are straight. I do so because I know little to nothing about those who are gay or lesbian. I know little to nothing about the LGBQ movement. However I do know and feel, everyone has to be someone. I do know everyone has to live their own life without being judged.

In my mind and I know this does not pertain to everyone but my train of thought is women were put here to serve. When entering a relationship, I make this known upfront. Again this is me.

Last, the submissive or slave should have access to their owner 24/7, there are no questions asked. Some have commented here over the years about sending a dom they do not live with a text, and not hearing from him in days. It literally takes 10 seconds to reply. Don’t be that fucktard.

It’s Coming

I have some exciting stuff coming

Your Going To Be Someones Personal Bitch

I use the word Bitch Loosely , to me it is more of a pet name, my bitch , my slut, my whore, my everything.

It is only our lifestyle you can teach someone how to sit , eat , dress, walk , talk, suck cock and fuck. It is only our lifestyle you can enforce rules , protocols and for the most structure. Our lifestyle is the only one where someone will fully submit without question or hesitation.

There are a few things in life that I strive for and thrive in. That is a well structured home, a drama free home and a home without fighting. I am and need to be in control of my home and surroundings.

I dated a hundred before I found the one. I did not fuck a hundred , I fucked the one. The one takes time, it takes dedication, and you need to stay on one path and not many.

After years of settling for less I had to do some soul-searching , because I had to figure out who I was , what I needed and the type of slave that would make me complete, someone who would compliment me. Someone who needed the above not just wanted.

So you can gain submission through intimidation but your really not accomplishing anything , you’re not earning anything in fact it is fake submission and that will only last so long. However if you earn the respect someone will want to follow on their own free will.

It is amazing to be able to sit back and watch the transformation when training someone, watching the changes and the one being trained does not even notice the changes.  Then one day it will hit them and it will be like holy fuck batman what the fuck?

Here is something to think about. Words yes I said words , words have different effects on people more so those who are submissive or slaves.

Words, No , Sit , stand , spread, inspection , suck my cock , lube your ass. These words have different meanings , depending on who you are speaking to and the depth of ones submission. Some may take those words as being funny, a joke if they are not in the right frame of mind.

You think about Rules , and Protocols all have a different meaning depending on where you are at in your head. The above should be a need and not a want. In the lifestyle wants have zero meaning, it is needs that should be met.

You are now someones property , you are now for someones use. You are going to do things you either do not like or have no interest in, but the same will go the other way.

If you are not in the right frame of mind you get nothing , you get nothing out of training or the relationship. What is more important if you are not in the right frame of mind or it turns out it is just a fantasy you have wasted someones time who has dedicated time into building a relationship , and all is for nothing.

This is part of a comment I just replied to , she had found a Slave contract online ..

I just read the most appalling example of a slave contract where it was proposed to beat her daily, keep her in a cage, make her drink piss and eat dog food, enslave her for life or sell her, own her bred kids as though chattel, and let her kill self when old and sick.

Okay pretty extreme , I have known Masters who were this strict, not to the point of killing ones self. I think if someone spent a great deal of time with someone the Master or Slave would take care of someone if they got sick.

If Arianna was Bedridden I would take care of her that is how deep much love is for her. I would not think of putting her in a home , because she has giving me so much, and I promised to take care of her.. Divorcing or separating is the easy way out today , why would you want to work something out? Maybe because it takes up to much of your precious time ?

You the Slave has to be in the right frame of mind, your Master is already there or you hope he is. A Master can let his feeling get in the way when it comes to enforcing rules, or even punishing.

You know what fuck looking at contracts online if you are both serious about having a paper contract you should sit down and come to some sort of agreement. When a submissive goes out and googles slave contract it scares the fuck out of her, daily beatings, drinking piss, being shared , eating dog food, really ?

How deep does your submission run ? What makes you think your submissive ? What makes you think your a Slave ? Have you really thought about training ? What do you want out of training ? Have you thought about what type of Dominant your looking for ? Have you thought about turning your life over to someone?

I want all of your passwords, I want access to your cell phone, I want your banking information.  My question is why? When I hear these words they come from a Dominant who has no experience, has a low self esteem. Has trust issues , or just a mental case.

A submissive contacted me last year and said she had giving all of her passed words and banking info , woke up the next day flat ass broke because he emptied her bank account, shut her phone off and had bought a new cell phone with her money. Did she call the police ? Nope , why? Because she was ashamed to tell anyone about her lifestyle.

In the end your going to be someones Bitch you have to decide which side of the fence you want to be on..

Remember one thing a True Dominant will never scream or lose their temper towards you.

It is not always the Dominant , at times there are those who get off on playing games. Mind fuckers is what I call them..

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Vile